How Can I Love God More Than My Boyfriend?

Ask Pastor John
Episode: 1537
Transcript: www.desiringgod.org/interview...

[@HearGodsWord]

Loving God more helped me to love my wife better. ❤

[@lovingtheology3669]

If we don’t love God more then we don’t see truth clearly on what is truly loving to our spouses! I bet you’d love our channel on biblical discussion.

[@BTCministries7]

Keep God above all things so that the rest can fall into place 🙏🏽

[@XGen_23]

I learned my lesson for not putting God first. His sent his people to molest my daughter. The test is to have faith and don’t report it to man, the police. Keep it between us and God. God loves pedophilles and uses them to test his people.

[@XGen_23]

John 17 How can you not agree? God uses people to put others in place. I wasn’t tithing and I always skip every other Sunday for church. God put me on my place now and I have to test my faith.

[@lovingtheology3669]

@@XGen_23 God would not send someone to molest your daughter. To not seek justice for that is not in line with God’s heart at all. God may allow something to happen such as in the story of Job but we are never to not protect and seek justice in a lawful way. I pray that for your daughters sake you would show her the father’s heart and love by protecting and seeking justice. In Genesis chapter 34 we see Jacob stay silent after his daughter Dinah was raped. Her brothers on the other hand were angered. That same word is used when God was angry and then flooded the earth because of all the evil going on. God’s heart is not ok with us not doing our part to help the oppressed.

[@XGen_23]

@@lovingtheology3669 That’s weird. My pastor told me the opposite that I need to keep silent and don’t trust in man. It was my faulty for putting my kids first and not tithing. That’s a punishment from God. What Jesus says to love your enemies and forgive them.

[@lovingtheology3669]

@@XGen_23 love sometimes looks like having consequences for the good of another’s soul. That is our main goal here on earth. This is the only chance we get to show others love so they can know Jesus and receive the gift of eternal life. Allowing someone to keep winning and not give them to the chance to face their wrong doing is not loving. It doesn’t mean the violator will for sure come to the Lord because it’s a matter of the heart. It would at least teach your daughter that God is her protector.

[@justme197511]

"If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple. Luke 14:26‭-‬27

[@lovingtheology3669]

Yes, so simply put to have our hearts only for God! You seem to really seek truth. I think you’d find our channel on biblical discussion inspiring and interesting.

[@darthhobbit69]

God took my fiance from me as He knew I was backsliding from Him 😔 I've only been a follower of Jesus for almost 6 years now. My fiance passed away almost 4 years ago. I wish God would take my memories of us together away from me. 15 years we spent together. I have found my faith was what got me through losing my fiance. The old me would have committed suicide to get away from the heartache but with Jesus, I can do this 🙏

[@ifeawosika966]

Sorry to hear that. God is always good. He will heal your heart.

[@christinec.2376]

Same here, but my faith was building, but his was not. As I was aboutl to let go of the Father's hand,He called me, right as I was sinking into the abyss of shock and despair, and I held on and was very aware of His lifting me out. It's not 3yrs yet, but besides the pain of loss, I am grateful to Him every day. 🙏🏾👋🏾

[@XGen_23]

Carol Blackley God took my daughter’s by having a cross shoved in her by Christians. I was backsliding too. Now I have to forgive and trust in him.

[@jennyrlly924]

Indeed, God will do any means to pull us from backsliding but even tho his way might hurt us, we are assured that everything will work for our good because we are his children and not anything even the devil can pull us away from him unless if we pull ourselves away in a sense where we stop believing but that rarely happens especially if God already worked alot in your life. You knew soo much not to get back in your old way so just keep keep keep reading his word and also by prayer to keep u from backsliding. Do any means to make that your priority.

[@XGen_23]

@@jennyrlly924 Absolutely. I must trust in God and the church too, not the police. God loves pedophilles.

[@neidamarroquin406]

Most beautiful poem. So intricately written. Thank you God for inspiring this man. It ministered to me greatly.

[@ashley.elizabeth.rose7]

I broke up with my 5 year relationship because of this reason. I felt as though I wasn't suppose to be with him. He tried to build a relationship with God to please me. I had to let go because I couldn't let him live that lie. I am struggling because he is the best relationship I have ever had with someone. He is gentle, kind, peaceful, respectful, and caring. He would ask God to help him with loving him more, but would stay the same. God made this heavy on my heart so I had to let go. I am hurting so bad

[@zanffelove7849]

❤️

[@ifeawosika966]

There are many people who wouldn't even try building a relationship at all. He stayed the same in what way? From what you said he was a good person trying to get to know God. But feelings isn't always the right answer. Is your decision to leave really what God wanted or what you want?

[@ashley.elizabeth.rose7]

@@ifeawosika966 He was getting comfortable in his old ways of life. I gave into being with him so he subconsciously didnt really care for God anymore. Everytime I would talk with him about it he would panic and say "I prayed last week" to try and make me feel good, but it wasn't. I wanted him to find God for himself, otherwise it is just works for an idol. The Holy Spirit convicted me many times about this, but I Ignored and would often get mad at God for wanting me and him to separate. I would try to hold off till we got married so God couldn't speak of it anymore. This is when I realized I was even more wrong and began to obey his conviction

[@ifeawosika966]

@@ashley.elizabeth.rose7 I understand. He wasn't really living for God. I'm sure you made the right decision. The pain will go away with time.

[@ashley.elizabeth.rose7]

@Slimz Beats Thank you for the encouragement ❤

[@joansanchez79]

BEAUTIFUL, artistic, heartfelt, smart, Spirit fueled, POEM! Thanks for sharing Pastor John!

[@Dibdib35]

Thankfully I’m ignored the title and listened. What wisdom for everyone! And I just loved that poem❤️thank you Pastor John.

[@barbaragomes2165]

Very timely! Thanks pastor John :)

[@Richie016]

Thankyou Pastor John for preaching God's word.

[@maxaplin4204]

Very good teaching. For so many Christians, wives and husbands, and especially children, become more important than God, i.e., they become idols.

[@panda22518]

Very true 🙌🙌

[@lovingtheology3669]

Yes, it’s such a sneaky temptation which is why it’s important to stay vigilant to where our hearts are. You seem like you’d enjoy our channel on biblical discussions!

[@angie4justice]

How can I control these thoughts 💭 ? HOW how can I change these tapes that just keep playing and playing and playing in this plagued mind? I love Jesus but apparently not enough or I would be successful in destroying this part of myself that formed itself based in and around so much pain and trauma both physically and mental/emotional . I listen to things of Jesus, sermons and teachings, I am in the Word every morning ... I play worship music and sing to my God and I am on my knees praying to Him for guidance and peace and direction and deliverance. I have come a long way yes, but still feel so very far to go. Please lift me up in prayer my name is Angie. Thank you all 🙏🏻

[@patricebrown777]

Beautiful message and poem. Both indeed inspired by the Holy Spirit. Ministered to me greatly. ❤🙏🏽

[@delbertclement2115]

So what I am getting from this is that 1.) I shouldn’t be too worried about this question because at the end of the day, God is gonna sort it out (or interpret some if not all negative situations outside of my control involving my significant other as God’s way of telling me that I love my significant other too much… yet I kind of need to be begging the question as to whether I love God more than my loved one in order to see any such aforementioned chain of events as an indication of God’s dissatisfaction in this specific dilemma i.e. this seems to be fundamentally subjective and arbitrary) And 2.) If I happen to do a thing that I know to be fundamentally a sin out of a consequence of loving someone, than I know that I am disproportionately loving someone inappropriately. I think the later conclusion is much more of a certain criteria than the former. In fact, if you are a person prone to anxiety, I would argue that the former can destroy a good and godly relationship. On principle I think it best not to presume to know why God permits specific events in our personal life to happen. It could be for what theological dilemma we are wrestling with understanding in the moment or simply something completely different. It’s better just to trust that God loves us and is simply trying to bring the whole world under His love and protection which requires a degree of pain and heartache considering how much this world has been permeated by sin… it’s best for us to just to keep our head above water and pursue the good which is God rather than ask questions that have no real tangible answers outside of subjective postulations.

[@lovinggod1258]

Great 👍

[@torasacramento4905]

Beautiful - because if you love God more than your favorite love on earth you will always treat them as God wants you to :)

[@corindekodde8864]

Amen!!

[@kar3n35]

I was thinking about this yesterday. What this means. Sometimes u have to make a choice between something u love and choosing god. Example. Im 34 yr, i would like to have kids but after i divorce i havent found a godly men. I feel i "wasting" my last years of motherhood to have kids. In a way i feel i have to choose. And i really feel sad sometimes that im wating and wating and im risking not having kids in my life. But i have to trust god can provide a godly men for me and children even if am older. I think of sarah and Elizabeth from the bible.

[@lovingtheology3669]

Yes! Your heart is more for God than idolizing children which is easy to fall into. My husband and I have done research since 2016 on trying to conceive and all the difficulties and choices from a Christian and biblical perspective. You should go check us out! How can I pray for you today?

[@lovingtheology3669]

@@moonlite09 I think you’d love our channel. We talk a lot about reconciling our hearts to the truth and removing cultural filters to see truths as you were stating above.

[@TheBubbaclark]

Marry him... :) Seriously though all it takes is a couple years of marriage... even a good marriage for you to realize your spouse can never fulfill you.

[@krishnasaikia6132]

Remember we don't live for humans , but for jesus. If you think putting god first will help your relationship then your love for jesus is nothing. If you love jesus as he is the one only sevior . Love jesus not for your relationship but unconditionally

[@destiny9734]

Timely word

[@CliffChiunda]

Those would be beautiful vows

[@TtheMarathonahh]

Interesting 🤔

[@migraineman264]

I want to leave and be prepared for the right one according to God's will.

[@jazminesquire9464]

Wow

[@justme197511]

Jesus said to them, "If God were your Father, you would love me, for I came from God and I am here. I came not of my own accord, but he sent me. Why do you not understand what I say? It is because you cannot bear to hear my word. You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies. But because I tell the truth, you do not believe me. Which one of you convicts me of sin? If I tell the truth, why do you not believe me? Whoever is of God hears the words of God. The reason why you do not hear them is that you are not of God." John 8:42‭-‬47

[@ifeawosika966]

Powerful words that even believers dont seem to understand

[@RamRam-ww7nq]

Jesus bless

[@angloaust1575]

Human love is mutable Liable to change Best to stay single Avoid close physical contact Remember the eternal Surpasses the temporal When christ returns one Taken and one left

[@jairbarrios393]

Jesus Loves you alllll

[@ivanaenoh]

Emma Mae Jenkins?😍😂💛💛

[@Davidgarcia-cy6fx]

Keep god first alway.

[@ononoemmanuel0]

Waoooooh

[@Ginamations3267]

400 liked 🥰😊

[@aditibisht22]

I'm single but lover before God anyday

[@migraineman264]

Hi, I don't know why I'm still inlove even she disrespect me

[@luke_bozo_hehe42]

Imagine your parents said they love a god in the sky that they don’t know is real more than you

[@justme197511]

I have seen so so many evil marriages in my life, my grandparents, my parents, my sisters both, and my marriage.

[@lovingtheology3669]

So sorry to hear that! How is your marriage that way?

[@kar3n35]

1 love god 2 love jesus 3 love ur self 4 love ur boyfriend

[@blep8848]

Biblically, we should be putting ourselves last. Living for Christ is a life of dying to self and continuously dying for others.

[@Kevinmassinburg97]

1 love God/ Jesus 2. * love Husband 3. Love yourself

[@johnsmith-rd3zx]

i love God more than myself which is more than just loving God more than other people..instead of buying a hot lobster roll for myself to eat i donated bibles with the money to others

[@blep8848]

Why are you boasting? It's sin to exalt yourself and all of the good things that you supposedly do. Man can't do any good. If you do any good, it's because it's the grace of God working in you.

[@odiupickusclone-1526]

I became a sun worshiper; several reasons. First of all, I can see the sun, okay? Unlike some other gods I could mention, I can actually see the sun. I'm big on that. If I can see something, *I don't know, kinda helps the credibility along, you know?* So every day, I can see the sun, as it gives me everything I need: heat, light, food, flowers in the park, reflections on the lake... and occasional skin cancer, but hey. At least there are no crucifixions, and we're not setting people on fire simply because they don't agree with us...

[@odiupickusclone-1526]

@@tatumhildebrand5397 How so?

[@ashley.elizabeth.rose7]

Just because you only see the painting this doesn't deny the artist's existence. Also the common man such as yourself I hope, would want love from freely willing. A robot can never fulfill that desire. In a dark world caused by free will of carnal men you will find no perfect being, but the son of God Jesus Christ. Who will you lean on ? The product or the source?

[@odiupickusclone-1526]

@@ashley.elizabeth.rose7 Free will excuse is complete idiocy!

[@ashley.elizabeth.rose7]

@@odiupickusclone-1526 do you know every complete thought and work of an artist's plan for their design, from beginning to end? How can you know when you can't even scrape through the surface of belief? Just because we are stuck in a 3d world, that doesn't limit God. God is a chemist mixing, connecting all existence from beginning to the end of our little time frame, surrounded by his eternity. Who are we to tell him who he is or how to be? We should thank him for every single breathe granted to take part in the intricate details of beauty this world offers. First and foremost for the many chances we get to wake up to a merciful God that waits patiently whether that be 10, 20, 80 years of life to be humbled and let a friendship build with Jesus Christ Himself who died FOR YOU! so that you can live through faith by the same resurrecting power of the Holy Spirit that raised him. With that same faith, continuing to be refined beautifully by God himself. I believe God is reaching out to you my friend, and I hope that you will let him open your eyes and heart to him very soon. You never know when your chances are up ❤ take care

[@odiupickusclone-1526]

In response to the claim that an all-powerful, all-knowing, all-good God is required to provide us with free will in order to allow us to understand the difference between good and evil, Stephen Law makes the following evil god challenge - a challenge that he considers to be unanswerable. If an all-powerful, all-knowing, all-good God needs to allow for the existence of evil for humankind to properly appreciate goodness, so an all-powerful, all-knowing, all-evil god would have to allow for goodness in order for us to properly appreciate how miserable the majority of human life is. In other words, we have the problem of evil in relation to an all-powerful, all-knowing, all-good god and the problem of good in relation to an all-powerful, all-knowing, all-evil god. Both gods have to provide free will in order for there to be full understanding of good and evil. So the free will defence, which attempts to reconcile the tripartite Christian conception of God with the presence of evil in the world, is rendered wholly ineffective. Law thinks that most people would find the evil-god hypothesis absurd (something he attributes to our psychology), but he wonders whether they should find it any more so than a good-god hypothesis. There is nothing, he thinks, that seems to make it more reasonable to believe in an all-powerful, all-knowing, all-good god as opposed to an all-powerful, all-knowing, all-evil god

[@XGen_23]

Put God First!!! God has punished me for putting my daughters first. God has sent his people to have them molested. I had to choose to have faith and keep silent and put God first and tithe. It was my punishment.

[@kat--]

Right.. ... um

[@2ndPigeon]

This is how religion tears families and loved ones apart. You can't be as sure of God's existence then you boyfriends, so this is horrible advice.

[@huydo1930]

Your problem sir, is that you want to be the god of your own life, your problem is that you love darkness rather than light, and because your love sin and therefore want to justify sin, you dare, you have the guts and impudence to raise your fist to the Lord of all creation, who because of your sins owes you nothing more than to kill you where you stand and send you to hell, and accuse Him of evil. You, a sinful, vile, wretched sloth eating, vomit drinking sinner, who loves the vomit you drink so much that you dare to accuse the God that because of your sins should kill you in order to justify your sins. I see your comments on other videos, rest be assured, God sees your heart, and He knows sir, and though you may suppress that knowledge of God in your heart by plugging your head into the sand and deny Him in order to deceive yourself, it is irrelevant to the truth that you will face Him in judgement. Your only hope is the One you are currently blaspheming, is Christ, who died for sinners to save them, He bore the guilt of sinners and satisfied the due wrath for them, that is you should believe, He is haste to forgive you and save you, choose today whom you will serve

[@2ndPigeon]

@@huydo1930 What a strange and provocative response. I thought these words worent allowed by your prophet. Are you part of some weird denomination I'm not aware of?

[@JH324]

@@2ndPigeon God first

[@2ndPigeon]

@@JH324 Wich god?

[@christsdisciple814]

Thank you so much much for this podcast Pastor John and Tony. I am wonderfully blessed by this🫂

[@aditibisht22]

I'm single but lover before God anyday