Healthy vs Unhealthy ISFJs

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2 жыл бұрын

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@lovewho
@lovewho 2 жыл бұрын
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@thebigredwagon
@thebigredwagon 2 жыл бұрын
My friend is an ISFJ and I find him infuriatingly stubborn. We started working together and he had ridiculous systems in place that didn’t make sense and we slowing things down and even when he had to admit that they were not helping he couldn’t stop until someone further up the hierarchy told him he could stop. Every conversation he has he writes their name on a sticky pad and stares at it, going over the conversation to be sure he said the right thing then finally crosses it out. Sometimes I write names on it like chairman Mao or colonel mustard, he absolutely hates it. He’s so rigid! I’m an INTP by the way.
@rayw3332
@rayw3332 2 жыл бұрын
Again, the Patreon registration was WAY too invasive, so I bailed. You deserve huge reward, and accolades are great, but cash is king. lol Let me know if there is a streamlined method of donating. You're the best, Nathan
@baller3275
@baller3275 2 жыл бұрын
Keep the ISFJ videos coming! I feel like us ISFJs are super underrated and never really get so much attention in the MBTI world. Great to see we are finally getting some videos!
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
So true! There are not as many ISFJ videos and when we are included we are just the softies with cookies and grandpa jackets 😭😭😭
@AlextheENTP
@AlextheENTP 2 жыл бұрын
@@CineShinya FWIW, we do love cookies... 🍪💙😊
@PunkProfess0r
@PunkProfess0r 2 жыл бұрын
Lol but ISFJ’s are so damn predictable and easy to understand….which as an ENTP, I find that oddly and paradoxically hot
@eckey03
@eckey03 2 жыл бұрын
I’m (ENFP female) currently dating an ISFJ man and I actually think that y’all are very complex creatures. On the surface the type might seem predictable, but as you get closer to one, the layers begin to unfold. But it takes time and ISFJs only reveal their inner machinations to a verrrrry select few in my opinion - they don’t think anyone wants to hear about their personal feelings/opinions/experiences, and seem worried about burdening others with their problems, so they keep everything bottled up inside. Honestly as a high Fi user, who needs to know others’ personal feelings and values to truly understand them, it has been like quite the challenge to build up my connection with my bf! But when you guys do finally feel comfortable to share, it’s incredible. ISFJs are whip-smart, funny, playful, super quirky and very creative! It’s a shame that most people just don’t take the time to get to know them because they’re too impatient. Honestly I think ISFJs are one of my all-time favourite types :) y’all are really something special!
@chisaki8368
@chisaki8368 2 жыл бұрын
@@eckey03 ❤
@kaivamannam5636
@kaivamannam5636 2 жыл бұрын
as an ISFJ, we often think our reasons for helping others are benevolent, but its often subconsciously in order to make oursleves look better. sycophancy
@lovewho
@lovewho 2 жыл бұрын
In some sense it's clever to align both of those desire and find a balance between them. That way a partially selfish desire is still helping other people. Obviously it's important to not be completely driven by one extreme either way. Hope you enjoyed the video! ~ Nathan
@kaivamannam5636
@kaivamannam5636 2 жыл бұрын
@@lovewho woah it is a balance yes thank you for replying
@SilentTrip
@SilentTrip Жыл бұрын
Don't generalise, I don't care if I look better to other people. If I help, it's because I want to help, I don't expect anything back
@sirbradfordofhousejones
@sirbradfordofhousejones 2 жыл бұрын
My isfj mom teeters on the unhealthy side- she’s got great ideas, but then inevitably chooses not to do them out of fear. It kills me, because she’s so creative. Isfjs out there- spread your wings!
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
That's so unfortunate...
@louisejoel
@louisejoel 2 жыл бұрын
Is this so different from an INTP who fails to do things because of risk aversion, procrastination and distraction?
@rogerhuggettjr.7675
@rogerhuggettjr.7675 2 жыл бұрын
@@louisejoel I'd say it's worse, because while you get the same results the INTP feels they could do it if they felt motivated to do it.
@louisejoel
@louisejoel 2 жыл бұрын
@@rogerhuggettjr.7675 True, fear is probably worse than risk aversion.
@MomandBuggs
@MomandBuggs Жыл бұрын
They can fall into fear and codependency as they have a need for safety
@CarmenSandi3go
@CarmenSandi3go 2 жыл бұрын
More ISFJ stuff please! I loved the video ~ ISFJ
@aleksandraszenk6736
@aleksandraszenk6736 2 жыл бұрын
Being an isfj, I believe that we can deal with chaotic situations even better than with predictable ones. Sure, it's out of our comfort zone and in such situations we have to deal with stress and anxiety, but because we desire all things to be in order, we have a huge motivation towards working out such haotic conditions and probably we are at least partly prepared for them. In predictable situations we have no motivation to use our potential, so we work only fine, just repeating the pattern.
@misseva7404
@misseva7404 2 жыл бұрын
Yes! I've been told at work how amazingly calm I can be, while inside im like, "I HATE THIS CHAOS AND MUST FIX IT IMMEDIATELY." :)
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
I fully agree. I also have noticed in myself that even if the big change scares me in the beginning, pushing me out of my comfort zone, I adjust too quickly in the new situation. Often even seeking for some minor changes for variety. Do you feel that need too? On what you mentioned on challenging, I also agree and people maybe misunderstand our need for stability, forgetting that if one thing is certain, is that things don't always go according to the plan. So, us, as people that follow those certain rules, are not as shocked when something doesn't work out in perfect order, like many P types are, quite confident things will somehow work out even without a clear plan, and we take action on solving the issues. We calmly face the issue and fix it.
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
@@misseva7404 In my work in theater, I was called "the calm power" of the team for that! Little did they know how it messed me up inside but, hell, I got this chaos fixed!
@aleksandraszenk6736
@aleksandraszenk6736 2 жыл бұрын
@@CineShinya I definitely feel the need to do things. I love my routines, stabilisation and safety, but then I lack productivity and feeling that I'm useful. So yeah, I think I push myself towards some kind of chaos to feel that I'm doing something and not just standing in one place.
@intrigue8664
@intrigue8664 2 жыл бұрын
This is so true. When he mentioned that we reflect on (our version of) chaotic environments, my primary thoughts are wishing I had had experience in my life where those learning skills and information were necessary. Unsolved issues naturally stir me to read and evaluate so I'll be prepared "next time". Constant need to prepare and overcome (though not consistently search for) these scenarios can be an advantage.
@self7341
@self7341 2 жыл бұрын
My ISFJ friend when I visit her house: Have you eaten? Are you stressed? (*brings in all her lab puppies in the room for me to pet*) Her, visiting my apartment: Have you eaten? ...because I know you don't cook (*pulls out multiple bags of baked goods that I didn't even know could fit in the bag that she brought*)
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
Ahaha, that could be me with my friends too XD
@self7341
@self7341 2 жыл бұрын
@@CineShinya The nourishment provider.
@Multitudes_
@Multitudes_ 2 жыл бұрын
lol, just like my ESFJ mother (I'm an INFP).
@jaximus1366
@jaximus1366 2 жыл бұрын
I feel a bit called out by the comment about the dishes. I've had to stop myself on multiple occasions from latching onto my friend's pile of dirty dishes when I've gone over, yet my own dishes are often lying around waiting to be cleaned. I'm also at a point in my life where I'm planning on buying my first own apartment, yet my ESTP mom is the one always pushing the project forward because it's a new, foreign thing that I'm hesitating on. Good work, hearing more talk about my type is always nice, since some of the more extreme personality types tend to get most of the spotlight. We ISFJs don't really seek attention but it means the world when people notice our hard work
@miriamrobarts
@miriamrobarts 2 ай бұрын
Maybe you & your friend can agree to swap chores sometimes, or do them together. Playing music or an audiobook can make chores more enjoyable.
@LooDoesStuff
@LooDoesStuff 2 жыл бұрын
As an ISFJ, I felt so called out by every single point this video made 🤡🤡🤡
@QuotesArticles
@QuotesArticles 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video Nathan. I have come across many healthy ISFJs! But I have also seen an extremely unhealthy ISFJ, who is manipulative and in coordination with an unhealthy ENTP, do such manipulative stuff like it’s scary! It feels like they don’t even realise what they’re doing. Hope my other friends can soon see through them.
@Just_Robi
@Just_Robi 2 жыл бұрын
Have been friends with an unhealthy and manipulative ISFJ, eventually I found the will to say "Bye". Quality>quantity in friendship
@QuotesArticles
@QuotesArticles 2 жыл бұрын
That’s the right way to go about it! Quality over quantity 🌟😊
@bodhisattvaFM
@bodhisattvaFM 2 жыл бұрын
Good for you. When they get toxic it's best to throw em on the street so hard their ass skips on the sidewalk. It's justice.
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
Every type can be toxic in a way. And when you see the signs, you must stay away. When something crosses the line, it's dangerous no matter where it comes from.
@QuotesArticles
@QuotesArticles 2 жыл бұрын
@@CineShinya Yes, you’re right. Every type will have healthy and unhealthy people. The sooner we encounter them in our lives, the earlier we learn to set boundaries.
@tinghsuansu8601
@tinghsuansu8601 2 жыл бұрын
me (INFP) and my two roomates(INTP, ISFJ) is the dream trio. ISFJ is the best roomate we can ever hope for, she remembers our schedule and ask if we've eaten, or if we need a hot drink to help stay up late. We INxPs help her with her Ne grips whenever she goes chaotic out of spite, often resulting in crazy sleep schedules, not eating etc. Now she's much better and when she feels the need to "Ne", we find new hobbies to do together :)
@misseva7404
@misseva7404 2 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely beautiful. Thank you for accepting your ISFJ at her worst as well as her best and making it safe for her to process through her weaknesses. The people who make it safe for me to fail and then recover are my favorite people.
@QuotesArticles
@QuotesArticles 2 жыл бұрын
Hey fellow INFP here! Glad you and your friend are making it easier for your ISFJ friend. I have an INTP, who’s a good friend too, we both are in our own world but every time we meet it’s like we have always been in touch! 😊😇
@tinghsuansu8601
@tinghsuansu8601 2 жыл бұрын
@@misseva7404 I dont have many ISFJs in my life, but they're just so precious 😍 your dedication to stability and detail makes ME feel safe!❤
@tinghsuansu8601
@tinghsuansu8601 2 жыл бұрын
@@QuotesArticles hey that is how we see it too! It's fun when we talk after being away from each other for a while, and I noticed we ALWAYS use lots of metaphors, analogies to tell stories, and even coming up with metaphor for metaphor to extend the subject! it's crazy 😂
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like me and my 2 INFP besties ^-^
@bodhisattvaFM
@bodhisattvaFM 2 жыл бұрын
Get healthy ISFJs. When you break down it's truly sad and you tend to take other people with you.
@misseva7404
@misseva7404 2 жыл бұрын
We want to. :) We're fighting an internal voice that says we're not doing enough and that if things go wrong, it's on us. In my experience, getting older has helped a lot. Im way more chill in my 40s than I was in my 20s. A little reassurance goes a long way with us. Let us know what we're doing right, and we'll be motivated to do more of it.
@julyol119
@julyol119 2 жыл бұрын
ISFJ stubbornness is legendary xD Although, they do it in such a cute way, that you can't be mad at them for it. At least that's my experience.
@Fluwore
@Fluwore 2 жыл бұрын
Having a isfj friend who only drinks exactly 2 full cups of water every morning at exactly 12:30PM while asking me constantly if I'm alright. Me, watching this video: ಠ_ಠ
@rogerhuggettjr.7675
@rogerhuggettjr.7675 2 жыл бұрын
I am an expert at understanding the unhealthy ISFJ. I was with a narcissistic one for 18 years. Their Si demanded all the creature comforts and never felt her kids and coworkers respected her sacrifices enough. As an INTP, she rejected the creativity of my Ne parent and thought I was weird as normal was whatever her Si hero dictated. Any feelings or frustrations I had were effeminate to her. She could be caught in infidelity and still justify it with a straight face. While I don't blame all ISFJs for her insensitive superficiality, I would like to meet a normal one as a friend to avoid negatively stereotyping them.
@miriamrobarts
@miriamrobarts 2 ай бұрын
She must have been a super unhealthy ISFJ, since most of that (other than feeling under appreciated & needing to be comfortable) is the opposite of the natural tendencies of ISFJ. All of that rubs me the wrong way just to think about it. We are usually like the video describes. I hope you've met some ISFJs that can show you our good side!
@sage6185
@sage6185 2 жыл бұрын
Heyyy nathan , this one is such an amazing video on isfjs......i feel like isfjs with destructive personalities are the worst manipulators and they don't even know it.......they can be emotionally draining and narcissistic.......this vid helped me to know if i was dealing wid one or not......i am....it's exhausting.......being an intp , the clinginess and emotions are wearing me off.....hope you're doing well:))
@QuotesArticles
@QuotesArticles 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, it feels like the unhealthy ones don’t even know they’re manipulative! You have said it rightly 👍
@SephirothOwa13
@SephirothOwa13 2 жыл бұрын
Truth. It's so draining.
@sash8099
@sash8099 2 жыл бұрын
Lol you haven't met unhealthy Enfjs then
@QuotesArticles
@QuotesArticles 2 жыл бұрын
@@sash8099 hmmm I have an unhealthy ENFJ as a relative but it took me a long time to understand and they too have matured over the years! And I also know an amazingly healthy ENFJ! As an INFP, I adore them 😀🌟
@sash8099
@sash8099 2 жыл бұрын
@@QuotesArticles I really don't like them at all. Too manipulative and too many bad experiences. I prefer Infjs. They mind their own business. I'm an Infp too.
@jakubszymanski1558
@jakubszymanski1558 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for ISFJ materials. Appreciate it very much ☺️
@Moezychan
@Moezychan 2 жыл бұрын
I feel called out...I will go to my friend's house and clean while my own home is a mess...I don't have time for myself...I need to help everyone else!
@sash8099
@sash8099 2 жыл бұрын
I love Isfjs ❤
@misseva7404
@misseva7404 2 жыл бұрын
One thing I’ve struggled with as a very introverted ISFJ is that, because I keep pretty high boundary walls around my life, I’m not as busy helping other people as the ISFJ descriptions usually indicate. Over time, I’ve realized that my worry over this is simply another manifestation of the same underlying issue: that we ISFJs are anxious about doing too little. Many ISFJs hurt themselves by giving too much, while others hurt themselves by giving a normal/healthy amount and then sitting around feeling bad about it. If you have an ISFJ in your life who’s constantly overgiving or freaking out about whether they’re giving enough, the best way you can help them is reassurance that you are content with them as they are. Though they are giving/helping to make you happy, they’re likely also doing it to stave off feelings of worthlessness, so if you can encourage them to feel satisfied, they’re less likely to get neurotic and burn themselves out. If I can be satisfied with giving what I’m able to and not feeling bad that it’s not 100%, to-the-death giving, I’ll be a much healthier person. Thanks for understanding me, Nathan! (And thanks for being British. I love your accent.)
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
We really need this reassurance and appreciation on what we offer... or else it leads us in sad thoughts.
@shamamasaeed
@shamamasaeed 2 жыл бұрын
Hi you described our type so well, thank you and thank you Nathan!
@analazovic441
@analazovic441 Жыл бұрын
yes, exactly!
@keziahkeren7163
@keziahkeren7163 2 жыл бұрын
I've noticed there's only few vids on YT about isfjs. This is really helpful.. Thank you! :)
@pawsltd
@pawsltd 2 жыл бұрын
I have seen many videos about ISFJs but still can't really understand them. But your channel helps. Thank you. More ISFJs and how they are in romantic relationships please.
@misseva7404
@misseva7404 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for trying! :) We ISFJs are on low level red alert for danger all the time, hence the tendency toward making routines and rhythms and then keeping them the same forever. And we feel personally responsible for ourselves and others (which we often know is irrational, but we can't shut off the feeling), so we get preoccupied with protection and pleasing people. The more you can reassure your ISFJs that they're already enough, the more likely they are to relax. And if you need to set a firm boundary with us, do it, since that makes us go off and deal with our neuroses, which is ultimately what we have to do.
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
In a relationship we are very loyal and supportive. We may act like the "parent" partner if our partner/friend is more chaotic and fragile (I am like this with my INFP friends), or we act like the supportive consular to the more strong types (as my experience with my ENTJ girlfriend showed me) because they don't really need protection but they secretly need someone to care about them and highly admire and respect them. So it depends on who we are dealing with as well. But what is stable is the tones of care, protectiveness and understanding.
@00Klingon
@00Klingon 2 жыл бұрын
I know an ISFJ married to an ESFP. Things are fairly rocky for them lately as she perceives the ESFP to be unreliable and she feels like she is doing everything for the children and he's simply "calling it in". She has gone so far as not caring for her own health in all this and while her ESFP husband could clearly improve, he's not half as bad as she wants others to believe which borders on a sense of martyrdom. She is even considering being unfaithful as a means of "getting him back". My fear is that his family is connected and wealthy and could make her life very unpleasant should he become angry enough with her (right now his behavior is closer to indifference since he is tired of "always being in trouble"). I know that an angry ESFP who's well connected (as many of them are) is nobody you want to upset. I believe she would be far better off just explaining to him that she's unhappy and ask for a divorce before cheating on him.
@mizuhashitsunoka
@mizuhashitsunoka 2 жыл бұрын
This was a great video! I have a close ISFJ friend and sometimes I just feel helpless when it comes to make him care for himself coz he tends to take responsibility of every fcking thing in his life or the people around him. I forwarded him the video asap midway while listening to it.
@karenr1643
@karenr1643 2 жыл бұрын
As an infp most of my good friends have been isfjs they are awesome ☺️🥰
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
And as an ISFJ both of my best friends are INFPs! It must be the Frodo - Sam effect XD
@nurainiarsad7395
@nurainiarsad7395 2 жыл бұрын
In many Asian cultures, the ideal female ie the way girls are traditiinally raised to become to merit being termed ‘properly raised’ is basically to be an ISFJ. (Male cultural ideal varies more but the most common is probably ESFJ - yes, Asian cultures prize the Fe, for both men and women). Had a hard time with this growing up, as a female INTJ. But it seems the cultural expectations are less rigid these days though.
@Vaishali-dn8cc
@Vaishali-dn8cc 2 жыл бұрын
Yes i agree with u. Being an INTP female, it's too hard for me
@maylynbayani
@maylynbayani Жыл бұрын
My husband has an incredible ability of being liked by virtually everyone but it is because he's so agreeable. Hence, people tend to take advantage of him. Now, he said people think I have an overwhelming presence and people are more cautious in dealing with him because of his "scary" wife. I think it's only because im not afraid to call a spade a spade on their face. Also, having him take risks is almost like shock therapy. I take calculated risk and give him a timeline to do it but he knows to procrastinate is not an option.
@meeknotweak3
@meeknotweak3 2 жыл бұрын
Isfj here, drinking coffee out of my Love Who Isfj mug and watching an Isfj video. The trifecta. Thanks for this video and the careful analysis and thorough explanation on what makes us tick. Keep the Isfj videos coming!
@rishon1273
@rishon1273 2 жыл бұрын
There’s an ISFJ mug? Nice!
@meeknotweak3
@meeknotweak3 2 жыл бұрын
@@rishon1273 Yep, I got it from their website 👍🏽 Looks like they had all, if not most of the types.
@rimo10
@rimo10 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this. Will be sharing with my ISFJ mother !
@leonardostults6172
@leonardostults6172 2 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad there have been 2 videos in a row about types that aren't talk about as much!!! I love listening to what you have to say. -Enfj
@Taz306
@Taz306 2 жыл бұрын
You make really good content on this channel. Keep up the good work.
@quatschkopq186
@quatschkopq186 2 жыл бұрын
I think that's a decent summary! I also wouldn't mind seeing more "common" / neglected MBTI type videos.
@lovewho
@lovewho 2 жыл бұрын
There are one or two other ISFJ videos on this channel so feel free to check them out if you haven't already! ~ Nathan
@kaavyakhatri6272
@kaavyakhatri6272 2 жыл бұрын
Isfjs are too naturally inclined towards invisibility to make themselves known to you, but your content is very much appreciated by us :P
@terig8974
@terig8974 2 жыл бұрын
It sounds like people who produce sufficient amounts of GABA. These people could be helpful in chaotic scenarios as a stabilizing force if they're healthy and self aware enough.
@annibrowning868
@annibrowning868 2 жыл бұрын
The most irritating quality of isfjs is unnecessary "preemptive conflict resolution" and assuming that people need help. Also anxiety about the smallest changes which your right can make them surprisingly uncompromising even socially. And finally a intolerance for discussing the more negative aspects of life in a detached way which again could accrue benefits both for themselves and others psycholgically in the long run Those are what I would say are their greatest faults in what can otherwise be one of the most empathetic and communicative yet dispassionate of types.
@misseva7404
@misseva7404 2 жыл бұрын
If it helps to better understand, to ISFJs, conflict gives us a panic reaction, so we scramble to make it stop. Think of the noise level of a fire alarm and the feeling you get of either needing to get away from it or turn it off - it’s so loud and piercing that you can feel it in your bones, and you can’t think about anything else until it stops. Everything about conflict just feels wrong in my head, so avoiding it or short-circuiting it feels like the right thing, even though I know that you’re right and that leaning into conflict and resolving things is necessary sometimes. Over the years, I’ve mellowed somewhat, but I think it will always jangle my nerves. Assuming that people need help might actually, inside their head, be an assumption that they’re supposed to be helping, and if they don’t, they’re failing. Their giving can be very self-focused; I feel like I’m being rude if I don’t help, so I’m more inclined to offer to ease my own awkward feeling. It’s not a reflection on what I think about you and your abilities. One way to help us engage in stuff that makes us anxious - change, negativity - is reassurance. The more we know that it’s not dangerous to deal with things head-on - that we’re not going to lose the relationship, that you accept us in all our neurotic glory - the easier it is for us to try and to start seeing the benefits that can come from stuff that feels like it should be a disaster. :)
@lionbay884
@lionbay884 2 жыл бұрын
ISFJs like making breakfast.
@demonschnauzer1555
@demonschnauzer1555 2 жыл бұрын
I would definitely watch any more ISFJ videos you make!
@colinsemi
@colinsemi 6 ай бұрын
That channel plug was capitalising greatly on the Fe lol
@glueball214
@glueball214 2 жыл бұрын
loved it .. thanks
@lolampaxo
@lolampaxo 2 жыл бұрын
Do one on ENTJ's, would love to see your take on it!
@vkarlsen1992
@vkarlsen1992 2 жыл бұрын
Wohooo! Go ISFJs!
@RheaBoo1
@RheaBoo1 7 ай бұрын
My mom is an ISFJ and this matches.
@thecrudelab3204
@thecrudelab3204 Жыл бұрын
"solving other people's problems are more appealing than those of your own", so true. should have been studying for exams but a friend asked some questions and i spent 2hours learning it and answering the questions. sometimes you gotta look out for number one ( you)
@girasegina9725
@girasegina9725 2 жыл бұрын
Internally, ISFJ works similarly with INTP. Ne plays an important role on the development of their internal Si-Ti/Ti-Si system.
@rogerhuggettjr.7675
@rogerhuggettjr.7675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to know more about how Ne inferior works in an ISFJ. My experience with an unhealthy ISFJ was that her Si saw my Ne parent's outside the box thinking (INTP) as immature and undisciplined. I can't point to how Ne functioned within her.
@bradleyj7801
@bradleyj7801 2 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ married to an ISFJ, I first came across MBTI early in our relationship on my quest to understand how "I like her, but what is going on here?" and my quest took me deep through the wonderful world of cognitive functions as we present each other's shadow functions to each other. After many wonderful years of marriage, her questions for me are, "did you look in the mirror before you left the house?"
@misseva7404
@misseva7404 2 жыл бұрын
My bff of 30+ years is INTJ. She helps me feel safer dealing with conflict, and I make her feel safer about sharing her emotions. And we help each other understand other ISFJs/INTJs in our lives.
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
@@misseva7404 I agree on that! INTJs and ISFJs have a very interesting dynamic. I have many friends that are INTJs and we have a great chemistry (my special lady is an ENTJ so that is close too). We can hold intellectual conversations, understand eachother and we, ISFJs support the INTJs a lot and can give them advices on matters that involve emotions that might freak them out a bit. ^-^
@bradleyj7801
@bradleyj7801 2 жыл бұрын
@@CineShinya agreed! INTJs and ISFJs are very different yet also very similar. We both are information gatherers (Ni Si doms) and need time to process new information from our own views in our own ways. Guardians (SJs) and Rationals (NTs) are both typically pretty down to earth people so like discussing the reality of situations. While INTJs are scanning the environment for implications of the future, ISFJs scan the environment and piece together the past to explain the present. Typically an INTJ and ISFJ can collaborate and find the "truth" of a matter lies directly in the middle of our two perspectives so the success of the collaboration relies upon a step or two of faith directly towards the other's view.
@intrigue8664
@intrigue8664 2 жыл бұрын
Interesting! I myself am an ISFJ and my parents INTJ and ISFJ. Her comment is a common exchange between them, funny!
@ShostakovichisEMO
@ShostakovichisEMO 6 ай бұрын
that is such an odd relationship 😭😭😭😭 although my dad is an intj and my mom is an isfp soooo
@rayw3332
@rayw3332 2 жыл бұрын
A most cogent insight in to toxic level Fe (extraverted feeling) of ISFJs. As an INFJ. Perhaps an unhealthy one.
@g_pogorelskiy
@g_pogorelskiy 9 ай бұрын
I'm trying to be less conservative and stubborn and be more open-minded and develop my creativity and tolerance when it comes to dealing with something new and unknown. Thanks for the content!
@jackdaniel777
@jackdaniel777 2 жыл бұрын
These 16 personality types are interesting, knowing each type with how the brain works (perhaps?), and I'm still figuring out, how it works, why someone can be considered a certain personality, testing methods and accuracy, etc.
@abbyanderbard
@abbyanderbard 2 жыл бұрын
Lol, what are ISFJ's doing with birds?! Find out by watching this video! 🤣
@huzaifabaig8711
@huzaifabaig8711 2 жыл бұрын
Dude, im an ISFJ and i have no idea what imma do with i--- I know what must be done....
@charitysbizarre4365
@charitysbizarre4365 2 жыл бұрын
I'm an ISFJ and I used to order the same thing at Bob Evans back in the town I grew up in so often that the waitress would just bring it out without me even ordering when I went out with my parents lol. I'm a little better about varying what I get at restaurants now though.
@richsackett3423
@richsackett3423 2 жыл бұрын
Just had a falling out with an unhealthy ISFJ. Let's see if there's any help here.
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
Sorry to read that...stay strong and don't lose faith. Unhealthy people are everywhere no matter the type, but that doesn't mean there aren't nice ones that can be there for you in a healthy way.
@axbeta0079
@axbeta0079 2 жыл бұрын
Generally the videos that include 16 personality types, I usually couldn't find a single comment admitting they were an ISFJ, so it's kind of weird to find so many ISFJs in the comment section 😅
@skyfallunoPretzel
@skyfallunoPretzel 2 жыл бұрын
I feel understood
@lauriesimonds9229
@lauriesimonds9229 9 ай бұрын
As an 'older' (and hopefully wiser) ISFJ, I've learned to not fear the chaos as much as I used to. Maybe I've garnered enough tricks in my bag over the years to handle whatever is thrown at me with some modicum of grace & success 😅
@ManunKanava
@ManunKanava Жыл бұрын
Oh god, I finally found something that sounds too familiar to me.
@KatyAdelson
@KatyAdelson 2 жыл бұрын
Okay..I have done other peoples dishes… -_-
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
Same..... And worse...I cleaned the house...it was movie night, everyone fell asleep except me, but I didn't wanna be rude and wake them up or leave without a goodbye, so I got so bored I washed 3 weeks undone dishes and cleaned the house waiting for the owner to wake up.....😭
@vincent.mazkett187
@vincent.mazkett187 2 жыл бұрын
100k subs and counting
@mirandaleon3188
@mirandaleon3188 2 жыл бұрын
The best thing about watching a sensor-related video is that the comments are always like "my isfj mom", "my isfj friend". Almost as if everyone around you was a sensor but yourself.
@tomatoe3
@tomatoe3 2 жыл бұрын
my favorite type♡ squish squish. -istp
@endgamez7621
@endgamez7621 2 жыл бұрын
cant relate
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
ISTP is the coolest type ^-^ -isfj here
@shaun1293
@shaun1293 2 жыл бұрын
Consistent and routined? Yeah… about that 🥴
@ChihiroOh
@ChihiroOh 9 ай бұрын
ISFJ wooo!
@JQ3257
@JQ3257 2 жыл бұрын
Fuck dude couldn't have been further away I was hoping for an entp vid 😭
@soulefdhemikha
@soulefdhemikha Жыл бұрын
The discord link is not working 🌚
@nateq
@nateq 2 жыл бұрын
So which type is ultimately the cutest? ISFJ or INFP?
@CineShinya
@CineShinya 2 жыл бұрын
The combination of them together XD (See Frodo and Sam from LOTR)
@endgamez7621
@endgamez7621 2 жыл бұрын
What type are u???
@louiseelizabeth9613
@louiseelizabeth9613 2 жыл бұрын
Only 4 videos for ISFJ ?? 😔
@metalmike5880
@metalmike5880 2 жыл бұрын
What is an isfj?
@cactus8503
@cactus8503 2 жыл бұрын
I can't understand but i think i understand haha 🤡
@jennifergrove2368
@jennifergrove2368 2 жыл бұрын
What is up with ISFJs being all extroverted?? My sister is an ISFJ and I'm an INTP. I'm WAY more introverted than she is. I kept thinking she's gotta be an ESFJ but she had to take the test twice for work and she keeps coming out ISFJ.
@miriamrobarts
@miriamrobarts 2 ай бұрын
I'm an ISFJ, and had to force myself to be more outgoing when I was younger, but now I would say I'm an extroverted introvert (but yes, still introvert).
@callmeabd6546
@callmeabd6546 2 жыл бұрын
gg
@godesway
@godesway 2 жыл бұрын
Are you intp...
@naevachMaoMao
@naevachMaoMao Жыл бұрын
I m ENFP and i have a Toxic ISFJ father🥲
@KarlaBader
@KarlaBader 20 күн бұрын
An INFJ here in the same situation. Stay strong, know your worth always and love them at a distance.
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