“Homewreckers” is often a way to avoid addressing the relationship

This is actually a reasonable #hottake. #Relationship agreements are between the parties in the relationship. The #anger directed toward the outside person is very often about unresolved issues in the relationship, not that person. The idea of #homewrecking is overblown. #askdrjosh #therapy #psychology

[@DakotaTheRota]

You don't need an oral agreement to not cheat. That is a default clause for being in a relationship. Depending on the context, yes, you shouldn't be mad at the home wrecker, but that's if you only focus on them for your anger.