How Do You Respect An Emotionally Abusive Parent? | Shaykh Navaid Aziz | Faith IQ

[@magroupofeducation305]

I'm so sensitive child. ..so it's so hard for me... may allah give me the strength

[@misbahailia3345]

Ameen. Definitely talk to Allah (SWT) and a psychologist. They'll give you a crying shoulder, as well as a solution on what to do with your parents. Plus how to prevent people from the outside world from treating you this way. I'll keep you in my Du'as. Keep going warrior! 💪 Remember, you're not sensitive. You just have feelings/rights, like everyone else. 💁‍♀️

[@manoriperera7105]

Aameen

[@serenitysss]

there is nothing wrong with being sensitive , Subhan'Allah he created everyone with different personalities , strengths and weaknesses we are not meant to be perfect my point is ..dont feel bad for being who you are plus being sensitive is like a superpower once you learn to control your emotions and how to understand and deal with them nothing can shake you unless you allow it to and there is nothing more beautiful than someone who deeply feels everything and everyone , I pray Allah swt gives you all the strength to overcome your hardships and rewards you immensely for what you went through ..you are so strong keep moving forward :)

[@ibrahimelhusseinali7781]

NOW I FEEL LIKE SCHOLARS SAY= BEING A PARENT MEANS HAVING CERTIFICATE OF BEING ABUSIVE. Parents don't have a right to be wrong everytime just because they are parents. We were brought into this world by the will of Allah and it's them they were chosen but that doesn't give them authority to abuse us when we are not wrong. We are trying to make them understand that it is not right but we are still abused and cursed. In what name? Because they are parents. If being a parent is the licence to abuse and the children to enter Jannah than every child will be a parent and for sure he will enter Jannah because he got the parent licence now and his past sin will be forgotten. Is it? Is it being a child to listen what your parents says because Jannah lies beneath their feet and for the fear of being going to hell we shall be doing what they tell us to do? I believe extremely strongly in this AHADITH.-- If you see something wrong You must change it with your hands! If you cannot; Then you MUST TALK AGAINST IT If you cannot Then you MUST THINK VERY EVIL OF IT IN YOUR HEART. THIS IS THE WEAKEST OF IMAAN.

[@oceanprincess3672]

For this reason they will be punished too, but from our aspect we got to keep patient .

[@prime367]

Yeah this needs to be changed..Allah gave our parents that honour bur they are destroying it by humilating us...ofc they have the rights but a person who has more rights has more responsibility first which should not be neglected.... Yeah they are our source of heaven but islam also ordee the parents to not to be injust too....shetan can also manipulate them... they are also a human being...Respectfully,there must be boundaries in every relationship...including parental relationship that what is right and wrong or else we will suffer in every relationship.... AND a mother who is TOXIC and control and curse her child can never be door to heave.!!! cuz not only she is putting wrong beliefs inside your head but is also considering the teachings of our deen wrong.... may Allah guide us... AMEEN!

[@notsabih]

Well said ❤

[@costarica9685]

This is the only video that helped me... I am listening this everytime my mother acts like the worst bully of this world.

[@misbahailia3345]

Stay out the house most of the time, move out if possible. Hang out with practicing Muslim friends. But don't tell them your situation, because they'll give you the same advice "bE PaTieT.". Speak to a consoler about this instead.

[@costarica9685]

@@misbahailia3345 thank you... I am trying to move out. Please pray for ne that i find success in what i am doing right now and able to move out within next few months.. please please pray for me

[@P0ST1NGBMW]

@@costarica9685have you found success

[@heleecopter]

1:07 I think it is extremely crucial for us to realise that Allah will ALWAYS be taking care of us. I always know that He will reward and compensate us for the hardship, but rarely remember that He's there for me every single second of my life. May Allah guide all of us till the end. Jazakallahu khair sheikh for this amazing sharing.

[@Mohammedangel2999]

I love Muhammed ❤❤❤

[@OneLoveFoodie]

Just one thing “doesn’t hurt you unless you allow it” can be true in some cases but for extremely skilled in guilt tripping, gaslighting and emotional blackmail, even the best are effected. It’s very confusing. And then add grandchildren into it. Please make more specific information. Thanks

[@shaeidpatwary433]

I have a toxic father who loves to cause mischief and cause problems within the family. I have this strong hatred towards him as if he is the devil himself anytime he walks in the house. My mother who cooks every single day for him, and for him to kick my mother and spit at her and throw away her hard cooking food boils my blood. Her cooking is amazing.. and yet he is the ONLY person to complain about this. I need a Quranic verse where in Islam.. they explain this virtue, and how this type of behavior is not accepted in Islam! I cannot find it anywhere! I have to say as a Muslim, I am not suppose to go against my father. But someone who does wrong, I do not care if you are blood. I will be in your face and be with what is the righteous! There are many incidents that happen on a daily basis, and I swear. I wish he was cut off and gone from my life! This may not be right, but I wish he was dead. Someone who causes chaos.. And not be grateful of anything.. Allah will make them pay one way or another. I hope this happens soon. I pray for this day to come!!!!

[@white_noise000]

Your father is oppressive and abusive! No where in islam does it say you should tolerate this, especially your mother. Seek help out of this situation for you all, this is not Islam to stay and tolerate this.

[@Bluewaterbottle]

Inshallah Allah will deal with him in this life so severely that he realizes what he’s taking for granted, some people don’t HAVE food, don’t HAVE families. He’s taking that for granted, he’s directly going against Allah and he should be scared.

[@smilingsue4444]

One of my friends shared a story with me which gives us a glimpse of how parents can be extremely hurtful even when they are outwardly doing nice things for their children. She said her mom let her borrow some money to go to umrah and she had been paying her back and only had two payments left to complete what she owes prior to departing. When it was time to go to the trip orientation, the mom insisted on showing up to the orientation and there she found out by a coincidence that two other sisters were going with their mothers. She got upset and told her daughter "you are not a righteous child" just because she didn't find a way to take her on the trip. My friend reminded her that she tried to ask the organizers and they responded it's only for youth. She insisted that the daughter could have spoken to the leader and worked it out like the other two girls. She said to my friend you should have insisted like those two sisters and then she called my friend stingy right there in the middle of the orientation. It wasn't loud enough for everyone to hear but it was very harsh. Naturally my friend was hurt. She bottled it all up, sat down, and started scrolling on her phone. The mom noticed my friend got upset and said "good I want you to be sad". This is not normal behavior. It's spiritual abuse, guilt tripping and manipulation and it's really sad that these are the feelings and experiences she had tied to parents and the holy land. No wonder so many youth are feeling detached from their religion or feeling like Allah SWT hates them.

[@abdulmapping]

As an autistic child I get abused almost everyday and I feel a lot of pain and depression from I want to leave and move away to live on my own but I can’t because I don’t know how to live on my own the abuse my parents give me makes me want to run away and live on my own without pain and suffering I feel I’m not important to my family because I can’t do independent things like a non autism person would.

[@noneofyourbuizness]

You cannot leave on your own bzcause your parznts never taught you so . I have seen many autistic people ( with supporting parents) thriving professionnaly, getting married . However you are zmotionnaly wired differently I cant imagine how hard is it for you ya akhy it pains me hearing this

[@Bluewaterbottle]

There’s always a way to leave, look into shelters near you

[@taniaahmed83]

No I didn't move out... I got older but my mother is glued to me no matter which country I work in. As she is all alone

[@misbahailia3345]

I'm so sorry. Donestically abusive parents, are the only ones who deserve to be in care homes. I don't know your situation, but maybe a licened consellier could give you the best advice on how to deal with your Mum.

[@Mohammedangel2999]

I love prophet Muhammed ❤❤

[@ochneeoder9252]

Mashallah thanks a lot I really needed this!!😄👍🏻🤲🏻

[@SaritaSings.]

1:35- 1:48 I needed to hear this YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW BADLY I DO . Thank you so much for this!!

[@diyaaashkar1752]

My parents are like this 😔 they always. Call me the most terrible names if i do a small bad thing as if they've never done a mistake in their life

[@diyaaashkar1752]

@@Paligirlll I don't know what to do with myself bro my personality is destroyed

[@Paligirlll]

@@diyaaashkar1752 just continue to make Dua for your self and to pray to Allah (swt) make Allah (swt) relive all your pains and make it easy on you🥰 Allahuma ameen

[@diyaaashkar1752]

@@Paligirlll relieve my pains I really hope because I'm also struggling with school it's not easy trust me it's not I need a solution please

[@Paligirlll]

@@diyaaashkar1752 I’m so sorry please habibti I’ll try to keep you in my Duas. Allah (swt) give you these test bc he wants you to pass the please you got this just say alhemduillah. Allah will relive your pain In’shaa’Allah. Allah (swt) wouldn’t give you anything that you could not handle. May Allah (swt) make this dunya easy on you and make this difficult hardship easy on you 🥺 Ameen ya rub if u need anyone I am here willing to listen I’m sorry I am trying to understand u I hope I’m helping you

[@diyaaashkar1752]

@@Paligirlll I'm a boy but thank you so much I really appreciate your dua

[@HomeFrendsten]

Parents cannot misuse power. If children should b independent parents should follow certain rules. But they do not follow any rule

[@yk-xc1fn]

This advise isn’t sufficient. What if they ask you to do stuff that isn’t in your interest and you disobey them… is that bad? What if they keep verbally abusive you or intimidating you, it’s impossible to remain quiet. Can you limit the relationship and move out before marriage if you’re mistreated?

[@kindabored144]

Thank you so much my brother! I really needed this ❤

[@Kiimii_]

There needs to be more content out there like this. Thank you.

[@shaziaahmed231]

Jazkh Allah o khira brother

[@jantelopez5626]

we need laws that make it easy to claim damages for life if a parent leaves their child with lifelong brain damage. it is measurable. we need to teach kids to keep record of abusive behaviour and we need a way for kids to get real practical help to get away from abusive parents when they are distressed. parents dont have rights over anyone they have responsibility to secure their childs rights. make them sign a contract. its time for accountablity. abusive parents create violent abusers from serial killers to genocidal maniacs.. always an evil bully parent behind them.. check if you dont believe me

[@Layla6793]

Ya Allah forgive us and guide us all

[@user-number444]

my mom always beats me up physically and verbaly and i'm in desprate need, i don't wanna sin or fail allah but i swear it is horrible i always break into tears may allah pls help me

[@anntalks2569]

I'm so sorry. My mom does that too. I'll pray for you.

[@fathima8759]

Hold on,whatever ur going through it will pass Always remember Allah tests harder his best warriors...make lots of dua and keep remembering that ur not alone..Allah is always with you

[@misbahailia3345]

Two words. MOVE OUT! Don't listen to these other replies, make Du'a only after moving out. Or stay over a friend or relatives house. Make sure your friend/relative is the same gender.

[@manoriperera7105]

Jazzak Allahu khair. Beautiful advice..

[@saradigota7201]

advice please, they isolated me from young, abused me mentally,physically and now all i have left is myself and their passive agression,stalking,intimidating. both parents and siblings are narcistic, im the empath,scapegoat. im really sick now, dont know what to do anymore. Ive tried distancing myself from them,i tried boundries, none of it works, the abuse and mindboggling narcistic games tend to worsen.my body is getting sick of panic attacks, cuz my parents allow my brother to stalk and intimidate me or even hit me is being put under the rug many times.

[@misbahailia3345]

0:32 But, we're not Prophets. 😑 Please give advice for your average Muslims dealing with parents. Thank you. 1:10 Blackmail. Deal with emotional abuse, to get rewards. Astugfurullah! This isn't Islam. Islam is against all forms of oppression. This video, is mixing culture with Islam. Guys don't listen to this. Either move out, stay at a sane relatives house or stay in your room. Eat in your toom too, and go out the house most of the time (keep it Halal outside though). Don't let your messed up Muslim parents, put you off from your chance to get to heaven.

[@taniaahmed83]

But dealing with them even if we ignore them still damaging to the sanity

[@misbahailia3345]

True. This Teddy bear scholar doesn't know what he's talking about. Speak to a licensed conseller instead. Whether they're Muslim or Mon Muslim. Make sure they're qualified.

[@dbawab]

Thank you

[@arhamelahee2726]

Please make a video on what to do when not letting you pray at school or work ?

[@FaithIQOfficial]

Our team will inshaAllah work on this.

[@arhamelahee2726]

@@FaithIQOfficial jazakallahu khair

[@shaymajlassi3633]

the huge amount of insults and hate that I get from my mother makes me react sometimes badly, I really regret it but why does she provoke and disrespect that me much. I said to myself that anytime she says a bad thing I am not going to respond to it and I am really trying but sometimes I can't hold it, m always asking myself if I really deserve all this hate. Please advise me what to do. May allah helps me to do the right thing.

[@sabaahatali]

Beautiful

[@syedtaha8827]

Shaykh missed an imp point. What if staying in one of your parents company makes you consult a psychiatrist and take antidepressant pills.

[@learngain2659]

I can not even get rid of this situation as she doesn’t want me to get married and rejects proposals. She says untrue things about me to people that I am not interested in getting married

[@yukico4]

may allah swt make it easy for you ameen🤲🤍

[@maryamkidwai2543]

You cant choose to be hurt or not if this is all youve known since you were tiny. Children dont know whats right or wrong they dont knkw what to feel or not. They are hurt so bad that even as adults you cant be free of the effects. Children esp in modern days usually only have parents as trustworthy adults and if they only hurt you then what will happen to that child?

[@faiz5627]

My father was abusing me and beat me yesterday and got injury in his wrist. Am i responsible for that 😔😔😔

[@sisterkaro1635]

Assalamu alaykum I need help I am fed up of my non Muslim mother doing psicologic violence 24/7 to me and my father for her fault my dad wants to suicide for her fault I don t know what to do because of her I always had difficult childhood and more problems and because of her my sister is having serious psychological problems I don t know what to do anymore If I had a job or a bit of money saved I would go with my father and little sister and rent a place but unfortunately we re poor we have nothing and my dad is at the end of the rope I really need help please😭😓 she is tearing my family apart wallahi 😢🥺

[@syedarizvi7290]

I'm so so sorry to hear about this. Would you like a friend to talk to? Im here for you, my sister

[@chiaraakeri2336]

There is not enough detail in this answer.

[@faizanzafar6365]

My first marriage was destroyed because of my mother and second one is also at stake because of her and i am being told that i can't repay my mother what she did for me

[@kushiali6578]

Please talk about irresponsible parents also.... Some parents are not abusive but never guide their kids never plan for their future and kids learn through trauma and wounds of life and by the end they start hating their parents.

[@siyah4436]

NO. Clearly shows that you have no idea what abuse actually is. Please educate yourself before you make these videos.

[@misbahailia3345]

IKR. This Teddy bear scholar, probably had an easy family life. 🙄

[@moonrage5521]

I think that you should leave them cuz if you dont youll think about killing them your sanity well disolve with time and youll end up in jail so just leave

[@white_noise000]

Doesn’t help. I’m Still stuck with my abusive father at 36 years old and he has no intention of changing. I married someone just like him too and had to leave. Poor examples of men.

[@syedalifathima1018]

Subh-haanal-laahi wabi hamdihi..

[@arhamelahee2726]

wa subhanallahil adheem

[@rawsinc1]

Thanks a lot brother 🙏🏻

[@faizanzafar6365]

Like how can u not allowe i don't understand

[@Layla6793]

Ma Sha Allah

[@vrazalico455]

Do people forget about the mentall state the people will be in after putting up with abuse from the younger years untill the get out of the house? You are preaching about having patience and beign rewarded for it, be carefull with what you treach people, there are different levels of abuse. Some are so harsh that children commit suiced. There are children beinf sexually abused, what patience is there needed at this moment!? Learn the people about the difference in abuses and when it is OK to leave your parents behind and stand your ground. The children have the duty to respect the parents if they acts like good parents like Allah demands. Parents have a duty to PROTECT the children. Allah gave the children to them, we are all from Allah. Do you really think Allah would want you to put of with abuse for years even if it breaks you down!? Talk to you parents respectfully if the situation lets that happen, let them know they hurt you. If you have narcistic abusive parents who will not change, then be on a save distance from them. Dont only think about them, Allah created you to think about yourself also!!

[@misbahailia3345]

Most of these scholars don't know what an abusive parent actually means. Nouman Ali khan talked about this with understanding, he said have boundaries. But even he found it hard to just say "move out".

[@faridaaali6170]

I am 54 my mother is a bully a naccissist very very controlling n selfish

[@misbahailia3345]

Hopefully you moved out Insha'Allah. I don't believe in the happy family thing, that TV shows and even Islam pushes. That stuff, is only possible in Jannah.

[@rohin.trohin4572]

I just curse them

[@akidwaimd]

❤️

[@richardterrance4483]

🙏🏽

[@sunrise-pn9br]

But there is God, allah. Surah fatiha prove it. There's no God but Allah. But I dislike abuses

[@moniqueduval6441]

You don't.