Befriending Heartbreak: The Counterintuitive Approach To Healing

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You are such a valuable component of my healing. You have no idea…

[@dllyng]

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[@georginaandrei6033]

I feel the same ❤ 💪🏾

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[@daylondealva4448]

Truly

[@LoveeeeelyM]

Seriously, same!!

[@lifeonastring]

"Being loved by anyone for any period of time metters immensely"

[@muhamedadel2012]

My ex doesn’t think so, she’s lizard level heartless…

[@mmcuser]

This is so beautiful and true. It's only 5 days since our break up and I have immense pain, but at the same time, I know that what I experienced was so good and that I learn so many beautiful and powerful things from him that I've integrated in my live. ❤

[@coreylawson1103]

and it can be immensly painful when it is gone (again).

[@lnrdo]

I really appreciate how you don't simply tell us to "reframe your thoughts" or "change your perspective" instead of running from our emotions when we experience a setback or loss (I'd heard this so often before). You actually take the time to walk us through how we can do it ourselves and (in my case, at least) posing questions I hadn't thought to ask myself. Hearing your personal anecdotes of how you came to regard heartbreak as a teacher rather than an enemy in your own journey makes me feel like I can do the same. Thank you so much again for helping us through your talents.

[@madhurmotwani9935]

I don't think each heartbreak is a teacher. The heartbreak could be because of codependency in a narcissistic and abusive relationship. My first gf was just out of an abusive relationship and I spent 4 years healing her and giving her all of me before she left for someone else. The second time around I was seduced by a woman at work for whom I developed feelings but was smarter and wiser this time because I had learnt from my previous heartbreak.

[@richardgreaney]

@@madhurmotwani9935Your first and last sentences disagree. It sounds like that first heartbreak was a fantastic teacher for you.

[@yeayneabebatadesse2251]

Q¹1

[@wolvincraft9932]

Attachment gives the illusion of continuity. I had to replay that part several times to process it fully and let it sink in. Incredibly cathartic. Made my heart swell and hurt as if it was trying to squeeze out of my ribcage.

[@georgew3300]

For me, I wasn't enjoying the relationship when I was in it but once it was gone I felt really heartbroken. Which has been so confusing for me to process.

[@yuliyay3612]

I do the same, its because we are too much in our pain to appreciate people around but once they leave- the abandonment wound is triggered and all of a sudden they matter so much 😀 but ofc its not true, its just the wound speaking, the “not chosen” or “abandoned” one

[@georgew3300]

I agree. I also felt really bad that I couldn't make them happy. Or feeling like I let them down, feeling really sad about that.@@yuliyay3612

[@kloebl10]

Same. Wow.

[@spicychicken473]

Omg I'm the same and I'm do confused it! I wanted the relationship over because it wasn't working but my heartbreak is unreal.. my mind is all over the place?!

[@DonaldSchneider-v6t]

After my last insecurely attached relationship dissolved, I found my mind drifting back to him over and over during the first 6 months after we separated. I was trying to wipe and/or erase the whole relationship and him from my life. Yet we had some very real, tender loving moments and a lot of fun. It wasn't all bad or all good. So I had a hard time reframing the experience. I finally told myself one night when I was laying in bed with thoughts drifting again to "us" , "OK, you have 15 minutes to think and feel about that relationship. I am giving you permission." That approach also worked after my sister took her own life. I was trying hard not to be angry with her and squelching down those feelings, when I decided to make a "Blame List" of all the people I knew that I thought had a hand in her depression that caused her to take her life. That helped immensely. I left no stone unturned. Just being with my anger and hurt to the point of itemizing a list was very therapeutic. So, call it counterintuitive or reverse psychology, it works! Thank you., Heidi.

[@leelyttle7599]

Love this process . Thank you for sharing

[@petermathews2915]

When my wife of 32 years died suddenly 2 years ago, I just wanted the pain to go away. I now realize that it never completely goes away, but I am learning to live with it. It's very counter-intuitive to lean into it and "befriend" it, but I can see that it could be very helpful to learn more about the nature and roots of it instead of trying (in vain) to rid myself of it. Thank you for shedding some light on this for me. ❤

[@jessicamorales2555]

Mr. Peter, you comment is so touching. I feel for your sensitive loss. I am not an expert in this matter, but I think you are healing more a loss and less a breakup. In any case, this smart young lady Heidi has to have something in the library to help you. In my heart I feel your suffering is unavoidable, but at the same time you have a life to live and enjoy. I wish you healing and peace. ❤🇨🇷

[@susanasierra8508]

When Heidi Priebe uploads a new video it is the equivalent joy of having one of your favourite artists drop an album.

[@mguerrepaix]

me too! haha agreed

[@Moon_Fire_Water]

You are not just opening windows in my mind you are blowing down walls with dynamite analogies and explanations of these teachings. I feel so thankful to have found your channel!

[@jengriffy01]

I’m week 5 after a break up. Crying everyday and your videos are helping me understand myself better and see the experience through a gentler lense. I loved the passage about seeing heartbreak as sacred volatility.

[@caglabatur]

❤ wish you the best

[@leighvaughn]

I’m 5 weeks out too. So hard.

[@willyramirez4212]

You got this!!!! I am a year after a heartbreak and it’s been tough this video is also helping me out a bunch

[@brendab7373]

My breakup has been going on about 2 or 3 years in a 7 year relationship. I am so very glad I found Heidi. I don't think I would be able to make it through without her knowledge and support. ❤

[@Erks0728]

Am still on week 2. I know this might get worse but I hope I will be okay.

[@wolvincraft9932]

It took me 3 days to fully digest the content of this video, but I'm all the better for it.

[@AdrianColley]

I greatly appreciate how well-organized these talks are. A lot of work went into them, and it shows.

[@forthebigwin]

Brought tears to my eyes and gave me immense hope for the future. Thank you, Heidi.

[@itneverwillbefar]

I so often get stuck in waiting for the moment where it'll "all be okay" but I'm reminded by videos like this that that point is never coming. We move from one loss to another, one heartbreak to another, one grief to another, until we die. But we also move from one joy to another, one thrilling surprise to another, one mercy to another. The surrender to that reality is so hard but man it makes life more fulfilling to face it head on rather than to avoid it. Thanks for sharing these thoughtful and wise words.

[@koutoumukei]

I had a heartbreak in 1987 when I was 19 and the girl of my dreams left me. I never got over it well. Life was no longer something I wanted to go through. I got high education but there was nothing I really wanted to do with it. I viewed everything was a distraction. This view came up strongly again a couple of years ago, and since then I've been watching lots of psychology related youtube videos, including yours. I found a lot of videos helpful, but this one is among the best that I came across. Thank you.

[@SimonBea1]

This was incredible. Two years ago, a relationship which was dear for me went downhill, and eventually terminated. It took me months, but I recollected the fragments and can now think about this experience in a positive light. I learned a lot of important things about me, and even though that person is no longer in my life, I hold no grudge and would welcome him back if he expressed that wish. The way things ended make this extremely unlikely, and it's ok, because I managed to make peace with the version of that person I had in my mind, and the fact that he was never as I portrayed him. It took a while, but I feel whole again, and I want to say your videos played a part in this, so thank you.

[@michaelsmith5583]

Almost 3 years since the pain started. Consumes my daily thoughts and dreams. It’s so awful. I have no ability to connect anymore. No enjoyment. I have processed the loss, but my heart hasn’t. I still love her, and I have never felt so much pain.

[@prettypizza]

I‘m very sorry it is still at such a strong level of pain! It‘s good you‘re watching Heidis Videos, keep doing the excercises she gives and most importantly believe that you too will heal, you‘re no exception 💛

[@rando9574]

same here brother

[@marino5652]

Damn, Similar here

[@andy.monsanto]

I've been feeling very depressed lately and had just started looking up things related to this on your channel, when I stumbled upon your latest upload and this one hit me hard. When I got to 12:35 - 14:02 found myself crying and finally understanding why I've been feeling so empty, realized that I miss deeply my ex partner and allowed myself to feel gratitude and grief. Cannot express how grateful I am for you explaining so beautifully and helping navigating this process.

[@TheBroadestBlue]

I made myself a little worksheet based on the main points of this video. I noticed something I had forgotten: When I first met her, I was in a really bad place. I felt out of place everywhere, I was emotionally devastated from life stuff, my album was stuck in production with lack of funding, etc. So that in itself is interesting, and sheds a little light on where I was at (vulnerable!!!) when I bonded with her. Then I noticed something that I don't know what to do with: Under the heading of who I became *during* [this never even became a relationship]: I was more structured, more determined, I had provider energy, protector energy, I felt seen by someone who seemed to understand/like/believe in me, I felt seen by someone worth protecting, and I felt connected in warmth. The first two (structured & determined) are simple enough to keep up with, and I have been. So far, so good. But what do I do with this side of me that wants to protect someone (and not just any random person, but that intimate protection of someone who is so special to you)? Accessing a formerly dead/frozen piece of my heart is exactly the language I've been using to describe what happened. I want to keep it alive, but I don't know how, and it seems to make life even more painful than usual (?) Maybe it's because the wound is staying raw, because we are in close proximity.

[@MarinSofin]

Perhaps it's time for you to find a woman, because providing and protecting is a man's duty in a relationship. No matter who at this point (by that I mean that you can fall in love tomorrow), you will be a provider and a protector in this relationship because you now know that side of you exists, and you want to be that for someone.

[@breana8427]

For now you can provide for and protect your inner child? Just a thought of where to direct that energy

[@TheBroadestBlue]

@@breana8427 Yes, perhaps I should watch those videos again. I do get the sense that I saw myself in her and some of the protection was born out of that.

[@KaliDurga74]

Could you look at what the provider/protector energy was giving you? Did it make you feel strong or competent? Like you belonged somewhere or to someone? Sometimes when we dig deeper we can find an even more fundamental need underneath. If it seems as simple as just wanting something/someone to protect, could you foster animals or children, or get involved in a cause that you believe in until you do find your someone?

[@TheBroadestBlue]

@@KaliDurga74 This is great. Yes, I think it was all of those things. I'll have to mull over some good options. Thank you!

[@CupNoodleKitty]

I honestly think I will never get over this. I cry so much. I can feel my heart breaking. We still love each other but we just don’t work and it’s so painful

[@JustineNicole1996]

I hope things have gotten better for you ❤️

[@SuLawn]

Thank you, I've been falling apart, didn't know how to pick up the pieces. Your help is tremendous. 🙏❤️🙂🤗

[@RT-fs3tt]

I feel a little bit better today because of your words. Heartbreaks can be brutal. Thank you

[@L6FT]

Going over a year heartbroken with the betrayal of how my ex girlfriend left, and the lack of accountability she displayed, just wanting to be friends, but never apologising for cheating. A part of me has been angry and I've needed to find my dignity in acknowledging my boundaries that "I won't be treated badly, and I deserve better". There has been a lot of shame for loving someone who hurt me, and shame in not putting my best foot forward in the relationship, or even getting into it and not listening more to my reservations. However it's a mix of my part and her part. Acknowledging that they brought value is fruitful. It is said to let go with love, and your talk really encompasses this.

[@Hairyderriere]

I like this idea, but I may struggle with it, at least for a while. The heartbreak I experienced last year after 27 years of marriage was laced with very profound feelings of betrayal and emotional treachery. Maybe I'm not ready to befriend it yet. But I love your videos. I love your insight, compassion for your audience, and presenational demeanour. And I'm going to try this, somehow. Thank you.

[@Prawnstar.]

It's difficult to think about embracing and befriending the heartbreak of someone who betrayed you. I'm in the divorce process after 31 years of marriage to a covert narcissist and habitual liar. You're most likely still recovering from cognitive dissonance. It's natural to feel protective of oneself while healing from that. Like you shared you're struggling with the idea. I'd say that makes a lot of sense for someone who's healing from betrayal.

[@joshliam1967]

Words can't express how thankful I've been for all of your videos as I've moved through my journey of heartbreak this last year. This video itself comes as I've started to heal, and I feel ready to accept the lessons I've learned through the process. Thank you.

[@patakanz]

I'm going to say that this is the single best video out there on the topic of heartbreak and healing from relationships that have ended.

[@DavidImel]

Heidi I can’t begin to express how articulate you are. You use words in such a wonderful way that feels so healing. Thank you so much for these videos.

[@radhajoshi735]

thankyou so much for your valuable insights! Each and every one of your video is so eye opening and it's not just theory, it helps me direct action towards healing. Thankyou so much! I have a bit of a video suggestion btw: self boundaries especially for peolle with disorganised attachment and toxic shame. You've already mentioned boundaries with oneself/ one's emotions etc, more on this topic would be of great help.

[@purpleneons]

It honestly feels as if you had planned the last bunch of videos as an exact retelling of a journey you went through at some point, which is the exact journey I'm on right now; the accuracy of them, down to their order (I was struggling in a relationship, and then broke up literally just 2 weeks ago) is simply uncanny. Amazing stuff. I absolutely have to find a moment or three to watch this soon.

[@FrankyboyFloyd]

15:00 plus... So beautiful and pure and felt..... Thank you . One of the most impactful and beautiful and truthful video I watched ever in my life

[@lindaatteo409]

I’m going to share this with my daughter after a recent heartbreak

[@People-Like-You]

Don't look away. One step at a time. Don't look away.

[@marcelvandermeulen2219]

A very useful concept of understanding who you were before, during and after the relationship. It doesn’t take a way the pain, but helps paying tribute to understanding and valuing how someone who was dear in your life contributed to your growth.

[@kjellkuipers5810]

Damn Heidi, your story and the specific emotions you talk about that you could not give yourself cut very close to home. I am very grateful for your story, your content and effort to help the world around you.

[@VividPagan]

The title made me think of going full Disney Princess with my heartbreak.

[@ChanelAn-d5d]

😂 hahaha love the humor

[@joebagadonuts-j4y]

i cannot possibly put into words how much i appreciate and value your insight. you have opened my eyes to an entire new paradigm. thank you SO much.

[@MarinSofin]

You are such a wise woman, thank you and thank God for this channel, you've literally saved me from falling apart a few times already.

[@RaphaelEybert]

Your videos are amazing ! So helpful and clear. I usually feel confusion, guilt and shame when in other videos they just tell you what to do and never give you any leads on where to start. That is never this way with you. So thank you for all the help and support you bring to us wounded people that want to heal. You are our northern star ✨

[@D3vilMayCry99]

You have helped me so much. Just got out of a 2 year relationship and realized I was anxiously attached. Wanted to go to therapy but everyone is booked around me so came across your videos and omg I’ve never felt more self-aware of my actions. I thought the way I acted/felt in relationships was normal. The abandonment issues has been tough to manage, but this video has been amazing and I always come back to it during my recovery process.

[@LadyRia91]

Girlllll, I can not express how important you are to my mental sanity. I wish there was a way to thank you. You should 1000% do a meet and greet

[@prettypizza]

There is also a ‚Thank you‘ button under the video where we can give like a tip :)

[@danielvaisfeld7484]

Rare depth and invaluable wisdom. Thank you

[@InnerWorkGuideShobhali]

I think the way we've built our world & lives today - "productivity" focussed, a lot of the *real* healing ways seem so counterintuitive! I find myself saying it so often in my own inner work journey - "this seems so counterintuitive, and yet, this is the way!" Thank you for this video :)

[@Asher22222]

Thank you so much for this Heidi! You have helped me give clarity and meaning to my heartbreak. As always, so kind, caring, and eloquent. This could be the key to my finally breaking the cycle of unhealthy relationships! ❤❤❤

[@ElisabethLaurie-vc5po]

You are such a blessing 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@dianav7274]

Mulțumim!

[@tedwilson1477]

Heidi is my new therapist, i hope she offers 1 on 1 sessions at some point! ❤️

[@ShannyJ313]

You are top notch Heidi! I have watched so many of your videos and they have helped me far more than my own therapist has. Thank you so much!❤

[@_jackson_lau]

I’ve just recently discovered your videos and they have been EVERYTHING I’ve been looking for to help me through my healing process! I can’t express how grateful I am to have found them. I’ve recently gone through multiple significant life changes in both my life and relationships and your videos have been really helping me shift the way I think about things to a healthier perspective. Thank you so so much!! I definitely plan to keep watching as I begin my healing journey and I can’t recommend you enough to my friends who are also working through their own healing process ❤

[@My.Own.Flashlight]

I hope all Heidi’s videos spread around and help more people!

[@micheleagren1604]

Heidi you have helped me reconstruct everything I need to know regarding healthy emotional development. ❤

[@melissadiazduarterodriguez8490]

Thanks for this beautiful video, I'm being struggling with the fact that I have to se my ex every day on work and "hide" my pain, but now I know that I can learn from it and became a better version of myself ❤

[@AnHourOfWolves]

Feels like the same methodology to deal with limerence. Enjoyed the vid, thanks.i really appreciate the weight training metaphor as well!

[@davidcuvin7391]

The timming of this is unreal...Thank you!

[@shininglight1630]

I know it's not the point... but I can't help but feel the pain of your loss of such a beautiful relationship with a partner that brought sweet softness and love into your life. It feels like it was a profound connection. I appreciate the window into that world. Thank you for sharing. And thank you for the message of the video. I like it.

[@ChangedbyGrace2]

Thank you for being honest. You channel truly inspired me to do healing work.

[@LemonThymeArt]

Heidi, thank you for this video and for so many of your other videos. Going through divorce with/from someone I loved for 20 years, and the heartbreak has been so painful. Saving this video for sure. What a much needed reflection and approach... 💔 This heartbreak has something to teach. This healing is sacred, volatile, vulnerable, and beautiful. ❤ much love from this corner of the interwebs

[@dearjenn_]

Your videos are life-changing for me. I thought I'd moved towards secure attachment, but obviously, I still have some inner work to do for myself. I've been learning and practicing self-soothing and building self-trust. I can feel the shift starting inside me! 🥰

[@Ashaliyeva]

I think this is one of the best videos I’ve ever watched. This is something I’ve needed badly for a very long time. 😭💗 Thank you so much, Heidi! Your work is very much appreciated and valued by me!!💖

[@chanbriajackson4679]

Such a great message. I needed to hear this. I appreciate the message about thinking about what you enjoyed about the connection. I'll try to keep that in mind.

[@Neblinaization]

It is incredible to listen to your content... so eye opening.. love the way you get to the point. I am dealing with bipolar and still, it is like an unsolved puzzle for me how I developed it.. now it feels like I got way more close to the root causes of my challenges... a lot specially dealing with extreme anger, irritability lack of focus, memory issues, learning problems etc... uff, it is really a lot but it feels so good to identify what is actually going on.. thanks so much for your brilliant work! I would be curious if there are people with bipolar having a similar experience? 🤔

[@Ayozen11]

life changing! I love how this gives me a new perspective on heartbreak. It allows me to see exactly what you expressed, which is that my romantic partner, who departed two months ago, provided a love and care for me, that I do not know how to provide for myself. Now, as I heal from break up, I know how to give myself what the relationship was giving me. it is fruitful shadow work in that I can see so many things I unconsciously value that he allowed me to express and embody. Thank you thank you!

[@Introverted100]

This is truly one of the best videos i have ever watched. Thank you for this.

[@marianaalxndra]

I got dumped yesterday 🥺 Heidi, how’d you know???? I’ve been binging your videos for months. You’ve been a big source of education, growth, and comfort. Intuitively, for the first time I’m witnessing my biggest heartbreak with no distraction or judgment & here you are affirming my alignment. 🤍 Thank you, endlessly!

[@tugceuludag7366]

Going through the same 🫠 i hope you are doing better now!! 🌸

[@madeiraislander]

@@tugceuludag7366 Hope you are doing okay! ❤‍🩹

[@Hairyderriere]

Heidi, this is so true for me, I had to watch it twice in a row. I wish I could talk to you all day.

[@billysoulmusic7817]

Thank you Heidi

[@madisontecson8796]

Heidi, I love your content so much. Hearing how compassionate you are towards your own negative feelings, makes me hopeful that I can learn to co exist with the emotions that I tend to run away from. There’s a lot of inner work I need to do and it’s hard not to beat myself up over it but I am reminded of how patient you are towards yourself when these feelings arise. You made me realize that these negative thoughts should be met with more consideration for my inner child, that the path of healing I am more resistant to is the one I should learn to be mindful of the most. Thank you for your kind words and keep doing what you’re doing😊💜

[@nrchi]

This is next level content Heidi! Your channel has always been great, but your messages are really evolving and improving!!

[@Erks0728]

Thank you for this. This is very comforting and gave me hope to overcome this massive pain in my heart. I've been struggling 2 weeks in but hopefully it gets better.

[@labor_mel]

it's funny you posted about this as i had just had a breakthrough like this last night. Had a fight with my partner and we had resolved it but i could feel it in my chest still. I was alone and just decided to try to let it out and cry because I had a feeling that's why I felt so bad. I immediately felt sooo much better. I kept checking in with myself to see if I felt like I needed to keep crying and would continue if I did. It was really nice and I immediately realized how often I hold stuff like that in for no reason

[@jessicamorales2555]

Thank you for explaining something, that I basically have never seen, in such a detailed step by step. ❤

[@michaelayandokun3368]

Thanks Heidi...Always good hearing your take on things.

[@chriskaplan6109]

Heidi your wisdom and conciseness and precision are so valuable and inspiring. You are so well organized and intelligent but you make the lessons so accessible and impactful. Thank you!! ❤

[@NuToob]

"...that partner [me] will live on inside of me forever, because this room inside of me that they [the ex] unlocked, I didn't lock back up after they left. I kept it open, and I allowed myself to keep going into it when I needed to. And now it's just a place where I can meet other people as well..." ❤

[@magdalenagutierrez3072]

Heidi, thank you for another opportunity to bring to consciousness the emotions that are still painfully unresolved in my heart. Back in the ‘80s Quarterflash had a hit song that I liked but always had an internal dialogue with the singer playing simultaneously: don’t harden your heart! Your tears aren’t trash. 😭 When I was young I was asked to hide my tears and felt guilty I was not good at it. Heartbreak was not a good friend. But in the past few weeks I have seen improvement in my self esteem and starting to experiment with letting go of strategy so I can be clear on my values and boundaries. The inner child is waiting to learn about those heartbreaks.

[@lorenson]

Your videos are pure gold and so much more helpful than the rest cos you really understood.

[@oambitiousone7100]

Met a man 3 months ago, when this was released, who just broke things off. I’m too old and can’t give him kids. So he doesn’t want to waste anymore time with me, unless I’m willing to be demoted into “just a friend.”

[@mguerrepaix]

So profound, thanks so much was incredibly needed for me to hear all that. the whole heartbreak process matters and has to have a meaning. I do need to reframe all this. Thanks again Heidi love you and yes I am trying to take care of me

[@Mozankey]

Thank you so much, for this amazing video that's spiritual in some sense; yet also highly intellectual and rational.

[@marcuslewis7140]

Thank you for putting this out there, my heart needed it to move forward..

[@MrMokeyMokey123]

Another banger

[@thepersonyouhaveseen]

Thank you. Any videos that I watched, you help me understand myself a bit better.

[@MacelaruAndreea9]

This is an amazing video Heidi...it brought imense new insights. Amazing❤

[@robertbenedek4463]

Great points, very valuable, exzellent! many thanks!

[@TagW110]

Boy, shadow work is SO much easier when don't tackle the ones at the core. It sucks, but there seems to be a moment where you see the point tackling it makes; a pinprick of light that keeps one going and moving forward.

[@magyar.b]

Heidi, you are a tremendous help for me. Keep it up, please :)

[@deuteragonist1078]

great timing as always heidi! thank you.

[@thomasmurphy9429]

I needed this so bad :’) We stan you so much motherrr ❤❤❤❤

[@vanessaskin]

Ah beautiful. My last breakup has been the worst in terms of how painful it was because I care, love this person. yes still! it's gotten better but in my other relationships I did what you mentioned a lot, I also never allowed myself to fully open up to them so I never got to experience half the emotions and other experiences I did with my last partner. All that to say, I wanted to do my breakup differently. I didn't want to rush the process and I did things very differently. I befriended it.

[@r.p.8906]

I'll keep this man for sure. Thank you so much. Very helpful!!

[@forjnkforjnk2138]

Thank you so much for sharing; it's insightful and beautiful

[@calvinamering7042]

Thank you so much. I don’t know how your videos are always so specific to my life 😂

[@GaymerXL]

Absolutely love your videos. I hope you make more short form content in the future on places like Instagram or TikTok so I can share your wisdom with the world.

[@ugnemasiulyte3091]

Heidi you bring such an amazing content to KZbin!

[@nurturingnomad2321]

Grief is love with nowhere to go.

[@JonathanRobinson11]

Thank you.

[@KurtesolWafelosi]

This is all positive and constructive and very good.. but can you maybe make a video about grief and feeling the sadness and missing them? Combining thoughts and emotions? How to sit with grief?

[@hippetyhop8084]

From the buttom of my heart, thank you so much, Heidi ❤ :)

[@Xaxtarr_Neonraven]

Sometimes it takes actually feeling the loss and heartbreak to incorporate the experience into your personhood. Yes, you may never see that person again nor be able to resolve the feelings of loss other than as a loss and regret; yet, we tend to run from these feelings, to hide from them, to ignore, dismiss and deny, but only by acknowledging them, feeling them in our body and mind, examining and exploring and letting them pass when they eventually pass, can we expect to heal by incorporating the naturalness of these feeling into our lives and ourselves, only then can our mind and body begin to heal and reset. We may forever be changed, but it's ultimately a good thing, a real thing. We needn't forever remain the same but continue to honestly strive towards the truth of our hearts as best we can.

[@themodernotaku]

After her, I went to therapy all year, dated a bunch of people to piece my ego back together and find different people, better people. I did. It wasn’t enough.