How Do You Know if You Made the Right Decision? | 3 Filter-Questions

[@shahid7635]

I am somebody who feared change. To an extend that when it was inevitable to change I got depressed! I was looking for certainty and fearing failure. Then I read Who moved my cheese! It changed every thing. After I made that decision there was uncertainty and i did fail. But it all worked out in the end. I did get what I cherished. And am happy that I made that decision.15 years later I am making yet another big change to my career! This time it is voluntary and not inevitable. I re-read who moved my cheese and your video made me confident again.

[@carladossantos1142]

@@shahid7635 wow, thank you for these words. They really helped me! And so did your book suggestion! I hope you are in an amazing place today! :)

[@hawrabadri3115]

Today I taken a decision which make me uncertainty ..but watching your video, I understand that I taken a right decision...thank you so much... God bless you

[@bethlehemhailu4302]

"...except having children or skydiving without a parachute." Loved that.😂

[@relizabethrussell]

I found this and I'm so grateful! I struggle with decisions, even minor ones. I'm trying now to decide on a direction and this gives me some much needed guidance 🙏 many Blessings

[@rameshadhikari3285]

I really used to worry about the decisions I made, whether they were right or not. Now I can be more confident about them. Thank you a lot.

[@tunchunairarko]

This video made me realize that one of the biggest decisions I've made in my life was actually right. I've been constantly overthinking about that, which was making me miserable. I think now I will think less about that.

[@ruheanabegum9554]

Shade at her best, once again! So articulate, eloquent and always spot on !

[@tinachaudhary6585]

But she speaks very fast.atleast thats wat i feel.

[@LetsBeHuman]

I came across your videos in 2021. I don't why I feel soo positive after watching your videos. I decided to watch all your videos during my winter break, but couldn't. Starting it now. Video no: 1 done. THis is very helpful filter. Thanks.

[@maggiesun5423]

This totally comes at a right time! It soothed me to believe that this less travelled path, wherever it leads to, will be worth the journey! Thank you Shade!

[@ShadeZahrai]

Hi Maggie! I’m so happy it was timely for you! And that’s exactly right - it’s all about how you learn & grow from the experience 👌🧡

[@unknown-is9lm]

Your voice is so calming 💕.

[@RAKESH084]

Hi, thanks for sharing life saving techniques. My practice was, 'assuming' I have taken the decision and see if my mind is nervous or calm, the calm decision is the right decision.

[@priyaranjan1970]

I have been running after doing a Data Sciences course, (a largely ego-driven decision) but your video opened my eyes...looking forward to becoming a successful KZbinr one day - I know it won't be easy, but CAN be just as rewarding as a full-time job with Google, with foresight, imagination, and perseverance. I confide in you that I watch a lot of educational and musical videos on KZbin. 😃 😊

[@PeterCianci]

Do my gifts/talents and desires align with this decision? Shade, I love how you put these subject matters into much better perspectives! Thank you!

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thanks Peter for the kind words! I'm happy you appreciated the topic and video 😊🙏

[@roohulaminkhan5437]

Am gonna start a new job. Just in time when I needed it the most... The scientific and psychological angle you provide, it is so simple that we can relate to them and even verify them with our past experiences. This makes your advices super trustworthy.... just love them all :)

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thank you and best of luck Roohul!

[@Agarcha23]

Came across your motivational videos two days back ..addicted to these now ..thank you ..these are very helpful

[@nazifa.d2117]

'Ego driven' that was how I did something that didn't excite me at all... I just hope I can find something more exciting to do I usually pick what to do by how excited I feel when I think about it...and how much I think about

[@ShadeZahrai]

Love this - it's about tapping into your intuition! 😊👌

[@Musiq4all]

I believe change is always good if it comes in my way! It refreshes me from within, keeps in look forward for the next moment to happen and cherish the moments where I can share the effect of change with others!

[@nu.choices]

Wow, just what I needed at exactly the right time. Thank you for this positive outlook 🥰

[@ShadeZahrai]

Happy to hear that it resonated! 😊🙏

[@nu.choices]

​@@ShadeZahrai ♡

[@abbasfakhruddin866]

This video helped me make a major decision, and made me believe I'm making the right one, Thank you...

[@jon53012547]

I've heard once "The best decision it's do the things whatever that may be, it's better than don't do anything" but maybe it depends on the experience the expertise ... A lot of factors to take to considering... thanks for your video

[@ShadeZahrai]

I've heard something similar - "The wrong decision is better than indecision..." To your point, it always helps to work through some basic criteria to make sure it's aligned with your values and 'makes sense' in the long term. Thanks for the comment Jon! 😊🙏

[@monicachavez9091]

Love all this knowledge! Thanks so much for sharing. Please translated your videos to Spanish, I’d love to share it with my family and friends 🙏

[@ktrades2898]

Amazing advice. More importantly, I am constantly amazed how you are so happy, positive and radiant. I am so curious to know what your morning routine looks like.

[@edigweoghenero3510]

Thank you again 😂I watched it for the second time and I’m still grateful ❤

[@aristides.almeida]

Thanks Shade for sharing. I passed through this earlier this year. Huge career change. In the middle of the pandemic. The third question was decisive to take the change... And I'm still very excited with it...

[@ShadeZahrai]

That's great to hear Aristides! Congratulations on the career change! Very happy to hear you're still excited about it... the sight of the right path for you 🙂

[@aristides.almeida]

@@ShadeZahrai Regards from Brazil 😉

[@sarvanakumar5985]

You are my management guru... really impressed. Made others too follow ur videos

[@vikramsrivastava2730]

Thanks, very insightful👏 recently I realized that the best decision will give u the sense of freedom and no bondage (activating ur heart, mind and soul)

[@ShadeZahrai]

Well said! 👌

[@AksharRamsundra]

You are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen with the most beautiful advice I've ever heard.

[@nikkusingh813]

Jo socho oosi topic pe video banate ho aap ,thanku

[@ehsanghorbankhani9382]

God bless you, this is what I really needed it. Tomorrow is my first day at work as an intern, and I was so anxious and sad because I was dwelling with tons of thoughts whether if this was a wise choice or not. This gonna be a huge challenge for me as this is somehow new area for me and the task by itself is so demanding.

[@46vighnesh]

Your channel came as a Hidden Gem 💎 in KZbin shorts!! Thankyou for Video!!

[@ShadeZahrai]

Welcome!

[@KJO13]

Wow this is the best video from your channel I have watched. Maybe I’m in that situation to take the next step in life. 👌👌👌thank you.

[@Teachingbydanishsir]

Exactly I was looking for. Thank you so much ma'am.

[@evnsriram]

I'm just going thru something which made me question my decision and here is your video helping me with the tips! KZbin probably read my mind! Thanks for the tips!

[@somayehkhatibi2060]

Best decision making tool, thanks million

[@reirey0106]

Thank you for the great insight Ma'am Shade 😇🥰

[@hewadkhan107]

The whole world should know about you . you are life savior !

[@motupatl]

ماشاءاللہ جزاك اللهُ‎Allah bless u with all the happiness in the world.

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thank you. God bless you too. 🙏🏽

[@devarena9130]

This video just touched my heart. And without knowing i actually ended up following exact same 3 steps that you mentioned. Last year i got fired from an IT QA software enginner position after which i sat at home developing my software development skills in to Web and App development area of expertise just because my heart is totally in to it and i ever wanted to persue this skills from long time but never got chance and time to develop these skills. Now after mastering this skill for 1.5 year i am starting my own online development teaching platform and may start applying for job next year. But i feel more confident and worthy of my decision and i feel getting fired was the best thing that cound have happened in my life. I have been watching your channel from recent 3 months and i cant tell you how much valuable your content is to me for dealing day to day challanges at work being a software enginner. Please do let me know if you have some online workshops running which we can attend as i am from India. Really thanks a lot for all your valuable efforts.Your skills, knowledge, wisdom and efforts are extra-ordinary. :)

[@ShadeZahrai]

This is such a beautiful comment! Thank you for sharing this with me! I’m so happy for you, that after 1.5 years of mastering these new skills you’re now ready to start your own online development teaching platform - that’s fantastic! And that you’ll be applying for relevant jobs... I’m so happy you’re feeling more confident - you’ve absolutely stepped-up and taken back control of your life and career. 💪 I’m so happy that you enjoy the content we share here! We don’t have any public webinars or workshops at this point, but hopefully soon! Thank you again for taking the time to write this lovely comment, and wishing you all the best with the next steps in your career! 🙏🙂

[@devarena9130]

@@ShadeZahrai You are welcome and Thanks again for putting up such useful content on your channel.. In case you start webinars or workshops in future please post info / schedule on channel about that .

[@gargipravinkubde6795]

Thank you, I found this helpful in choosing a course for my masters and I will try my best to make it right

[@varshayadav5621]

Need of the hour! Tysm ma'am 🙏

[@growwithradhika778]

God bless you Angel, your outer beauty is truly a reflection of how beautiful you are from the inside ❤️ Keep inspiring us, it's such a delight to watch you

[@jagrutshah7518]

You have strengthen my way of thinking about goal setting with these three questions you have quoted as i am working on Year Planning chart to assess my past experience with current scenario for better and progressive future.

[@ShadeZahrai]

I’m so happy to hear that! Your Year Planning chart sounds great. I just released a new video today about planning for 2021 - hope you enjoy it!

[@jeetuchauhan1032]

I want to be a fluent public speaker like you. I like the way you articulate yourself and explain everything. Please give me some tips on how to become like you.

[@deo4245]

Very Simple & effective.....I am big fan of the way you talk. Aspire to learn the confident way

[@tinachaudhary6585]

I think one shd weigh all the pros & cons if we hv to make a choice between 2 or more options. And so many decisions cannot be reversed.smtimes we r taking a risk. All said & done,i wd prefer to pray and discuss the advantages & disadvantages of taking a decision wd the experts who know their job & then take a calculsted risk.& u know wat,smtimes we do not hv a choice.Smtimes sm things hv to be done just cz the other choice is not safe enough in any/various ways. She speaks so fluently & is very impressive both looks wise and regarding her ability of being a good orator. But Shade,pls speak at a lill slower pace. I wish all of us women were like her,.....good looking & impressive regarding speaking skills & understanding life & ppl in a logical manner.💜

[@ShakehandwithLife]

I am challenging myself to come out of my shell and comfort zone. Rid out of my past regrets. Thanks for making this video.

[@Anshul-zw9nq]

I am so dumb in making decisions. I always end up making bad one

[@ShakehandwithLife]

@@Anshul-zw9nq decisions are decisions they are not good or bad, you need to keep improving

[@TheMrinalJana]

You are utterly Awesome Dear Shade . be beautiful always with your simple attitude and simple explanation of Deep Knowledge . Great Respect for you Dear

[@lifecoachroufdar]

phenomenal ❤Shade Zahrai

[@Littletime839]

This appeared in my feed at a time I really needed it

[@baljitsingh8757]

Thanks for thanks shade for positive inspiration 🎉

[@muhammadtufaildhudhaal1552]

I wish I had watched Shade's this video twenty years back to avert my life long repentences. Exceptional ideas, and marvelously convincing.

[@RussianBritish]

Shadé, Finding your channel was already a life changing experience for me. So many wise thoughts. Hope to hear you on stage one day. Keep going, thought thoughts change life's!

[@a.w.5684]

One more question that I would suggest to add here (or to add under any of your questions as a sub-question) is: "Is my decision driven by others or forced by someone?" This question is relatable in sense of relations, or also in job. Some negative people are so manipulative and scrupulous that they convince us its what we want to do, while actually its been forced or say, emotionally blackmailed (in relationship). Yet it can be also forced upon with help of fear of any person or any future-event. The trick is to make decision-maker think all the time its his or her decision without him or her knowing they have been tactfully influenced, manipulated and lastly, made believe by someone... The manipulator could be a friend, a lover, a family-person, a collegue, a senior or boss, etc. Add this question if you feel this question must be included and is worth asking to one's self. I question this to myself often. When i noticed I found that in my surroundings, many decisions are taken by people under someone's influence/emotional blackmail or out of someone's fear.

[@TRWhite474747]

She addressed that in the video

[@jigs2004]

I always look forward for your videos..there's always something interesting n new to know..I make sure that I don't miss out on any of them..agree, ego satisfaction should not be the only reason to make a decision..I think ppl grow over the time n realise things from their experience,but videos like these help in preventing huge errors..

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thanks for the kind words! I'm glad that you're enjoying what we share on the channel. You're so right there - things always appear much clearer in hindsight... and little reminders can always help in the moment. 👌

[@SurajThapar]

Yep. Thanks for always reminding us!

[@dhannamangroo3865]

Thanks for your insight very informative 🤔

[@connorjones9275]

yup definitely needed this right now

[@thecharacters4291]

Motivating and seems practical

[@thehealingsaga3750]

This video helped in finding my vision . Thank you !

[@DJTripleY]

Found "the Padgett Messages". Started following the Divine Love path. Best decision of my life.

[@imranam1602]

Thank you Shade Zahrai!

[@jinkycastor9115]

Glad I found this video, I just accepted the role and I know I made the right decision. Thanks for sharing this ❤

[@edigweoghenero3510]

Thank you so much. I appreciate you, you just gave me clarity. God bless you Love❤

[@Moneyandfood]

We will always be faced with that question. I set up my business but borrowed thinking my pension fund in my Life insurance policy will cover my debt when it comes due. The insurance company was sold so now I am trying to run after the new owners. But good vid though!

[@royalhighness6263]

Thank you so much for this video. Really help me............😇

[@MrCednumber1]

Definitely can relate, and beyond the examples you gave. I'm commenting at the 27 second mark!

[@MrCednumber1]

SHARED!!

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thanks for the support Cedric! Happy to hear you found it relevant 😊🙏

[@anthonykingsley9898]

Thank you so much for your videos. I really needed this. I’m dealing with a huge life decision now. I have been focused on the what if’s and become negative about the decision. These questions help a lot :)

[@ShadeZahrai]

I'm really glad that this was of some help Anthony. Sometimes we just need something to nudge us out of our narrowed thoughts. Wishing the very best with this major decision. 🙏🏽

[@rhondacalvert5865]

This helped me do so much!! Thank you!

[@yashaswinil7485]

Wow, your English is so good, I request you to make separate Playlist for English speaking

[@v.samuel1978]

I thank you for the wonderful video. You have given a message that good thinking is essential for a good decision making. I like your videos . It's because of your optimism and pragmatism in dealing with aspects in one's life.

[@sahilgangwar3687]

A big thank you ! Keep sharing your wisdom... In love with your channel !

[@ShadeZahrai]

You're most welcome!

[@ayoubkharoub3893]

A great job 👍 Thank you ❤️

[@remusgherman4602]

It's your decision and is always the right choice because it's yours..even if it is wrong or good.. You will see later if you're decision was good or bad... This will make you learn and having more experience next time...

[@shabbirchowdhury6142]

Shade you & your team are too good. You all bring tremendous value to our mindset, our insight, our skill set and the quality of our work. Your content is absolutely brilliant, the pleasant tonal quality , your relevant content, the set & lighting the video making, editing and titles, etc. Top grade content and a sure winner

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thank from both my husband and I for your kind words and encouragement. We're glad that you're getting value from them. 🙏🏽😊

[@shabbirchowdhury6142]

May God bless both of you with raving success & abundance of everything that you need in life from my family & I.

[@aneerasadiq71]

This was just so helpful. This came.just in time. I was actually struggling to reverse my move to another state.

[@malihausmani5945]

Thanks for sharing this amazing video. You are doing such a great job.

[@Mr_V_Orator]

Thank u for u helping us and Grow urself as much u can 🙂🔆

[@ahmedjamalhumakani]

Heck yes! this was really helpful.

[@Mr.WasiHaider]

Wow! Excellent Advice ✨

[@syaminisegaran1345]

Such a refreshing video to help me plan my career development plan!

[@dr.alokbhardwaj3378]

You blog content is highly valuable.. Shade You always shines⭐✨ in each n every video

[@MadirajuKChaitanya]

Excellent Video...👍🙏🙂.

[@sengsoipomoung-le1jr]

Wonderful ❤❤❤ you sparked my awareness thanku so much wish your welfare and many one may find useful to it and may take correct decision in life

[@haridas1714]

Wow, your positive guidelines are leading me to the right direction. Each videos are tuning my thought process. Thanks a lot shade... I strongly believe that your videos are transforming people life style no doubt about it. Earlier i was scrolling youtube channels to watch movies, comedies and listening music. But now after i listen your first video very eager to know about your next video message. The way you and your team are delivering messages are directly going to my mind and sharpening thought process. Your efforts are really appreciated. God bless you and your team... Happy New Year 2024...

[@CuteBamboo2012]

Your content is SO valuable and helpful Shadé. I hope you know it and get all the blessings, success in tour life and the recognition of your work that you deserve. Thank you very much for helping us take decision without fear.

[@sujijordhan4994]

Good mng shade zahrie.... Good luck 👍

[@psycho-vert6758]

Timely!

[@Ajay_the_invincible_1997]

You are a Gem.❤️ These 3 are the most important questions to ask. Thank You for this video. 💯

[@hafiz786nasir]

I am just loving the way, each and every topic you discuss. Putting study references and at the end giving tips/suggestions Thanks for such supportive videos

[@abdelrhimhagag8835]

Teacher shade thank you so much ❤

[@prashanthb6521]

Excellent points. Thank you.

[@ShadeZahrai]

🙏🙏🧡🙂

[@confer-to-you3427]

Thank you shade for this insight, I also check the worst case scenario as well if it goes wrong and then I can ensure to have enough options to deal with un- intended outcomes.

[@anujsahare1021]

These are the most important questions to ask ourselves in decision making Process. Thanks a lot for simplifying these Complex topics 😇

[@chaossage8852]

I was trying to decide on which course i should be studying and thank God i found this video, this really helped thank you ms.zharai

[@fadiaburass]

I think that any decision should always be made on rational and balanced analysis of the pros and cons ... ignoring the downsides and focusing only on the possible good outcome can sometimes lead to disastrous results ... and this is from experience ... I agree with your qualifying questions concept however

[@heshamhassan9822]

your videos are great and very helpful, thank you.

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thanks Hesham - glad you enjoyed it 🙏

[@biancamagalhaes833]

Sometimes we face some circunstances that affect us, and bring us insecurity to make choices, it is not easy. And to beat at all, when our coices affect many people we feel anxious p:( GRATITUDE TO YOU SHADÉ FOR SHARE THESE GEMS !!!

[@ankushwakchaure9327]

It’s not about the decision it is about anticipation of obstacles during course of decision, prepared for surprises and plan how to respond to it, so that it becomes more informed journey rather than surprises

[@nicoledemers98]

Love this. I'm approaching a really difficult decision right now regarding whether or not I want to stay in the US after I graduate college or go back to my home country. It's tough because in my field, there is a lot more opportunity for me in the US, but I miss my family and friends, and being away from them has been difficult for my anxiety. The problem is that I'm worried that if I go home, I might not be able to get a work visa to come back in the future. Moving to the US has been a dream of mine for a long time, but college has sort of changed my perspective on that. I don't know if I want to stay here anymore, and I have a deep desire to go home and be with family and pursue my career in my home country. I'm just afraid that I won't do well, or that I'll end up a "failure," or that I'm somehow giving up on a lifelong dream.

[@MinaNajafi1365]

Thanks ❤

[@Earthtime3978]

Sometime bad decisions are not just switching jobs, it could be quitting a good job that dramatically effects you life going forward. Your finances and status are never the same again in the most negative of ways. That was 18 years ago for me and I relive it every day, even now at 60 years old.