How I Hid My Pregnancy From My Parents

[@SwanCreates]

After hearing Hannah's story with her miscarriage I understand better why women hide their pregnancies in the beginning.

[@annapoornap5664]

Can you please link the video???🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@emanafzal5599]

@@annapoornap5664 its mom in progress search mom in progress on yt and you'll find it

[@takemetospace7718]

I honestly disagree with it. Because that means when someone experiences miscarriage they often mourn alone without support from family and friends. This is an old tradition that is stimatizing miscarriage

[@carinamoszek7482]

@@takemetospace7718 Totally. My mom miscarried in her first pregnancy and said she wished she'd told people she was pregnant so that she wouldn't be so alone with the loss

[@michellezevenaar]

@@takemetospace7718 being confronted with the loss every time you see people that knew about the pregnancy is very painfull! I'm glad I only told close friends after the miscarriage so that people wouldn't be asking me how the baby is for weeks or months afterwards. If you tell 1 person that tells 10 others then you havevto tell alllll those people about the loss, extremely painful to do!

[@venusvontrappe6007]

For all the people wondering why she felt the need to hide it from her family. For alot of mothers (including myself) it is much easier to tell your family about a miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy after the fact. When I had my ectopic I did not tell my family I was pregnant until I had confirmation that it was not viable because I didn't want to get everyones hopes up. I had to wait a year before being allowed to try again and struggled with infertility. When we did finally manage to get pregnant again, I was not comfortable telling the family and getting their hopes up until I was 5 months along.

[@nadiadansani2139]

I understand not telling, but I just was confused at the extents/methods used to hide it

[@venusvontrappe6007]

@@nadiadansani2139 that is fair, and I can't speak for her. But I have noticed in my own experiences as a women that it doesn't matter what the affliction is, people are going to start speculating about pregnancy. I have argued with doctors in an emergency room about health concerns and even though they are holding my file that says I had a hysterectomy, they will still ask me if I am positive that I can't be pregnant. When you run into family and they start bugging you asking when you are going to have another baby which is no-ones business. Maybe they just want one child, maybe they are struggling with infertility. Maybe they are applying for adoption. And just because you want to wait until after the first trimester doesn't mean you don't want to partake in the excitement of a pregnancy announcement, whether it be by showing someone an ultrasound or cute photo announcement. Personally I worked with my immediate family and I did many things to hide my pregnancy until I was ready to announce it my way, on my terms. It really takes the wind out of your sails when you go to tell someone and they say "Oh you're pregnant" before you get the opportunity. Or someone runs around telling all of your friends because they want to be the first one with the gossip.

[@lavane26]

but see, that's the thing, why do women feel like they need to safeguard other people's feelings, instead of being able to share their joys or sadness with everyone we love? why do we feel like we would be burdening others with our sadness rather than turning to them for support? it just perpetuates that idea that a women's pregnancy or infertility is "her cross to bear", like if a pregnancy is going well, then everyone gets to be a part of it, but if it's not going well or it there is a miscarriage, then it's only the woman's deal, and that's hard... people, not just pregnant women or women dealing with infertility, need to learn to talk about this more, or at least just listen.

[@venusvontrappe6007]

@@lavane26 see and I'm not saying that if you lose a baby you have to keep it to yourself. When I lost my baby I shared that grief with the circle I chose. I am lucky, I had alot of support. I also wasn't the only one dealing with the loss. My husband struggled just as much as I did trying to conceive and losing our baby. He needed the support just as much as I did. But the minute you start sharing that special news that you are expecting, people start spreading it. So if you lose that baby it can be very traumatic everytime you have to explain to someone that you have lost it, because that person fell through the cracks or missed the memo. It is much easier to tell someone on your terms "Hey, I was pregnant but unfortunately miscarried." Then someone seeing you at work and being like "So have you picked out any names?" and then you have to have a terribly awkward and upsetting encounter for both parties. I am also not saying a women or couple HAS to wait until after the first trimester to share their news. I am simply defending their right to share their pregnancy when they feel it is the right time for them to share it.

[@justineholmlund8652]

I had an ectopic pregnancy a few months ago and one of my Fallopian tubes had to be removed as it had ruptured.If you don’t mind me asking,how long did it take for you to conceive again?Im terrified I’ll never be able to have a baby again.

[@enzoocampoiii2881]

She could just act like its a buzzfeed challenge no alcohol for 9 months lmao

[@henloworld514]

9 months seems a bit suspicious so maybe for a year?

[@axngel1389]

@@henloworld514 would take too long to make the vid tho

[@danielb8697]

@@henloworld514 They could just say that they are replicating a pregnant women’s situation with alcohol. Seeing how challenging it is to not drink for 9 months

[@Maddiemoo246]

@@henloworld514 but how would she get through the first 3 months of a crying baby? 🤪

[@jackystar5099]

@@Maddiemoo246 can't drink alcohol if you plan to breastfeed so it'd probably work out

[@JennyBenny318]

My sister hid her pregnancy from everyone till Christmas Eve when she was 3 months pregnant. She’s now 6 months pregnant.

[@gabycaitlin2863]

congratulations to her!

[@diyaparikh6440]

Congratulations I am so happy for her

[@clumsypuff]

We kept ours a secret until Christmas day. We are also 6 months along.

[@enzoocampoiii2881]

Stay safe

[@SheikTV1]

Hmm 🤔... math checks out...

[@LoganAllec]

If my parents had a house like THAT I would not be complaining!!!

[@unknownstizz]

Buy them one selfish mutt

[@Ohimnotjoking]

That wasn’t the point

[@joelopez4102]

Yea you would... no ones ever content with what they have

[@cquick3277]

Jesus Saves Love God✝️

[@cquick3277]

@@unknownstizz Jesus Saves Love God✝️

[@missrugbyaust]

I found out I was pregnant just days before I found out I had pre tongue cancer during the pandemic. My parents and family knew we told people about the cancer but after my cancer surgery we told everyone else on Facebook that I was also pregnant.

[@WhatIsItToBurn]

Wow! I've never known of tongue cancer before. I hope you are well and get better soon!

[@nisshcooks99]

Hope you are healthy now😊

[@thislittlethingcalledlifea8586]

Congratulations on your little beautiful miracle and hope you are cancer free! Wishing you a long happy life with your little family.......😊

[@TheCristallo83]

Pro tips ladies, To avoid the alcohol question just get a kinda confused look on your face and say, "I don't know, it's been giving me headaches lately." Then when morning sickness hits it's that pesky headache making you sick.

[@Pepa14pig]

My mum would know before I knew...

[@camilled8234]

My mom was sure I was pregnant before I found out I was pregnant 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@lindsey3305]

Some parents are more attentive to their children & can tell when somethings off. Mine wouldn’t have had a clue😭🤦‍♀️

[@lexarico7606]

Truth. My mom knew and I was just visiting for the summer. I was in college.

[@UniqueDesignStudio1]

Right! My mom knows when my period is coming for ffs, she’ll definitely know before me or have some dream of a fish or someone knocked up and pin it on me 🤣

[@spagetd1526]

same

[@KylaFuller]

I don’t feel like pregnancy is an everyone thing. Everyone does need to know and are not required to be included. I think I’d experience the most joy having it to myself for a while. After all my life is the one that’ll change the most.

[@pumpkinspice4841]

When you grew in a filipino household moving in with your parents isn't embarrassing at all. in fact they'd be delighted especially taking care of your kids (aka spoiling them)

[@milliegeorge9894]

Unfortunately as a women... if you drink and suddenly start turning down drinks... you get the pregnancy question, I did at 18, still get questioned at 21/22 🤦🏻‍♀️ oh the joys of being a women haha

[@naimishagandham2489]

The baby's gonna see this video someday and feel proud about mommy😅

[@Aribecrazy]

😔🔫👈

[@dionnesparkle1569]

@@Aribecrazy 😐🔫👈🏼

[@madisonowens2728]

My mom can tell when an actress is pregnant by just looking at their face in a tv show. She would 100% figure it out, maybe even before I did hahahah

[@benjaminchen4830]

she sure was lucky she knew her mom's phone passcode!

[@hihilanaboo6540]

Everyone knows that moms NEVER have a passcode.

[@madisonowens2728]

@@hihilanaboo6540 mine does, but it’s my birthday lol

[@dancer11rules]

Is the universal mom password not 0000?

[@jamesbishop3898]

I understand the miscarriage aspect of not telling your parents. I don't understand literally the rest of the entire video beyond that.

[@erickfrago7224]

For the sake of getting views. Buzzfeed trademark.

[@ajp806]

Her mom sure has alot of electronic devices,my mom hardly can figure out to use her cellphone

[@clarypop2422]

She’s a really entertaining storyteller!! This was a hilarious story lmao I actually enjoyed this

[@bethrobinson2136]

Haha I hid my pregnancy from my dad for 9 months. I even worked with him. He just thought I was getting fat. I called into work the day I gave birth and he thought I was just really sick. So I told him I’m having a baby. Have a great day. It was hilarious.

[@adg00189]

why not tell him?

[@katietan2024]

How did he not know ?

[@youtubewatcher7751]

me and my partner kept our pregnancy a secret from both sides of our family until our baby had their 6 week vaccinations ! 😂

[@ayamohamed6932]

Too much drama, these are your parents they would have been flying from joy, it's great to share happy moments with people who did so much for you

[@ysa9]

“There is no grace period” is the scariest 😰😅

[@Quiteinfamous]

Everyone’s bodies are different

[@Absbabs88]

Even on birth control it's possible. If you have a working uterus, and sperm is getting up there somehow, just assume it's always possible. Even with a tubal it's possible.

[@amaboakye7658]

A Ghanaian mother will probably know you’re pregnant before you know it 😄

[@danielled108]

HAHA YES😆😆🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭

[@iloverose10]

This. Black moms and grandmas know first

[@nuraadams8613]

Factsss😭✋🏾

[@redheadgirlygirl7]

At least you’re married. I’m 28, living at home. Had a pregnancy scare... not married & not technically dating the guy.

[@cornishtea32]

Your story is similar to mine. Only that I'm pregnant. I live with my mom and still doesn't know.

[@patchworkundead4787]

Same but I'm 20, yes I know, I'm not smart.

[@Quiteinfamous]

@@patchworkundead4787 that’s not true.

[@sillygoose6455]

This was exciting and a big setup for...not much of a reaction lol

[@nelamukbang]

I'm 5 weeks pregnant and I haven't told ANYONE in my life at all. I had 2 miscarriages this year and no one was really there for me. So I'm keeping it to myself until I feel like telling them. I had my hcg checked and it's high and doubling. I see my OB in 14 days

[@kanelovec4315]

I love how your husband supported you.

[@lola.stanley]

Sarah is such a good storyteller! I don't recall the last time I paid this full attention to a video. That aside, CONGRATS you two!! All the best and all the love

[@waitwhat6056]

My sister hid her pregnancy until she was 5 months along. She went to Paris for 3 wks and we only found out because she couldn't fit the bridesmaid dress for our cousin's wedding in two weeks. 🙄

[@motivation___jojo3361]

Dear whoever is reading this please smile life is too short to be unhappy

[@niraimathi8400]

Thanks. Needed to hear this.

[@argee5870]

Thank you. 🥺 i really needed this. Have a wonderful day y'all!

[@thislittlethingcalledlifea8586]

Thank you for the reminder 😊

[@lucy-ferprofiler5379]

thanks, take care as well !!!

[@Rainorshine004]

:) thank you

[@strangersontheinternet]

From all the people that have left BuzzFeed I‘m surprised that she’ll still there :D

[@devilinside1396]

Yeah and I was 15/16 n ran away lol, raised my son n went to college..you do what you have to

[@ooogabooogaa]

😂😂good job but that story sounds like a brave teenager

[@liacartoonlover]

"Lying & keeping a secret I really feel great about it"

[@nadiadansani2139]

Laughs in I’m Muslim, soooo me not drinking wouldn’t make a difference

[@hneybooooo3o]

*laughs whit you in muslim*

[@zainebbaniyassin4638]

cackles in Muslim

[@oradsincesar90]

Agree in Christian 😂

[@YourDailyDoseofJillish]

Laughs in alcohol tastes like mouthwash

[@oradsincesar90]

@@YourDailyDoseofJillish 🤣🤣🤣

[@CarlaHanson68]

Sarah is a great storyteller, we need more! Congrats on that sweet baby! ❤❤❤

[@PolyBiBadger]

A bit weird that you’d hide this news from your parents but given the circumstances of the world, it’s completely understandable. My congratulations and best of luck to you and your husband 😊

[@MBou0626]

Not really some people just like the privacy and it depends on how you feel your parents are going to react I’m pregnant right now about 3 months in and I’ve known since about 4/5 weeks and they still don’t know

[@PolyBiBadger]

@@MBou0626 that’s exactly what I mean. I understand why it happened, even though I’m not in her position. That’s all

[@AyeshaRabab]

This was surprisingly entertaining

[@nadiadansani2139]

Love your profile pic

[@AyeshaRabab]

@@nadiadansani2139 ❤️

[@thislittlethingcalledlifea8586]

Congratulations on your beautiful baby! Children are a gift and ray of light in this crazy world. God bless you and your family.......

[@sugarberreh]

My mom hid her pregnancy till she was about 7 month, not even my dad knew 😂

[@Kim_Ngumbela]

Lol why though?

[@sugarberreh]

@@Kim_Ngumbela she She thought it would funny to see how long till our family noticed & she also wanted to surprise them lol.

[@dannidmrozek194]

Knowing how close I am with my mom, she'd be buying baby stuff even before I took the test.

[@funneemonke7973]

Awwww....... the person reading this, YES YOU, are sooo prettyyyy🥺🤗

[@vanamarkarian]

and so are u, not only from the outside but also from the inside..💕💕 May God bless u beautiful soul..🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@funneemonke7973]

@@vanamarkarian u dont know how low i was feeling and reading this makes me feel better thank u...

[@vanamarkarian]

@@funneemonke7973 ur most welcome..💕💕💕

[@LocoTacoToco]

Damn I didn’t think the password: sibling’s name, year and explanation mark was common.

[@thatbadgamer4531]

3:00 This is literally the wedding from How I met your Mother

[@magsy97]

Mhm, my mom hid her pregnancy too...she pretended to be on a business trip overseas for a year, but she was actually just living with my dad haha then she went home soon after I was born (without me)...and then the first time she takes me home to her side of the family I was 3-ish I think, and she introduces me as my dad's daughter from a previous marriage lol

[@alohajade6492]

That’s heavy😅

[@midnightstudio9296]

Why did she do that?

[@lynnvanstiphout526]

That actually sounds very toxic and traumatising

[@funneemonke7973]

Dude....that's messed up...

[@govardhanposina17]

That's very fucked up

[@keirawitham4033]

I was able to somewhat hide my pregnancy from my mom. Like many others my husband and I moved in with her during the pandemic. I had awful morning sickness, like so bad I wouldn’t make it to the bathroom most of the time because it was so sudden. So we mostly just kept our room door shut. I also got in a bad accident and was unable to walk for a month, that was a good excuse. After I was able to start walking again, she got kind of suspicious. I am not a lazy person by any means, but because I was so sick, I slept all the time. She thought I was just being lazy and starting getting upset. When we finally were about to tell her. All we had to say was we have something to tell you and she was like “You’re pregnant.” She knew something must be going on because I am such an active person normally.

[@zakiyyahalexander1019]

Managed to hide mine for 36 weeks while living with my parents. Of course some nosy aunt caught me off guard at the clinic at snitched lol!

[@Butterfliesandbees]

Do women who work at buzzfeed sign a contract that says any pregnancies they have are content and must be recorded from pregnancy test to birth? Because it’s seeming that way. This seems like too much.

[@missSDW]

I hear you but I mean, they are already on-camera creators so why not? Also, people become invested in the person when they are constantly watching them. Wouldn't it be weird for them to never mention it as their belly grows right in front of us?

[@Butterfliesandbees]

@@missSDW no. I know how to mind my business. I don’t think it should ever be something on a contract.

[@missSDW]

@@Butterfliesandbees It's not in a contract... they choose to share it 🤣

[@Butterfliesandbees]

@@missSDW I didn’t say that it was. I sarcastically asked if it was and I stated that it shouldn’t be.

[@orangeblossom5362]

@@Butterfliesandbees buzzfeed makes relatable cpntent. They have produced 10s of thousands of videos. If you don't want to watch pregnancy content don't

[@nadiadansani2139]

I mean I didn’t condone drinking regardless, but wasting alcohol... in a panorama

[@aliciamai1994]

😭😭😭😭

[@betsybabf748]

Alcohol is easy. You just claim to be doing a new diet plan, like cutting back sugars, which includes no alcohol. That's so common now, no one thinks twice.

[@RayMak]

Well hidden

[@mk4_ilaa]

Why are you everywhere

[@RosyCastillo_93]

Congratulations!! I know it might be scary but I'm sure you're gonna love that baby with all your heart 🥰🥰

[@imperialx4830]

Well tat baby is gonna be hearing a hell of a story on every family dinners!!!! Happy pregnancy ❤️

[@emmygoldman1065]

I had to hide my pregnancy from my parents during quarantine too! Thankfully they had my 10mo to distract them so they didn’t suspect a thing 😂 congrats!

[@BIueCat]

I think I’m missing something. Why did she feel the need to hide it from her parents in the first place?

[@Billeimausi]

Yeah same. I don't understand

[@biacosta4184]

they decided to wait for the pregnancy to be viable instead of getting everyone excited and then have a miscarriege

[@merrycatsmas3828]

It's probably because a lot of people miscarry/lose a pregnancy during the first trimester. Sometimes the fetus just doesn't stick. Some people tell their parents right away, but some wait to kind of save them that disappointment if it doesn't end up happening.

[@whateverb9778]

Same...like this seems like a lot of effort and wasted alcohol

[@At_sk]

They would have taken care of her, if she had just told them. And miscarriage is bigger pain for parents than others. Obviously it would make sense if they weren't living together, but not under the same roof. Just too much unnecessary trouble.

[@Babitoswold]

I hid my pregnancy for 12weeks and surprised my husband on his bday with my wrapped up pregnancy test 🙃

[@hneybooooo3o]

I- AMAZING

[@Yakumoki]

How could you have lasted 😂 I wanted to wait 1 week but only lasted 2 days!

[@clumsypuff]

I am so glad I got pregnant during a pandemic as it was so much easier to hid it. My new eating habits would have given i away, I ate lots of stuff on the avoid eating while pregnant list

[@trinityziakas5531]

She is really good at telling stories

[@zenasagnila4073]

this should be a movie.

[@heartsofgoldenrod]

This was pleasantly captivating! You’re a great storyteller!!

[@Basicaly-sf7zn]

*Congratularionss!!!!! Wish you, your mew family and specifically your baby the best!!! Hope everything goes well!* 💘💘💘💘

[@asmr5arah]

HAHAHAHAHA OMG my parents would have killed me👁️👄👁️

[@sunnykhan8703]

CONGRATULATIONS DEAR. MAY U HAVE A HEALTHY HAPPY BABY. LOVE FROM PAKISTAN ❤

[@tresaid1]

My mom kept my sister a secret till she was giving birth in the hospital. She gained weight all around not just the tummy.

[@rmannayr2129]

MOM LOOKS LIKE MY DIARRHEA MEDICINE ARRIVED!!!!!!!!!!

[@michelleboshard8761]

I was actually in the same boat. Living at Mom and dad's house and pregnant

[@ekamarie6632]

I laughed so hard throughout from the amount of cuteness and silliness. I love it!

[@marli8907]

Even as someone who had a miscarriage, who wasn’t living with my parents, I couldn’t keep it from my parents. I have never understood the whole secret thing. Or the alcohol thing.

[@mrspokitstheriot477]

I announced my last pregnancy to my parents a month after he was born.

[@meepmoop9706]

Is it just me or was that way more interesting than I thought?

[@maddyoliver4872]

honestly buzzed is back with another great video

[@justkeeplivin6455]

i love how people always think they can out smart their mothers. literally always the funniest lololol

[@helloharlow]

This video was so charming and so Sarah, I love her

[@rebeccas9715]

yall i know why they call it morning sickness even when it is not morning.... because it's morning somewhere 😄😄😄

[@erickfrago7224]

What I don't understand: why hide? You're not a minor, you have a job, you're with a guy. Why deprive the soon to be grandma the joys and happiness of hearing a good news that she'll be a nana soon? I find the possibility of miscarriage during the first trimester to be too shallow a reason to not tell the person you're living with. Am sure they will adjust even the alcohol consumption because they know the situation and they are not shallow. Oh, I know. Buzzfeed needed a content. The possible only reason why. Because they are that shallow.

[@treverfarted]

BuzzFeed, I am an Apology Video Specialist (AVS) & one of my goals in life is to create the highly sought after “apology video but I’m pregnant” I believe with your help and resources, we could make this apology come to life & help change the world for the better. Thank you, and I’m so incredibly sorry for my actions. I’m learning from my mistakes & becoming a better person every single day.

[@everyday3164]

It's OK, your sins has Been......hol up

[@Tamika182]

It really does take a village to raise a child so, having your parents or any other family around is a serious blessing! People underestimate cultures that have multiple generations living in one house but in my opinion, they're doing it right.....

[@caseyfinnegan4139]

I WOULD TRUST SARAH WITH MY LIFE, THE FACT THAT SHE WAS ABLE TO HIDE THE TEXT SHE SENT. GENIUS. Also, are you guys from Philly? I see Mike's Phillies hat and your Eagles hat !! :)

[@CJ-mn6iw]

I started refusing alcohol on and off for months prior to getting pregnant for that very reason. I didn’t want it to be weird and obvious ha plus not going out because of the pandemic definitely helped ha. LOL I can relate to the watch, phone and computer. My mom has the same. We didn’t tell our parents until 10 weeks out and after the first ultrasound.

[@SpiralBreeze]

My parents knew I was pregnant before I did, and they still kicked me out...

[@gauriandyashthapliyal5277]

Oh dear I wish you are ok. Your parents are toxic

[@nocturnalflare8457]

I'm so sorry... you deserve better

[@betsywilliams3666]

I'm so sorry. I wish you well!

[@jackystar5099]

Hope everything's good

[@barborabicovska9877]

I understand why she wanted to do that but some of the aspects I don't understand. Like dumping cans of cider. So wasteful for nothing!

[@kimtee8961]

Omg the devices wipe! The intensity!

[@rosavazquez6446]

you were so committed to keeping your pregnancy haha

[@genniesmith6804]

Great story! I'm cracking up 🤣🤣🤣

[@Phenomenal3021]

7:33 had me 😂😂😂

[@roseharris286]

I totally get hiding a pregnancy until you’re ready to share. That’s totally valid...but invading someone’s privacy by taking their phone and accessing their password protected laptop is not ok. I know it’s your mum and she maybe wouldn’t care, but she still has a right to privacy and you don’t get to invade that just because you made a mistake trying to cover up your own secret. I was with her up until that point, but that’s not ok.

[@ridingwild760]

Thanks for the teen pregnancy instruction manual

[@lizardman77]

I think its called morning sickness bc its the , morning or beginning of your pregnancy

[@juniorbarajas6799]

No one knew I was pregnant until I was 7 months and one month later my baby came 💕 I live with my boyfriends family idk how they didn't notice

[@lukeb4988]

your child watching this many years later: 👁👄👁

[@LizeMay1]

Yup, my “grace period” is almost 19. 😂 ONE week between contraception switch.

[@mahdiarassuli4072]

It would be way funnier if put on the secret longer.

[@lonewolf6085]

"and so in was lying and i felt really great about it" me: 👁👄👁👌🏼

[@patatasorigins9383]

I knew somebody who hid her pregnancy til she was in labor. Lmao. Her baby bump was so small her parents didn't know b

[@tannehmckown2925]

I had a similar situation when I was pregnant lol I can definitely relate

[@HeavyBreathingCat]

It's actually not weird in asia to live with your parents even after you were married, kekeke.. some parents don't mind it.. especially those with lesser amount of children

[@melissasilva2744]

Awn this was so funny but cute at the same time!! ❤️

[@samanthamorris427]

I’m so happy for Sara congratulations

[@eleanor7]

I know a few women who have lost babies to miscarriages, so when they got pregnant again they kept mum about the news until past the first trimester. I also get keeping it to yourself because it's a personal thing between two people and you before everyone else weighs in.

[@Absbabs88]

I don't understand why they had do hide it. I get not wanting to announce it right away, fine, but you're clearly a married adult, sooooooooooo....why the hiding

[@Sugarglidergirl101]

These types of videos are so interesting to me for some reason lol

[@thekaitlynshow3380]

We are gonna need more updates in the future and to see the baby

[@ShakiraNae]

Thank you for taking us on this journey 😭