How Do I Respond if I'm Asked to State my Pronouns? | with Greg Koukl

"What are your preferred pronouns?" Someday, whether at school or at work, you'll eventually be asked. Do you have an answer prepared? Watch Greg Koukl, from Stand to Reason, break down his tactical strategy for providing a faithful response to this question.
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[@CrossExamined]

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[@secondchance6603]

To paraphrase Number 6 from The Prisoner: I will not make any deals with you. I do not comply. I will not be pushed, filed, stamped, indexed, briefed, debriefed or numbered. My life is my own. I am a free man.

[@rubber2023]

"whoever commits sin is enslaved to sin." -paraphrase Thats the idea though. Jesus sets you free!

[@greatbriton8425]

Please please please get your editor to stop inserting LOOK THIS IS THE POINT memes or THIS IS WHAT HE JUST SAID, SEE THE PICTURE? It's extremely distracting.

[@frankgradus9474]

"Pronouns are Rohypnol" - by Barra Kerr. Well worth a read.

[@erikdeeNOSPELLSNO]

Insanity is contagious, especially when financed and FORCED by creatures who are conquering our planet.

[@michaelwinkelman7165]

My employer has put signs up in all break rooms at all our marinas. "If you are in need of pronouns you are also in need of a new job" Thank you the management.

[@HighPriestessK]

😁😅😅

[@747-pilot]

AWESOME!!! I would love to work for an employer like that!

[@johndo3930]

great

[@deanlawson6880]

Oh that's fantastic! I love that!!

[@EA_Kar]

That's actually so heartening. We've enough things to worry about on/near the water

[@Stephanie-lg1cm]

I was a mental health nurse for over 40 years, we were taught not to collude with the mentally unwell.

[@hinduismwithpremananddasbhagat]

Yet, you still did what Doctors told you to do, and so many of them post-COVID seem to demonstrate a lack of mental stability.

[@nonyabidness5708]

And now they're teaching the exact opposite

[@marktwain2053]

I was barely able to do it for a year. I don't indulge their fantasies, because I don't get paid to do so anymore, and the more pressure they put on me to agree with their delusions, the more I push back.

[@kingofelves9487]

​​​@@hinduismwithpremananddasbhagat You make incredible assumptions. You have no idea what she did. Many doctors pushed back on COVID narratives too. Many wanted to, but we're afraid of having their careers cancelled (which did happen to many who spoke up). Everyone, on all sides, is being assaulted with menticide. As soon as you start making assumptions about others, and lumping large groups of people into small categories, then you are showing signs of being a victim of the menticide. It's not limited to Woke folk. What we need to do, and I do mean need, is to start helping each other out of insanity, not voice our own flavor.

[@teks-kj1nj]

People who believe in invisible sky daddies are also mentally unwell. I guess we should not collude with you either.

[@TwinTalon01]

Dave Chappelle nailed it when he said “To what degree do *I* have to participate in *your* self-image?”

[@a2ndopynyn]

I thought he said "delusion"?

[@a2ndopynyn]

@@brony_in_the_sticks - No; tomboys don't think they're male.

[@emcarver8983]

Or... "To what degree do I have to participate in your delusion?"

[@nerys71]

100%, that's how much you have to participate because the church told you to and the church told you to kill these people who don't participate 100% with yourself delusional self-image and your fairy tale sky god You see the problem is you're delusional self-image is also the delusional self image of the majority of people on earth because for thousands of years you had religion shoved down your throat under threat of death. The difference is they're self-image doesn't match your self delusion and so you react violently to preserve and protect your self delusion

[@darthvaper4776]

Dave Chappelle is a Muslim his religion funds these woke communist in the west don’t let him fool u for one second he is in on it and if didn’t realize this yet I have a bridge to sell u

[@WolfMage888]

I was REQUIRED to use pronouns in a graduate degree course, I had 17, yes 17 to choose from. Who knew we had so many scary options! I advised the professor that I do not use pronouns. He again stated to me that pronouns were required in his class. Second class came up and I still did not select my required pronouns. He announced to the entire class that I have yet to select my pronouns. I noticed that the drop down menu allowed you to fill in the blanks - which I did. I advised him and the entire class what my pronouns are with great pride - Human, Earthling Least to say the professor was not pleased. That same evening I dropped out of the program. Their loss, not mine.

[@calvinballew5411]

I can't believe I live in a society where I'm required to concern myself over a mentally ill person's concerns.

[@josears3651]

Soo true! F-ing crazy people.

[@inconnu4961]

Well, first we elected these crazy people! So, of course they will look out for their own in other aspects of life!

[@SRMoore1178]

As long as we don't hang out with delusional self-obsessed mentally ill people, we won't need to deal with this pronoun stuff. I rarely remember people's names after first meeting them, now I have to remember their pronouns as well? No way that's happening. Oh yeah, but we might have to interact with these types in public, at work, etc. So far I haven't been put in these strange situations.

[@user-mj7jc4vh7o]

Yep. Me too

[@christiannoriega428]

I get what you were trying to say but you could have worded that better 💀

[@Zaruf]

The fact that this conversation even exists is just bananas

[@panzfaust9812]

Yeah, its a demaking of a country in progress

[@ZEROmg13]

HEY M.F.!!!!... i identify as a one of those delicious, golden yellow, long & skinny, slightly brown on one edge, pieces of magnificent eatery.

[@guyherd6071]

Is that not the truth

[@bozejoetheclown3554]

Same with the conversation "Which bathroom should I use?"

[@dreadcthulhu5]

@@ZEROmg13 French fries?

[@derekmills5394]

I identify as a traditional grammar purist. I shall continue using the rules I was taught in school 60 years ago.

[@edh9237]

Exactly! Their pretense is divisive and cannot exist unless they have a standard to oppose.

[@MegsAdventures-bq6fz]

How is that working out for thou mine man? To hast a rigid mind like that is most limiting to thy faculties. I am now making lots of jovial laughter thou masturbator.

[@BT-rr8lj]

Hello grammar purist. I’m an English teacher. I started learning a mere 55 years ago, so you’re 5 up on me! Aren’t we lucky to share such a beautifully simple language like English is? Other languages have gender rules that are far too complex. I’ve had to learn a Slavic language where I have to learn the genders of every single noun, living or inanimate. Every adjective needs to match the gender as well as the quantity, but only up to 5 after which I need to learn another set of suffixes. I just can’t get my head around all this gender nonsense! I mean, why is a table masculine and a chair feminine? My car is neutral, go figure. I’m just so glad that in English the gender question is for living people, so at least we can ask. Hey, have a great day!

[@robbieskids9159]

What rule was that?

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Ooh that’s a good one. I usually go with “I identify as the queen of humanity, my pronouns are Your Majesty, My Queen and Your Grace. Pay your taxes to me or you’re questioning my identity”

[@Chris-qv5gv]

I was asked for my pronouns in a client meeting, I took a deep breath and replied "No thank you, I'm too old for pronouns" and that was the end of that.

[@moosedawg71]

I would've just said, "No thank you." and left it at that. They don't need a reason why, just a hard NO! It's none of their business anyway.

[@stevenwalsh2375]

My pronoun is my name. And my name is my name

[@BrodyAleksander-YOB]

​@@moosedawg71no way, saying _Im too old for that_ is way better. Mock them

[@BrodyAleksander-YOB]

​@@stevenwalsh2375that's not how language works

[@randydewees7338]

I'll go with "old fart", it's my reality

[@sandystanley1237]

We were once in a situation where we, my husband and I, were asked this question. Without missing a beat my man just said: "either you need to see a optometrist, a ophthalmologist or a psychologist"...

[@kevinbush4300]

Brilliant!

[@Competitive_Antagonist]

I haven't heard of them pronouns before. They must be xeno-pronouns.

[@user-mj9ti4zz8c]

Love it. The VA has signs encouraging you to give your preferred pronoun. One time when I want to a doctor, upon entering the room, she asked me, "Do You Identify as D____D_____ (my name)? I said, "No, I AM D_______D_______!" Then she asked me do I identify as a male. I said, "No. I AM a male!" And the military wonders why recruiting is at all-time lows.

[@kevinvitale8980]

Best response evah!!!

[@wheelie642]

My pronouns are common/sense.

[@SuperStratosfear]

Always remember; you are not refusing to use 'trans-people's' pronouns, they are refusing to use their own pronouns

[@Gek1177]

False, always remember that it costs you nothing to use a preferred pronoun and refusing to do so just shows you're a bjgot.

[@magicfibre]

I sincerely wish you a very happy self-immolation accident

[@benturner2693]

To quote Dave Chappelle: "one they or many theys?"

[@tinman7342]

I keep it simple when working ...doesn't matter the persuasion of the client ...if they ask about pronouns we say " we charge more for time wasters " ....works like a charm for people who like to stuff the envelope for political purposes .

[@Gek1177]

@@tinman7342 sounds like the kind of rapport you'd get from a garbage buisness.

[@michaelbennett6959]

Morgan Freeman once did an interview with Mike Wallace and the topic of ending racism came up. Mike asked Morgan how he thought racism could be ended. Morgan's answer was simply brilliant. He simply said to stop talking about it. Don't categorize things as black or white. Categorize them by what they are. Color doesn't even need to be put into the equation. Truth be told, I think the best way to shut down this type of dialogue is to not entertain it in the first place. Just walk away. People don't have enough sense anymore to just walk away from stupidity. There is a time to speak up, and there is a time to be quiet. Discernment is your greatest weapon. It's funny how you can plant a seed without ever saying a word. It shows that you're not buying into the narrative.

[@zerotodona1495]

Ironically, blacks love to ignore this interview. :)

[@Mjbeswick]

I find it strange when I hear the term African American. In the US there is so much emphasis race; which is surely a large part of the problem. Here in the UK someone would never refer to a black person African British.

[@Smooshes786]

Oh sure- one man speaks and white folks flock to one quote so they can ignore the actual situation- their discomfort is eased, nothing more.

[@Smooshes786]

@@Mjbeswickthey LOVE to tag people there so the colonizer minds feel mentally safe and othering continues

[@Smooshes786]

@@zerotodona1495 what a doltish comment.

[@CalmingAnxiety]

I worked for the NHS for over 20 years, 2 years back HR sent out an email saying the Trust support our use of pronouns so I put "Master" down ( I have been training in martial arts all my life and am an 8th Dan black belt Master, it defines everything about me). I got told off and in so much trouble for stating a fact on how I want to be spoken to. It was the start of being pushed out then told to leave.

[@miltonyannis3719]

Perfect opportunity for you to exercise some of your martial arts skills on them!

[@Teverell]

And people wonder why the NHS is so short-staffed...

[@nerys71]

That's because you have a second grade education in this regard I mean you didn't even make it the third grade or you would understand that master is a title not a pronoun

[@froggybug]

@@nerys71no…it’s a pronoun. If a man can be a woman…master can certainly be a pronoun.

[@s4socceritalia4s]

Thank you for your sacrifice, master.

[@scarypineapple8608]

I’m dealing with a woman at work who changes their pronoun depending how they’re feeling that day. Every morning she sends a message to the team what she is that day. She goes from she/her, they/them, xie/xue and, wolf/ wolfself… It’s chaos. If we misgender her that day, she cries to HR and we are being forced to watch a Diversity, Inclusion and belonging indoctrination video. So many people are fed up and we try to just refer her to her name to avoid this but naturally we slip up. In my opinion, she needs mental health. Not me. Thoughts?

[@vickibarbosa5641]

You could ask everybody at work to play the same game -- change pronouns every day. The chaos it would cause at work would force HR to ban the whole mess. Maybe. Or you'd all be stuck watching diversity videos all day.

[@parajerry]

I would get everyone fed up to go to HR at the same time and tell them that if they don't quit the nonsense, you are all quitting at the same time. They will back down and end this crap ASAP. If the problem is one employee, you fix that employee or fire them.

[@VoiceOvaGuy]

That's not a mentally or emotionally stable person. So yes, she desperately needs real therapy, not therapy that affirms her illness like is more common today. Good luck getting that through to her though.

[@commonsenseisntcommon1776]

Insanity

[@Yawnyaman]

Tricky one. She is likely unstable but that doesn’t make her a bad employee or make her sackable if she isn’t ( arguably less so in our current environment which emphasises kindness over goodness). If you can move, then do so, otherwise a joint approach to your manager may pay some dividend.

[@russs3001]

"It's not against our views; it's against the structure of reality."

[@russs3001]

If you are referring to the reality specific to man and woman, I would point you to science, specifically the discipline of Biological Science, which points to the reality of male and female, as God created humans, factually substantiated by by their understood chromosomal structural difference. But you could also just read Gen 1:27 and save yourself some time. Hope that helps you work through it. @trinitybassguitar-ru6dz

[@1Dogsoldier4life]

I'm going to adopt this. It goes for so many things happening these days.

[@bonbonpony]

@trinitybassguitar-ru6dz Reality: things that are there, objectively. Things that can be touched, seen, heard, tasted, smelled, or perceived with any other means and confirmed by independent parties who can perceive the same.

[@toshikotanaka3249]

@@richardshortall5987 That's really hypocritical of you Richard. You're admonishing Trinitybassguitar-ru6dz for not understanding what proof and evidence are when you believe that there exists an all powerful, invisible sky pixie who created everything without any proof or evidence for the existence of the pixie. Good show!

[@st8ofmind325]

That’s why I’m not a Christian.

[@briguy4238]

"My name is Bill. You may address me as Bill whenever you're speaking with me. Whenever I am not around, you are free to use whatever words you like."

[@lexingtonduncan3732]

That‘s so true. Why would anyone ever talk to someone in the 3rd person anyways? 🤔

[@lila2028]

That's the thing I never understood about personal pronouns. Who are we to control how others speak about us? "You" is the proper way to address someone in their presence. He, she, they is third person.

[@RighteousJ]

​@@lila2028it's an exercise in controlling how you think. That's all it's always been.

[@lila2028]

@@RighteousJ Yep.

[@nerys71]

That's a name not a pronoun let me help educate you a little bit My name is Chris Taylor until you have earned the right to refer to me as that you may refer to me as Mr Taylor Taylor is my surname Mr is my pronoun. If you were to walk up to me and simply say hey Taylor what about that meeting tonight I would probably look at you question why I hired you because did you just skip third grade grammar or something? Because that's just not how we talk to people here. But you're a religious zealot even if you don't realize it you must do with the church tells you to do and the church in your religion tell you to reject anything outside of what we tell you is right or wrong and so you reject your entire basic reality in order to reject what they're saying and you just make yourself look dumb. But that's par for the course for a brainwashed population of religious zealots

[@kedeglow2743]

My husband had an appointment at a new pain management clinic and while the nurse was getting vitals and checking boxes he asked my 60 year old husband what he identifies as. Without missing a beat my hubs replied, "Is my answer going to change what I'm billed for this?".

[@goodaman4851]

Ma'am, your husband is. Legend.. I am still laughing😂😂😂😂

[@erica6825]

I did some work for someone in another country, who added "she/her" to MY email signature. I told her I don't buy into all of this and don't want them there, and she told me that it's quite common practice where she lives. But the very fact that she chose my pronouns for me negates the very point she was trying to make. Needless to say, I declined to work with her any longer. I honestly can't deal with this nonsense!

[@tarotbylouise8323]

OMG, that is total hypocrisy. They just can not see it, with their agenda. I will never have that signature on my emails. It has to be mutual respect.

[@viperstriker4728]

I am glad you use the phrase "needless to say" when standing on your convictions. The fact you see that as the default shows great integrity.

[@bujharvard9313]

I would do as you did.

[@greendrummers]

yikes, what a peeve!!!

[@sablechicken]

In my area we had a Supervisor who started using "he/him" with his name. He did this not because he was trans, but because he was "virtue signaling". I called him out for it at the next Board of Supervisors meeting. I said he was putting "he/him" next to his name as if it was a form of transgender credentials. And than I went into the horrible details of medical genital mutilation, and how he is really promoting that when he uses "he/him" with his name. Shame on our so called leaders. Call them out every chance you can if they are promoting such evil.

[@mikehigbee2320]

If asked, my response is, "My pronouns are obvious, but feel free to use any you like because I would never presume to control your speech."

[@Chunda8]

I really like this one!!

[@redbud2370]

Best answer EVER!

[@davidborrink137]

Score!

[@Yo_Uncle_Phil]

Masterful.

[@TheFairy39]

That's a good one!

[@markdolan8866]

I always say "Oh I'm not a narcissist use whatever you feel comfortable with" ..... They never feel comfortable with that answer

[@hayleylongster4698]

Exactly. This is what I do. It gets across every single point you want to get across in one sentence.

[@PeterRichardsandYoureNot]

When they say “you were assigned male at birth” I always ask them “who assigned it?” ‘God?” That usually gets them to have brain melt down and you don’t need to go further.

[@nerys71]

I don't edit comments so I just deleted that comment but you should have a copy in your email I don't like censorship including self-censorship but I wanted to redo this message Yes God assigned you your gender at birth The reason that makes them quiet is because they realize that they can't help you out of your self delusion and you don't want help out of yourself delusion I mean 90% of the world is self-delusional and believes in a fairy tale sky god. This is partly because you don't understand where this comes from. Throughout most of human history at least once we started the form groups there are people who want to rule Kings emperors dictators presidents whatever They want to be rulers And that means they want to rule over people They want to control them manipulate them Make them do as they want basically you're their puppet. The problem is you're a puppet that has a mind which means you're capable of independent thought this makes it a little difficult to make you do what they want as their puppet you can only threaten people so much before you eventually run out of people then you have no puppets People are also more resistant to rulers who say do as I say. So we invented this interesting concept it's called religion and we fabricate this fairy tale sky god in the sky fiction and we declare you're not doing as I say You're doing as God says. This is why in many religions and many cultures the emperor is chosen by God so when you do what the emperor says you're doing what God says and people are more accepting of that it's easier to manipulate them To enforce this religion we created the church this helps to promulgate the religion and it's also an enforcement branch for those who resist and those who resist are murdered. So the reason they look at you like that is because they realize you can't be helped. You're not stumping or styming them they're just pitying you. And they're not telling you this because they know that that'll also make you angry.

[@lyndi9719]

When my son's employer required him to put his preferred pronouns in his email tagline, he put "Freedom and Liberty". His supervisor told him that that was unacceptable. My son said, Of course it's acceptable." And absolutely refuse to change it.

[@lindajohnson.]

Good for him!

[@timothywilliams2021]

Honestly I'd just find a different employer. Is it really worth working with people like that.

[@PHILF-pv9dy]

Well, if I was working at the same place as your son I know I can trust him with pronouns like that.

[@lyndi9719]

He did. He started his own business. He doesn't demand preferred pronouns from himself!😊 ​@@timothywilliams2021

[@anyviolet]

"You asked me for my preferences. Are you now stating that my preferences are 'unacceptable' ?" Let me just shoot that over to my lawyer..."

[@truthmerchant1]

I was filling in a form that asked me to tick my preferred pronouns. I ticked the box that said 'other' and stated 'I leave it up to others to use their common sense when referring to me in the third person. This approach has worked flawlessly for the past 59 years'.

[@StarkeyatRingo]

IN 59 YRS I'VE NEVER TICKED ANYTHING

[@susanbarackman-artist7670]

@@StarkeyatRingo i am pretty good at ticking off people

[@StarkeyatRingo]

@@susanbarackman-artist7670 In this world, you are my idol!

[@MacOne53]

👍👍👍.

[@Phill0old]

I am also 59, we are such a wise group

[@ferrellsl]

We're not required to live in anyone's mental illness or fantasy worlds. I truly don't care if that makes them angry or uncomfortable. It's not my job to be their surrogate therapist. Therapists get PAID to make you feel better about yourself. So it definitely isn't my responsibility to make anyone feel better at my expense. You don't get to bend or break the rules of reality just because your reality is broken. They need to deal with it.

[@keithhahn4882]

I applied for a job with a fairly well known company a few years ago, and when filling out my paperwork, I noticed all of these boxes that I had to check for my "pronouns", so I wrote "I am Iron Man", and returned it to the HR Department then politely told them they could go to Hell. I don't do woke and never will.

[@darrenbayman8988]

When asked my preferred pronouns I respond with “your majesty” or “Oh great one”. I’m usually told I’m being silly, to which I respond “well you started it”.

[@marviwilson1853]

I go by "Your omnipotence"

[@kkirsch3583]

👏👏👏👏👏💀👏👏👏👏👏

[@philcole7788]

I always say...Your Lord and Savior.

[@derekcable]

Quality 😂

[@richgustafson9613]

I prefer Your Holiness 😅

[@janem3378]

They asked me what I identified as. My response "I don't 'identify' I am an adult human female". Plain and simple.

[@dianablackman4528]

AMEN!

[@markputters9005]

I identify as a clown.

[@kungfumachinist]

I'm a liberal. I don't "identify" as a liberal, I simply "observe" that my values are largely consistent with liberals. That leaves me free to depart from the "official" liberal narrative when appropriate. Like with this gender nonsense.

[@Yesica1993]

Perfect!

[@redbaron07]

"What is a woman?" The gender identity stuff comes from feminist Judith Butler, who asserted that "all gender is performative", but this idea has now been extended to biological sex too. So a "girl" is instead referred to AFAB (Assigned Female at Birth") as opposed to just... _being_ female, since the doctor and midwife are "performing" the assignment based on visible characteristics (that are pretty clear in almost every case!). Don't ask how I know this - I am surrounded by performative wokery.

[@vonschleppin]

When I’m asked what are my preferred pronouns here’s my response; Monday, and the date is an odd number, I prefer Kalugala. If date is even I prefer Schelethalatta. Tuesdays & Wednesday, Eeka during the day but after 4pm CST it’s Bergusch. Thursday thru Friday, Hamalamma-dingdong except for September and October when I prefer Hamalamma-dongdang. Weekends, He/Him but if I’m wearing anything with blue in it, it’s jambalaya. If they begin to write all this down of course I become indignant and belligerent, “What. I’m not important enough for you to remember this. You don’t like me enough to know this by heart?”

[@timw7946]

😂 that is priceless!

[@jlynnd1616]

Lol awesome

[@paularosen9984]

Brilliant!

[@nerys71]

I would absolutely record and write all that down later I would bow your feet and say sire we are not worthy and then I would make sure as many people as possible had fun using your pronouns which none of which are pronouns on the schedule you dictated and we would keep doing it until you went crazy and whenever you said something I would bring up my chart and say nope this was as you defined it right day right time right situation no blue shirt it's the right one do you wish to change it? :-) You would either quit go insane or you would say just put heat him or Her she or whatever :-) and every now and then we would toss in a jambalaya just to remind you of how silly that time was

[@vonschleppin]

@@nerys71 ummmm…with it being Tuesday prior to 4pm CST it’s Eeka. Helloooooo! Since you have violated my preferred pronoun conditions you have lost your privilege to bow unto me. I cannot read your response fully until you adhere to the list. But fear not child, for I am kindly and patient. I will allow you to grovel until further notice.

[@It_is_Tyler]

We've been asked by HR to put our pronouns in email signatures and I've refused

[@patriceferguson7340]

You mean Mr. Ms. Mrs. Or Miss? Sir, Mam. so many other sex specific information isn’t enough? Notice that for Mr applies to men regardless of their status married or not but a lady has three tags to describe her being and status as Married or Single or under age? Why is that pertinent? Legal writ concerning women. There was a time that women especially unmarried women or divorced women could not have bank accounts, get loans or have a business license without a husband signing with them as they could not do on their own. Our entire society has lots of legal hang ups over sex and rights and privileges. This generation gender bending in a hopeless era of frustration lack of any meaningful social direction and archaic fossils still present in how we treat each other pretty much is why we have this problem at all.

[@WhiteTiger333]

@@patriceferguson7340 This gender ideology business is still about bringing women to heel. And, maddeningly, too many women just fall right into line, because some squalling, bullying male said to. It's a tough dynamic to break! As the saying goes - people who will believe a man who says he is a woman, but won't believe a woman who says hi isn't, means they know very well who is the man and who is the woman. Yep!

[@inconnu4961]

@@patriceferguson7340 its the same reason why you have clothes in your closet that definitely dont fit you any more! we cling to the past for many reasons. Few of them are logical, but still meaningful to us today!

[@patriceferguson7340]

@@inconnu4961 😜😜😜 ah! I don’t actually use a closet. The clothes I have fit me perfectly. Any that don’t get passed on to good will because I don’t plan on ever being plus sized again. One carry on suitcase can store everything I own. Not a fan of collecting stuff.

[@johnqpublic331]

I’d refuse too. Or make up something completely BS like: “Bing Bong / Wibblebottom”. I have a name that is never a girl name, with the way i spell it, so I don’t want to insult people by thinking they’re communicating with a woman potentially, by adding a He / Him for example. That’s kind of patronising in my view as it should be bloody obvious I’m a bloke.

[@russs7574]

A really good friend of mine just retired from being the HR Director at a mid-sized company....maybe 700-800 employees. She said that anytime she got an application or resume (whichever the position in question required) which made a point of including "preferred pronouns," it immediately went into the shredder. She also instituted a "two-interview" policy for all positions. Any prospective employee who insists on particular pronouns at the first interview doesn't get called for a second one. She, and a bunch of her colleagues in the HR business have learned from experience that people like this are not worth the trouble of having onboard. As for me, I'm still trying to figure out a way to include the F-word as one of my pronouns. I'm at an age now where I really don't care.

[@danieloneil2473]

I can help. If someone persists in asking for my pronouns after I decline to state them, then my pronouns suddenly become "F***/YOU". I encourage everyone to consider this option.

[@johncorlett3699]

it, F it !

[@lowandslow3939]

How about F you and F you’s guys.

[@jenniferdutton2469]

My pronouns are I/Me. Use them.

[@dannycarlow8204]

Maybe stay away from the fuk/fukself option.

[@littlehouseguy7782]

When asked about my preferred pronouns, I have tended just to say that it is a personal matter, and that I am not comfortable discussing the issue. Of course pluses and minuses with the reactions, but in the workplace, if I just repeat that I am not comfortable with being asked these personal questions, it flips people out because then HR could go after them if they ask me again!

[@wanorman2007]

I would say, "It should be self-evident."

[@grumpyoldsodinacellar3518]

When asked, I've always said "My Lord and Master, or Your Grace" their jaw drops as they walk away.

[@starspark9471]

😂

[@AsaTrenchard1865]

Mine is 'Your Excellency'.

[@donaldist7321]

in a German university there was a faculty meeting and the insane were demanding that everybody declares the preferred pronouns". Major discussion got underway. Then one economist said, "ok, you can have your preferred pronouns. Mine are Mein Führer and Mein Führer." End of debate.

[@rogerrice1772]

I prefer "Your illustrious magnificence"

[@donaldist7321]

wouldn't work in a German university, because the proper address for the president is Magnifizienz, and for the dean Spectabilis. @@rogerrice1772

[@GillmanStudio]

I once signed up to an online group for people with ADHD. It was supposedly a support group, I also have 2 children diagnosed so felt it may be a good resource and networking opportunity. I was asked for my pronouns as part of the introduction of myself (which had to be written in a message board) and I politely declined stating I used 'traditional' pronouns as a male. They gave me a warning, I held my ground, they then kicked me out of the group. I messaged them asking how was this 'supportive' and 'inclusive' to those who are neurodivergent, the called me a 'petulant child' and banned me forever. True story

[@mattk3649]

As someone with ADHD this is crazy but sadly not surprising to hear cause in the end these crazy people will just act like kids even when you prove them wrong or want to be yourself. I’d say you saw their true colors and that’s a blessing! You don’t need them as there will be others who will be nicer to you!

[@NannerPuddin144]

You're probably better off especially if you're looking for a group strictly for humans. That one may also include people who identify as kitty cats or ceiling fans.

[@margricks]

They are ALL HYPOCRITES.

[@el0kadur]

They are the real intolerant uninclusive ones

[@ifbfmto9338]

Trust me you did yourself a favor…… Leftists are in NO way supportive in ANY capacity: they dictate, and you either follow their beliefs blindly or you’re the enemy

[@suite225]

Life is already difficult for oneself. Now, I have to validate your existence. Confirm it for yourself.

[@Ian..]

I don’t recognise the term “cis gender” and will continually ask for clarification if questioned about this or my pronouns until the questioner gives up and goes away. I’ve found treating such people as though they have invented a nonsensical language has been very effective.

[@sharonthebarron]

YOU SHOULD TREAT ALL OF THEM LIKE A LEPER

[@user-bu2en3cl6s]

... because they HAVE invented a nonsensical language.

[@therealbahamut]

If someone has to ask my pronouns, I know everything I need to know about them. Pronouns are for reference, not preference. The whole "assigned male/female at birth" is even stranger because male and female aren't genders; they're sexes and they're not assigned; they're observed.

[@havenbastion]

It's impolite to call them chromosomes. Their preferred adjective is woke.

[@MiaLa16]

@@havenbastion😂

[@ourochroma]

@@havenbastion you're the GOAT

[@Robidu1973]

Anyone who is "identifying" as a particular gender should be checked for latent narcissism. I'm quite certain that you would score a lot of hits. This nonsense seems to be just a way to feel super spesuhl although the person applying it isn't at all.

[@havenbastion]

@@ourochroma Sorry. Can't help it. ;p

[@SgtPUSMC]

I think the better answer is "I'm not unstable or arrogant enough to demand that other people use particular pronouns when they speak about me."

[@michaellane1316]

Exactly. Word salads are like getting the numbing agent for the actual shot after the tooth has been pulled.

[@metamorphicorder]

No. Thats the trap, and its easy to fall in. If you use that tactic to try to confuse the issue, thet will if they are clever and its not hard to be this clever, they will intentionally misgender you and get you to by default state what your identity is. Or your understanding of it.

[@colinmatts]

So you're too arrogant or unstable to be courteous and respectful of how others want to be identified?

[@robertp5998]

@colinmatts ​ Listening to someone tell you, I want you to identify me a specific way defeats the point of identifying something. How I identify anything is exactly how identify it. If I see something that is blue, I say that it is blue. I'm not going to change how I identify things because you are color blind.

[@colinmatts]

@@robertp5998 So you just don't care about respecting people's choices?

[@bevo65]

Brilliant approach. Ask questions they’ll find very hard to answer. Your work is done. Civilly.

[@michellelaviolette574]

That’s what I say: “you can refer to me as whatever you want. It doesn’t change the fact I’m female” 🎤

[@nerys71]

I would look at you and say we do have refresher classes on basically English grammar female is typically a sex or gender not a pronoun would you like me to use her and she? The standard defaults?

[@hayleylongster4698]

​@@nerys71 😂 God, you people

[@nerys71]

​@@hayleylongster4698hey don't worry about my people we think your people taste good :-) but we'll control ourselves

[@lila2028]

I woke up today and realized that I identify as the Queen of England. My personal pronoun is "Your Majesty".

[@simoneavedian6832]

Lol love this 😂

[@marksalisbury5071]

I aim higher - I usually tell a questioner that I self-identify as Emperor of the Universe, my preferred pronouns are "His Galactic Majesty".

[@bissetttom1738]

GOOD MORNING YOUR MAJESTY.

[@MrGamman3yt]

What about your bosses title? I identify as vice president?

[@yarrik701]

Super kami guru

[@dustbowlhammer7119]

Thank you for saying, "It's against the structure of reality" pretty much sums up this decade!

[@colinmatts]

Transgender is part of the structure of reality. Where have you been all your life

[@andrewbagguley8289]

It does seem a bit weird hearing this from someone who has an imaginary friend. I suppose we all have our delusions...

[@Antient.Briton]

I'd say it sums up the millennium so far! 2000 was the last year of the 2nd millennium CE (the 2 gives it away) but the millions who can't count wanted it to be the first year of the 3rd millennium, and the minority had to put up with it.

[@mikeheckman4995]

As a nurse, I was taught that everything is to be evaluated by evidenced based research. The last 4-5 years have totally abolished that concept. I no longer am able to give specific answers to “sensitive” questions. I am even required to state my preferred gender each time I renew my license. I’m glad that I’m old. Good grief!

[@charliek359]

I told someone I don’t know what a noun is. Speechless 😂

[@ioio5993]

I just had some medical forms emailed to me for my doctor's appointment tomorrow. They asked for my preferred pronouns. I called the practice - that I have been going to for 30 years to tell them that they have just lost my wife and I as patients. We are not going that route and playing their game.

[@voxac30withstrat]

I was in hospital last week and also refused to play that game. My response was "For thousands of years the medical fraternity has recognised 2 genders only. It has also recognised mental illness. Why doesn't it do that now?" Of all disciplines that could stop this in its tracks by refusing to bend its the medical society.

[@sandramae1772]

Good luck finding a new hospital or doctor because they are all corrupt... The marxist agendas are taking hold.

[@colinmatts]

It isn't a game. Some people really are transgender. Get used to it

[@mkshffr4936]

Of all places a medical facility ought to be able to figure it out. If the can't I am not comfortable with them handling my medical needs.

[@aahyes9068]

Some people have dissociative disorder (multiple personalities). It would be a strange game, however, to superfluously ask everyone which of their identities they prefer to be addressed as, on the assumption that everyone has the same condition.

[@littlebluefish6606]

My job pushed before I retired. So my play along pronouns were “your majesty, her royal highness, and goddess divine.” Needless to say, they did not accept and publish them. They never asked me again and my signature block didn’t have pronouns.

[@MichaelKurse]

I do something similar. Look for my comment 😆😆😆😆

[@cibulancemudd9548]

Sublime

[@Yo_Uncle_Phil]

That's a win

[@AsaTrenchard1865]

Mine is 'Your Excellency' 👍

[@HansBaier]

I would fancy 'your excellency'

[@Haskaza22]

I respond by firmly saying my pronoun is "your Majesty"!!! If you want me to respect your delusion you also are required to respect mine. Puts it all into a reality based perception very quickly and decisively!! Intelligence wins over ignorance every time.

[@sjxt1556]

I always reply “I/Me/Myself/and sometimes We”

[@walterbrown8694]

I am a Marine Corps veteran and speak on this subject with some authority. Somewhere on Parris Island Marine Recruit Depot, is a Marine D.I. (Drill Instructor) "Welcoming" his new busload of recruits around "O - Dark Hundred" hours - "My name is Gunnery Sergeant xxxxxx, and my pronouns are SIR !"

[@cosmiccowboy7764]

Sgts are not Sir - sgts work for a living

[@JP2GiannaT]

Yep. His pronoun is YES, DRILL SARGENT!!

[@gordonsmith4039]

​@@cosmiccowboy7764 Hah, I thought exactly the same thing. Love it......

[@lizzaangelis3308]

I would have followed that statement by saying “it may be preceded by a “Yes” and occasionally a “no”.

[@debbievermilyea4037]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Indeed, it is! SIR

[@iconsworld9]

Hey, I was asked this question, "What's your preferred pronouns?" this morning in my school today, I feel like God sent me this vid prior to today and gave me the knowledge to answer back to the teacher in my homeroom who asked me and every student. So I responded saying, I don't have a preferred pronoun, I have a sex as a male. The teacher was processing for awhile and said so you have a preferred pronoun, and I said no I don't have a preferred pronoun, is not my preference is just my objective reality fact that I'm a male and automatically translate to he/him and not otherwise, because is not my preference.

[@ssjwes]

Thats great!

[@joyelmes7814]

Forewarned is forearmed, good saying.

[@frenzyviz6296]

Well said!

[@athrowawayperson9990]

well, since you don't prefer he/him, I suppose you should get used to hearing she/her! no preferences means all pronouns are allowed for you ❤

[@athrowawayperson9990]

it's okay to be cis, dude. you're allowed to be male and he/him. guess what? no one really cares! if they asked, it just means they wanted to offer you the respect of not assuming anything about you. if the question offends you, maybe you, like the guy in the video, need to do some inner reflection, rather than lashing out.

[@ko1187]

Facts I don’t refer to myself as she/her I’m Me, I, Myself, etc. (first person) She/Her is third person if I’m referring to myself it’s gonna be in first person not third person

[@surfrescue3232]

I say “mine change all the time … could you please read out the full list including updates so I can decide which I am today , thank you “.

[@rupertchappelle5303]

Best response - "I am not mentally ill. What made you think that I'm crazy?"

[@adrianhanz3649]

Gosh that is hilarious😂🎉😮😅😊

[@festushaggen2563]

Absolutely. Playing along legitimizes the falsehood. Reject it at every opportunity. There's men and women. Nothing else and they're not interchangeable.

[@T0Mmichael1234]

🎯 bang on the money brother 🙏❤️....

[@avishevin3353]

What falsehood?

[@dianablackman4528]

EXACTLY!

[@evage99]

@@avishevin3353 That there's infinite interchangeable genders. Why are you asking questions that are blatantly apparent in the video you clearly aren't watching?

[@avishevin1976]

@@evage99 I don't know what an interchangeable gender is, and I bet you don't either.

[@user-fz9ty4dn6m]

I went to a conference where I had to put my pronoun on my name tag. So, I put A**hole. That offended people. When they ask why, I gave them my thoughts about this pronoun stuff. After that, they called me an A**hole.

[@keepingitreal618]

Love it 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@SanchoPanza-wg5xf]

I've thought many times about how I would answer such a question. I figured I'd say, "Look at me. Figure the pronouns out out yourself." or "Just the normal male pronouns." Mr. Koukl has a superior tactical response. Thank you for sharing this!

[@sookibeulah9331]

“Whatever you want them to be. Whatever YOU think they are. I don’t care.” If the press the point I might say “if you think I’m a bloke…. well….okay….🥸” (NB I’m a slight, gamine, fairly feminine female - nobody sane could mistake me for a bloke)

[@user-xb7ds1so8f]

I am a college student and when asked to write what my preferred pronouns are, I leave it blank.

[@wealthprosper6251]

“If you paint a dog’s tail into a leg how many legs does the dog now have? The answer is still four. Just because you change its appearance doesn’t mean you’ve changed the reality.”

[@Midnight_Lantern]

Dogs are a poor subject for parable. Theyre vermin. God didnt create them

[@baconboyxy]

If a dog is born without one of its legs, how many legs does it have? The answer is still four. Just because you were born missing a leg doesn’t mean you’ve changed reality.

[@Mojo32]

​@@baconboyxywell no, that specific dog has three legs if it was born missing one of the four it naturally has. Dogs by nature, by design, have four legs.

[@baconboyxy]

@@Mojo32 Similarly, the specific people this video targets (trans people) were born with gender based characteristics that do not conform with their sex at birth. Humans, overall, are usually cisgender.

[@Mojo32]

@@baconboyxy To them, what doesn't "conform?" Their mentality of the matter? Because biologically humans are born "xx" or "xy." Correct?

[@orthohawk1026]

A rather promiscuous gentleman of my acquaintance once had to go to a sexual health clinic to get tested because he was having a certain type of problem with his plumbing........ anyway, the tech came in to do the swab and asked him, "OK, and what are your pronouns?". He replied with, "How about we wait till I take my pants off so you can do the swab, and then you can take a guess!"

[@christianestrada5362]

This is perhaps the best video I could've watched this year. I wish I'd seen it sooner

[@praevasc4299]

As someone who has English as a second language, I'm so mentally prepared for the opportunity when someone introduces herself as, for example, "Jessica she/her", to pretend I think "sheher" is her last name, and keep calling her "Miss Sheher" :) For bonus points, if she corrects me, like "no, that's not my name, those are my preferred pronouns, that's what I prefer to be addressed with", then I can still keep playing dumb, and ask, "oh, pronouns, like `you` and `me`? So when I address you, I should not use the pronoun `you`, so I should address you in third person? I mean, sorry, I should address sheher in third person?"

[@ourochroma]

eyyyy... don't mind if I borrow your tactics?

[@tommo9757]

That's awesome. I love it 😂

[@chikokishi7030]

As an english teacher, i approve.

[@dreadcthulhu5]

Hilarious.

[@symptomofsouls]

Me on my way to tell all the Puerto Ricans at my work to do ths

[@patrickvalentino600]

Matt Walsh once wondered why we can't also have our own adjectives. If you can pick your pronouns, he argued, then I can pick my adjectives and my adjectives are handsome and brilliant, and every time I am referred to you have to include those adjectives.

[@marknrobin1744]

hahaha!! good!

[@eowyneadig7879]

Yeah I’ve seen him say that a couple times, once on Dr Phil and another in a regular KZbin video.

[@ourochroma]

My adjectives are correct/always correct

[@alphabong-w3h]

Gee , you've got better adjectives than me. I've been going with blood-simple and homely but now I think I might upgrade to average and acceptable...

[@krullben]

Actually. You can pick your own adjectives. You can say "I am American", or "I am catholic". No problem there.

[@Gryphyn3]

When asked, I always say it's "Your Majesty. My King, or My Lord". Always stops them.

[@verticle2612]

What does it matter? I’m not wasting my energy trying to convince someone of something they do not want to believe or hear. You do you and I’ll do me means exactly that. So long as them doing them doesn’t interfere with me doing me I couldn’t care less.

[@KCBCollier]

I tend not to run in circles where pronouns get asked for, but I was playing a game once where the game master asked my character’s pronouns. My response was, “He’s male.” It confused the guy for a second. I could see him wrestling with whether or not to press me for the orthodox phrasing of “he/him.” He chose to let my answer stand instead of risking drama at the table. It felt like a win for common sense.

[@miconis123]

So instead of just answering the question honestly, you decided to be prickly. How is that a win for common sense?

[@robertp5998]

I like it. You stated a reality. And he can now address the reality in the language being used with what aligns with being male. As is done through out history.

[@miconis123]

@@robertp5998 Some cultures have historically recognized more than two genders and handled it just fine in their language. But we're of European descent so screw the savage heathens. Only our traditions count :)

[@hariszark7396]

@@miconis123 how was not his answer honest? He said his Character IS A MALE. That's more honest than anything else. So....COMMON SENSE.

[@miconis123]

@@hariszark7396 Male isn't A PRONOUN. That's COMMON KNOWLEDGE...isn't caps lock fun?

[@recyclingmom]

"What are your pronouns?" My response: "What a bizzare thing to ask a complete stranger." All the while looking at them like they are insanely bizzare.

[@KingBOOM1]

Thank you for showing us very wise and tactical ways of dealing with this woke culture!

[@jofromWI]

Love the “my authentic self says you’re a sinner” ❤

[@chetiversen1130]

I told my boss I was feeling attacked, because they weren't providing me with my 'preferred salary'. Surprisingly, the gender ideology wasn't applicable to my preferences..

[@miconis123]

If they don't give you your preferred salary, just quit. You can take your moral righteousness to the unemployment line. If you want to play the game of identifying as making 10x your current salary, let the IRS tax you at that preferred rate.

[@colinmatts]

You think salary and gender identity are the same thing?

[@mkshffr4936]

​​@@colinmattsNo. Salary is actually fluid.

[@colinmatts]

@@mkshffr4936 So is gender. But there's no biology supporting your salary choice.

[@mkshffr4936]

@@colinmatts No it is not. Ishtar is wrong on that point.

[@OsakaJoe01]

The answer to "State your pronouns" or "What ate your pronouns" is, and can only ever be "I, my, me, mine." Because it's true. A person can only ever use these pronouns to refer to one's self.

[@colinmatts]

It's about how you want others to refer to you

[@robertp5998]

Good take. I guess these are 1st person pronouns.

[@mkshffr4936]

​​@@colinmattsI prefer Mike since that is my name, and no I didn't choose it anymore than I chose the color of my eyes or level of melanin.

[@colinmatts]

@@mkshffr4936 But if you wanted to be called something other than Mike you could choose that, yes? And ask people to use your new name?

[@theharshtruth8563]

@@colinmatts My pronouns are "King" "Master" and "Daddy" If you don't respect my pronouns, then I won't respect yours.

[@jordangouveia1863]

I tell them I never thought about it.. Then I ask them what makes them think it's any of their business? By that time they don't want to talk to me anymore and that makes me happy!

[@Bobcat9]

An important rhetorical point I have been making for years now, I have no "preferred pronouns," I'm not proud of my sexuality either and I think it's silly that others are. Pride in the absence of humility is vanity, and I don't value that as social currency. I also like to have this question on deck when I'm faced with those dealing in gender delusion: "If genitals are no indication of gender, because it's all just made up by society, right? Then how does removing or mutilating them constitute an affirmation?" Also, "gender affirming care does NOT affirm one's gender, it affirms a delusion, demands the rest of us participate in it, and recommends amputation of healthy organs for no other reason than satisfying one's feelings/dysphoria."

[@aahyes9068]

@Bobcat9 If a trans man can idenify as a man, then can men identify as trans men?

[@Bobcat9]

@@aahyes9068 A trans man is not a man, because a man is one who is not trans. A trans man is still a woman, dressed like a man. Transgender is a fallacy, those people should be called transvestites instead. Being male or female is a developmental process that cannot be transitioned, and no amount of surgery or therapy or social affirmation can change, or transition the biological facts and nominal values of sexual dimorphism.

[@tina6651.]

Well said

[@patriceferguson7340]

@@aahyes9068 why? I mean the communication here is Transition. If you are already a male you are not not trying be something else? To transition would be for you to emulate something else.

[@mjt1517]

@@patriceferguson7340but who are you to impose that idea on a natural born man who wants identify as a trans man? You don’t have that right.

[@robertstanton1668]

My pronouns are me, myself and I. They are the pronouns I use to refer to myself. How you refer to me is neither my business nor my concern. The words you use are up to you, and the words I use in reference to myself or anyone else are up to me.

[@Space_Rebel]

Straight to the point. Thank you. For that, I have subscribed.

[@JoergB]

Set out perfectly. Thanks!

[@dhj1182]

When they state their preferred pronouns just say "Sure" or "ok" and then never use pronouns for them again at all. From that moment forward always use their name and only their name when referring to them "What does Charlene think about this? You will have to go ask Charlene that" or "I was talking to Charlene yesterday, and Charlene said that Charlene wants to go with the cheaper vendor". Easy as pie. If they notice and complain, don't deny it, just explain that you are both respecting their wish not to be 'mis-gendered' while at the same time being true to your own belief in biological gender. Cut off any attempt to argue further with "I'm sorry, but I don't want to have political discussions at work, please respect that" As for being asked your 'preferred pronouns', the one time an emailer at work asked that I just answered "Sorry, I don't participate in pronouns" and when she came back edgy and (expecting my resistance) asked me to respect hers I said "Sure Charlene, will do!" See above paragraph 😁 Politically, to force someone to speak what they don't believe is an obedience-humiliation ritual. You are showing them you are boss and they had better comply or else. That is why communists in Stalinist Russia and Maoist China insisted the starving and impoverished population publicly and frequently gather for meetings to loudly declare that life had never been better since the glorious Revolution and they were so happy to live in the workers paradise! To be forced to say what you know is a lie humiliates a person, it shows who has power and who doesn't.

[@ScoutGrey]

love your response!

[@christiecunningham9933]

Excellent, thank you.

[@Facetterdk]

It's a good solution. I am a teacher, and I do the same with my transgender students. Avoid pronouns and refer to them by name only. I care for them, and I do not want to hurt their feelings, but at the same time I do not buy into this ideology myself, unless we are talking about an actual idelogical sex change.

[@krullben]

Get off your horse. We "force" people to say something all the time. We correct others if they mispronounce our name, we inform them if we change our last name, or prefer another first name, if we rather not have them use our nickname in formal situations, or if they assign them the wrong nationality or religion. Or even when they tell you their name for the first time. Do you really expect them to use the name you are giving them, without proof? Yes, we do.

[@dhj1182]

@@krullben True, but beside the point. The pronoun gambit is clearly to get me to validate the idea that we choose our gender, which I reject.

[@marimmarMR]

Last time I got asked about my pronouns I told them, "I think you can see that I'm a man." It is important to no play along and voice that strongly for others to see that they are not alone. Just remember, they have no qualms of calling someone an old white man.

[@kimberlycarter369]

Perhaps it’s not as easy to see as you protest it to be?

[@kimberlycarter369]

Perhaps it’s not as easy to see as you protest it to be?

[@Runner8617]

I used to have a manager who I could very clearly see was a man, and used male pronouns....well, turns out that it was a female who went through the entire transitioning process to the point where even I could NOT tell that she used to be female😳. She even had a wife. I didn't know until the manager left that job to move to her home state. So it doesn't say much by saying "you can clearly see that I'm a man". I was deceived by going by what I SAW. And trust me, if you met this person, you would also be deceived. Some of them transition very well to where no one can tell.

[@Runner8617]

I have to say though, that was by far the best managers I've ever worked with/under. I was secretly sad when she/he quit to move away. 😔 Kindest human being I've ever met.

[@Runner8617]

The way I found out was by her legal name, which she hasn't changed, on the schedule list. For some reason God kept that info away from me until AFTER she quit, maybe because God knew I wouldn't want to comply with the male name that manager wanted to go by. For about 1-2 years, I didn't know the legal name and real gender of my manager.

[@stellabella6839]

Bless this man. But I hate to break it to you, this is logical reasoning. That cannot enter into a conversation with these people. Somewhere along there the “rrrrrrreeeeee!!!!!” Would have come out and you would be called all kinds of names and they would be walking away screaming victory and you would be slowly shaking your head in disbelief. That’s where we are.

[@BestAuntieEver]

I've added my adjectives in my email signature. Creative and smart, because those are actual ways to describe yourself.

[@hoi-polloi1863]

Nice, I've been considering adopting some adverbs.

[@rogermetzger7335]

My wife at been seeing a doctor several times over several months. Then, on one visit, the doctor asked some inappropriate questions. One of them was, "Do you identify as male or female?" I might have answered, "Yes." My wife, however, has a mind like a steel trap. She thinks of herself as a bit overweight so she answered, "I identify as translender."

[@singsonggirl9267]

Good for you and your wife. Both of your replies are hilarious!

[@rogermetzger7335]

@@singsonggirl9267 How about this? "Call me anyhthing you want. Just don't call me late to dinner."

[@doriangray6985]

What's translender?

[@rogermetzger7335]

@@doriangray6985 If a transmale is someone who was male until he "identified" as female and a transfemale is someone who was male until he "identified" as female, "translender" is someone who was overweight until she "identifed as slender. Why do you ask?

[@jimruby9657]

"In about 30 seconds I will identify as a former patient."

[@levigolden7775]

When asked this at a doctor's office I replied. "Mister and Sir." As my authentic self is polite.

[@BMerker]

Very good, elegant indeed! Here is another aspect of this confusion: in addition to asking those not in "their camp" to be hypocrites, they are asking them -- and themselves -- to violate the grammar of their language. Pronouns are grammatical devices that refer to persons, and persons are entities with two eyes, one nose and, as it happens (for biological reasons), one penis (if male) and one vagina (if female), the former being addressed as 'he', the latter as 'she', and should there be several persons in play, grammar graciously supplies us with 'they' to refer to them. To refer to a singular person as 'they" is a gross grammatical error. The parts of speech do not involve or refer to psychological matters such as sexual orientation or sexual identity any more than they are keyed to, say, tastes in food or anything else. If you are facing two eyes you use singular pronouns, if multiples of two eyes, you use plural pronouns, and any demand for some other usage misunderstands or willful misconstrues the nature of pronouns.

[@tx3851]

As a British male, of a “certain age”, I identify as a Ford Escort MK2 colour blue…..

[@DragonBiscuit]

Resist compliance whenever possible. This is a slippery slope and if we bend the knee, it will never end… Embrace objective reality and science.

[@davecasey4341]

@donk8105 No. He just chooses not to buy into their delusion.

[@jayclue8581]

​@donk8105...we wouldn't be having this conversation if realists cared more about the feelings of the delusional, than the delusional do. Your premise is highly flawed.

[@Ninjanimegamer]

If we bend a little, eventually we end up completely flattened. We do need to stand united, unfortunately, there are those that like to separate themselves out. In the past, these people were pushed out of society. Now, they are pushing back to be included. We've included so many of these half wits, that not only are we dumbing down our society, but we are pushing each person into a box. There are so many minority groups, like the trans and alphabet people that the segregation gaps are now so wide to distinctly cover each individual group. We are barely united and what once was the majority (biological men and women) has now become so marginalized that our opinions no longer count. We cannot go on like this for much longer without imploding. When societies get this far gone, there's war, and self destruction and the society falls. I'm just waiting for that, because that will force people to reunite and live just a bit better.

[@theminister1154]

I hire. *If you hire, **_immediately_** chuck any resume with pronouns.* It's very kind of them to warn us of potential work issues & lawsuits & potential for Dark Triad behavior. Do them the courtesy of listening. I also recommend checking social media first thing. Get a signed release, check it, and don't say a word. Just thank them & dismiss if you see these red flags.

[@SC-gp7kt]

100% I do this as well....I don't need drama or potential lawsuits in my department.

[@owenorders5202]

I dunno. Suppose these lunatics are very good at their job?

[@Kriegerdammerung]

So in short you are advicing for a witch hunt?

[@owenorders5202]

@@Kriegerdammerung What's wrong with witch hunts? The witches down my way are destroying my crops with their curses and 'skyclad' antics.

[@owenorders5202]

@@Kriegerdammerung It's not so much a witch 'hunt' as the witches declaring themselves in advance and saying "We're a bit dodgy and we're probably going to cause you trouble, so beware, keep an eye on us, we will steal your firstborn. Now, have we got the job?"

[@jeff_r517]

I was put in this position, & I agree that when you're asked your pronouns, to say "My preferred pronouns" before stating my actual sex does indeed play into their game. And I love how Greg says how we should ask them why we're being pushed to go against our own authentic selves.

[@just-dl]

My ready to go answer is “take your best guess…because that’s what I will do, too.”

[@kriskeel2753]

He's totally correct. I learned in my psychology class years ago to always fight on your turf not theirs. Get them on your playing field and you will win every time.

[@mumbles215]

Alwys chose the battlefield. - art of war.

[@nerys71]

You know what's weird You're 100% correct and you have no idea how bad and sociopathic that makes you you really don't understand I guess you can't You're stuck in your self-delusion your religious zealotry You're just doing what the church commands and has commanded for thousands of years you are complying with your brainwashing So I guess it kind of makes sense that you don't understand that your statement just shows you to be the evil sociopath that you are. A conqueror a subjugator an enslaver. That's literally what you just described and you're smiling at yourself thinking you did good? That just makes me sad.

[@BrendanMurrayJubana]

If your at work or on a meeting and they have people to state and their name and preferred pronouns I answer: Its important to have inclusivity and diversity but to truly have that you must have diversity of thought and I don’t participate in the pronoun game and thank you for being inclusive of my views .

[@miconis123]

Why do you think it's a game? Why not just state your name and your pronouns when asked and move on with the meeting?

[@robertp5998]

It is a game @miconis123. But it is you that believes it is a game. Because you are asking others to participate in a game that should not be played when in a serious world. When a kid says he is a ninja at 5 years old it's fine. When you say you are a ninja at 25 years old, maybe your views shouldn't be taken seriously. Stop trying to play games with people that don't want to play. @@miconis123

[@robertp5998]

I think I might play the game and say I identify as a Figure Using Characteristic Knowledge Enriching Reality.

[@BrendanMurrayJubana]

@@miconis123 99.9% of the time it’s obvious if someone is male or female. If someone wants to deny their sex or gender is up to them but I believe it’s wrong to make me affirm their perception.

[@miconis123]

@@BrendanMurrayJubana Male and female are sex not gender and they're not the ones denying their gender. That would be the loudmouths who insist on choosing for them. Pretty damn arrogant

[@saintmichael753]

Beautifully stated thank you

[@tankeriv]

Thank you! Just what I needed. 😊

[@DaveSterrett]

Greg makes a great point to put the ball back in their court. Ask a question, “Why are you asking me to be inauthentic to my own beliefs?”

[@JiraiyaSama86]

There's an additional benefit to the tactic. There will undoubtedly be some that won't cooperate. Those are the real snakes who don't care that they're asking you to be inauthentic.

[@Gek1177]

It's so pathetic that you think answering the question with the pronoun you honestly use for yourself is "inauthentic". You're basically the type of snowflake that melts over anything.

[@cnault3244]

Just like when someone is speaking to a crowd and says to bow our heads in prayer. Being an atheist, I ignore those instructions because I am not going to pretend to be something I am not.

[@commenter4563-xo2wt]

​@@cnault3244No one's forcing you to pray so nothing to complain about. Seems like you're just here to spite people instead of making a valid argument.

[@cnault3244]

@@commenter4563-xo2wt "No one's forcing you to pray" No one COULD force me to pray. The point is I am not going to bow my head and pretend to participate in their little ceremony, and if some of them notice I didn't and are offended, it is because they chose to take offense. "so nothing to complain about." Not participating in their ritual is NOT complaining about it. It's simply ignoring it.

[@Xterraforce]

I think if I'm ever asked what my preferred pronouns are I'll probably just walk away. No one I care to have a conversation with would ask that question. I've heard the argument "I was just being polite so I wouldn't offend you." I think it's offensive to assume someone you just met has a mental disorder or isn't smart enough to understand how gender works.

[@bujharvard9313]

I just say "Homey don't play dat."

[@LizzyMarieTina]

I like that you'd just walk away. I will too if I can. When I've been asked, it was with a list of other things so I just skipped over that part.

[@CompassIIDX]

It's a lie anyway. They weren't being polite, they were signaling their cancerous views. Walking away is the right play. Message received.

[@longtimelo]

@@bujharvard9313 I like this one.

[@user-hw8tt1cs7m]

It's very hard for those that really can't afford to lose their job or get kicked out of school

[@stuckerfam]

My preferred pronouns are His Majesty/Your Majesty. Thank you for respecting my authentic self.

[@jrgilby]

A line that sets the point, (and gets a laugh from people with a sense of humor). "I don't have pro nouns, I have amateur nouns" If they inquire more, "I'm not offended if you get it wrong."

[@skysurfer5cva]

I have said the same thing. My complete statement is sometimes: "Most of us only have amateur nouns. Some people have semi-pro nouns. Only a select few have pro nouns."

[@aahyes9068]

"I'm not offended if you get it wrong." I'll bet you're not even offended if they get it right. I bet you don't even pretend they got it wrong. "CIS" stands for "correctly identified sex"

[@MrStrikecentral]

Are you a pro-crastinator, then?

[@jrgilby]

@@MrStrikecentral STOP LABELING ME! Okay, LabelHater.

[@motofunk1]

They really hate when people say they have proverbs.

[@Macismad]

Nicely put! Ya know a very wise man once said: “When you have lost your language, you have lost everything.” We are living in a time where our language is being manipulated to fit “narratives”. Words are re-defined to fit these narratives. And all of a sudden you find yourself speaking on your core beliefs only to find that in the eyes of the narrative your are now WRONG!

[@davecasey4341]

It's called Newspeak. George Orwell wrote about it extensively.

[@segsb7085]

@donk8105 languages evolving naturally is not the same as this forced top-down approach through politics & academia

[@gtkona1608]

@donk8105 The liquidity has been based on reality, not the whimsical fantasy of ill individuals. Mandated speech is one of the hallmarks of tyranny.

[@ninaahwww]

Point in case: “The Emperor’s New Clothes” (children’s story) 1. Lies disguised as flattery. 2. The Emperor, accepting the flattery, begins to believe the lies. 3. A child states the truth - “The Emperor has NO clothes.” - which shatters the lie, stops the game, and makes everyone re-evaluate the situation. *** Don’t flatter them w/ their own lies. Playing their game only reinforces the lies they want to be told. Only speaking the Truth in love iwill set them free. Jesus said “I am the way, the truth, & the life. - John 14:6

[@mysticmom616]

Mine would be : my parents taught me some things are not to be discussed in polite society but if I must answer, a daughter of God and follower of Jesus. Or “Freaking Awesome”- your choice!