How Do ESFJs Compare To ENFJs?

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[@Grubbygund]

I think as an ENFJ personally, you forget to mention our importance of valuing abstract ideas and thoughts, we get very bored of being fed the same factually information over and over again- big difference btw us and the ESFJ.

[@Renwark]

This guy... loves making these videos

[@pjones916]

I love it when people enjoy their work. You can really tell when a musical artist is having a good time in the recording booth.

[@dcinreallife905]

ok and?

[@kevinnguyen9268]

The ENFJ thing about forgetting and needing to feel good is so TRUE. My clinical faculty have said "Look at all the good things you've done over the semester, you really did a lot". Me: I did? Really?!?! I don't think I did..

[@jordanmerry3477]

My ex is an ENFJ. He is probably the most forgetful person I know. He even once said that he is prone to do the same mistake twice or even more, because he forgot how it feels or the impact of that mistake, so he try to do it again. He sometimes worry he gonna get Alzheimer when he is old. He got his gene checked and the result came out he has a high chance of Alzheimer in his DNA. Wow Chase, you are wow!

[@arrenlights5750]

Haha I do the same! I'm an ENTJ and have Si trickster too so I forgot the impact about the mistake and keep doing it! An example would be not sleeping for a day or two when having lots of work and thinking I can handle it well, but each time after I sleep I can't do anything for 2 days... but I keep doing it, because maybe it was just in a bad mood or something? This case is surely not similar at all, and I will manage it well this time...

[@Bookooky]

ESFJ: - What "should" I do? - often clean freaks, critical about "how" things should be (eg. judging son-in-law) ENFJ: - What do I want to do? - poor memory

[@nalynnsansaneeyawet3136]

The “afraid of being stupid” thing is like way too accurate.

[@ashuranero5721]

Ti users are stupid most of the time

[@jt_rooster3228]

@@ashuranero5721Not necessarily. Ti users are either the most sought out, or dismissed.

[@ashuranero5721]

@@jt_rooster3228 The ones that are dismissed are the stupid ones. They are dismissed because they are dump. And some of the sought out ones are dukp too, people just didn't realized it

[@lilmeow6497]

This was the best damn comparison that I ever came across I figured I was a esfj but for the 1000 time I just had to be sure and you broke it down well..

[@CSJoseph]

you are welcome

[@Yo-pz1em]

I’m an esfj And you are right. Many have called me snobby, pompous, pretentious, elitist, etc. But I feel like I’m down to earth. I’m excellent at managing my finances. So I am able to live a luxurious life even with a budget. I consider myself to be practical. until someone gets to know me personally. .. then I’m told I’m very caring and friendly. I can tell I annoy people with my neatness-obsession with cleaning. I’ve been told my place looks like it came out of a magazine. But I can serious annoy people with my organization

[@ashuranero5721]

Maybe you are an ESTJ?

[@Yo-pz1em]

@@ashuranero5721 actually I am. Retested professionally. Estj

[@ashuranero5721]

@@Yo-pz1em Thought so

[@azybes6510]

How did you get tested professionally?

[@Yo-pz1em]

@@azybes6510 work

[@lyaz0939]

I'm impressed you didn't use the *"time - crime"* or *"day in court"* lines in this one.

[@CSJoseph]

yeah? how come?

[@petrit5101]

32:49 day in court :)

[@BeyondSustainableLiving]

This was really good. I could have listened for another hour on this topic.

[@xnooraxxsnx4537]

Since I started watching your videos I have learned a lot and realized that for months I was miss typing myself and my family members. I thought I was ENFP when I am an ENFJ I also thought that my mom is an ESTP when she is an ESTJ and I am still trying to figure out my other family members, we have a big lack of communication so I would really love to know the types and how to communicate with them better. I’m really grateful for your videos and the hard work that you do for us seriously thank you.♥️

[@abdulrazaqramat3728]

You know I find it really interesting how we we take the tests and we keep changing which MBTI's we are, I find that the reason why it's hard to stick to one MBTI is because humans aren't meant to be fixed, we are constantly changing for as long as we are alive so Personality type isn't actually stable, it can be changed or stable but I think we have a choice here, rather than seeing it as a fixed event, I find that interesting, I seem to be many of it most times.

[@fatemeh5984]

Love this video so much. Thank you.

[@Hewhoblue]

They can be annoying at your face i know but when you realize they’re doing good for you and by your side you feel loved and as sensitive person i can see the simple things they do and I appreciate that ✨❤️

[@angel520520520520]

Super useful! It is literally the life advice I want!

[@hakuna6887]

When you were talking about the Ti inferior function. I feel personally attacked 😂👌. (I'm an ENFJ)

[@scousegeeks]

I just got to this bit an actually remembered reading your comment prior and I also feel very attacked 😂 I was going to comment the same 😂 I was sitting there going omg I feel like I’m being told off by a teacher 😅😅

[@stevencampbell1970]

You are simply fun to watch.

[@BookofYAH777]

thanks for this video. It's helpful in eliminating uncertainties when typing people :)

[@someonerandom713]

Ugh, Ne critic grinds my gears. I do feel the strong desire to loyalty check the people who I assume have bad intentions. And it doesn't work anyways, nothing will improve that way. Still, sitting around not acting out on that desire makes the Ne critic just more paranoid. It all bottles up until it's too much. =|

[@grimmgangler5035]

Oof, it's always chilling to just be read like that, even though most of it is stuff you've said before. Thanks for another great video :]

[@CSJoseph]

you're welcome ^^

[@cyndigdl]

Im ESFJ when take the test in spanish and ENFJ when I take it in english. Happy to find your video, sounds like i'm more of the ENFJ . Im super, super forgetful, I love recognition and always worries about making sure everyone's has fun. I was the one to make the move on my husband haha he never did so I did all the moves. I know what I want in life and have very high expectations for people . That sucks !! I had to worked on that. oh and definitely learn how to check and proof everything before making any decision. like double check and check and the ask around then check again then ask around and pray alot then more research. To finally make my moves.

[@idiotslife8508]

As an isfp I've got to say... One of the most brilliant people I have met is an esfj woman. Gosh she was an amazing teacher. That ti aspirational is no joke.

[@callummelrose7769]

I've noticed you talk about ENFJs becoming cruel and having a "dark side" especially in your other video about ENFJs titled "Benevolence vs Cruelty". Can you give an example of a time when you have seen this happen with someone you know and what the outcome is?

[@CSJoseph]

yes, please watch the virtue and vice lecture for ENFJs in Season 7, I provide real life examples on how this works.

[@callummelrose7769]

Awesome, thanks!

[@lucindaessin]

Thank you for this video. Your type grid shows me to be an ESFJ and my best friend is an ENFJ. You just nailed us both and explains why she thinks I would sleep with her husband. Ew! I would NEVER do that. At least now it makes sense even though it is not realistic.

[@jordansage9655]

25:20 - 26:24 helpful, thank you. 29:40 as well. 32:20 - 33:30.

[@Hewhoblue]

They are both good people and i feel comfortable when around them and i wish i know more even healthy esfps because they encourage me with their Se to do things that I didn’t know i can do and randomly all those people support me with my art xD ❤️❤️

[@emmamindcoach]

Yes... love that about the dishes. Loving to serve from The Spirit rather than obligation is a gift we give to people. Fe-Ni

[@enchantedlakes-2150]

I have an ESFP ex-best friend and she made me feel guilty 24/7...she is also extremely manipulative uffff Also, I feel guilty now for asking people to verify my ideas and taking it as truth, that's literally the root for me being in between ESFJ and ENFJ... I was 75% sure I was an ENFJ until 5 people told me they think I'm an ESFJ... Even though I'm forgetful and think about the future 24/7 and barely pay attention to the past

[@detsymealing5776]

These videos are full of good information, but they are entertaining as well. He’s funny.

[@larissasimon4757]

im an infp, i know my boyfriend is an Fe dom but im not sure if he is an esfj or enfj, thanks for the video :))

[@hamedghalani4720]

Amazing ❤

[@sandradibiaso7316]

I just watched a very moving short video clip from an episode of the Kelly Clarkson Show where both ENFJ Kelly Clarkson and ESFJ Dolly Parton were showing this beautiful blind girl serious extraverted feeling while singing to her. 😪❤️

[@nebur9180]

Enfjs are like lovely candy from the outside but snakes from the inside. You must be very cautious if you wanna have a close relationship with them.

[@barraquemonfils-evangelist2098]

I have taken the test a few times, a couple of weeks apart.... I am always %67-70 E , High %70 F and Mid %80 J... the problem is NvsS where I hover around 50 percent and it throws off my results.... what does that mean... a I some kind of ENsFJ hybrid ? If I force myself to make a decision based on what I read I think I'm ENFJ but... the test is the test lol...

[@flufftwirl]

I’m an ISTP female and I never make it through any videos more than 4 min Long, but I fucking love your videos!

[@CSJoseph]

Wow! This is high praise! (I am not being sarcastic either)

[@Dani-jo9yr]

Soooo much loved this one- Have a friend ESFJ and in comparison to her I am direct all right 😅😂but I can choose to be informative big time too. Also, forgetful maybe maybe? But I do too remember everything past present even future if possible 🤯😜😅😂no really, some of us are just freaks 🤣😂🥴good planer yes. Your explanation is really so clear to me now and my thought process. Thanks Joseph, keep up good work 👍✅🏆🤩😁ENFJ

[@hadarie1]

Are there specific types that are better in recognizing others interaction styles and temperaments? I tend to think that the more abstract (NT/NF) are better at typing others. What is your opinion? Also, greetings from the Middle East! Love your vids.

[@CSJoseph]

Probably Se + Fe users.

[@someonerandom713]

@ENFJ verification and forgetfullness: - "Do you have a reason to think this?" - "Yes." - "So, what's your explaination then?" - "... I know I had a reason figured out. I forgot about it. But there is one." This is an example of why I started writing stuff down '= )

[@zeroangelmk1]

I'm an INFJ and I have to write things down a lot or at least talk about them so I don't forget. As far as verifying, I think I do this a bit too much to the point it alienates people sometimes, but it's still worth it.

[@CSJoseph]

Well said.

[@CSJoseph]

aye it is.

[@fadillabd98]

how do i know if i’m entj or esfp?

[@alanerkkila4213]

I have got to make a list of the good things that my wife does for me. And give her labels based on that. I have the hardest time believing that anybody really needs that crap. But she's wonderful and deserves to know it. My son's an ExFJ too, but I'm thinking your description of the ESFJ is a better fit for him. I don't know if I've ever caught them thinking I'm disloyal, though.

[@CSJoseph]

Awesome!

[@elsandstorm8997]

As an ENFJ I often ask my INTP man "Why do you love me?" and it's not because I think he doesn't love me, but I forget what I do and things he appreciate with me and to me it makes no sense being with someone who doesn't appreciate me so I need to know, and get reminded quiet often.

[@zenithgreyhatENTJ]

I don’t know if you know about Elliot Hulse. But he also talks about “King Warrior Magician Lover”

[@whowillyoucallonthen4292]

ESFJ ex mother in law.. ESFJ ex. I really don't see the issue. I mean, as long as every molecule is in exactly the right place (down to the atomic level), at the right time, and, you let them pull ALL your strings (after they show you how grateful they are for controlling you...er, I mean, "encouraging" you to make them happy by sincerely reciprocating a covert contract...), they're really generous & amazing people. Oh, & *smart* as an owl with a dual usage lazer light composers stick, too.

[@zeroangelmk1]

My mom is an ESFJ, as an INFJ I think I can connect with her Fe, by giving her recognition or kudos or offering to help when she complains about something. I don't think I'd wanna marry one though.

[@whowillyoucallonthen4292]

zeroangelmk1

[@poppystils974]

Does this mean the ENFJ is prone to cheating on a partner? With the insecurity, the mistrust and the impulsive acting on their desire?

[@CSJoseph]

it can happen but not often

[@GGirl-ww4uj]

More on esfj's please.... thank u!!

[@Aetherius21]

Good day, Chase! I am aware its a bit late to ask this now but I have watched your video on ESFJ social compatibility as well as the one on a relationship between an ISFJ and INFP. Should an INFP seek a relationship with an ESFJ despite compatibility problems given Si-Ne is present in both types? Should an INFP try to emulate an Se-Ni user for this to work? Thank you in advance to Chase or any other community members answering. 😊

[@CSJoseph]

They super high for professional compatibility

[@giuseppelorisnuzzo2840]

Pls answer this : which one is more trustwhorty for a relationship usually? Cuz i am an infp and an enfj is into me, and she is very nice but sometimes is kinda childish/like to have fun/drink something (i mean i think it is controlled but usually this things lead to other stuff). Instead esfj i think like more routine and are less "party hard" but then again the don't know what they want cuz they have trickster NI and may do stuff without thinking at consequeces, while enfjs have SE meaning they are fun loving, so pick your poison??

[@CSJoseph]

trustworthy is a maturity thing, not a type thing.

[@saraalsalem3577]

Can you make a video about how enfjs sees most ppl childish and how others see them childish I struggle with this thing

[@CSJoseph]

If I get a ton of requests for a topic, I will probably do it, anyone can submit a wizard question and I'll make the video of whatever they want though.

[@WrathOfArmagaddon]

What types would you say are the most dominant extroverted among the types? And what would the more submissive extroverted types be? Of course this is assuming that there is a distinction in the first place.

[@CSJoseph]

Structure types vs. starter types .

[@scousegeeks]

I’ve just messaged my nearest an dearest who know about personality types to tell them enfjs are the most forgetful type and to remind me of this next time they need to as I’ll probably forget 😂 I’ve also paused the video to type this comment as I will probably forget that I’m forgetful 😂🤣 it is so true tho but I’ve only just noticed as I think I have a good memory but all I remember in reality is interesting topics of discussion that go down well with people when I interact with them, I’ve already forgot the start of the message, cba ....😂😂

[@leonine0517]

Can you make a comparison for infj and intj.thank you.

[@CSJoseph]

if its not done already it will be soon.

[@bobjoe6656]

I met this girl at a beach party wasn’t sure if she was enfj or esfj or enfp I think I’ve got it now def esfj - I’m an Intj

[@emmamindcoach]

This is literally facts Wants to vs Has To!!!!!

[@ernestm.9505]

My partner is an ESFJ. I find this lecture quite useful :)

[@ernestm.9505]

Is there a chance for an ENTP (male) to create a successful relationship with ESFJ (female)? I find some aspects of this relationship rather...difficult and confusing :P And I definitely need to read "No more Mr. Nice Guy". ^^ Thx for great work! Keep it up man! :D

[@CSJoseph]

if you are not mistyped there is no chance at all. Sorry.

[@MrBrad1234567890]

How Does INFJ Compare To INTP... new video request please and thank you! Chase is the #1 KZbin Content Creator for Jungian Analytical Psychology XD

[@jewellscott]

I respect your content, but... The video: About ESFJs You: Waxing poetic about the virtues of INTPs and how amazing you all are for 10 minutes

[@someonerandom713]

Um, did I miss out on something? Where is this about INTPs except for the few sentences at ESFJ's subconscious? 😮

[@HobDobson]

"INTP" was written on the board by an ENTP. Se Critic. Somehow even more oblivious than Se Trickster.

[@godnot9676]

Why does making someone feel good also seem like an Se thing evn tho its about giving a good experiences...i know its different bt sometimes it hard to understand if you are talking about Fe or Se making it confusing...sorry another possibility might be that i might just be dumb bt still it confuses me

[@saraalsalem3577]

i have been thinking about this all day im pretty sure im an enfj but my memory is pretty good can this happen?!!!

[@CSJoseph]

ENFJs think they have good memory because it's their trickster function.

[@saraalsalem3577]

@@CSJoseph oh yea going back and thinking about it I actually work hard to remember stuff i study I don’t have it naturally

[@shankerprem28]

You won't believe me, but I was trying to type someone and was confused between esfp and ENFP......then this notification came....if tomorrow you did behind the scenes type...I'll be shook

[@CSJoseph]

its coming

[@melissajeannek]

How have I seen all your videos and still don’t know if I’m ESFJ or ENFJ?!?! I’ve basically ruled out any other types but I’m still torn! ☹️

[@CSJoseph]

If you posted this for any reason other than to say that (ie you wanted help figuring out your type), then that was an informative statement. if being informative is your default, then you can't be an ENFJ.

[@boy.venus_]

"Treat other how you want to be treated". The essential principle of most if not all rule systems, be it a religious following, a learning institution, societal law, or even a simple board game. I don't find that to be a covert contract, therefore I don't see the need to explain to my partner why that essential principle should be applied or even augmented in our romantic relationship. But other than that, I wouldn't say I use any other "covert contract", except that debt must and will be paid. Whether it gets paid to its original lender or not (kinda like karma). Im going to collect all my comments from this channel, and call them, the philosophies of the ENFJ 😅

[@fatemeh5984]

I've always used that quote loool

[@user-lm4bv1gh7u]

If you are going to ask for debt every time you help others people like myself will never ask for your help and will just do whatever we needed help from you ourselves how about like helping people for the sake of helping people and the right people will thank you but do not expect that

[@boy.venus_]

@@user-lm4bv1gh7u Every interaction isn’t a transaction. There’s these virtues called joy and purpose that’s makes certain resources abundant and not needing of payment. If your talking specifically if you’re talking about human kindness. It doesn’t need direct payment like a “thank you “. Actions, friendship, a shoulder to cry on, or a listening ear can be enough. You can be creative with the way you show gratitude if you so choose.

[@user-lm4bv1gh7u]

@@boy.venus_ what I meant is when you are helping a fellow human being do not expect compensation helping people is a thankless job and those that do in some way appreciate them but help people for the sake of improving them in some way instead of the compensation you will get is what I was saying

[@user-lm4bv1gh7u]

@@boy.venus_ and alright

[@plusultra6094]

The beatings will continue until moral improves. Yikes! Also spying on your other half is not good ever

[@CrimsonWing67]

Great video CSJ... but you have got the descriptions of dementia and Alzheimer's all wrong... Alzheimer's is a type of dementia and the most common sort. The other dementias are all different in presentation and symptoms are all different too :)

[@CSJoseph]

the definitions change every few years.

[@CrimsonWing67]

@@CSJoseph I am quite sure the definitions have not changed, at least for the past 20 years. In fact, there were times where clinicians thought Alzheimer's = dementia but they never separated the symptoms in such way, Dementia is an umbrella term for all conditions that result in progressive neurodegeneration impacting cognition. Alzheimer's, which is a type of dementia, tend to affect Short term memory first. Other types of dementia may or may not affect insight, behaviour, speech, motor function etc first but most dementia, including Alzheimer's tend to affect immediate cognition and short term memory first. In short, the classification of dementia and Alzheimer's is incorrect; The symptoms you have described for both syndrome/diseases are incorrect; Your cognitive functions affecting which one you are more likely to get is definitely incorrect because no empirical method for classification of cognitive function types exist. If no classification system exist you cannot correlate these diseases with what type you are. You may be able to speculate based on your previous experiences assuming everyone you have typed has been typed accurately, but it will be poorly informed at best since the only way to confirm Alzheimer's disease is to actually inspect a dead brain under a microscope (although doctors can diagnose based on circumstances with fairly good accuracy, it is by ruling out other causes of cognition loss), and how many people have you typed realistically ended up getting Alzheimer's for it to be an accurate correlation? I do like your videos, but this is Ti/Te verification you emphasise all the time. If it is "what I suspect is that these types...", I won't have any issue. But for you to claim something, I would like some sort of solid knowledge behind what you are saying. I still stand by the fact that it was a good video and I really liked how you compared the two types. Thanks.

[@karthik_silkroads]

makes sense, infp se trickster--terrible at bars -_-

[@user-ep1es5tu3n]

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[@Melissasaved]

I'm sorry but, this really confuses me. My husband has so much ESFJ traits, and he forgets everything and he finishes nothing and he does everything for everyone else. I can remember everything (past and where he puts stuff) your test told me I'm an ENTJ, I did some other tests and it always flip flops between ESFJ and ENFJ. I had a lot of time with my mother that did when I was 12 and I took a lot of her traits, like the directness and I like to give people tasks to do (how she did because she could not move because of Multiple Sclerosis). Because I grew up in many different families (before and after my mother died) I on one side always had my ideal in mind and I also tried to make everyone of the family happy. Another thing. Yes, I want to get labald. But if my husband does it, I don't like it, because I think he has so low expectations, It seems to me.

[@pariasabet13]

It is said that Taylor Swift is ESFJ!! But I guess she is ENFJ what do you think??

[@CSJoseph]

no idea, I would have to pay more attention to her to find out.

[@SS-bu8ez]

She's probably an enneagram 3 Enfj. She lacks the mental stability of an Esfj. Enfjs give off this Venutian vibe whereas Esfjs seem more homey. I don't know what I'm saying. Just what I observed.

[@WrathOfArmagaddon]

What main functions would you say depression affects?

[@CSJoseph]

It doenst work like that.

[@moriyahviera6444]

This feels like me and Gomer Pyle being compared because, I'm an ESFJ and Gomer Pyle is an ENFJ!

[@verntoews6937]

Esfj Mike Tyson or George s Patton Enfj Jackie Gleason and Fred Flintstone

[@kristindawn]

Gotta love EXFJs!!

[@MonnyArcade]

I thought Si being all about remembering everything was a baseless stereotype and Si relies on whether a truly sensory memory created at the time or not. So remembers weird things but not necessarily everything

[@CSJoseph]

its long term memory Se is short term

[@zephdo2971]

as INFP i always end up hurting ENFJs who come to my life

[@def6420]

SHIT - what iam gonna do to them then - entj

[@joevaghn457]

This talks with almost near perfect accuracy the way the Joker did in the dark night. The joker is also an ENTP, so this is hilarious

[@Bellagaming532]

C.S Joseph... Are ENFJs always considered "direct"? I'm very friendly and tactful but I don't consider myself "direct". Everything else lines up for me as far as ENFJ.

[@sash8099]

@Joshua Lewis No they expect me to read their fricckin mind

[@saraalsalem3577]

Im an enfj but but i have a good developed memory im an A student idk

[@saraalsalem3577]

What do you think

[@saraalsalem3577]

but im very sure im an enfj but my memory is very good im not judgemental at all

[@saraalsalem3577]

Im not clean i dream to create my dream self

[@saraalsalem3577]

Ok yea I don’t remember things related to ppl or what gd things they have done to me but academically i remember everything

[@radiamed98]

thank you so much but why are yOU YELLING AT ME

[@yyuuiiii6747]

ESFJ develop dementia how about ENFJ?...sorry my English was not that good

[@HD-Australia]

I love being ENFJ!

[@HD-Australia]

But I don't love how I didn't know what I didn't know, about my self worth.... really damaging

[@nachiketpargaonkar8646]

5:38 "...how Trump feels" 😂😂

[@millenniumfox9218]

This is great. Trump.... Right.. How do people miss this. Poor people. Anyways what was I saying. Ug ENFJ problems. This was a great video. Btw I'm from Wisconsin hahahah.

[@mocurio]

Is this video a rant against your wife, who's ENFJ?

[@CSJoseph]

No.

[@angelicagutierrez6502]

Fe heroes are amazing! ^.^

[@stardusstie]

Trump an ENTJ.....? 🤔🤔🤔

[@CSJoseph]

watch Season 20 Episode 1, I prove it there.

[@techvision7038]

Typing is based on focusing on speech patterns and social motivations of said person and then logically dissecting what is present and what isn't present

[@stardusstie]

@@techvision7038 Sorry, I don't understand the point of your reply.

[@leonine0517]

Can you make a comparison for infj and intj.thank you.

[@ailurophilely]

plus one here