How Do You Know if You Made the Right Decision? | 3 Filter-Questions

The ability to make good decisions is one of life's most important yet underrated skills.
Because, let's face it, a big part of where you are in life right now has to do with the bigger decisions that you made and acted on.
But how do you truly know if you're making the right decisions?
And how do overcome second guessing yourself, the 'Fear of Missing Out', or Analysis Paralysis?
In this video I help you minimize the decision making anxiety and guess work with my 3 Question Decision Making Filter. These questions will help you move forward with more confidence and clarity.
1️⃣ Does this path help me grow? If yes,
2️⃣ Is it based on ego? If no,
3️⃣ Does this path excite me? If yes,
And remember, you can only make the ‘best possible’ decision for you based on the information that's available to you!
In the comments, let me know your thoughts! 👇
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"...except having children or skydiving without a parachute." Loved that.😂

[@shahid7635]

I am somebody who feared change. To an extend that when it was inevitable to change I got depressed! I was looking for certainty and fearing failure. Then I read Who moved my cheese! It changed every thing. After I made that decision there was uncertainty and i did fail. But it all worked out in the end. I did get what I cherished. And am happy that I made that decision.15 years later I am making yet another big change to my career! This time it is voluntary and not inevitable. I re-read who moved my cheese and your video made me confident again.

[@AksharRamsundra]

You are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen with the most beautiful advice I've ever heard.

[@ankushwakchaure9327]

It’s not about the decision it is about anticipation of obstacles during course of decision, prepared for surprises and plan how to respond to it, so that it becomes more informed journey rather than surprises

[@CuteBamboo2012]

Your content is SO valuable and helpful Shadé. I hope you know it and get all the blessings, success in tour life and the recognition of your work that you deserve. Thank you very much for helping us take decision without fear.

[@r.e._russe07]

I found this and I'm so grateful! I struggle with decisions, even minor ones. I'm trying now to decide on a direction and this gives me some much needed guidance 🙏 many Blessings

[@tunchunairarko]

This video made me realize that one of the biggest decisions I've made in my life was actually right. I've been constantly overthinking about that, which was making me miserable. I think now I will think less about that.

[@RussianBritish]

Shadé, Finding your channel was already a life changing experience for me. So many wise thoughts. Hope to hear you on stage one day. Keep going, thought thoughts change life's!

[@hawrabadri3115]

Today I taken a decision which make me uncertainty ..but watching your video, I understand that I taken a right decision...thank you so much... God bless you

[@dyanayuriaurora2417]

Thank you Shadè! This is what I need in the moment. It helps me separate ego and the fact really well. Will stay tuned for another good video😊

[@ehsanghorbankhani9382]

God bless you, this is what I really needed it. Tomorrow is my first day at work as an intern, and I was so anxious and sad because I was dwelling with tons of thoughts whether if this was a wise choice or not. This gonna be a huge challenge for me as this is somehow new area for me and the task by itself is so demanding.

[@maggiesun5423]

This totally comes at a right time! It soothed me to believe that this less travelled path, wherever it leads to, will be worth the journey! Thank you Shade!

[@ShadeZahrai]

Hi Maggie! I’m so happy it was timely for you! And that’s exactly right - it’s all about how you learn & grow from the experience 👌🧡

[@Musiq4all]

I believe change is always good if it comes in my way! It refreshes me from within, keeps in look forward for the next moment to happen and cherish the moments where I can share the effect of change with others!

[@akash-hx5ut]

This totally comes at a right time! It soothed me to believe that this less travelled path, wherever it leads to, will be worth the journey!

[@ruheanabegum9554]

Shade at her best, once again! So articulate, eloquent and always spot on !

[@tinachaudhary6585]

But she speaks very fast.atleast thats wat i feel.

[@LetsBeHuman]

I came across your videos in 2021. I don't why I feel soo positive after watching your videos. I decided to watch all your videos during my winter break, but couldn't. Starting it now. Video no: 1 done. THis is very helpful filter. Thanks.

[@PeterCianci]

Do my gifts/talents and desires align with this decision? Shade, I love how you put these subject matters into much better perspectives! Thank you!

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thanks Peter for the kind words! I'm happy you appreciated the topic and video 😊🙏

[@bijayaadhikari442]

I reduced my full-time to part-time job as chef. I quit the job now to get that project done, pending since last year, to get my dream job as software engineer. This helped me grow every day. It's my ego to not to work anymore in Kitchen and it's ego as well in enjoying coding. Yes its long run. I am almost bankrupt, loan to pay, visa at end, need money to extend, hurt beloved. This let me to work more in Kitchen again.

[@ShadeZahrai]

I'm so glad that this video is helping you put things back into perspective and to let go of the ego. best wishes with pursuing your dream as a software engineer and well done for making the necessary sacrifices to get there. 💪🏽

[@roadking1962]

These are decisions which can be taken when a person has choice to think. For an average, middle class person (including myself) most of the vital decision are taken under certain and/or painful, situations and/or circumstances.

[@hafiz786nasir]

I am just loving the way, each and every topic you discuss. Putting study references and at the end giving tips/suggestions Thanks for such supportive videos

[@roohulaminkhan5437]

Am gonna start a new job. Just in time when I needed it the most... The scientific and psychological angle you provide, it is so simple that we can relate to them and even verify them with our past experiences. This makes your advices super trustworthy.... just love them all :)

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thank you and best of luck Roohul!

[@nazifa.d2117]

'Ego driven' that was how I did something that didn't excite me at all... I just hope I can find something more exciting to do I usually pick what to do by how excited I feel when I think about it...and how much I think about

[@ShadeZahrai]

Love this - it's about tapping into your intuition! 😊👌

[@growwithradhika778]

God bless you Angel, your outer beauty is truly a reflection of how beautiful you are from the inside ❤️ Keep inspiring us, it's such a delight to watch you

[@nq1322]

Hi Shade, your videos are amazing. It’s good to see a young women like you have so much knowledge and confidence. Your advise and tips are highly beneficial.

[@remusgherman4602]

It's your decision and is always the right choice because it's yours..even if it is wrong or good.. You will see later if you're decision was good or bad... This will make you learn and having more experience next time...

[@germanbarcenas1516]

I love this so much! My mid 20s has been punctuted by a lot of big feeling decisions. I appreciate the video(:

[@a.w.5684]

One more question that I would suggest to add here (or to add under any of your questions as a sub-question) is: "Is my decision driven by others or forced by someone?" This question is relatable in sense of relations, or also in job. Some negative people are so manipulative and scrupulous that they convince us its what we want to do, while actually its been forced or say, emotionally blackmailed (in relationship). Yet it can be also forced upon with help of fear of any person or any future-event. The trick is to make decision-maker think all the time its his or her decision without him or her knowing they have been tactfully influenced, manipulated and lastly, made believe by someone... The manipulator could be a friend, a lover, a family-person, a collegue, a senior or boss, etc. Add this question if you feel this question must be included and is worth asking to one's self. I question this to myself often. When i noticed I found that in my surroundings, many decisions are taken by people under someone's influence/emotional blackmail or out of someone's fear.

[@TRWhite474747]

She addressed that in the video

[@nu.choices]

Wow, just what I needed at exactly the right time. Thank you for this positive outlook 🥰

[@ShadeZahrai]

Happy to hear that it resonated! 😊🙏

[@nu.choices]

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[@Agarcha23]

Came across your motivational videos two days back ..addicted to these now ..thank you ..these are very helpful

[@RAKESH084]

Hi, thanks for sharing life saving techniques. My practice was, 'assuming' I have taken the decision and see if my mind is nervous or calm, the calm decision is the right decision.

[@anthonykingsley9898]

Thank you so much for your videos. I really needed this. I’m dealing with a huge life decision now. I have been focused on the what if’s and become negative about the decision. These questions help a lot :)

[@ShadeZahrai]

I'm really glad that this was of some help Anthony. Sometimes we just need something to nudge us out of our narrowed thoughts. Wishing the very best with this major decision. 🙏🏽

[@abhiagricos1]

That's so insightful Shade'. Appreciate that. It will always be helpful for me.

[@edigweoghenero3510]

Thank you so much. I appreciate you, you just gave me clarity. God bless you Love❤

[@priyaranjan1970]

I have been running after doing a Data Sciences course, (a largely ego-driven decision) but your video opened my eyes...looking forward to becoming a successful KZbinr one day - I know it won't be easy, but CAN be just as rewarding as a full-time job with Google, with foresight, imagination, and perseverance. I confide in you that I watch a lot of educational and musical videos on KZbin. 😃 😊

[@jinkycastor9115]

Glad I found this video, I just accepted the role and I know I made the right decision. Thanks for sharing this ❤

[@v.samuel1978]

I thank you for the wonderful video. You have given a message that good thinking is essential for a good decision making. I like your videos . It's because of your optimism and pragmatism in dealing with aspects in one's life.

[@evnsriram]

I'm just going thru something which made me question my decision and here is your video helping me with the tips! KZbin probably read my mind! Thanks for the tips!

[@muhammadtufaildhudhaal1552]

I wish I had watched Shade's this video twenty years back to avert my life long repentences. Exceptional ideas, and marvelously convincing.

[@ktrades2898]

Amazing advice. More importantly, I am constantly amazed how you are so happy, positive and radiant. I am so curious to know what your morning routine looks like.

[@edigweoghenero3510]

Thank you again 😂I watched it for the second time and I’m still grateful ❤

[@jon53012547]

I've heard once "The best decision it's do the things whatever that may be, it's better than don't do anything" but maybe it depends on the experience the expertise ... A lot of factors to take to considering... thanks for your video

[@ShadeZahrai]

I've heard something similar - "The wrong decision is better than indecision..." To your point, it always helps to work through some basic criteria to make sure it's aligned with your values and 'makes sense' in the long term. Thanks for the comment Jon! 😊🙏

[@anujsahare1021]

These are the most important questions to ask ourselves in decision making Process. Thanks a lot for simplifying these Complex topics 😇

[@DJTripleY]

Found "the Padgett Messages". Started following the Divine Love path. Best decision of my life.

[@unknown-is9lm]

Your voice is so calming 💕.

[@confer-to-you3427]

Thank you shade for this insight, I also check the worst case scenario as well if it goes wrong and then I can ensure to have enough options to deal with un- intended outcomes.

[@abbasfakhruddin866]

This video helped me make a major decision, and made me believe I'm making the right one, Thank you...

[@Earthtime3978]

Sometime bad decisions are not just switching jobs, it could be quitting a good job that dramatically effects you life going forward. Your finances and status are never the same again in the most negative of ways. That was 18 years ago for me and I relive it every day, even now at 60 years old.

[@varshayadav5621]

Need of the hour! Tysm ma'am 🙏

[@jagrutshah7518]

You have strengthen my way of thinking about goal setting with these three questions you have quoted as i am working on Year Planning chart to assess my past experience with current scenario for better and progressive future.

[@ShadeZahrai]

I’m so happy to hear that! Your Year Planning chart sounds great. I just released a new video today about planning for 2021 - hope you enjoy it!

[@Ajay_the_invincible_1997]

You are a Gem.❤️ These 3 are the most important questions to ask. Thank You for this video. 💯

[@hewadkhan107]

The whole world should know about you . you are life savior !

[@lawrencefox563]

Good info ,I'll know if I chose right path when it goes well or not but appreciate your sincerity and well meaning that's often enough to know fans cheering you on.

[@bhavloves]

This is exactly what I needed today! Thank you.

[@sarvanakumar5985]

You are my management guru... really impressed. Made others too follow ur videos

[@KJO13]

Wow this is the best video from your channel I have watched. Maybe I’m in that situation to take the next step in life. 👌👌👌thank you.

[@redsky7309]

So glad I came across your channel...I'm finding every video really inspiring..thank you

[@dasarishivakumar5069]

I am always remembering your face whenever I am taking decisions especially the last 3 concepts said by you, 1. helping me grow 2.ego and 3. excitement, thanks a lot @shadéZaharai

[@vikramsrivastava2730]

Thanks, very insightful👏 recently I realized that the best decision will give u the sense of freedom and no bondage (activating ur heart, mind and soul)

[@ShadeZahrai]

Well said! 👌

[@psycho-vert6758]

Timely!

[@Littletime839]

This appeared in my feed at a time I really needed it

[@patrickeggs4447]

Thank you very much !

[@Teachingbydanishsir]

Exactly I was looking for. Thank you so much ma'am.

[@connorjones9275]

yup definitely needed this right now

[@atulkhatri5640]

Wonderful as always! Thanks for the words of wisdom👍

[@sahilgangwar3687]

A big thank you ! Keep sharing your wisdom... In love with your channel !

[@ShadeZahrai]

You're most welcome!

[@gidalvopinheiro-ho5qb]

Amo suas aulas prof.

[@ahmedjamalhumakani]

Heck yes! this was really helpful.

[@chaossage8852]

I was trying to decide on which course i should be studying and thank God i found this video, this really helped thank you ms.zharai

[@haridas1714]

Wow, your positive guidelines are leading me to the right direction. Each videos are tuning my thought process. Thanks a lot shade... I strongly believe that your videos are transforming people life style no doubt about it. Earlier i was scrolling youtube channels to watch movies, comedies and listening music. But now after i listen your first video very eager to know about your next video message. The way you and your team are delivering messages are directly going to my mind and sharpening thought process. Your efforts are really appreciated. God bless you and your team... Happy New Year 2024...

[@deo4245]

Very Simple & effective.....I am big fan of the way you talk. Aspire to learn the confident way

[@aneerasadiq71]

This was just so helpful. This came.just in time. I was actually struggling to reverse my move to another state.

[@patrick_527]

Quite encouraging!

[@TheMrinalJana]

You are utterly Awesome Dear Shade . be beautiful always with your simple attitude and simple explanation of Deep Knowledge . Great Respect for you Dear

[@imranam1602]

Thank you Shade Zahrai!

[@somayehkhatibi2060]

Best decision making tool, thanks million

[@syaminisegaran1345]

Such a refreshing video to help me plan my career development plan!

[@ayoubkharoub3893]

A great job 👍 Thank you ❤️

[@thecharacters4291]

Motivating and seems practical

[@reirey0106]

Thank you for the great insight Ma'am Shade 😇🥰

[@baljitsingh8757]

Thanks for thanks shade for positive inspiration 🎉

[@thehealingsaga3750]

This video helped in finding my vision . Thank you !

[@nicoledemers98]

Love this. I'm approaching a really difficult decision right now regarding whether or not I want to stay in the US after I graduate college or go back to my home country. It's tough because in my field, there is a lot more opportunity for me in the US, but I miss my family and friends, and being away from them has been difficult for my anxiety. The problem is that I'm worried that if I go home, I might not be able to get a work visa to come back in the future. Moving to the US has been a dream of mine for a long time, but college has sort of changed my perspective on that. I don't know if I want to stay here anymore, and I have a deep desire to go home and be with family and pursue my career in my home country. I'm just afraid that I won't do well, or that I'll end up a "failure," or that I'm somehow giving up on a lifelong dream.

[@gargipravinkubde6795]

Thank you, I found this helpful in choosing a course for my masters and I will try my best to make it right

[@Adrianna.Banana]

This was the most helpful video on this topic for me - Thank you!!! ❤

[@dianabotero6554]

Thanks so much ❤

[@ibnrochd8273]

Greatful!

[@user-my1tx4dc2w]

Thanks a lot! This is a very good remind of all the necessary things to consider when making a decision 💓

[@shaheerafatima793]

I really needed this

[@nikkusingh813]

Jo socho oosi topic pe video banate ho aap ,thanku

[@Shyam8174]

❤️☯️ Totally Agree with you

[@b0ndrey]

Another great video, thank you!! This applied personally like your recent 5 reasons to quit your job post.

[@lifecoachroufdar]

phenomenal ❤Shade Zahrai

[@jigs2004]

I always look forward for your videos..there's always something interesting n new to know..I make sure that I don't miss out on any of them..agree, ego satisfaction should not be the only reason to make a decision..I think ppl grow over the time n realise things from their experience,but videos like these help in preventing huge errors..

[@ShadeZahrai]

Thanks for the kind words! I'm glad that you're enjoying what we share on the channel. You're so right there - things always appear much clearer in hindsight... and little reminders can always help in the moment. 👌

[@SurajThapar]

Yep. Thanks for always reminding us!

[@paulmedinamutuc]

We will always be faced with that question. I set up my business but borrowed thinking my pension fund in my Life insurance policy will cover my debt when it comes due. The insurance company was sold so now I am trying to run after the new owners. But good vid though!

[@sunshinemomo945]

Thank you. This really helped calm a lot of anxiety

[@malihausmani5945]

Thanks for sharing this amazing video. You are doing such a great job.

[@timcook4552]

makes so much sense.

[@Mr.WasiHaider]

Wow! Excellent Advice ✨

[@dr.alokbhardwaj3378]

You blog content is highly valuable.. Shade You always shines⭐✨ in each n every video

[@ansaraliakash]

Thank you Shade!