He Ghosted Me Again | A Very Honest Chat About The Aftermath

[@YouCouldBe]

Ghosting is cowardly. A person who would rather ghost than be honest after being involved with you in that way has a LOT of work to do on themselves and a lot of maturing to do. It’s okay to be sad about being treated disrespectfully. Respect should always be given regardless of the nature of a relationship. Onwards and upwards - good things lie ahead ❤

[@saywinkepilogue]

Agreed!!!

[@KittysLoveSpells]

I felt this way a lot when dating before I met my partner. I almost knew that it wasn't going to work out but still fell for each person. I figured each person was a lesson bringing me closer to MY person. 💖 I also always loved people and put my heart on the line, but they weren't able to return it. It feels so worth it now. All sorts of experiences still are important and have meaning!!

[@saywinkepilogue]

Completely agree! Ps I’m really happy you found your person.

[@lawrencelam6719]

Great videos and you look very beautiful in all of your videos too and I really understand your frustrations too.

[@katiejobe7013]

This is an important, relevant topic. Thank you for sharing. Sending you love here❤❤🌹

[@saywinkepilogue]

Thank you for taking the time to listen. I very much appreciate it

[@vivianebroda2957]

Please tell me you dumped your “friend” who said, “well you had your fun.” She is so CLEARLY jealous of you and your ability to live life completely freely!!! Women’s sexuality should be celebrated, and I’m completely comfortable with women talking about their sexuality and body count. My count is higher than yours and I’m 31. I don’t give a damn who thinks I’m a slut or not, I am currently in a relationship, the happiest, most mature, serious, and incredible relationship I’ve ever been in, in my entire life!! I never would have met him if I hadn’t tried others out first to see if they were the right fit for me. Your friend is so jealous that she can’t do what you do. I GUARANTEE that she is a closet sex monstress (in a good way). But she totally wishes she had the self confidence and ability to explore and just LIVE!! You deserve a great man girl, don’t worry! You’ll find him :)!

[@saywinkepilogue]

Aw thank you for saying that! I really appreciate it with all the slut shaming going on since talking about this. I love that you own your own sexuality and are secure enough to support someone else. I feel like the world needs more of this! Thank you! I am super happy for you by the way. I do think finding who you want to be with is a process but I am glad that you have the best version of that for you. Thank you again!

[@SweetBlyss]

Michelle, thank you for always sharing with us! I've been a subscrber for a really long time and I admire you for still sharing your experiences. We've seen you in a long term relationship and have to navigate your independence and new relationships over the years. I think some people will never understand because you are older figuring things out, whereas if you were in your 20s nobody would be counting partners for you or thinking anything about it! You are a mature adult and this is where you are in your journey, don't let anyone make you feel anything negative about it. The Internet can be such a wonderful place to feel connection especially if you are old school KZbin where this is literally what people did, just share their lives, not their perfect lives. As for your friend that made some comments that hurt you. As long as you tell them how you felt and they don't continue to do that, don't hang onto that too long. Keep being your authentic self and take care girlie!

[@saywinkepilogue]

Your comment made me feel so wonderful today thank you! You have no idea. This can be rough and you’re exactly why it’s worth doing. Thank you ❤️

[@mpuppybreath]

That's amazing... Your website is up and running! Congrats!!

[@saywinkepilogue]

Thank you!!! ❤️❤️

[@toad4112]

This happened to me now. But I think it’s okay. The first time, I actually felt physical pain. Now, I’m just a little upset, but i try to focus on my life. Workout and hype myself up.

[@saywinkepilogue]

I think that’s all you can do! Ps I’m sorry you experienced this.

[@elizabethsmith5615]

I know it's hard and really you made a mistake taking him back the second time. But I do understand. It's hard being in love with someone who wasn't in love with you. Now is the time to ignore him and move on. I'm saying this with a caring heart ❤️

[@saywinkepilogue]

I wasn’t in love with him though that wasn’t really my goal with him, but I appreciate your words thank you!

[@88erendira]

I feel like you have shared lots of good news! Sorry you were judged.

[@saywinkepilogue]

Thank youuu my friend ❤️

[@aaronfelcity1403]

Not feelings. Not words. Just actions. It’s definitely hurtful and so many people have been there, but what use is it to cry about it. You can’t change it. I don’t think it’s not being comfortable with being a woman and sexual, it’s just like be realistic. Obviously men act a certain way for sex. Make them wait if you want commitment and see if their actions match their words.

[@saywinkepilogue]

I think ghosting happens by shitty people no matter how long you wait. I looked this up on Reddit and some people have rules like wait 4 months and the “real” ones will stick around and the ghosters will ghost long before then so at least you’re not being used. I personally don’t care about preventing this but enjoying my experience and putting in this arbitrary wait time is stupid. If I can treat someone with respect after one time and end it to their face then someone else can. I think crying about it is ok to do. I built a connection with this person for 3 months and then it was gone. To me that’s sad and part of the process is crying. I don’t think I explained myself well with why I brought up female sexuality. I said it in terms of who is viewing my video and the tendency for people to blame me as the ghostee for being ghosted. I tried to have a casual friends with benefits relationship and the person ghosted me so I knew explaining that to the public there would be people who wanted to say well you should only seek a long term stable partner then if you don’t want to be treated like that. It blames me. As if you should only get sympathy if you were pursuing the “correct things” that’s what I meant about it makes people uncomfortable I didn’t mean guys ghost me because they’re uncomfortable with my sexuality.

[@namasteavl]

If you’re doing a ‘friends with benefits’ relationship with strangers off dating apps, you’re going to get ghosted. You can’t expect a no-strings-attached situation to be a committed relationship. You’re too emotionally invested. Get your needs met if that’s what you’re looking for. If you want a relationship or commitment, then you need to switch your approach. You’re almost 40 and sharing this stuff on the internet feels like a replacement for therapy, which is what you would benefit the most from. Again, you’re looking to strangers to emotionally connect to and console you when you can’t do it for yourself. Don’t know how I found this video, but I highly recommend speaking to a counselor.

[@saywinkepilogue]

There is nothing I can say that will allow you to understand from my experience and my wants. You don't know the full context of my friends with benefits arrangement or what we were even trying to get out of it. A lot of your advice is based upon assumptions that are not true. You probably watched one video of mine where I talk vaguely about the end result then you decided I needed counseling. This is why people do not say real shit on the internet. I am sharing so real shit on the internet can exist I'm not sharing for advice or sympathy.

[@coriolisse]

@namasteavl: Agreed! The truth hurts, but therapy could be helpful in setting some realistic goals and expectations for this lady. By 40, people usually accept that one can’t have hookups and expect to be treated like a significant other-and viceversa! Hookups are perfectly fine for casual sex, but they work best for people who just want booty calls and don’t mind being treated as disposable every now and then. Sending mixed signals about this dynamic is the fastest way to get ghosted…

[@Alicepicklesandpop]

How exciting. That’s a big win. 🎉🎉

[@saywinkepilogue]

Aw thank youuuuu! You’re very sweet

[@marramambertamarramamberta9107]

You are beautiful inside and outside.

[@saywinkepilogue]

Thank you ❤️

[@solenarrative3983]

Actually needed to hear this message so thank you.

[@saywinkepilogue]

You’re very welcome ❤️

[@Birdiegirl_eth]

You’re beautiful for you ❤

[@saywinkepilogue]

Thank you

[@poppycunnea]

But u are so responsible for what u do to you

[@toad4112]

Fool me one time, shame on you. Fool me twice, can’t put the blame on you.

[@saywinkepilogue]

I don’t know exactly what you mean but if I understand correct I think thank you!

[@saywinkepilogue]

I see what you mean and I personally do understand I am also to blame. This is also why I didn't want to tell people what happened. It's very easy to be like I told you so and to be like well you deserved this. Part of working through the kinks with someone is listening to what they tell you and giving chances and part of life is to recognize when not to do that. It's a difficult balance at times to get right.

[@somethinggood-sy1ed]

Quality men don't hang out on apps.

[@saywinkepilogue]

That’s fair but when you work for yourself and don’t know anyone yet it’s a little more efficient to do it from the apps than to sit at a bar or be at a spot consistently to try and meet people organically. Had I never moved I’d know where all quality people are.

[@Rattynattynat]

This just isn’t true. If I am on an app and I know I’m a quality person…likely other quality people are there too.

[@saywinkepilogue]

@@Rattynattynat exactly