Has Testosterone Made Me Less Asexual?

[@Boris8930]

Some difinitions first: Asexual refers to people who do not experience sexual attraction toward others, as well as people who experience limited or conditional sexual attraction[2] and relate to the label asexual more than other sexual identity terms. They may experience other forms of attraction, such as romantic, sensual, or aesthetic attraction. Asexuality is a sexual orientation,[3] not a behavior, choice, or medical condition. Some asexual people choose to engage in sexual activities for various reasons despite not experiencing sexual feelings and desire toward any particular person. Asexuality is part of the asexual spectrum (abbreviated "ace spectrum"), an umbrella term and a broad community of identities that are closely related to asexuality when placed on a spectrum ranging from asexual to allosexual. Libido, which means sex drive or the desire for sex, varies dramatically from one person to the next. It also varies depending on a person’s preferences and life circumstances. Libido can be affected by medical conditions, hormone levels, medications, lifestyle and relationship problems. Many new couples will go through an early period of having a lot of sex that then decreases over time. On the other hand, a busy life can leave some people too tired or preoccupied to even think about sex. Unless you are worried about your sex drive or it is causing problems between you and your partner, you do not need to seek professional help. So concluesion: libido/sexdrive and asexuality is two diffent things. you can be asexual with hight libido (hight sex drive, but dont feel sexual attarction), Allosexual with low libido (experience sexaul attraction with a low sex drive) and anything in between. Dont be afraid if you have libido/sex drive as asexual, you are still asexual with a sex drive/libido. I was used to identify as demisexual and bisexual, but now I identify as grey aroace/grevrose, but maybe i am aroace and I have a hight libido.

[@jam-yh3bl]

thanks for this video really helpful!

[@Grapes-nk2vk]

I identify as asexual; it's the one identity I have always felt completely certain and comfortable in. I've never felt attraction, never felt "horny" or had any libido whatsoever, never had sex or masturbated or anything. (And I'm over 20 years old, so definitely at the age where if I was going to feel these things, I probably would have by now.) I am interesting in going on T because I am masc non binary, but I am scared of what this might do to my asexuality. I've had a hard time finding stories of people who are in my exact same situation (never felt any libido whatsoever). I am sex repulsed and honestly I really don't want to feel any new sexual drive. I'm afraid that I'm going to lose the one identity that I've always felt sure about. Thanks for sharing your story

[@aru8536]

^similar situation here, I would be really curious if anyone has an experience like this and would be comfortable sharing

[@that_cat21]

oh shit exact same here, with the added bonus of being lesbian (homoromantic asexual), i don’t wanna lose either my asexuality or change my romantic attraction

[@caroluvsrainbows13]

in this video when you say people wouldn't be able to comprehend the nuances of asexuality, or that people might say you're not ace enough, please don't believe that 💚 im ace and aro and your channel has been a huge help for me, I relate to what you say a lot. And if someone ever criticizes you for sharing your personal experiences and tries to tell you a part of your identity is wrong, please remember you have supporters who are totally here for you who will always be thankful 💜🖤💚

[@CelesteM]

Thank you!! That means so much to me and I'm so glad that my videos have helped you 💗

[@sadfaery]

On the subject of testosterone and asexuality, there's an asexual binary male trans KZbinr, Aaron Ansuini, who does the You're So Brave weekly podcasts with Chase Ross and who also has his own channel, and he talks a lot on both channels about being asexual, including his experience of asexuality plus testosterone.

[@CelesteM]

Yes! I love Aaron! Anyone interested can find him here: kzbin.info/door/hKlTFo745L9crVvLG19aCA

[@mckenziebottoms5724]

Thanks so much for this video, I think we've had similar experiences with asexuality and T and it was really cool and validating to hear about yours

[@applepie9937]

Thank you! This reflects exactly what i am feeling. You don't suddenly get attracted to people. But you feel the sensation more. But it has no direction. It's just a kinda bubbeling feeling in your stomache.

[@ladybugmitchell8234]

i am trans male and asexual, and was wondering if t would give me a sex drive or attraction. so i'm glad you made this video

[@elonnabettini]

thank you ! this was super helpful & informative ~ it was wonderful to have someone's personal perspective on this

[@CelesteM]

Awesome, I'm so glad 💗

[@andrew4635]

This definitely isn’t talked about enough! So thank you for making this video :) I have similar experiences of peaks and valleys in terms of frequency of masturbation. Overall more often than pre-T, but it’s not something that’s distressing to me (I have more fun by myself anyways! :p) Bottom growth has been such a non-issue, but that part of my anatomy was also a non-issue pre-T. Months go by where I forget to check if there’s been any change :p

[@ravenwills5655]

I really connected with what you said in this video, thank you so so much for making it. Makes me feel less alone, because I'm the same way, except I experimented with trying to have sex, but it obviously didn't turn out. But thank you, I often worry people will think I'm not ace enough. But that's not true so congrats on your bravery.

[@Name-oe4fq]

I was cautious of identifying as aroace before T Bc i thought that T could change my sexuality but it made me really sure that I'm aroace instead 💀

[@jazziez6467]

Can you image changing your mind again and having to live with the mistake?

[@CelesteM]

Nope! It's been almost 6 years and I've never regretted it 😊