Grieving Loss Of A Spouse After 70 - Part Two

Sharing what happened when I went grocery shopping without Gar!
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[@ingelao5963]

Music is the best medicine

[@farmanthor3770]

For the past two weeks I have gone to two funerals. One was a very good friend who attended my wife's funeral 2 months ago. It just dredged up the old feelings. I cried and cried. I miss my wife and don't want to forget her but the memories just makes me cry more. I can feel your pain and touched by your openness and strength. It's the worst unbelievable pain where you physically hurt. Thank you for sharing.

[@connienorleen]

I’m sorry for your pain. Yes it is like an open wound. Have you sought out a grief share group. They can be very helpful.

[@robertas.1739]

I lost my husband in mid-Jan. 2022. The waves of sadness are so painful. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Hearing what you have and are going through is a great help to me. God bless.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Roberta, thanks for sharing and for watching. I totally understand you feelings at this point in your grieving. Just in case you haven’t seen my suggestions, I like to recommend two things. A book on Amazon called Widow to Widow. It was gifted to me and it was a great help. I also really recommend to find a Grief Share Group, preferably within a church near you. And make sure it is for widows and widowers only. Other grief and loss groups are not the same. Also if you haven’t you might look for me on FB. I’m under Connie norleen. I am the only one there.😄. Friend request me and and make sure to send me a quick private. Essagebto let me know you did a friend request. 💕

[@dianegaus3561]

I know this is 2yrs old but thanks for sharing.

[@connienorleen]

Thanks for watching. And the videos are there from my beginning journey because it is a new time for others. 💕

[@geraldinestocki410]

Thank you I can really relate to you we where married for 56 years knew each other from teenagers he was 17 I was 19 . I miss him daily it has been only 2 months 😢❤️🙏🏻

[@connienorleen]

Hi Geraldine, hang in there. I’m sure right now is extremely tough for you. Don’t try to do anything you don’t want to do and let others love on you. I have a video. My first Christmas ad a widow. The grandkids really took care of me. Let everyone love on you. Find me on FB if you want. Just look for Connie Norleen. 💕🥰💕

[@ingelao5963]

Thanks for sharing ❤

[@sheilajo5]

Another spot on video very similar to my grief since 6.14.2020 when everything changed with the sudden loss of my husband. Thank you. My faith is what gets me through.

[@connienorleen]

Thank you! 💕. I hope you find a grief share group. They really help. 💕

[@denisemccrea7221]

I so hear you!! My husband has been gone almost 3 months after being married for 48 1/2 years. Like you, I went from my parents home to being married at 19. I have never lived by myself. He was with me thru everything. I walked thru the store on Valentine's Day and one of those waves hit me and I needed to get out of there. Thank you for sharing your journey

[@connienorleen]

Yes I totally get that wave at Valentines Day. It is a journey. Give yourself grace and time. 💕. Have you subscribed to my Chanel? Thank you if you did. 😄

[@BAWNBAWNBAWN]

I just love you!. I lost my Dad in February 2020, and I just los my husband June 22,2021. 10 days after his 64th birthday. He died in an accident. My heart, soul aches. Listening to you is extremely comforting. Thank you.

[@connienorleen]

Oh bless you my fiend. Thank yo so much and I am so sorry for your double loss. I am glad you are here! ♥

[@kathykirby164]

I went through my first Christmas, 3 days after my husband passed... I love the footprints poem...it is so true. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability.

[@connienorleen]

Oh wow. My mom passed two days before Christmas so I kind of get it. We opened presents with her writing on the tags. My dad was still alive so that empty chair was really hard. I’m so sorry for your loss. And yes I love that poem too. It was my father in laws favorites too.💕🥰💕. Thank you for watching and sharing. 💕

[@billverstelle8979]

Thank you for being so honest and sharing your story. I lost my wife two days ago, she died in my arms from a massive heart attack. We were sole mates for 31 years my best friend. Right now I feel like you described I have physical heaviness on my body my emotions are all over the place and feel like I don’t belong in this world. It’s so nice to hear from others who are going through the same thing I’m just starting to go through. I will look up the book you talked about in the first video. Thank you.

[@rabick62]

I lost my wife 2 months ago. Can't believe how hard it is. Praying for Peace for us all, someday. It's gonna take awhile.

[@connienorleen]

Look for a grief share group in your area too. Make sure it is for loss of a spouse only. It only a 12 week course but very valuable.

[@anniehunter5786]

Connie your videos are so helpful. I lost my husband of 44 years 2 months ago. Your messages are very helpful. I listen to one of them every night. God Bless you and all of us grieving a loss.❤

[@connienorleen]

Oh thank you Annie. I’m so grateful for nice ladies like you. 💕. I’m sorry for your loss. 🥰 We have a Facebook group page for us. If you would like to join us just find me on Facebook, friend me, and then send me a private message and let me know you would like to join our group. I would love to invite you. 💕

[@francinerobinson1951]

So helpful..has helped me to believe I will not drown..

[@menofairy]

Thank you for your honesty...lost my husband just 2 1/2 months ago. We had 38 years together so trying to be only one person is so hard. You have touched on some of the things I am experiencing... Thank you.

[@connienorleen]

Blessings to you. Stay connected. I have other videos that might bless you. Find a grief share group for widows. It really helps. I also share a book in my latest video that blessed me.

[@gail2297]

I too had trouble going to the grocery store. I was still working. My husband had retired so he did the grocery shopping. After he passed away, i almost broke down crying in the grocery store. I also had trouble going in the home improvement store. I saw a man down at the end of an aisle that looked a lot like my husband. I almost freaked out that time. It has been 8 years since my husband passed away. First year was hard. Second year when I thought I was better, I would get blindsighted out of no where with something that reminded me of him. That was very hard because I never knew when it would happen. What helped me the most was spending time with God and getting involved in helping others through church ministries. I also have a very supportive family.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Gail. I am so sorry for your loss. And your description of blindsided is so true. I am so glad you have God and that you are active in your church. I have other videos here that might bless you. Also I recommended a book in my latest video that has blessed me.♥

[@johnritenour-nf3zc]

Just found your 2-part series. Squarely on point with what I'm starting. Just lost my wife 8 days ago. 56 years. She fought ovarian cancer for 14 years - the last 8 months in home hospice. I was sitting with her and the hospice nurse when she quietly passed in her sleep. My grief is overwhelming. I take heart in knowing one can move on from here.

[@connienorleen]

Oh John, I’m so sorry. Seek support. Don’t shut down. Let the tears flow. This is a great loss. 💕 Give yourself time. Find a grief share group in your area for widows and widowers, preferably in a church and a group for us and not any other type of losses. I’m praying for you. 💕🙏💕

[@bonnieludwig3122]

I have been a widow for 9 months. We were high school sweethearts, married at 19 yrs. old, had 3 beautiful children and married for 47+ years. At age 65 my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer. His whole life he was a strong healthy man. He died 11 months later at age 66. We did everything together. Grocery shopping is something we always did together. So going into the store was not easy. I would start to tear up and had to get out of there. I can relate to the waves of feelings and loneliness. Thank goodness my family lives near by and include me in with their lives. I’m looking forward to seeing the rest of your you tube video journey.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Bonnie, thanks for watching. Your story is similar to mine. I don’t know if you saw it in one of my videos but one of the things that got me every week for probably six months was taking the trash cans to the curb. He did that every week. 😢 Find me on FB and let’s connect. Just look for Connie Norleen 💕

[@mightymouse2098]

Only two months of grieving without a lot of support has been difficult. But the KZbin videos have left me wanting to not break apart and not be afraid of the feelings that will obviously coming during the holidays and his birthday.

[@freidafree810]

...anyone, and I mean anyone who has the gall to tell someone in grief that it's too much, too long, too whatever...is no longer a person who would be a part of my life. Even family. Good old family. It's been 2.3 years. Here are the holidays. Together 47 years. I'm so much better, but I still will have a moment of falling apart. Especially during the holidays. I mean, really falling apart and after a good deep cry, I feel better. I was never alone either, until now. I will never be the same deep down. I'm finding me and I hope I can be a content me, but he truly was my soulmate. Never another until I see him again. I'm the type that would leave a table and a restaurant if someone chose to judge my grief and I would never be around that idiot again. Life is just too short. This video was so touching and so accurate. Bless you as you carry on. Thank you for sharing.

[@connienorleen]

Wow. Thank you Freida. And it’s ok if you still have those times. It’s been almost 4 years for me now and I can still have an emotional minute, hour or even a day and it’s ok. 💕. I had a lady tell me one time, after 20 years she still has an occasional emotional time and it’s ok. Not as often but they can just pop up. Blessings to you

[@theresazissarider-rahmani8083]

Start going to the store fresh bakery area you can buy buns by the one piece and they taste better. Sorry what your speaking of scares many of us now. Thank You for sharing.

[@gloriarico1176]

😢 I understand you're feeling ❤

[@julietdavis5752]

You’re doing a wonderful job. I’m going through something extremely similar with being a widow since April 8 of this year. I went through Griefshare, which is a formalized national grief service with facilitators & I also went through another grief group, which was smaller and more intimate. Each had their helpful hints. I’m not looking forward to this holiday season either but trying to forge a new reality. If you read this, know that I am and always have been a Christian woman as well. I am not sure that God doesn’t allow us to see signs of hope from our loved ones. If my husband wanted to smoke a cigar, he was relegated to his man cave, which was a renovated garage. I was outside the garage one day, just watering plants and said I wouldn’t mind if he sent me a sign. Immediately, the garage door shut on its own. No one was home and there was no electrical reason or any other explanation. Makes you think. 😀

[@clarencehogrefe1220]

That was your Husband being by your side always. God Bless

[@connienorleen]

Wow. Yes it does make you think, for sure! 💕

[@honeycalame5692]

God bless you! Thank you for these videos. My sweet hubby of 52 years passed on November 3rd. It’s been so hard and your videos give me hope. I will be praying for you and please keep me in your prayers. 🙏🏻

[@connienorleen]

Thank you for watching, sharing and praying. 💕. My first recommendation is to find a local grief share group and make sure it is for the loss of a spouse only. 💕

[@rosefata2534]

I lost my husband of 33 years 2 years ago at the age of 58 to brain cancer there’s not a day I don’t think of him I miss him terribly but somehow I’m getting thru the grief I have my faith that helps and my family ❤️just never give up that’s my motto ! One day well be together again , but for now live life to the fullest because that’s what our loved ones want for us and to be happy ❤️🦋🙏

[@connienorleen]

I agree with your thoughts rose. It is a process that I have had to learn to embrace, living life to the fullest.

[@rosefata2534]

Thank u❤️🙏

[@Somepeoplecalllyn]

Thank you for sharing. ❤

[@kramer070473]

Its been 3 months and the pain is is unbearable. Thank you for sharing your loss and hugs to you.

[@connienorleen]

Oh I am so sorry for your loss. I know it hurts. Prayers for you my friend. Try to find a support group in your area or maybe a zoom right now and make it a group for losing a spouse not other family losses. The group really does help. ♥

[@suzzylouloudougherty5237]

Sweet

[@P.L.M.]

It seems like time has stopped.

[@debcraig1558]

Love your openness and that you are leaning on God for help. I can relate....

[@connienorleen]

Thank you Deb! ♥

[@terimartin291]

Thank you so much for your video. I lost my husband Dec 20, 2020 and your video I could relate to. Once of the hardest things with me is the grocery store. I sadly don't have children so the loneliness after 32 years of marriage and 40 year of being with him everyday is hard. Covid is not helping either. I see you haven't posted for months and I hope you are doing well. I appreciate your videos.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Teri, Yes I am doing ok. It has been hard to get back on Video for some reason. I will be back. I hope you clicked the subscribe button and the bell, that way you will be notified when I come back. ♥

[@sherryhamilton6374]

Thanks for your video, loss my husband of almost 50 yrs. suddenly💔

[@veronicafowler5026]

Thank you I have loss my husband, in 2021 it's have been the hardest thing for me, living without my best friend my soulmate. I am trying to stay strong knowing that's what he would wanted me to do. Rest in peace my love.

[@craftfunforever8100]

Hi my heavens I found you on my kindle . I feel like I was looking in the mirror of myself in your story .right down to the little dog I to have a little Molly to keep me company she's white ball of fur . Its been Four months yesterday I lost my frank of 47 years we started out at 16 years old kids. my hole life was with him . I did the same thing with the hamburger buns in the store . Frank passed three days before our wedding anniversary I never saw it coming every night I see him taking his last breath I never thought one person could make so many tears . I to got on a grief share on line and what you said helped me cause the others lost a different person not spouse And I feel like it's harder to connect .So I am going to see about the other book you talked about in your other video . Every thing is mountains to climb .on top of the world going crazy it's overwhelming I feel like you can't get away from it to find some sense of normal I know I am not alone so many of us are walking in this valley .And your right I don't know what I would do without my faith in Jesus . I think you are so brave to open your grief walk to the world .the holidays are so painful trying to keep a smile on my face for my family is hard . I feel like your the first person that has said exactly what it's like .I will be praying for you too .I know God will bring us ( All ) through this .God Bless Sue

[@connienorleen]

Oh my friend, thank you so much for sharing your journey. What always amazes me is we think we are the only one in a certain situation and here you are with the same hamburger story! I’m sorry for your loss too. And yes the hurt is unmeasurable. I hope you will look for another local grief share group that you can go to and make sure it is just for spouses. Bless you my friend. 💕

[@teriknecht7870]

I loss my husband it’s 6 months tomorrow I’m broken n loss 😢😢😢💔💔💔 we were together 47 years so many days I don’t want to go on. When people ask how are you doing it’s hard to say that you’re OK when deep down inside you really are not.

[@patashton773]

I hide in my room 11 months gone 47 years together dont know how much more I can go on either he was my everything

[@freddieperry2276]

I also lost my husband of 47 years.. The weight was so heavy I didn’t see how I could survive and I really didn’t want to. Every day I got up for a few hours and visited friends, then I went home to bed for the rest of the day. That lasted 9 months. I gradually started spending less time in bed. I didn’t want to go on living but I forced myself to. Those first few years were the hardest of my life. It’s been over 7 years now and I think I’ll probably mourn him for the rest of my life but it’s rare that I feel the deep grief. I’ve become stronger and very independent. There is joy in my life again. Hang in there. It sometimes takes longer than you think, and it’s often a lot of hard work but you CAN build a new life for yourself.

[@connienorleen]

@@freddieperry2276 Freddie, thank you so very much for sharing your journey. You have blessed many with your share. With your permission I would like to share your story in one of my videos. I think it will bless many. ♥

[@sherrytrobinson1546]

I lost my best friend, and I can’t live without her. This my wife tablet I’m on, the world don’t mean anything to me now. Because my wife is not in it. The you for read this, Johnathan

[@englady]

Thank you again for your honesty, you’ve helped me a lot .

[@beryljohnston4476]

Your words are so comforting and relatable. You would make a great counsellor. Luv B

[@connienorleen]

Oh thank you so much. That is so kind of you. I'm just sharing my journey and hopes that it blesses others. ♥

[@donnachatterton6298]

My husband died two days after Thanksgiving.. I can’t see myself getting through next holidays.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Donna, I’m sorry for your loss. I totally understand how you feel. I felt the same way. This first year is important for you. There are a lot of changes you will be going through and new firsts. My first suggestion to you is to get yourself into a grief share group. New ones are starting up right now. We all need in this in our first year. 💕 I am going to attend another one this year just to make sure I don’t have anything left over that I need to deal with. Also stay plugged into my videos. And I have a Facebook group I created last year. If you would like to join us in that group just friend me in Facebook and then make sure to private message me that you want in our group. There are a great bunch of ladies in there that will love on you and support you. 💕🥰💕

[@connienorleen]

I am so touched by your raw honestly. I can see and feel your heart. God bless you! ❤️❤️❤️

[@connienorleen]

Awe. Thank you 💕

[@PoetSkyMSA0227]

I lost my partner 16 weeks ago . He has Msa . I am really struggling . This is hard 😢

[@cathyparker8565]

Thank you for your share, it will hopefully help me.

[@connienorleen]

Hi Cathy, You are so welcome and I have made several other videos that might bless you also. Stay connected my friend. ♥

[@valnauffts9965]

And doing better thank you so much for sharing your story it helps .

[@connienorleen]

I'm so glad you are doing better. ♥

[@valnauffts9965]

The heaviness you describe,has hit me many times I thought I would die from the weight of it I couldn’t breathe ,my head ached ,my body ached but mostly my heart ached ,it is easier now but it still hits me although not as hard or as often . I am trying to be happy and sometimes I am but it will never be the same ,how can it be ? I lost my husband after 57 years of marriage ,it’s been over 2 years since he passed and I am still surviving

[@connienorleen]

Yes surviving is a good way to describe it. Someone said they are learning to live life to the fullest. I am working on that. Blessings to you my friend! ♥

[@gerenekelly8167]

Connie, thank you for your reply. I watched both of your videos on grieving and we are so alike it was unreal: our age, how long we were married, etc. It really helped me. Thank you again!

[@connienorleen]

Gerene Kelly I am so very glad my journey helped you. Are you on FB? I would love to stay in touch. 💕 You can find me at Connie Norleen

[@cathypressey1483]

I am exactly in the same place as you. Same things make me sad grocery shopping so many things cookies he loved I just cry. It’s crazy theses grief burst. I feel like I’m listening to myself hearing you. Listening to you makes me realize I’m not crazy. That foot step poem was my husbands favorite.

[@connienorleen]

I am so glad you have been blessed. Have you joined a grief share group yet? That really helps. 💕

[@hazelchloe100]

Thank you for your videos...I am also dealing with grief of the death of my husband of 48 years..it’s been almost 11 mths for me.. sometimes the waves of grief as you say are so very strong and I also wondered sometimes if I needed more help..but slowly the intensity dissipates ...it’s something no one can prepare you for ..and I appreciate videos such as yours that show us that we are normal and going through a process ..you’re lovely 😊 ❤️

[@connienorleen]

Yes it is a journey for sure and nothing could have prepared us for this. Thank you for your kind words. ♥

[@susiewelchman8658]

Sending you hugs and more hugs! Lots of love Susie 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕🌈🦋

[@connienorleen]

Thanks Susie! And I back to you. ♥

[@lindahardy1017]

I know that feeling too well. You can feel it taking over your body and there is nothing you can do. It has been 29 months and it seems like yesterday.😞❤️🙏🙏🙏

[@connienorleen]

Hi Linda, thanks for watching. I hope you will subscribe. 💕. I agree with everything you said. The grief share group did help me. Plus a book a friend shared with me and then I started joining things to get myself in new situations.💕

[@sherrydubbin7788]

I am so happy to have found this video and you it’s been four months since my husband died married 55 years so I can really relate I haven’t watch the first video but I have now done the second I will go back and listen thank you so much we are a lot alike

[@connienorleen]

Thank you for watching and sharing. I hope you find a grief share group. They really help. I hope you will subscribe to my channel and continue to share. 💕

[@jandreokeef9330]

What a blessing you are to we woman that are on this journey. It’s only been 3 months and I’m struggling with all those things you mentioned! I was looking up a recipe and it said for two and that sent me into a Tsunami cry as I call them. I cried all through your video. It was 57 yrs for us. We were babies when we met and we always said we grew up together. There are so so many triggers and like you said the grief is different for everyone and that’s OK! I have had those waves and I’ll call those Tsunami’s too. I also lost my daughter 8 months prior to losing my husband. The pain is like no other. I will say that my faith is strong and God has held my hand through all of this. So thank you for sharing your journey as I know it’s a blessing to all who are walking this walk. 💔

[@connienorleen]

Wow Jandre, I am so very sorry for your losses. It is hard and there is no easy way back but we just keep going because we are supposed to. I am so glad you have the Lord. I would like to suggest a widows support group through a local church. They really help. And I have other videos that I have on my channel as well. I am glad you were blessed by my journey my friend. ♥

[@geraldinestocki410]

Thank you I know this will take a while the waves come

[@Birdlady16]

Can you tell me where you got that necklace? I'm also a widow and it's not been that long, it's a hard thing to deal with but with the grace of God he has strengthened me to keep going.

[@connienorleen]

I'm so sorry but I don't remember where I got the necklace. It was just a piece of costume jewelry. Thanks for liking it. I'm glad you are reaching out to God for support. I would also recommend a widow's grief share group. The churches have the best ones. they really do help. ♥

[@brigetterivera7422]

Thanks for sharing :')

[@connienorleen]

Thank you for watching Brigette! 💕

[@sandygamble182]

Yes you are helping me.. my husband it has been 7 months can relate we were married 53 years got married out of school..yes I had heaveness also yes mine left like you said

[@vernabryant2894]

Your home is beautiful.

[@connienorleen]

Thank you! 💕

[@silenttuber2988]

I lost my husband last month, to dementia, lung cancer, and a head bleed stroke. I miss him so much. After he passed I couldn’t turn my tv on for weeks. Places we went together was the hardest. I ended up in the hospital a day after he passed. My blood pressure went though the roof. My sugar level was high, and stomach hurt. I called 911.

[@connienorleen]

Oh my goodness. So very sorry for your loss. And your subsequent health issues. I went through a little of health issues too. I hope you are feeling a little better. I recommend a widow's grief share group. They really do help. And I recommended a book in my most recent video where I talked about regrets. Stay connected my friend. ♥

[@silenttuber2988]

@@connienorleen Thank you, I’m a little better now. Trying to become TikTok famous. Lol

[@nancywhite4397]

I was never sick until he died. I feel bad all the time now, had to go to the ER. I feel like I'm in quicksand.

[@nancywhite4397]

My body feels like im in quicksand since he died

[@gloriamcgee6362]

I am going through the same thing we were married 57 years meet in the 8 the grade dated in high school married after high school it has been 9 months it has been so hard I,m going to a Christian grieving program and it is helping me thank you

[@connienorleen]

Hi Gloria, I am so glad you are going to a grief share group and that you are being blessed from it. Go as long as you need to. Also stay plugged in here and to people. I have other videos that might bless you as well.♥

[@lorrinep1]

I just want to reach out and hug you so hard because I know you want just one last hug from your sweetheart. It does hurt so badly but I want you to know how you are helping so many of us get theu it also and we thank you for that.

[@connienorleen]

Oh thank you so much Lorrine. I will take that virtual hug. Yes it does hurt. And thanks for your words of encouragement. I do continue to make videos. Please share any that you think would bless others. ♥

[@evehughes6818]

I have had so much to do I haven’t had time to sit down. My porch and roof both got leaks, and I couldn’t get anyone on the phone. I wanted some time to just be alone with my memories. I write him a letter everyday so that helps. He died 2-2-2-21 so it’s all so fresh.

[@connienorleen]

Yes I understand the time challenge for you. Some of my friends had the same experiences. Wow. That is date to remember for sure. I am so sorry for your loss. And I know it hurts bad. I love the idea of writing your husband a letter every day. That is a great idea. Thank you for sharing that. I have other videos here if you want to check them out. I recommend a grief share group in a local church for widows. they really do help. ♥

[@takinittotheheatandthestreet]

Jesus helps so much . I’m 7 months out. My husband died at 53 .

[@connienorleen]

Wow! Seven months, sorry. Praying for you. It is journey back that is for sure.

[@plumalynne1399]

Are you still making videos? They are helpful, can you let us know how you are doing?

[@connienorleen]

Hi Pluma, Yes I just started back up on my videos. So sorry for my absence. I have been so blessed by everyone here and I am inspired to keep sharing. I have posted three new ones recently and there were many others that I did here as well. I am doing better, thank you for asking. It is a journey, never to be complete I don't believe it. ♥

[@GeminieCricket]

😢no do not feed ducks bread it bad for them!😢