Gym Girls Need to Stop Playing Dumb About This

[@allintheblood4380]

Can we appreciate how this dad is simply trying to protect and provide guidance to his young daughter.

[@crazynicesonya]

Maybe fathers and mothers of boys should start doing this more?

[@sweetiemageetie7805]

​@@crazynicesonyamaybe we can stick to one subject at a time? Maybe that was CLEARLY stated multiple times in the video?

[@robertgallentine1095]

​@@crazynicesonyafathers and mothers do do that to boys. Fathers and mother do tell their sons that it's ALWAYS their fault no matter what. Why? Because women don't want to be self accountable, not because men are horrible.

[@bz6046]

@@crazynicesonya We do pal. Some people are just bad people. Everyone looks at someone they find attractive both men and women. Women also can commit the same crimes you think only men do it? You need to live a little more and open your eyes.

[@ccoffim]

So let me get this straight… Men are denigrated when they are not in their children’s lives, protecting them and providing for them, yet somehow when they are in their children’s lives caring for them and instilling worth and integrity they are ostracized. This is what good men do, they do what needs to be done. He knows that the decision will not be liked and she will dislike him for it, though it is the right one for her. W for Dad!

[@randymaylowski2485]

Alot of it my guess why the dad was trying to tell her to wear different clothes, is because not just because he cares about her, it's manly because he can see a picture that she doesn't yet, until she gets older, than she realizes. I just wonder how would she react if her dad was trying to tell her a young guy she's seeing for a relationship isn't worth for her? Be mad at dad for her not to date that certain person? Yet doesn't realize her dad could know his whole family and doesn't like how they act/ treat people, not alone each other?. But am just guessing.

[@PuddilyOops]

Years later she’ll get it and say thank you.

[@davidmcelroy2049]

​@@PuddilyOopsHopefully.

[@reemobrooklyn3557]

That fact that she went on the internet to try and shame her own father is disgusting in itself. That man is just trying to raise his daughter/YOUR SISTER properly.

[@6ZouZou9]

Exactly, not everything needs to be on the internet. Whats the next family topic that she'll share.

[@razvan4188]

that's what he gets for trying to raise his kids and not leave his daughters. lmfao

[@Bleepbloopblappp]

This is the takeaway.

[@TheGuiltsOfUs]

The west needs filial piety!!

[@brianchan5402]

That older girl should’ve been home schooled. If a dude walks down the street with $10k cash in hand thru the ghetto and gets robbed, sure it’s the robber is to blame but anyone living in reality would ask “why are you walking down the street flashing $10k in cash?” And call that dude an idiot. To some extent, we’d all say he brought that upon himself. Why can’t this women accept any accountability whatsoever.

[@John7No]

I went to this girl's TikTok and the "you go girl for supporting your sis, or way to go for calling out your father etc" is out of this world. None of those women seems to understand that her father just told her, that she is objectifying herself and this is what others will see. what a sad thing

[@CrimsonEclipse]

Well she doesn't understand looking like a piece of meat to predators is expecting trouble from predators. She is so dumb to put that kind of trust and responsibilities on strangers in society. When dumb animals are hungry they are hungry. Can't just complain dumb animals need to learn not to attack you. She needs to learn some self-preservation techniques.

[@fatimahpatel3125]

Poor Dad He was just looking out for his daughter

[@ryanTDG]

People with fathers taking advice from people without

[@veracastleman9970]

Sweetie Grandma here and I have been horrified at how little actresses wear to the Oscar. There are decent guys who will be uncomfortable but there will also be guys who see what you are advertising and will make a grab for it. Responsibility is on both sides. Ladies, don't advertise your wares and then get upset with any takers. Guys, treat all girls with respect, the way you would want other guys to treat your sister or your daughter.

[@gbird007]

Her dad just loves her and he can't do anything about the thoughts of the men at the gym but he can ask his daughter to have some modesty Great parenting

[@TEWMUCH]

Love this take. He's taking matter into his own hands in the avenues he can control. Beautiful

[@Willie_Wahzoo]

YES. He was 100% right. Whamin dress like trash. Then they complain when they get treated like trash. Disgusting animals.

[@sampreece]

1 Timothy 2:9-10

[@TEWMUCH]

@@sampreece thank u for posting this scripture. I needed 1 Tim today

[@gbird007]

@@sampreece I just looked it up, excellent post

[@Sleepysloth440]

Growing up my parents taught me that when I leave the house I am representing my family. So if I’m going out in dirty clothes, not showered or acting a fool in public it would bring shame on our family. Which is why I agree with the dad. There needs to be a rule with what’s acceptable to wear as some of you take it a bit far. More material in a face cloth then some of the clothes your wearing.

[@2wahineandadog]

Dad is right. When I was 14 I sewed a denim mini skirt (yup super short - I thought sexy..) walked thru the lounge on the way out the door and heard "huh..NO...change", which obviously I did but I took the skirt in my bag and changed back for the disco (down the road behind a tree). It was the worst decision I ever made as I was so uncomfortable I couldn't even sit down as it was so short. The lesson I learnt that day and that I not only still live now but I have taught my son & daughter is that if nana or poppa would be embarrassed by your outfit - don't wear it. Personally I have always played sports etc and I seem quite able to do so in a pair of shorts and tshirt or singlet - I don't want to be blinded at the beach by dental floss up the bum, or walk around the supermarket behind some girl who's shorts are so short you can see her ass cheeks hanging out the bottam or some women's breasts hanging out of a bra top...and my son was always told that any girl he brings home needs to have proper clothes on, if I can see her breakfast when she bends over in that skirt she is NOT welcome in my home. What happened to dignity. There is no way I would go visit my nana in the rest home in a bra top & skin tight shorts pulled all the way up my ass - now at home in front of my partner sure, but that's because all this is for his eyes not a random stranger's. PS. My dad raised me alone, the man had no problem buying me tampons & sanitary pads but also taught me how to change the oil in my car... all he ever asked is that I dress appropriately and to be aware that I represented my family everywhere I went and I wanted to bring pride & respect to my family. You can look sexy and attract men just fine without showing all your goodies...

[@air_belled]

Yes! Nothing wrong with dressing to be beautiful! The problem is the tastelessness and lack of respect for others. As the oldest of four sisters, my thoughts are on them when I dress, not the sexuality of men. I know I don’t want to wear anything that causes their innocent minds to ask questions or respect me less, and it’s a way better objective than being a slave to men’s fluctuating sexual feelings and fetishes. I won’t bow down to this stupid transgender movement and make myself a slave to men’s sexual feelings and neither will I be enslaved to their feelings about my clothing choices.

[@sarahm-a2782]

Applause to your dad, too!

[@Jizzlewobbwtfcus]

Nice to know some people still have standards. My cousin's wife used to be a gym instructor, then she had kids so became a full time mum. Still maintained her figure so fullest respect to her but she had a MASSIVE problem with showing it off sometimes. During my uncle's funeral she wore a black skirt so high I honestly thought it was going to flap up like some cartoonish sunblind. It was totally inappropriate and can only imagine the stress my cousin had to go through trying to stop her wearing that.

[@morwen9626]

As a female...I dress respectably anywhere because I have SELF respect. I never wear leggings to a gym or in public because they are in no way appropriate covering in public in any scenario regardless of societal acceptance of leggings being worn around everywhere. Cover up because you respect yourself. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, just try to have a little class. I wear joggers, basketball shorts, long tennis skirts (still cute!), and t-shirts to the gym. I've somehow managed to get dressed and workout without once shoving my ass, midriff, and tits in anyone's face 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@VerbWithMe]

I wear leggings, but they have a tennis skirt on top, it's all attached together. Basically a tennis skirt but with long legs instead of typical short bloomers. Then a loose t-shirt.

[@antonioliles5027]

Yup... That is essentially what I used to do when I worked out. Tight spandex does keep things in place. But, I wore loose shorts over it so I wasn't flashing my package everywhere.... Not only out of respect for others, but just self respect.

[@donnab3740]

what’s wrong with wearing leggings to the gym??? or to yoga class? you can put a shirt on that covers up what you want

[@alaalfa8839]

It is actually not a bad thing to be attracted to women, because it's imprinted in your DNA by thousands of years of evolution of the human brain.... is very healthy for the brain, otherwise, humans would turn to robots or cyborgs or whatever nonsense.... as Sam Vaknin says if a man is in the presence of another woman, his body releases the hormones even if the woman is ugly or unattractive and even if he feels no attraction to her. So it means social interaction including attraction to the other gender is healthy for the brain and body, it creates creativity in your mind. but you have a choice to enjoy the presence of another gender, which causes you to release rightfully the hormones of pleasure, love, creativity...serotonin, oxytocin, etc but yet be very gentle, polite, and rational and show respect to another gender.

[@Ben10kkjayy]

God bless you mam fr though. Hope God blesses you for as long as he can and may you good and blessed day. ❤women like you get men attention fr. Men might want to look at girls with leggings. The end of the day we would blessed for a women like you Cuh fr.

[@megangosiak1489]

Dad gets the W here. Daughters need to realize they are helping push this "objectify me!" BS. The gym i go to, a lady literally comes in, stretches, does her core/ab workout in the middle of the machines. And it's not a quick one, it's really an hour long circuit that includes the glutes machine. She wears a crop top and tight leggings, very little body fat to her. Meanwhile, i go to the gym in a sweat shirt (a top that is lined with another fabric to help cause more heat/ sweat), a t shirt, leggings that come to my knees, and a pair of sweats/pj pants. I don't want anyone looking at me (but whatever if anyone does), I'm usually in there with my hubby, who is very built and I'm POSITIVE people look at him. Hard not to. Dad is trying to protect and guide his girls through a time that is very getting and he still has SOME influence. Yes, Jesus tells us to hold ourselves accountable for our thoughts. We are also told to hold ourselves accountable for our actions. That we should dress modestly so as to not cause others, NOT JUST MEN, to not stumble. So, the daughters need to be aware that the attention they are seeking may cause OTHERS to stumble. Which is also a sin. So... yea, there's that.

[@monjekay2234]

Wow… I can't imagine going online and talking about my own father like that.

[@sallymarshall8185]

Would they rather have had their father go to the gym and smack every man that looked at his teenage daughter wrong? Be responsible for your own actions, geez. We recently saw so some very young teenage girls at a fair we went with their butts below their shorts and boobs all but out of their crop tops. No way in heck I would have let my daughter out of the house dressed like that. Thank god she had more sense than that.

[@linebrunelle1004]

look don't touch is my go to limit.

[@wisehead1830]

Dad is just trying to protect her. I remember when I was just coming into my teens and my body was still developing. I was getting breasts and grown men would pssst at me and make me feel uncomfortable in my own skin as an 11, 12 year old. It made me feel gross. I always felt safe on the street with my father cause then I knew those pervy men wouldn't dare. She's still a young teen developing, dad knows what people can be like and he doesn't want that for her, he was doing the right thing. Children often don't realize how what their parents do is for their own good.

[@ZeldasMask]

Gym culture is so different now I just work out at home. I’ve always worn a baggy top to the gym. So acting like a crop top is the ONLY thing is so wild.

[@Cindy-xg6yn]

I've never worn a crop top and leggings to a gym.

[@Cindy-xg6yn]

Or anywhere else in public.

[@fellwren9113]

Gym girl here, my high school didn't (still doesn't, actually) allow short shorts. It had to be three-inches from the knee unless you were doing sports. I ended up buying boys basketball shorts and, to this day, whenever I go to the gym I still wear a t-shirt and basketball shorts.

[@tedtalksrock]

1:56 a tshirt and leggings or bike shorts. I go to the gym to WORK out not HANG IT ALL OUT there. 😂

[@markpage5760]

OMG! To hear a woman acknowledge what I call “The Great Biological Impulse” is so refreshing! I totally agree with you!

[@katydaisey4599]

Her sister just said that's its ok for my sister to walk around and look thirsty.. SMH

[@XxSh4d0wxX]

My dad didn't even want me wearing nail polish until I was 16... Props to this dad, kids today get whatever they want.

[@starlovelndh]

nail polish isn't even bad tho

[@pinkminipuff]

​@@starlovelndh Here is my two cents on that. So take it or leave it lol. But my parents didn't want me going near any makeup or nail polish until 12. The argument is not that these things are bad. Heck when it was time for nail polish and makeup, my mom made it fun. It was like a coming of age thing. We had a whole party for it. Basically, it's a grown woman thing to do nail polish or makeup. Little girls, they should just be little girls. As much as we want to deny it. These things came about to attract attention or to make oneself appear "more attractive". Little girls don't need that kind of attention that those things bring on. That's the opinion of my parents had. Take it or leave it.

[@alaalfa8839]

It is actually not a bad thing to be attracted to women, because it's imprinted in your DNA by thousands of years of evolution of the human brain.... is very healthy for the brain, otherwise, humans would turn to robots or cyborgs or whatever nonsense.... as Sam Vaknin says if a man is in the presence of another woman, his body releases the hormones even if the woman is ugly or unattractive and even if he feels no attraction to her. So it means social interaction including attraction to the other gender is healthy for the brain and body, it creates creativity in your mind. but you have a choice to enjoy the presence of another gender, which causes you to release rightfully the hormones of pleasure, love, creativity...serotonin, oxytocin, etc but yet be very gentle, polite, and rational and show respect to another gender.

[@perennialgypsy6491]

Wasn’t allowed to do my makeup nor date till high school and you know what I’m glad they did that (yeah at the time I thought it was harsh) but I was a kid and kids are.. well ignorant in a sense and as a parent it’s your job to Guide/Raise your kiddos in the right direction, with self respect, self worth etc etcc and if someone doesn’t get that or they think that’s horrible then they’re a child themselves and they need more time to grow up.. there are creeps out there that love it when kiddos wear things they shouldn’t. People can deny it all they want but it’s not going to make those nasty creeps disappear… soo protect your family, kiddos and friends sheese it doesn’t make people horrible for that protection..

[@sladestevenson2080]

Shes correct about the pluck out your eye thing. What she left out- if eating meat offered to idols causes your brother to stumble dont eat meat offered to idols. Men should control their thoughts and women shouldnt carelessly and selfishly dress without consideration.

[@RavenousDrake]

I am a man. I go to the gym to work out. I go for the betterment of myself. HOWEVER. It is easier for me to ignore the girl in a t-shirt and sweats than the one in leggings so tight I can read the tag on her underwear.

[@josephpray7378]

That's why I don't go to the gym . yes I am a man . Happily married for over 20 years . Women need to have more respect for their selves , especially those that are young and going to the gym . If you want a good man that's no way to find him .

[@lincolnls0416]

I GIVE THIS FATHER THE FATHER OF THE YEAR AWARD FOR NOTICING HOW AND WHAT HIS DAUGHTER IS DOING.

[@GarretGarlinger]

That dad sounds like an awesome dad and spot on. lol

[@nickwilliams1065]

She was my girl trashing me on line then she would be looking for somewhere to live, who does she think she is to question her fathers clear concern for her younger sister. If a man wore those kind of leggings to the gym you'd be screaming from the roof top about it.

[@Mad9977]

her dad is right, only men understand that. Woman play the "i dress for myself" which is non-sense.

[@reynaldohernandez1968]

If something happens who gets the call

[@ParentinginStLouis]

Why is this even a problem? My husband tells our daughter she can’t go out like that too- it shows too much of her young body. I’ve always worked out in boy shorts and tee shirts- not sure why girls can’t these days, too.

[@haleyfrisby5609]

I'm sorry, is this the mother or the sister? Why does their father need to explain his reasoning for asking his daughter to change? When my father asked me to change my outfit because he thought it was inappropriate, I changed! without question. This is crazy!

[@marcus4489074]

I followed a female fitness influencer for years...for fitness advice, of course. LOL. But that influencer was relatively recently diagnosed with a chronic illness, which caused her body to decay. If you see the clothing she wore to the gym when her body was bangin' vs the clothing she wears to workout in when she's really just trying to rehab her body, the difference in night and day. It shows that she's not wearing painted on leggings or thong booty shorts for the functionality, but to show off her body. Though as an influencer her money comes from showing off her body, a baggy shirt and running shorts (you know, what men wear) are just as functional if not more functional at a cheaper price than all the hoochie mama wear these gym 304s be wearing.

[@Newnodrogbob]

I wish I could give more thumbs up to this. It’s so ridiculously obvious. They literally all know exactly what they are doing. The mass delusional behavior is fascinating.

[@matchaeylle]

chronic illness is the worst but actually reading this comment as an 18 year old who was diagnosed at 16 makes me kinda thankful in a way that I never had such an opportunity to dress for attention because I probably would have at 17 or even now if I hadn’t been so focused on bettering myself by working with and through my chronic illness which leaves me tired and slightly miserable constantly so there is no room for fashion or attention other than getting my body stronger and making good choices along those lines. sorry for lack of punctuation, I’m too tired for that, maybe I’ll edit later 😂.

[@marcus4489074]

@@matchaeylle I understood what you meant. That's all that matters. I hope you continue to work at it and recover or become the best version of yourself you can be, both physically and mentally. Most bad situations have some silver lining. Maybe not falling into the trap of getting used to or rooting your identity in objectifying yourself for attention is that lining in this case.

[@lovelyladyvalerie]

You make me want to come into the Influencer space so bad. You are so inspiring and confident (at least in your opinions from what I've seen). You are making waves!!!

[@thewatcher4552]

Tell you what it's my home, my rules, don't like it get your own, buy your own clothes ect....problem solved.

[@thebookworm5048]

I will say, as a woman myself who likes to dress modestly, it can be difficult to find clothes comfortable to work out in that are modest. I've always been able to find them, with some searching, but I'm also not very picky fashion-wise: I'm well aware that my knee length biker shorts are... unusual to go walking/jogging in

[@nicholask8657]

This seems like a made up problem. You can wear the same type of clothes men wear, with an added sports bra. There's nothing else different that indicates you need special clothing.

[@thebookworm5048]

@@nicholask8657 Yes, it is a made up problem... partly. There is nothing special necessary to make women's work out clothes, but if you go to any department store's women's active wear section, you'll see the options companies are making and selling are mostly inappropriate (in my opinion). You're right that we could go shop in the men's section and buy some basketball shorts - those would be perfectly functional and modest. But tbh, even with as little as I care about fashion, I wouldn't want to shop in the men's section (I mean, guys wouldn't shop in the women's section, even for a t-shirt, which should be gender-neutral). They used to make basketball shorts for girls - I owned a pair as a kid - but I don't think they do anymore. I was only pointing out that finding a pair of work out shorts that are made for women and aren't those awful booty shorts takes some searching (I had to go to a couple stores before I found my biker shorts)

[@marteumar8429]

@@thebookworm5048 You do realize the reason why stores sell whory gym clothes to women is because that’s what women buy, right? Look stores, especially the big fast fashion ones which is where most women buy from, don’t actually have political agenda, they may pretend that they do if something is very popular like new “fat women are beautiful” trope but really it’s just marketing, they couldn’t care less about fatties, if tomorrow somehow most women decided that encouraging obesity for women is “problematic” and “oppressive” the stores would change the tone in a blink of an eye. They’re big corporations, they go with the follow, they try to appeal to women’s agenda of the moment they don’t push their own political agenda on women, these corporations only agenda is money. Whatever people wanna buy, they sell.

[@chaelarkcreates7253]

UGH! I know! Like, I go to a frickin' store to buy some good workout attire and it's all nonsense! I don't want nobody seeing my buttcheeks, nor do I want something that hugs so tight that my underwear can be seen through it! Like, where are our nice loose modest basketballs shorts? Unisex is fine, but I'd love for something that takes feminine curves into account without emphasizing them!

[@donettaschroeder5895]

The guy is a "dad", his daughter is someone who is so precious to him and, growing up being a guy, he knows all too well how guys think. I think that it's so sweet that he cares about her that much.

[@aschweizeriv]

When I was single, I for sure tried to wear attention grabbing stuff in the gym and thought it was for my own sake. Now that I’m married, I show up in sweatshirts, joggers, big t’s and etc. my workouts are so much better now

[@Tsar.44]

Notice how it changed from Crop top and Leggings to crop top and "biker shorts"

[@hra2290]

Ain’t no body looking at the girl with a a loose tee and sweatpants on, everyone is looking at the girl with a crop top, and leggings that show everything muscle splayed when squatting, and then they want a gym bro to help them when they lift, insane

[@WilliamMurphy-d8s]

That woman could be a carpenter because she nails it every time

[@JDilla2285]

One of the reasons kids who become adults and get out of hand and try to live in a secular world is because of fathers not being in the household and becoming leaders of their families. And most women do dress for attention and he did as what a father should do

[@lillianpilto2377]

This was one reason for years I preferred to work out at home. When I went on my honeymoon my husband and I had access to a private gym. I am OCD about working out and decided to go. It was a one room gym but it was AMAZING! No one there for attention and everyone minding their own business. Joined Planet Fitness and have seen no issue at all. Here I am still avoiding drama. And gaining muscle! Also, you can wear sports pants and a shirt to the gym. Or old clothes you don’t care to dirty or sweat in.

[@Stubborn67]

It is the fathers duty to protect his children ESPECIALLY his daughters. Problem is daughters tend to forget that their fathers are men and know what men think! I am so sick and tired of girls putting the men in their lives down just because they do not agree with their views. Her father was doing the right thing and she and her sister are simply in the wrong. Women need to stay safe and her father was just trying to ensure his baby's safety from leering eyes of strangers. If I were her sister I would be happy that someone was looking out for me! It's so sad that these girls do not value or respect their father.

[@curly874]

As a 65 year-old man, I was at the gym working out on a treamill and was 10 minutes into a 45 minute program, when two 15 to 18 year old teenie boppers came in wearing booty shorts and athletic bras. They chose treadmills one row in front of me. They postions themselves inbetween my ballgame ceiling mounted TV and me. To the right I was watching a TV with a sports show for when the ballgame had a commercial. These two teens were about 10 minutes on the treadmills when one turned around and looked at me. Then she leaned over and whispered to the other teen. The second turned around and glared at me. Five miniutes later a teen turned around, glared at me and went to the front desk. A male desk clerk came over and stood on the treadmill next to me and asked what I was doing. I told him that I was working out, and asked what he was doing? He told me that the teens were creaped out about me staring at them. I told him to look at my timer and look at theirs, I had been here 10 minutes longer than them and they got between me and my ballgame. I asked him whether they enforced dress code or not. He said yes they did enforce their code. I asked him to evict them for dress code violation. He did so, and they glared at me as they left in a huff. I laughed at them very loudly as they left. I do not want to see your butt cheecks while I am working out. Save that outfit for the beach teenie bopper.

[@tcfolstrom599]

That sister needs to shut her mouth and let the father raise HIS family the way he sees fit !

[@live_free_or_die7260]

If she doesn't respect her father, she won't respect her future husband. No wonder why my 20 year old son doesn't want to date right now.

[@frosinicapandispan5534]

This camel toe leggings stuff is getting out of hand. I wear thst stuff at home. I'd wear sweat pants and a t shirt at the gym.

[@albertjames804]

I'm sure the girl in the video will quote the verse that says to pluck out the eyes, but there is another verse thar says, "woe to those FROM WHOM temptations come" I know she conveniently left that part out, lolll.

[@epicnamepwns1242]

What you choose to wear *IS* a form of communication. You're responsible for the message you send, and this is the only part you can control. Other people are responsible for their own actions and thoughts, but your influence on others, while limited, still remains your responsibility. And Big Sis really ought to read her bible for real this time, it has heaps to say about modesty and not leading others to sin. She needs to worry about the log in her own eye.

[@lisac.9393]

You're so level-headed, Amala Ekpunobi. Great commentary.

[@WhyAreTheyOverHere]

We don't need to see what you had for lunch yesterday, nor do we need to see the slide your children shoot out. It's the gym, a space men are FORCED to share with you. Get serious, or get out.

[@peterscheper7696]

Great ears! Lol it went from leggings to biker shorts real quick

[@randalfsteward707]

This woman says that Jesus says she can wear revealing clothes? She's using the Bible in a hypocritical way. She's a feminist. If her father replied to her Bible knowledge and asked her what she thinks of the command to be in submission to the man, would she be so Bible oriented? I think not.

[@Yuutus1]

W for Dad!!!!

[@navtektv]

As a man a man knows exactly what another man is capable of. As a dad, a dad never wants his daughters to find out what another man is capable of.

[@TomSawyersLeftNut]

Reminds me of a lyric I heard in a song once that really made me realize this: "Hide your daughters," the old men say, "we were young once before, you know how we get our way."

[@incorvaiac]

This!

[@justincase1919]

Good proverb.

[@nickfry7839]

woman are born with value, and they need to secure it. it would be like men walking around with all their money sticking out of their pockets and getting mad at people robbing them, all the while saying, i shouldnt have to hide my money, criminals should just leave my money alone.

[@bossmodl3thalpoppa484]

As a grandfather of children and 5 grandchildren and having girls,i understand exactly where this dad is coming from we know how men think and for 1 minute to think if u wear something tight/small and revealing that it isnt going to get you attention,we’re afraid it could be the “wrong” attention and the daughter here knows exactly wtf she is doing,lets be real.

[@justincase1919]

Seems like Dad screwed up with the older sister and is trying to make sure he doesn't make the same mistakes with the younger.

[@allenpoe17]

Yup. Her saying she likes to start stuff was a red flag.

[@WD-hd1vw]

The fact that she thought she was in a position to call and question her father like this shows that he fucked up with her

[@Faithfulsally]

​@@WD-hd1vw I wonder if the mom raised her...

[@boxtradums0073]

@Matt exactly !

[@darnellwilliams8783]

​@Matt seems like dad wants his youngest daughter for himself

[@finneganfly]

I am a happily married man (for over 40 years). I was in the grocery store the other day and there was a girl wearing a skin-tight outfit. If it had been skin-coloured, she could have easily been naked. How can you not look when someone’s standing in front of you dressed like that? I’m looking at the ceiling, the floor, left and right, and to be honest, I was extremely uncomfortable. But can I say, “Excuse me, but you’re making me uncomfortable.” ? Nope. But if I happen to glance at her, she can go off on me like I’m a predator. It’s nuts. Way too many double standards.

[@robbhays8077]

Honestly, I'm at the point where I'm going to start mentioning it to people. It does effect people around you and they need to be aware of that.

[@palmerquiver]

Women: it's wrong to objectify women! Also women: I can't wait to objectify myself.

[@andreascurls2931]

So true! 👏🏼

[@_Eisley]

I once saw a girl who was like, 12 with her mother that was wearing those special leggings that accentuates your ass and a bra looking top. I was so disturbed. It's like having a big red target on top of the girl for predators to creep on. I hate the argument that we are the problem because we're objectifying them. Do they think pedo's and creeps care about that? They're not going to just disappear because they're mad about it. It's called facing reality, and doing everything you can to protect yourself if possible . Sometimes it doesn't work, but it's better than not trying at all. We live in a bad world and there are bad people out there just waiting to creep on women and girls like this. And yes, women are abusing this power with men.

[@terriehiggins9489]

Yes, no respect for herself or children that have to be to exposed to that. Demonic spirit.

[@rockpaperscissors.]

"I'm living in reality. I'm so sorry." -Amala Thank goodness for people like you who are! 👏

[@rockpaperscissors.]

And don't ever be sorry about it! 😉

[@NT35000]

And she's even bold enough to THINK too? Imagine that. What a savage.

[@carlosfabricioalf]

Amala... In portuguese Ama-la means LOVE HER. She rocks.

[@Jay-xh6py]

She should be high fiving her dad for caring enough to say something

[@darnellwilliams8783]

Jay no her dad seems jealous and very off almost in a way he wants her for himself he seems toxic .she's a young woman he doesn't get to make her decisions

[@Ghalion666]

She should be high fiving her dad for...being there. Sad to see that despite his presense (and seemingly his common sense advice), they still want to behave like entitled garden tools.

[@yeahiknow850]

@@Ghalion666 dad acting like that is going to make her a 304 even more 😂 that's not him being there, that's him coddling and sheltering her like she's an idiot. Tell her the truth about being an adult female in this world, and stop acting like a her CO!

[@teg3851ct]

​@@darnellwilliams8783 if you're not trolling, please don't have kids

[@darnellwilliams8783]

@@teg3851ct that dad acted like a jealous boyfriend I have two sisters

[@oscarchavez2577]

A wise man once said, "It is easier for one to wear slippers to protect your feet, than to carpet the whole world to avoid getting your feet scratched".

[@idontevenknowli]

Very true

[@evaphillips2102]

Damn

[@autumnmabis6998]

Love this

[@etajhjohnson1735]

are you Said Wise man?

[@GeneralG1810]

Lefties these days be like "Nope I want the carpet the world option"

[@12blueroses6]

I was already done when she thought she could call her father to correct him on parenting his daughter. She is a sibling, not a co-parent. She can commiserate with her sister but that is as far as her authority goes.

[@katievallejo737]

I was surprised by that, too! If I ever thought to call my parents to correct their parenting style, I wouldn't even need to be told I'm out of line. In fact, it would be so out of line that I would just stop myself before dialing their number. 😂

[@CrimsonEclipse]

Daddy probably complaint about her all the time and just because she is an adult and lives outside she still feel entitled to demand how her parents parent even if it's not her job to do so.

[@kgar5String]

@@katievallejo737 That is the Fathers fault, they should already know what and why before now.

[@kgar5String]

Actually objectifying women benefits the men, we like objects.

[@finddom6393]

As a father it pains me to see fathers torn down for trying to protect their daughters.

[@heatherfredenburg7545]

YES! EXACTLY!

[@TheGuiltsOfUs]

A natural consequence of an atomized society.

[@stefanisilva2493]

Protect them from what exactly?

[@stefanisilva2493]

@@imyoursweetnothing So clothes are an armor to male violence? Then I wonder why countries that have women the most covered (islamic and India) are also the ones with the most rap& and violence against women 🤡

[@stefanisilva2493]

@preet Interesting... explain more.

[@Anukinihun]

The disrespect this woman has for her own father is sad, airing out their business like that. Huge red flag to any man that wants to date her. If she doesn't respect the man the fed her, took care of her, paid for her education. She damn sure won't respect you.

[@beautybysasha566]

Kinihun25 let mi tell u u couldn’t have said this better when I heard her open her on how she was speaking to her dad it’s sad di dad should have backhand her ass

[@SarahNicole420]

You hit the nail on the head for sure!! Her sense of entitlement is ridiculous. Ur su right, I wouldn't wanna be married to that.

[@xmanc5687]

unfortunately Social media has brought out the worst in people. It definitely encourages the narcissism in people and the fact that shes blasting family business to the world is bad sign for her as a potential mate.

[@cmpremlap]

🎯💯

[@BeSkeptical851]

I guess she forgot "Honor thy FATHER and thy mother" when talking about the bible.

[@Mikadiaries]

the fact that she doesn’t talk about her father with respect says a lot

[@tatianaa.3694]

Exatcly! she is trying to embarrased her dad

[@humanbeing4021]

Remember, we don't take care of our kids.

[@nadiaht5040]

A generation of vipers 🤨

[@paladin1726]

Same father that raised her, which goes to show that someone on the outside can look at this whole story and say, in reference to the oldest daughter: Not a good dad; too soft. And in reference to the youngest daughter: Great dad. Firm. Truth is, we don't know. Parenting isn't a perfect science and the kids we raise aren't robots, and not without influence other than our own parenting.

[@GoddessOfWhim2003]

i think there's a part in the Bible that talks about parents...

[@shiewatch]

These kids doesn't have a clue HOW BLESSED they are to have a father that care for their well-being.

[@ambermac77]

Ugh! Right? My father couldn’t care less.

[@DMSProduktions]

Don't.

[@crazynicesonya]

Really strange thing for parent to “take care” for well-being by telling their girls to hide themselves, but not by educating their boys that insulting, raping and bitting other people is a bad thing

[@IAmHoTSHoTzz]

@@crazynicesonya Criminals don't have fathers. Men/boys that do have fathers, aren't taught to go out and rape whomever they feel like. Make your lie more believable next time.

[@beabeeeee]

@@crazynicesonya how about doing both? Why left one out?

[@mericanpatriot4205]

A blind man was kicked out of a gym because a woman accused him of staring at her. Even presented a card showing he was blind and they still kicked him out. So, doing the blindfold thing won't stop gym girls from making accusations

[@linebrunelle1004]

only young, buffed, rich guys are allowed to look and only if they pay upfront without expecting a return on investment.

[@Fooly43812]

Idgaf. I stare at these bitches assess all I want and continue my workouts.

[@ruanculen2417]

I know that story at first she tried saying he wasn't blind until he presented the card. Yet she didn't stop there, she got him kicked out of the gym because his blindness made her feel uncomfortable. He can't even see you, yet you make the guy out to be a pervert when he's just staring into darkness but he makes you feel uncomfortable. Imagine how uncomfortable he had to be and yet he was the one who got in trouble not the woman. Is feminism now empowering women to verbally harass and attack men even men who cannot see.

[@MarekzAnglii]

She's lucky to have a dad like that... BOTH sisters should appreciate him.

[@evaphillips2102]

Yea they better listen.

[@Asteptillustration89]

Thank you! She acts oblivious but a man is always attracted a woman and for them to dress in revealing clothes only makes it worse. Yes the accountability relies on both parties. Men should have discipline not to lust but women should dress appropriately. This woman on tick tock or what ever platform sounds foolish

[@JROB447]

i'd agree but she's 18.

[@MarekzAnglii]

​@@JROB447 So you're saying that because she's 18, she is NOT lucky to have a dad who cares, and that BOTH sisters should not appreciate him??? Btw, most 18 and 20 year-olds are still dumb due to inexperience and many are even dumber than countless 15 year-olds. Her older arrogant, obnoxious and DUMB sister doing all the yapping just proved that fact!

[@CHARLESSBRONSON]

As a father i totally agree, but the sad truth , a lot of woman don't think that way these days anymore.

[@dfax_2108]

The fact that they’re killing this beautiful part of men which is the need to protect their family and loved ones, is so scary. Men are being shamed for being protective and it’s sad. I hope any man reading this to know that that part of you and being jealous of your wife wearing short clothes and wanting her to wear longer clothes is absolutely beautiful and lovely 💕

[@mallorycarpinski1160]

Yes! This! ❤

[@joesikkspac7904]

Real men are going to ignore all that bullshit. They will revel in the opposition they get as a chance to stomp on anyone trying to get between them and their family. My kids have always told people that their dad will fuck them up if they step wrong. My two oldest witnessed a guy exposing himself to another kid and the cops put him in protective custody, then came to me to tell me not to do anything to him before I knew anything that had happened. It should be that way with ALL fathers. People should be scared shitless to do anything to PROPER girls. Fathers are supposed to be OVERprotective of their baby girls to the point that they make the Punisher look like a pacifist. A LADY should be able to count on a GENTLEMAN to protect her regardless of relationship. Since the 1920s, there's been a steady decline in traditional values that evolved over thousands of years. Society is being torn asunder and it is ripe for evil to perpetrated on a grand scale again.

[@IlLAD3LPH1A215]

I’m sorry I’m trying to understand. Do you agree with the woman that men should allow their daughters girlfriend’s, wives, etc. to wear whatever they want and then when conflict arises from another man reacting to their attire, the other said man husband boyfriend father ect should proceed to act in accordance to stop said situation? or do you agree the husband should step up and say something to their spouse about attire that’s too, revealing?

[@littlelam3691]

@@IlLAD3LPH1A215 seems pretty clear they meant the man should speak up before an incident occurs

[@dfax_2108]

@@IlLAD3LPH1A215 your comment is complicated .. but what I mean is that we should take into consideration what our husbands want from us, if my husband wanted me to change my skirt and shirt for any reason that’s logical, I would. Simply because that’s his nature and he knows what other men are thinking. we should be more appreciative of their concerns.

[@mariedatsopoulos4142]

You are free to dress how you want but remember people have eyes and their own individual thoughts. I think most people forget that. I had a girl come to dance class wearing a top with a x on each nipple. She walks in complaining that the moment she step on the bus men were looking. I stopped her from talking and said if you saw a girl wearing that top would you look? She said yes, ohhh. It's a top that attracts attention. You can't blame people for double looking 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@ThatOneLadyOverHere]

I think it's funny that people are just acting as if they need to correct the world and not prepare themselves for the world as it is. Take responsibility for the consequences of your actions just like you expect everyone else to take responsibility for their actions. 🤦‍♀️

[@mariedatsopoulos4142]

@Olive it's a pole fitness brand. Only pole fitness people know the brand but yeah exactly what I thought too. Im about 15 years older than my dance students and I hear the things the say and I just say it how it is. These types of girls don't come to my studio anymore and I'm so thankful. They thrive on complaining about guys looking at them 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@nelotharen8599]

Don't take your wallet and phone out in a pickpocketing area. Don't wear basicly nothing and be drunk in a simmilar area. It's just about being streetwise. I've seen many people swallowed up by the streets.

[@chrissant6277]

@@nelotharen8599 It's an awful reality, it's safer to avoid it than trust.

[@samie7025]

The girl was not the one complaining that pol were looking. The dad was though.

[@MarcusMoji]

Speaking as a regular gym user and a man - I avoid all women completely and literally make sure I’m not near anyone. Not because I cannot control myself (happily married thanks) more because I can’t be arsed with all this. The sad thing is 90% of men in the gym are literally the same - we aren’t interested. We are there to workout not hook up.

[@wegotit2587]

Also got to be extra careful even more so now because even friendly gestures or greetings is an invitation for harassment allegations and made up victimhood (like opening the door for them).

[@Sam21998]

I love to hear that, as a happily married woman I'm scared to even go to the gym in leggings and a t shirt. I wouldn't want getting any attention when I'm happily married so I just hike and run on trails near my house alone.

[@potluck712]

@@Sam21998 girl!!! Do you know what happens to women who hike and go on trails alone?!?! It’s MUCH worse than unwanted glances at the gym….ALWAYS carry a gun on you if you’re gonna do that alone…

[@13zaphikel]

As a married woman I assume most men at the gym are just there to work out and it turns out... they are! And so am I!

[@angelic-shuruku]

@m0ji_9, Good on you, brother! That's a really wise way to do it. Again, good on you!

[@iainanderson6775]

It never fails to amaze me how much people shout and scream about rights, but never mention responsibility. It cuts both ways.

[@marcpena266]

The thing the daughter has to understand is that her Dad knows how other men think. Her father can’t hold other men accountable because they’re not HIS kids.

[@corderoemc148]

Exactly!! 💯

[@YouKnowMeDuh]

She probably doesn't even know the difference between men and women like a lot of feminists nowadays.

[@thinking7667]

Exactly. How can he hold other men accountable? Follow his daughters around all day keeping men in check? He's accountable as a father and is just being practical. He knows that if she dresses more modestly she might ward off at least some attention of a certain kind.

[@theaharper5528]

​@@isuzu8497I disagree, I think more focus should be on women. May I ask what the focus of education should be for men? Dont rape or assault women? That seems like common sense and the ones willing to go to that length, I doubt will want to be educated. Maybe teach men to not be a creep? But thats a slippery slope. An unattractive man talking to a women can be considered a creep. I dont think education will stop hormonal guys from not being attracted to what they see when that is natural. So how else can we educate men?

[@MeowingCat835]

Shit, i forget that fathers are actually men... I know it of course, but like... Fathers are different types of men. Otherwise it's weird and frowned upon in many societies

[@charlottew1245]

Whether you like it or not, how you dress is giving out a message.

[@Riyuuettedraws]

Especially you just going to the gym And you don’t anyone EVEN GLANCING AT YOU don’t wear a sports bra It’s like a normal bra but more sporty Whatever- just throw on an actual sport tank top that doesn’t reveal your damn cleavage

[@lindaseel9986]

Exactly. My mom used to say, " If you put out and advertisment, don't be surprised if it gets answered."

[@sonnydisposition7237]

They know and they would like it very much for a guy they find attractive to get the "message", just not any guys they consider ugly or needy.

[@samie7025]

This vid is reaching. That girl is not responsible for dum b women. It gets hot at the gym when you’re working out. Men also wear no shirt/ shorts. Work out and get out!!! Ppl need to stop looking at others! We’re born nekked. Why would I care what other ppl are wearing?? Humans are the weirdest crea tu res on the planet & I des pi se you all. I don’t go to the gym or in public a lot bc other humans are there. F *ck all of you… Ppl say they ha te being alone, I don’t cuz other humans are disg ustiiiiiing. Stop paying attention to what other ppl are doing!

[@mashaabrikosova7831]

Yes!

[@St4rTr3v1Ut10n]

Women: "Men will objectify us everywhere!" Dad: "Wear more clothes because men will objectify you everywhere" Also women: "Don't tell us what to wear!"

[@binge-reader]

gosh fr

[@amandascuderi9480]

👏🏻👏🏻

[@joannaholden943]

This!

[@n908qd7]

sadly, it's true

[@mermaidzoephiahart]

Men will objectify women no matter what they wear i know cause it happens to me all the time

[@richardhogans2756]

It's really simple. If you don't want the "average" man to look at you like a hoe, don't dress like one. That dad was doing his job and actually caring about his daughter and how others view her. Good job, brother!

[@Ash_NuggTato]

To me the wh- s deserve to be called what they are 🤷🏽

[@AlexRodriguez-ho2ws]

As a girl who goes to the gym all the time I’ll admit that in the past I definitely did dress for attention. I realized I didn’t even like that kind of attention so now I just wear sweatpants and shirts and I honestly feel so much better about myself

[@TheBaumcm]

Same. I go for me so if it’s a choice between prepping for an hour or throwing on something clean and HIITing it, I’m gonna go with the path of least resistance, especially on lower motivation days. I wear leggings, because I’m looking for form due to knee injuries, but with a longer shirt so I’m not worried about my butt. It’s also way easier to focus on my form when I’m not tugging at things.

[@buyi249]

I definitely feel more comfortable in oversized shirts and leggings at gym.. no other clothes feels that comfortable for me, more clothes i feel hot and less clothes i feel naked

[@keitherickson8404]

Alex, you'd be welcome at my very old school, hardcore gym where the female owner wouldn't let you in the door dressed like a hootchie

[@labaronnedecorbeauviolette5865]

Yes! The attention is fun, until the dark side of it starts to rear it's ugly face. It quickly goes from: you're cute, you're hot, how sexy. Then devolves into: give me your number, you stuck up b***h, I'll follow you to your car and harass you, you better give me your number or i'll damage your car/hurt you/threaten you.

[@poroounicorn6568]

I personally could never work out with sweatpants , but I do enjoy leggings and a tshirt to work out, at home to be honest, I would rather a sportive bra and shorts, simply because my body overheats quite a lot and I am sure that happens to many other women while working out and tbh it never crossed my mind having people attention, always dressed up according to my comfort

[@courtneyvanpatten6345]

Dressing scantily IS objectifying yourself. If you don’t want people to objectify you, you have to hold the same standard for yourself

[@leahjames6870]

Not necessarily. We’re talking about going to the gym, not the library or grocery store😌

[@layasaul28]

@@leahjames6870 Well said!

[@Tpd2015IK]

@@leahjames6870 can u tell since when it Change that a T-Shirt, a Sportsbra and joggers arent considerd as Sportscloths anymore? Why do ppl go to the Gym in their underwear?

[@rhodangambi1630]

@@leahjames6870 you are still going outside, put on a t-shirt, and remove it at the gym. that excuse doesn't hold, you are still objectifying yourself in that sense

[@sarahm-a2782]

Yes, the fact that dad had to say something at all means that of course other men will at least think the same..... and free speech and all means she's going to get feedback one way, wanted or not. Most of us were raised with awareness of our surroundings that bad people are out there and we can be victims even if the perps are the ones that are wrong, it will change our lives not theirs. The phrase "don't start none, won't be none" applies here.

[@tknows470]

I’m Gen X and remember seeing women with leotards and full hair and makeup at the gym - I always wore a big t-shirt bc I was there for a workout, not a hookup! That woman is a goofball. She is in love with her own voice and deliberate ignorance. Bravo, Amala!

[@Olorin-gc8zo]

I wanted to say the same! GenX here too and girls would come in with full peacock hairdo and strut around like a Jane Fonda video. It was hilarious...

[@jaifyre702]

I'm an older millennial and my father taught me well. I've got brothers who are boxers and I would NEVER disrespect myself or the gym they workout in by wearing such clothing knowing the type of men that are in that gym day in and day out. They be ready to kill men for looking my way and I dress appropriately. It's crazy that there's no respect for men these days.

[@mountainmama2101]

Gen X lady and sometimes we do dress for attention. I dress for my husbands attention. Otherwise often we are just competing to look as good or better than other ladies, and not so much for men. It depends on the woman. Some women are so gorgeous they could wear a potato sack and still be all that.

[@jaklumen]

@@mountainmama2101 I think that's the main thing some women are thinking about when they say "We're not doing it for you [men]." I grew up with three younger sisters, with a rather narcissistic mother leading the way. I did learn about how women compete with each other, and it can be downright ugly and nasty at times. Gen X, married to a Gen X woman 5 years my senior. We know the deal.

[@mountainmama2101]

@@jaklumen I am super thankful somebody gets where I am coming from. I am a fairly modest person. I have understood that men are visual, but I didn't understand how visual until I read "For Women Only" by Shanti Feldham. It is a book (mostly from the Christian perspective, but it makes sense from a secular perspective as well), about to the extent men are visual creatures. Hundreds of men participated in surveys and the results were pretty astonishing. I can honestly say I do dress mostly for mostly for competition with women, and I don't want to make anyone stumble, but a women could legitimately be in a flannel shirt, cowboy boots and jeans, with little to not much at all skin shown and could cause someone to stumble. You must be a strong man growing up with 3 ladies. I'm an only and sometimes "onlys" have to feel their way along, so to speak. I too married a younger Gen X man (by 9 months) and we've known each other since he was 12, and we'll be married 28 years this year. Best wishes to you and your beloved.

[@TheBlueExiles]

“I don’t dress for attention” biggest lie in any language

[@yagga8885]

It’s not. Just that you have main character syndrome and think everything is about you.

[@eugenedavis6792]

These days,,,IT's all about Me. me, me. This reminds of the Disco Song: it's Good to be the King - Mel Brooks.

[@TheLittleLambTalks]

I dress for me… I feel good about myself when I get dressed. Definitely, not getting dressed for anyone else…majority of the time I look like the bag lady 😂

[@TheBlueExiles]

You know what a person wear when he or she don’t want attention? Jeans and a tshirt. Or sweat pants and T-shirt if it’s the gym. Look at how girls go to the gym in Japan and then seriously tell me you don’t dress for attention. And that’s ok. Everyone wants to be noticed and acknowledged, valued even, just don’t go saying BS like that

[@PrincessBird]

@@TheBlueExiles Nah that's just crazy. Jeans are not comfortable. lol

[@Rebecca008]

Honestly, as a 15 year old girl, props to the dad.

[@gracieluke]

ikr as another 15 year old i know parents know better also to the gym id wear a tshirt and shorts because no one cares

[@ninjedi6710]

Their dad is a 15 year old girl?

[@gracieluke]

@@ninjedi6710 no im saying im a 15 year old girl (and so is Rebecca M)

[@Rebecca008]

@@ninjedi6710 No, I’m saying I’m a fifteen year old girl, and I respect the dad. Sorry if I worded that weird.

[@OG-CobraDemon]

​@@ninjedi6710 😂😂😂😂👌👌👌👌

[@RN-ti5oc]

That’s a loving father! We need more dads out there protecting children

[@YTcensorsEverything]

The father has a point…. “If she was going to an all female gym, she wouldn’t be dressing like that.” He’s spot on!

[@georgiawilksch5708]

Yep, currently in the female only section of my gym and all the woman are in tshirts

[@karissamacgregor7449]

Nah even then women would want to dress to one up the other girls there and feel like they are better looking.

[@georgiawilksch5708]

@@karissamacgregor7449 depends on the gym i guess. i see girls in the tight shirts and ass crack pants as well, the other night was just a very t-shirt and loose shorts kind of night apparently.

[@1996JaeBill]

Lol at an all female gym, that is the only time I'd feel comfortable wearing a tank top/sports bra/leggings/tight clothes.

[@jessicafranco3785]

@@1996JaeBill yeah same

[@Sisss777]

The fact that she felt like her father had to EXPLAIN why he told his own child not to do something is crazy, she doesn’t know her place and that’s the root of the problem in general

[@judithharley9236]

Dad was being a good dad- it had less to do with his daughter’s intentions and everything to do with the minds of many men. He didn’t want her to be objectified or harassed. Big W for Dad.

[@ayevee6619]

It probably had ALOT to do with his daughters intentions, "attention"

[@divyaa4459]

@@ayevee6619 lets not assume, it could have been for attention, or maybe she just wore a normal 'gym outfit' that was comfortable. And the dad most probably was just looking out for her safety cos he knows how some men are (and i know she should've just went and changed cos its not a big deal)

[@Grievance_Studies_Affair_2018]

@@divyaa4459 I wouldn't say tight clothes are particularly comfortable. A bit looser will always be more comfy.

[@Willie_Wahzoo]

His daughter is a sk@nk already. Can't save her. Modern whamin dress like trash. Treat 'em like they dress.

[@neoloanderson6676]

Yet he blamed her and did not explain to her about the minds of men, this has been going for eons, men will blame women and put all the restrictions on women, instead of addressing men about their actions!!

[@roravenclaw7797]

I was an athlete in high school and college. I wore a t-shirt and gym shorts. I was comfortable and safe. I was there to focus on improvement and gains. Your clothing makes a statement about yourself and what you are there to do. Suits and ties make a statement. Uniforms can make a statement of varying kinds. Whether you like it or not, your clothing will make a statement to other people.

[@TheOriginal_Unaleska]

Thank You! I hate it when people tell you "don't judge someone by what they are wearing". What you are wearing is a reflection of you, and who you are as a person. You know, your personality. Like you said "It's a statement". The clothes you wear is a statement on your personality. It tells me everything I need to know about you based on the clothes you choose to wear. A person who is happy and bubbly more often that not, won't be wearing black clothes because it doesn't gel with the bright personality, and would rather wear colourful clothes. There are exceptions to the rule (I am a bubbly person, but prefer skater/grunge clothes), but on a stereotypical level, you are what you wear.

[@victorcates9330]

To test the idea, consider someone walking down the street with skin tight pants and the word "JUICY" emblazoned on their butt. It has to be for other people or it's for themselves (which seems self-objectifying or autoerotic). The idea that your presentation is ONLY for yourself also seemed tested by tattoos. If they were for yourself, you'd get them in locations where you could see them (which might require in some cases upside-down text or mirror writing to be able to read it, right?). If people get tattoos that they can't see, that would seem proof that presentation includes conveying messages to others.

[@Mjoy696]

@@TheOriginal_Unaleska They also misinterprete the bible. The don't judge others in the bible means, to not deal out the punishment that only G-d can deal out. The act of saying something is wrong, is an endorsed form of judging, that is what the bible actually does say, to explain others their wrongdoings is a form of love, problem is, modern kids don't even know, that biblical "love" does not mean getting laid.

[@ammaranuar2544]

"What else do you wear at the gym?" Uh, sweat pants? A t shirt? Gym shorts too. You can wear anything to to the gym if you're not intentionally sexualizing yourself in public.

[@lizstoqnia]

As a 16 year old girl that goes to the gym quite frequently, i honestly can’t wrap my head around the fact that some girls go out to the gym with skin-tight clothes that literally show everything and then get mad when people stare. If I want to wear a crop top to the gym, I’m wearing sweats with it. If I want to wear biker shorts or leggings, I’m wearing a baggy t-shirt that covers my butt. It honestly isn’t that hard to grasp that you shouldn’t go out looking like you spray painted your body and then call it clothing.

[@TonyDovahkiin]

this. ☝🏻

[@J.F.331]

As a husband and father of two, you have my respect.

[@SarahMacDonald1991]

Well said, kid.

[@sylvershadow1247]

You are seriously a ray of hope in this messed up generation.

[@ElinorKroesbergen-v5m]

As a 16 year old girl that also goes to the gym , I agree , and also wear baggy t shirts to cover my tights

[@prettyrealist]

This lady has no idea how blessed she is to have a father like that. It’s a lot of us who wish they had that growing up.

[@ambermac77]

Agreed. I needed a father in my life. My dad wasn’t it. My stepdad wasn’t it. And my mom couldn’t be a dad to me. She was barely even a mother.

[@37angelg]

Spot on. ❤️🙏

[@AlhamdulillahiRabbalalameen]

Agreed!! I found my new faith in Islam and that’s given Guidance instead. Having to make up for this very guidance that the young girls seem so condescended by. If they only knew!! If they only knew the importance of keeping themselves chaste. It’s very disheartening that it seems so wrong for young girls to be encouraged by their fathers to have respect for themselves. I pray you’re well my love, if you’re Christian, your religion teaches the same, that women should cover their adornments because they’re worth more than just being out on display. In fact (of you don’t mind me saying, for the onlookers) it says in Corinthians, that the women should shave their hair if they don’t cover. Here’s what Islam says:

[@AlhamdulillahiRabbalalameen]

‎بِسْمِ ٱللّٰه Surah an Nur 30-31 (Glorious Qur’an) ˹O Prophet!˺ Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their chastity. That is purer for them. Surely Allah is All-Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their chastity, and not to reveal their adornments1 except what normally appears.2 Let them draw their veils over their chests, and not reveal their ˹hidden˺ adornments3 except to their husbands, their fathers, their fathers-in-law, their sons, their stepsons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons or sisters’ sons, their fellow women, those ˹bondwomen˺ in their possession, male attendants with no desire, or children who are still unaware of women’s nakedness. Let them not stomp their feet, drawing attention to their hidden adornments. Turn to Allah in repentance all together, O believers, so that you may be successful.

[@AlhamdulillahiRabbalalameen]

This is why Muslims women wear hijab, for protection and piety. As a reminder that we are slave to our Creator (the Most Merciful, the Most Compassionate) - not a so-called ‘liberal’ society that has women oppressed through consumerism and ever changing, unrealistic beauty standards. We have more to offer than being known for how we look I hope you hear what I’m trying to get across - if you’re going to be a slave to something, in my humble opinion and according to our beliefs in Islam, be a slave to God, not a society that doesn’t have our best interests at heart. Peace and blessing my love, may God guide and save us all. Ameen

[@rachelnorton9394]

Amen Amala! The Bible also says don't cause your Christian brothers and sisters to stumble.... we should care for ONE ANOTHER! Both parties accountable!

[@mikigirl18]

I went to a graduation just the other day, and seeing SO many girls with outfits with their boobs hanging out. It's a center of focus. That's the first thing that will be noticed. I'm a straight woman and it was still hard to ignore. It does feel like they want to be noticed.

[@TheOriginal_Unaleska]

For you as a straight woman to ignore, imagine a man who is attracted to females seeing that. It's not fair to them.

[@James-mz4tx]

Such a great point!

[@WeAreInYourWall]

@@TheOriginal_UnaleskaI know it’s not a good example because it’s not everyone’s experience but I was sexually abused by women when I was younger , being constantly subjected to random women in situations that shouldn’t at all be sexual is actually messed up, but not one female would ever consider that, was more of a problem when I was yoing as in too young and genuinely just found it alll disgusting

[@DaVozvi20]

They want guys to notice them but then they don't want catth them noticing. Like let me do all I can so all can see my boobs but I will complain as soon as someone looks at them.

[@WeAreInYourWall]

@@DaVozvi20 it’s like Ricky gervais said: at least old school flashers had the self awareness to run away after they knew they were the weirdos , these chicks think everyone else is for having eyes

[@sog7733]

Being a father nowadays is super challenging

[@yeahiknow850]

No it isn't. This is only a social media thing 🤣

[@moosehead1183]

Just don't let them on internet when they're not being monitored by you

[@saviorg9302]

It wouldn't be if americans start educating their kids like the 60s spaniard mom. With shoes and belts 😂

[@paulaandskz279]

Only if you have daughters

[@darthgamer2014]

Not that being a parent is generally an easy thing, but yeah in some ways being a parent today is extremely challenging with all these new problems and topics that your kid(s) are exposed to.

[@lcvender7127]

I remember being angry that my parents wouldn’t let me wear crop tops and bikinis when I was a kid, but looking back I’m so grateful for that. When I actually tried on those outfits, I noticed I felt more self conscious. It wasn’t about feeling pretty in the end-it was about conforming to social expectations of what dressing fashionably looked like.

[@Flow888100]

You are so right. I am so sick and tired of the fashion right now. It leaves nothing to the imagination. I am old fashion, I miss the days when men approach you and court you. They get to know you for your mind and not just your body. I am the same as you, my husband once bought me a sexy clingy mini dress and I remember feeling self conscious and uncomfortable, pulling the hem down all night as it was riding up. I did not enjoy the party and he realized the struggle I had all night. Never wore that dress again. I did not feel attractive just awkward and uncomfortable. Like it or not we as women should take responsibility with what we flaunt. Not all men have self control!

[@16BitSiren]

Yep, I hated wearing a bikini, but I did anyways because I didn't want to be the only girl wearing a one-piece and shorts. Now I just wanna get a "korean-style" bathing suit, because they're more modest, but still really cute.

[@crazynicesonya]

@@Flow888100 what about man walking shirtless in summers? Or you only judging women?)

[@Apebek]

@@crazynicesonya What about it? I don't think that is causing problems for men or women.

[@dell5270]

As someone who grew up with conservative Asian parents and in a conservative society, they were quite critical of me wearing anything too revealing from a young age. And when I was younger, I didn't understand why they didn't let me wear anything too revealing like crop tops/tanks/off-shoulders etc. At the time i thought it was a "violation of my freedom". Until one day I was walking in a shopping mall wearing tight shorts by accident as I was rushing to head out and it was so uncomfortable to see not just one but a handful of individuals stare at you up and down. I have never felt more out of place in my life and felt uncomfortable with the attention I was getting. And so from that day on, I just started to dress more modestly and it wasn't to please others. It's just so that I can have a peace of mind and avoid having to feel any discomfort whatsoever when I go out. I also realised that over time dressing modestly is beautiful too and there have been times when i do get complimented for wearing the clothes I wear which is nice ❤

[@suzycanfly]

I was going to text something similar. I wore these booty shorts. Because I thought I bet I will look good in them! And when I went to Walmart. The amount of men who HARDCORE STARED AT ME. Some of them would appear out of now where to get closer to me. It made me feel naked. After that experience I started to wear my skirts and dresses again. I wanted to be a "trendy girl" for once😅 but I couldn't stomach the attention. I also wear dresses I usually wear cottage core outfits. And carefully curated outfits. No more sexy escapades for me. I learned my lesson😅😂

[@paridoesupcycling]

I totally get you! literraly had the same period when i was a teenager and wanted to explore the fashion. In my early 20s I intentionally dressed 'too sexy' because I craved the attention. My dad (Asian strict pastor) was the same, but I would be hating it all the time he told me to change and keep those outfits in my bag and change them back later🤣 However, it's still sad and I think you shouldn't have been made uncomfortable or getting the disrespectful looks... I was lucky enough living in Bangkok no one made me feel like that... because there are the extremes everywhere😂

[@redzbass6254]

Class over Crass all day everyday

[@ashduwitt9899]

Yea unlike this woman in the video you ended up respecting your parents opinions even if you don't agree with them instead of blasting how "hateful and sexist" your parents are on the internet in the guise of political activism.

[@undignified2843]

Modern women are addicted to the attention you found to be uncomfortable. There is something wrong with the modern woman's mind.

[@cams3263]

“Women need to change the way men think” nooo but they should know that no matter what you teach men, there will be creeps, and there will be predators. Parents aren’t out there telling their sons to be predators.

[@boxtradums0073]

Also ‘predator’ has lost its meaning because of women being hyperbolic. Casting a glance is biological driver. You cant shame us for our nature and biological drivers when yours are celebrated.

[@Slim_Charles]

What they really should know is that they are not capable of changing the way men think, and that that’s a foolish and arrogant thought to even have 😂

[@boxtradums0073]

@@Slim_Charles exactly ! In today’s society we are being gaslit into thinking that everything is the result of socialisation and that biology is irrelevant. It’s madness.

[@6422022]

Ya still need to be mindful of how ya all dress. Ive seen high school student females some in pj's some with hooker hose and short shorts and a top that barely covers the boobs. If you dress like that you are more likely to be objectified and more than likely to get groped. Being responsible is on both parties. You know it reminds me of women saying I should be able to job or walk in a darkened park that was recently had a murdered girl dismembered and I should be able to be or go anywhere at night without feeling unsafe. These women are delusional and looking for trouble. Also, a daughter going on media to diss her dad is disrespectful so ...just saying.

[@moon66487]

You are so wrong, and live in a bubble. Open your eyes and stop following for "iT's ThE mEn FaUlT" stupid thought. We as women have the power to change the way men see us. If you are out there supporting this sensual dress, women, then you're part of the problem. You change the mind of a men by giving you self-respect and dressing properly. One thing is a creep man, and another whole different thing is dressing sensually and expecting men to look you as a conservative woman.

[@leslieparsons408]

I am old enough to remember the world of women . (72 years) Men were still opening doors for us and calling us Miss and Madame. I got in terrible trouble for being "scantily clad" on a bike ride with my girl friends. I wince thinking about it today. At 13 years old,I knew that I had disgraced my mother and my family. I would never do that again. Today, I see young girls wearing shorts that do not cover their asses, along with revealing tops and waaay too much make-up. I see these girls at the supermarket WITH THEIR MOTHERS!!! Do I look down on the girls? NO. I am disgusted with the mothers, because they are not doing their job. The father in your story was doing his job. I regret that his baby girl had to get to the ripe old age of 18 to be delivered that message. But, alas - she didn't listen.

[@renaissancewoman5373]

I look back on the old retouched videos from the early 1900s, everyone had grace, and self respect, and respect for others as well. What happened?! I can't imagine having the nerve to call and talk to your father that way! It's absolutely amazing to me, I would never have dreamed of doing such a thing to my father. This man is doing what he's supposed to, protecting his daughter. Where have the polite, nice people gone? Seems like most twenty something's are "me me me, I I I" and so out of touch with reality. I worry for my children.

[@leslieparsons408]

@@renaissancewoman5373 Take heart, Mama! Our society has gone crazy, because we are headed for a major change. iMany of us are striving for decency, justice, respect, fairness - all the human values that have been hacked up and ruined. Have faith in Humanity. WE WILL CHANGE AND SOON!!

[@TheSarahJane33]

@@renaissancewoman5373 maybe things are different now in 2023 because women and children aren’t regularly beaten for expressing themselves outside the confines of what men deem appropriate like they were in the 1900s 🙄

[@stevec9972]

I agree, we should bring back the old methods.

[@lester2588]

I was having this same conversation with my boyfriend recently. I told him that these women would NOT dress so provocatively if they were going to an all-female gym. I'm glad I'm not the only one who can see through their need for attention. It's just too obvious to ignore

[@mattjack3983]

You are 100% correct. My wife goes to a gym that has an entire section of the gym, with a separate entrance and everything, that is for women only. Sometimes she needs me to come pick her up, and i see the women coming and going from there. And almost all of them are wearing sweatpants and a T-shirt..or a T-shirt and leggings. There's the occasional tanktop here and there, and shorts and T-shirt, but for the most part, the vast majority of them are pretty covered up. It's very rare to see a scantily clad woman come walking out of there. And you are right..at the commercial gyms it's sooo fucking obvious when you see the women there who are dressed for attention. Hell, some of them even wear fucking makeup! And then have the nerve to say things like, "I don't like it when guys stare at me.." And, "I dress this way for me!" GTFO of here with that nonsense. It's all just gotten ridiculously absurd.

[@aghoover]

This is a good point. I’m curious if there are any KZbin videos showing the difference at a coed vs female gym.

[@pinkymoon2971]

I disagree. It is quite the opposite for me as example. I wear cute sexy outfit when I go to women classes or just to workout at home, and cover up more when I go to regular gym because I don't want male attention

[@aghoover]

@@pinkymoon2971 do you find that the other woman you see in your classes and in the coed gym do the same?

[@heyyomary]

I disagree. I go to both women only gyms and mixed ones, and I see the same attires in both.

[@SimplyKukua]

It's appalling. She's made it very obvious for the whole world to see that she doesn't respect her father and it's not like she's enlightened too. Her father was just trying to protect his daughter.

[@evaphillips2102]

It’s immature. She def needs to get g checked

[@Husky_mom4]

She doesn't respect herself. How could she respect her father?

[@royalacity]

My single father was ALWAYS on top of my appearance. As a now 30 year old woman, I could not be more grateful. He molded my mind to BE STRONG 💪🏾 and not need to show my body to feel like I count. I get complimented quite often due to the sheer CONTRAST between me and most women who dress to show-off.

[@crisl9079]

I’m a bit older than you but look in my 30s and also dress more tactfully…I have found besides compliments I also get RESPECT-people hold the door etc. I don’t know about you, but I think dressing the way I do is actually empowering and uplifting.

[@royalacity]

@Cris L I completely agree.

[@alexanderblake3569]

I hope my daughter gets this early. We just have more respect for respectable women. No brainer

[@iThiink]

I'm 24 and was raised on the ideology that the way you interact with others is important rather what you wear. You'll be shocked to know there are many women who wear slightly revealing clothes that also have beautiful personalities. In summer it gets hot; I'm going to wear a crop top and shorts. Because at the end of the day, my crop top doesnt define anything about me except I sweat alot

[@royalacity]

@@iThiink You reap what you sowe, my love. Summer or not.

[@bree_nicole]

As a young woman in my early twenties who still lives at home, I always try to dress modestly, and if I question the modesty of an outfit, I ask my dad. Is this too short? Too tight? Too revealing in some way? Our dads know how men think. My parents taught me early on the importance of modesty. Yes, men should control their thoughts. But as women, we shouldn’t make it any harder than it already is. Yes it is on them, but we also need to be careful I’m not causing our brothers to stumble.

[@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro]

And furthermore, not bringing the unwanted attention of the unsavory types on ourselves. What so many women fail to grasp is that the gross, creepy men they rail against will see a woman dressed the way they are, and think she’s on their level, therefore they’ll feel all too comfortable looking and even asking for what they already now expect. Like the saying goes: don’t advertise what you aren’t willing to sell. It really is that simple.

[@devaneyroldan5677]

I’m really shocked that woman would publicly blast her own father like that… the dad did nothing wrong. She’s clearly an ungrateful child. Lucky she has a dad that cares

[@orlandodizon4755]

That's unthinkable in Asian societies. She's also leading her younger sister astray. She's sacrificing her father and sister for content and clout. She seems very sure of herself.

[@dannybrazen]

I’m so sick of this argument. You see girls out on a Friday night practically naked and they moan when the “wrong” type of guy looks at them, yet they clearly dressed like that to get attention from the “right” type of guy (I mean, some are just out for a good time, but they tend not to be the naked ones). It’s a flawed ideal. If you want to make yourself look and feel beautiful, there’s plenty of ways other than walking around in a bra and hot pants

[@thedarkangel1975]

Well said. I say this all the time

[@desireelaurelli4579]

Yes, and they complain about catcalling.

[@sarahh.8579]

They need to be taught that if you want a decent man, you have to dress and behave like a decent woman.

[@WeAreInYourWall]

Got called a “victim blamer” for saying you’ll get more attention if you dress for it..

[@mariecurie7840]

The "right type" of guy is going to give her the attention she's asking for and then dump her for the "right type" of girl.

[@mayah5396]

My friends were HS track and field runners and sprinters. They did it all in T shirts and loose shorts. My sister, a softball player, sprinted across baseball fields in pants and jerseys. These girls are only fooling themselves.