Harsh Truths About Bottoming I The Unfiltered Gay Podcast Ep 4

[@kafjaf6387]

As a straight, elderly English woman who generally only watches Chinese Dramas I have NO IDEA how you guys ended up in my algorithm but I'm so glad you did!🥰 You are adorable and I am now in love with all three of you. Can't wait for your next one. 🤗

[@DearStraightPeople]

Welcome to our channel! We have new episodes dropping every Wednesday at 5pm (SG time) ❤

[@kerrymacduff9262]

Hi I’m 57 American I watch all Asian dramas too Mostly Chinese Favorites are Danmei Idk how I got here in life but I will never give them up lol

[@kafjaf6387]

@@kerrymacduff9262 Ha ha I know right? I'm the same. I'm even learning Mandarin because I'm so addicted. I do like Danmei but I'm more drawn to Taiwanese and Thai BL. There's an absolutely lovely Chineses short film about a monk and a soldier - the monk is covered in tatoos of scriptures and the soldier is supposed to guard him. If I think of the name I'll tell you - altho' you probs know it already - it is just lovely. From the actors to the cinematography.. It's great to meet a fellow enthusiast. I'm hooked on short dramas at the moment. Really cheap and loads of un-PC grabbing and throwing around and everyone wears the same clothes all the time - brilliant!🤣

[@Over-490]

Same girlll 😂😂😚 I love it 😂

[@kafjaf6387]

🥰

[@MochaFrappe7]

As a straight woman and BL fan, it's good to have this kind of real talk. ✅️

[@sattasheriff8438]

I totally agree with you

[@EllyShaikh]

Us 😂😄

[@shamkand]

I am a girl, and I can say that not even straight relationships get portrayed well, not even in this day in age. So it must have been even less for the LGBTQ+ , these videos must be very very helpful for a lot of people from the community.

[@dthompson1313]

This is why it's so important for these shows/films to properly depict some of these issues because they romanticize everything and porn is just unrealistic. Both not helpful to someone who is not experienced. Thank you for your honesty.

[@hugecake4178]

100% agree, i think mostly because most of BLs especially from Thailand is written by women. Most of the sex scenes doesnt make sense 😅😅😅

[@Yosatorn_Asavapatr]

while its true that BL novel authors mostly women, most Thai BL directors &producers are men. in shows/ films/ series (adaptation) its directors &producers decisions to make adjustment &/ properly depict these issues/ scenes. Aof Noppharnach (Moonlight Chicken, Last Twilight), Jojo Tichakorn (Only Friends, Heart Killers), Golf Tanwarin (Eclipse, Wandee Goodday) are few directors proudly part of LGBTQ+ community. Aof &Jojo especially like to use their own experience than adapt BL novels for their series.

[@dianemarieevans9145]

I am also a straight woman. Love your show. Also I think it's good to have the "Real Talk" so the inexperienced can learn from you. Keep up the great shows!

[@Fujoshi13]

"Dear Straight People"... Yes I'm straight and I'm all ears for you guys. Love the unfiltered conversation. Very interesting and you guys are super fun to watch. Love you and looking forward for the next video. Thanks beautiful bottoms 😍😘

[@zeezenny]

BL Fans wassup???? 😂😂😂 nice meeting you here 👌 My girlies how did we endd up here 😅😅😅

[@amani.nausan]

No idea !! But I'm all for it😂😂😂

[@preciouschiaka3972]

😂😂 Hey bestie

[@ellentamatey947]

😂😂🙈

[@deborahmaggiel9716]

Hi

[@BridgetMoragwa]

😂😂

[@loriwentz3391]

I have gay friends and have always wanted to ask questions, but asking them about how they have sex is way too akward. So I appreciate finding out the answers from you guys....very interesting and informative.

[@staciereynolds5094]

Same. I always thought I would sound disrespectful if I asked questions.

[@agneteht]

By thankful :P one of my friends tells me more than I ever wanted to know about anything biological of the ptocess 😂 still since my sis does the same it's all good.

[@alicefong9412]

@@agneteht

[@EnHub]

FYI: this is a good segment for all those who always wondered or who lacks knowledge. Getting it from real source gives more direct, unedited and real info.

[@staciereynolds5094]

This is the conversation that all young gay men need to watch! You guys are so real and adorable. I have 1 question though- Do you guys believe that some guys are born to be tops and some guys bottoms?

[@Khandiee]

I don’t know how this ended up in my algorithm but I’m sooo happy it did 😁

[@NoOne-gh7vu]

Straight woman in the States. Thank you for your honesty and advise. And you guys are really funny.

[@sunillinus27]

It’s nice to see you guys having this kind of honest conversations and discussions that goes into sex..people should be more open towards discussing it!❤

[@MindyPowell-hu4if]

Totally agree. I am a straight woman but have experimented and yes it is very painful but does get better. I personally think that the Top should be responsible for your before and after care. That includes a few condoms and very good lub. The only thing the bottom needs is to clean them out. If its there first time then this also something the top needs to provide. Good look and stay safe. 🤗

[@leanne4896]

How did all us straight women end up on this one! (Hmmmm how many BLs have I watched? 🙂) Anyway, what a great thing that you are open about the reality of sex, regardless of what sex is doing it. Honestly, I doubt anyones first time was great, but sex education in schools is very ‘straight’ so I feel for those who aren’t and have to go searching for info that should freely available to everyone. Yeah, porn, not doing our young people any favors. And even BLs are kind of not doing favors either, they rarely show condoms or lube in use which I think is just wrong. I hope the people who need to see this do see it. ❤

[@janicegray3415]

Love you guys so refreshing, stay well and love your sense of humour for a topic that should be talked about, school doesn’t tell kids everything, respect ❤

[@Miosotis]

This was actually super informative and fun to watch!! :D

[@christinemwangi]

How my algorithm brought me here only the good Lord knows!!😂😂But I'm learning so much of things I didn't even know I was curious about.. Gonna subscribe right away...😊

[@JK-uu9if]

I’m straight, but you guys crack me up!

[@MatteBlack2024]

You guys are adorable and so authentic. In grad school, I met a guy who had come to the states for school from Singapore. Really charming. We took a liking to each other, almost emotional. He resembled Isaac. We never acknowledged a sexual chemistry but over time, he became comfortable with brotherly affection. The following year, he did not return. I asked an administrator friend of his whereabouts. He was a royal and had been called home. I never heard from him again and still think of him occasionally because the unique bond we enjoyed was just that powerful.

[@lorraineyang2271]

Royal? We have no official royal family. Do you mean a royal who grew up in Singapore, or simply a powerful/ rich Singaporean family?

[@keanulewis1294]

Fake

[@localboi75]

You guys are the bomb. So true and important topic to discuss and so funny. So true about your own experience. Love you guys. Aloha Hawaii

[@Cinco-da-mayo]

As a gay, I loved your honest confessions about bottoming and what y'all use. Safe sex should "TOP" priority and not marginalised with whom should carry what! Isaac is the cutest and looks like a vers than being bottom.I love your candid confessions and breaking the stereotype.

[@jakobie]

To all my first timer btms, having good lube is just a minor part of the equation. How u loosen urself pre session and how experienced and patient ur top is, are equally impt to minimise the pain. Having some alcohol and the “likes”, always help too. That said, regardless of all the measures and prep work u can possibly make, it’ll still hurt.

[@Seren-386]

As a straight woman who just happens to like back door being ahem being used. I had two shots of tequila the first time, and a pillow to bite on 😊😂😂 after that first time I was good. And no mess either other than his 😂😂😂

[@SoneaT]

That's my experience as well. About loosing up, we always are going to do it as foreplay 😅. As I don't like doing it, by myself.

[@TemisCin]

I would say avoid the desensitization lubed for your first time too. It may lead to not realizing when a small pain is something going wrong. I’m female but have been restricted in my gender preferences and have been deeply into the kink scenes you get a very broad education

[@etcwhatever]

​@@Seren-386 I'm a woman too and my first doing that it didn't hurt...and I c@me 😂😂😂 to be honest idk even how the guy achieved such a good experience for me. But yeah...he never hurt me 😂

[@Fforthai]

Idk how I got here but I’m staying 😩 I was actually wondering about this

[@bekasjakarta8309]

nice topic, very entertaining but the audio, so sorry you guys have to make it clear and louder! cant wait another episode :))

[@mcmanpa]

Bad choice of room: the sound bounces off the bare surfaces; a room with wood panelling or curtains would be better.

[@christinatoney3712]

Thanks for being Candid!! I had no idea

[@sumreayjoseph6942]

I don't understand why you guys need to talk about it but I'm laughing my a** off!

[@nevergiveupbozo]

Thank you for this educational video ❤ the youth of today won't have much problems when there's unfiltered honest guys like you

[@cherrylhirsch7738]

Love your show! Educational and funny. Keep up the good work. Worth a subscription!!!

[@fungkyhartono1461]

i am totally agree with the supply of all essential necessary things for top that suppose to be the top provide it by themself.

[@sawboaz242]

To hit the G-Spot, the top has to have a curved tool but not too curved. I died hearing this. 😂😂

[@ATLG1RL727]

Is there a “g-spot” for a bottom?

[@sawboaz242]

@@ATLG1RL727 I guess there is an organ called prostate and every man has it. As far as I know, this is the place where they mentioned it as G-spot bec it feels good.

[@kafjaf6387]

@@ATLG1RL727 More like the 'P' spot😆

[@SoneaT]

Yeah 😂 P spot like in prostate.... To hit this spot, someone needs to know where it is 😉

[@ATLG1RL727]

Fascinating!!!

[@vivianidelacerda9708]

Dude, you guys suffer a lot ... Glad it gets better with experience. All the best to u all...

[@aisha02a]

aiyo when isaac smiles he looks like park bo gum a bit! anyways 3 of u are so fkng hilarious i love this episode, extremely educational and important

[@jrogervaughan]

Wish such info was available in my youth! I was quite ignorant about having sex with another guy - having sex without proper foreplay & the all essential lube & condom could be quite uncomfortable & painful for both. I attempted to bottom but was so bad I never submitted since! I became a top ever since. However, as a top, I became very experienced & attentive to the needs of the other guy - to ensure any role play/position/physical action was agreed beforehand. Watching this vid was very educational & I thoroughly enjoyed & appreciated their honesty & frankness. Thank you, gents 👍😉❤️

[@richardneo]

" Oh you are very small perfect " OH dear. That was hilarious .

[@visions30]

Truly sensational conversation that's both educational not just for gays as well as interesting when it came to the use of a sex toy yet again. Maybe for future shows add some props or hold up some illustrations to keep the interactions going. Keep up the great work people!

[@MegMegan-qv4if]

Seconded👍

[@JiKook1009]

I absolutely loved your podcast. You all are amazing 💜💜

[@Brendah-wk9iw]

This message is really important for all sexualities.thank you for sharing with us , hope more people need to watch such videos koz they are informative and educative to the community not only queer people

[@thewolfdreamer6181]

This was so much fun and informative to listen to, lol 😂❤

[@stefanigallage8139]

how the hell did i ended up here. anyway this talk is so informative. we should encourage people to do more videos like this.

[@Plutonelli123]

Im a pansexuel Women and i love how you guy's talk.

[@preciousndukaku3298]

I'm new here 😂😂 And I'm happy, maybe its because I'm a BL fan😊😊

[@Khandiee]

This is really good information 👍🏽

[@mary-janeng8328]

I love you guys, so honest and funny about your experiences❤

[@kotztuelle8]

Love you guys, hope you helped some uninformed- you are all three verynhandsome and charming, wish you all the best!

[@tzegaing9313]

Isaac is soooo my type ❤

[@sandrakarls8466]

Mine too! But I´m a woman!😪

[@tzegaing9313]

@@sandrakarls8466 If it is any consolation, both of us will never have him hahaha 🤣

[@TemisCin]

About 24 years ago I wrote a guide for fanfic authors about how to write all sorts of sexual scenes and what not to write. It started off with Sand is only sexy in movies. I lost the file over the years but yeah lots of really dangerously written scenes.

[@sila3263]

no way there is an uncencored version of this, how much more open can it get?😂

[@philipjohn4681]

7:20 RIGHT????? WE EFFORT ALOTTTT!!! LIKE😭😭😭

[@Jackie-cl2qe]

As a lesbian this knowledge is useless to me, but I'm nosy af so

[@joshwai]

I try to imagine Isaac being bottom.. lol

[@khalove69]

Omg..imnot sure how this came up butlove u guys and discussion.🥰🥰🥰 as female there are guys who can be insensitive to foreplay and lube needed back there.

[@BangkokHotelReviews]

Haha. Really interesting. I love the unfiltered chat about this topic. I do have a theory about about the question of 'why tops expect the bottoms to have the lube and condom'.

[@christabelokoye8880]

I just learned new information thank u ❤❤

[@Mimi-yo1ct]

Ok, I will watch later and save this video

[@Hellokitty_391]

Before watching this i already read on some site about how bottoming really hurts, and all the corn actors are just literally acting to make sure everyone that it's a good seggs. Thx for the video btw ❤

[@thetalkwithTiamar]

I had to subscribe to this 😂😂😂

[@deltablue-cm8ib]

This seems like alot of damn work!!

[@gabrielamanavella8064]

I need like an update on how this is going after this talk!!

[@NanaNi-du5fg]

Watch Seegasm's esp his older videos. He's THE KING.

[@albertranara3996]

I love the tampines to jurong again 🤣🤣🤣

[@agneteht]

The breathing thing basically means bottoms need to go to antenatal classes?

[@yappyyap7594]

LOL @ 11:36 about he flute joke!! WTH!

[@kamatis1190]

Im straight but im enjoying this conversation 😂😂

[@HappinessMoyo-c6h]

I don't even know why I watched this,,, but it's funny 🤣🦋

[@hbcruzat]

Isaac Isaac....

[@shyphirenflowerchild4631]

Love your videos. It wonderful to hear unfiltered candid view points. I'm a Bi woman and am what is called a Switch in Canada. Hearing your stories made me smile, laugh and relate. Brought back a lot of fun and enjoyable memories. The gramma's panties had me laughing loud and hard as a gramma. PS: Both the Top and Bottom responsibilities to keep condoms, lub, douches, wipes, toys, etc... on hand. This is from 53 years of reveling in the joys of sex. Addendum: Buy the combination package of anal dildo that are 3-4 sizes to have your anus to adjust to being stretched for future partners. It will save a lot of pain, suffering, and blood. It is all about learning your own body first so you can communicate effectively to person you are having sex with. Regardless of their sex role.

[@thetalkwithTiamar]

As a bl fan,, I can't with y'all 😂😂😂😂

[@philipjohn4681]

Love this thoo😭 can i ca relateeee

[@BangkokHotelReviews]

You mentioned tops in Singapore. I have a questions about that. I though homosexuality is illegal in Singapore. We even cancelled our trip tip to Singapore about that.

[@kissie415]

I learn so much from this podcast😅

[@henry9571]

If everytime got blood it sounds like you have piles that are bleeding

[@sandrakarls8466]

I am a straight woman and back in the days my boyfriend was always eager to experience my back side once! I gave in and it was so painfull and I bleeded, even though he tryed to be careful and slow and he used a ton of lubricant. I couldn´t endure it and this few moments were the first and the last time I didn´t allowed it to anybody! One day I saw a doku about a porn star and she said for preperations she is emptying her colon and before the scenes she is taking muscle relaxing medicine for the anus. But my question is... it sounds like the top is always the top, and the bottom is always the bottom! Don´t you switch if one is "done"? Bc I see this as unfair! The top has always an orgasm! Thank you for beeing so honest and it was so interesting! You guys are great! Little funny side note: Years later, he got hemorrhoids and he told me that he could finally understand my pain!🤣🤣

[@annak.5477]

Oh wow, I'm sorry to read this. In my case, I'm straight woman too and I used to do anal sex with my kids' father. In my case, the kissing and touching until I was very excited was very important, also stretching the anus with fingers (until three fingers) while I was kissedv before penetration. I never experienced pain and was very pleasurable. In fact, the orgasms were better when I did anal sex combined with clit stimulation. Those left me shaking like an earthquake lol. The first times we used fingers, later I learned to use the enfinter and it was't necessary using fingers.

[@SoneaT]

I guess there are switches, like there are only tops and only bottoms. But I'm not gay, so it's only an assumption. Bottoms can have orgasms. I don't know if it's common, but there is the prostate inside the anus, who can generate orgasms (my friend said he needs friction on his d i c k as well).

[@IWriteEssaysSorry]

Everyone is definitely different. I'm a straight female and have had anal sex several times with decent sized male. I never thought it hurt at all, but was just very uncomfortable - like I was constipated 😂. It definitely didn't feel good as I'm not sure a woman can feel good that way (correct me if I'm wrong). I just did it for him. I sometimes used lube and sometimes didn't, never douched and never bled either 🤷🏽‍♀️. I know vaginal douching is bad for you, but I guess frequent anal douching isn't?

[@vivianidelacerda9708]

So sorry for the pain u went through...

[@assiduous113]

This is so fun to watch, but I find it quite hard to understand.. Pls, pls, can you put an English subtitle pls.. 😊❤

[@raikantopeni1195]

This video is so helpful, thank you T_T

[@MichaelBrooksmsb400]

Part of the talk about bottoming must include 1 important factor involved....Prolapsed Anus. The Anus was not created to receive, but to allow 💩 to pass. You cannot have it both ways without any negative consequences.

[@ATLG1RL727]

Interesting!

[@HumanSagaVault]

7:11 OH MY GOSH! i have a very controversial reason for this, the reason why Tops expect the bottom to provide everything thus: "cond*ms and Lube" is because tops feels like they are giving the bottoms a favor(the s3x) so in return bottoms should be the one to prepare everything or spend everything. also Tops looks at themselves as Dominant Alphas, so in their minds they feel like they should be served well by their sub bottoms, thus the reason why they expect bots to do everything for them INCLUDING SPENDING on little stuff like lube and condoms. am i right or am i right? 😅

[@MegMegan-qv4if]

You are right but the notion is wrong!

[@HumanSagaVault]

@@MegMegan-qv4if ok, that's your opinion🥰🤭

[@MegMegan-qv4if]

@@HumanSagaVault Yeah, what happens to sharing responsibilities and enjoyment together, give and take, pun also intended

[@HumanSagaVault]

@@MegMegan-qv4if you are misunderstanding me, what im sharing above is just the reality of how i perceive things, i dont agree with tops doing that to their bots xD

[@MegMegan-qv4if]

@@HumanSagaVault Oh..oh

[@theindigocharm708]

Idk how I got recommend this... Guess I watched way too BLs... But I loved the discussion. 😊😊😊 Love to you guys from India🇮🇳

[@FarwanAhmed-g9z]

I'm a bottom gay. So I established myself as a girl among people. If there is a girlish attitude in the homosexuality of boys, absolute happiness is met. In the same way, if there is a boyish attitude in the homosexuality of girls, absolute happiness is met. As in the case of boys, so in the case of girls. I think homosexuality will be in heaven.🏞

[@charlottebreton6796]

As a BL fan I want to learn more info on this.

[@KAILLANCE69THEGAMER1]

my first time i never knew how to douce , which was some months and now whenever I try to do that I bleed or tear, so I just realized I wasn't born for this and plus I don't feel pleasure from sex at all so I realized I was asexual/autosexual.

[@zythr9999]

There you go, nothing wrong with that.

[@KAILLANCE69THEGAMER1]

@@zythr9999 yeah

[@datle2863]

The audio quality is not very good in this video. Too much echo

[@NickiGaming999]

My firstine is I don't clean but I do intermittent fasting so there's no peanut butter 😂😂

[@ClaireMunich]

So funny! Thanks for the laugh!

[@sajanarai5879]

Fujoshi here!!!!

[@PJMera13]

Same! Lol

[@dongdimal9136]

Isaac is damn cute..gwapo

[@borntorepent]

you guys made me laugh .. hahaahha .. so cute ..

[@raikantopeni1195]

I heard douching isn’t safe tho?

[@arnoldbucoy1259]

HAHAHAH informative and funny

[@hatsuharuboi]

When I know that I will bottom (I'm vers), after douching, I put a plug down there and then you are ready whenever 😂 sometimes when you are hot and bothered is difficult to properly prepare to receive... there is a level of relaxation you need to have to be able to loose up your cherry... so doing previously and puting a plug works for me

[@imamsanji]

If it's hurt that bad, why do people want to do that?

[@philipjohn4681]

It only hurts at first but later on it actually felt good hahaha😅

[@zythr9999]

If it hurts, they're probably not a bottom. Bottoming is not supposed to hurt.

[@agneteht]

I think it goes for any sort of sex that the way it is portrayed has little to do with real life, starting from how rarely condoms, and awkward situations are portrayed. Real sex is great but clumsy and messy at times. I remember a guy being traumatised by a girl slipping a butplug in him the first time they ever had sex without any prior agreement. All of these awkward scenes... going down on sweaty balls and trying to get out of it etc. also men and women don't necessarily naturally have things that work the first times. There are lots of embarrassing and awkward first moments 😂

[@Angelnucyyy]

Hey bl besties where are you? So it's mostly lies we're all watching 😂😂😂

[@soramshaberi2004]

😂😂😂😂 i am here

[@bldramaroom]

I dunno what happen to my algo why this pop up on my timeline but good thing coz I kinda interested in this topic because I am so into BLs so I wanna understand gays, and how its works or what not. So them discussing how painful the first time you bottoming. It is the same feelings for girls like u dunno where is this rolling eyes, opening mouth kinda feeling coz is freak**g so painful the first time.

[@beny5710]

Isaac is sooo cute

[@andym.3506]

Isaac you are cute!

[@thetalkwithTiamar]

Omg am dying😂😂😂😂😂

[@ChiamakaLisa-j2b]

😂😂😂😂this so funny

[@breathe8214]

subtitles would be great

[@woodliao317]

do a TOP episode, ahahXD

[@geegee9538]

Hehehe love dos talk😁😁😁😁