Don’t Sexualize Yourself and Then Complain about Being Sexualized

[@dianac846]

What annoys me is that they film themselves for the whole world to see but get mad when someone is staring at them 🙄

[@MortalJupiter]

"I post it online for me, not for my 500k followers"

[@HechoenCasaMex]

Exactly! Came to comment this

[@Nanda_ares]

especially the booty pov

[@ayato1569]

and then they tell you "consent is the difference", girlie you ain't really consenting to anything by sexualising yourself to invite people's looks on you

[@ZenkiCoyote]

it's fine, sooner or later the world will be so full of these types of people who flaunt themselves that it will become undesirable (it may already be happening). The diamond in the rough so to speak will be those people that pride themselves in being humble, charming, funny and look beyond just beauty.

[@A.Girl.Has.No.Name.]

"Look at me, look at me, LOOK AT ME... How DARE you look at me!?!"

[@darnellwilliams8783]

A Girl Has No Name its definitely rydevto stare at someone wtf

[@michaeleastham3868]

That's actually a correct commentary on a vast majority of females.

[@oreally8605]

You win 🏆 comment of the day lol

[@pauloariente]

An actually accurate representation of what was reported by Amala 😅

[@gavhenrad]

Secretly (thank you for looking at me)

[@edwardbremer6322]

I've been a gym rat my whole life and I've noticed that the girls who dress that way spend more time" looking to see who is looking" than they do actually working out. Lol

[@UglyKidJoe71]

I'm yet to see one actually break a sweat

[@TK-gy5bb]

Man do that too. Walking around and beg for Attention.

[@edwardbremer6322]

@@TK-gy5bb true!

[@sashamburg]

@@TK-gy5bb but wont complain when we get it, see the difference?

[@soeinfachmatheundphysik200]

@@sashamburg Man actually dont need to feel insecure or afraid in a "starred at situation". You could fight off any girl thats starts to get creepy or doesnt ecxept a "no" for an answer, if it should happy. As a woman you cant, so the fear we feel is nothing to laugh about.

[@karlhendrikse]

It seems absolutely bizarre to me that gyms don't have rules against recording video. That would solve a large amount of this problem.

[@KimberleyBianca]

It’s free advertisement for the gym

[@iamamish]

I've read that a number of gyms are adopting a 'no camera' policy for this reason. It's also because of guys recording themselves flexing in the dressing room (believe it or not).

[@ragnakleinen2109]

In my last gym (in germany) they had the rule that you can only use youre videocamera, or take calls in the chill-area, witch is just a bunch of benches away from the training part. This might be a good solution.

[@iamamish]

@@uploads9950 In fairness it almost never happened in America either - this is something new, and I suspect still doesn't happen very often. I've never personally witnessed it.

[@123terricam]

Most do

[@brianmartinez5091]

I'm a straight single man who is in the gym 4-6 times a week and I intentionally avoid looking or even working out next to women at this point because of stuff like this. What sucks is now I've been told I come off as an asshole and aggressive just because I actively avoid interacting with people at the gym. It's like you can't win

[@livelarge2452]

You can’t win.

[@livelarge2452]

@NB not true.

[@NicolasConnault]

You don't understand! You have to interact with them without looking at them! That's how proper men do it!

[@bunnym5617]

Don’t bend to make them feel better if they are uncomfortable they need to dress modestly. Even as a straight woman if I see a train wreck like that I’m gonna look.

[@camthejock]

Keep honoring Christ

[@wordswiths]

I’m a straight woman who go to the gym regularly and even I can’t stop taking glances at the girls who wear clothes like these 😂

[@itssillysam26]

Fr tho, I never understand why anyone wears skinthight clothes when they're sweating! Like, that sounds like it'd feel so sweaty, and restrictive 😅

[@ShoroukA]

Fr😂😂😂

[@missyjo2475]

My husband says everyone is at least a TINY bit bisexual. Lol.

[@rochelledejesus2894]

I remember when wedgies were a fashion faux pas.

[@evettc7887]

Sometimes, yes, either to figure out how they plan to work out like that.

[@McLovin-.]

I’m so glad there’s women out there that understand how absurd this trend is.

[@zdravaumetnica]

I look as well but not cause I want something but rather honestly shocked at this new fashion where you look like you just sprayed your ass and went out butt naked lol

[@bow_wow_wow]

I don't think she does understand just how absurd it is. I'm not sure anyone does -- except me. I'm the only one who understands that these women don't just need to think about how their own behavior necessarily invites and encourages the exact attention they claim not to want -- frankly, whether these women learn _anything_ isn't _anyone's_ problem. They're your kids or mine. They're not our friends. They're assholes. They dress like assholes and then they turn around and complain like assholes. Amala says men who "sexualize" women are perverts who need to be taken to task. But these women are perverts, too: they can't stop showing their private parts in public! So the reason I say neither Amala nor anyone else gets it is because neither she nor anyone else is ridiculing, shaming, ostracizing, condemning -- all the social things we do to shut down unacceptable behavior -- these women for disrespecting everybody with their clothing only to turn around and act like _they_ are the victims (and worse, publicly humiliate innocent men, thinking of the recent example that surprisingly backfired on the girl).

[@treelinehugger]

Men can't fix this. Women calling out other women is how this eventually gets fixed.

[@solarfaerie]

@@treelinehugger yeah because then theyll also accuse men of trying to justify “creeps”

[@shittypoopkiller]

it's absolutely DISGUSTING, how victimizing themselves is becoming a trend, not only does it make the man look bad, it makes the man look like a creep or some shit. Then ontop of that they don't realize what DANGER their putting that person through when their victimizing themselves and making that person look bad. their not only putting their life on social media and ruining it, but their ALSO putting their life into the hands of hackers,doxxers,and other dangerous people. They don't ever think seriously on these types of things.

[@hannardee]

I think this is similar to having brightly colored hair. My natural hair is black. When I dyed my hair bright colors, I was so uncomfortable with the stares I got (in a conservative country so it is more unusual having bright hair). But eventually I realized that getting that kind of attention COMES WITH having colored hair in a sea of black hair. It simply stands out and people will likely look where the contrast is.

[@aceaj2620]

Yeah, like when anything looks different from it’s surrounding or from what is the usual, you notice it. They are not judging the person it’s just something that caught their eye, like you said the contrast

[@tobe1207]

There's a reason that neon orange and yellow is used for safety signs

[@jadexx1]

Ya true, I decided not to dye my hair purple after going blonde to dye it purple. I have social anxiety already and don't think I could handle the looks.

[@gelsey5783]

That’s such a good point! It’s the same with tattoos-I have a fairly large one on my arm, but after I got it I was surprised when random strangers would grab my arm to get a better look at it. By now I’m used to it, and it totally makes sense to me that people would see cool art and want to get a closer look-that’s just what’s going to happen to me if I wear a short sleeved top 🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s nbd

[@xkindredxsoulsxxx4195]

@@gelsey5783I mean the grabbing you part is. That's not okay. I think I would wind up punching someone if they did that. Well that's not true, I'm not physical at all, but I would absolutely scream and curse at them like a sailor. I would absolutely make an unintentional scene if strange people kept grabbing on me.

[@williammatthews5422]

Years ago, I went out with a group of people I knew. One girl, very attractive, in her twenties, was wearing a see-through shirt, her well filled out bra clearly revealed. She got lots of looks as we walked down the city streets. Later, while we were eating lunch, she complained about the attention she'd been getting. I argued with her that what could she expect when what she was wearing literally said, "look at me." She basically said she didn't mind when attractive men looked at her, but the unattractive or much older men shouldn't look. I pointed out the absurdity of her reasoning. My guess is a lot of these women in the gym think the same way.

[@bryonstevenson1084]

Bingo when it's a guy they have the hots for it's no harassment.

[@theblob156]

A similar incident happened with me, only, I literally didnt know my shirt was see-through from the back and we went to a park. When mom told me after we came back home, i was so traumatised that I couldn’t even sleep at night, or eat. I was 12 or 13. And to this day, i never went back to the park since, ever again, even if my mom insisted me, even though this happened about some 5 years ago.

[@govindsankarmr2716]

its almost all women.

[@Ligmaballin]

This is exactly the reason Hot man: easy potential date Ugly man: eww weirdo

[@danikadeanna444]

I’m 19 and a women, I go to the gym Monday through Friday . I wear a sweatshirt the whole time that covers my chest and butt. If it gets hot I take it off but that is rare. I’m there to work out I’m not there to get attention !

[@foximoxi8533]

It’s getting out of hand. I saw a video of an old man that looked lost at the gym and the woman filming him was accusing him of being a predator. As women, we need to hold each other accountable.

[@Dennis-nc3vw]

❤

[@cindy844]

I totally agree.

[@joanl.7543]

Some women simply don't realize they can victimize someone else. They're so into identity politics, they think they must always be the victim.

[@your_elf_friend]

You'll like Roma Army's youtube if you wanna hold women accountable like men. 💯

[@ayonalane1571]

Absolutely and it's reassuring to know that not all women are this toxic.

[@Gloromo]

A female friend of mine talked to me and my girlfriend about how there were always dudes in the gym looking at her and that making her uncomfortable. Of course me and my girlfriend totally understood that. Now what's crazy to me is that she also talks what cute guys she sees at the gym. How she sometimes looks at them for over 2 minutes inbetween sets. That completely baffled me. It was okay for her to thirst over guys and staring at them for minutes but when guys looked at her for more than a couple of seconds that was crossing a boundary..

[@100mmatte]

That’s the mindset of most people. It’s a huge double standard and it’s the same complaint over and over again.

[@matadorjesusfan6914]

That's screwed up

[@traceynelson2170]

I mean ,yeah ld go to the gym to look at hot guys working out (if l wasn't happily married of course) ,ld bring some popcorn and a chair lol lm sorry that's terrible, l sometimes get stuck watching a exercising male video (out of curiosity of course) while scrolling for mine.

[@greenflame8398]

It's only creepy for her if she isn't into the guy. So basically a guy has to be psychic before he talks to her about anything or risk a charge. These girls hopped on a trend and have no self awareness.

[@chryssesandchaos]

She just wants to low-key brag that she is attractive. 😉

[@JeffSok-g1d]

The big issue I see is that a lot of these women are filming other people without their consents and then posting the videos online.

[@hagendas2727]

Let's be real, if anyone was dressing SOLEY for themselves, we'd all be in pajamas and sweats every day Edit: apparently, some people need some education. Even you enjoying "dressing up".. why do we do it? Because we are taught to care about our outward appearances. Yes, that's important in many aspects of life. BUT, that doesn't change the fact that it is NOT soley for yourself. You enjoy looking good because you care what others think of you. So no, this is not an incorrect statement.

[@ajackson3864]

Exactly, not the sweats but definitely the pajamas. You have it framed it the best way, better than a scholar could or maybe you are a scholar but anyway great job. I am going to use this.

[@hagendas2727]

@@ajackson3864 hahah, only thing I've majored in is common sense

[@ajackson3864]

@@hagendas2727 I wish we all majored in common sense. I am going to use this line too. Please forgive me for using all your lines. Lol.

[@terrorindu]

I'd be wearing my shell beach wear but its socially unacceptable so i wear it alone

[@BabyKangaroo279]

Fr. I would wear my maternity pants everywhere (I’m not pregnant anymore and I’m definitely not close to the weight I was when I was). They’re so comfy. I only make myself look presentable in public.

[@HBR-q5z]

My Grandmother always said, "Don't advertise something you are not willing to sell." Wise advice.

[@maryr.1650]

Sell? These women seem willing to give it away, for free!

[@l19htn1n]

​@@maryr.1650nah, a lot of them have onlyfans

[@TH-il8mn]

My dad always said, "If you ask for trouble, don't cry when you get it". Wise man.

[@thedroidish]

😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅

[@Squirrel_22]

Grandma was a smart woman

[@tienthuy7376]

Acknowledging that we dress not only for ourself but for for others too does NOT take away your values by any means. I'm a woman and when i dress nicely, i love when others giving me attention or compliments, as long as they come from respectful intention. This stuff on tiktok is just oozing pick me girl vibes😂

[@ItsMeSarah123]

Exactly!! Summed it up perfectly

[@bobthebuilder-kh8wl]

ABSOLUTELY.

[@sweetsilence8088]

agreed, it's just when women wear provocative clothing and then get mad when people stare at you.

[@daha3074]

Of course. Once boundaries are crossed, action should be taken. That includes women ogling at men or other women, or men ogling at women or other men. It goes both ways.

[@LH_Vagrant]

That just means you're honest to yourself and to others, which is a breath of fresh air. Nobody ever dresses solely for themselves, no matter how much they wish to perceive it that way. It's plain impossible. What clothing makes us feel nice is determined by the associations we have with garments and those in turn are largely determined by how our environment (whether that's our physical social environment or the circles we move in online) views those garments. Our views are *always* heavily influenced by the reality we live in, so doing things for ourselves means doing them for others by proxy. We do not exist in a void and we cannot perceive ourselves in a void.

[@waynehighfield2094]

These women are seriously broken. They do this for attention only.

[@Long.stonkadog]

Everyone hates women like these

[@alenaadamkova5322]

She thinks she can not attract men with her intelligence so she dresses like "trendy" random person.

[@Elso310]

I don’t know if I would agree with the Attention only, part. I like viewing my body in every angle and can see how these outfits would be motivating when working out. However I often weigh risk : reward when making decisions. Some may be delusional instead of attention seekers. Food for thought

[@D33pTh1nker]

I think we need men only gyms. Give men a place to work out where they are not bombarded with attention seeking people looking for their gotcha moments.

[@beckyshields9569]

Can you imagine the outrage from the left that women are being excluded? Taking away their outrage? Insanity!

[@mobilusinmobili8321]

Then theyd cry because its sExIsT to have us separated.🤣

[@Krysb107]

@@mobilusinmobili8321 There are already female only gyms so 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@D33pTh1nker]

@@Krysb107 Exactly, why should women be the only ones who can choose to segregate themselves. Men go to the gym to work out, not to be targeted. If women believe men are the problem then men can choose to join a men only gym and remove themselves from the predatory practices of youtubers and tiktokers.

[@KFrost-fx7dt]

A woman existing in her body is not targeting you. But yes, you should have your own gym, since you can't even be asked to control yourselves.

[@BeeGirl316]

Anyone who’s ever been at a gym knows: we all people watch between sets. You need to stand there idly for a couple minutes to recover, while not fully leaving the equipment so people know you’re not done, and your eyes naturally scan the place while you’re waiting to get back to work. I can’t imagine how maddening it would be to have someone TAKE A VIDEO of me without my permission and calling ME a creep because we’re in the same room and I happened to LOOK at them between doing my own sets. It’s INSANE.

[@dudesayingthings]

Yessss that's so true. There are always two minutes between sets where you're just standing there looking silly. I work out at a male only gym, so i can appreciate other people working out without fear of being labelled. But if women start coming there, i know i will not be allowed to do the same.

[@samanthacarreiro6210]

I agree 💯. And obviously, whether a man or woman, if you see someone half naked, your eyes will stop for at least a few secs to look. We're all human. 👀

[@Nosh_Feratu]

absolutely this!! 👋 Also really important to mention that a lot of the people who work in gyms feel duty bound to keep an eye on people and watch out for bad form or posture thats gonna cause serious injury, or even damage the equipment. Even those who dont work at the gym do this, inbetween sets we often watch other peoples form around the floor and in the past i've walked over to a number of people, men and women and advised them to maybe try it another way to avoid injury. I dread to think what i'd be called by these disgusting opportunists, is there anything lower than trying to monetise manipulative, premeditated entrapment? vile!

[@teresarenee3829]

FACE THE WALL...!! LOL

[@adamumagpire7848]

@@Nosh_Feratu Perfect.

[@lisacurry8312]

You can dress any way you want, but you can’t control people’s reactions to it.

[@loopymomy2532]

Trueee

[@mesarena5408]

Exactly

[@veracityhunter7777]

Correct

[@kristinheatherstarone6905]

It’s disrespectful to dress in a distracting manor in a public space. But then to take umbrage that people look at u is ridiculous.

[@thatbiotch7596]

This is so true. I just look back and say "thank you." I love men fresh off the gym.

[@rzn2258]

Phones should only be allowed to make and answer calls. No recordings allowed. That should be EVERY gyms policy.

[@I_dont_know448]

Or listening to music maybe but yeah I agree

[@jillysponges]

I'm female, and I agree with you %100. It's pathetic, desperate, and motivated by attention seeking.

[@stellagyan6942]

Although I agree with this video to an extent, I don’t think you understand the implications of this ideology. Men use the excuse that women dress sexy for them to justify cat-calling, unwanted attention, sexual harassment and rape of women. However, there are women fully-clothed who still get raped or assaulted by men. As a woman myself, i dress sexy for a confidence boost or sometimes for attention. But unwanted attention is creepy. There’s nothing wrong with acknowledging a woman is sexy without making her uncomfortable or assaulting her. A woman shouldn’t feel obligated to take a guy’s number just because she’s dressed sexier; it’s ridiculous 😢.

[@クララマリア-y4f]

@@stellagyan6942 but she said in the video that she isnt talking about real cases of harrassiment or anything, but this tik tok trend, and probably that was what the person in the comment was refering to

[@irmar]

@@stellagyan6942 If we eliminated the people who dress provocatively, then the men wouldn't have any excuses. Of course a r*pist is a r*pist, there's no excuse for him. But this is the real world, we don't want to put temptation in front of them. They might turn their heads and choose some other victim. Same thing as your house. Having good locks, safety doors etc. won't stop an experienced professional thief, but will discourage most casual thieves who will prefer to start from the apartment which doesn't have those security measures in place, as it will be easier for them.

[@johnnysalazar5399]

@stellagyan6942 I've heard that story before, there's no excuse, if you are afraid of human contact, you can do your stretches in the safety and privacy of your own home

[@missmew3499]

@@johnnysalazar5399 yes, this. Or even in the room at the gym where the classes (yoga, got yoga, ect) happen. Women can't dress in a way that screams "Look at meeeee" then fet upset when they get looked at. It's ridiculous. They're wearing second skin, for gosh sakes. They need to get a grip.

[@erikaserika]

No woman who dresses "for themselves" will wear a full face of makeup to the gym, dress in skin-tight unbreathable spandex, and deliberately give themselves wedgies. I am cringing at the thought of doing that to myself.

[@Grumpasticmillennial]

or she can wear a full face of makeup to the gym but if she dresses only "for herself", why would she give a damn about other people's thoughts and glances or stares? If she, dressed only for herself, is afraid that others may look at her, why go to places where she's going to be surrounded by those others?

[@fairy12324]

Agreed 😂

[@dsoul1305]

In Kardashians' times I think I compreehend this type of thinking. This girls are exposed to this sexualization culture and just do the same because it's what everybody is doing. It is supposed to be normal because it's everywhere normalized. It's not in porn websites, it's in open social media, anyone can have access to it. I have met young girls that put on fake eyelashed to go to the market, they are taught to overdo themselves and wear tight flashy sexy clothes as "that is what women do". If Karsashians' and others were not so famous and this was not normalized, there wouldn't be so many chicks doing it.

[@alimaserrano9201]

yes thay can to look at themselve in a mirror beacsue that makes them confident or they like the look if they get confidance from physacal stuff let them be and also because they like the look or are confident like that dosent mean they are doing it out of insucuritie

[@alimaserrano9201]

@@Grumpasticmillennial its not the clothes that are the problem its peoples perverted mindset that sexulizes the clothes

[@TheKnellBelle]

"I dress for me!" "I should be able to wear what I want!" True, but you don't get to dictate how people perceive you, and that's the truth. Edit: Oh boy. Clearly, this is just a statement about how reality works: you can't control what others think. To those who are trying to use this as some straw man argument that I somehow support r*pe: reading more and huffing less will help preserve your few, dear, remaining brain cells.

[@shuggdiggs4861]

Truth makes them cringe

[@barbaramadalinski6767]

preach!

[@kalisto69jade]

This comment should be at the top and have more likes!!! Thank you!!!

[@lionessontherise2403]

Oh hunie, my daughters & I had this convo I had to take them to school. Because thats ridiculous

[@graysonrhoades6437]

One more time for the people in the back!

[@Gaunter_ODimm]

I find the attention seekers super cringe and it’s even worse when they pretend not to do it on purpose.

[@akilimunavu2114]

I am so happy there are other women out there like me who understand how ridiculous this is!

[@xdranzer0004]

The thing is that most if not ALL women understand it, they just blatantly deny it because either: A. They are too stupid to know what they want B. They are narcissistic people who like to be a victim yet a hero who denounces the horrible « misogyny » that they face at the same time. I’m more in favour of B being true most of the time. In the future if I ever have children, whether they be male or female, I’ll never allow them a smartphone before adulthood.

[@Jadiebabii]

Yessss I thought I was the only one who just doesn’t see the pleasure in oversexualizing myself

[@user_hehehe.]

And if a woman says anything they call her a pick me,glad they didn't do that to amala

[@annetterohla8932]

Women can avoid exposing themselves to men while exercising by joining a women's gym.Even if dressing modestly,some exercise postures are not modest.The Apostle Paul in the Bible says "bodily exercise profiteth little",and "if we are going to compliment each other, compliment each other for what is in our hearts,and not for our appearances".Jesus said to be of the Spirit,and not the flesh.

[@restart6358]

@@user_hehehe. yeah, like telling ur honest opinion and not lying to them is pick me nowadays

[@WaaDoku]

"Dressing for yourself" doesn't mean you are going to be invisible to other people if you go out in public. If you yourself think you look hot, sexy, "cute" in your outfit, chances are other people will think that, too.

[@joelynej9]

Yeah, but you don’t have to be a pervert he just stares at the person in the corner. Come up to the person complement them and then walk the fuck away and go do your work out you’re at the gym to work out and not check out girls and be a creep. She’s not in bra and panties, so leave it the fuck alone she’s wearing a crop top and athletic shorts. There’s a difference between being a creeper and then looking acknowledging somebody looks good, and then politely telling them if you are going to look, you don’t need to be staring.

[@mintoxace5571]

If you don’t walk around at home in a sexy dress all the time while watching tv and doing the dishes, you aren’t dressing like that for yourself when you go out.

[@joelynej9]

@@mintoxace5571 yeah, you do sometimes when you’re at home it’s because you’re having a lazy day and when you put forth the effort to go out it isn’t necessarily for other people just because you decide to get dressed up like sorry don’t flatter yourself

[@coffeecrimegal5968]

@@joelynej9 No No they do not. Women absolutely do not wear sexy dresses to clean their homes or do the dishes ect.. When women go out very much like our male counterparts we want to look good or damn good! Cute,Hot, Sexy, ect.. Of course we do it to feel good about ourselves too! When you look good you feel good and you’ll be happy & comfortable in your own skin! Nothing wrong with that but don’t get upset when people, guys look at you either! Especially just because you may not think they look good!

[@mr6688]

Attention for women is like crack, it's a basic female attribute, don't know why women lie about seeking attention, when it's in their nature.

[@v.dickson]

As a woman, these delusions annoy me. This sets the stage for good men to be even afraid of approaching women. These ladies need to get reality checks. Seriously. I agree with everything Amala said here. Period.

[@sigurlaugoddnybjornsdottir9905]

I think the only way to prevent this ridiculous choice of clothing in the gym is to have a strict dress code. These women have no self-awareness and in truth can be seen as pretatore. And both men and women should be able to do their workout without such a stimulus.

[@nigen]

"This sets the stage for good men to be even afraid of approaching women" that's actually be the case for... well a decade or more now. not sure if its worth risk or who can be trusted. meanwhile people with monitizable social media accounts will do anything for attention, and stuff this this going viral is incentive enough for copycats.

[@dannyedwards6292]

The gym used to be a sanctuary for most men. I vote with my wallet and now go to an old school type gym. Less likely to encounter one of these TikTok posting attention thirsty bimbos. There is the occasional 1 or 2, but a lot less. Just hoping it doesn't get so bad that I need a home gym.

[@Swttpea]

Agree,but to be honest. Men being afraid to approach women is not our problem.

[@squirrel3443]

Gyms need dress codes

[@SANTISAUN_]

It’s so refreshing that someone is actually telling it as it is…. Good job ! We need more of this

[@GraceNgouah-boh-o6h]

Right?! Like we definetly need more ppl like this!

[@subzer0443]

word, word word. im so happy its also coming from a women too so its not just men stating their opinion. i just found this video and the channel and idk if she has a podcast but if she does im listening to it 😂

[@lovecore1313]

I’m not ultra conservative by any means, but I completely agree. The worst is when women act like they don’t want attention but actually do. It’s all in the vibes. I stay away from bad vibes. It’s not cute.

[@anne-mariealalooga5397]

I have a feeling that they want attention just to call people perverts for giving them attention.

[@metamiragemystic5282]

I had a woman at work who I swear would walk next to me just so she could ignore me. I tried to say hi and be nice the first few times, but then quickly gave up, but she kept at it. She would even pace me as I was walking down the hall and I would just stop in my tracks to avoid being next to her and one time she turned to look at me when I did this but I avoided eye contact. I think I acted like I needed to adjust my collar and primp my hair or something. It was all rather childish. Toxic femininity.

[@gregoryellsmore2095]

Sorry, but this comment will automatically make you "ultraconservative" in the woke world.

[@Revenant2010]

Or OP will be called a “Pick Me”

[@quix66hiya22]

Women.

[@personthe-person7653]

If you stick out aesthetically, people are going to look at you. That's normal. There's a huge difference between people glancing at you and people being creepy, staring lewdly, touching you or following you around. The creepy ones will usually act creepy no matter what you're wearing.

[@brmbkl]

" There's a huge difference between people glancing at you and people being creepy, staring lewdly, touching you or following you around. The creepy ones will usually act creepy no matter what you're wearing." this

[@zarinfatehi1896]

YESSSS

[@NaomiMJS]

Agree!

[@rebeccahicks2392]

@Nomoskar Ramin No. There is such a thing as genuine creepiness, and it has nothing to do with how a guy looks. And the guys in these videos (who were not being creepy and not even staring but who these women were falsely claiming were creepy) were mostly not ugly. Not a lot of ugly people at a gym.

[@littlewillow2274]

@@rebeccahicks2392 A lot of women only consider it "creepy" if the guy is unattractive.

[@alexiszuer1380]

10yrs being a female personal trainer here 👋🏽 You said it right, you have a role in the kind of attention you attract. I agree there are perverted men but most of these women are seeking attention. If you're really looking to work up a sweat you're too busy to notice any people around you who will glance over from time to time to either figure out what you're doing or if you're done with your equipment yet. These women are shameful, they a mock real assault survivors... it makes me think that Gyms should be separated by sex. People are at the gym trying to get healthy stop trying to ruin the experience for everybody by Making it your stage.

[@imonit4272]

VERY well stated. 🎯🎯🎯 Underrated comment.

[@mastersnet18]

That’s how it was traditionally. Separate gyms for men and women. Maybe we should go back to offering that. I’ve been a member of a women’s only gym and I loved it.

[@pearlh1051]

No better comment was made 🎉

[@AthenaBaldwin-mf9hq]

Funny enough, that is one of the things I loved about being in the Middle East. I absolutely loved that everything was segregated from the men. Especially the city I lived in women had everything the men had but ours was private! Private beaches, pools, even taxis, but there were family options too. It honestly made me feel safer.

[@dendrien]

seperated by sex in current era is a bad buisness practise. since the majority of the costumers are mostly men. for men in general it wont have much effect. since the overall costumer are often between 60-70% male. it can also be framed as sexism if you have only male gyms which is bad PR. the easiest and better solution are wears rules. that was more common in the mid 90s to early 20s. was a time were skimpy outfits wasnt allowed in the gyms for this exact reason.

[@malakai651]

Absolutely correct, also as a Male gym user I would add that it is almost impossible not to look at them as gyms have full sized wall mirrors so even if you look the other way you still end up seeing them.

[@veronical3135]

Off with the mirrors lol.

[@stephanievvv]

Sooo they’re totally fine with millions of strangers online looking at the goods but then *one* person in real life looks and they get all pissy.. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@mohamadalief5308]

facts

[@pogmothoin00001]

don't forget it's that person that they don't fancy that makes them pissy 😂

[@Chuppe_g]

Honestly 😓😂😂😂

[@jefftheref72]

It's not that they're upset that they're being sexualized at the gym for wearing revealing outfits, they're upset that they're being sexualized by men that they're not attracted to or who they think are below their standards. Attractive men for the most part have free rein to stare at whoever they want.

[@Thurgosh_OG]

Ah yes, the 1% can do what they want because 'standards' don't apply to them.

[@redbaron07]

So do other women (have free rein to look). It must be a field day for lesbians. I've seen one (short-cropped hair, masculine stance) who wears mirror sunglasses while "coaching" girls' beach volleyball. She's in hog heaven!

[@redbaron07]

They're also upset that looking is free, not $4.99/month like they want their simp followers to pay.

[@Clonez-sr7to]

80% of women are fucking 20% of men. Nuff said.

[@BrotherSolomon]

Exactly! These women are absolute hypocrites.

[@antaresseratna2381]

As a woman myself, it’s nice to see another woman who sees what I’ve always been thinking !! 😂

[@purpleflowers8723]

Same

[@aida7212]

🫶🏻🤭

[@McFanick]

There's more of you but the minority of the crazy ones are the most vocal unfortunately.

[@valeriekennedy3140]

These same women will complain if men don’t look at them .They need to have dress codes at gyms and a no videoing policy

[@MarekzAnglii]

I read a comment on this subject under another video by a woman who said... she's been to three different 'women-only' Gyms and didn't see a single female wearing 'revealing' tight clothing. All were wearing baggy/loose comfortable gear! I think that says everything we need to know.

[@misfitm1457]

Yet the ones i've been to almost all wore leggings as normal. Women don't dress for men or give a shit about men in the gym, we like stuff that looks good or matches and that we feel ok in

[@MarekzAnglii]

​@@misfitm1457 _"we like stuff that looks good or matches"_ ... Err, Gyms are not fashion shows. They're places where you know you're going to SWEAT a lot (including in all the wrong places), and you also KNOW you're going to be in compromising positions. Regarding _"that we feel ok in"_ well, maybe you enjoy having 'matter' constantly stuffed up your cracks whilst exerting yourself in front of strange men, but most women don't... unless of course you're into that kind of thing 😂 As for _"Women don't dress for men or give a shit about men in the gym"_ ... Really? Then why do so many women feel the need to talk and comment about them incessantly??? Oh, btw... your profile name seems absolutely perfect!... Definition of misfit: _a person who is not suited or is unable to adjust to the circumstances of his or her particular situation_ 👍

[@lavieestbelle6955]

So accurate. I‘ve been to many women-only gyms and women there are so lovely and there is no competition between the ladies because of the male gaze. But this year I started broke so i gotta go to a mixed gym:/ I cringe every time i see these girls seeking for attention

[@MakeaMarie]

That must be her female gym because at mine they still dress like in the videos because it about comfort. I'm not talking about the girls who put their leggings in between their ass but I hardly ever see them wearing baggy clothes at my all female gym because to me baggy clothes at the gym is more annoying when it comes to absorbing your sweat.

[@lavieestbelle6955]

@@misfitm1457 don’t lie to yourself. Your heart pumps up with joy by men starring lustfully at your butt/boobs.. i‘m a woman, i know what i‘m talking about and even tho i’d like the attention i‘d get - i choose to dress modest. I ain‘t gonna sexualize myself periodt.

[@darkhighwayman1757]

My Dad always told me, "Dress how you want but don't be shocked when people treat you based on the way you dress."

[@IceQueen975]

This. Yes, you are free to dress how you want... but don't be confused when you're treated like how you're dressed.

[@sergiovela9961]

So your dad basically told you that sexual harassment is ok.

[@Dennis-nc3vw]

I can't describe the rage I feel when I hear women cry about being "sexualized" for how they dress. When I guy went to 7/11 in a speedo, it became a viral video "3am at 7/11", yet working as a delivery drive last summer, I found myself behind women in line at 7/11 on two different occasions. The average woman would not last a day in our shoes.

[@sergiovela9961]

@@Dennis-nc3vw: Men being sexualized by women is funny. It isn’t scary for us. We don’t have to fear that the woman who sexualized us will follow us, corner us, overpower us, and assault us. Women, on the other hand, DO NOT have that luxury. So it’s different, bunky, and you know it. Also, I have responded to you several times on other videos regarding the fact that men jog outside shirtless with ZERO repercussions or harassment, while women would NEVER be allowed to do this. But you have conveniently chosen to ignore that. Your comments are trite and pointless.

[@mommadee1]

Smart dad.

[@Asia-wj3ph]

I totally agree, a man glancing or looking at us is not sexual harassment. Now if they’re making comments about your body in a sexual way or being just obviously creepy, of course that’s harassment. But when a gal has a perky butt and is wearing tight leggings, it’s even hard for me not to glance because it’s just THERE. And for women who have actually experienced sex abuse and harassment, this stuff is a joke 🙄 Like there are so many better ways to get your need for significance fulfilled

[@Star-du6yz]

Simple then don't dress this way because there are alot of men that will talk about that ass

[@miabulimanova4637]

The fact that no one knows the difference between leering and looking it's just NUTS. This whole trend makes of real harrassment a joke.

[@rodiusmaximus]

The problem is the distortion of what is considered 'just obviously creepy'. A short, ugly, autistic man is automatically 'creepy' no matter what he does, and for you to say that that man existing is equal to harassment is straight up nuts. Other than that, your comment is perfect.

[@ecwrocks4626]

And let's not forget ma'am: sexual harassment is ONLY based on how attractive the guy is.

[@violetwade6528]

@@ecwrocks4626 I agree, the idea that only ugly guys can be creepy is crooked. Don't let spotlit individuals on the internet make you believe that all women think this way. Not all of us do, and hopefully it will be more obvious when we all get off this giant hill of division to find common ground.

[@arturonegretearte]

playing victim is the worse type of violence because you manipulate others to be violent for you

[@ajh.4131]

I grew up in a family that taught me how certain outfits will attract certain attention. That is all.

[@dansweet6793]

Yes, facts.

[@cynv7]

Same, I didn’t like it then but I appreciate it now❤ And the reason I say that is bc I would see my younger cousins showing so much skin and I couldn’t show really anything. it made me feel hidden in a weird way. I’m very happy now that I was. Young girls really out here wearing full on clubbing outfits during the day…

[@Freedomlives33]

I grew up in that same family and my daughter's are growing up the same as well. The good thing is......they also have eachother to bounce off of when shopping for clothes.

[@AM-qz6cm]

Nooooo you can't say that! Women are allowed to do anything and if they're put in a bad spot it's everyone else's fault! lmao

[@RambleEnglish1231]

Same

[@rustinstardust2094]

Thank you for giving that initial disclaimer. I used to get harassed by men at the gym in my younger days - wearing sweats and an oversized t shirt - trying to be as quiet and unnoticeable as possible. These influencers are *trying* to get noticed to invoke harassment for views...but are only getting mild attention and calling it harassment. It's disrespectful of the actual issue of real harassment.

[@draco4540]

i used to know a lady who was a bodybuilder. i didn't know her from a gym. she would wear baggy types clothes, but you still could tell that she had a really nice physique. i'm gay. so when a gay guy notices, a womans body, she's doing something right. she was a good looking woman. i always liked the fact that she was confident, but never tried to "showy."

[@basilhenry-eyo6522]

Yes we know , we are talking about the women who wear skinny pants that show off their curves like how can you do this and expect not to be stares at????

[@leahmadalyn]

I work out with a gun. I have no worries. 2nd amendment 😂

[@matthewbrown8679]

"Its disrespectful of the actual issue of real harassment." Brilliantly said. Your whole post is a masterpiece.

[@basilhenry-eyo6522]

@@matthewbrown8679 true

[@maseylin]

I appreciate this woman. We need more women like her: common sense.

[@sinistra7450]

Nah, she is just a pmab

[@howlingbreeze7078]

common sense isnt so common anymore

[@JA-xv3qp]

We're out here. Just not loud and flashy🎉

[@lublub553]

The funny thing is, they are posting these types of videos for men but if a man in front of them gives them the attention they are seeking they cry harassment. Plus most of theses videos the men don’t even harass them they just glance at them or offer to help.

[@TheArcticMermaid]

Let's not pretend people who dress like this are not doing it for attention. They are aware of how it makes them look, and it makes them feel good to have people look at them.

[@Dobie-Man]

EXACTLY

[@MJ58376]

The fact that it’s okay for them to video themselves dressed like that in a gym to post to the WHOLE INTERNET but get “offended” when someone near them during filming looks in their direction or at them for a second

[@katchatbto]

Yes

[@SweetColo]

Isn’t that the Same thing!!!

[@emmamarkel8410]

Not everyone does it for attention. Some wear it for comfort. You get hot working out. Those tight looking yoga pants are actually comfortable. Sorry some of us get hot at the gym, or are a little more motivated to work out by wearing cute workout clothes. (That's to make ourselves feel cute and give ourselves a little more incentive to work out, not for some creep to stare at us)

[@gamingterrain3703]

Lets be real. People dress up because they want to look good in the eyes of other people. It's the exact reason why we all dress differently when we're out in public vs when we're at home. If there was nobody around to look at you then you wouldn't care at all about how you look because it wouldn't matter. The feeling of knowing you look good to other people is what makes you feel good. That's what this whole "doing it for myself" shit is all about. Its still about the attention you receive from others

[@Mucknuggle]

this! and thats the reason the "worn for myself" pushup bra flies into the corner the moment the apartment door shuts behind a girl... and the see through skinny clothes are changed for oversized (ex-boyfriends) sweatpants and hoody...

[@brandonlamb9067]

Simple truth

[@theglitchcounter264]

“I only want attention from the people I choose”

[@robertfox374]

@@theglitchcounter264 BINGO! That is exactly it. They dress to have a certain type/age person look at them. If they are not in that category they are considered a pervert. Just like the pants that have words on them, do they not think that people will be reading what it says, thus looking at their @ss.

[@d3adyoutubeaccount]

Good take and it applies to certain people BUT I disagree, well atleast from my point of view. As a man, I`ve worn some clothes to obviously flex on other people but the main reason I wear most of my clothes is because they feel comfortable and I like how it looks. I`m obviously not wearing a suit at home and not my revealing clothes outside.

[@saulluas1866]

I will not give her any credit for apologizing… she only did it because of all the backlash she received on social media.

[@Powerdawa]

MY BROTHER!!!!

[@XxReptilesGalorexX]

Exactly the attitude needed, if we let people believe all they need to do is go "whoops sorry" and all is forgiven, then we're giving them a pass to keep doing it

[@philmckenna5709]

She deserves ALL the shit that comes her way. And more.

[@metalhead9315]

Yup..."saving her brand."

[@tidefanyankee2428]

Yep, and apology you have to ask for, or an apology you tell someone they owe someone isn't worth listening to. They are simply parroting and little else. They aren't owning their actions/words.

[@maryam_is_here]

A year ago, I saw on Tik Tok and KZbin that people were upset with a girl and her words, and they blamed her. I found the videos of that girl and her KZbin channel, and it was you. At first, I didn't want to accept your words at all, but over time, you gave me many lessons and I thank you for the lessons you gave me, Amala.❤

[@lillianpilto2377]

People will look if they find you attractive. You make yourself attractive to be desired by someone you also desire. You will get looked at by others outside that profile. Live with it. Bet you look at men you find attractive pumping at the gym and hope he comes on over and notices you. Now, if some guy comes up to you and starts invading your personal space, saying inappropriate things, and trying to touch you...That's genuine sexualization and harassment. Same for women. Its inappropriate. Edit: On my honeymoon and the place we’re staying as a gym available so of course I went because I NEED to get my workout in. No one bothered me, at all! No one approached other women either and we were all just working out. The gym is NOT for attention, so don’t go seeking it out.

[@pyrokatarina]

Double standard at its finest

[@Dennis-nc3vw]

@@pyrokatarina When men dress the way women dress on a regular summer day (navel shirts, booty shorts) we are literally assumed to be gay prostitutes.

[@magnuspitruzelli]

Exactly!!!!! Expose the double standard!

[@alizaa6544]

@@Dennis-nc3vw Exactly, the excuse women have for being half naked at the beach is “it’s a beach, what do you expect me to wear?” You don’t see men wearing super small underwear that shows their ass cheeks 😐

[@Nyet-Zdyes]

When you go out in public... you do NOT have a right to not be seen.

[@laurengailey2596]

I personally as a woman cannot stand how little of clothing other women I see at the gym wearing. Literally saw a woman wearing a pair of Victoria secret boyshort underwear. I know this because I have the exact same pair. I was appalled. Never in my life would've thought this was any kind of appropriate. If you wanna workout in just your underwear...do it at home. Because best believe everyone is going to be gawking at you wearing barley anything...both men and women because you're literally asking for it.

[@TheBaumcm]

Same. I don’t want to see that noise. It’s distracting. I go with hair put up but still a little wild, maybe makeup from the day, clothes may or may not match but I dress for the activity I’m doing so I can focus on my form and getting the most of my time. If I’m getting stared at, it’s because I go hard. I want to say to them,” I’m here to get stronger and healthier. What are your goals?”

[@lindanico1]

Yes actually i can not understand why they don’t make clothing policies but also here We saw professionalls like runners who look like p🤡rn stars while running so yeah BUT PLEASE PEOPLE START SOMEWHERE because this is getting 🤢🤮

[@emmalindner9366]

Yeah there comfortable. What do you where to the gym. I wear leggings like every other woman. Not all of us want to where basketball shorts and an oversized shirt. Some of us want to look cute but also do pant want to get harassed

[@keitherickson8404]

AMEN

[@sergiovela9961]

@@TheBaumcm So a woman wearing revealing clothing cannot have the same goals as you? Getting stronger and healthier requires you to wear a potato sack to the gym and look like a slob in general?

[@byJessCh]

As a woman I've never wore such revealing clothing in the gym. I can't imagine myself working out and having my leggings so tight up to my crotch and cheeks that the person behind me can see everything. This attire exists only for the specific presentation, it's not for exercising.

[@sykotika13thirteen]

I am the same way as a man I always think put some clothes on I don’t need to see what you had for breakfast

[@joshuascott3428]

@@sykotika13thirteen you are aware men are just as immodest in the gym right

[@victoriav9240]

So how often do you stare at people's private parts

[@amihere383]

Years long gym goer here, been to 8 in my city at least once weekly. No, they really don’t. And if they do, they certainly don’t go around accusing people of sexual harassment for getting looked at.

[@extremeresponsibility]

That's right! Women do the same thing in the workplace.

[@harikrishnanchandramohan4209]

Finally, a real honest woman.

[@Ladyhallowpoint]

As I woman, I can tell you without a doubt that these women KNOW that dressing like that will get them attention. That's why they do it. Being a victim is all the rage now a days, so they set themselves up to be a victim for views, likes, and sympathetic outrage. Like so much of the modern world we live in, it's disgusting, dishonest, and selfish.

[@FocusedFighter777]

Yes, because they're making a mockery of real victims. I hate people like this. Some pretend they have cancer etc for months just to get the attention. F those guys, let's see them get sick for real.

[@jusibalkari]

you are saying they are wearing it for attention? I agree they shouldnt complain about it, but why cant women wear it only for having more confidence or because they feel better and comfortable doing gym with it?

[@jusibalkari]

@@FocusedFighter777 you are saying they are wearing it for attention? I agree they shouldnt complain about it, but why cant women wear it only for having more confidence or because they feel better and comfortable doing gym with it?

[@crissd8283]

It really doesnt matter what a person wears. My eyes look at hundreds of different things in a minute. It is human nature to observe the world around you. I look at both genders at the gym because it is human nature to observe the people around you. If you took a video of me and looked through every freeze frame, you could find me looking at every single person. Now pause that frame when I happen to be looking at a guy without a shirt and leave it paused for three seconds. Add music that makes it sound like I'm a pervert and text saying I'm a pervert and I will look like a pervert.

[@Robbie1075]

@@jusibalkari Women don't go to the gym in skintight clothes and give themselves the biggest wedgies so their butt cheeks are highlighted for all to see to "feel comfortable" or for "confidence." Get a clue. They do it because they know when they throw a little music behind it and throw it up on social media for MILLIONS to see it will get the attentions desired. And that is what makes it all the more frustrating and ridiculous. Recording themselves with all the right body parts accented and highlighted to show the world on social media but get pissed, offended and throw a fit because one guy looks their way for 2 seconds. Pfft. Sorry friend but that isn't confidence, that's ignorance and stupidity.

[@metalhead9315]

It was great hearing this from a woman's persepctive! I'm a 45 year old retired veteran...so I'm naturally very observant. I am constatly aware of my environment and women like these are why I have completely STOPPED going to any gym. I invested in equipment and weights and converted my garage into a gym at the expense of now having to work on my own vehicles outside. One incident that led me to this decision was when I thought I had found a lost iPhone by a bench. I took it to the front desk. When I got back to my workout, I was interrupted by a very upset and very scantilly dressed young lady. "Have you seen my f*ing phone? Someone stole my f*ing phone!" I asked her where she had left it and if she could describe the case it was in and she confirmed it was the one I turned in to the front desk. I told her what I had done and apologized saying I didn't want anyone to lose such an expensive phone. She thundered away to retrieve it and came back yelling, crying and accusing me of "trying to see her videos and pics of herself she had taken" before I turned it in. It turned out she was trying to record herself doing squats but realized the weights on the bar were too heavy for her and she went in search of smaller plates. She embarassed me and never stopped yelling long enough for me to get a word in edge wise. Another incident was when a half-naked young lady on the abductor machine stopped mid-workout and cursed me for "ruining her shot." I had no idea what she was talking about until she pointed out her phone mounted to a machine opposite side of the walkway aimed at her. Let me reiterate, opposite side of the walkway aimed at her. She screamed that "I have to do this set all over again thanks to you" and how I was "wasting her shoot time." She also accused me of "looking down her top" which was one inch of material away from being a bra anyways, to say nothing of the fact that I'm 5'11" and she was about 5'! I had to look down to see her anyways when she stood close to me yelling and pointing her finger. Again, this young lady didn't pause long enough for me to reply. I could go on about being accused of "ruining someones shot" because of coughing and banging weights too loudly but you get the idea. I decided enough was enough after trying every gym in my area (3 by the way) and having some kind of history repeating itself. I had no intention of winding up on anyone's post as a "combative woman hater" so I didn't argue or give into their confrontational nature...especially nowadays when everyone seems to record and post everything once voices are raised in public. My biggest fear was always if cops had been called and our names were requested, I would instantly be believed to be the bad guy since police don't see your military record, only your criminal one. So now, I work out at home. Thank you for putting this video out. You said what I have been thinking for quite some time. I enjoy your channel...keep up the great work.

[@R.T.12]

Wow… I’m so sorry you went through all this. I recently built my own gym so I don’t have to deal with this…. but when I did go, I recall avoiding the gym at certain times of the day due to crap like this… gyms really need to do something about this…

[@steffidoc]

That’s horrible. In my opinion they should just ban filming at the gym. What narcissistic little brats.

[@maryjane4432]

@@steffidocI think a lot of places are starting to do so. I’ve also seen where women were told to cover up. Especially when wearing a sports bra and shorts.

[@TATINA.]

Wow, that was a whole novela 😭😭😭 I’m sorry you had to deal with that but sometimes you have to laugh at how ridiculous ppl can be 😂

[@thequadfather649]

Sorry you had to go through this. Thank you for your service.

[@joshuabalk483]

As a man who goes to the gym regularly. I find it incredibly difficult to not look at these kind of women. Not because I necessarily even want to, but because they're EVERYWHERE. I'll be doing a set and just trying to look straight ahead and it never fails that there's at least 5 women in my view dressed like this. I'm just trying to focus on myself and my reps but when you can't look anywhere it become a bit more difficult. Anyway, stay on your grind kings and don't let these women bring you down 👑

[@PaulStewart28]

✊🏿

[@Negative921]

True, often they stand in the middle. Of the gym so they can be in everyone sight

[@savage_girl_07]

How is that bringing u down?? Disturbing I kinda understand it, but "bring u down" I don't.

[@Inte9ritas]

Damn bro, same. I'm just trying to have some biceps rep and they're literally everywhere, i end up looking at the wall that day.

[@kusaiashionamete220]

They're asking for a good porkin but only if you play along with their TikTok games 😆

[@jongiedraitis854]

If you don't want to be noticed, don't wear clothes that are vacuum sealed to your body and wonder why your being looked at.

[@hrgirl26]

My grandfather had a saying that has guided my clothing choices for a long time: "If you're not in business, don't advertise."

[@mannylewis3548]

I love this.

[@PartsUnknownn]

Great Pop advice ❤

[@PaulStewart28]

I think you hit it on the head. This generation is heavily in the business of self promotion. It's nauseating.

[@sergiovela9961]

Advertise what?

[@BantuLioness]

Great advice from grandma

[@GoodieTradMama]

Thank you for using your platform to address this. I’m a married woman, my husband and I are gym rats 💪🏼 and I for one can’t stand seeing other women wearing “beach” or bedroom attire to workout. It’s totally unnecessary to get in a good workout. I’m a woman and it pulls MY attention! How in the world are Men supposed to not look?!? It’s just ridiculous. And the excuse “I do it for me” is complete BS. If you dress like that for yourself then just wear things like that at home. They wear it out in PUBLIC for public eyes & attention. The level of delusion & denial in this current society is just astounding.

[@ArabicLover101]

Same. I go to the gym whenever possible, and I see women(it’s an all women’s gym), wear clothes like that, and it grabs my attention. I see this out in the street also, in the trains, buses, and it grabs my attention, me as a woman. That being the case, how does one not expect it to come from men? Double standards

[@yourstruly4145]

I disagree with this. I have Gymshark sets which are tight and mold to my body well. I use these workout clothes in my own house where I do all my workouts. I’ve never been to a public gym. I don’t post pictures of myself in these clothes and I don’t have a partner that I workout with. Therefore, I am quite literally in these clothes *for me.* I actually bought them because I knew it would make me feel confident when working out. It has totally worked! I feel so good in these clothes and it motivates me to show up five times a week. I bought them last year and I’m still consistently working out.

[@rachelciel3330]

​@@yourstruly4145and... Your point is...? Literally, op said that if you wear it for you, then wear it at home. YOU wear it at home. So what's your point to make an argument with? Literally nothing. You're just prattling for the sake of showing off rn fr.

[@yourstruly4145]

@@rachelciel3330 I’m saying that not everyone does it for other’s attention. She says she “can’t stand” seeing women wear these clothes and that it’s just for public eyes and attention. Not everyone is doing it for those reasons. If I went to a public gym I’d wear those outfits I have. I’m tired of women being put down by other women all the time. Yeah, it’s bullshit to make the claim that men are sexualizing you when they’re not, but it’s also bullshit to say that women are sexualizing themselves by the outfits they wear. It’s not true. They’re literally just outfits..

[@extanegautham8950]

hell, its not just to the gym, its to everywhere!

[@chelseacreatesbeauty2843]

I’m a gym girlie and I completely agree with you. I honestly don’t care if people stare as long as they are not actually being creepy… looking is definitely not a crime. I also used to be super overweight and have put in about 2-3 years of hardwork and dedication to have the body I do now. And I want to show it off because I’m proud. That’s just me though, some days I do sweats and a baggy shirt. These girls on TikTok though are doing to much, when most of the time the men are not even making creepy advances at them. People are gonna people, we all stare at each other 😂

[@meganluck4352]

Congrats on your weight loss !

[@MM-km5zf]

respect yourself and be proud in other ways; you advertise your body, don't be surprise by the results

[@MM-km5zf]

"Look at me, look at me, LOOK AT ME... How DARE you look at me!?!"

[@coolrubygal]

Ya. I’m sorry to say but most of us are not blind. We’re gonna look at someone who attracts attention however that is. Someone who’s good looking, has a good body, wearing stylish outfits, being scantily clad or whatever. We all can see and we would naturally look.

[@SexyPigeon834]

exactly, and sometimes they just wanna know when your gonna be done with certian equipment but dont wanna rush you.

[@quynhvingoo3711]

this video of yours simply explains what I think about women dressing provocatively and then says "you're a pervert for sexualize women for their clothes" 🙄

[@corysbae]

Not to mention the kids/ teenagers that then think it’s okay to dress and sexualize themselves. As a fellow gym girl I’m embarrassed by the others in the community

[@lolgriffin3243]

I'm a girl and I REALLY don't want to have to look at women like that at the gym. It's pure exhibitionist behaviour.

[@stephanie_smith]

💯 exactly!!

[@tobefree9503]

They only want certain attention and disregard everyone else. And if you ever go against them. Watch out! You are insecure or not confident. You have to be strong willed to handle this woman. And even then I’m sure they can’t even handle the same as them.

[@ruthiereallife6404]

Thats nasty what that last girl did. Like wtf my vagina hurts looking at that.

[@theperfectbeing]

It's absolutely unnecessary. Working as a lifting coach I've actively had to tell some of the young women that were coming to train with us that they needed to wear better suited clothing for the type of training we were doing and because it was a pointless distraction, everyone coming was there to seriously train. They tried to say it was the only way they could keep cool but I called bs on that because we had 250lb+ muscle monster dudes all roided out who were training with full pants and a basic tshirt and sometimes a full on hoodie until they were fully warmed up. The absolute worse clothing for this is those "boy shorts" where the boy of the ass cheeks hang out. Not only because of the amount of skin but because they're literally dragging their sweaty ass across the equipment other people are using. It's straight disrespect, it's the same reason we don't allow guys to workout without shirts on.

[@vigilantegalitarian7739]

Fernandez apologized because she couldn't handle the backlash and damage to her online persona, she didn't apologize because she suddenly realized she was wrong.

[@RaderizDorret]

She's also on OnlyFans. She has no problem with weirdos seeing her in a significant state of undress as long as they're paying her.

[@CARPETMAN6666]

A couple days ago I was discussing this video with a friend of mine and he said "this keeps going what is next?" I said that's easy. The women will be masturbating at the gym and scream at you "what are you looking at!"

[@brandonmuse5532]

So true

[@shawns3347]

Yoo straight facts! I didn’t know she was on only fans too. Wow she’s pathetic

[@mauric99]

@@RaderizDorret She took it down already...

[@maxwellhouse750]

They complain about one person staring but then post videos of themselves for millions of people to stare at them. Self absorbed and self centered. They basically are telling people don’t love me for my personality but rather for how I look.

[@emom2]

When I was in my 20s, I went to the gym in oversized clothes, went straight to the woman’s section and did look anyone in the eye. I wasn’t at the gym to meet anyone (with all that I did get verbally harassed a few times). Also in my 20s I would go out, dressed sexy, giving looks and a smile. I wanted to meet someone. I dressed for myself for sure but I knew when and where to dress in tight clothes. And staring at someone is not a crime. Got to get over the ego and stupid 🤦‍♀️

[@KFrost-fx7dt]

And yet men still ogle women who dress like you do at the gym. They sexualize us no matter what, so we might as well wear what we want.

[@alizabethwestra4213]

SAME!!!!

[@mikepalmer1971]

Thank you for having common sense.

[@paulaputrus7721]

@@alizabethwestra4213 .

[@amandamayfilms]

I'm curious, what is the women's section of the gym? I go to a ladies only gym, but I've never heard of a woman's section at a regular gym.

[@moirasmyth4833]

I work out from home so I don’t even go to the gym anymore but when I did I wore those old Nike running shorts and an oversized T-shirt. These women know exactly what they are doing.

[@Willie_Wahzoo]

No one calls them out on it. They should be shamed for being an embarrassment.

[@WCove99]

Exactly. If I am gonna be in a weird positions while working out, I don't want my privates visible. Also, a tee and yoga pants is just more comfortable.

[@maylenpfeifer3975]

victim blaming

[@moodchanger3470]

@@WCove99 if i am doing a certain leg machine i make sure i have the right clothes on or have a jacket or bring someone to workout with me to stand in front. i actually trust most men to not pay attention to majority of women doing those machines, i am just uncomfortable period. i have seen women doing them and blatantly staring men in the eyes, not their husbands or bf, but its weird. its like when the muschle head macho men in cartoons show off to women as they pass but in reverse.

[@cameronedwards365]

Right!? As a guy if im boxing and lifting in loose shorts and a t shirt i don't think body hugging spandex in the form of practically booty shorts and a sports bra is requisite to stay cool or get a good work out. It's the attention factor

[@RM-eg1ed]

I’m a woman who goes to the gym, I wear a T-shirt and sweats, but there are female ‘influencers’ who show up with the sole purpose to video themselves from various angles (mostly posterior). They’re not really working out, they’re posing for attention or talking it up with the cutest guy there. It’s a pure attention grab - nothing more.

[@nondescriptnyc]

I agree! At my gym, frankly, most of those attention-hungry women are occupying/blocking the space others need to use. When people give them dirty looks, somehow, they translate that in their heads that men are staring. No, rocket scientist, everyone is looking at you because you are crazy and inconsiderate!

[@icedriver2207]

And then they complain when it happens in the Gym.

[@mnm3755]

I’m glad i’m not the only one going to the gym in sweats & a T-shirt.

[@Herhealingtouch6683]

T-shirt and sweat pants 👖 love that ! Yet we still workout !

[@李小美-f6z]

1 question…is it comfortable to workout in sweats and shirts? I work out mainly using weights and i find the shirt uncomfortable when i lift

[@SuperDurv]

I never look. I look down. I look away. I look up. But I never look.

[@amandalarge5014]

I’m a woman and I hate seeing other women doing the wedgie thing.. sometimes I can’t help but look in shock, and you can literally see their butt cheeks spread as they lean forward to pick up a dumbbell… something that you should only see behind closed doors!! I don’t need to see in between someone’s crevices just because they need the attention from others to feel validated 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@drawntowardmadness]

Thank you! I keep saying I'm tired of seeing inside random people's ass cheeks!

[@MadeleinesMadeleines]

It’s so disgusting

[@gabrielle9191]

Could someone please explain what wedgies are?

[@madalynnsantiago2900]

someone is insecure.

[@melinakc754]

Same. Even as a girl I feel uncomfortable when girls wear tops that show their whole chest. Like how? Can only imagine how dudes feel

[@nYdGeo]

Late last year, a member of our family, 28 and extremely fit and attractive, came by to visit my wife and I, and came straight from the gym. She said it all. When asked how her day was going she stated that she was bit disappointed with herself because she was 'becoming one of those whiny hypocrites crying on TikTok'. When asked what happened, she said that while working out, a male member of the gym walked by, smiled and gave her a nod, then continued on his way. She reacted by shaking her head in annoyance and as she was realizing internally how she just reacted, and was wondering why she reacted that way, she observed that he was standing next to her. He had observed the head shake and returned to tell her that if she and everyone else in the gym take offense every time someone simply offers a friendly acknowledgement of another human being's existence, it's going to become an even colder, lonelier world than it's become already. She agreed with him, saying she had no idea why she reacted that way, then told him to enjoy his workout because she didn't know what else to say. I suggested that she needed to post exactly what she told us. She relied hell no...so the Internet cancel culture army can go ballistic on her? No way. She said it all.

[@bazhumke4040]

@nYdGeo yeah lol that's a hilarious story

[@nYdGeo]

@@bazhumke4040 actually, it's a horrific story.

[@happygaby1000]

That guy wayyy overeacted, it's not always all about him wtaf, a complete psycho

[@creamedmonkey]

Sounds like her ego is raging out of control, although the dude sounds like a self righteous simp. Hopefully this is a fable rather than a real world event.

[@zurielisra5209]

@@happygaby1000 You not very intelligent are you? How is he a complete psycho for calling out a women for being disrespectful. He wasn't cat calling, he wasn't stalking her, from the story all he did was nod and show her some interest. She was disrespectful while he was being respectful. It seems to me that you the psycho for think a simple gesture is like a guy watching you outside your house.

[@truegirl2anna]

As a woman who works out at the gym. I have seen women walk in with basically no clothes on. I don’t understand why or how that’s even allowed. We need DRESS CODE RULES!

[@keitherickson8404]

not allowed in my gym. it's owned by a female and she's not about to lose 95% of her clientele to appease the 5% who like to train in lingerie and a pair of cat ears.....reminds me of Halloween nowadays.

[@sergiovela9961]

@@keitherickson8404 Stop using the word “female” as a noun and say “woman” like a friggin adult.

[@jayc342009]

@@keitherickson8404 women know their own gender better, maybe more women should own gyms?

[@absgj]

The same can be said about men who workout shirtless. I don't wanna see that as a woman just trying to get my pump in lmao

[@sergiovela9961]

@@absgj Yeah, but I bet you don’t leer at them which obviates the need for this entire idiotic debate.

[@FV-le3ip]

The sickening part is when these same women ask why men are not men anymore when they expect them to react like women or gay males.

[@jasminetea34]

Men can't force women not to wear revealing clothes and women can't force men not to stare at them when they wear ones.

[@mads3969]

Speaking facts!

[@iluvurmom658]

"me a woman" u want a cookie for thinking this as a woman or smth? weirdo

[@jdQuinnn]

Women enjoy dressing sexily (for themselves of course).Men enjoy looking at sexy women.This is surely a MUTUALLY beneficial interaction.🤗

[@johnnotrealname8168]

@@jdQuinnn Dude stop.

[@johnnotrealname8168]

Men should not look but the woman is part of the problem here.

[@nutterbutter865]

Amala this might be my favorite take you’ve ever had. You are SO RIGHT. I’m 23 and this type of stuff makes me so sad. These women don’t even realize how brainwashed they are. They think objectification is “empowering” what is even happening anymore 😞

[@Poisonedblade]

TRUE!

[@InDirectDiana]

"Brainwashed". Excellent word. Tiktok and Instagram definitely cause a lot of brainwashing

[@angelbrother1238]

Morals and values are gone these days in the USA . It’s total lunacy

[@gamesong6600]

I think its about power to choose your own attire. There were times in past when some attires were socially acceptable and any deviation was looked down upon, individual freedom when it came to clothing was low, but now we have more freedom men and women. One may not like attires but we have to accept everyone's personal choice. Power is having more options and freedom in life.

[@di3486]

@@angelbrother1238 Unfortunately, it’s like this in a lot of places. Latino women are completely ruined by this “culture” (not only in the US but in their own countries)

[@t.o903]

I became uncomfortable with how my fellow women dress at the gym. Everywhere wedgies front and back being picked and you can't always just "look away" without straight up closing your eyes. I don't care what shape you are in, I don't care how natural human bodies are. I don't want to be in a room full of people basically exposing themselves and calling everyone else the issue.

[@brianl7535]

These girls are attention seekers themselves, they are youtubers, they are not complaining because they feel harassed, they complained because they are making videos... anyone who dress like that and expect no attention needs to get their heads checked!! If a dude wears a mankini to the gym, straight men will look too... people just look at things that are out of the ordinary.

[@dararchived4471]

What else can we wear working out that is stretchy and flexible 💀

[@vaderladyl]

@@dararchived4471 I do work out but I cover my coochie with a t shirt over my stretchy pants.

[@Toasty-j3k]

@@dararchived4471 They’re pointing out the extremely weird wedgie trend. Women used to wear leggings and shorts normally, then they started pulling them as far as possible up the ass crack to show as much as possible.

[@medicokannadiga5440]

I can smell jealousy , somebody's else's outfit makes YOU feel uncomfortable has got everything to do with you and not the other person , instead of feeling uncomfortable , accept their beauty (we come across so many ancient sculptures and paintings with little butt naked muse , so are all the naked sculptures and paintings destroyed coz they were naked ???? or are they placed in an luxurious galleries and museums ????) now we shaming people because they feel good about themselves and are embracing their beauty ???? She's proud of her a$$ , b00bs her face , her body, she dresses to enhance it and that's making others uncomfortable ????????? wow seriously , are you that weak I wonder what kinda world we live in SERIOUSLY PEOPLE NEED TO THINK BEYOND BODY , FACE AND CLOTHS , SEE THEM AS A HUMAN BEING AND NOT AS A OBJECT we cant downplay to make you feel better about yourself

[@peterprime2934]

Thank you for exposing the hypocrisy of these women. They need to take accountability. If they dont want to be sexualized. They should dress modestly.

[@lifeofbeanzel]

Gyms need to enforce some sort of dress code. This is inappropriate, even as a woman I feel uncomfortable when I’m breaking in between sets and are faced with a half naked woman.

[@peterkeijsers489]

HALF naked? Quite regularly their outfits are nothing more than a few strings and some ultra-tiny shorts! That's WAY MORE than half naked!

[@lifeofbeanzel]

@@peterkeijsers489 you are absolutely right, I was definitely too nice there 😂

[@Ston247]

It's all about *Power.*

[@thembrowneyes]

DEFINITELY. Either that, or people needa save for home gyms just to avoid getting CANCELLED by these immoral, disgusting women.

[@michellegabriel2990]

YES!

[@ericcartrette6118]

I have back injuries. Some years ago, I was at the gym doing some stretches that my Orthopedic specialist gave me. My teenage daughter was right there with me. This woman came up and started stretching right in front of me at an angle that gave me clear views down her shirt. My daughter noticed it too. So, I was doing everything I could NOT to take advantage of the "views." After a while, my wife came to where we were so she could find out if I was finished, or what I had planned next. The woman got this really humbled "Oops" look on her face and quickly disappeared. I don't really know why she wanted my specific attention. I don't consider myself the greatest looking guy around and I was older than her. But she was definitely looking for attention.

[@andrewbowles9753]

Maybe she thought she would score a silver/silvering fox but was skittish about competition. Glad she made the choice leave you otherwise that would be going down "home wrecker lane."

[@TWtheman]

Maybe she was looking for a reason to scream out "pervert" so someone could console her because of the predator she turned you into by revealing herself to you in an almost unavoidable way.

[@ericcartrette6118]

@@TWtheman maybe so. 🤣

[@tarabooartarmy3654]

She better be glad she didn’t do this to my husband. I’m excessively over-protective and I have no qualms letting someone know it. 😂 My husband would have just gotten up and walked away, though.

[@jasonvillard7835]

This has happened to me before I was doing lateral raises from a far in front of a gym mirror random girl comes in front of my doing RDLs with plenty of space to do it anywhere else. I did my reps then went to another machine.

[@jrangel75]

Women know exactly what they’re doing when they dress like that to the gym. Complaining about men gawking at them is just simply hilarious and ridiculous. They want all the likes and clicks but don’t want to be gawked at in person? Sorry ladies, you can’t have it both ways. SMH

[@IncandescentLightbulb00]

Was just about to say that. If I wore something like this and no one looked at me I’d be offended 😂 these women are doing it to boost their self esteem, nothing wrong with that but don’t pretend that this was not an intended outcome. Views online are fine but irl are not? Give me a break. If all those girls did this and got zero attention from anyone then they’d probably be so sad. I don’t wear this kinda wedgie pants to the gym and I definitely don’t have an ass like this but when I get glances at the gym it always feels good. UNLESS someone is being a creep. You know immediately when that’s the case. Once there was this guy that just went wherever I was at the gym and I didn’t like that. But it happened once in the 10years I’ve been to the gym.

[@sayitaintso7544]

Tell me if Im wrong but dont most women look themselves over from front to back before heading out the door. If they have something revealing they must know what is out there for the world to see.

[@israelchosennation7213]

They say they dress for themselves knowing they don't dress with their buttcheeks hanging out for themselves lol

[@maxliv387]

Eunika Sot if a woman has to dress like that to raise her self esteem then that actually implies she has no self esteem to begin with.

[@zhen86]

They just wants the correct guy to look at her

[@morrissoublet25]

Explain to me why it is necessary to film yourself at the gym to begin with? The gym should be a place where one goes to workout to improve their body. It isn’t a film studio!!

[@jacobaoliver]

These women creators are fishing for men to do something creepy, while they are the ones that are creepy themselves.

[@emilysilverstar8023]

Literal pick-mes.

[@hannahmontana44]

Spot on. Imagine a dude filming himself in spandex giving himself the ultimate crotch wedgie to show off his bulge and wiggling around in front of women to “expose them” for looking at it. Pretty sure everyone would agree that’s creepy af.

[@Dennis-nc3vw]

EXACTLY! Why is it that if I expose my genitals to a woman without her consent, I'm a horrible person and a MeToo story, but if she exposes everything short of her genitals to me, not only is she 100% not at all fault for anything, but I'm at fault if I don't take it in stride and glance for half a second?

[@emilysilverstar8023]

@@hannahmontana44 The reason why a man would probably get arrested is because male predators are much more violent than female predators. Female predators will use their emotions to guilt and manipulate their victims. Males however will just threaten and use violence.

[@PrigkipessaK24]

@@Dennis-nc3vw they’re self obsessed gaslighters…. Literally concocting scenarios where they come out looking like they’ve been victimized. Every time.

[@davidmurphree5713]

You are 100% correct young lady. I've been a gym rat for 48 years and I've seen this cancer manifest over the years ESPECIALLY the last few. It truly is a look at me, how dare you stare you creep. My whole thought process has always been if you gotta advertise that hard there's something wrong with the product. The gym is for bettering yourself not to condemn others who are there for the same thing to get your victim card filled out

[@MissOJAY]

48yrs, how young are you? Just curious 😉

[@arwen08]

@@MissOJAY i think the question should be how old haha. my guess is like early 60's

[@ZeldasMask]

Gym culture defo changed

[@thebigjimmyd]

"If you gott advertise that hard there's something wrong with the product." I love that! Even metaphorically. Word of mouth has always been the best form of advertising! Paying for placement indicates you can't get attention naturally.

[@roundtheloopandback]

I'll be honest I don't go to the gym because of this type of conduct

[@kimiberger]

me as a straight girl: my +1 priority going to the gym is to wear something comfortable, flexible and allows me to have the best athletic performance. sure, I make things look coordinated but ALWAYS function over fashion When another girl goes to the gym wearing something provocative or sexualised which compromises function, they'll get stares from EVERYONE. not just guys. everyone is not looking at them in a 'oh that's cute or hot' more like 'damn, that must be crazy uncomfortable, lets see how long she'll keep that up'.

[@lexo892]

There was no legging before and people were training anyways

[@RushiaRenoku]

the gym is hot asf so i just wear clothes that are comfortable and allows me to breath

[@poisonivy6477]

@@Anelle1386 lmao, people have an unhealthy obsession over what other people wear. I just focus on my set and keep it pushing. I am not giving energy into something that doesn't directly involve me.

[@marinawolf]

BINGO!

[@allisonlong8857]

Agreed!!

[@gloriafisher2136]

IT WOULD BE FUNNY IF THEY DIDN'T GET ANY ATTENTION .... THEY WOULD COMPLAIN ABOUT THAT.

[@orphanpoetry2562]

I experienced (not at the gym) that some head turners hate it when you ignore their gorgeousness and treat them like a normal person.

[@YC305]

I’m 42 years old. One day I was walking out of the gym and two young ladies were approaching the door so I was courteous and held the door open for them. They didn’t even say thank you. I think in their mind they thought that was a way of flirting with them or something 🤷🏻‍♂️. The clothing women wear these days is just crazy. Almost nothing to the imagination. Camel toe and everything 🙄. We keep pushing the bar.

[@lisabaltzer4190]

Fortunately, not all women are like that. I always say thank you, but maybe that is an Idaho thing. Where I live, you would be expected to say thank you and men always open the door for women.

[@MPT1983]

I've noticed that too, and it's always at the gym I get this reaction from woman. I wanted to try a yoga class once to help relieve muscle stiffness and the looks I got from the young girls when I came in, like ewwww what's HE doing here lol.

[@annieg7090]

Like Lisa, I always say thank you. I am always appreciative and grateful for kindness and respectful behavior. No one has to do it. I also go to the gym to actually workout. I never wear the pants with the seam literally in the ass. I wear clothes that enable me to comfortably exercise. I'm comfortable when everyone isn't staring at me. Also, when a guy does approach me, I don't just assume he's hitting on me. He may just be friendly, as I am. Finally, if a guy is hitting on me, I still try to be gracious about it. It takes an amount of courage; and as we get older, we might want to remember the days when we were regularly desired. Please don't stop being kind/respectful because of how many stupid people there are nowadays. We're not all that way.

[@christinap9132]

I agree

[@LostSox]

And if you'd let that door close on them, they would've made sure you were an a**hole and probably made into a TikTok.

[@glowgirl8171]

Back in the day when I had a body to show off, I knew when I was doing it. Nothing like this, though. Damn. They know what they're doing, they enjoy the response , and they LOVE blaming a man for simply looking at them. Fear not, that "bubble" { or bubbles} will burst when real life sets in. Ps- I marched for Women's Rights back in the 70's. This is a slap in the face.

[@itsjustaname3386]

Wow. That last sentence😔It is a slap in the face😩

[@emmettsmommy01]

I feel the same!!

[@GrumpyMunkyGameDesign]

As a white male in my 30s I feel like public enemy number one, you feel afraid to do anything, my friends daughter always asks to hug me, I politely decline, not because im anti social but because we are slowly being conditioned to feel like predators even those of us who arent. And seeing the heartbreak on her face each time kills me, Seeing a child alone without a parent is the worst because every fibre of you wants to go ask whats wrong, espescially if theyre crying and clearly in distress, and ask where their mummy is and if they need help but youre terrified to because some Karen might come along and totally misread the situation. And 2 hours later, you're cancelled and your life is ruined. Hell you cant even say mummy these days its 'birthing person', This toxicity towards men is getting dangerous, what if that child was genuinely lost? And everyone walking by is to afraid to help. Think of the absurdity of a world we are creating where men are 'Too Afraid to Help' Keep the reality checks coming, we dont need them but everyone else does

[@knickandknac]

I’m 28, female and have a great body. I wear leggings and a crop top to the gym - nothing quite so up my ass or revealing as these outfits but still body conforming. I know people look. I don’t care about that. Looks aren’t anything. Especially because I know what actually being creeped on is! It’s when they’re next to you talking about your body loud enough for you to hear, it’s when they try to tell you to get off the treadmill / not to run because it’ll make the butt they like smaller, it’s when they touch you when you’re on a machine.

[@fernandezkamau6011]

The feminism you fought for, was for equality. Feminism today is about supremacy and campaigns for weakening men.

[@riannebrissette1266]

If I owned a gym these days I’d have a no recording policy. Not only would it help limit these kinds of issues but it would also keep narcissists from hogging the gym equipment as much. These women seriously think they are the center of the universe and most of these men are probably just waiting for the darn squat rack! 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@mysticstrikeforce5957]

plus these places have camera of their own which i think lot of young adults forgets that.

[@mev9459]

You do realize that some people record themselves to check their technique?

[@royandescartes]

and whats crazy is they film for thousands of strangers online, but complain if you blink in their direction 😂

[@sara.kramer]

I'm a young woman who is in shape and has a decently attractive body, I go to gym that is 90% male. I wear t shirts and running shorts. And not once have I ever noticed any men staring or watching me. When you wear painted on clothes is has repercussions. Hell, even I stare at women who dress like that because it honestly shocks me and makes me a little uncomfortable. I don't go to the gym to be exposed to naked women. Dress appropriately and see how often it happens then

[@christycipriano261]

Lol im a women and ive starred too. Cant help it when they're ass and/or tits are hanging out!

[@user-bq2ko2tb2w]

Women can wear what they want, men are topless and don't get judged

[@christycipriano261]

@@user-bq2ko2tb2w never said women couldn't wear what they wanted. Although I think a dress code would be beneficial in a gym. But if a women wears clothes where her breasts are hanging out and her ass is hanging out, or she's barely wearing any clothes at all, then she should obviously expect to get stared at. Seems like common sense...

[@FinalBossWTMN]

​@user-bq2ko2tb2w everyone gets judged all the time. You don't have a right to be above judgement. Who do you think you are, some perfect being who is above reproach? Are you the messiah? You also can't police other people's eyeballs. You have no expectations of privacy in public. Whatever you decide to put on display in public with your outfit choice, is free game to look at

[@cakesinthecity]

Thank you

[@AliceinJapanaland]

When I was in my 20s, I genuinely used to feel uncomfortable when men looked at me. So you know what I did? I never wore low-cut tops or high cut shorts or showed my midriff. I didn't really dress in figure hugging clothes either unless i was going out somewhere with my boyfriend, and i wanted to look more attractive for him. That's how womem who don't really enjoy male attention from strangers actually carry themselves.

[@TheBaumcm]

Same. I’m 5’2”. I wore my 6’ brother’s shirts and did oversized before it was a thing. My body was pretty well developed and I have decent proportions thanks to genetics but I never wore snug clothing because that wasn’t how I valued myself. Now that I’m older, I dress more my size but in flattering cuts and still looser for comfort and mobility and most people think I’m at least 15 pounds lighter than I am.

[@NickeshaRodgers]

Same here.

[@shifaarshi6806]

it takes a lot of guts to speak the truth about matters like these, especially because society these days (mostly social media) can and will destroy you for it. i have sooo much respect for you

[@lancethefilmguy9392]

How come people do that to others? Why is it so wrong to disagree these days?

[@rubyvassallo2223]

So true. Sometimes people get lost in the swirl of "real news" (Tik Tok and other social platforms advertising the so named "truth" and it's such "prevalence ") and makes such a warped "reality"- much like reality TV shows - which are in no way fit to be called reality. Thanks for this video Amala

[@fredmurphy42]

@@lancethefilmguy9392honestly I believe it’s because there is a rise in mental illness/ autism. These people that “cancel” are not mentally healthy.

[@bethholmes53574]

I think when a person dresses to be noticed, they’re imagining a kind admiring favorable respectful noticing, and sometimes the type of attention that actually comes is an unpleasant unwelcome surprise. If I imagine the most unkind undesirable eyes when I’m in front of my closet, I’m going to pick something to look invisible.

[@al97one]

Here in France, I feel like this started with the « I’m not wearing a bra because I’m a feminist but I expect you to not look at me” thing, this is just peak 2.0 feminism: you can look at me, but you have to pay for it 🤑 Anyway, thank you for your time making these videos and sorry for my mediocre English !

[@py_a_thon]

I was raised to believe that the only reason to ever look at a french person at all is if you want to bum a smoke, or ask where the best cafe is, or ask them (in french) if we can have another statue for the new york harbor.

[@cameronedwards365]

Your English is better than many native speakers here in the usa my friend

[@userunknown1578]

"Free the nipple!" "Why are you looking at my chest?!"

[@DeeKate]

It's always people the people who say "sorry for my English" who write the best! Your grammar is better than a lot of native English speakers! Don't apologize! 😊

[@al97one]

@@py_a_thon And don’t ever forget a loud “BONJOUR” first otherwise you will face an evil glare 🤭

[@aracelia.4532]

As a female, I don't go to gyms because of women like this. Thankful for you calling them out.

[@h.s.l6875]

Exactly. I've been thinking about going to the gym (I'm also a woman) but i really don't want to be exposed to these barely dressed women.

[@sergiovela9961]

That’s absurd.

[@ARDEN440i]

You should go anyways. Don't focus on other people but yourself. Not all gyms are like what you see on tiktok

[@TheObsidianDiamond]

@@ARDEN440i 💪🏽💪🏽👍🏽🙏🏽

[@timothyberlinski2299]

Just go dont let idiots ruin your health. I am a guy and I honestly don't give a shit, ots a public space and I'll look at whoever i want to look at I don't let them stop me. I don't sit there and just stare but I look at everybody not just woman

[@Larchkty0324]

There's nothing wrong with dressing to look cute or sexy. At the same time it's important for women to be aware of how you look to others. I grew up being told if you dress like a prostitute you can't be surprised if you're treated like a prostitute. If you're glowing neon green because you just love the glow you can't then get upset that people are looking or pointing out that you're glowing.

[@teresasalisbury4748]

Why look sexy???? Women's lib was about women having value without pandering.

[@PM-wt3ye]

Sexy for WHO? Why complaining if someone acknowledges the sexy clothes?! Thats a contradiction. No one dresses cute/sexy only for yourself, you want so look good because you want other people to see it. If yopu dress like shit people also will recognise it. The most hypocrite thing is that women are doing the EXACT SAME thing to men. The only difference is men dont mind when women look at them, why should they?! So just stop crying or dress yourself differently.

[@desireelaurelli4579]

These girls are no nuns. They know what they're doing. Trying to monetize their social media accounts or else wishing Jay-Z would walk in, get bowled over, leave Beyonce and whisk them away in the Bentley. Just hoochies who think men want a deep serious relationship with someone who only offers a behind and boobs. Only good for a bit. The cows are giving away so much milk there's nothing left to buy. Self-respect, please!

[@kaoryakasaka6835]

I feel like this goes both ways. It's important for some women to understand that being looked at or taken notice of isn't sexual harassment just because it happens to be done by a man you're not interested in. But at the same time some men need to realise that just because a woman is dressed in sexy clothes and attracts your attention, doesn't mean she's obligated to go out with them/be attracted to them. There's a line between receiving attention and being sexually harassed just as there's a line between trying to look good and flirting/seeking a date. Unfortunately these lines get blurry nowadays.

[@Clonez-sr7to]

Actually I think there is definitely something wrong with it, unless it's being done around the house while guests are not over. If you are in a relationship with a man, but you still act and dress like you're single and shopping, then you're a hoe. Women who dress like this are getting ignored more and more and more, because the reality is, they're garbage inside.

[@sarakelley8177]

I’m a girl who wears a sports bra and spandex shorts at the gym not because I need men to look at me, but because I SWEAT so much 😂😭 but I understand that it is a lot for some people and that I’ll get some looks. But I don’t go around recording myself or complaining when 1 person looks my way…

[@haileyrei]

I'm 15 and im a gym girl. Men glance at me, I glance at men, its not creepy, its spacing out/ being a human in the gym. A lot of my guy friends say that they glance at the gym girls who record their workouts because, well, its a little strange to bring a ring light and a camera to the gym. I've definitely had a creepy old guy follow me around and try to ask me out and stuff, but 99.9% of the time, its just people spacing out/ being humans.

[@LizaLavolta]

Good point. Also just healthy curiosity. Sometimes i watch people's routines to learn something new.

[@judyhumphreys3579]

It's more than a little strange to create such a disturbance and take up so much space with the ring light, etc.

[@ProfessionalCleancutguy]

You'll go far in life. Well done!👏🏾

[@aspiknf]

Hailey is the voice of common sense. Something that is lacking in stupid people who use TikTok for attention.

[@mistysuzumiya]

@@LizaLavolta same I watch people sometimes to learn new techniques or proper form

[@Kinikia95]

I always wear loose clothing and no makeup to the gym. I'm there for my health, not anyone else. I do look at people working out. Noticing their form or getting tips for something I might want to try. I thought everyone did that.

[@taesthethicc3791]

Say it louder for the ppl in the back 📢

[@medicokannadiga5440]

so you mean to say people who dress cute and put on makeup , do so to get other's attention ???? lol get a life , someone's confidence is your insecurity , and let people be

[@dwaynewilliams3077]

@@medicokannadiga5440 there's only 2 reasons to put on make-up and dress clad. Either they think of themselves as ugly, or they are doing it for others. It is really that simple.

[@cheyennescottage]

​@starplatinum 👏👏👏

[@brandi1294]

As a personal trainer, we recommend wearing gear that allows for good range of motion and either exposing that area or spandex materials tend to be the people’s first choice so they can see the muscles activate through the clothing. Nothing wrong with this. It’s more of the motive and intention behind it that matters. But not everybody can work out comfortable or effectively in baggy loose fit clothing. Even men wear compressions leggings/shorts because it helps.

[@Texbec]

Me and my daughter (19 at the time) went to the gym a few years ago, when my daughter took off her shirt to work out in her sports bra the manager (female) very nicely asked her to put her shirt back on. I was very appreciative because being it was her first time in a gym she didn't realize the unwanted attention it would draw at the time. But these girls know what their doing, they even film it. That makes it by design.

[@thenonexistinghero]

Still, a 19 year old should really be aware that showing some skin or nice curves is gonna draw the eyes from men. I feel like people these days are more oblivious to their environment than ever. The way you look, dress, move, act, etc is going to be perceived by others around you. This goes for everyone. And by the time they're in their late teens, everyone would normally develop at least some decent awareness of this perception.

[@janearny]

@Rebecca Olson I am curious, is there a rule at your gym the same for shirtless guys, that they need to put their shirt on? (I am not having any opinion or trying to argue, just asking). Thak you and have a nice day!

[@kingsqueen7475]

​@@janearny I have never seen a man at my gym NOT wearing a shirt. Guys don't need to be shirtless to work out either. Its not necessary. It's still a public place and while I understand that clothing needs to be functional for the activity, it also should be decent enough to wear in public. If they want to be mostly naked they should work out at home.

[@charleslavoie5402]

Enjoy it while you have it…..

[@gildedpeahen876]

Working out in a sports bra seems pretty par for the course to me, but then again I’m a b cup so it’s LITERALLY not that big of a deal either 😂

[@commonsesnse]

What these attention seeking narcisst do dimishes every woman who is actually a victim of sexual harassment. Shame,Shame!