He Was Our Big Little Baby Boy | Stillbirth Story From A Mom Of Loss

Stephanie and Winter talk about the birth of baby Sebastian. Stephanie recounts the difficulty of getting pregnant due to infertility issues. The joy of finally finding out that she and her husband were pregnant. The happy little family that they were and the excitement as the days ticked down to his due date. Stephanie tells us about finding out that Sebastian had passed and the pain of having to deliver him via C-Section because he was 10 lbs. Stephanie is a proud mamma and she truly loves her baby boy.
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[@michellemitchell114]

I’m so very sorry for your loss. He was Beautiful👼🏻. I lost my baby at 16 weeks and 20 years later I still think of all the milestones my son does alone without his sister. I kept my baby’s ashes also. I have my mother’s ashes also. I told my husband and son that when I pass I want them with me. I couldn’t bring myself to spread my child or my mom’s ashes. That’s okay though.

[@thedaringeyebrowtwins4224]

My heartfelt condolences on your loss. I've lost 2 baby girls. One who passed a few hrs after birth and our second who was stillborn. Just like you, I keep my girls' ashes with me and couldn't imagine them being anywhere but with me.

[@kierstyntowers4674]

I watch all of these videos, I have no children yet, but I just feel the memories of these babies and the experience of all these mothers is so important for me to feel. To just listen and remember them. I am grateful for the vulnerability. You are heard, you are loved, you are strong, and I promise to remember all the babies like Sebastian❤

[@Luluisraging.86]

I pray you will realize your dream of having a baby one day. I feel the pain of these families as well, I’ve never had children. I had to have a total hysterectomy at age 31. Still single at ALMOST 57.

[@StonesofErya]

35 here, no babies of my own either but really feel for these souls who came to this earth to say hi and much more for us all to figure out. Much love to all of you families, viewers and little angels ❤

[@sylwiam-k7305]

I lost my baby on six week of pregnancy. Many people told me that was ONLY a miscarege .. but for me it was my baby… i miss him or her in every second of my life.

[@janinemaxwell4297]

Yes it is your baby regardless of how pregnant you were.

[@kass_G59]

Your pain & heartbreak is valid. Sending you all the love & hugs 🫂❤️‍🩹

[@charlottedkroner6834]

Every single one of your videos just tugs so hard at my Mommy heart... I have 3 angel babies and I have 6 earth side miracles... My eldest angel baby would be 36 years old this year... I still remember that day like it was yesterday... You never forget your babies... Your Son Sebastián is perfection... He is gorgeous... I'm not sure if you noticed it or not, but he sent you a message, letting you know that he loves you and he knows that he is loved and is wanted... In the picture of his feet, on his left ankle/foot, his flaking skin, forms a heart... What a priceless,precious child and message he left for you and his Daddy... I just want to hug you both and kiss your foreheads... You will have your rainbow baby... Hold on to each other,and hold on to your faith... Your journey may be long and hard, but the reward is priceless!!! Much love to you both and to this channel for keeping these angel babies thriving in our hearts and our memories!!! 💜💚💜

[@lisajeter9511]

Yes thank you for sharing Sebastian with all of us!

[@shirleyiqbal3995]

What a precious one, so sorry for your loss. I too lost a son, but I was fortunate in that he lived for four hours after birth. Many prayers for you and your husband.

[@richardhutchison3123]

God bless all of you. My Mom lost a premature baby born dead at 5 months in the womb. We placed an engraved angel on her ledger tombstone in memory of her daughter...our sister born on March 2, 1960.

[@ZeldaZelda-RichesToRags]

I’m 72 and still heartbroken about our having infertility after numerous treatments, surgeries and procedures that all failed and its been over 40 years and I’m still struggling with the pain of never having a baby with my husband…. So I don’t know what it feels to lose a baby but in some ways we did lose our baby that never lived and never died as our baby never existed and to us that is just as heartbreaking as having a still birth…a baby that we could never have held or never could love… 💕 but I’m not sure if my pain is as heartbreaking as the stories of the ones told here.

[@pinklife-kristina3066]

Beautiful story and even MORE beautiful little BIG boy. Not a dry eye here for sure. Thank you so much for sharing Sebastian’s story. I hope you do a update soon as so any siblings in the future? Neat things you are doing and seeing. Amazing mama here …. Amazing mama 💗💗💗

[@jayrose1728]

This absolutely broke my heart, what a lucky boy to have such beautiful souls for parents. ❤❤ I’m sending u every bit of love in my heart. Sebastian IS one of the most gorgeous little boys I’ve ever ever seen. Too perfect for this earth. Fly high little man. I know ur mama and daddy will be with you one day again

[@wishingyoupeace]

Omg he’s so beautiful. 😢 I’m so sorry for your loss. Heartbreaking. You are brave. He is absolutely precious.

[@Colorado_Avocado]

Stephanie - I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I’m grieving with you and know your pain. Our babies were lost on the EXACT same day. We lost our Liesl on 11/21/21, when I was 41 weeks.

[@standup2982]

I'm so incredibly sorry for the loss of your baby Sebastian. Sending love from England ❤

[@Luluisraging.86]

I’m so sorry for your loss. Sebastian was a beautiful boy! 💔 I was never able to have children, I had Stage 4 Endometriosis. I had painful periods from day 1. I have never married, and it was always my lifelong dream to be a mother, even from when I was 3 yo. So when I see others go through a full pregnancy, and then have a loss such as yours, I feel it, and it is gut wrenching for me, to feel your pain. Again, I’m so very sorry! ❤

[@colleenfraserdoggiekisses]

I am so sorry this happened to you guys. I am glad you got to share this to help others. I always knew you were special.

[@christinem.carter-wanner5304]

God bless this family

[@psychonauty2020]

he's so beautiful mama. omg. Sebastián is such a beautiful boy. im so sorry he couldn't stay, you did everything right. he knows you love him. sending you all love and congratulations on your beautiful baby boy ❤

[@Hollywood-yv3qy]

Gorgeous lil angels.. i can only think & believe all the perfect babies that were not able to be alive here they are very much alive in the new world that is perfect !¡! You will have eternity together bafter this pit stop❤

[@judiohlson-hawes1908]

Amen 🙏 🙏 well said I believe you and your husband are both amazingly strong couple as well as individuals and please express my gratitude to your husband I thank him for his service to our country and I'm confident that you guys will get your rainbow baby and you will be able to fill that child with so much love and you can tell them about their older big brother sebastian and how he may have been born sleeping with wings but the love that his mommy and daddy have for him is eternal and it can fly on those wings with him and keep him safe and protected until you all can be reunited ❤😊

[@tammyschwartz6066]

Im so sorry about your beauitful baby

[@joannesbardella5413]

So sad, I’m sorry for your loss. Heaven has gained an angel ❤

[@maryellenblount6376]

So very sorry for your loss. He was a beautiful boy and I appreciate you sharing his story.

[@deborahforbush903]

Summer, you are awesome at doing these interviews. You are so compassionate, you truly feel these parents pain! You, my friend are top notch!

[@erinbean7185]

What a beautiful precious Angel. Im so sorry. This made me cry. I cant imagine what you are still going through.

[@juliemacdougall6489]

What a beautiful baby

[@suewinter3693]

What a BEAUTIFUL baby!

[@pinacoloda226]

Im so very sorry for your loss, my heart truly breaks for you guys😭. Remembering him keeps his memory alive. May God continue to bless you both and may you find comfort in His loving arms🙏🏼❤️

[@ruthlarkins2445]

Sorry for your loss, prayers sent

[@nancybeingnancy3081]

how beautiful he is .. may you find peace 🕊️ in this life

[@immegeorge2]

Oh sweet Sebastian! He is waiting for you❤

[@MandyLucas-bh8lh]

So sorry for the loss of your precious baby now with the angels sending you all my love and thoughts good night and God bless you sweetheartxxx

[@gloriagenzale3337]

I am so sorry for your loss. Sebastian was a gorgeous baby. He is now your guardian angel. My deepest condolences to you and your family. God bless you.🙏🏼♥️

[@Dyates-dp4kc]

I’m grieving as well prayers for your healing it hurts to lose your baby that you plan to spend your life with

[@raye5071]

So sorry for your loss . God bless❤

[@cherylware783]

PRAYERS FOR FAMILY

[@kristinsak7515]

What a beautiful boy! May God hold your little angel close to him🙏🏻 💙

[@HappiestGirl69]

I am so very sorry that ALL of this happened to you. Your story hit home so hard for me. My baby lived, thank god, but 18 years ago I was perilously close to this scenario and didn’t even realize it. I also have PCOS & my OB specialized in it because she had it too. I couldn’t get pregnant so she put me on Metformin which helped me to conceive my 1st pregnancy. I had gestational diabetes and gave myself insulin shots through both of my pregnancies. My 1st son weighed 9lbs 5 days before his due date. He was frank breech so I had a scheduled C-section. My 2nd pregnancy is the one that is so similar to yours. My Dr was paying very close attention to myself and my baby. I thought that it was me in danger & didn’t realize it was my baby. Thank god my Dr was seeing me weekly & then having me do non stress tests twice per week. Suddenly, 3 weeks before he was due I was sent from my non stress test to ultrasound and then to amniocentesis and told that it was time for him to be born! I still had no idea that he was in danger. I had another C-section because he was also frank breech. He was born & Dr Bell was so relieved that she peered over the curtain and said “You are done having babies!” He weighed 8lbs 4oz 3 weeks early. Until listening to your story today, I never realized that HE was the one she was worried about when she told me that I was done. I somehow thought it was me. Your baby boy was so beautiful! I’m so sorry that he’s not here with you now! Thank you for telling us about him! ❤

[@wishingyoupeace]

That is a great suggestion about the list.

[@user-ub1ij6wv3l]

I am so sorry for yours loss. My first child in Germany when he was in the military when I got pregnant. We had not seen each other for 4 months. We had tried to get pregnant for 2 years before he deployed to Germany. I was working to shave up the money so I could join him in Germany. I arrived in Germany on the 2nd of November and she was born August 2. I started feeling some morning sickness at the end of November. I did not wait till my second period was missed but went in anyway. They doctor I had told me how far along and I told him that is impossible because I had on my arrived in Germany a month and 1/2 ago and he said "that does not matter you are about 3 and a half months along. I know that was not possible because I was inky with my husband. They decided I would go to Frankfurt to a special clinic because I have a heart murmur. My dad used to get asked when the baby was due and he would say 9 months and two hours after she arrived, and he was correct. I started feeling movement a little sooner than normal so we bought a stethoscope and started listening and we found two heart beats. This was 1964, not sonograms, and no dopplars, so it looked like two babies and fraternal twins run in the family. When I was nearing 4 months, we took a trip to Garnish and while there I got very sick with throwing up and running to the potty. I was sick for two days and the stomach pains were so bad I wondered if I was going to loose the babies. After that there was just one heart beat and then when I delivered herthey gave me a quick look and they but her in her little bed and I noticed that all of them were looking at something in a basin of some kind, and I asked them what they were looking at and they told me at was my after birth and I told them I wanted to see it took, and they told me "you don't want to see this you want to see your baby". I argued with them saying I DID want to see it, but after holding my baby for a few minutes they took her too the nursery and me into recovery but I felt I should have looked at my afterbirth for my other twin. I went home to the states and told them I needed to h and carry my record s too my pcp in CA. They first opportunity I had after getting the baby asleep, I took those recites open and when I got to her birth record it ready "ibe live b birth, 1 fetal death. I was overcome with sadness. That was my other baby and they hid that from Mr, and did not even tell me its sex or ate least till mo about them loss. I have Bern told that it was most likely fraternal twins and I lost the tip one bit kept them second one. That bothered me for years and I even tried to reach them doctor who delivered them. Years later I told some one about what happened and she told me that I needed to name the baby and to allow myself to mourn the loss of the baby. I named the baby Georgie because I had an Uncle Georgie who did in W all. I liked the name for a girl also. So I have allowed myself to mourn Georgie's death, but that baby was really, while I only carried him for 4 months I carried it toll I delivered my little girl, and I look forward to going to Heaven to bed reunited with my baby that no one knew about but my husband and I. I did not get the chance to decide of I wanted to see my other baby so I still feel it was wrong to do that. I am now 77, and had 4 other living children, but now matter how many children you have that was my baby too. It was thrown away with medical waste. I truly feel your loss, he was a big little boy and adorable too. My your heart be comforted. Children are a gift of God. Bless you.

[@kerryhall7506]

I Can’t Even Begin To Imagine The Heartache That All These Beautiful Parents Go Through When Loosing Their Precious Lil Bubs 💜🙏💙🙏💜🙏💙🙏💜🙏💙🙏💜He Was So Perfect And So Beautiful 💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙

[@jomama5186]

I feel that way too. I don't have the words to convey how terrible I feel for you all. We at least were blessed to love her 24 yrs of our/ her life. I have to believe she will be there when my time comes. I have to. God bless and watch over your sweet and precious baby and you all forever ❤ 🙏

[@marciefitzhugh-miller8655]

I am so sorry for your loss. Sébastian was a gorgeous baby and is now in the hands of the Lord. 👣🙏💞

[@nancylowery4504]

I was glad that my Drs. Office did have the other Drs meet me lol in case he couldn't be there! But he was and it was New Years Eve Morning! The nurse where surprised I was so close to have this baby,my Dr. Got there in time to delivery my Jeffrey!! I did not know what the baby was until he was born!❤

[@zeinabgaffar3861]

I went for a normal check up on the 35th week of pregnancy on the 9th of Jan 2024, to book for the date of birth coz i chose a C section, and when the doc started the ultrasound i just saw his face changing like his eyes were getting wet. He just held my hand and said " i dont see the babys heart". It was like my whole world were down at that time. Till today i couldnt recover from it. And the day i found out, he was already gone like three to 4 days before.

[@lisajeter9511]

This Momma has me in tears and I hope you now know it’s not your fault.

[@cherylware783]

SAD FOR YOUR LOST HE IS SO CUTE MY NIECE WERE STILLBORN ALTHOUGH SHE IS IN HEAVEN, I STILL TALK TO HER IN MEMORIES HE WILL WATCH OVER YOUR FAMILY

[@raye5071]

So sorry God bless❤

[@justelleslife507]

The hardest thing for me to understand is that so many couples struggle with infertility or even pray for a baby, then the miracle of pregnancy comes and either the baby dies right before birth or after, I've seen too many go through this heartache and only God knows why.

[@lisajeter9511]

I would have never known that a stillborn would actually start to peel so quickly. I understand why it would, but the thought never crossed my mind until I saw the pictures of Sebastian.

[@kellisargeant8417]

He was you're 1st born I'd want all the pictures I could get of them to keep they're memory they were there

[@kellisargeant8417]

You're fur babies r cute and they're Goin be thr for u

[@kellisargeant8417]

It's the motherly institute the rocking n holding them

[@kellisargeant8417]

It wasnt ypure fault they should of did a cesarean when he was weighn at 6 to 7 pounds they should of piked up on it n with u having trouble conceiveing they should of considered u as high risk that lil man was perfect u should of had a cesarean dont give up ur young try again im sorry for youre loss im glad u got the pictures he was soooo perfect dont give up

[@beckystevens3506]

Nothing sweeter than a little fat baby boy. Those lips are precious. Beautiful.

[@jillkemp5521]

❤ from England

[@peggyallman7647]

My son weighed 11lbs 1 oz when he was born.

[@sarahmurphy8030]

My friends baby was 11Ib 7oz three weeks early from gestational diabetes.

[@createconsiderconnect3356]

Sweet boy 🥺 did you ever get a confirmed reason of why he passed?

[@stephaniec7683]

I don’t know that we will ever have a definite answer this side of heaven but most of our drs agree it was the diabetes that led to rapid growth at the end of the pregnancy coupled with my placenta only being in the 25th percentile. The theory is the 2 freak things happening at once contributed to his passing. His autopsy showed he had no medical issues and all organs and systems had developed as they should have.

[@anitadejong2742]

We know the pain. ❤

[@lorrikelly3281]

Sorry for your loss, did they ever find out what caused Sebastian’s demise? And can it happen again?

[@joycesmallwood6750]

So sorry I know iv been there

[@lisajeter9511]

I was never told to pay attention to my children’s kick patterns or kick counts.

[@NayNay4life175]

Such a precious couple & story. One thing…I’ve never seen a baby with a forehead like that. There’s a crease all the way across his face & his forehead sort of hangs over it. Is that just because of all the weight he gained?

[@stephaniec7683]

So actually everyone in my husbands family has a pronounced brow bone and many babies are born with the fold over their nose. You can even see in his ultrasounds. He always kind of looks like he was mean mugging. His brow looks even more pronounced due to natural swelling that occurs after someone has passed. If he had lived it wouldn’t have looked quite as pronounced because his face would naturally be moving. Many chunky babies have squished faces right after birth 😊

[@lisajeter9511]

Sebastian had the best set of beautiful lips!

[@kellisargeant8417]

It wasnt youre fault neither of u 28:34