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[@ritagreenberg5236]

So super helpful. I started talking with someone 3 months ago. He was in California and we texted and talked often. He moved to the East coast - 20 minutes from me and i STILL have not met him. He stopped texting. No more wasted time.

[@egb6322]

He never moved. He was fake sis

[@eddiebm4701]

Dear Matthew, it's very simple. Before dating, we need to ask ourselves: are we ready to commit to someone else? Are we ready to share part of our time to meet someone? Are we ready to be fully present? People are just being selfish and lying to themselves and hurting people.

[@pamelawilson2553]

“Put them in the Bin!” 😂 The quick response was such a I’m not dealing with the nonsense vibe! It also made me laugh, thank you! It’s an art to the dance. I think you can genuinely tell when someone is dancing to a different tune with no shade.

[@HeartShapedRock]

Audrey appreciation post! “Put them in the bin.”

[@HumanityRisingNow]

I’ve had a few wonderful first dates or even multiple dates and then the men ghosted me. I agree 100% with what Matthew says: be present with what is. It’s hard not to get one’s hopes up after a wonderful first dates or a few positive initial dates. This says, I think we all need to develop a bit of a ‘thick skin’ and really not make these initial dates mean much. Their follow-up and consistency after a date (or lack thereof) is what we need to watch out for. As the saying goes: action speaks louder than words.

[@mickwightman]

Date one person exclusively for a short while and you'll know if it is going somewhere. If no, move on. It's hard to get to know that one person when you are balancing dates with many other options. How many dates does one need to have to know if a person is special?

[@littlesam4.931]

This helped alot, I made a mistake were I was talking and seeing 3 people, then came along a girl who I have known for a while randomly showed interested, we started flirting and slept together and if I'm honest on my part I fel quickly and stopped seeing/contacting the other 3, I basically put all my eggs in her basket, looking back she knew I was all in but after a few months I could tell she wasn't feeling the same. It ended, but now I'm getting back into seeing people but with the mindset of taking it slow and being patient. Love your content. I've started reading your book love life, it's amazing. Keep up the great work. you're helping so many people ❤

[@NaabiXx]

Same thing is happening to me right now. But it's onle been 2 weeks and she already is starting to pull away.

[@TheSeaRose]

Really a thought provoking episode. I appreciate the different scenarios and perspectives of various dating styles you mentioned one may have. Additionally, taking into account the investment, energy, presence, etc.. Its opened my eyes about my current dating style and not repeating mistakes I've made in the past of investing too early. Thank you guys, much appreciated.🙏😊

[@pikapoka17]

Minute 43 to 43.40 is GOLD! Hilarious but so precious. I sooo feel ya, Matt! I am in this exact stage of my life where I refuse to waste my breath, my LIFE on such people, situations etc. Feels so good to have this mindset spoken about out loud by you. Tnx!

[@GhaleyaCallender-d5n]

I agree with everything Matthew, Audrey and Stephen concluded here. This segment hit home 100%.

[@deemitchell9429]

Love this conversation about over investing in early dating. From my experience of dating in my late teens to early twenties I learned that you have to understand that everybody is just not going to be that into you and accept the fact that that’s okay. You don’t want everybody to want you because you just want one person. You might date someone and have a good great and they pull away that’s okay. Sometimes a person might be into you and you just don’t feel the same that’s okay. I think if everybody understand as mentioned in the video to stop taking everything so person and just enjoy the “MOMENT” people feelings will stop getting hurt. You like someone okay that’s fine I mean I look at it how many times have I liked someone in middle school and high school and they didn’t like me back did I cry? Did my heart shattered? I mean we just go on with our lives like everybody else who have experience the same thing. Just like friendships sometimes a person end up being a really great friend some people we think is our friend but didn’t have the same interest as us vice versa. I think people get too much into their heads and over analyze the situation and now this have this whole thing of did I do this did I do that instead of looking at it and saying hey he or she is just not into me and that’s okay. I think that’s what I like about being a kid or teenagers because we forget how simple we made things we become these adults and boom we worry about everything and overload or brains with nonsense. As teens and kids we just accept it and moved on. We got into trouble we accepted our punishment we learn to not do it or sometimes don’t learn and move on. We all want to be in a relationship some of us date with the intention’s of that and some of us just want to have fun and I think when we come to accept that dating will be much easier. But then again this is my own personal view thanks again for this video.

[@aprilwilcox5065]

This is probably one of the most informative video I've watched in a long time

[@1trueloveforever]

I wholeheartedly agree.

[@cynthiakoan9845]

I think a better (still imperfect) analogy than being a salesperson would be looking for a job. If my intention is to find a great job that is a worthy investment and commitment of my time and energy, and I have a couple of great interviews with a company that checks all my boxes, but they aren't getting back to me or making sure I know they are interested by keeping me in the loop on their hiring process and interest, I'm not going to stop reaching out to other companies, doing job interviews, or entertaining other offers. I'm looking until I'm not looking anymore, and that requires commitment.

[@LisaSmith-yb2uz]

I think you all said it in your own words and own ways; the sensible decisions we make within our dating experiences happen when everyone can be as authentically present with one another as possible at all times… which is why ultimately no healthy relationships can ever thrive without a strong foundation of trust ❤☺️

[@fam695]

What Stephen said in 23:35 guys this person is me, I have always been so selective about the people I meet because I feel like I never meet many people I care about in that way, and then the minute I meet someone I actually like, I overinvest. Not keeping in mind that the person may not feel the same way. When all this time I could have tried to see other people and expand my horizons

[@fam695]

Your videos always come in a timely manner. I was debating whether to invest or continue speaking to other people. This was the same mistake I made in my last relationship; I wasn't speaking or entertaining anyone for a year and a half. Homeboy kept flaking out but I couldn't see it until after I had wasted my time. I really hope that this video helps someone not to make the same as me. There is absolutely nothing wrong with speaking to other people when you're not exclusive.

[@Jojimochii]

I think texting has negatively impacted dating. Space and distance doesn’t exist anymore. I want snail mail and carrier pidgin notes.

[@ΣΠΥΡΙΔΩΝΓΡΗΓΟΡΙΟΥ]

Ofc it has. U have to go for the date to feel the chemistry. Writing gives to each person their definition of eachntext. But u cant see the vibe or the tone in a written text

[@lauraashley1]

I completely agree. I love this idea.

[@dbunnysport]

Really good to hear some different perspectives. This dating thing is hard!

[@oleksandraromanova4397]

So relevant to my current situation! Thank you Matthew, Audrey and Steven ❤ Give Steve more airtime please, he's so funny and grounded, and we see him so rarely

[@mike198383]

This video hits on a lot of good points and also few hard topics of "What to Do?". They key take aways I see in this is finding those who date with intention and are not out for just thrills or a free meal. Yes we cant expect someone to be committed after a first date but I think Audrey had a good point that if someone does care enough they wont wait days to text or respond to any forms of communication. Does not mean you need a long conversation but if anything a check in to see how their day went and eventually when could they meet again. The GHOSTING is out of control and people should just say hey I met someone that I really Clicked with and want to see where it goes or I am not feeling like this is a good fit and would not like to move things forward. That at least makes it easier to say oh I did nothing wrong and now time to move on.

[@lauraashley1]

Some people have just been trained (learned) to play hard to get so might not text not because they're not interested. Also, a lot of girls will wait for the guy to make the moves.

[@mike198383]

@@lauraashley1 The interesting thing with the "Hard To Get" game is that it was old mentality as now in modern times if a guy makes a move he is setup to be rejected. If they act like they are not interested how does it feel like they want a move to be made. So all the Downside is on the guy side to get shot down and gamble with no high chance of success. So why not just have both sides state how they feel or an obvious up front gesture from the other side to indicate the Field is open to make a play per say. Its these types of games that just make things more complicated for no reason. As Matthew says "Date with Intention" and show this is what i want in my partner and does that sound like something you want to be apart of.

[@SaveTheMessenger]

You’re absolutely right-honesty and clear communication would save everyone so much time and heartache.

[@mike198383]

@@SaveTheMessenger Some times i get the sense that if things make too much sense for people its too easy. So they have to play games to make some kind of challenge for themselves. This works if your in your 20's but above 30 and 40 its a waste of time.

[@stephaniej2235]

When I met my other half, I felt instantly on our first date that it was an amazing connection. He messaged me as soon as he got home and arranged another date with me. So I cancelled another date I had scheduled later in the week. Sometimes you just get a gut feeling and I think if the other person feels the same then its okay. But I wouldnt have cancelled my next date if he hadnt been making the effort x

[@morris2450]

I'm in exactly this type of situation currently. It is confusing and frankly does my head in. Knowing what you should and shouldn't do is so hard...conflicting emotions etc

[@CS-je2cc]

You know what would be a great app development is that you can send a live heart at the time you like an idea or comment and it records what people are resonating with most .. rather than relying on comments

[@mmsimpson333]

Yup. Such a fine balance of scrutinizing my intentions, actions and reality.

[@jonjonhyper8324]

I just broke free from a girl who decided to ghost me on text for a week and yes, called it all off before she did! Felt so much free and yes, we all deserve someone that puts in effort to ourselves!

[@affirmingasmr]

Matt, I just wanna say thank you. I’m a whole gay dude and I literally follow your advice and it works/brings perspective. Dating is really a Waltz and two step when needed haha

[@CS-je2cc]

I love that Stephen does the layman explanation in a couple of words to sum up .. ❤❤

[@Lilyalice95]

The texting someone every few weeks and not asking the person on a date or intending too is far too common these days. It's called breadcrumbing

[@tracylove7759]

Thank you, I needed to hear this at this moment, even though I new the answer 😊, just a big confirmation of my reality. Lots of love coming from France 🇫🇷

[@clairegroenink3362]

Thank you again for this great episode. I understand it's hard for some people to date multiple people at once, especially when you're getting in your 40's and you're not even getting dates that often... But the thing is: you don't even have to tell them that you are not dating other people but AT LEAST keep your dating profile active as long as you haven't had the 'exclusivity talk'. They will probably notice that. Aslo: women, PLEASE do your self and your mental health a favor and stop having sex with men before you had the exclusivity talk, it makes things so much less complicated! I just felt the need to say that.

[@nenaallisone4694]

Love his comparison about the recalculate GPS! I feel that's why my brain does. I canceled a second date and he said he was surprised. Our communication between was sparse and then I started realizing some of the stuff Matt said. The man was a good man but there were just some things that when our communication faded more of the incompatibility popped out for me

[@Joselitty]

This was such a fantastic discussion. Love this channel. 💯

[@barbara6840]

Please if I could find multiple people to date that I am attracted to, see potential and they pass my vetting process, I would gladly enjoy dating the numbers, but good humans are scare so only less than a handful a year make it through my dating gates.

[@SagittariusBabe87]

💯😌 Finding a healthy, kind human being is hard

[@ktkingster]

Exactly lol

[@helenmarie1082]

Came here to say this. There isn’t one person I want to date, let alone a few.🤣

[@jasmineisrael2243]

This is exactly my problem lol still single

[@mr.irrelevent8956]

I think it’s possible to only date one person at a time from the very beginning while still being open. As a guy rn, there’s only one woman I’m going on dates with, but there’s like 3-4 people who I run into regularly in my life that I’d consider asking out if I hadn’t met this person

[@decorpd]

I think that just as having a plan B distracts you from plan A, dating other people distracts you from the one person you should be focusing on.

[@rebelduck9077]

My test is: if I say yes to a dinner with someone else and all I’m doing is thinking about the other guy then I know right then that I don’t want to date other people. Period.

[@asahdo]

I have tried to date multiple people just to see how many guys I’d need to be dating at once so that any one point in time at least one person isn’t ignoring me 😂😢

[@beataateab]

🥲 what’s the number?

[@libelinhaa2079]

It's not worth it. All it takes is a real guy that actually wants to be with you

[@asahdo]

@@beataateab I’ll let you know when I get there 😮‍💨

[@byJEM]

@@asahdo😂😂😂

[@bhavikashah8221]

😂😂😂

[@Mali8029]

The way of dating described in this video is so alien to me. You meet a random stranger in an app that in no way is part of your life it is no wonder you must date multiple people and do all this and all that. The way I date is just by being active in my life. I meet people during training / workshops / courses / work etc. then invite them for something usually to more of the thing we met at (except work 😅) and build it from there. Spend some time together communicate openly and that is all. This weird meet someone you have no clue about and spend time and other things with them is such an inefficient and exhausting way of living your love life. My adviceis do NOT do it!

[@KarlosEPM]

Finally, someone coherent.

[@tyemccatty763]

Does being active and getting involved in a lot of thing make it easier to meet people to date ? I want to get more involved rather than using dating apps or social media

[@anastazjamalczyk7683]

Great and valuable conversation! And the part about Matthew Hussey giving air time to this person texting sb every couple of weeks- soo funny 😅

[@sineadlynch4111]

Matthew gives such amazing advice, most of which is just common sense!

[@cathywoo44]

Greatest topic yet!

[@mipili1]

I would really like a video of Stephen saying how to recalculate the GPS on people. That's the thing that is such a struggle. You know that you shouldn't invest any time and energy anymore into them and find them less interesting but to really feel it is another story and so difficult. Especially with texting this got so much harder because you always have the feeling that there is a person who is there for you, who listens to you and who is interested and then you notice that they never ask you to spend time with them in the actual world.

[@anamoisinho7628]

Dating multiple people just makes us confused.

[@bethandalaska]

Love this ❤ Thank you Audrey, Matt, Stephen 💕

[@Res0914jo]

Great format and episode 👏

[@BonnieKaufman]

Hey love life team! This is one of the best topics and so needed But I will say that I got a “good morning baby” text from a guy I was “seeing” (using the term loosely) For about 60 days Every morning- every night It was the most consistency Ive had in many years I got used to it, I liked it!!! One day while out I asked “so how many -good morning baby- texts do you send a day (I had a feeling) He said “why are u asking me that.. I have a few.. Im not a one woman man baby” If course I was DONE after that… but it was hard to go cold turkey on that consistent flirty banter all day every day! Men never seem to stop looking at the menu and Im constantly adding to …. Or upping my standards

[@fam695]

This has happened to me before, not exactly, but I started seeing this guy who I had a history with. In a few days, he was calling me babe, asking to see me all the time, calling a lot, and randomly saying, "I love you," which I thought was off, but I let it go. The moment I fell for him, guess what he did? He suddenly wasn't into me like he had led on in the beginning.

[@Callitout-kl1uq]

Men who care about the car they drive and the clothes they wear will do exactly that. Life is a game to them… and women are prizes. Don’t be their pawn.

[@CS-je2cc]

You haven’t mentioned love bombing and how hard it is to tell the difference and how that messes with our decision making regarding exclusivity ..

[@tyemccatty763]

This is the hard part. If one is being love bombed in a “sneaky way” it becomes incredibly hard to know how much energy should be invested

[@caiseem1987]

My problem is when I talk to multiple people I eventually get bored and bail on all of them because it’s totally pointless and I get exhausted having multiple men trying to sleep with me and me trying to just get to know them. Also if a dude doesn’t text me for days I stop talking to him and move on. My communication changes drastically.

[@adelewickerson]

Until you are exclusive and you are labelled a girlfriend, you have to just accept that everyone is "cheating" on each other until a decision is made of who you want to be with.

[@thevictoriapavon]

SUCH A GOOD VIDEO ❤

[@firehead2591]

Getting one person to go on a date with me is hard enough. But I totally get the reasoning behind having multiple options.

[@IndigoHazelnut]

Very insightful episode.. Thank you crew

[@guisellalosa7557]

When does early dating ends? which month?

[@cassandra8627]

Actually After the second Date everything is very clear. Espacially with persons from the internet.

[@BBurnett333]

I have much to learn. Blessings to you and yours.

[@jenliantzakis1132]

thank you

[@jessymonster]

Dating multiple people yes, having sex no.

[@ΣΠΥΡΙΔΩΝΓΡΗΓΟΡΙΟΥ]

Love ur attitude. Wish u well. Its rare today for a woman to think like that. Gtz

[@byJEM]

Why not sex? Once women break free of the learned cultural narratives we’ve been conditioned to believe, women can have multiple phenomenal sex experiences with different men without becoming attached. It does require safety and honesty about expectations… but within that context is actually very rewarding and should be talked about more openly

[@jessymonster]

@JoyMarie-j8u that's fucking GROSS. Let men used you like a free sex worker if you want but don't push that disgusting narrative on other women. We don't stop ourselves from sex with multiple men because "sOciEtY" it is because we have SELF respect. I suggest you do the same. And get therapy since you obviously have trauma.

[@jessymonster]

@JoyMarie-j8u absolutely disgusting attitude. Get help.

[@jessymonster]

@JoyMarie-j8u absolutely disgusting way of thinking. Get therapy. I don't sleep around because of culture or society, I have self respect, something you seem to lack.

[@mmsimpson333]

Feel like I was heard here. Thank you!

[@lauracamellini7999]

I just realized the fact that I had "stuff going on" was really upsetting for my latest very attractive and full of options date... Really I wasn't even thinking of betraying him, I just had problems to solve, he probably had intentions of betraying me if he got so upset if I didn't show up on Friday night

[@mariflorsalang3232]

Thaank you Mat😊

[@lori3664]

Best advice!

[@the5thhouse_]

This episode!! 🔥 💯

[@FoundLamb]

29:43 😂 WATCH MH do the side step dance. Being as, he might be is subconsciously describing himself in the past (a little😅) keep talking (Matthew et al) this is funny to watch having watched MH in his way back life.

[@hedychan23]

The most important thing I wanna know is have sex before a commitment relationship could work? Seems like every time I date a guy into a level and I think it’s okay to have sex with him but after sex it’s like he start shows his true self, stop investing in me and these happened in 4 months so yea, I call it off and dumped him after that but I feel extremely frustrated, should I stop more earlier or just don’t have sex with him until I see something comes out? Sometimes these confuse me ☹️

[@SagittariusBabe87]

Sometimes, they leave or ghost when you DON'T give em sex and it's still kinda early in the dating process. It's crazy.

[@makeupkoala]

So apparently men are working so hard the whole time to sleep with women, and then once they get the PRIZE, they kind of dial back the effort and be themselves. By prolonging the time you sleep with him, you give him the chance to really see you for the person you are and fall in love. Alternatively, you need to be ok with the kind of relationship where nobody is chasing anyone and two people just naturally get together. But if you want the other party to chase you, then yeah that chasing is definitely going to stop after sex. I also went through two of such men and I learnt my lesson, I'm going to prolong the shit out of that initial stage as long as I can.

[@ireefree2024]

As I'm married now and Matthew helped me. Let me explain my experience. If a man isn't emotional invested in you then yes he'll leave after sex. I know it's difficult to see who is really interested. To me it just happened once and he even let me met his family and friends. So it's difficult to know when they're really invested. My advice. Do it when you feel ready and don't sabotage yourself with changing your behavior afterwards. In the end only time can tell. My husband back then waited approx. a month until I was ready but doesn't mean it should be a time stamp. What my lesson was is that I felt only the spark with avoiding men who let me chase them after some time. So with my husband I don't know even why I changed my behavior. I was totally me and love it or hate it. It didn't had the urge to be the perfect girlfriend anymore and it worked for me. My favorite quote of Matthew. Attention doesn't mean intention. It changed my life for the better. Wish you all the best ❤

[@tallspicy]

You need to be willing to talk about what sex means to you. And watch their behavior after. If someone knows sex is part of a relationship for you… and they use you for sex, you dodged a huge bullet. But good people will hold off if they feel they don’t want the same thing.

[@KarlosEPM]

You answered your own question.

[@dainalopez2007]

Its ok to like one and or multiple people yet it does get difficult. Also, be yourself and honest put everything on the table by communication. I am busy person with school and work. Also, don't try get desperate because its very annoying. Plese don't be blowing up my phone yet its fine get the attention. Whats worst ? Try not to hurt their feelings. People just gotta learn to be alone and not be too precicous. I barely get used being alone and had met people. So I don't waiting by the phone. Time is available. Have you heard get up and move on. Don't beg and be desperate. Be patient. Is not wrong being confident and being forward towards one or more people same level attractions.

[@loverollcake]

why is this so damn accurate.. i thought i was crazy for having a hang out with a man and liking him mind u ive been single for 3 years

[@liv1738]

Matt can you please do more videos regarding long distance relationship?

[@sylvievachon1020]

But if it's not what they are looking for and you are looking for intention..then in the bin.

[@rebelduck9077]

I feel guilty “dating” someone else while in a relationship with another person…who lives 1300 miles away 😮I never thought about the fact that I may not be with the right person if we really don’t see each other but every 3 months 😂

[@HatBilly2008]

I went to Russia. I could easily date 2-3 girls a day. Not bedroom stuff. Parks museums, coffee shops, just meeting and talking. If you are touching, kissing and sex, no Just meaning them. I call it dates scanning . Nothing wrong with that, but dating 3 girls the same girls for 3 weeks yes.

[@Callitout-kl1uq]

I’ll take stuff that didn’t happen for $500, Alex

[@joshuaserrato3495]

When is your next live show? I really need help with a situation

[@AH-pk5gi]

I’d been putting Matthew AI on while showering for morning chats. It helps me pinpoint what to journal about each day. I miss it so it’s prob time for me to pay lol

[@soma-xj2gq]

The prospectus of the new life is ?

[@MusicPlayActivities]

You are wonderful, since the 29th minute you accurately described my romantic life at this moment. I will give myself two slaps and wake up 😅!! Thank You ❤!

[@kyleluraas7192]

35:09 I think he’s trying to say we have to stop attaching our value to someone else’s ability to respond. Their lack of communication just demonstrates as an inability to communicate you have to decide if it’s within your capacity to tolerate it and allow it in your life or to walk out the door and say later gater. What some don’t appear to understand the issues lie with them and shows poor displays of their character not the other way around. I just started telling people when I reach that point hey it didn’t work out it’s cool have a good one and see you around. If they respond dumbfounded I don’t really need to explain it’s not my job to give reasoning for their inactions or lack of ability to effectively communicate. Excuses are really really great for the one that’s making them. I understand life happens yea it’s happening to all of us everyday. People make time for what they view as important. Hope it helps. 🤪

[@btwthblood]

Is it okay for a man to compliment other women in front of his mate? My boyfriend is va very friendly DM and does this often. It embarrasses me. I told him that he got offended and said he does it because he likes to be kind.

[@KarlosEPM]

It could be cultural. I'm latin american and it is expected that you do this (in a friendly and respectful way). Not all cultures are the same.

[@btwthblood]

@@KarlosEPM Thank you for sharing. I thought about this. I can see that, but he's not Latin. I'm Italian, and we are pretty much the same, but I'm just not cool with how he does it.

[@angelnoyy]

@@btwthbloodit’s disrespectful then and if he doesn’t want to change it you may have to reopen your dating pool

[@nydutch1612]

It's weird. It's not a matter of being kind. Kind?😂 For some reason he has a need, desire to complement other women. It's inappropriate. It's one thing to tell a waitress that the service was good, but telling her that he likes the way her hair is styled or, " nice perfume," is weird. What man does that? Does he have a desperate need for women to like him? I bet you don't say those types of things to men.

[@btwthblood]

@@nydutch1612 No I don’t! Thank you for affirming what I suspected

[@Hannah-v1y4s]

Have a arranged marriage ! Sign a package deal 😂😂half of world still believe and go that way !

[@LJ-be2xt]

Why has sex become part of dating?

[@GhaleyaCallender-d5n]

Polyamory

[@angelnoyy]

Agreed. That’s for marriage

[@re4918]

There’s a real power imbalance with this. Women have it so easy to take up multiple men, but for men, it is not so easy and takes a lot of effort. Having multiple men is also very hurtful to men who did put in that effort, especially if the woman hasn’t been honest about her list of men from the very beginning. And I mean the VERY beginning.

[@ΣΠΥΡΙΔΩΝΓΡΗΓΟΡΙΟΥ]

Last 2 months dated 10 women. Some of them s3emd not sure. Some started something and 1 or two dates after went distant. While there were three more dates intalked with an old collegue 22 years ago. We arranged beer date after three days. Even before i got tocthe date she started sending me messages all day long. In the end it was sure we both wanted a lot to see each other. We met, she was anxious if i d like her still. I just huged her. We kissed on cheaks and immediatly with mouth. It was all so smooth and simple. The other two dates just vanished from my mind. Its the fourth day and all is goin smoothly and great. U can differentiate easily an easy date from a not so well date

[@ShahlaKhanOfficial]

Simple rule: unless there’s a ring 💍 I can see, I’m no more exclusive. I’m not a promiscuous person so NONE is getting that close. But giving you my belief is going to take lot more and unless I see that commitment, by default I’m going to assume they are all time wasters.

[@chiaraA.]

wise, the ratio of time wasters to intentional is 50:1

[@jrichardson805]

So in response you're wasting all of these multiple people's time?

[@tallspicy]

People need to remember you are single until you explicitly discuss it. And for me, sex does not happen until we are not dating others in any way… we are focused with intention on each other. That is why if you want a relationship, you need to tell the person early and often what you are looking for to make sure you are aligned. Now, this does not mean vomiting it on someone on the first date… but by date 3 or so. Every boyfriend I have ever had locked it down in about 4-6 weeks. I think you can give it up to 12 weeks, but a man who has not committed by then. Most likely won’t.

[@wandasexton643]

How about people stop using emotions early on in dating disconnected and just use realistic and logical thinking. That will alleviate a lot of issues

[@SagittariusBabe87]

💯💯 I do think the endorphins, love-bombing, feelings all can really cloud our judgement in the process. It's go to go slow 🦥 Get to truly know the person & intentions.

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

What does that look and sound like? Why do you stop using emotions? People aren't robots.

[@zonnebloemsummer6435]

He pulled away since I told him that I miss him 😢

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

How long were you seeing him before he said this?

[@chiaraA.]

move on..... anyone interested at all wouldn't pull away

[@FoundLamb]

24:11 “JUST NOT BEING EXPOSED TO ENOUGH OPTIONS?!? 😂” try being over saturated with the non options. Ffs. ALSO. Remember your audience consists of +50 Caveat the blanket statements.

[@airplanetowardsthesky3265]

I'm struggling with being the person who will just text when I feel like it. I'm not so terrible that I don't ask to go on dates or only text once every two weeks. I just get busy in life with work and sometimes am too tired to want to go on a date more than once a week. I also struggle with forming a connecting with the men I go on dates with. For me they are just a stranger that I might have had a nice chat with a few times. Texting I find to be pretty boring overall. Just how you been sort of stuff. I don't know what to do different to become more interested in somebody that I don't know.

[@kadenreed8603]

I’m not an expert but I feel like I had that experience until recently I met someone I naturally clicked with. I think it’s a lot easier to want to spend time with someone when you actually enjoy the time with them instead of just finding it to be “ok”/ mildly enjoyable.

[@LindaRS-o1s]

Dating sounds so complicated and confusing I'll stick with being single!

[@egyptianqueen4007]

This came at the perfect time

[@FILMCREWProductions1]

People go on multiple dates with multiple people? Haha I get about one a year 😅

[@LJ-be2xt]

If you're not kissing etc you can date as many as you want especially if you're not looking to marry yet.

[@ejm922]

having sex with someone changes everything, so... just see many people and only have sex with the person you feel most cinected with- easy!!!!

[@PoshemediaAfrica]

I was doing just that with a guy I was speaking to about 3 times a week and had been out with him once. It wasn’t enough for him and kept complaining that am not invested enough feelings wise. I stopped apologizing and moved on

[@byJEM]

Matthew I know you think the six movies playing all at the same time is a great analogy… but have you met women?? We are skilled “professional” multitaskers 😅 we are so skilled we can even parent, raise and equally love more than one child at a time… we can also intentionally date and connect with more than one man at a time!! Easy peasy

[@morris2450]

I try to multi task (date) and can do it to a point...but of course I'm a guy...lol. I do prefer to concentrate on someone I like tho and who is equally into me.

[@NicoleFlodin-o6e]

MatthewHussey is now wasting his breath on this person 🤣🤣🤣

[@Salsero12]

Why would you have to explain something if you are just dating?

[@RMelo263]

Watch the video again. If you can't answer, watch again. Then again, until you find the answer 🙂