How couples can sustain a strong sexual connection for a lifetime | Emily Nagoski

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As a sex educator, Emily Nagoski is often asked: How do couples sustain a strong sexual connection over the long term? In this funny, insightful talk, she shares her answer -- drawing on (somewhat surprising) research to reveal why some couples stop having sex while others keep up a connection for a lifetime.
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[@sephine4298]

She has truly inspired me to not give up and take care of the hundreds of hedgehogs I have in my backyard.

[@beyondthesunpodcast]

Queen Sephine Sounds like you have whole *prickle* of hedgehogs! 😁

[@louannewhite3945]

I’m so jealous! We don’t have backyard hedgehogs 🦔 In Canada 🇨🇦❤️

[@sephine4298]

@@louannewhite3945 Idk if you are kidding or not 🤔🤣 but hedgehogs=problems I gotta fix

[@koyonaiwaraduke]

Good Luck you can do it.

[@shirlsies]

This talk was so comforting. It was almost as if my best friend was reassuring me that everything would be okay. Thank you Emily Nagoski for making me feel like things would be okay with my best friend. :)

[@MatrixEvolution17]

me: *is single* also me: *adds video to watch later*

[@asif_mojtoba]

*“Remember, Red, hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.” * ― The Shawshank Redemption

[@fallenangel9614]

Optimistic aren’t you

[@hanamanttammanavar1286]

BubbleButt TV

[@saphire9823]

Same

[@gio_e_sc]

Woah! I did exactly the same thing lol

[@KelvinWKiger]

It made me rethink about my relationship, with the girlfriend i don't have.

[@lauraholbert6735]

Wow that's very powerful!!! Well said too!!! My husband and I just celebrated 10 yrs of marriage on Sept 12th, and 21 yrs in a committed relationship on Sept 18th, of 2019. We are bestfriends, and we choose to make each other as well as our sexual relationship a priority! It has worked for more than 21yrs for us. I love him, and I love hanging out and spending time with him. We are raising our now almost 8 yr old granddaughter, and we enjoy spending time"quality" time with her. We go hiking in a local State Park, we go to local recreational parks so she can play, and so do we. It's romantic to still enjoy hanging out. And we have had our share of ups and downs as a couple. But always choose each other and our relationship and friendship. Love this video!!! Thank you for putting this out there. I wish more ppl could have and experience the friendship and warmth of their special person!!!

[@victoriaporsiempre]

Laura Holbert so beautiful to still enjoy the time to hang out with your partner! i wish i could experience the same one!

[@susan137]

Okay I'm doing the math 21 years together almost 8 year old granddaughter. So that would be 21 subtract 8 to figure out how old your child was when your granddaughter was born. Yeah no matter how I manipulate it the child set comes out as 13 when the grandchild was born.

[@Mommamacnz]

I needed to hear this talk. I'm so tired and have been since the birth of my second son (who's nearly 21, so it's been a long time) and I would like to even be interested. Your words have given me a way to find my way back. Thank you.

[@Assoumy87]

« You keep choosing to find your way back » ❤️ This is the most realistic and genuine TED talk on sexuality

[@ashiya3706]

A very sensible, to the point and beautiful talk. No paraphernalia whatsoever , she said what needed to be said . Thanks Emily.

[@PeterSwanzND]

Read Emily's book "Come as You Are". It's brilliant and so important for women and men to understand.

[@FadingPixel]

I‘ve listened audio book. I liked the part "Come as you are, as you were, as I want you to be, as a friend, as a friend, as an known enemy" ;)

[@TestMeatDollSteak]

@@FadingPixel -- I think that the internet has those lyrics slightly wrong. On the _Nevermind_ lyric sheet that was included in the original CD release of the "Lithium" single, the line is "As a friend, as a friend, as an old enemy".

[@FadingPixel]

@@TestMeatDollSteak After all these years and no one has corrected it (or i just choose a wrong site. I clicked first link i got). I don‘t know if i‘ve ever thought the lyrics that much is it "old" or "known". Thank you for telling me. :)

[@TestMeatDollSteak]

@@FadingPixel -- I suppose it could possibly be either/or, really. For example, the same lyric sheet gives the line "Our little tribe has always been and always will until the end" for the second verse of Teen Spirit, but he clearly sings "Our little _group_ has always been..." on the actual recording. And he sometimes sang the line with "tribe" instead of "group" when playing that song live. Then you also have to take into consideration Cobain's tendency to randomly change song lyrics when playing live, in general. I suppose this is only something that fans with OCD, such as myself, would even waste the brain power thinking about, so there's that, too ;)

[@FadingPixel]

@@TestMeatDollSteak I watched a lyric video just a minute ago and it said "an old enemy". So seems like i clicked wrong site previously. :)

[@jillluvslife1640]

That’s it! 35 years of marriage here!

[@bharatdubey8738]

Twice a week? 😁

[@gmork1090]

@@bharatdubey8738 More like 10 times in 17 years. Yay marriage!

[@victoriaporsiempre]

you lucky!

[@dorianav]

this is inspiring!!

[@divergence_tiffanyramos4337]

You Go Girl!! 16 years of marriage here and he still gives me butterflies in my stomach when I see him!💖 Damn I Love That Feeling!

[@petalss5325]

Those who are saying they need a partner beforehand, what she’s talking about is the attitude: knowing what you want and not neglecting it. Cherishing what you have at hands is not an easy thing. Especially when you get used to having your partner around, you may start taking their presence for granted. Think abt what you love and see what you are doing with it or for it. If you start practicing appreciation once you finally meet the one, it might be a little late, cuz you can’t build a habit of appreciating and showing affection in a day. Hope this delivers.

[@tarico4436]

Right. And then what is the attitude? It's love. She loves me. She doesn't want me to die of prostate cancer. She helps me achieve two oreganos per week for the lifetime of our contract (and yes I will reciprocate). Two oreganos per week lowers my chances of getting cancer by a third. (Hand not good enough, has to be an orifice.)

[@petalss5325]

TAR ICO I’m saying you don’t need a partner to nurture the attitude. Do you really think there’s only THE ONLY love for ur partner? There can be many different shades of love. Romantic relationship can be one of the many loveable things.

[@tarico4436]

@@petalss5325 Oh, I have to adopt the attitude to which you are referring! At work, if I don't act like I'm all hot and bothered by all the single ladies who are my coworkers, then I get fired. Treat female coworkers like equals, and I get fired. I literally had to apologize to one such female a few years ago. Why? Because I carried fifty pound boxes for one older woman, but then hinted to her that I would also carry her boxes if she said the magic word. The look she gave me was as if I had just threatened her with rape. Of course I said sorry, and quickly carried her boxes for her. Mind you, 7 petals, that all three of us were being paid the exact same wage. I got no bonus pay for carrying those heavy boxes for these delicate as a flower coworkers. No reciprocity at all.

[@tarico4436]

@Rebecca Leeman We men aren't allowed to voice our differences anywhere but online. And sounds like you agree with being forced. That female coworker forced me to pick up those heavy boxes for her. One kind of force is just like any other kind of rapacious force, isn't it? I mean that's what you're implying, Rebecca. It's a good thing I don't think like you do. I'm not into forcing others, and you, Rebecca, clearly are. I'll see myself out of this comment thread. Good day.

[@bvgaboo3572]

Seven petals held by my heart and they need to truely love themselves first before they can love anyone.

[@duchi882]

*How Couples can sustain a strong sexual connection for a lifetime:* 1. Omelette au Fromage

[@0113Naruto]

Dexter?

[@James-oo1yq]

Duchi 🤔🤔🤔 lost me

[@owl9601]

Damn that's an old reference

[@Sloppy_McFloppy]

*Omelette du Fromage (I know it isn't grammatically correct, but that is the line from the show)

[@gmork1090]

@Lee Cheese omelette.

[@joshual335]

Excellent talk. Even as a single man, I can see myself watching this with a future partner to inspire a deeper conversation about connection and intimacy. Saved!

[@pammym1825]

30 years of marriage has taught me that the nurture of our mutual hedgehogs is necessary foreplay and making the effort to connect outside the bed is much more likely to lead to a desire to decide to connect inside the bedroom😍

[@fujiharya]

Just two words: kindness and compassion. Nice watching.

[@rubenwrld4958]

I need a girlfriend first

[@saku39saku39saku]

me too......

[@CrimsonLotus-dj6yp]

Y'all are funny 😁

[@Clovis_Rose]

@@adamagustus1316 I would be inclined to say "women" also as she is an adult female.

[@lovehumanity6468]

You just befitted the topic !

[@lovehumanity6468]

@@adamagustus1316 So "we" can be used for a singular !

[@Noukz37]

"Love is a choice"

[@hazardmuffin]

Emily Nagoski is amazing! I highly recommend her book "Come as You Are." Incredibly insightful, practical, and easy to understand.

[@SteveGergetz]

Well that's the first TedTalk I've listened to in a long time that didn't suck. Kudos. And thanks for your perspectives.

[@SteveGergetz]

@TovaShai Thanks, I might :)

[@dsmithd]

My favorite line - "a prickle of sleepy hedgehogs"

[@vlbonnie]

"Eirika Moen, the cartoonist who illustrated my book..." and other names you didn't think you'd hear in a ted talk

[@Clovis_Rose]

Thank you for this. Very well said. Science tells us so much but being able to use what we know is different. You did a great job bringing the conversation to a applicable level!

[@stephaniejessen912]

Loved this! Helped me think of my relationship in a completely different way. And I enjoyed the fostering hedgehogs metaphor!

[@sharon-bp9pk]

I guess I’ll come back to this later. As in, when I’m married later.

[@Losshe]

I might come back to this later, as in, if I ever get married

[@susan137]

Perhaps don't wait until after you're married, but have this conversation with the person you are thinking marrying.

[@gio_e_sc]

I'll do the same thing ;)

[@FilipeBrasAlmeida]

People everywhere all around the world... just put down your God damned smartphones and get naked.

[@canttell4687]

This comment is going to get a lot of people arrested 🤣

[@FilipeBrasAlmeida]

@@canttell4687 Well, with a modicum of privacy of course lol.

[@Godlike-87]

Caveman...

[@gordonremsey8055]

😂😂😂

[@sko3925]

Multi tool

[@larasmith2931]

🦋I’ve been married almost 10 years & I am still attracted to my man. The key is ❤️

[@rrnaturemusic8801]

Maybe you are looking so sexy still now

[@ArianaLang.]

This is my new favorite ted talk. Thank you so much Emily Nagoski

[@ThestuffthatSaralikes]

Thank you. This hit close to home at just the right time...GREAT talk

[@msbauer1687]

Out of all of the Ted talks, this has been my favorite 🥰 Thank you. You gave me hope and have inspired me.♥️

[@sorin816]

I am just wondering how can I get her back ? She left me after 9 years being together because she was not sexually attracted to me. Every other aspect of our relation was more than great, but still she chose to leave. I didn't knew what to tell her.., now I am stuck in this video and I cannot move further.

[@mattangle9634]

Saw a blue haired feminist looking lady, instantly downvoted. Thought about it for a minute and decided that's not the kind of action I want to take part in. Went back and listened to the talk, I thought it was fantastic, excellent well based points with good data and presentation. Happily changed my thumbs down to up and learned a good lesson.

[@cyberrock6248]

Relax indeed. Feminism has its goor things too. It's just women not wanting to be dominated by men. Now women wanting to dominate and humiliate men is something else.

[@inferno8115]

listening does wonders

[@BroCactus]

I did the same.

[@skinblanketed]

I sincerely want to thank you for sharing that. It's encouraging to be made aware of instances of individuals confronting their biases. You just made the world a friendlier place.

[@theorem7047]

Yo thank you for that. I hope you continue to have great experiences seeking different perspectives and know that there are people on the other side, like this lady, who just wanna chat. There will always be people who wanna do that with you and share their opinion as well as hear yours.

[@kushalgurjar8408]

single af still watching

[@kushalgurjar8408]

@Victoria Adeyemi -already asked ..they will find a good wife

[@Simon78]

I love what she’s saying but it’s not always so simple if one partner has no desire. Plus this is surely, at least the second time this video has been posted as a TedX

[@ghostlyclothes]

That relates right to her message tho. You both need the desire to try to connect. You don’t need sexual desire first. Keep it as no expectations so if it’s just a cuddle, then that’s fine - and that will still help build the intimacy bond

[@billrobertson8550]

Thank you for sharing this! Very well said and I think hits home to a lot of couples having this issue.

[@reenabooth7009]

Thank you for having the courage to do this talk! I know that this will help other couples, as in mine.

[@ClanDosCanalhas]

I don't know why they reuploaded it, but i'm thankful, i needed to rewatch

[@Rebelsouljahhh]

I needed to watch/hear this.

[@wesleyandrews6422]

Beautiful words lady! I enjoyed hearing from you. Thx

[@yoyoyo5621]

So you have to care and put an effort into relationship and think it's worth it....why am I watching this when im sooo single lmao

[@selfelements8037]

6:28 "... faced with the question under the question."

[@lorenacarreno1029]

Beautiful conclusion !

[@lukewaite9144]

Emily Nogoski continues to be a fantastic speaker

[@catphillips34]

Absolutely adorable and completely true.

[@ikasugami]

That was really good. I guess a key part of that, though, is make sure you have a partner to whom you can keep coming back. You both have to be able to deal with the hedgehogs together.

[@TanyaJoyce]

Wow, this was just excellent and helpful! Thank you!

[@annab9994]

Truly inspiring!

[@kjaw7278]

Love this, thank you! And nice lid, love the color 😊

[@startnetworkbabinski3036]

I agree on this ! Putting some hedgehogs into your bed can spice up the thing ! :D

[@Clovis_Rose]

Great talk but this comment section is horrific. You can deff tell all the uneducated and miserable people...the amount of idiocracy I just read just makes me SMH.

[@ShockwaveZero]

feel more superior yet?

[@TheBlackPumps]

I didn't expect to hear this. I really liked it, though. There's a Bible verse for almost everything she said.

[@mithzynelson3110]

I love the little pictures. NOW ME UNDERSTAND IT!

[@ghostlyclothes]

Brb crying happy tears

[@stephanieh5478]

So just do it? And make sure to stay friends and trust your partner!

[@foulair63]

"What happens when you marry a hedgehog?".. Mr Bubble.

[@SoloSailer]

Mick Fowler asking for a friend??🤣🤣

[@mabelheinzle8758]

Great - thank you

[@MrRant247]

Need a TED talk for easily finding Friends With Benefits.

[@Alphacentauri819]

J Tanashi isn’t it called Tinder?

[@jennyg7195]

Awesome ! Love this

[@soup2634]

I'm so touched. Great great great talk!

[@Cherrybubbles321]

"I would just cry and fall asleep".... :/

[@Losshe]

Is it me or I see more and more single people nowadays? I think a "Why there's more single people now than ever" Ted talk would be a more relevant topic instead

[@stevengonzalez27]

Losshe People are too busy interacting with technology. Can't find the right person to marry, when you are never avaiable. Get out of the house, go to the library, the fair, the church, the course you always wanted to take. Be a real friend, and talk with people. Show genuine interest in people. Show your true colors, not any fake you. Because an act does not last.

[@Losshe]

@@stevengonzalez27 I wish love and dating was this easy. I was an outgoing person, I had a lot of friends to hang out with, I went out, did a lot of interesting things, and things I loved, I was surrounded by people I loved who loved me. I was always true to myself, and to others. I had two significant relationships, it's too long to get into details but it didn't work out. And after meeting guys after guys who just want to f*ck and nothing else, I decided to stay celibate for now. I'm just tired. Life isn't like Sims. I don't know your story but in my experience love rarely happens this way. I'm sure the people who can't find a partner go out too, but not everyone is lucky to find someone

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Younger generations are being forced to put so much more time and energy into getting their own lives together... between college and its expense, not being able to find jobs that put them above the poverty line, not being able to move away from home... why would you spend time trying to build a relationship and family when you can't get your own life together? "Faces in technology" is not the actual problem... just look at how many relationships start *because* the people in them were using technology. That's a misidentified issue being misdiagnosed by people cynical towards millennials and gen z.

[@im2399]

@@Losshe well said

[@timekillerone]

R Nickerson But there are more single people than ever not just in the US. Same happens in Europe and Japan, countries like Germany with free high education and great welfare programs.

[@jordangish6579]

She's got a nice voice

[@notefunctioncollapse]

Then listen to the audiobook of her book cause she is also who reads it haha

[@jordangish6579]

@@notefunctioncollapse good to know

[@alexdefatte5202]

The key is eating right, exercise, sleep, knowing what your partner likes in the bedroom, having fun, trying new things. You want an honest and emotional connection to your mate as well. Even after we get old and have lower levels of estrogen and testosterone​, 'Healthy' people should want to f### until they die. It's physiology. If you don't, you can probably trace it back to some unhealthy sexual experience during childhood and becoming a man or woman. Can also happen in adulthood. Address that issue and find happiness with your partner.

[@wildrageg8258]

You forgot the first and most important step, getting a partner. When will mine arrive?

[@Nickname006]

Well, this video was for couples. You are not in the target audience.

[@richardmetellus2336]

You need to go to the DMV and get your partner license

[@stevengonzalez27]

WildRageG The right person to marry arrives when you are ready, and ready to recognise and honor that person.

[@Smico85]

Yes yes, spread the "ideas"

[@mariaa.echeverri2969]

Love these metaphors

[@LizeTheeCreator]

Heart is aching😣

[@vwiggins1847]

very good... very very good

[@im415again]

It's called MDMA

[@ZeeThird]

I can't sustain a strong sexual connection for 10 minutes.

[@SoloSailer]

László Horváth foreplay is everything

[@VincentFischer]

sounds like my right hand and I have to go to couples therapy

[@VincentFischer]

@p j I would never!I live in a monogamous relation ship with the right one

[@callydecherd]

Damn this comment section is meannn

[@Clovis_Rose]

Agreed, if this is all I knew I'd lose faith in humanity now smh.

[@ljay3379]

TED has one of the most toxic comment section in the education field, lol. Kind of ironic considering the purpose of TED

[@anatorre7772]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:42 *📚 La frecuencia sexual no es el factor clave para mantener una conexión sólida en parejas a lo largo de las décadas, según la investigación.* 01:42 *💥 Existen dos formas saludables de experimentar deseo sexual: el "deseo espontáneo" y el "deseo receptivo".* 03:36 *🤝 Las parejas con una fuerte amistad basada en la confianza y que priorizan el sexo son las que mantienen una conexión sexual duradera.* 05:34 *🦔 Las dificultades en la conexión sexual a menudo están llenas de sentimientos difíciles, pero la clave es abordarlos con amabilidad y compasión para liberarlos.* 08:05 *🚀 A pesar de los desafíos y sentimientos complicados, priorizar el sexo y enfrentar los problemas con compasión son fundamentales para encontrar el camino de vuelta a la conexión en la relación a largo plazo.* Made with HARPA AI

[@Nathanatos22]

What do you do when your spouse absolutely refuses to “find their way back” (including refusing to go to counseling)?

[@SmokeJam]

You get going and look for a better person, because this one doesn't seem to give a damn about you and thus doesn't deserve you.

[@CdnWolfe]

I guess the hedgehogs are more important to him than you are.... time to change your priority and seek a partner who will have the same first priority as you: each other.

[@Nathanatos22]

Jay It’s a “her” in my case, but I’ve spent enough time in r/DeadBedrooms to know this is common with both men and women.

[@Michalastar]

i agree

[@bridgecommand]

she never states if she found her way back...

[@FunBotan]

Just don't pull out... Ever...

[@mayarobin6384]

First TED I watched lol

[@jasonf7422]

The unsolved debate may have been answered; Which is better Xbox or Playstation? With all this talk of hedgehogs I think it's fair to say she is definitely a Sega person.

[@finfan7]

The hedgehog metaphor is cute but doesn't go as far as she takes it. Sure, okay, 'prickly hurt feelings' are the hedgehogs, but what does it mean to turn toward them with compassion? Is this talking about why each person feels hurt? An airing of grievances? Is this forgiveness of grievances? Is this loving oneself by addressing one's own hedgehogs toward the partner? Apologising? Something else entirely? What?Everything else is very clean and makes sense. That part just doesn't work.

[@fluffy_chickadee]

Yes I felt it was incomplete. But maybe functional for the average person who is woefully clueless about communication and relationships. If you are thoughtful enough to be asking your types of questions, you are probably already showing up in relationship well enough to skirt this issue.

[@lulahbelle]

It's all of those things depending on the situation I think... I think you're expecting her to be v v specific when she's giving a general message and it's not really possible.

[@shred_savage]

Ah yes, sleepy hedgehogs. It all makes since now....

[@coastercouple1211]

You know.. I think sometimes in today’s day and age we want to (wish) that men don’t value attractiveness in their partner. We want to all be equal, but unfortunately a man and woman’s brains are wired differently. Women generally crave emotional closeness, while men crave attractiveness and sexiness. To note, this is not a blanket statement but it can be true for a vast majority. In the cases where I have seen couples drifting- divorcing/ a lot of times the woman has let herself go, gained weight, doesn’t care for her appearance as she ages, does not put effort into her dress. This can make a man not sexually attracted to you, no matter what time is set aside. Same with the woman- the man can become not interested in her day to day, maybe focused on other things or career instead of her, and regardless of anything she is not going to be into him sexually because her needs aren’t met. I just think there is normally so much more to WHY these marriages/ long term relationships fall apart or a party gets cheated on, and sometimes we as a generation are too sensitive to acknowledge the truth. Yes, it hurts to know that my husband loves me but if I gain 75 pounds and let myself go he may not sexually be into me but it’s something that you have to be mindful of because it is important to THEM. We as Americans just don’t want to accept these things because they hurt our feelings and our ego.

[@CharlotteHttp]

I’ve never heard something more misogynistic, you’ve obviously married the wrong person if you think this way hun

[@coastercouple1211]

Seeing it as that is exactly what I am talking about. You are offended because you do not feel you should be valued by your appearance, and that’s great. I hope you meet someone who doesn’t value that! But in the MAJORITY of scientific studies, males view females aesthetic qualities higher than females view males. I do not wish to shame anyone who feels this way- I feel this way about emotional closeness and would not want anyone to shame me because of it. It’s not my opinion, it’s not misogynistic, it’s simply the way the brain is wired for a majority of males.

[@lulahbelle]

@@coastercouple1211 lol so what you're saying is that the majority of relationships fail because of men's misogyny and entitlement...? Also what percentage of relationships are there where women's weight gain is to be blamed and exactly what are women to do when they for instance have children... their body changes entirely... how are such man's attitudes compatible with ever keeping relationships together in that reality? This is what she's talking about tbh, the men in these scenarios you talk of lack compassion and a capacity to genuinely care for and meet their partner in the middle don't they. They insist that their partner shouldn't change even when everything changes in her body via his children, he insists on his wants and his need that she is a thing and object and does nothing to change himself to accommodate her qnd keep the relationship together. ...

[@Alex-ik6pu]

v 3:00

[@GintarasMacijauskas]

Agree. Does contraceptive hormones kill woman's sexuality?

[@Clovis_Rose]

They cannot kill a persons sexuality, but can inhibit hormonal sexual drive. The same way changing testosterone levels can affect sexual drive in men. Hormonal sexual drive can be considered the "spontaneous" sexual feelings she spoke of. But there can be many things to help combate hormonal changes which this talk discusses. Along with discussing different birth control methods if the effects are to severe. Different types have different hormones and amounts with the various changing levels affecting each women differently.

[@AndromedaChace]

For me, yes, but everyone is different.

[@ナンタコス-b2z]

日本語字幕お願い致します

[@dinnercow]

is there a reason you delete and repost recent ted talks as new regularly?

[@QuantumParticle]

I'm single wtf am I doing here

[@adans01is80]

Her:Explains one way of spontaneous desire "There is another"

[@nicolee.olie-osborn1680]

MELTED MY HEART. YES!!!!!

[@ali.faris.]

المرجو ترجمة الفيديو إلى اللغة العربية.

[@ManthaarJanyaro]

May God bless us with strong sexual relationship..

[@CrimsonLotus-dj6yp]

In Jesus name 🙏🏾❤😘

[@TheBjabeytalial]

❤️sweet❤️

[@Michalastar]

i disagree

[@cska007cska007]

did not understand about hedhehog

[@blackmaggit2294]

Look into yourself and find out what makes you uncomfortable about sexual intimacy and then don't push those negative feelings away but care for them. Investigate them and talk about them with your partner, the rest will unfold naturally

[@mithzynelson3110]

Darn these sleepy hedgehogs ruining my marriage

[@BhupendraTool]

My efficiency is 100% cause m friction less! Any nerds?

[@ChillTheFuckOutMeditations]

This is so beautiful.

[@omgods1]

so many fostered hedgehogs...

[@viktoriar.1913]

Best friend?!

[@joannot6706]

I need a partner first, anyone interested?

[@nicknickens6653]

Joannot 🖐

[@abhishekchaudhary410]

First i need to be in relationship...thanx anyway