Helping Divorced Women Start Over: Applying What I Learned | Oraynab Jwayyed | TEDxUCO

It’s difficult for working mothers to manage a household and a career, which forces many to exit the workforce to focus on their families. This leaves them at a great disadvantage when they divorce. Their troubles are only magnified when child support and alimony issues arise. Oraynab Jwayyed discusses the obstacles that hold divorced mothers back and how they, and their community, can overcome them.
Oraynab Jwayyed lives in the Oklahoma City area, where she works as a money management consultant for women. She launched Business Interludes, LLC to teach women to manage their money.
She has published two books. Her latest, ‘Starting Over: A practical guide for women after a money crisis,’ includes an 8-step guide that walks women through saving, investing, and managing debt. The book targets women who find themselves thrust in divorce and must learn to start over financially and manage their own money. Her first book, ‘Financial Literacy for Women: Helping women help themselves,’ discusses the issues women have with managing money and learning basic financial principles.
Oraynab has been writing extensively for several media and online outlets on topics that affect women in finance and the workforce. She holds an MBA and BS in Accounting from the University of Central Oklahoma. To learn more about her work, visit her website at www.businessinterludes.com.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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I am 68 years old, divorcee. I want to urge mother's to become financially independent. I did not and have been suffering from it, going back and forth to court for thirteen years. Great video. Want to learn more. Thank you, Oraynab.

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Married women with children are like tightrope walkers. Those who have a good job have a safety net, while those who left the work force to devote all their time raising their children have no safety net.

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@@robertwarner1160 how is that a biblical plague..and yes I don't disagree but people (single parents) are doing the best they can in a corrupt world to raise their kids. We aren't in Eden anymore and God's standards for marriage are not upheld by a lot of people (?everyone) due to the amount of sin in the world. Single parenting would be extremely difficult and I take my hat off to the parents for trying in less than ideal circumstances.

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Thank you for speaking up Oraynab. What you said about society helping women become financially independent is spot on. Women don’t want handouts, but God willing enough pay not to work 60 hours a week to barely get by.

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I went through a lot of financial crisis after my divorce, I had to raise my two kids alone, Currently I'm living smart and frugal with my money. Bought my second house already. Saving and investing lifestyle made it possible for me; even till now I earn monthly through passive income. I'm planning on retiring when my kids finish college,just hope it encourages someone that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing is a grand choice I made. Great video! Thanks for sharing!

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Yes, thank you. Gradually, I’ve become nothing. Working 24/7 for 30 years has me emotionally, physically, & financially exhausted. I cannot, after 23 years. He never put in even half.

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Excellent job doing by Oraynab Jwayyed, Definitely i will read her both books, even i am divorcee but i am proud that raised my voice against wrong person. Today i am on a mission to transform 1 million women's life and i am writing my book very soon i will launch. How many of you feel after Divorce you grown/ succeeded in life???

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They were some signs of abuse that I now see as flags before the marriage, he wanted to know all about my past. i didn't realized that he would use it all against me. He had a lot of" trust" issues and accused me of cheating almost all the time. He had a lot of anger issues and would fight me on days that meant the most to me. I never thought much into any of this until it became the norm. Thank to @ghost_tools this hacker helped me a lot while defending myself in court he brought out so many proves I used against my narcissist husband I highly recommend him.

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I wish the speech presentation was more lively and enthusiastic......the mechanical tone of narration made it difficult for me to watch the video till the end!This is just a comment on the narration and nothing to do with the worth and ability of this wonderful talented woman, for which i hold high regards!

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I appreciate your opinion but keep in mind she may have a fear of public speaking and is so focused on what she is saying she isn't able to be more lively and animated. That comes with practice..

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This talk contradicts the statistics. The statistics say that 70% of divorces are initiated by women. In the vast majority of cases the women say they were not "happy" in their marriage; or they found married life "boring"; or they provide some other non-substantive reason. The truth is that the single life (and hence a single income household) was a voluntary choice that they made. The victim narrative presented in this talk is utterly false.

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the ignorance is highly visible through your statement that is highly inaccurate as to why women file for divorce, on top of that, why women choose to stay single. Use your voice for something productive and helpful instead of contributing to a problem.

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They were some signs of abuse that I now see as flags before the marriage, he wanted to know all about my past. i didn't realized that he would use it all against me. He had a lot of" trust" issues and accused me of cheating almost all the time. He had a lot of anger issues and would fight me on days that meant the most to me. I never thought much into any of this until it became the norm. Thank to @cyber_tech_service_tools this hacker helped me a lot while defending myself in court he brought out so many proves I used against my narcissist husband I highly recommend him.

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