How To Accept You Are Wrong (Without Sacrificing Your Dignity)

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[@garlicgalore]

A phrase I learned (and sometimes even remember to use!) that preserves my dignity and gives me space to think is, "You may be right about that. Let me think about it." Originally I used it when someone was going on and on about something I didnt agree with and I just didnt want to get into it, or it was getting too emotional for a discussion to be possible. But it works well for that moment when it hits me I might have made a mistake, etc. And I need some space.

[@heidipriebe1]

I like that a lot! Thanks for sharing it 🙏

[@ebbyc1817]

it's weird but when someone tells me you're right or even says X is right, about me to a 3rd party, I feel uncomfortable. It feels like the other person has 'lost' somehow. When I argue I feel like I'm right but I don't want the other person to tell me I'm right I just want them to consider my point of view like "hmmmm ok, that makes sense" or "hmmmmm ok I see your point". I just want them to listen I don't need to be right.

[@observer7418]

Hey, you wouldn't ask me to "hit you up" on telegram and then tell me I won an Iphone would you? Well, someone claiming to be you did. @@heidipriebe1

[@burt2800]

@@ebbyc1817 Wow, I'll have to remember that "I don't want you to agree with me, I just want you to see my point" might make it so much easier to navigate conflict with my girlfriend.

[@amberinthemist7912]

I feel like it wouldn't be ao hard to accept our flaws if our parents didn't expect perfection constantly and berate us for every mistake., while also never admitting to any mistakes of their own.

[@blackaugust2035]

that's exactly what I thought too! parents are showing us the worst example.

[@stevensawyer5924]

Well... isn't this a conundrum. My intire life I always thought I was wrong about everything, Drowning in shame dealing with severe cptsd, taking the blame for everything and everyone. Is it possible I could be wrong? 😂

[@garlicgalore]

Exactly! I like you sense of humor, too! 😆

[@stevensawyer5924]

@@garlicgalore ✌️❤️🐶🤗

[@chettlar212]

To be honest I've found a lot of people who talk like this end up having a hard time letting go of certain things. The reason is that being wrong about everything is very destabilizing, so in the back of your mind, you'll latch onto certain subtle things to give yourself a sense of stability. But if those things are wrong, letting them go is impossible because seeing them is impossible because your brain doesn't want them even brought up for debate. It's more about having a healthy relationship with being wrong, and either extreme isn't healthy.

[@stevensawyer5924]

@@chettlar212 Om Shanti 🙏✌️❤️🌞

[@Locut0s]

As someone who's struggled a lot with this type of persona myself I feel like a lot of this is oddly enough a defence mechanism. There is an odd way in which I can shut down and not actually have to face the messiness of my emotions if I just label myself as always wrong, completely worthless and a piece of garbage. There is a weird way in which this actually hurts less than facing some of the nuaunced ways in which things in my life have deeply hurt and sucked but how the picture was actually much more complex and I'm worthy of being loved and that I have value. That value and love actually makes the hurt feel 10x worse which is why I think we often shut down and shame oursleves as worthless. It's easier this way even if on some level it seems worse on the outside.

[@heatherariza8463]

One of the biggest things I had to learn. To not obsess on my mistakes or judge myself or meet it with shame. To admit when I'm wrong to myself. When before I couldn't look at it or thought I'd die.

[@nosiphodywili35]

I have noticed that when i accept my wrongs in a kind and not defensive way.. The other side does not come at me with a 'hah! See i was right all along?'... They are always kind enough to accept their W in a dignified way. Even if we were arguing before.

[@briannagravely9349]

0:00 start of video. Talking about cancel culture. Might be triggering in either ptsd sense or emotional activation sense. 4:41 Keeping a sense of self respect alive. Telling ourselves a new story. Step 1: Seperate out what it feels like to realize you are wrong from the experience of fawning. For me, it feels like a weight off my shoulders whether I am wrong or right. Tune into the difference between how you consider the information in the moment vs when alone. Step 2: Seperate out the feeling of being incorrect or making a mistake from the feeling of underlying shame and the story you tell yourself. You can start with the writing prompt: "If I am wrong that means..." We are all limited by our own perspectives. Step 3: Tend to your own dignity. Its okay to feel a bit bad about yourself. You can practice by saying "I had incomplete information at the time" or "I had my own biases."

[@demian8439]

What I learned from Simon Sinek in his book "Think Again": when I'm wrong it's an opportunity for me to learn from my mistakes. Recently I had a heated disagreement with a loved family member. The argument ended unresolved. By the following day, after considering the opposing arguments I realized that I was mistaken. I went back and apologized and explained how they had convinced me to the errors in my thinking. Many days later, I was reflecting on the argument and I was able to identify where my logic was flawed. I was feeling attacked on a moral basis and was acting out of defensiveness. My defensiveness blinded me to the fact that I had been committing a type of straw-man argument where I unconsciously answered a different and easier question than the actual question being asked. I forget if there is a pithy term for this. It's definitely a straw-man argument but I feel it's a specific type. What I did was argue against being judged on a moral basis for an issue which I felt was morally neutral. What I missed was that regardless of whether my actions were moral, immoral (negative), or amoral (neutral), I had hurt the feelings of a loved family member. Another pithy idiom: When faced with the choice of being right or being kind always choose kindness. It took me about 24 hours, but I was able to choose kindness in the end.

[@vibesmom]

I’ve always found it easier to think I’m wrong because I can control that and I can’t control other peoples responses. Ive been working on understanding when I am right and wrong and that’s been a good challenge. Totally right on with your points on cancel culture and the fear response associated with it. That’s why I dumped my social media ,except for a few select., and it’s been a glorious weight off my shoulders. Ironically it’s so much easier to engage in good discussions and find healthy communities on KZbin. I don’t get emotionally triggered when someone I don’t know has a inflammatory remark. I don’t know them so it’s easy to just look at the big picture and not react. Beyond that I stopped engaging in discussions to win. I have no end goal in conversations, and it’s significantly widened the discussions I can have. Mind you it took me almost two years to be brave enough to even leave a comment on KZbin, so I’ve come a long way.

[@christinepetzholtz9019]

Loved your comment, thanks for sharing. Going into conversation without an endgoal inspires me, will try it myself today. Think it actually shifts the energy...

[@vibesmom]

@@christinepetzholtz9019 thank you for your kind words.

[@Anniehastar]

I’m happy to have found your channel, but it is also very hard. You shine a light where I do not want to go, but I’m realizing more and more that I will have to. Thank you!

[@felixtownn]

I needed this video so much. I either feel remorse for my action but don't apologize because I think the other person will shame me more if I apologize or, I constantly apologize and take the full blame (for things I wasn't even completely responsible for). Thank you for the video Heidi.

[@nickydietrich5924]

I've just watched most of your videos on different attachment styles and I realised that I'm trying to evolve? from being fearful avoidant and I think my sister is anxious. We were supposed to be meeting up and I was going to be about 30 minutes late and it was my birthday. She was early and so would end up being on her own for an hour. She was really annoyed, and we ended up having an argument. I thought she was childish because people are late. But I thought well is this me being avoidant. I was shaking and angry and I didn't want to go to my birthday meetup. I thought how am I feeling and it was scared and angry and I wanted to cry. I thought well write down what you would say if you could just say anything, so I wrote it on my phone while doing a loving kindness meditation for both of us. My anger was really furious and bitter and resentful and it suprised me. And I thought I'm not scared of her anger. I'm scared of mine, which I'm repressed about sharing. I was shaking because I was scared it would be obvious how angry I was. Then I thought well she's anxious attachment, so she will think she's innocent while acting selfishly but not be aware of it, so what can I say when I see her. And then I thought ask her a question about it and make a joke, so I did. It turned out there was a reason she was so angry and we had a nice day. That was down to your videos. Thanks.

[@dangfd551]

10:46 11:30 Great! Being raised with a narcissistic parent, the threat became that if you were wrong for something, *YOU* were wrong. When I was “wrong,” *I* was wrong, as in the entire concept of self. I was wrong for my behaviors, I was wrong for my feelings, I was wrong as a human, I was wrong for my own existence. It is escalated to such an all or nothing reaction that if I was wrong, they would be right in every way and define my reality with complete control. Even to be wrong for the smallest thing like leaving a crumb on the table could trigger me to internalize this absolute wrongness. Devastating consequences for one’s well-being, relationships, and “self” concept.

[@dangfd551]

In my life now I find myself “stuck” searching for approval at a deep core level. Acceptance and validation of my existence, and my right to exist... It can sound scarily similar to the narcissist in the sense that both seek validation of the self externally, yet it lacks the egoism and grandiosity. It comes from a conscious place of internalized inferiority and doubt, rather than repressed unconscious feelings. The trauma has inspired such an adverse reaction to objectification, and a fear of being seen as and reduced to an object, like a character in someone else’s fantasy, a page that’s already written in their book, or an image of their own projections. Being seen only for/as my attributes, “personality,” actions, possessions, etc. as something static or lifeless… It’s like the response to the trauma provokes a need to become a polar opposite to the narcissist, to live with absolute “selflessness,” which can really become dysfunctional and impossible. Someone whose identity becomes solely a product of meeting others needs, because that is the extent of their “own” needs. It’s dysfunctional, yet it serves a function to the effect of _YOU_ can’t be wrong when _YOU_ have been removed from the equation altogether. It feels like I’m always searching to be seen, yet I have also become invisible by not displaying wants, needs, and desires of my own! Although I consciously seek validation, It’s practically as if I am actually just seeking out rejection and affirmation of this internalized wrongness. The weight of one person showing their disgust towards me would outweigh an entire crowd of people supporting me. That one voice ends up consuming all of my energy, attention, and esteem.

[@dangfd551]

The narcissist is like a gateway drug. They lead you into more dysfunctional relationships with more insecurely attached and/or narcissistic individuals, because they leave you vulnerable with deteriorated self-concept, esteem, trust, and boundaries. I also believe that interpersonal trauma requires interpersonal healing, and that can be one of the greatest challenges. The emphasis in healing can often be disproportionately placed on oneself, as their own responsibility, for their own behaviors, for their own responses, for their own healing, and sanity..

[@cooofffeee]

I can't express how much I appreciate this. Your work here is refreshing my hope for remembering love.

[@milkrabbits]

i SO appreciate you and the effort you put into making these videos. they're so well presented and so relevant to anyone wanting to heal. thank you ♡ you're genuinely saving lives

[@user-th7lu2yf7n]

i agree so much!!!!

[@sunnyadams5842]

Loving this, Love you! Right on time, too. Classic! " I can believe I did! I've only known this for about 30 seconds." If I could find some people like you for friends, I might consider having some. LOL..

[@Tass1919]

This is so me, whether I’m wrong or right, I just can’t think in the thick of it. I freeze freeze freeze, appease, appease, appease 😳.

[@lustertone8587]

Clear as mud... Some topics I am able to understand fairly well... others I struggle with and this is one I struggle with. :/

[@killerb255]

What are you struggling with? Is it the entire topic or certain parts of it?

[@trudojo]

How fortunate of us to get two videos back to back :)

[@nickcipriani9839]

I appreciate your communication style that gives me permission to be human

[@discobassgroove]

This would be a tough pill to swallow if I was ever wrong about something, but I’ve never been wrong so I don’t have to worry about that!

[@halliebirds]

same 😂😂😂😂

[@discobassgroove]

@@halliebirds it’s a good place to be lol

[@_Mohtaf_]

Thank you for this 🙏 I just realized how much more work I need to do on accepting wrongness. It is human and not something I should feel so much dread and fear around. Thank you for this conversation.. One I have never had and needed desperately!! ❤️🙏

[@zzdogger]

Man.. This video feels so familiar, I think I learned to do this really well living most of my life as a high-masking autistic person.

[@JK-uj5kj]

Pure gold. Thank you. May the whole world hear this.

[@onplanetbanana]

Another banger from Heidi.. This was really helpful cus i was just in a situation where half the people involved thought I was wrong & the other half thought I was right. & my instinct was to go see?? They have more/better information & that's why they know I'm right. Then I watched this & felt like, oh geez, I didn't even consider the other perspective. So then I felt bad about being wrong about possibly being wrong. & I was like oh noo! Haha I just saw the Russian nesting doll infinity of how tricky shame is. So this video helped me to realize that you have to stop the bleeding by having self-compassion & being willing to go forward with dignity vs. getting caught in a loop of past wrongs & stuck there. Thanks, Heidi ❤

[@clubdanz]

Incredible video so sensible and emotionally mature what we all need to hear

[@dairyqmamma]

Thanks for this very clear and thoughtful way of explaining this. Would love to hear you speak more about collective shadow, how these topics show up in groups and families.

[@elianaambrose8977]

Time stamps: 5:49 Feeling Wrong vs Fawn Experience 10:06 Being Wrong vs Narrative about being Wrong 13:31 Tend to your own dignity 19:06 Integrate Your Wrongness 22:49 Make amends

[@hayattMD]

it looks like I have developed some sort of attachments to your videos, and was literally checking for the past few days to see if you have posted or not. welcome back. so excited for this new series!!!

[@Thomas...191]

A little mention of jungs shadow of the collective conscious; and I'm a happy man... great vid as usual, Ms. Preibe

[@Locut0s]

Absolutely love your content Heidi. Thank you! EVERYTHING in this video strikes close to home for me. I think one of the things that has helped me a little as well that I'll share has been working on trying to be "right" less often as well. The flip side of having a shame bound personality that can't be wrong a lot of the time is needing to be right and I know for me a lot of the time this looked like telling people lots of stuff in order to fulfill the need of trying to be seen, having felt so unseen all of my life. But if I am always engaged in trying to be seen for being right or smart etc then it's even more threatening to me when someone points out I'm wrong. I find this can be very subtle stuff I do, perhaps this post itself is an example lol. I find I have mixed feelings about cancel culture too as you mentioned in the beginning of this video. Where I feel it becomes very counter productive is when it's taken away from a tool of accountability and consequences and used purely as a tool of shame. As a man who's done a certain amount of work around his own misogyny and racism etc I can definitely say that the shaming aspects of how we have approached this can be a double edged sword. On the one hand the shame I feel and discomfort can lead me to go down a road of uncomfortable introspection into myself and do the shadow work to unearth my own sexism, racism and much else. On the other though I can very much also feel the defence mechanisms wanting to come online and I feel that those who need to do this work the MOST, those with the strongest levels of toxic masculinity and sexism etc are going to have the strongest shame bound personas and probably are going to act the most defensively in which case this will backfire.

[@ashercorbett8089]

Please keep making these videos. You are very gifted at explaining things. Especially as an ENFP, I feel like you are speaking my language, and your insights are incredibly interesting 😭

[@extrapolate]

Love this, so important in this day and age especially

[@observer7418]

I just try not to be a jerk. When I'm wrong I have no problem accepting that but people will create "wrongdoings" for themselves to gaslight you with and therein lies the real problem.

[@ebbyc1817]

You can not be a jerk, and be wrong. It can happen at the same time. Being wrong doesn't make you a jerk.

[@AlexWalker1969]

Thanks

[@StarseedsTD]

Excellent video to forward to people who need to accept they were wrong to me 😂

[@wohdinhel]

this is all so important, especially when you spend so much of your time online, as most people do nowadays. and ESPECIALLY when you are very intellectually curious but grow up in an environment where most of the people are (or seem to be) very much not. it can be VERY easy to fall into the trap of intellectual elitism and then turn into the type of person who can never admit they’re wrong about ANYTHING, even if you don’t actually KNOW the facts at hand, EVEN IF someone you perceive as “dumber than you” (and who very well might objectively be on a lot of the subjects that YOU care about) DOES know far more about the subject at hand than you. it often ceases to be about the facts at hand and becomes a battle to protect your own ego from a perceived failure of intellect. it’s also often a sign that the “intellectual curiosity” you once had has died out, often a result of classic “gifted kid burnout” - seeing people you have internalized as “dumb” become successful, maybe even more successful than you, despite the world telling you that the opposite should have happened, it’s no wonder your internal perception of the world gets twisted up in self-defense. i know i’ve been guilty of this SO many times, especially in my teens to mid-20s, in particular as a progressively-minded queer person growing up in the bible belt. i feel like a huge part of truly entering adulthood is learning how to shed this mindset, because i think everyone does it to some extent or another. it ties back into the whole idea of “the more you know, the more you understand how much you DON’T know” (paraphrased horribly but you get the point). additionally, it’s kind of impossible to have real empathy for another person’s struggles when you’re internally wrapped up in debunking the lived experiences of others, instead of trying to genuinely understand why someone might believe something that you don’t, that you see as objectively bad, morally inexcusable, etc - more specifically, what in their life led them to those beliefs (and yes, i will capitulate to the notion that more often than not it IS a lack of intellectual curiosity on their part, but there is little you can do to change that yourself - the best thing is usually to demonstrate empathy while attempting to provide them with insight on your perspective at a level that they can reach). i’m 33 and i still catch myself doing this reflexive ego-guarding sometimes - and every time i feel really shitty afterwards. now i also have ADHD, which i’ve only very recently been able to get properly medicated for, and it’s increased my clarity on things like this by orders of magnitude. i still have a LONG way to go, but content like this helps me, and i’m sure countless others, untangle our messed up brains a lot faster and much more neatly. so thank you!

[@greenjewel8652]

This reminds me of a certain scandal that was on a reality show recently. You made and excellent point and reference about shadow.

[@danburycollins]

Just come here from the sidelines of watching a stupid KZbinr drama unfold - and this is so relevant.

[@Janet3yow]

This was really helpful. Thank you Heidi.

[@westcoastswingmusic]

Thanks Heidi!

[@Handsomerrob]

Thank you for this series this week! I appreciate your perspective, expertise, and approach.

[@mauritsbol4806]

Hey heidi. I like your videos alot! Now i can imagine you haven’t thought of this but i listen to your videos mostly as a podcast. Is it possible to publish these videos on like major podcast platforms. I can imagine many people are looking out for this sort of content, and it doesn’t hurt to spread more honest facts to more people.

[@pragmaticpoet]

Only ask of others what you are capable of do as well 🌸

[@JustinKalm-ish]

I’m perplexed, Heidi. You have all this great content about giving oneself grace and accepting one’s ability to make mistakes and still be a worthy person. However, when it comes to making amends, you seem to require nothing short of perfection. If someone wrongs me and offers an apology, I’m appreciative if they have addressed my hurt feelings and taken ownership for what they have done wrong. I would like but don’t require that they never hurt me the same way again. I give them the grace to be allowed to repeat a mistake without nullifying their earlier contrition. Maybe I’m not understanding the context here, and there’s a good reason for the inconsistency. There are some hurts that are so deliberate that I could understand only valuing an attempt to make amends if it came with a guarantee that it wouldn’t happen again. For instance, if someone had shot me, ran me over while driving under the influence, or stolen my life savings in a Ponzi scheme, I would expect them to never do it again. But if they had hesitated to admit wrongdoing, insulted me, or forgotten to get something that they promised they would get me from the store, I would understand that they can’t be perfect and those things could happen again.

[@lijohnyoutube101]

While this is true on one level there is also a much larger issue that you aren’t addressing. Making mistakes has many roots but one is tided to value. Lets say the president of your company handed you a short task and is not someone you typically interact with. You are going to ENSURE to the VERY VERY best that the task is correct. Sometimes in a relationship one person doesn’t have that same value so they half listen, disassociate, don’t truly WANT to listen etc etc. So if you don’t have a driving force to love, care,respect, honor and truly focus on making that person (and their needs) have a day that goes well …all of those things will make you treat small things in a half butt way because you JUST don’t care and don’t really deep down even want to do something to better your lives. Now the occasional screw up is human but if it repeatedly happens all those small ‘blow offs’ start feeling to the other person collectively just like hitting them with a car. So put things in place like writing down, confirming etc. and if you ARE constantly disassociating from your entire life…WHY? And go work on that in therapy!

[@oliverrojas3185]

Still have some work to do.

[@anhaze804]

Thanks!

[@Tass1919]

A million effin likes!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@LauraHernandezUCL]

This is so good, and much needed. Thanks Heidi.

[@thalesleao3043]

She says the word wrong so much that I thought she's hearing the last song released for guns roses too much

[@chrismaxwell1624]

I've found it easy for me to accept and admit I'm wrong. I'm not sure why. It just seems to come naturally to me. What notice is my ability to do this put other on edge and get them defensive. I don't really get that. I did something inappropriate. I own it. I said something I should have and I'm wrong. Why do they get defensive and uncomfortable?

[@SpaceExplorer]

amazing!

[@aylerayler]

This is blowing my mind

[@libertycan6959]

What if you are right?

[@DdubButterfly]

Hi heidi. Thank you for your information shared .

[@elisabethannwexler4728]

Thanks so much, Heidi. I think that this is a really important video for a lot of us. I very much appreciate how you articulate things in this video. I did have a knee jerk response to your use of the word, "Ugly," I believe that when we use this word, it further shames us or others. If our goal is to be accepting & compassionate towards different parts of ourselves, using this word can be a real barrier.

[@efethecaptain6]

I'm not really good at holding eye contact but you have very big, expressive and beautiful eyes. I can't actually focus what you're saying If I hold eye contact. It feels like letting go of myself into the void of space, not in a bad way, like escaping... Anyway. Have a wonderful day/night.

[@thinkwithliz6432]

thank you❤

[@pluralpsychdelia857]

What If I am right tho? Hear me out... When I am objectively neutral but somebody hurt me a lot with betraying trust and all. I know its not personal BUT non the less it hurts and I have this need to express it and so I did recently. Still kind of am puzzled. Maybe a part of me has been too harsh BUT sorry not sorry if they can have a step dance over me I feel justified and it sounds scary to see myself think like that. But I need to make them see me. Like what? They can do anything and everything they want but I have to suffer the pain... ha? No. I don't want to do silent suffering and no confrontation I need to let them know and feel what I feel. Because it hasn't been fair. Yeah all this rage I can see it being W r o n g. But tbh I also want to justify my self. For I have always been hiding myself in silence and storing all of the pain in myself making me feel as if I am a victim of life\peoples actions and projections. I felt so alone and painful and ANGRY. I cant just stay in my corner and be like cool dude just that speaks more about you. NO. That sh*t hurt. It made me go crazy. I didn't know how to cope with some stuff as I was growing up and now I feel like I need to express it... its not fair. I always used to think about them. And I never wanted to bother ANYBODY with how I feel. But its a contradiction. How can I be safe and loved and fulfilled when I cant even value my own inner world? I feel like I have to fight for myself. I have a lot of layers to feel and understand and love... I still don't know how. Everything's so mixed up and I feel overwhelmed... and broken and alone and I cant even get started. It sometimes feels so overwhelming and impossible I just feel like giving up. Too much.. too little. And I know objectively I am not my pain but I want to be able to grow through it and be by my side but there is this rage and emotions that I dare not see... I need help with that. And even tho I want to be all loving and great. I have all of this as you say unacceptable sides of me that I don't know what to do with.. I feel like I need help. Yet I don't know what to do...

[@Sheemish1]

I don’t generally comment on videos, however, I had to make a comment about how I feel like you have expanded to a whole new level with this video. I think it is telling that this video is so important for our culture at this moment and yet it has the lowest views out of your Shadow series so far. I think that is a sign you’re onto something, how could you have a video about the collective shadow and not have it chosen to be hidden by the collective.

[@JonJeremyTv]

You're wrong. 😂 jk love this thank u! Needed this

[@ctowtf]

Only if the other party willing to talk to you. I know lots of people that said "you are wrong" without listening to my explaination or my side of the story and just walked away. In a situatiom like that, how could i accept that "i am wrong"?

[@Angie247Beers]

Group think goes hand in hand with cancel culture. Awful

[@aspidoscelis]

I find it's just easier not to be wrong.

[@aspidoscelis]

(Actually, I discovered recently that accepting my mistakes is pleasant. I think I assumed that, because everyone acts like it's terrible, it must be terrible. Um. Nope. It's nice. Try it. I'm wondering, now, if everyone has the same confusion I did, or if it really is unpleasant for other people. The aspect of these situations that I experience negatively is feeling unheard / misunderstood. So, being wrong is fine, but I want other people to agree that I'm wrong, and why. :-) )

[@aspidoscelis]

(The idea of making amends trips me up, though. If I made a particular kind of mistake this time, honestly, I'm probably going to do it again. Becoming aware of it helps, but it isn't magic. It's not realistic to think that I'm going to be immunized somehow. In practice, I think the "I won't make the same mistake next time" mindset makes it more likely that you will make the same mistake next time.)

[@Jessica-ld4bs]

It always cracks me up how this video is one of the lesser-watched.

[@unscriptedinteration]

Do you have podcast?

[@justinbordner6528]

Was Love wrong about you when you laid your heart down upon the steaming ice of shocked innocence, soaking the violet chakra of your inner child's consciousness in the freezing puddles of premature pain wishing there were a wild way to punish God for the disgrace of ignorance that hope and heartache hurry you into, Were the Angels wrong about the alms of your amazing eyes, are the roses of youth wrong about the velvet of your plush pulses, Were teachers wrong about the arithmatic of your inspired intellect blooming slow amid the din of devilish danger, is your favorote song a beautiful sabotage of suffering, wrong about the joy that your prodigous confidence promised, maybe you're wrong about being wrong... We rarely learn anything of significance by being right.

[@riqo4877]

Cancelled & ostracized at LEAST 5 time. I love the mud. You can make storage pots with it😘

[@LordBadenRulez]

I'm just here to Simp for Heidi.

[@flamingaish]

17:30 20:45 22:58

[@rrrrrrrrrr0d0lph3]

heidi what happened? i was watching some of your older videos and you seemed way more relaxed and spontaneous..... now it looks like you're reading from a teleprompter

[@ML-yw4hv]

23:37

[@shininglight1630]

Wondering... are you chozer b'teshuva?

[@supernerdinc5214]

I'm not wrong....

[@supernerdinc5214]

I'm being silly. My first thought on seeing the title.

[@nobody8328]

I thought I was wrong once, but it turns out I was mistaken 😁

[@Stothrythm]

ERGO….. Heidi P f’n Rulez.

[@Psithurisprout]

Just sing the stan-wrong-song

[@theophilasara9899]

This is really weird👀. There is nothing wrong with being wrong😃. Because our inherent dignity is not something conditional but the result of being made in the image of God💖😃and therefore not something we can lose, being wrong does not affect our dignity as people. I disagree with some things you are saying. Apologizing is worth doing and as soon as we realized our behavior was not good, not when we have processed through it enough. This is because it is due to the other person as a matter of justice. When we wrong people, we owe owning up to it to people, and as soon as possible. This is because our wrong-doings have negative consequences to other people. We may even need to make acts of restitution to them depending on how grave our wrong-doing was. I think the word you are using, “dignity” could be better represented with the word “pride”. I don’t think it matters if our pride is hurt when we are wrong. It is actually good to be humiliated because it makes us humble. Pride is a vice, and humility is a virtue. The virtue of humility allows us to take ownership of things we do wrong and the greater virtue of humility we have, the less it hurts, or not even at all, to apologize when we err.

[@evil1by1]

Cool but you leave no space for people simply doing things you dont like and that not being wrong despite your belief that it is. A Hindu thinks eating beef is wrong, a Muslim pork, a Buddhist thinks all meat is wrong while Christian eats all. Who is objectively wrong? Nobody. Nobody is objectively right either despite many doing things others find morally wrong. Or the abortion debate. I find its rarely black and white, good vs evil but intellectually lazy people love to paint it as such so they dont have to give consideration to other opinions and beliefs about the world.

[@arielmcgillacuddy6640]

It would be great if all the Trump supporters would now admit with the new information what I knew all along after he mocked the reporter who has cerebral palsy, that man is a creep.

[@lilredheaded1]

Thank you so much!!!