Habits That Happy People Practice

We study misery and pain in psychology and we’ve gotten good at it. But what about studying the upside of life? What makes for a happy and fulfilled person? In this clip from The Dr. Cloud Show, Henry explains that one of the keys found in research of happiness is centered around practicing gratitude. So how can you go about practicing gratitude better? Dr. Cloud shows us that entitlement stops us from feeling grateful. When you’re grateful you’re humble. Humbleness stops the feeling of entitlement and envy.
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[@terryb338]

I have a great aunt who is 101, still lives alone and handles all of her own finances. I was reflecting on her life and realized that I had NEVER seen her without a smile on her face and most of the time a “giggle” in her voice. There HAS to be a connection! (She lost 2 husbands and still has that smile)

[@bethtaylor9773]

Many years ago, a friend told me to sit down an make a gratitude list. I thought, 'You just don't know.' But she did. Once I started writing a gratitude list to God, it kept growing and growing. I started seeing more and more things, more situations that God had taken me through, taken my children through.

[@tinysilverstar]

This is one of the most powerful talks I have heard. Gentle and true.

[@fgbowen]

agreed

[@tearthangel373]

Gratitude is a step in the direction of recovery and reconciliation

[@rebeccasnyder231]

A grateful heart becomes a happy heart ..I am finding.

[@user-kn5dg4mt5y]

So true. We must practice this every day, especially when we are struggling. Renew our mind daily. I appreciate you Henry.

[@Brian-rs4ug]

Daily gratitude and worship towards God is a powerful force. I start out each day with worship music and thanking God in ADVANCE for a day full of blessings. The thoughts and the attitude we adopt each morning is key to having a great day. (Regardless of what comes our way) I actually spent most of my life on depression medication. Developing our relationship with God (meditating on the Word DAILY) and our relationship with others was a big part of getting off of the depression medication.

[@ElvitaQuinones]

I can’t agree with you more. Starting off my day with praise and thanking God for all that he has done, is doing, and will do sets my day up for success. I can better navigate my day and all the problems that may come my way. It helps me to have a better mindset for the entire day. It’s a blessing to start my day this way.

[@christinegibson8398]

What wisdom. Thank you for your testimony Brian.

[@christineandcarlmilitz2883]

Amen thank God always sing praises to Him especially in the morning. Asking for direction and protection. Reading the Psalms

[@christineandcarlmilitz2883]

Happy people are grateful people

[@tearthangel373]

I am grateful to God for a roof over my head and all of the people that He put in my life to teach me the lessons that I needed to learn

[@margueritebaca3921]

Thank you God for leading me to Dr. Cloud's podcast this morning. 😊 Thank you. Thank you.Thank you. This is the start of a long list as I breathe in fresh morning air with sun shining through my window.

[@Lightonahill25]

Im super grateful for YOU, Dr Cloud and your awesome biblically based psych teachings...

[@annedunbar4598]

Yes! I didn’t know emotional pain and turmoil I wasn’t dealing with was trapped in my body. I was chronically sick for 7 yrs! Until I dealt with the reasons I was sad. I am learning how to work through it and not store emotions up. Releasing things to God that are Gods have helped me be set free. I have been healthy for 3 yrs! You’re work has helped me more than words could express. Thank you dr Cloud.

[@liliherndz5792]

GRATEFUL for YOU …at this MOMENT in TIME THANK YOU🕯…GRACIAS 🕯…THANK YOU 🕯

[@freddiesawyer910]

My mother was diagnosed with BPD. I ended up with major depression and anxiety for many years. Praise God that with a lot of work, prayer, a loving husband & church family I am slowly healing. You are so spot-on! Gratitude plays a huge part in my continuing recovery. I am finally learning to live & be happy despite the past & this crazy world we live in. Thank you so much for this informative video!

[@Jacqspeakslife]

So blessed to hear u are healing :)

[@fgbowen]

15:54 - so healing. This is something that has been on my mind for a few years now. Needing to hear the delineation of these things - Envy, Gratefulness, and Love. Gratitude. etc.

[@missyschultz2863]

Love Dr. Cloud!!!! My Soul feels filled! Thank YOU! At teh end ... I almost cried.

[@suzesinger6762]

Bless you Bro. ;) My Mum used to say, 'Well, I've enjoyed what I've had' ! She was very energetic, wacky and friendly, always said 'Grace' at mealtimes. I was more heavily/lightly ...influenced by her example..the older I get. I am presently reading your book, How People Change. Thanks - for a real good read. !

[@margueritebaca3921]

😅😂 "Well, I've enjoyed what I had!" What a cute Mom.

[@vernakroeker2330]

So good to remember to be grateful for all the blessings inspite of the hard stuff that we all get to go through now and then.

[@rebeccasnyder231]

This is in agreement with a sermon Bill Johnson of Bethel preached a few years ago on thankfulness. It has remained with me. Your teaching reinforces it's power for wellness in all the areas we need it! Thankyou!

[@joyofsalvation100]

I'm very grateful for everything that I have. Thank you, Lord. I love you Lord.

[@ElizaS-dy4nh]

Gratitude is vital as changes our focus to the positive, tho can take time to get there after the need to vent, be heard & validated about the painful & hard stuff! (whenever that happens). Really..it's doing it God's way! Thnx, Dr Cloud...ur such a blessing to us all! ❤

[@Ana-rb7ws]

Thankful for our beautiful home which is a sanctuary of peace in this crazy world. Thank You, God. Everything else will come in its time.

[@nicochui9005]

I am grateful for Henry Cloud to provide this video and the research reminded me to tune my heart with more thanksgiving and gratefulness. As I am in a low mood these days and may want to learn from the society, those angry people, to get protected from being lowered. Yet, I want to be a happy person!!

[@arual11]

.grateful❤️ .humility☺️ .thankfulness🌺 Sweet message

[@midlifethrive1020]

This is one of the best messages I have heard from Dr. Cloud !! and I love what he has taught for years - if you could only have this message, this would be the one.. This is so packed with great knowledge both scientifically and biblically that it will take a few times to soak it all in - To think that Dr. Cloud does this as his 'side' job is mind blowing. The impact this man has made in this world in his part time hours. In addition to Husband, Father, Grandfather, Friend, church member, Doctor, Author ....... Thank you Jesus

[@claudiuroman3161]

I'm very grateful for you Dr Cloud 😄 Praise the Lord for your show and what you do to help others 🙌

[@marykelley5182]

You humble me Doctor. Thank you.

[@theauthenticchannel0]

Hey Dr. Cloud, after a previous relationship, I realized that I have narcissistic tendencies. I felt extremely entitled and it has caused great pain and in some cases irreparable damage to those that I care and love. It’s not who I want to continue to be. This video is so good. There are a lot of videos that are more on the condensing side of narcissism rather than videos that ones with those traits can learn from and change. Thanks again❤

[@lil_Miss_Undrstood]

Thank you, Dr. Cloud for interpreting what humility is and how it is tied to gratitude. This is among the best teachings I've seen. I was struggling with humility and lately, I guess, a sense of entitlement (something I never really had), but picked up from a lot of gaslighting and narci abuse going all the way back to childhood and a very bad relationship, that wasn't one. I picked up from that, I'll be homeless in a day and a half and I guess I've been acting out because I've been through homelessness so many times and losing everything, I lost sight of the important things. You hit home about gratitude for me because I have a lot to be grateful for, though my circumstances are pretty devastating right now. I'm going to begin a gratitude journal, I have a weekly one, but I'm going to begin a daily. Thank you so much for clarifying this subject for me. It's going to make a difference, especially with my relationship with God and others.

[@sol57]

THANKS a LOT DEAR FRIEND, this is profound and GOD INSPIRED. Love it!

[@suzannebunbury2961]

So rich♥️. Thank you

[@kayspitzner3229]

Always looking to express gratefulness to God and people.

[@taylorplayer50]

I'm thankful for this video and for what you're doing to help.

[@triciahallknaut6932]

😇 Praise God for you Dr. Cloud & your team. I am so grateful to the Lord, and I think it is for you & my pastors & leadership praying for me getting over my people phobias. But I still feel triggered by all the people around me so happy with their families that I don't have. Maybe it is envy, but one pastor said I am grieving. I wonder if the Lord wants me to open up about that so others can be more sensitive. But I think the secret is to return to our 1st love which is why I am so happy, feel love and joyful and peaceful despite the hurtful circumstances of others treating me badly or disrespectfully. I know all are involved in our own worship. I know that I am so in love with the Lord and focusing on Him gives me perfect peace. and joy and love. I don't have anything that I thought would make me happy. This was a hard week because I saw my daughter & grandkids for a day, and I miss time with them that others enjoy their families every Sunday. I didn't have pain for a long time, & thought God took it away. And then I didn't hear the Lord, so was under attack. The stuff / things that I have are reminders of answered prayers, & my dad took me to Goodwill to shop when he was alive, knowing how much I wanted to look at and we went to garage sales. I also shopped at Goodwill feeling like I have been treated like trash, and the Lord rescued me. I think we get angry from the intense pain. I know I don't deserve anything, but I have the Lord's love rescuing me out of the trash, brushing me off, and hugging me. That's the dynamic tension between His love and me loving others. I try to love my enemies, so I am good with God. I think that makes me grateful because He is grateful for my choice of obedience, the only good love and respect I can give Him. I told a pastor that I feel like I have gained my soul in my relationship with the Lord but lost the world. When I cried out to the Lord about being isolated, He said, "No, set apart." I know I have always been grateful to my husband, when married, but he wasn't, & so left with the kids. I know God turns all things for good, & so I want to help marriages and families. I always tried to affirm my kiddos, & they left needing their dad, but I grieve the lost time together & don't hardly hear from them. So that I know how Papa God feels losing His kiddos when we didn't know the Truth of His Perfect Love. So that is my message, despite the sadness of the world, but the Perfect Presence of Jesus in us. Happy New Year doc! I am so grateful to the Lord for you and sharing your wisdom and teaching.

[@marieanyez5579]

You are such a blessing Dr. Cloud!

[@angelicaherud-pulido3777]

so beautiful! Thank you Dr Cloud :)

[@Bonnieuxful]

I’m grateful for your show and your good advice Dr.Cloud‼️😊🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻👍🏼

[@anetajohnson8446]

Dr.Cloud, i really enjoy learning from your wisdom and knowledge, especially when you compare the lessons with what the Bible says. Heres my two cents worth! being intowative, as my mother was, iv always been aware of what makes others tick! your observations in this lesson, are spot on! Having traveled most places in the US Canada and Mexico, fact i. if you come from a inviroment where most people are not happy, most likely that will influence you. The oppisit is also true! 2 The happyest people iv seen are people living in a great climate, like Hawaiee. the most unhappy people iv seen are people who hate there job, or where they are living.The Orentials have a saying,, Mother at home not happy, whole family not happy!! iv noticed there is such a thing as inherated personality trates! and i think the enviroment has a bearing on that. "think, Midnight Cowboy, the movie">

[@zaidadeltoro5781]

Ooof! This is the perfect reminder I needed today! Thank you sir! 💞

[@berenicelynn1463]

Good morning, I am very grateful to be alive and HEALTHY and live a minimalist life, so I am very grateful. But sometimes my partner says things that really hurt me - in a "playful" way - and when I try to confront him, he says I pick a fight and am not grateful. Thank you for this podcast. You speak of Envy - maybe I expect my partner to treat me in a specific way, so I will work on that. Thank you. I'm grateful for your podcast.

[@nickolwilson2212]

I think the issue is with your partner, not you. I would recommend you listen to Dr. Clouds video on gaslighting, also Narcissism. You are more than enough & worthy to be treated with love & care. Christ ' many blessings to you dear one. ✨💖🙏💖✨

[@user-ni9ie2xo5g]

Thank you dr cloud for your calm flow of wise Information from you to us. God bless you always

[@ruthmckim3952]

Thankyou Dr. Cloud! This information is incredibly helpful. The eyes of my understanding are being enlightened by this so that I may know the hope of God's calling...thankyou for sharing your insights

[@karadaniel6334]

So good Dr. Cloud! Thank you from a grateful heart!

[@taras4352]

Wonderful message. This really hit home. Thank you, Dr Cloud

[@cathyv3027]

This is such an awesome teaching, so much wisdom. Thank you for sharing, Dr Cloud.

[@sonflowerministriesusa6105]

So good!! Thank you for teaching!!

[@teresawilliams6177]

Thank you! This was needed.

[@caroldmaner1316]

What a wonderful topic of conversation, thank you.

[@jwadewole]

Thank you!

[@Mike-db7ox]

THANK YOU!!!! God Bless

[@BlessedForever888]

Thank you so much Dr. Cloud! This is so true! Gratitude, and especially when it starts with praising and thanking God, is a life-changer! I feel thankful also for KZbin for allowing me to watch these videos!

[@louisejansenvanrensburg679]

Beautiful

[@user-em3np4vr8c]

My 2 sisters are very envious yet one of them has a great job, as solicitor, houses she owns, holidays constant around world, husband, kids with grandchildren yet she is a npd, narcissist, she is mean to me, deliberately, never happy for anyone, envious, mean spirited, she will lie and say she is a good person, my other sister is similar but not so extreme and is on probation with me as i will not put up with her abuse, i am kind and i wish it could be different 💙 ❤️ i have my problems, mainly addiction but i am grateful often reminding myself i havecso much, i am alone mostly, but trying to work on this, i am into esoteric christianity, thanks you are rather amazing love listening!❤❤

[@debbiedeboer3393]

I’m great full for you

[@JenuinelyJay]

Love love this

[@scottfranson4215]

7,166 views • May 18, 2022 • 41.7K subscribers I am grateful for Henry Cloud

[@ChristopherBrowy-gx8wg]

YES!

[@steveholmes3092]

emotionally needs not being met.i e , a child needs love. without it can make them feel unhappy

[@s-lo5291]

Got onto your channel from Joyce Meyer…have your boundaries book on the way from the libraey

[@tearthangel373]

🙏🙏❤️

[@Star-ts5re]

I thought of Betty White as an example. ❤️

[@teresavail5238]

Get msg and reminder

[@banutameem2039]

Thank you so much Dr, cloud. How to be grateful with NPD parents?

[@kimlec3592]

✨🌟✨💛💛💛🌟🌟🌟

[@beyondandback]

I want to know if I am CRAZY or NOT? Idk that kind of LOVE. I knew it once when Holy Spirit transformed me in jail and penitentiary. And then I had to find out who satan was and all that is . O' FATHER when' is it going to end I want my Mind back Please show what I'm doing wrong or what 😭😭😭

[@mhba4866]

What about Single people who get jealous from others who are married?

[@gloriouslastinglips130]

You have to take the thoughts captive. Recognize you are moving into envy and stop it. Tell yourself you are actively thinking evil when you get jealous. Set yourself up to do better. For instance. If you start thinking I’m feeling and thinking Jealous thoughts catch yourself and stop. Tell yourself that’s poison I am drinking and spit it out. The more jealous you are the less attractive you will be. Bitter people are not attractive. It reduces your opportunities to attract healthy happy people into your life.

[@tearthangel373]

Happy people don’t lie and hurt their wives

[@GodnMe]

Thank you for sticking up for victims. ❤️🙏. It's terrible when you aren't believed. Especially if your doctor doesn't even do it. I pray you are growing.

[@Mereship]

Who are we talking about?

[@Dicki793]

@@Mereshipobviously her husband. 😂

[@Robin-xr7si]

Happy people don't harass, stalk an sabotage others. Also, Do you realize Dr. Henry how often you smack your lips?

[@waytruthlife3679]

I am grateful for you and your videos, Dr. Cloud. Thank you for sharing this with us. It’s so important to feel happy bc when you are not you don’t even care about others and can’t serve God effectively. So this info is blessing more than just the people watching 🙏👌🤍😇