What Is Passion

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▼ Timestamps ▼
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00:00 - Introduction
00:47 - Reddit post
6:50 - What is Passion?
07:12 - Passions and careers
11:12 - Passion is found
15:50 - Dimensions to Passion
26:30 - Stories example
36:47 - Video games and passion - The crux
38:54 - Train tracks vs ATVs
41:18 - Challenges of this generation
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Today Doctor K talks about finding your passion, what is passion, the train of life, intergenerational difference, following your passion, and more! HealthyGamer talks about finding your dream job, how to find your dream job, finding your dreams, pursuing your dreams, and more!
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[@SimGunther]

If Tony Hawk can lose his passion for skateboarding because he was at the top of the competitive mountain only to find his passion again after goofing around with his pals making trick videos, it can happen to anyone.

[@thesekininja]

I disagree with Dr K's position that you cannot find your passion sitting around watching KZbin videos. I realised skateboarding was my passion watching skateboarding videos on here 15 years after a little stint in my youth, and the shit is so damn hard, progress is so agonising and slow, that you have to know you're passionate about it before you commit. Thanks KZbin!

[@Voidstroyer]

@@thesekininja I disagree with your disagreement. It is a lot more likely that youtube made you become interested in skateboarding and actually trying it out yourself is what made you really like it and become passionate about it.

[@SimGunther]

@@Voidstroyer I was talking about the old VHS tapes they made in the 1980s/early 90s which coincidentally made a lot of other people like myself interested in skateboarding. Too bad I could only do those weird manual tricks that Rodney Mullen made famous during those days, but still nice to know that they were both considered some of the most competitive skateboarders (literally) before their more famous appearances in the Tony Hawk video games.

[@mpmedia6735]

@@thesekininja I think you can only really like the idea of something by watching videos. Partaking in the process of something is the only way you can know if you really enjoy something or not

[@wolfy5svn945]

@@thesekininja finding what interests each *individual* person is not to your discretion to say if they'll find it on youtube or not 🤷🏾‍♂️ you found your passion on youtube but you disagree with the idea that others can do the same? 🙄 good grief.

[@ArCgon]

25:27 *Dr K* : Any guesses what my passion is? *Actual answers from chat* : playing DOTA, being a chad, talking out loud, anime, being a cult leader

[@shaiuken7150]

I freaking love this community dearly

[@evoloxe]

based

[@Vivivofi]

Talking out loud lmao

[@krox477]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@NerdyCatCoffeeee]

@@user-pm7ev5es9y I mean, in a way...

[@rextitan]

When this man started talking about trains I knew he understood me. I finished Uni last year and I’ve been repeatedly saying it’s like I’ve been on train tracks my whole life and now I’ve finally reached the end of the line. The world has never taught me how to live in the open world sandbox, just the linear main quest. Hearing Doctor K say something similar is really really validating.

[@killaknight12]

same.. I took the train I was "supposed" to take, cause I was raised and taught that way, but the moment I graduated and started working I was like: "This... sucks... now what?" Now that I'm exhausted on a daily basis after work, I'm on my ATV in the middle of nowhere and don't know where or how to progress to find my way.

[@NLperso]

@@killaknight12 You NEED to sacrifice something to break the cycle. It can't be work, and it shouldn't be sleep, so let it be whatever you've been doing between the two (tv, video games). Sleep early and sacrifice your daily allotted tv/vidya quota so you have enough energy to try something radical the next day. Think volunteering, tutoring, internships in fields you're passionate about outside of your current career, etc. That's what I'm planning on doing.

[@rextitan]

@@NLperso maybe chill out a little on telling people what they need when you don't know them.

[@harveylin3548]

Too bad the real world obey the rule of exponential growth and decay, not linear.

[@akshayde]

It's Funny.. I was always in my own lala land and nobody taught me about train track or atvs but in my head it never worried me because I naively assumed that everyone has a vehicle and they just get to where they need to go. So now when it was my turn.. I didn't know what to pick, how to ride it, where to go or why

[@clearquartz1677]

Passion doesn’t make hard things easy, it’s makes the hard things feel worth the struggle and difficulty. Doing things regarding my passion are still hard as hell, I just don’t feel demoralized by it because my love for the thing outweighs the struggle.

[@wisonhendrik5855]

Yea, this probably the most accurate speaking about pursuing for passion vs not passion

[@wordsmith2298]

What you do?

[@clearquartz1677]

@@wordsmith2298 I’m a writer

[@wordsmith2298]

@@clearquartz1677 this is not a good question. But is writing your only source of income?

[@clearquartz1677]

@@wordsmith2298 Not yet. Before this I was a tattoo artist. I practiced writing before starting college for English, wrote a few books and stories and now I’m studying and pulling work together to have it published.

[@CasparAbelmann]

Notes I took from the video: There are a lot of dimensions for what 'passion' is. It's fulfilling, naturally motivating, there's an intersection between internal and external. In work, finding your passion is aligning most of your values to the job. Answer for yourself: 1. Spiritual - What did truly excite me? - When did I feel fulfilled? - When did work feel easy to me? 2. Neurological - What gets your brain tick? (e.g. problem solving, creative, being active, etc.) 3. Physiological - What working condition type do you prefer? (e.g. work from home, office, travelling around, early riser, night work, etc.) - Do you prefer routine or dynamic? (9-5 or 24/7 on call with a week off) 4. Environmental - What is your reporting structure? (Team or freelance, needing people or preferring working alone) - What work/life balance do you like? - What do you require to flow and keep passion? The world rewards value. With passion it's easier to give 100%, resulting in more value, being more 'successful'. Being passionate reduces the chance for burnout. "Making passion your work" is too short-sighted; It's more nuanced, aligning your passion and work.

[@qnkb]

up

[@amusiclover7340]

Thank you for the notes!

[@youtubechannel12371]

Mah man 🤙🏻

[@tyleresmon1041]

@@joeyondakeys I think it is a cool story. I just don’t understand your reasons for stopping your pursuit. It sounds like your values became misaligned as your passion dominated your life. Couldn’t you find ways to slow down while and to stop and smell the roses while still pursuing your passion? What made you just give up on it entirely?

[@supaF]

. ^ this is so when someone replies i can read this again and again

[@Jazzmaster1992]

The thing is, even if you find something you are truly passionate about, you probably have to put in work and do things you still don't really feel like doing. Yes, even with my favorite hobbies, I find myself doing things I don't really totally enjoy doing, even in the context of the hobby itself. It could be anything from suffering through the learning curve and growing pains, to the "grinding" aspects, to the inevitability of sheer disappointment. As an example, I really enjoy photography, and I've spent several years and possibly thousands of hours between going out and shooting, to editing and curating. But sometimes, even when I took what in retrospect were my favorite shots, I remember not really wanting to get up that morning to drive across the state to shoot something, that sort of thing. One question to ask yourself that *might* help you "find" your passion, is what you're willing to put up with in order to pursue and cultivate said passion. I'm willing to get up early, potentially fight traffic and other setbacks, and possibly wait hours in the middle of nowhere in uncomfortable weather for hours on end just to "get the shot". I wouldn't do all that if I wasn't really "passionate", if I wasn't willing to labor out of love. My two cents, anyways.

[@MaiKayxo]

YES, I love this. I think this is such a crucial element to finding your passion - what are you willing to suffer for? What is worth the suffering? Someone framed it to me that way a couple years ago, and things finally started clicking. It's a kind of harsh way to put it, and I don't mean it to be deterring, but it's a really important aspect to consider. If it's not something that is really meaningful and important to you, the points of pain will not be worth it.

[@635574]

If you don't want to go beyond the easy levels in something you don't actually enjoy it much. And once you start something, can you also stand the difficulty of getting better? The progress is what makes something worth doing

[@menamgamg]

I'd even say that things you're passionate about are especially hard to do at times, because there's the extra element of caring tremedously about the thing, which makes it easy to let yourself down and put pressure on yourself. But the thing about passion is that it also drives you to work harder than you ever would otherwise. Whenever you have a lot of anxiety about doing something, it's good to question why - for me what i often find is that the anxiety stems from the fact that i care so much.

[@635574]

@@menamgamg seems weird that nobody ever acknowledges someoens passion when they reject a proposal for something.

[@owenjones3784]

A big part of motivation that drK talks about is dealing with our negative emotions towards that particular activity. I could be super excited about photography, but everything I was ever excited about was shut down as a kid and I was told they were unrealistic. Those feelings could me manifesting again in the morning when you wake up to do a shoot, and we may not even realize. We can find things that align with our interests, but if there are samskars holding us back, we may have to deal with them first.

[@harambe1331]

Thank you. These titles are a lot better than "Why you're an idiot and know nothing about passion" or "This is why you suck at being passionate"

[@rivers4268]

Agreed, the clickbait titles are the only part of this channel I don't like

[@srirachainthebowl]

@@rivers4268 i don't think you are on the same mind with OP

[@vyshali6340]

Omg ikr

[@Basant_Mahesh]

@@rivers4268 Guy read again

[@eudaimonia__]

@@rivers4268 I feel like a self help channel and specially one with quality like this one, better be click bait so more and more people can get help.

[@Nathan-nb6yk]

I feel like my problem is having too many interests. There are so many skills I want to spend all my time learning I always feel sad picking one over another

[@iforget6940]

Too many choices that's my problem to and no follow trough.

[@derboe_thebeast6869]

Mine is that i dont feel like im worthy or good enough in that passion

[@AelfricBlack]

There's careers out there where learning all sorts of different things is a requirement. For instance a judge has to quickly learn a lot of different subjects because of the sheer variety of cases they will encounter. A writer or an actor, too.

[@alishagupta7325]

Oh my god, same!

[@iforget6940]

@@derboe_thebeast6869 me to, I don't feel good enough, like most of the time my negative thoughts, are sometimes almost paralyzing, I can go out and train, but I won't train hard enough, and I'm stuck in that ruminating zone, where I can't even read a simple book, its horrible sometimes and then I escape trough watching TV and KZbin. But I have started meditation but I'm still a beginner it helps a tiny bit but it took a while to just do it.

[@jording1443]

This was my post. I am so thankful that Dr K responded it. I think it is a HUGE topic that a bunch of people need to dive in deeply, because we often end up so confused and distorted on it. I have been thinking about my passion for probably more than a decade. And probably the more I think on it with a "normal" blueprint the more frustrated and anxious I get. I thought I should go pro on basketball because I thought that it was my passion and I genuinely love it, but in reality I was probably thinking in a revenge/cocainic way, like my life often felt and feels like something insignficant and going berserk a being a pro athlete would resolve all my suffering and I would enter paradise (money, athleticism, girls, luxury... all that stuff). The fact is that I trained hard and showed up usually but I also ended super anxious and self jugdemental with myself because it is actually a humongous endeavour. And I was ambiguous about it since I also wanted to do plenty of other stuff like gaming, hanging out with my friends, etc. And also it was also mandatory to study a lot in high school in my family's rules. If you want to go pro you need to sacrifice most of that and maybe I wasn't honestly willing to do that even though I said that I wanted to play basketball. As said in the post I am now focused on other stuff rn and basketball is just a hobby that I do from time to time. I don't know if a I am acting in a settling way but what I know is that I was feeling worse and worse mentally because I wasn't progressing much of anything and my body was accumulating a lot of wear and tear because of the demands of competition. I discovered the fantastic world of biomechanics and movement optimization throught my uni days. It is fascinating... but I discovered that I enjoy it sometimes and sometimes I am bored to embrace it. But I think that is what my values and interests suggests me to do. I have also realized that I don't actually enjoy much of anything these days. There is stuff that might be contributing to that as I speculate that you might not be able to engage very well with your passions if your mind is working like shit in multiple health dimensions. It is difficult to embrace something you love if your emotions aren't regulated, your intrinsic believes push you down and your physical health is diminished because of a poor diet, sleep and/or exercise. If you add to that all the myths and misconceptions that the passion concept has, we are f*cking screwed. As I have read your comments, you are dealing with all that crap as well. Some of us have a bunch of passions (Vata mind probably? Idk) and we feel bad to sacrifice anything and also we have sometimes so much expectations that it ruins the process. It is very difficult but I won't let my foulty and unenjoyable mind stop me from somehow moving forward. Thanks Dr K and Healthy Gamer(s). I' ll work this gold piece knowledge I advance much better. Much love to you all

[@MechaStorm7]

Thank you bro, your comment needs to go up

[@jording1443]

@Emanuele Rovini Thanks bro. I really needed to ponder a lot how to put into words what I thought and felt for many many time. It is a tricky theme

[@jording1443]

@@MechaStorm7 Thanks buddy!

[@dmax1]

@Jording you may have a passion for body coordination, because I have too! I do archery. I get goosebumps from small martial art movements being made with presicion just by watching. I've played rocket league for over 2k hours because I like controlling and mastering the car body. Biomechanics and movement optimization sounds cool.

[@hassaanawan367]

My friend Jording you have your way with the words, you just poured my thoughts in the comment section. I am going through the exact same thing and thought process. Have a degree in mechanical engineering, doing a job, which pays good but doesn't fullfil, have interest in learn to code to switch my career, I am also learning the art of copywriting to use it as a side hustle but doesn't know what really motivates me to do all the things. It feels like I am on auto-mode, doing random things at different pace and leaving them incomplete and moving onto new things and repeating the process.

[@nightingalebard]

"Passion is work that doesn't feel like work" is part of where things get misconstrued, I feel. Even if you're working in a passion-driven career, it will still feel like work. There will be PLENTY of days you won't want to do certain tasks. Days you won't want to do the job at all. It can feel bizarre, because it's like -- don't I love this career? Why am I struggling? It's when you understand it *is* work, but you still love doing it at the end of the day, that you can find a "passion-driven" career. For some folks, that means finding a career you *like* and saving the hobbies you love as just that -- hobbies. For others, it means establishing an understanding that your favorite hobby (writing, streaming, art, etc.) won't feel much like a hobby anymore, because it's now work. But if you can establish it as work AND STILL feel fulfilled doing it like a hobby, even sometimes, then you're hitting that "passion-driven career" dream that people talk about.

[@brigc7755]

As someone who's found her passion already (dance) it's not hyper-motivated all the time. Sometimes you just gotta force yourself to put in the work to make it happen, and other days the hours of practice just fly by. And maybe over time I'll learn to love it even more than I do now but until then it's going to be on and off and you've just gotta stick with it even if it feels like a chore sometimes. (if it feels like a chore ALL the time, maybe start rethinking things)

[@oponomo]

Thank you for your input Brig C

[@elbuhdai605]

Same for me with music. There are times where I spend up to a week or two doing nothing but music all day and all night til 5 in the morning. Then there are times where it feels like I can't write anything. Finding your "passion" is not a shortcut to permanent motivation, even if you're paid to do it like I am. Motivation and productivity are a decision.

[@crismaister5192]

I wanted to point out the same thing and then I found your comment. This is an important discussion point that I feel is missing from the video. Thank you for sharing this! In my experience, discipline trumps "super sayan mode", moreso when it comes to your passion.

[@autohmae]

Things also become more fun if you are good at something (after all the trailing/learning/stumbling), because you stumbling less and can focus more on the fun stuff.

[@homeyworkey]

this is insane that it's something so... obvious, but we never think of these things. things like this should really be taught to us, alot of dr k's episodes for that matter. instead we're finding these nuggets of gold by stumbling onto a youtube video thanks to an algorithm that randomly recommended it to us :o

[@Kemachris]

The AI is still good to us! For now...

[@Oogrilla]

@@Kemachris It can be good or bad, it doesn't matter, all it cares about is getting us to stay watching as long as possible in order to make money.

[@thebat4977]

The algorithm is rooting for you!

[@pleaseenteranamelol711]

The simplest things are the easiest to forget, because they are so fundamental and obvious that you simply dont remember to keep thinking about them. You assume you will remember them, and take their existence for granted without ever going way back to the basics to re-evaluate if you actually understood the most basic concepts of life.

[@homeyworkey]

@@pleaseenteranamelol711 TRUE

[@KairosGaming]

I got a chuckle when you mentioned being a Physical Therapist while talking about video games. I dropped out of my Physical Therapy program because my Gaming KZbin channel took off lol.

[@robertowolf2463]

Yeah

[@kj192]

Good to see Kairos here

[@theeggman85]

"As you construct your life, you will find your passion" - Wow. This one really hit home for me. The act of getting your life in order creates more optimal circumstances for you to get into that flow state.

[@HalikBun]

This is something I wish I had heard earlier. After trying to sell my art and move onto commercial work, I found that it really bothered me; getting commissions and putting price points to my work felt gross and wrong. At this point I thought that maybe I shouldn't try and make a career out of art and just keep it a hobby so I can just have fun with it. But I've been in a job unrelated to art for the past 5 years, realizing how miserable I am with out little I draw and how little motivation I have to do so. Part of this also came from the fact that I do not like working from home, which is where I was doing my art commissions. I like going to a place with other people and having it be my work location where I can buckle down and have a set task(s) to get done for the day, and when I leave and return home I don't have to worry about it. But since I've had this job that's unrelated to art, I get home after work and never feel like I'm in the mood to draw, just tired. Funny enough, in my previous job, I would draw during my work breaks and lunch, taking it home and finishing it if I liked it. One of the big things I was excited for when I got this new job was continuing to do this after being unemployed for a bit, but my current job has no official breaks, and my lunch is only 30 minutes instead of an hour, and at this point it's teared away at my work ethic and motivation towards anything, not just drawing. It should have been obvious 5 years ago before I even got this job that I should try and get an art job at a studio, but working from home has generally been the trend with art, especially since covid. Seeing you put this into a more logical format to digest really helps focus the picture on what I've been doing wrong. I went from someone who use to have withdrawals from not drawing during a day, to now being someone who goes weeks without touching a pen. It's really depressing and something I've been racking my brain on how to reconcile.

[@bluedash24]

I hope you can soon figure this out. As an artist I feel I’m in a similar situation sometimes. Let me know how it goes if you feel comfortable enough to share! You can do this, I know firsthand that artists usually have a ton of resilience 💙

[@TheNicJellie]

Just hearing Dr. K saying that he loves stories makes a lot of sense now. He reads reddit story submissions, he tells stories about his professional journey and love video games with compelling stories. It feels like it all aligns and he seems to be in the right place and that makes it work for all of us and especially for him

[@MrLegion501st]

It comes to me Leo Fender, inventor of the Stratocaster electric guitar. Damn guy loved to built guitars and was so good on it; never actually learned how to play them. On my perspective, one of the main problems is that people wants to be under the lights, being the star, the front man, famous, whatever, with their passion, if they don't achieve it that way, is like it doesn't count even for them.

[@flitefulwantssubs402]

People want validation and recognition for their skills, assets, and talents. They want to feel important, and like they are better than others at something (maybe not this exact line of thought but whether or not you’re “good” at something is still comparative to a standard set by other people). I’m guessing it’s a huge drive in why some people pursue the things they’re good at

[@MrLegion501st]

@@flitefulwantssubs402 I can get that, but what I want to say is that that I feel, with what I see on social media, is that people have the urgency to be famous, to get validation over the internet, otherwise is like they are not human beings anymore, they don't exist, but the sad truth to the them is that the vast majority of us humans will only be average people between millions and not being like a Marie Curie, Freddy Mercury, Cristiano Ronaldo, etc., And then they feel hopeless because of that instead of enjoying what they have.

[@flitefulwantssubs402]

​@@MrLegion501st Very true. People (and I am totally guilty of this) aren't grateful for what they have. And people, especially our generation, seek validation from others by means of social media. When I was in elementary school, with no social media or nihilistic influences yet (contrarily, I grew up being told everyone's special) I came to the conclusion that nothing mattered and no one would remember us in a hundred years, and I remember wanting to leave an impact after I died. And I knew unless I had some talent or invention, then that probably wasn't going to happen (and even if I did do that much in my life, my accomplishments would only be a footnote in history). It's a pretty natural thing for humans to want to do, especially when we're being raised with all these online influencers, and have all this worldly information not available to our ancestors. We try too hard and wish too badly to be special, when the truth is the majority of us are average. I have so many good things in life due to luck, and while it's not bad to dream a little, I want to enjoy what I *do* have I died. And I knew unless I had some talent or invention, then that probably wasn't going to happen (and even if I did do that much in my life, my accomplishments would only be a footnote in history). It's a pretty natural thing for humans to want to do, especially when we're being raised with all these online influencers, and have all this worldly information not available to our ancestors. We try too hard and wish too badly to be special, when the truth is the majority of us are average. I have so many good things in life due to luck, and while it's not bad to dream a little, I want to enjoy what I *do* have

[@semekiizuio]

Well I for one dont feel at all special but different from normal people for sure in some areas. Still though, all I've want is to live a simple life but it is very difficult as a single individual. You are forced to get a partner just to survive otherwise you gotta work alot if you want to live the single life.

[@LarryCannon3000]

My passion is sleeping and dreaming I have enough money to not work and actually do stuff I'm passionate about

[@juanmejiagomez5514]

I think that’s called depression

[@cloak5857]

Oh so like being dead but not really

[@life-destiny1196]

What ARE you passionate about?

[@deadsoon]

My existential crisis started when I wondered if my passion for art that started when I was 10 was really a passion or a hyperfixation bc of my autism.

[@DougyFreshGames]

maybe just a hobby, at least its become one for me lol

[@soupytho]

why does it matter if it's because your autism? do you like it?

[@Latronibus]

I might be on the spectrum; the formal diagnosis I got as a kid wasn't that, but the symptoms are very similar, and the neurology is not well understood. In any case, from my experience having this sort of brain, it's best to consider it as a distinct aspect of yourself as little as possible. It is worth doing that to get any special needs you might have (if any) met, and otherwise try to just consider it part of yourself. Otherwise either the self-image as a disabled person, or the identity crisis of wondering how much of who you are is "just" the condition, will just cause even more problems.

[@christinetobiasz]

I recently started doing visual arts and sewing and it has definitely unlocked my passion and talent again. It’s helped my mental health bounds due to working in corporate. dealing with non creatives in the last few years has killed my inner passions

[@DougyFreshGames]

@@christinetobiasz That definitely happens when you end up working with non creatives. Glad to see someone getting back into the arts.

[@maxxbenavente]

Another important point is that in order to find your passion you need to experience a lot of different circumstances, going through all sorts of jobs is a good way of doing that

[@Haurent]

I've studied 3 years of 3D animation and 3 years of comic book drawing, or graphic narrative if you will. As of today I work in the academic secretary services office of a private design academy and you know what, I really like my job, it allows me to work on something that I like that is game design, which I do almost daily since I'm working on a TableTop RolePlaying Game. I'm currently 26, this year I turn 27, and ever since I was 18 I tried to learn how to draw. In fact, I tried to make drawing a sidegig because I wanted to make comic books, I wanted to tell stories that people would enjoy. As of today I wanted to make the illustrations of my TTRPG not to save money but because it's my project. Now, where this leads is that I can't bring myself to draw. I entered art school at the age of 21 and spent three years there. Drawing didn't feel super enjoyable, and today it barelly is, it feels more like a task to finish. I tried several times but I am not consistent enough. When I get home from work I'd rather work on my project than draw. In art school my teachers kinda burned me out of drawing. I feel like I've given up and the whole act of drawing doesn't truly fulfill me anymore, and it sucks because it's something I want, or I believe I want. When it comes to thinking back on art school I felt so alienated, out of place, that almost three years after going to art school I don't know what I want regarding art anymore, and I feel like I've sabotaged myself spending 6 years of my life in a pursuit that has me confused. It's not easy to talk about this because when I describe my experience or what I feel, it's almost like I'm lamenting myself, like I should just "shut up and get on it", and that pressure makes me want to run away. I don't like how dramatic all of this sounds, and while most of the answers will be "shut up and get on it" it just builds pressure, which takes me further away from drawing because then it feels like a task I have to do, a problem I have to solve. When it comes to art I feel conflicted, confused and like a coward from progressively running away from something that I wanted to do. I know this isn't the place to talk about this, and everyone can read this, but if I'm exposing myself to it is because I need help and I don't know who to talk to.

[@viktoriab4293]

Whoa I actually feel the same...

[@train_cam]

Three days ago I finally cracked, had a nervous breakdown, ended up shocking my own father with a taser... not my proudest moment.. It was one of these rare days when I woke up in an actual good mood, only to be disturbed yet again by my dad's shrill squealing that somebody touched his keyboard or something like that. Anyway, I quickly packed my things and headed on a long drive from new york city to florida. Have been listening to your videos intermittently and always looking forward to the next one. Hope I can apply some of these lessons to my new life down here, instead of lapsing back into my old patterns. Your videos on motivation and feeling dead inside especially struck a chord. Before I left i threw away most of my old things too. Eight or nine heavy black bags of pure hoarded trash, I've been squirrelling and putting away for much, much too long.

[@kaebrenwillis7442]

wishing you the best, keep pushing on

[@zak4683]

Goodluck on your journey.

[@unkaleidoscoped8194]

I'm sorry, you tasered your dad?

[@deadsoon]

Are you having a manic episode? Because that's what this sounds like.

[@stan8634]

Also suffered a nervous breakdown this year. Except it was triggered by work and a bad break up. Something that resonated with me that Dr. K addressed was you can’t run from yourself. Relocating may help, as I did the same (NY to TX). But, change starts with you. Do what you can to prioritize your mental and physical well being. Good luck on your journey friend.

[@duartecosta9968]

When you talked about loving stories and then showed the different approaches to professions associated with it, it just opened my academically wired eyes to so much

[@megzarie]

This... whole video just makes sense to me. This has been a problem that's sorta haunted me ever since I became an adult. Like I went to college three times, and nothing worked. I think I have been railroaded into thinking that college was the only way I would able to make a living. I kinda more of less realized a while ago that the 'traditional' path might not actually be the way to go for me. Though that means I might have to take risks that I'm not sure that I'm ready to tackleI won't get into details rn since I'm currently sitting on a toilet at work. Anyway I feel similarly to Dr. K in that the main reason I like to game is because I like a good story. I really like gaming, writing and and drawing cute girls so maybe I do have something already and I just need to find a way to make it work for me.

[@jeanember8807]

Fire emblem and SMT. You have great taste.

[@salzfliesel3602]

Usually when I watch your videos, I feel mostly hopelessness and anger, which I think comes down to my unwillingness to accept -and my disability to conform to- certain "rules of life". So many people already have told me, that I just have to find and follow my passion. From parents to colleagues and even therapists. And everytime I thought about this it always came down to me not fitting with certain physiological and environmental factors. It always felt like: "Yes, I like this topic alot, but if I were to have this job you have in mind for me, I would be burnt out immediately." It is so liberating to hear from you, that those factors are equally important for finding a fulfilling job. It's the first time in 8 years, that I am actively looking forward to my future. Thanks alot.

[@caspian3428]

This feels really obvious in hindsight but when I was listening I felt like my mind was blown and suddenly I felt a lot less restricted than before and much more hopeful. Thanks for the awesome video!

[@kostis9081]

beeing a high school student who's gonna be taking exams soon this video made me realize a lot of things about what i wanna do in the future and made me think a lot. epic

[@ersetzbarescrewmitgliednr.7063]

Why I found this video so great is because it demystified passion. I always somehow assumed that there were many core points that I missed. But as it turns out the things being talked about weren't that new to me but structuring that knowledge and collecting it all systematically in one place so that you can pick out things to focus on was really helpful 👍 That also helps with not considering too much stuff so that you become almost paralyzed.

[@4xzx4]

Funnily enough, my passion is also stories. I loooooove creating stories (especially deep ones) and want to "channel" that through video games, since I'm a gamer. So the spiritual and neurological aspects are figured out. The physiological aspect I am pretty sure that I'm an "on and off" type, meaning that I'd rather hyper focus on a task for a day than splitting it up over the week (for example). I did some extensive thinking on this and this was my conclusion. Now, for me, the environmental aspect was tricky. I'm an introvert so working alone (solo) is what I prefer. I'd also want to freelance, since I like "ruling" my own work. Now, the problem was: why do I have such a hard time then working on my design document? What's the problem? After some thinking it struck me: I am working in my room. Where, you know, I can get distracted a lot. So I figured that - what if I took my computer with me to the library instead and worked there? I would be away from the games (and other "homely" distractions, like youtube and snacks lol). And I also think that since you are changing your physiological environment your brain knows "aha, we're here to work! We have no games nor internet, we're here to write! We can't do anything else anyway!" So I'm going to try exactly that! (First a little time/bursts every day, then maybe one whole day for the week. I'll see what will be the most effecient one.)

[@Julie-qd5hk]

thank you dr. k, even after years of therapy, i had a hard time finding my worth and value. you taught me that i deserve worth because i just do. and from there, you helped me find my dharma

[@americanbookdragon]

I love learning random ass things. The weirder the better. The problem is that if I became say an archaeologist, that limits me too much and puts me into a box and I’ll feel trapped. Even if I’m interested in history, physiology, anthropology and geology, I don’t actually want to dig around in dirt. I’d rather take the information and run. Eventually I figured out the broadest field of random information: history of medicine. It’s not limited to a specific place in the world so I can explore different cultures. I can read about abortion one day and bioterrorism the next. I can read about doctors experimenting on themselves and patients dying in odd ways. I can go into reading about poison, pandemics, medical fraud, the development of sewers, and discrimination in healthcare and I’m still in the same goddamn topic. Even reading about Veterinarians count. But the core passion is still just learning new things.

[@americanbookdragon]

@Sean Brogan I know the world is cruel, I have c-PTSD because my parents took me out of school when I was 8 and abused and neglected me to such an extreme that I tell people it was like being tied to a pole in the basement. I was isolated from everyone but my immediate family from ages 13-18. I was 60 pounds underweight with dozens of psychological traumas by the time I got away from them. I didn’t know math beyond addition until I was 18 and it has taken me 10 years to get my bachelors degree because c-PTSD is debilitating and it took a long time to catch-up to everyone else. At no time did I ever think of quitting college because of how long it was taking and I’ll be damned if someone tries to take that drive and pride away from me.

[@CoolVictor2002]

I think it would be niche to learn something and vlog about it on KZbin.

[@__hazelnut]

That being said, what are you gonna pursue for a career? I’m similar in the sense where I love learning new things, which is why I went into Computer Science; just like medicine, the field is so broad and full of information.

[@americanbookdragon]

@@__hazelnut historian of medicine.

[@shvrhd]

Doc dropping banger after another banger videos, loving the latest stuff

[@paraskaith5027]

Fr

[@ab3240]

on god, he's dropping nothing but bangers recently

[@aendraes5135]

I wish to give my own perspective on this which is a bit counter to most ideas out there. It's a long text and usually people don't like to read much but I hope this can help someone. If not I enjoyed writing it. Starting with passion is going the wrong way about it. It is a great misunderstanding that we need passion to be productive or enjoy the things we do. We need drive. Passion is what we do, drive is the will to do things. “There is no such thing as a lousy job - only lousy men who don't care to do it.” - Atlas Shrugged I believe this quote encapsulates the problem very well. A driven person will do the crappy job and enjoy it, another person will find all the faults with it and rationalize why they do not need to. Drive can exist without passion but not the other way around. So we need to start with determining what creates drive, because without it, you will never have passion for anything. The problem that a lot of us grow up with is that as children we were bored very easily. We do not like being idle, so during any event where we are forced to be idle, if mom takes us shopping for example, we need to find something to do. Children and parents cooperate here and create these things called "distractions" to keep the child occupied. (Examples video games, snacks, TV) The problem is that as we grow up we still confuse being bored with needing to be distracted, because that's what we were thaught. In adulthood this may come in the forms of browsing the web, playing games for hours, watching TV, porn, drinking beer and so on.. I'm making the assumption that usually we know something we "should" be doing or something that we are vaguely interested in. The problem is that because we spend all our willpower and drive on distractions so we often don't get even the more basic things done, cleaning up living area, cooking etc.. So the first problem is solved simply by doing less. I promise you that if you actually work on just doing less every day, you'll be way more driven to do the important things. It's okay to be bored and it's okay to be boring. Try to identify the activities that are distractions, TV, Gaming, Web scrolling and reading are common ones. If you reduce these and embrace the boring tasks I promise you they will become way more interesting. Even your dead end boring job can be fulfilling. The next step is to try to find some sort of passion. The solution here really is "stop looking" which is similar to what was said in the video. There is nothing perfect for you, although ironically when you find it you will think that it is perfect. Work to find out WHO YOU ARE. This is the most important component in finding passion. What kind of work/hobbies have you been able to perform well at and enjoy in the past? Maybe look into Myers-Briggs. I don't know how it's for other types but my hobbies and interests are very well aligned to the result I get as INTJ. I'll provide my own story as an example. TLDR at the end. I was always very unmotivated growing up, nothing really engaged me, didn't study at all but still got decent grades. Then I went to university and hit a wall because you actually have to put some work in outside of classes. This ended up in me dropping out and eventually getting into working as a car mechanic for my dad, a job which I hated at first, and I'll add that it wasn't a voluntary decision. After a couple of years working, with the help of a colleague I made the decision that I like working with cars, and I identified that i particularly liked the more technical parts of automotive diagnostics. Finding what's wrong so that we can fix the problem was always my strong point, manual labor and accuracy wasn't, and others recognized this too. I also had a proficiency of solving problems by designing new tools. I started actually loving what I did because I changed my routine, stopped playing games and stopped engaging in porn. Because these distractions wasn't constantly pulling me down anymore I had energy to put into doing a good job. Anyway since I was in pretty terrible work conditions(never work for family) I was thinking about changing careers. I knew I wanted to get into IT, not only because of the pay and work conditions but I had always had an interest and ease working with computers. So eventually I joined a coding bootcamp and not only did I love every second of it, I excelled and was by far the most capable in the group by the end of it. I'd say this comes down to two factors. It was something that fitted my personality very well, doing small projects where the focus is problem solving. Being meticulous and having study-skills wasn't as necessary. Perfect. I also had built my drive up beforehand in my previous job by cutting distractions and just giving myself more overtime. While most people distracted themselves with social engagements and games after the "workday" I was so engrossed in the content I was just not letting any information pass me by. I built up a huge interest for data science and started reading papers and articles on how to improve the accuracy of my projects and new methods. Anyway soon after I found myself in a few job interviews and got the first job I Interviewed for over several "more qualified" candidates with degrees. Because it was so visible how extremely driven for the subject I was. I now work as an application developer / data scientist / automation engineer and I struggle to stop working because I find the job so exciting. Constantly learning new things in small projects is a great fit for me. Am I passionate about the job? Not really, it's more about the methodology, I rarely use the things I am specifically interested in in my work, but I love every day of it because it's a good fit for how i can work. TLDR: What's important is that I'd still be perfectly happy doing the work of a car mechanic, because I no longer need that constant dopamine hit in my work. I found my "passion" as you call it by identifying vague interests, and finding out what kind of a person/worker I am. (Problem solving, Introverted, systematic.) This only after I had developed a drive by reducing my activities to what I wanted to do, not what I did to pass the time. I was also able to apply this drive and personality assessment to my hobbies, (Guitar, writing/reading and Bodybuilding), all of which are very fitting hobbies for my specific personality traits.

[@timefortee]

Thank you, it was helpful and interesting.

[@fzxfzxfzx]

gah damn

[@battlerifle3614]

I was on the train track up until graduating from uni 4 years ago. Now, despite having a full time 9-5 and other commitments, I feel that because I'm not chasing my passion I feel like I'm just wandering around in the open desert. It's like there are signs in the distance that you know will tell you where to go next but they're so far away that you can barely make out what they say That being said this was interesting to hear that "Muh pashon" doesn't seem like it will be the ultimate oasis to moving through life

[@kylespevak6781]

I had a passion for parkour, and it was exactly as he was looking for. I got extremely good extremely fast and since it's a sport, I got extremely fit as well. Problem is, I tore my ACL and now can't go back to the sport (at least to the level I enjoy it at). So now I know my passion, yet I'm unable to continue doing it. I've found acceptance with that being in my past, and I've moved forward, finding appreciation in new things, big and small Edit: After watching where he breaks down how to find a passion.....yep, mine fits the bill. I love physical movement, being by myself, healthy, freedom of expression within an ordered system, and a community aspect as well

[@channeljdge]

I think many of us start looking for "passion" in the first place because we know we will spend most of our lives doing something, and we don't want to dread the rest of our existence doing something we dislike or don't care that much about.

[@GameOver-ou1ge]

I don't put my opinion in the internet, saying "never" would be better but I always hide what I want to say and not say the problems I want to express so seeing a 44 minute video saying everything you wanted to say off your chest is a chest-opener that I didn't know I needed this much, everytime I feel anxious or depressed I know one video of Dr.K well help me but just like in the video my nerologic brain wouldn't move for the life I have it to do it. I wish everyone the best in luck in life and a happy and fulfilling one.

[@nitrocharge2404]

My takeaway is this: when it comes to passion, just stitch animals from other worlds together as a career

[@ersika6004]

Personal Notes 15:50 Dimensions to passion (Spiritual, Neurological, Physiological, Environmental) 26:28 Examples 18:41 Unprecedented amount of freedom

[@DoctorMotorcycle]

The problem is, a lot of people parrot the "do something you love, you'll never work a day in your life" saying, but don't actually know if it's true because they don't do what they love for a living. IT ISN"T the answer to all your problems, and it can actually create a lot more problems when you get everything you ever wanted and then go "shit.....life isn't really any better now than before". Passion comes and goes; often times, it's when you least expect it, the fire is lit again, and you're ready to pick up where you left off. Everyone feels this, it's normal!

[@stargazerkawaii]

I currently am in a great job but my last job might have been my permanent job had the mangement not been so poor and the workload too much. It was as a janitor at a hospital. I am a bookworm so stories are where I get my happiness. Working as a janitor ment I got to spend my 8 hour work day listening to audio books as I cleaned. It was awesome for the first couple of years. If they hadn't refused to hire more people instead of redistributing the work I might still be working there. Then covid hit and noone was applying for jobs after people quit which ment even more work for less people.

[@JensFromScratch]

Bro, you haven’t yet, but I can tell you’re going to change my life. Your content is amazing and is exactly what the world needs.

[@literaturegirl6436]

I just realised that my passion are also stories. Since I was a child I alsways loved to create different stories and make books with drawings. I also love to draw and create characters with difficult lifes or interesting backgrounds. I also really enjoy talking about stories with others and listening to their problems. I also love games/anime/manga/books because of the stories. So I would never know who do I want to become more? An artist? A writer? A pscycologist? Right now I'm on my 2 year of university studying design and I do not feel fullfilled. I do not find it that interesting and now am really struggling to get anything done at all. I always dreamed of working in animation or learning animation but Im afraid what if I start it I wont like it too? What if everything I thought I liked and dreamed about my whole life isnt actually what I want? Because my parents had different plans for me but I studied art to get into uni and make them understand that it is my passion. We had a lot of fights because of it. But now, what if it really wasnt passion? And it would have been better if I chose a different profession? What I really understood is what gives me fulfillment is telling stories, listening to stories, drawing and helping people. But I dont know how exactly to contribute all of those things.

[@ernesta2578]

This is pure gold!! I am psychologist but realised I don’t want to work in clinical environment and ever since been trying to figure out where to go or do. I love talking, listening comes harder to me and working alone is hoooorible and I like more 9-5 type of routine but I tend to cram if I work alone or don’t work at all. Self-motivation is hell it’s the other people that motivate me and engaging with them. Money is also big one if I am not paid a lot I am not motivated, finances is massive motivation. So far I decided to be performance coach or executive coach as I can earn more because content creation does not work for me if I work alone.

[@ferminurzainqui6845]

Highly recommend watching Pixar Soul. It's life changing My passion/spark is Creating. I like drawing, taking a white canvas a filling it with color. I like programming, writing a script and seeing the result. I like writing, giving birth to entire worlds and characters in my mind. I can enjoy almost any creative activity. Now I need to use this to find a job in which I can give the most value to the world.

[@bigjoeysfriedeggs6909]

I feel like i’m one of those rare circumstances that i’ve actually found my passion (marching band) And from one thing is that it’s not just the hobby itself but it’s also the people who are there to support you and build you up. THEY make those obstacles fall away. When i wake up everyday i physically become excited about how i get to meet up with my friends and play music and be active everyday. Getting to figure out marching techniques and teaching my knowledges to younger players just feels so fulfilling. My main problem at the moment is that there is no reasonable way to turn something like this into a stable career (Most viable option would be a band director but i’m not interested in being a teacher) maybe some opportunity will plop into my lap and i’ll continue my passion but rn i think i might go into EMT school and become a firefighter so i’ll feel like i’m still contributing to people while creating a close bond to others

[@zekiel2574]

Part of finding passion is active. You might not feel the fire of curiosity and motivation all the time, but sometimes you seek inspiration to find it

[@l0kk016]

Today i learned, the "random cool stuff" on Dr.K's head is actually really cool. For real, underwater space basket reaving and sticking animal together to create hybrid shit. Pog.

[@derrickchoi9774]

I'm pretty sure Confucius never talked about passion in the way that the Reddit post said he did. Careers and social roles were determined by birth in ancient China. If your father was a carpenter, you were a carpenter. If your father was a farmer, you were a farmer. The idea of having a passion or calling that you pursue developed relatively recently.

[@riverman6462]

That's exactly what happened in India (the whole subcontinent, not just the country) as well. I wonder how much overlapping Chinese and Desi culture has in aspects like this

[@ButlersTraining]

I think he meant, if your passionate about your work, you dont have to work a day in your life

[@apocalypsedragon]

@@riverman6462 that's actually not that true, at least initially. Professions became fixed by the circumstances of birth as time passed. We can find evidence of this gradual change as wel move through time, in the scriptures as well. TLDR, the circumstances were different initially but things changed and profession became fixed by the circumstances of birth.

[@riverman6462]

@@apocalypsedragon I am not too sure. Specially since the Vedic Aryans have been recorded to have the caste system since their inception in India. But maybe you are right. Thanks for the info 👍

[@apocalypsedragon]

@@riverman6462 First off, thanks for responding respectfully. To add to what I said. The word Aryan is never mentioned in any of the scriptures. It is a false narrative, to propound the Aryan Invasion Theory, which was also disproved. The actual word is Arya(h): used to describe anyone of noble character. Secondly. The caste system was not mentioned in the scriptures either. In the Bhagavat Gita, it is spefically mentioned that the circumstances of birth DO NOT make any one person superior.

[@JorisJoestar]

The problem for me personally as a young adult living in Germany is that Germany is forcing you to stay on the train tracks. You *have* to have either a completed apprenticeship or an officially recognized college/university degree to find any type of job that won't have you stuck there forever. And if you get either one too late in life, nobody's gonna hire you anyway. I'd like to discover my passion without having to be constrained by jobs but I literally have to choose a degree or an apprenticeship that I want to complete *right now*. It actually should've already happened five years ago. Also, if you stop/cancel your current degree or apprenticeship to do something else too many times (even if you are genuinely just trying to find something you actually want to pursue) you're not gonna get hired, either, because employers view that as "They're just gonna leave after some time and we don't want that.". Even if all these things weren't a problem if you're a student or apprentice you get money from the government for certain things (idk how to describe this accurately) and me and my family are pretty much dependant on that. Up until I turn 25 my mother gets child benefit for me and my brother and me and my brother get half-orphan's pension until we're 27 because we don't have a father to financially support us. If we're not in university or in an apprenticeship we won't get that money anymore that we give our mother anyways because her pension is not enough for her to live on her own. I'm stuck with this and I don't know what to do except literally speed run my way into finally finding my passion or live with a degree I don't even want and work a job I don't like until society finally changes.

[@shannonjones8877]

As you construct your life, you will find your passion. Wow. Also, the way you describe Elden Ring kind of reminds me of Breath of the Wild. The thing i loved about BotW is that it barely, if ever, actually directs you to go anywhere. It just provides you with a world that has so many interesting looking locations and leaves it to your sense of curiosity and exploration to check them out. And also gives you a good amount of wiggle room to accomplish goals/tasks in creative ways. Can't wait for BotW2.

[@prizmalock]

Passion is a runeword that can be put in any 4socket melee weapon and is mainly known for its 1 to zeal which is mainly used in the melee sorcoress along with a dream helm and shield for its insane damage output when combined with a high level lightning mastery.

[@syrix5914]

Spiritual: Do deep internal work. When where you exited? Neurological: What makes you tick? Dopamine is released. Examples: Problem solving Creative work Tinkering Order Physiological: Routine Organization How much time off? Strict / Dynamic Environmental: Social structure Do you want/need structure? Teams / Freelance For me commuting You got this! And remember life is a marathon not a sprint.

[@spirewolf1075]

As music producer I agree a LOT with the internalization stuff, most of the time I mess around with some sounds and just end up creating a loop that gets me nowhere. However, when I sit down with myself and write about how I feel, create a story and just express it through words. I go super saiyan with the music and end up creating a full song under 4 hours. So my advice is. Don't mess around with sounds without a direction in mind. Find something that makes you tick as you mentioned and build it up from there.

[@Windavee]

Every video of this man is so enlighting to see, I always learn something deep about myself. Thank you for this, really

[@thebat4977]

Dr. K this is an amazing video!! I've been struggling with burnout due to clashing values I had with the work I was doing and deep down understood these concepts but thought I just had to deal with it. However, when you explicitly put a name to the ideas it allowed me to know that I can change things to better suit me.

[@alechalici7827]

I cannot explain this euphoric feeling I have after finally understanding and having a path to finding this answer and the freedom I have now that I don't feel obligated to fit into a cookie cutter job and build my life around that. This is single handedly the most informative and important video I have ever watched. The amount of hours I have spent watching videos on this exact topic without leaving with this enlightened feeling is too many to count. Thank you so much Dr. K. This video is incredibly important to our community but more importantly, to most people in the world. I think this video should be saved for decades and taught to the current, and all future generations. Unbelievable insightful and a true gift to privilege to be able to listen to the wisdom from Dr. K. I'm so grateful.

[@thejipperspective4059]

That was the best opening in the history of HealthyGamer ever XD

[@theironflea3802]

Thank you so much for doing this Dr.K, I and many other people really appreciate it! GG!

[@DAClub-uf3br]

Passion does not make things easier they make the hard things tolerable. The things i once was passionate about no longer motivate me. I am not looking for a new career. I need to find something that will give me sense of purpose so i have a reason to live.

[@nosimplinky]

Thank you HG team, for putting all these vids on KZbin, I used to watch every single stream but It's hard to find enough time now to watch the vods. Started working, exercising, studying for psychlogy entrance exam. Still so many things to learn and start doing, but I'm in a much better place than I was like a year ago. Dr K. and this community has been such a huge help I can't even express my level gratitude... I wish all of you good luck and all the best in this life and don't give up on hope, people's dreams never end!

[@daptor1427]

I know exactly what my passions are, but it took me several years to find out how incredibly important they are to me and giving me a deep sense of meaning. My main issue is finding the time for them, after work, chores, exercise, social life, and more. I also can't find the time to do all of them (they are time-consuming and take regular practice). I really hope I'll be able to spend time on them somehow, even if I have to give up something else for it.

[@bobbycritz]

I'd just like to say thank you for being able to help guide me more than I've been able to guide myself through these questions, as a senior in college about to graduate

[@andrewlate5348]

I needed this video!!!!!! Thank you so freakin much man! Much love from Kazakhstan!!!❤❤❤

[@sourceeee]

I was lucky and found my passion as a child. I always had a thing for guitar and music in general (creating it, sound design, etc.), and an instrument has been a huge constant through out my entire life, really through no external coersion or influence from my parents either as far as I can remember. For me a passion is, something thru repeated experience that is constantly fullfilling and engaging (and healthy), and that renders me unable to imagine living a live without it.

[@blacktuxwidow4318]

Can the modern society afford everyone choosing theyr passion? Just a funny question that popped up. Will there be enough different people for all the chores the modern society needs?

[@fzxfzxfzx]

no

[@dallinw8592]

I’d think not, and that’s why it’s structured the way it is.

[@chipofchipschallenge7532]

I wish I had a resource like this growing up. I've learned and reinforced so much of what I know from these videos and through outside psychology courses. This is by far one of the best online resources for people growing up and grown ass adults. I've applied a lot of the methods and extrapolated some healthy behaviors which have enriched my mental state and my life greatly. Thank you Dr. K.

[@Alesyniana]

Thank you for this. Very timely for my situation. I found it funny how I've been able to complete Dr. K's sentences towards the end of the video. Keeping this in my playlist whenever I start asking again.

[@harper5378]

I think I thankfully realised a lot of this stuff on a subconscious level, but it definitely put a lot of choices into perspective, and put this concept into words for me! I can already think of a couple friends that this could really help!

[@_meyhemmm]

"[Video Games] do not cause you to internalize or introspect at all" I actually have to disagree with this, learning/playing fighting games competitively in my early teens-present day taught me how to internalize and introspect. For example, the decisions I made in high-pressure situations when I was younger reflected the decisions I made irl. (Took no risks, played like a coward) It's thanks to fighting games that I was able to change that aspect of myself.

[@199789638]

That's not inherent to the game, though. It's easier and more common to blame external forces (the game/character you're facing or the other player, mainly) than it is to reflect in the way you did. Same thing as playing games with enticing stories that change your views or cause you to reflect: it's ultimately the player's decision to pay attention to the story in the first place, let alone try to understand and reflect on it. Sure, you can call the games the catalyst and without this catalyst, you would not have the reactions you did that prompted you to reflect and ultimately change. Without your initiative, though, this catalyst would yield no reaction. He definitely did, however, use some specific words to discount this as a possibility. If I were to defend him, I'd say he was fixating on what video games are meant/designed/supposed to provide for us (neurologically or purely functionally). What an individual can extract from them is different from or beyond that. We all experience what sleep is since it is a universal human nature to do it, but each individual's experience when they sleep is unique to that individual. Similarly--but not analogously--If you had a dream that, upon further reflection, changed your life, it wouldn't make sense to start praising the experience of sleep. Essentially, I think that the case you make is ultimately that you chose to use fighting games as an avenue to begin self-reflection, and that the credit goes to yourself rather than the games.

[@danilo2735]

competition is different.

[@jgalvan09]

everyone doesnt agree with this thats for sure

[@tedbendixson]

This was so incredibly helpful. Thank you Dr. K!

[@AnthonyCarrick]

That point about the environment of the work passion, like bad editor if one is a writer was so good. Explains a lot.

[@supaF]

Dr. K is basically a stand-up comedian at this point. I'm never not laughing when it comes to these recent videos. Love it to bits.

[@luckypeanut9943]

I currently have a bachelor's in social work and am considering working towards an LCSW but Im thankfully on a gap year while I explore passions before returning to school. I'd love to work for a game dev company I'm passionate about as a dual HR and counselor Ive always had terrible decision paralysis my whole life and it's time to start listening to my gut :)

[@MariJadeWrites]

Thank you for answering this question and diving deep into it :) I enjoyed this video a lot and it made me think, I took some notes.

[@capuchinosofia4771]

Loved this video. Honestly, the best one on your channel for *me* at this moment. thank you, drk.

[@DeadeyeD3]

It's so serendipitous that this came out today. I was at my deadline for accepting a job offer that didn't feel right internally. The pay was too low, and it just felt like I was accepting it because I didn't have another offer. Moreover, my heart just wasn't in it. I appreciate the nuance perspective on passion as it has been something I've been trying to "find." Keep up the great work Dr. K!

[@BruceCarbonLakeriver]

Dr.K is awesome, I found my passion a year ago (through a painful path of trouble) and yes, he literally checks all the boxes I 've found myself the hard way!

[@KingDoomfist]

If I've learned anything from life, I've learned that being paid to do something you love will absolutely ruin the shit out of whatever that thing is, 100 out of 100 times. Doing something I absolutely do not care about for a living is the best decision I ever made.

[@ayakassab9992]

Can I ask why?

[@ShugaBuns1]

I sometimes don't think passion is an actual thing. I am 27 and have tried getting into different subjects or hobbies and literally nothing has ever made me feel passionate towards it. It used to make me depressed because I would see other people be passionate towards the things the take interest in, it's easier for me to just pretend is doesn't exist instead of facing the reality that nothing in life has moved me yet.

[@AuthorJakeAStrife]

How do you work at all when depression, anxiety, adhd, and chronic fatigue constantly knock you down? My passion is writing novels. And I had that passion in my grasp. But it's gone. I always see so many videos with strategies from all over... But then i realize (quite harshly), after i fail at a strategy that i am different than the people this advice is meant for.

[@TheUltimateBlitz1]

Bruh, I just want to have fun at work. According to Dr. K’s categories, I’m “interested in stories, problem solving, 9-5, supportive team.” That basically describes most jobs if the team is good. It seems like the problem is more my relationship with any job than the job itself. However, that would mean that the passion approach is overcomplicated, better just to improve one’s internal wellbeing and perspective over wrangling with the externals.

[@cloak5857]

Well it's about perspective right? You can work at a grocery store and have fun if your mental is in the right place, then you could work at what you'd think would be your dream job and hate it if your attitude is negative.

[@vtheory7531]

Well yeah if that's the case for you, then the good news is most jobs will fit your dimensions. Next step is to ask what is stopping you from having more fun at the job? Is the subject matter boring? Are the people you're working with not gelling with you? Do you have some mental issues that aren't related with work but is interfering with it?

[@semekiizuio]

I also have a 9-5 minimum wage going no where job and I love it, there only two things that I do not like 1 my employees have no work ethic and are lazy, it stresses the good working ones and 2 I love helping people but get so annoyed with incompetent people who lack common sense and/or are lazy. I deal with these types alot. So really it's not the work of doing it's the people around me who are no good

[@AnteaterRae]

I have no idea how I found your channel but I can't explain how great and refreshing it has been to watch your videos lately. I love how you can connect the eastern and western philosophy, ideas/ideals, and science. And how you help navigate this new world in a way that can keep the mind healthy while enjoying all the new toys we have now. Thanks for all you do, really enjoy your content. Such a great communicator; you are meant for this! Best to you and your family.

[@sergiogracia8072]

Dr. K you have no idea how much this has helped, thank you so much

[@tyleryams6613]

I’m trying to get into psych and hearing that dr k loves stories like I do is really reassuring

[@SeiphersZone]

Just finished watching the vod, was great :)

[@umbrellasan5363]

Dont lie

[@user-ne4ld3jp6i]

I would have loved finding this half a year ago as a fresh college graduate, lol. Studied mechanical engineering, then decided to dive head first into a teaching career because I realized it aligned with my spiritual, neurological, physiological, and environmental needs much better. (more like engineering turned out to be a screaming, glaring, irreconcilable mismatch with my needs, but I'll spare you the full explanation of that little crisis of faith) I'm still kind of unsure of the future, but understanding myself better led me this far and I don't intend to stop seeking that understanding now.

[@noidsuper]

I don't think there's ever been a thing that's ever excited me enough to want to pursue it. Best I can do is read and play games to pass the time, but not once have I ever felt a spark of interest for anything beyond trivial curiosities.

[@theglassarrow_]

My boss tells me I need more passion. I've never been a very emotional person to begin with. Heres another thing I thinking about trying after listening to this. rather than working from home for a straigth 8 hours. I'm going to try 3hrs, 1-2hr break. 3 more hours. And I tend to end up working later in the night. I feel like I work best if I get to enjoy something, then do some work rather than work work work and then take some time to cool down. I also might be burnt up from working 7 days a week since I was 16 (now 20) only time I get off is when one job closes for that day.

[@nineonine9082]

Amazing video, I truly agree we are in a new meta, I was not taught how to find a career, I was always just told you will know when you get older or something, here I am almost 30, with barely a clue, I mean I enjoy being active and physical, working in a team and doing simple work, I also enjoy spending alot of time at home being able to do things like read books or play games, I also need to be around people. I work at a Supermarket and I can't think if a better job... The pay sorta sucks but everything else is to be franky pretty good, I enjoy simple work where I can think about things while I do it, there is always something to do, very little sitting around, but I'm part of a 10-15 person team, so I know that not everything is on me to do. I would leave to try other things but getting into a senior position like I have is time consuming and not a easy process, because there is not much demand for senior positions, only entry level really. I could work this job the rest of my life, the biggest problems is a lack of social interaction, but that is probably just me, because I've always just played games all day and never done things like get together with friends, I mean i've probably only had like 10 different friends in my entire life from the like 4 different schools I went to and the multiple years of work, the other issue is buying a house, because anything else I make enough money, but houses are just retarded, I can't dream of easily buying a house on $45,000 a year. A friend of mine is sort of having a similar issue, where they don't know what to do, because they need money, but even spending like 2 years looking for a job that did not have much luck, and she currents hates her current job so bad, it is painful to see her keep doing it, but she needs the money, her parents suggested just asking for more hours or doing some training, but they are also from a more privileged generation and are rather well off.

[@m.l.7558]

I'm not American but don't you guys have a career that's called Social work? If you like being active,join a community of sport of maybe something like P.E teacher

[@joemamajams]

This video is liquid gold, especially on the dimensions to passion section. When you said people only think about Spiritual or Neurological functions of a job (and NOT the other two areas), a lightbulb went off in my head. Great stuff as always.

[@MrRedPony01]

Always on point with what’s stressing me at the moment and I’ve realized that your way of putting everything into a formula really jives with my brain. I’ve been burnt out with work for the last 4ish years and jumping from job to job. Usually to chase money, but I know that is not the measure I want. This puts things into a better perspective to help me open my eyes and find a better fit.

[@sethmatson7654]

I think you brought up two excellent points right at the end. the "train tracks vs atv" kind of thing where it's like "do this, then this then this then this then this then this...board the train" what train? There's no train! There used to be a train...but...what train? Second, the paralysis of choice. I love languages. So I remember in highschool "I want to learn a foreign language" "Great! Spanish, French or Japanese, pick one." Versus now... "I want to learn a foreign language!" "Great! Here's Duolingo with 35+ languages! Pick one" O_O

[@penndragon4746]

I just started watching your videos, and I find you inspiring. I want to be a psychologist when I graduate and this video has helped me pin down what I should consider for career choices. It also made me realize how much I love stories too. Thanks for the knowledge :)

[@marcelokj954]

I would add that experimenting things helps through this process. At this time I would say that I havent much things figured out but letting myself live different things (like going to places and being bored and working in a job for some months) started giving me some clues of what characteristics in these "dimensions" Dr K talked about work better or not for me.

[@DylanMaggs]

On the note of finding passion: One of my favorite quotes is "I'm not serious about it because I love it, I love it because I'm serious about it." If there's something you want to do and can't find the passion for, do it anyways, as well as you can, as consistently as you can. The passion will follow. Good luck to everyone, and have a great day all.

[@juststanningby]

This is like a deep dive into RULE # 10 - Any Build is Viable from Dr. K's '12 Rules for Life' video.

[@WalkandTalk7]

I’ve watched hundred of your videos, watching hour long interviews and lectures. This has been my favorite video to date. I’ve been wanting to make a video on this concept for a long time but never knew how to word it. You took my breath away with your eloquence in describing this phenomena. I can’t wait to create a follow up video and to reference you.

[@miserablepile]

Really looking forward to this one, thank you for addressing passion! Really captivating intro too.

[@xMaverickFPS]

I think Mike Rowe from Dirty Jobs said "You don't find your passion. You bring it along with you." - Do you think plumbers grew up wanting to be plumbers? No. The good ones just learned how to enjoy literally walking around in crap all day lol.

[@kricku]

I grew up wanting to be a plumber because Mario