grwm date night: first date advice, how to get a second date, & dating tips

[@-bexx]

my first date was actually the movies haha, we’re both pretty introverted and thought it was a good idea to get a feel for each other. plus it gave us something to talk about afterwards, overall it was a success!

[@HeatherMak]

I'm so happy to hear that the movies worked for you! I'm definitely seeing why an introvert may feel more comfortable with this sort of activity. 🥰

[@just_rita6505]

same!! I was worried that it wouldn't be a good idea to go to the movies for the first date but it turned out good, we discussed the movie afterwards and even had some inside jokes about it already haha it was the best date I've ever been on tbh but maybe it's bc I liked this person (btw we never had a second date and stopped talking after that one date but anywaysss)

[@-bexx]

@@just_rita6505 yay i’m happy you enjoyed that one date at least! my first one turned into many and our one year anniversary was beginning of august haha

[@DaichuGinga]

Also, coffee dates are a classic date plan, and they're awesome if they're early. If the date is good, you can do more after. If the date is bad, your day isn't ruined and you can go home/hang with other friends.

[@HeatherMak]

EXACTLY!

[@outroseok]

I potentially have a first date on Friday and GOD I'm so nervous, I'm out of a long term relationship (6 years and we broke up April of 2022) so this is the first time I've dated or had a first date in like 7 years.

[@HeatherMak]

It’s going to go great!!! Have fun and stay safe 🩷

[@belenrodriguezgennari2847]

I just turned 20 and i'm going on a first date EVER i'm so nervous

[@HeatherMak]

Nervous is normal!!!

[@scarabbgg]

How’d it go?

[@mitsisin]

How it was? I am going on a brand first date ever too (i am 20) want to know what to expect☺️🫣

[@randomly3641]

Im going for my fiiiirst ever datee and Im 19😭😭

[@belenrodriguezgennari2847]

Omg i just saw this, it was nice but he is from italy and was in my country for work and travel. Best date ever tho we went on another one afterwards.

[@chimchimx]

Im potentially going for first date this Saturday. Sooo nervous 😭. Trying to get out of my comfort zone. Wish me luck ✨🫶🫶 Ahhhh

[@HeatherMak]

Sending you all the luck in the universe!! Have fun and don't think too hard about it

[@sArangHaeOpPa00001]

Did it go well?❤

[@swiftiesunite.13]

so I'm 14, and this Saturday I'm going on my first date ever!! I'm so excited, we are going out to lunch at a Thai restaurant, but I really needed your advice, and since I trust your judgment completely, you really helped me. Thank you so much Heather

[@HeatherMak]

FIRST DATE EVER CONGRATULATIONS ♥️♥️♥️ so proud of you and remember to have fun!!!

[@swiftiesunite.13]

@@HeatherMak

[@earlgreymilktae]

how did it go?

[@swiftiesunite.13]

@@earlgreymilktae It was great!! It led to two more dates afterward!! :D

[@DaichuGinga]

It's true, women do think more. We're no thoughts, just vibes.

[@justmehhl]

My first date with this man was a walk by the lakeside. I didn't think I'll be enjoying going out with him as I haven't seen him in-person before, so we loosely scheduled 30mins walk and I went out with bare-minimum makeup and not-so-feminine outfits. The moment I saw him waiting for me, I quite fell for his sparkle eyes and we both enjoyed talking to each other about random things we see all the way. On my second date, he recalled how he noticed I wore no-makeup (although I actually put on some sunscreen :P) and how nice my skin looked that day. Lol I wasn't expecting he noticed those.

[@HeatherMak]

Aww this sounds lovely 🫶

[@iwanttokms.c0mm]

im 14 and im off on my first date tomorrow, were off to get lunch and then go to the beach, and im excited but so nervous !! so ive been binge watching first date videos and i really needed your advice thank you so much !!

[@HeatherMak]

Aww I hope you have the best lunch and beach day ever 🥹

[@niax7010]

I have my first date tonight I’m SO nervous but your video helped my nerves so much. Love your vibe also thankful I found your video!!

[@HeatherMak]

I hope it went amazing and you had fun

[@purplepeach4921]

I’m 17 and going on my first date ever tomorrow!! Kinda nervous but thank you for your advice 🫶

[@HeatherMak]

How was it?!

[@emilyernst3288]

$300 for a meal???? Girl, I'm too uncultured for this conversation I guess 😂😂

[@annah995]

I always split the bill on first dates; I earn my own money and think it is kind of weird women wanting to be equal to men in society and at the same time expecting them to pay 😅 Later normally the guy and me kind of alternate with paying. But that's just my opinion. My now husband and me on our first date also split the bill. We really liked each other right away so that was no sign for no interest clearly...

[@HeatherMak]

I’m really glad that you commented this! It’s definitely different depending on each relationship. There’s no right or wrong way.

[@annah995]

@@HeatherMak but I totally agree that guys who are interested often at least express their wish to pay for both. :)

[@taliw7736]

thanks trying out my 1st online date :) gonna use this advice one day and journal your great tips. Looking so glowy and pretty

[@HeatherMak]

Awe goodluck!! I hope it’s a positive experience 🥺💗

[@abbiemarie38]

I'm going on my first date with a guy later, and I'm a little nervous ngl. I have met a guy from a dating app before, but we literally just walked for like an hour and it was really awkward. This is the first time I'm meeting this guy am were going to a game library. I think this could be really fun and cool, or awkward . I want to act confidant and like I already know them, but I don't want to come off too strong

[@abbiemarie38]

An update: it was very awkward at first, but we kind of warmed up to each other after I told some funny stories haha I think we like each other, and I plan on asking him on a second date if he ask me first!

[@afroaesthete3701]

I was thinking about how much this sounds like me and how I act on dates, and then you said you’re a Pisces and it all clicked 😂

[@HeatherMak]

Pisces unite 🫡

[@mobstercrow7515]

I'm a guy and I've never been on a date before. I'm going to college next year with my service dog so I want to be prepared for dates. A lot of people don't like service dogs or people with mental/physical issues so that will help get rid of the majority of people, which is nice. I require my service dog so I can stay alive, if people aren't okay with that, I can automatically mark them out. If a date is going badly, I can also use my service dog as an excuse to leave early. My service dog is a standard poodle, so maybe I can say that he has a grooming appointment that was changed last minute. I'm a femboy so a lot of people are attracted to my looks sadly, I don't want people to like me because of my looks, I want them to like me because of my personality. Looks don't matter at all, personalities do. I hope I can find some good people when I go to college. I am very scared of being used.

[@HeatherMak]

I'm sorry if you've had experiences in the past where people haven't liked your service dog or judged you based on your mental/physical disabilities. I'm hoping for the best and wish you so much success with college next year

[@besined]

Great advice! I love your nail polish where is that from

[@HeatherMak]

I don’t have the name of the polish SORRY 😩

[@wizard-z5w]

Im waiting my boyfriend now in library and listening to this both of us are introverte it’s my first date

[@francescolucenti2036]

I am a guy and still haved watched the video, i am really nervous for my first date even if pepole could say girls stress more. I don't care i am really nervous. But, thank to this video i've understood that the most important thing is to make the girl feel confortable. So yes, everybody wishes me luck i guess

[@HeatherMak]

hope it goes amazing

[@snowdrop-4907]

I’m 17 and I had my first date after a two year relationship a few weeks ago!! We have had 3 dates and I am completely lost to when I should kiss him and other stuff. I kissed him on our third date and I lead a bit further and I’m not sure if that was a good idea but he seems like a nice guy he got me flowers and everything I just wish he’d talk more but in still nervous for our next date!!

[@HeatherMak]

@@snowdrop-4907 don’t rush it! I’m sure it’ll come naturally 🫶

[@cool-person-here-1]

I’m going on a date in 20 minutes with my bf of now 2 months, we’ve both been busy with stuff which is why we haven’t done anything, but ahhh I’m so nervous! We’re getting ice cream then walking to the park together (it’s like 40 mins away tho). Hope it goes well!!

[@HeatherMak]

I hope it was lovely 🩷

[@cool-person-here-1]

It was! After getting ice cream we did go to the park, then played on the playground, pushing eachother down slides! We’re not gonna be able to do anything together for awhile bc I’m gonna be camping, but we had a lot of fun. I made him a tiny paper flower bouquet and a small note too

[@miri8996]

I'm going on my first date ever tomorrow and i'm 18.... i'm actually so nervous i could die.

[@HeatherMak]

how did it go?!

[@miri8996]

@@HeatherMak it was perfect!!😭😭 We had lunch together and he paid for my meal too, then we had a walk around the city (we were holding hands). I mean ofc there were moments of awkward silence but I didn’t feel uncomfortable at all, the fact that he was visibly as much as nervous as I was kind of calmed me down ahahah. I had a really great time. We even kissed. I followed your advice and I wrote to him when I got home and told him how I felt about the day. In the end he told me he had fun too and invited me on a second date😭😭

[@HeatherMak]

@miri8996 I HAVE BUTTERFLIES FOR YOU!!! I’m so happy to hear you had fun and even with the quieter times you still enjoyed the date 🥹🫶

[@marlene3295]

Im going on my first date everrrr on wednesday, im 20 and never even flirted with anyone at all. We texted just a little bit and yesterday she said she hopes i talk more on the date than over text. That honestly scared me a bit, since im very i introverted and dont really talk much in general. Idk what to dooo

[@HeatherMak]

It's okay to let her know that you're introverted and your absence in speaking isn't bc you're uninterested but rather that you're content listening!! She's probably just in her head worried that by you not speaking as much is somehow her fault 🥹

[@scratchinpetepa]

Hey Heather! Today I was like ‘what day is it?’ ‘Oh it’s Saturday’. Then I checked your channel cause I thought I missed your video yesterday, bc you post on Fridays a lot. Then I found you didn’t and I was like ‘Ok, I didn’t miss it’. Is that weird? Well, it’s me…so I wouldn’t be surprised if it came off as weird 😅 Ok, nice video. I know it was more focused on tips for women, but I definitely think you covered a lot of stuff. Being a guy I can say you were pretty much bang on about the guy stuff you mentioned. Guys like to feel they are ‘doing well on a date’. They love when girls laugh at their jokes (even when they suck), and they appreciate compliments too. I think the best first dates are the cheap ones lol. Maybe I’m different, but I prefer cheap dates…grab a quick bite to eat and find a park or something and chill there for an afternoon. Talk and get to know each other. Walks are the best. It’s a natural way to relieve stress, and works very well on first dates when both people are nervous. Plus there is always something to look at when you’re walking outdoors so I find the conversation flows more when doing this activity. I could write a long opinion column touching on your points but I won’t bore you with my opinions lol. You know, I can feel that you love helping people. It really comes out when I watch you explaining dating and making sure that both people on a date are respected and valued. I asked myself how can you be so much like this…then you said you were a Pisces…and I’m like ‘ahh, that explains it’ lol. Pisces are warm caring people….I’m a Pisces too 😅! Ttyl!

[@HeatherMak]

I love coffee dates and walks around after. They’re underrated!! Also pisces >>

[@mollyskerbetz2264]

Tip: Vary your sentences so that you don't come up as robotic. For example, if you're sharing your opinion, instead of saying "I like...." maybe change it up to "I enjoy" or "I am interested in"

[@alessiapasqualone129]

Hi I don’t know if you’ll see this but I went on one recently and had such a good time. I need some advice though?! Would you say if the guy texts you after and stays in touch that he’s interested in seeing you again? Even if he has not yet mentioned it yet?! Also if he kisses you on the first date is that a good sign?! x

[@HeatherMak]

I would definitely say that if they’re keeping in touch that they are most likely interested! I would nudge you to ask when they’re free and see where the conversation naturally flows :)

[@ZeeA0705]

i love videos like this where you can just have one on one chats but the thing is i have never gotten to a stage where i even had a guy like me back its crazy to think that and im 28years old problem is i am very introvert and when I like someone i wont say anything even now. This guy I like his friends have asked me to just ask him to meet but I cant and I don't really know how to either

[@HeatherMak]

Being introverted can be so hard… I think you really have to want something to push yourself towards it. I always remind myself that there’s always no harm in trying and the worst thing that could happen is they may say no. Rejection is a normal part of life and I think we should acknowledge it rather than run from it!

[@ZeeA0705]

@@HeatherMak I made a mistake of telling a friend about him who I thought I trusted and she messaged him for me even though I didn’t want her to she then started to say things that wasn’t true and it put me off him and we distanced since then I have left my job where we both work but now I am trying to find ways to ask him in person rather then through messages

[@HeatherMak]

I’m really sorry to hear your friend crossed a boundary. Would you be able to meet up for a drink/lunch to chat and explain your side of the story? I’m getting a sense that you want to have your own narrative rather than a friend produce one on your behalf.

[@Tarotblackcat]

If he doesn't kiss me first date I think he is not that into me or too shy... and it not working out long time. I think he should pay if he asking me out i have to travel etc.. Chemistry important.

[@lydiastraley2004]

Hey comments ok I might be going on a date on Sunday. And it's gonna be my first date, and I'm really nervous. I'm a shy person. What would be the best place to go on a date? I was thinking, maybe Mini golfing or going bowling, or maybe going to see a movie, and I'm not sure if he's ever been on a date before. I never really asked him, so help a girl out pls 🙂

[@HeatherMak]

If you’re shy an activity is great cause you can start the convo about it and get a little competitive!! I know someone else mentioned that a movie is good bc you don’t have to talk until after and then you can review it together over a dessert or drinks 🫶 It can be nerve racking and exciting all at the same time, but remember to breathe and have fun! You’re gonna have the best time 🥹

[@EvaGrill03]

I'm more interested in my education then being in a relationship, right now. I'm a freshman in College. Also, you look like Lana Condor and Lara Jean Covey.

[@HeatherMak]

I was very education-focused as well during schooling, so I totally understand! I’ve also gotten than I look like Lana Condor a few times now 🥹

[@MisoNqabeni]

If you were born from 2000 to 2010 your a GenZ

[@Unhappysunshinez]

There’s only one part that’s confusing I’m pretty sure I’m just going to the park with the dude But we may get coffee I’m just kinda like…. Some guys or people say it’s attractive to offer to pay but then I’m hearing it’s not HELPP I don’t want to give him the wrong signals

[@HeatherMak]

I think you can offer to be polite. I do think if he asked you on the date then he should pay or if you asked him then you should pay :) either way if he declines you paying then say thank you and enjoy your coffee !

[@Unhappysunshinez]

@@HeatherMak that’s what I’m thinking too I just don’t want to mess anything up 😭

[@Unhappysunshinez]

@@HeatherMak also thank you so much for replying my date is in 2 hours 😭

[@HeatherMak]

@@Unhappysunshinez OMG HOW WAS IT?!

[@Unhappysunshinez]

ALSO IM ABSOLUTELY TERRIFIED LIKE IM SCARED 😭 BUT WE ARE GOING TO A PARK AND IM AN Introvert ): SO IM LIKE IDK WHAT TO DO WE ARE GOING TO BE WALKING

[@HeatherMak]

how was it?!

[@justsarah6159]

Okay so I'm 18, going on my first date (noone called it date except my whole family and friends😅) and i also am really nervous so thank you for making the video. Now i realize i would have already done many stupid things 😂

[@HeatherMak]

Omg you wouldn’t have done anything stupid!! I hope you have fun 💗

[@KutMachar-n5j]

No need to be nervous because it's not as hard as you think

[@AangAtum]

Sleeping with someone in the first date is good lol How to Tell me your body count is 10+ without telling me your body count is 10+

[@shrutiranjan0511]

I have my first date after 2 days ❤

[@HeatherMak]

have fun !!!

[@shrutiranjan0511]

​@@HeatherMak Hey replied to me😳 So let me give you an update 🤭 It was my first date in almost 3.5 years of long distance relationship. I am from India and it is the rainy season here. The date was so fun we were sitting in a park in a safe spot and it was raining everywhere. This was the most romantic experience of my life 😍 At the end of the date we also had our first kiss 🙈

[@panda-lb5xw]

Okay so I am 18….tomorrow I am going on my first date ever!!!!! And god I am nervous 😖

[@HeatherMak]

How did it go?!

[@loveest7230]

First time here you’re voice is amazing and the way you talk is so charming also it would better if you don’t add any voice effects they’re just so annoying ❤

[@ikram_dz124]

The guy made her pay THE DATE ; HELL NO .

[@HeatherMak]

I was betrayed

[@muzikveoyun37]

I also paid for the date just to get kissed three times without consent ;)

[@billmacia-0808]

Yeah, I can confirm, men are nervous on the first date, be we can't show or talk about it 💀

[@carolinareaper8089]

Restaurant - he is only meet and no gluten and I am vegan - there is no restaurant for us in the entire city Cinema? Great ! You don’t have to talk and are forced by default to sit very close which is very nice to feel each other’s vibe and adjust to physical presence, especially if you met online and already discusses a ton of topics 😂 I haven’t been on a date in 9 years … 😢 I want to vomit when I think amount of stres

[@HeatherMak]

Dietary restrictions can be so hard and stressful esp going to a restaurant for the first time on a date! I would try calling ahead just to make sure you’ll be okay and will have something to eat 🫶 It’s normal to be stressed esp since you mentioned you haven’t been going on many dates. It’s like a muscle - the more you use it the stronger and more comfortable you get! Best of luck 🥰

[@Louisa1970_]

I won't lie your not helping by saying it feels like an interview and that

[@elaine428]

You are gen z))

[@HeatherMak]

Does 1997 count as gen z or millenial?

[@elaine428]

​@@HeatherMak yes, it counts as gen z. but you also sound and behave like gen z, so you are gen z

[@cheetahrose97]

​@@HeatherMak I'm born in 1997 as well, and we are an in-between year. The youngest millennial and the oldest Gen z. ✨️zillennial✨️

[@Joelz_photogram]

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