How I stopped comparing my life to others - success should be re-defined

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TheCottageFairy

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2 жыл бұрын

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@farinaceaclover
@farinaceaclover 2 жыл бұрын
“A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.” ― Zen Shin
@jmk1962
@jmk1962 2 жыл бұрын
Love this quote.
@pauliinap.
@pauliinap. 2 жыл бұрын
one of my favorites!
@lakemichigan6598
@lakemichigan6598 2 жыл бұрын
Wow. I like this.
@missyrooibostea
@missyrooibostea 2 жыл бұрын
Thank You for the quote' my heart is more at peace after reading it...🙏 🌸
@susanmutten2811
@susanmutten2811 2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful
@marymaza2187
@marymaza2187 2 жыл бұрын
I loved this part: "I didn't want their lives. I wanted the happiness I believed they possessed." That's so true! We feel other people are happy by what they have around them and see them smiling... But we don't really know what goes on behind their closed doors.
@micheleann6099
@micheleann6099 2 жыл бұрын
So true!
@isabelmonday
@isabelmonday 2 жыл бұрын
yes ❤️🙏🏼
@pavithraherath4664
@pavithraherath4664 2 жыл бұрын
The ones who showcase their so called happiness are the ones who haven't found real inner happiness.
@Diego-np1up
@Diego-np1up 2 жыл бұрын
Nose Ken serás bro
@maureenlewis4300
@maureenlewis4300 Жыл бұрын
I really enjoy your ideas. I so wish I could live in the country.
@reneepasich
@reneepasich 2 жыл бұрын
I have recently turned 65. The past three years have been full of devastating loss (my husband, mom, dad and sister). In the process I have lost who I thought I was. I am really struggling. I find your channel to be a momentary glimpse of peace in my very unhappy world.
@justme8101
@justme8101 2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you've had such a huge amount of loss. Bless you dear one
@cathylampshire1140
@cathylampshire1140 2 жыл бұрын
Please know that you are not alone Renee. I am sending all my strength and peace your way.
@luckygirlz99
@luckygirlz99 2 жыл бұрын
I can very much relate, I lost my grandmother and uncle in the beginning of 2021 and lost my boyfriend later that year, in September. We grew up together, I am currently 22 y/o and we had been dating for 6 years. I realize now that I am not fully sure of who I am outside of our relationship, and the way we used to spend our time is how I spend my time now. It's strange, and I feel lost 90% of the time. I am very sorry for your losses. I think it's normal to feel lost since I think family, and those closest to us are like a mirror within ourselves. It's tough to reallocate the energy put into being a wife, daughter, and sister into something else, but I believe you can use that energy to discovering who you are deep down and meeting that person with open arms. Sending you lots of healing and strength.
@ionegrimm1203
@ionegrimm1203 2 жыл бұрын
Life can be so very difficult. I pray you have a support system you can fall into that will let you be you at any given time. You aren’t alone. God is always with us.
@FaithyandOtis..Massachusetts
@FaithyandOtis..Massachusetts 2 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry Renee, I lost my brother at 38 yrs ago it was devastating.. I lost my childhood sweetheart my husband in 2014. my parents have long since gone. I am 70 years old. Somethings you just don’t get over, but you somehow go about the day.. you never forget but it does get easier over time. I have a wonderful dog that I adore I got him when I retired believe me he keeps me busy♥️ I have a deep devout face in God, and I go to my Baptist church and do the finances there. I have a great support system that’s very important. Again I am so sorry for your loss🌸
@jillmcginnis4763
@jillmcginnis4763 2 жыл бұрын
I worked so hard to go up the corporate ladder I was one step away from the top. I found out I had stage 4 cancer. During the treatments I wondered every day why I didn't enjoy things more instead of the struggle to get to the top. I've made it longer than they predicted but one thing I've learned, enjoy everyday be kind to those around you and don't take one moment for granted. Thank you and our friends who follow you for all the life enriching conversations ❤ I love you all...
@anastasiahicks9451
@anastasiahicks9451 2 жыл бұрын
What a beautiful message... it really touched my heart! I hope you are blessed with many many days full of love and joy ahead!
@OscarWilde1124
@OscarWilde1124 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for these beautiful words Jill...stay strong.
@secretagent86
@secretagent86 2 жыл бұрын
good luck, miracles can happen
@antonatin9771
@antonatin9771 2 жыл бұрын
My prayer goes to you💙💙💙
@mapensee5606
@mapensee5606 2 жыл бұрын
I pray you feel better and recover soon. You are blessed . My love to you.
@bndergltd3053
@bndergltd3053 2 жыл бұрын
“Comparison is the thief of joy” is a quote I use with my son when he gets upset when he compares himself to others. It’s so true.
@pativi6643
@pativi6643 2 жыл бұрын
It's funny, because my mom was always comparing me to other children. It's so interesting how our childhood and relationship with our parents, or its lack, influence who we are as an adult, and what we will struggle with.
@h.e.r9368
@h.e.r9368 2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like my grandma sometimes the resentment is still there
@TheCottageFairy
@TheCottageFairy 2 жыл бұрын
Coming from someone who dreamed and dreamed of living in a place in nature I loved, when I finally got the opportunity I remember thinking “I’ll just be happy now” - but, at least in my case, it just doesn’t seem to work that way. If you haven’t done the inner work, your old feelings creep up on you (and yes, this kickstarted A LOT of persona growth, as I was very disappointed in myself - it’s still hard to admit here). It shocked me when I found myself worrying over losing my home, and upset at changes happening in my valley that I didn’t want. I still struggled to manage my anxiety. Natural disasters happen out here often, my home could burn down, stressful things exist everywhere, difficult people, and fearing an unknown future in the arid parts of the west. I thought a new location would resolve my own anxieties in regards to life, and it just didn’t do that for me. If anything, it was a slap in the face, a loud message of “you need to learn to live with you, and enjoy that interior experience. No place will resolve that.’ While I understand our environment has a great impact on us, and that certainly we all romanticize other lives when we are in a tough spot, I do believe that interior journey can take us to a better place. It takes time, and it isn’t a magical cure. It helps us to appreciate our path, work towards finding a place that is safe and that provides our basic needs. And then cultivate that deeper self and purpose. I am still on that journey, and I have to admit that the best thing I ever did to be content with my life is to volunteer and reach out to other people. Help my community. It puts everything into perspective ❤️ and connects you to others and helps you see we are all in this together. I’d love for this to be an open conversation, because I certainly don’t have all the answers - I still continue to learn more every day, and appreciate where I am in my journey. I continue learning how to best love others, be proud of their success as well as my own. Success is something we need to define for ourselves if we truly want to find that good place (at least, that is true for me). In my limited experience on earth I have come to believe that sometimes we compare ourselves to others (and are far too critical of our failings) because we are yearning for an emotion that we need to cultivate within us. Maybe it’s confidence, self-love, or feeling proud of ones life no matter where you are on your journey. This isn’t the case with everyone who dwells on comparison or jealousy, but I think it is for some of us, at least. Constant comparison is a symptom of our emotional needs, and perhaps it’s worth changing the pattern of dialogue in our minds to begin to fill that void. We all have patterns of behavior, and even comparing ourselves to others too much can be a pattern that negatively affects us, blinds us to appreciating our own journey, and making us think that if things were only different, then we’d be happy (As if it is out of our reach, instead of something we can choose to begin cultivating).
@paperart4708
@paperart4708 2 жыл бұрын
May I know the plants book name you reading in video please. Thank you.
@paperart4708
@paperart4708 2 жыл бұрын
I love the way you talk in your video … beautiful like real life flower speaking ..Beautiful face 💕💕💕💕
@TheCottageFairy
@TheCottageFairy 2 жыл бұрын
@@paperart4708 Thank you very much ❤️ It’s just a catalogue for ordering seeds for my garden, from the Territorial Seed Company based in Oregon. Wishing you the very best
@shenequadupree6539
@shenequadupree6539 2 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY, I LOVE WHO GOD HAS ME BECOMING AND LEARNING SO MUCH ON THIS JOURNEY OF LIFE. I JUST MOVED FROM A BIG CITY STATE TO A SMALLER STATE, LOVE IT, THE PEACE, I THINK AND HEAR GOD'D WORDS SO CLEARLY NOW. BLESSINGS TO YOU ALWAYS
@paperart4708
@paperart4708 2 жыл бұрын
@@TheCottageFairy omg thanks so much I didn’t expect you to replay really …… Love to see more of your videos with you speaking.. love you face moving … real life fairy 🧚🏽‍♀️ 💕💕💕👍🏾👍🏾
@aminajalabi3709
@aminajalabi3709 2 жыл бұрын
As a mother of an autistic child, I learned the true meaning of love and happiness from her. She is just happy the way she is without comparing herself to anyone. I wanted her to be different in the beginning of our journey. I wanted her to be a(typical)person but it’s me who needed to change and not her ❤️
@dididahye3586
@dididahye3586 2 жыл бұрын
Thats so beautiful, thanks for sharing
@joannalukaszuk2260
@joannalukaszuk2260 Жыл бұрын
that's beautiful
@casioamplifier
@casioamplifier Жыл бұрын
Seems like you watched that Netflix show atypical
@farhiafarah6954
@farhiafarah6954 Жыл бұрын
Who iam is who iam.extly
@My_name_is_moona
@My_name_is_moona Жыл бұрын
She is so lucky to have a mum like you
@sactownstringsalatestarter4982
@sactownstringsalatestarter4982 Жыл бұрын
“Unhappiness is purely the result of comparison.” -Soren Kierkegaard
@GirlsintheHimalaya
@GirlsintheHimalaya 2 жыл бұрын
That is so true - I dont want the lives that others have, I just want the same happiness and feeling! I spent a long time struggle with my choice of life, since many of my friends from college went to big companies and seem to have a great life in the conventional viewpoint. But I just feel like I cannot be like them. My passion and joy are channelled elsewhere - in the nature, in the spirituality of ordinary and traditional living way. And that doesnt mean I will achieve less in my life, the outside doesnt count, the inside feeling of happiness counts. So I moved to the land of Tibet and live in a rural village, a very surprise choice to many of my friends. It ends up really well, I feel like when I finally follow my intuition, I can trully see and acknowledge my own value, I stopped comparing with others, and find real peace in my heart. That is such a great experience. Thank you so much for your sharing this week!🥰
@phyllisharries2742
@phyllisharries2742 2 жыл бұрын
How lovely, I wish you happiness in your new life and admire you for following your heart ❤️
@GirlsintheHimalaya
@GirlsintheHimalaya 2 жыл бұрын
@@phyllisharries2742 thank you so much
@marian9866
@marian9866 2 жыл бұрын
Amazing ! Wishing you all the best. I have always wanted to travel to Tibet. Just subscribed to your channel :)
@GirlsintheHimalaya
@GirlsintheHimalaya 2 жыл бұрын
@@marian9866 OMG thank you so much! I hope you are very well.
@madeleinerecknagel3457
@madeleinerecknagel3457 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your story!! I think you are not alone... i spent too much time thinking what I should do with my overpriced college degree, with which I have never felt connect too. I love being connected to nature at all levels. I love our community garden and the feeling it gives me. Sending you love to Tibet! Following your own intuition and heart is the right way to go.
@Vipzy1
@Vipzy1 2 жыл бұрын
This hits so close to home, I was almost brought to tears. Thank you for talking about these topics, you are an inspiration!
@Macon-xh5ik
@Macon-xh5ik 2 жыл бұрын
Yes Indeed 😍 she is an inspiration...love it.
@outdoorhannah
@outdoorhannah 2 жыл бұрын
she inspires me so so much. I love to binge watch all her videos when I need a sense of calm
@frankcrespo1161
@frankcrespo1161 2 жыл бұрын
Get off social media people 🙄 😴 😒 🤣
@chirrlwhatley297
@chirrlwhatley297 2 жыл бұрын
It's a G Thing Frank
@bettybveleztorres4031
@bettybveleztorres4031 Жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree 💯 , I dealing with the same actions in my life. But I do want to write a story book of my life one day I will inspire others around the world. Thank you
@rebeccastone3301
@rebeccastone3301 2 жыл бұрын
I know it’s EASY to say, “Don’t OVERTHINK things.” But, in reality, for a person (or child) who questions many things in or about life … is a sign of high intelligence and great AWARENESS. Thinking there was something wrong about you or your lifestyle is what brought you here today. There’s absolutely NOTHING wrong about you. There’s everything absolutely CORRECT about you. Distract yourself with all the beauty around you. Love … and be Loved
@joyberly4409
@joyberly4409 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. 😊
@melrmontez
@melrmontez Жыл бұрын
Thank you. I needed to hear this today.
@jonkennedy6595
@jonkennedy6595 Жыл бұрын
I always had that tendency to question things and I felt that something wrong with that
@itsmejanny
@itsmejanny 2 жыл бұрын
In Zen it is said, "The more you seek rest through doing, the more restless you become." You are fortunate to be learning such wisdom at such a young age.
@melanieapel3595
@melanieapel3595 2 жыл бұрын
This reminds me of something very wise I read the other day, in relation to wanting what someone else has. "The statement, 'I am not equipped to handle what they have, both good and bad', has been one of the greatest realizations God has given me. Every situation has both good and bad. When I want someone else's good, I must realize that I'm also asking for the bad that comes along with it. It's always a package deal. And usually if I'll just give something enough time to unfold, I can often be found thanking God that I didn't get someone else's package."
@ShaliniNegi24
@ShaliniNegi24 2 жыл бұрын
so perfectly put ❤
@returnoftheromans6726
@returnoftheromans6726 Жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this. Thank you!!!
@jennifergaver1239
@jennifergaver1239 Жыл бұрын
Very wise. Easy to forget this. Thank you for the reminder.
@nicoleohara1797
@nicoleohara1797 2 жыл бұрын
Comparison is the thief of joy!!
@carolm.d.6967
@carolm.d.6967 2 жыл бұрын
I love this phrase, I can see the reflection of my life in it.
@outdoorhannah
@outdoorhannah 2 жыл бұрын
so so trueee!
@a.katherinesuetterlin3028
@a.katherinesuetterlin3028 2 жыл бұрын
"Comparison is odious." -- Wm Shakespeare
@judyt.5702
@judyt.5702 2 жыл бұрын
Truth. That is a lesson i have learned late in life.♥️🌄🌻
@joegriffin3001
@joegriffin3001 Жыл бұрын
You are so right
@astridverastegui
@astridverastegui 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve wasted time comparing myself to others and envying the more fortunate: the rich girl whose father pays for her Paris trip; the pretty women with the cycle of disposable boyfriends; people who were more organized; those who had a clear idea of what they wanted to do with their lives. I thought those who had a seemed advantage had a strategy or a mental/physical feature I’d never possess, and I’d hate myself for not having the same advantages, completely forgetting I’ve a talent of my own which I wasn’t utilizing. Envy is borne from comparison. “Why shouldn’t I have what she has?” Envy is a horrible thing that can eat us up from the inside. I’ve had health issues that made me realize how ridiculous it is to worry about things that I can’t control. A professor once said “I’m not better than you, I’m just ahead of you.” Meaning we shouldn’t compare our progress to anyone else’s. My hairstylist also said “None of us are Beyoncé, and none of us will ever be.” Lesson? Accept you won’t be the idealized person you compare yourself to, and live your life as completely as possible. I forget what I’ve learned sometimes, but I’m trying to be better… I watch your lovely videos before bed, and they’re a peaceful way to end a day. 🌷
@morethanamess1980
@morethanamess1980 Жыл бұрын
Wow, I wish some of my teachers who were at the elementary and secondary level were the same way.
@HomeHunter-in-Moscow
@HomeHunter-in-Moscow 2 жыл бұрын
I didn’t even know such life-style exists nowadays! It’s soooo peaceful, calm and reassuring! ✨
@alfonsoreynosa8143
@alfonsoreynosa8143 Жыл бұрын
It doesnt unless we create it
@HomeHunter-in-Moscow
@HomeHunter-in-Moscow Жыл бұрын
@@alfonsoreynosa8143 so true!
@timlaporte5231
@timlaporte5231 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely wonderful message and images, Paola. It's funny to say but in telling us about your pets shedding at a seasonal change made me think, we as humans should consider doing the same. Rid ourselves of old habits that are not relevant to a happier existence. They may have served us at one time, but it may be time for a reexamination. Thank you for what you do.
@outdoorhannah
@outdoorhannah 2 жыл бұрын
oh my gosh, yes, we should! but how does one do that? writing, maybe? leaving some stuff behind / on paper. shedding words. something like that..
@a.katherinesuetterlin3028
@a.katherinesuetterlin3028 2 жыл бұрын
@@outdoorhannah In my own journey, I have found that cutting stuff out that doesn't serve my higher purpose isn't just a "once and done" proposition. As Paola has said, the journey isn't linear. I can personally attest to the truth of this. We may want an old habit gone just like that, but it can take a while to make the changes necessary, owing to the way human brain wiring is, evolution-wise. As to how one might start such a process: I have found that various forms of journaling can reveal both unhealthy patterns as well as where I want to be -- the healthy patterns I want to cultivate. Sometimes I "free-write" stuff on my laptop, and sometimes it's in a spiral notebook of some sort, and sometimes I track things with a bullet journal, and then write my impressions of how I am doing in either the laptop or notebook. But that's me. You do whatever calls to your soul. Just remember that like cultivating a garden, changing your life takes time. There's no way around it. But as it is often said, the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. 🤗🤗
@glennapartin4096
@glennapartin4096 Жыл бұрын
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@fizzahmehr5956
@fizzahmehr5956 Жыл бұрын
U have power to shape ur pwn reality
@elevationview673
@elevationview673 2 жыл бұрын
I have been in tears this week, and my grief for my wife still overwhelms me even after 2 years. My solace is watching cottage fairy videos that lift my spirits. Thank you.
@claralewis9574
@claralewis9574 2 жыл бұрын
Sending light n ❤️
@outdoorhannah
@outdoorhannah 2 жыл бұрын
So sorry for your loss, its so good we can all have a sense of calm by watching Paolas videos.
@WeEducateAndTutor
@WeEducateAndTutor 2 жыл бұрын
😔im so sorry to hear that
@lindagreene6437
@lindagreene6437 2 жыл бұрын
Peace&Prayers to you, time will dry your tears & comfort w/ precious memories of the years you had together.. lcg
@user-cy9vd7rl4h
@user-cy9vd7rl4h 2 жыл бұрын
"What is grief, if not love enduring?" I'm sorry for your loss.
@Zinbin15
@Zinbin15 Жыл бұрын
I remember having the same realization in high school…. That I didn’t want to look like someone else, but I wanted the confidence and peace that I perceived in other people. I still need that reminder today.
@chebbiereadsandknits672
@chebbiereadsandknits672 2 жыл бұрын
So true. Comparison takes away our joy. Reminds me of the quote, “Be the best you. Everyone else is taken.”
@foamandfog3112
@foamandfog3112 2 жыл бұрын
As a freshman in college, the past few months I’ve felt myself all over the place. I didn’t quite know what I wanted to do, and being a stem major it was hard seeing all my other stem friends who knew exactly what they wanted to do. I am an artist, first and foremost, and In a world of absolutes such as that of stem I’ve been feeling very lost. A few weeks ago, I discovered your channel. I don’t know what about your videos has helped me so deeply but I finally feel that the never ending buzz of anxiety in my head has finally began to quiet down. I’ve been working hard at my studies, but after, in the calm tranquility of night, I paint. I’ve been collecting and drying flowers, painting and sketching deer and small blooms, and reading as much as I can. I’ve been able to take a step away from my laptop, and while I wouldn’t say that I know who I am, it definitely feels like a start. Sitting down and just watching the warm shifting tones of your videos, and hearing your calm dialogue, has been such a blessing during this busy semester. I truly, truly thank you for the content you put out there. It’s helped me take a step back, and figure out who I am.
@phyllisharries2742
@phyllisharries2742 2 жыл бұрын
Best wishes for your future, you will do well for sure.
@txspacemom765
@txspacemom765 2 жыл бұрын
Keep feeding your soul.
@sangeetarsoubans
@sangeetarsoubans 2 жыл бұрын
happy for you
@deadinside8781
@deadinside8781 2 жыл бұрын
I feel lost too except that the things I love doing, I can't get to doing them because it hurts. Like I'm afraid to feel good because it doesn't last and I feel bad every other time. I really hope you're happy and healthy for many years to come.
@a.katherinesuetterlin3028
@a.katherinesuetterlin3028 2 жыл бұрын
Maybe the question you might want to ask yourself is 'Why am I in a STEM major when my soul wants art?' Too often, we find ourselves bowing down to what our families or society think we should be or do. We let external influences in so much that we lose sight and sound connection to our souls. It's time for us all on this planet to decide what we want based on our soul desires and not what we get told to be or do. Look within, and your soul will always speak loud and clear. You have taken some good steps towards listening. Keep going. 😁🤗
@mr2001
@mr2001 2 жыл бұрын
“Dear YOU, don’t compare yourself to ANYONE. Your Unique Self is empowered, powerful, and unstoppable! Your uniqueness is what makes you incomparable! Don’t underestimate the beauty of just being YOU.”😊 ― Stephanie Lahart
@susanmutten2811
@susanmutten2811 2 жыл бұрын
That’s lovely
@MerriHome
@MerriHome 2 жыл бұрын
❤️
@rejaneberclaz3331
@rejaneberclaz3331 2 жыл бұрын
Exato!🤗
@janemwanu6228
@janemwanu6228 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@morethanamess1980
@morethanamess1980 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this ❤ 💗
@_SomyaY
@_SomyaY 2 жыл бұрын
I stopped being jealous of others, by recognising, that whatever they achieved, they worked for it. And obviously, with a stroke of luck, everything worked out. Luck comes to those who prepare for it. And just let it stay a while, every river has its own path, spem go through forests and some go by temples. But it works out, they all got brought their life. In a few years, you realise, what you actually wanted, was not what you were doing. And then you work from there.
@darkrulier
@darkrulier Жыл бұрын
Be content with who you are and with what you have, love your friends and family, live within your means and don't owe anything. Those to me are the key and will prevent you from comparing your life to others.
@paulinecallahan6888
@paulinecallahan6888 2 жыл бұрын
We always think the grass is greener on the other side. When I was younger I always thought if I could graduate from a certain career it would bring me happiness but 25 years later I have realized you have to be happy within yourself . You are enough just by being you. ❤ Thank you for the reminder.
@gwen9620
@gwen9620 2 жыл бұрын
I feel as though, I am watching a young Beatrix Potter. Artist, lover of nature and creator of beautiful things. xo
@tammydietschweiler7852
@tammydietschweiler7852 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve been sick going on 7 years and it is very difficult to accept. I don’t compare myself with others, but I miss my health. The most important thing in life is our precious health, before anything else in life. 💕 It must come first.
@nawaroukhouy5836
@nawaroukhouy5836 Жыл бұрын
Life can be so very difficult it's up and down we must prepare ourselves to manage and pass all the obstacles. I pray you to have support from doctors and friends you can fall into to give you good health and mood. You are not alone God is always with us.
@tammydietschweiler7852
@tammydietschweiler7852 Жыл бұрын
@@nawaroukhouy5836 Thank you! Not much has changed although I have new doctors and hope to relieve some of the pain from my health issues. I take each day as it comes and always feel God will guide me to peace!🌸😊🌸
@nawaroukhouy5836
@nawaroukhouy5836 Жыл бұрын
​@@tammydietschweiler7852I'm very happy to hear that you are well, Sure this is a hard time for you but it's temporary only, One day that will be just a memory and hard experience, “Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes around in another form.” ― Rumi May Allah help you
@niyu4218
@niyu4218 Жыл бұрын
Oh man I did this too many times.. Other women got married, got babies and I was struggling with my masters degree and my job. I felt unhappy and unloved. I compared my life to those people because I thought they were super happy . But I recognized that they had other problems and struggles.
@mutmainnahin9680
@mutmainnahin9680 Жыл бұрын
👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
@frederiquedelage1831
@frederiquedelage1831 2 жыл бұрын
"I didn't want their lives. I wanted the happiness I believed they possessed." You should copyright this sentence. I could write and talk endlessly about it. This is SO SO true. More than half of humanity want to be / or have other people's lives because they believe that they are better or happier than theirs... But when you scratch a bit, you eventually see that they also have problems and that our own life is good as it is :) It also is SO calming and appeasing when we make the experience that happiness is unique to everybody and ourselves. A massive thank you from Toulouse, France for your word and wise words!
@mymateabhi7521
@mymateabhi7521 2 жыл бұрын
To the incredible person that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life are in your hands. Keep pushing.
@peggygilbertsen9099
@peggygilbertsen9099 2 жыл бұрын
“comparison is enemy of joy” …. I love your message of positive self talk. Thank you.
@Godwinpounds4333
@Godwinpounds4333 2 жыл бұрын
Hi 👋 dear , how are you doing?
@lisaliza6428
@lisaliza6428 2 жыл бұрын
I'm in love with a scene with a bunny hair on the cinnamon roll. :) It's adorable! Everywhere in social media we see perfect relationships, bodies, jobs and so on. They seem ideal only because flaws and imperfections are deliberately hidden from us. But truth is that there is always something like this bunny hair in reality) The fact of including this small imperfection in the video is so cute and so brave! Appreciate your humor and naturalness
@RaviKumar-pp3pr
@RaviKumar-pp3pr Жыл бұрын
you are very beautiful ❤❤❤❤❤❤
@Vipzy1
@Vipzy1 2 жыл бұрын
As a 2 dogs owner, I laughed and related so much to the bunny hair garnish🤣 off topic but have you ever thought about how much fur we eat unconciously? Ahhh the prices we pay for being happy animal moms💖
@TheCottageFairy
@TheCottageFairy 2 жыл бұрын
Hehe! Whenever I make dinner for my fiance and he finds a dog hair in it, he thanks my dog for being so thoughtful to put extra protein in his meal! We are all looking out for each other here 😂
@Vipzy1
@Vipzy1 2 жыл бұрын
@@TheCottageFairy you gotta love the extra protein and their🐶🐰 efforts on keeping us well fed🤣 ain't nothing going to waste in this house
@mysticmom616
@mysticmom616 2 жыл бұрын
I live with cat hair on me and all that I own and likely a lot that I eat!😂
@GIZMOCHEYENNE
@GIZMOCHEYENNE 2 жыл бұрын
Or spiders while we sleep. Or our own hairs! 😆❣
@MinyTheWild
@MinyTheWild 2 жыл бұрын
I haven't commented on a youtube video in about ten years, but I love your videos so much I feel like I HAVE to tell you. I'm studying to be a barrister at the moment (for those not in the UK - those lawyers with the daft robes and wigs) and totally relate to being a competitive student. I'm doing 50 hour weeks and still feeling like I'm not doing enough because I'm not the best of the best. But this course has helped me realise that I don't have to be. I can have a career and life that I love without 'beating' everyone else. This has been really difficult for me to accept, and I've been watching your videos whenever it gets too stressful. You've been such a great help to make me slow down without feeling guilty about it. Thanks so much
@carolewalker2486
@carolewalker2486 Жыл бұрын
As an English woman who has lived out of the country for many, many years, I had a laugh at the word you used "daft". I haven't heard the word in years and I am not sure Americans would understand it but it brought back memories for me. Thank you.
@reneepasich
@reneepasich 2 жыл бұрын
Paola, look at this beautiful community you have helped create! Thank you! And a big thanks to my “friends” here who have left such comforting and thoughtful words. We are so blessed.
@ShadeCandle
@ShadeCandle 2 жыл бұрын
I relate to this so strongly, the envy, despair and self-loathing that comes from comparing ourselves to others. It's truly wonderful that you've learned this so young. It's funny, I was once a happy introvert, but in my mid-30s I have found myself increasingly lonely, and idealizing the lives of the extroverts I see parading around in their jovial groups... and yet I know that when I try to be that kind of person, it's a harsh self-abandonment that leaves me emotionally devastated. I hope to find my way back to a peaceful acceptance of my nature, but I sure am lost these days. That said, your channel is a beacon of light, a reminder of the beauty in solitary existence. I've been enjoying your videos for the past year or two, and want you to know how grateful I am for the work that you put into them.
@PeachesSkinCare
@PeachesSkinCare 2 жыл бұрын
Good Morning 🌞 This was so beautiful! Forgive me if I have said this before but I have always told my children, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. I find this helps when you stop to remember you are here to find your path and your journey. When we compare to others it simply brings us down and takes away the joy. I say this with what I do, that to many women especially are changing who they are or fearing the journey of age and life and they are all starting to look the same, frozen faces and big lips and more. All because they look at social media or the beauty industry and they continually compare and don’t realize their uniqueness and beauty. Embracing who you are and the beauty of your life will make you happier. Stay in the moment and when you start to compare or go down that hole, simply stop and think about 3 things you are grateful for. At 56 I realize the time in my life wasted by comparing and being envious or upset I hadn’t achieved something that was not my path. I do have goals and I do strive but above all I remain grateful for the life I have and the experiences that are mine. Blessings 🍑🧡🙌🏻Lisa
@cmf0627
@cmf0627 2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful! I too see life through spiritual eyes & know that everything is for my highest good! All of life's lessons are here to teach us!
@PeachesSkinCare
@PeachesSkinCare 2 жыл бұрын
@@cmf0627 Amen🧡
@pammoore3447
@pammoore3447 2 жыл бұрын
So well said. Thank you
@PeachesSkinCare
@PeachesSkinCare 2 жыл бұрын
@@pammoore3447 Thank you for your kindness. 🙌🏻🍑🧡
@swetha3103
@swetha3103 Жыл бұрын
You have no idea how much this is helping me. I was caught up in a narcissistic abuse where he made my life seem small and insignificant to the point where I started questioning my reality and became nihilistic. It was the scariest place to be. Now I am slowly finding my way to the person I used to be. A person who was totally accepting and choosing to be content with what she has. Yo videos has brought me so much peace. And am slowly learning say that I am enough as I am,
@user-jr5vy6bj6v
@user-jr5vy6bj6v 2 жыл бұрын
I like your calm voice. I often talk silently in my mind with myself and I hear this voice talks to me from inner world.
@ATreat-lt9kh
@ATreat-lt9kh 2 жыл бұрын
This is so relatable. As someone who frequently compares her life to others, tends to set her worth according to credentials, cherishes a simple life yet often wishes for something more, and struggles with an inferiority complex despite having no real desire to change herself, it means a lot to hear the perspective of someone who has managed to overcome a similar situation. Thank you for sharing. 💚
@aihposnovember1155
@aihposnovember1155 Жыл бұрын
I'm currently in that phase and it is truly hard having your own mind breaks you down. But seeing that we all struggle with this gives me hope to continue and to strengthen my faith with God.
@jred1838
@jred1838 2 жыл бұрын
yes, I heard your message of not comparing and being happy within your own skin. BUT, can I just say I LOVE you hair!! You do inspire me to be content and love myself and surroundings. I actually painted a nursery painting for my daughter's new baby room. This was inspired by my son who was visiting and bought canvases, acrylic paint and brushes and said, "Let's do something creative and each paint a canvas". We ALL said "I can't paint", but persistence on his part had us looking up Pinterest ideas and low and behold, they were great! It was a wonderful time of bonding and something very personal for our new loved one that she can cherish in the future.
@arianahoule7223
@arianahoule7223 2 жыл бұрын
How delightful. I'm sure the love in the painting will bless all who enter this room.
@jonothandoeser
@jonothandoeser 2 жыл бұрын
I've always thought that Paola could be a model if she had wanted. She's so beautiful and stylish.
@FrancescoCaraArt
@FrancescoCaraArt 2 жыл бұрын
Today was a really hard day for me, I had so many bad thoughts that I felt suffocated. I am an artist and today I am not satisfied with my artwork that I have done, I have not been able to paint in any way. This made me question my abilities so much. Thanks Paola for this video, it warmed my heart and made me be less hard with myself.
@alysiam3559
@alysiam3559 2 жыл бұрын
Your art is beautiful! God definitely gave you a gift!
@FrancescoCaraArt
@FrancescoCaraArt 2 жыл бұрын
@@alysiam3559 thank you so much for your kindness, your comment made me feel better!♡♡♡
@joangillen1260
@joangillen1260 Жыл бұрын
Thank you 😊 You truly are an inspiration to this 75 year old woman, who is constantly working to improve myself. 😊
@arismukti2531
@arismukti2531 2 жыл бұрын
Ive been recently broke up with my girlfriend, as a broken home child. Its feel really painful since many people including me thought she was my second home. Your channel really help me someway to calm me down and tell everything gonna be okay. I hope for everyone find their happiness eventually.
@ronnie0573
@ronnie0573 Жыл бұрын
God Bless you 🙏
@nealsterling8151
@nealsterling8151 2 жыл бұрын
It's important to recognize who you are as a person and live accordingly, instead of trying to be someone else. It's hard to find someone as young as she is with this kind of wisdom. Sending much postive energy.
@Jwaydanofficial
@Jwaydanofficial 2 жыл бұрын
It's hard because we're deeply sensitive people that prefer to keep our wisdom and lives to ourselves but there are many of us out there :) I think it's just that we don't like to share because we're very protective of our energy and space 💜
@bink865
@bink865 2 жыл бұрын
One must often learn this lesson repeatedly
@jessicatoussaint9140
@jessicatoussaint9140 2 жыл бұрын
I love you embrace your journey. How healing through your ED and growing is so beautiful. I come from a lot of childhood trauma/abuse. I plan to move out as my environment is not conductive to my growth mentally. But I know that when I do leave behind the toxicity and abuse, that a new place won’t magically cure my problems. My traumas will be a part of me no matter where I go or what I do. Healing the inner childhood wound will be a life process and will take effort. I plan to always prioritize my mental health as I know I will need to to live
@lakemichigan6598
@lakemichigan6598 2 жыл бұрын
Many people who go through trauma like you repeat it with their own children. You've been subject to a very traumatic & painful education - but through all this, you have been taught the lesson of exactly what NOT to do in the future to the people you care about & love. So please, take this education to heart. Go out there & change the world! - it is essential to your healing.
@amberhawke
@amberhawke 2 жыл бұрын
Do see a counsellor if you can afford it. Our daughter went through some trauma, and the police detective told us to get her to counseling as soon as we could. I truly believe that because we acted swiftly, today she is a bright, happy energized college teenager, her scars have been healed (or at least minimized.)
@a.katherinesuetterlin3028
@a.katherinesuetterlin3028 2 жыл бұрын
I am so proud of you for these steps you are taking to move out and really start healing. Sending you hugs -- from someone who has been there. 🤗🤗
@celestiade
@celestiade Жыл бұрын
The moment I earned the highest respect for my teacher was when she said "Just be yourself. Yes, you should have a competitive mind but don't turn it into something toxic. Compete with yourself. But the most important thing is to just be yourself."
@caitlyn449
@caitlyn449 2 жыл бұрын
I love this message. Achieving one’s goals isn’t what you expect it to be. I am quite a perfectionist and I always try to do everything at once but I often overwhelm myself. I really do have to try everyday to just take one step at a time and enjoy each moment as it comes. It’s funny because from the outside I feel as if people see me as quiet calm person who’s always content but on the inside my mind is constantly spinning with all the ways I could possibly improve EVERYTHING! I’m still learning on how to be fully in the present but I’m also still aspiring for my dreams. I believe this combination is key for a life that is both fruitful and filled with contentment.
@morethanamess1980
@morethanamess1980 Жыл бұрын
You described my exact feelings PERFECTLY
@caitlyn449
@caitlyn449 Жыл бұрын
😉
@caitlyn449
@caitlyn449 Жыл бұрын
😉
@niknoks6387
@niknoks6387 2 жыл бұрын
You do you Paola, that’s the best advice I was given, I kept comparing myself to other teachers. I feel a lot more happy now I don’t teach, my creativity has returned, slowly but surely. I am learning a lot from you, especially from your sweet tooth 😉. I love this channel. ❤️🇬🇧
@madisonkiesel3910
@madisonkiesel3910 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve got to say, I love your videos! They are so calming and relaxing and like a miniature film every time 🤍🥺 you’ve inspired me in so many ways
@TheCottageFairy
@TheCottageFairy 2 жыл бұрын
❤️ Thank you so much
@juhibansiwal6678
@juhibansiwal6678 Жыл бұрын
I think you're living the life I dream of everyday. You're truly blessed.
@simbajohn1882
@simbajohn1882 Жыл бұрын
Life becomes alot less stressful when we stop worrying about what other people (except family) think. When you reduce the amount of people in your life and have a few select friends, it seems to enlighten you in many ways.
@phyllisharries2742
@phyllisharries2742 2 жыл бұрын
Dear Paola, everything is beautiful about you, your handwriting, the beautiful valley where you live, the way you cook, everything! Life is confusing and it good to hear you discussing how you are coping with all the issues it brings. You are amazing. Sorry to hear about your dog!
@leelanikolopoulos2902
@leelanikolopoulos2902 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for inspiring us, little fairy ! it''s true! The butterflies will start appearing soon, along with the bees! The birds have already started their courting chirping early in the morning! Still cold, but the signs of Spring are multiplying by the day! Love from Greece!
@amberhawke
@amberhawke 2 жыл бұрын
And so will the mosquitos and ants! 😀
@torreycat7716
@torreycat7716 Жыл бұрын
I love what you said… “Life is a forward and backwards [dance].”
@nelzg5819
@nelzg5819 Жыл бұрын
Her life is sooooooo beautiful. I watch just to get a taste of it. Such a beautiful life
@nairbvel
@nairbvel 2 жыл бұрын
My poor niece (7th grader) is a perfectionist and is also a member of a competitive dance team. I've been working with her to develop the idea that she's in competition only with herself, no one else -- and that by competing only with herself, as long as she shows up there's no actual "winner" or "loser" in the room. If she doesn't get straight A's in school but actually learned something, then that's fine; if she doesn't "place" in the competition but feels good about her performance, then it's all good. She is slowly (oh so slowly) coming around to truly accept that idea, and we've been able to see her anxiety over certain things slowly easing and fading. It's far too easy for us to get caught up in "keeping up with the Joneses" and showing the world our worth by measuring it only in relation to what we've gotten/done in relation to what others have gotten/done.... that whole "he who dies with the most toys wins" philosophy. Thank you for (another) wonderful video -- I plan to sit down & watch it again but this time with my niece in a couple of days. :-)
@Maloud24
@Maloud24 Жыл бұрын
You are so true in what you do and say. Real gem on youtube. Good to have you
@jacksmancave170
@jacksmancave170 2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes being content is better--easier--than being happy. I've found that trying to be happy can be tiring sometimes. And that makes me unhappy. I've been through travails, as have we all, and now, in my old(er) age, I'm generally content, with bright bursts of real happiness that come more from my relationships with my friends, my children, and my grandchildren more than from a need to have this, do that, etc. You have so much wisdom, drawn from personal introspection, and it makes me think more about who I am, where I'm at. Thank you.
@lalobausa2851
@lalobausa2851 2 жыл бұрын
So true Paola. I was older than you when I finally realized I like myself and would not want to be anyone else. Sending you blessings❄🌲
@alanlawrence2954
@alanlawrence2954 Жыл бұрын
You have gone to the top of my list... of the nicest, most wholesome lady I know on KZbin. I love gentle soothing, articulate, voices. I also adore artistic people and picturesque environments. I'm a professional artist, or was, I write and storyboard for my own pleasure these days. I'm twice divorced and, like you, currently live on my own in a two-bedroom apartment. Retirement means I can do what I like, when I like. No boss on my back, no art studio deadlines to stress about, no wife nagging me to cut the grass or find a boring job to generate more money... that would be spent on futile knickknacks - frippery I don't need... Stay happy, keep smiling, keep posting.
@kima260
@kima260 2 жыл бұрын
You seem to have a special way of awakening things in people. Thank you for your soft and tender kindness. Kim-
@Atilah1
@Atilah1 Жыл бұрын
You know you make me think twice about my life, feeling that life is not about what we expect but it's about what we live everyday❤❤❤
@katerinakucharova3221
@katerinakucharova3221 10 ай бұрын
Hello BEAUTIFUL fairy, Paola! You are WISE beyond your years...wiser than many old people. An INSPIRATION, a JOY to look at and to listen to. May GOD bless you always in JESUS´ name. Amen. Lots of love from Kat in England, UK X
@amyblaine7624
@amyblaine7624 2 жыл бұрын
You always somehow manage to deliver the right messages exactly when I need them. You’re only a few years older than me, but I look up to you a lot. Your level of love and compassion towards everything and everyone and yourself is incredibly admirable.
@maglan8
@maglan8 Жыл бұрын
is there anyone love her quiet and soft voice like me ?it's so enthralling 💚
8 ай бұрын
I saw one of the bunnies there! ❤ I want to let you know that when you send your good wishes at the end of each video, they come through as incredibly honest and heartfelt in a way it’s rather rare these days. You are an incredibly beautiful person. I wish you a beautiful day. ❤
@rajexecutivemoreedthaniasi6971
@rajexecutivemoreedthaniasi6971 2 жыл бұрын
Excellent post Title "How I stopped comparing my life to others - success should be re-defined. Others should learn from you.
@nancybrown2700
@nancybrown2700 2 жыл бұрын
It took me many years of reciting the "Serenity Prayer" before I came to the realization that the goal was simply to obtain Serenity. Always seeking that which that gave me the most serenity in every moment became the path for me to Iive my best, most productive, and contented life. Your videos are truly serene and add greatly to my day. The juxtaposition of your artistry and your bunny makes me smile and makes my heart sing. Thank you for gracing us with your serene thought-provoking and beautiful videos.
@kathrynmacelhiney5087
@kathrynmacelhiney5087 2 жыл бұрын
"It's so easy to be hard on yourself when you know who you want to be." Wow, thank you. I caused myself stress today doing this. But...tomorrow I will be better! Thank you for your videos.
@simmichawla1176
@simmichawla1176 Жыл бұрын
God! Your channel is so refreshing, you actually don't realize but you are sending very peaceful vibrations ,strong but peaceful . That one should always love the life they are given or make it nicer by your own efforts. A bit late in life but gradually i am trying to find my own happiness
@phyllisanngodfrey6137
@phyllisanngodfrey6137 2 жыл бұрын
You are such a gentle, artistic soul and very sensitive. I am 71 years old and life has kicked me around a bit. I have had periods in my life of extreme stress and very heavy responsibility. I have always had a strong faith in God and I suppose that got me through. I am retired now and well beyond those earlier years. I am somewhat jaded by life, but I think that is just part of growing up. By God’s grace, I never doubted my ability to cope with it all. I “enjoy” life more now. I appreciate the little things and people a lot more with more time and less stress. Life “is what it is”. You just take it as it comes. They say ‘what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger”. My best advice…..Hang in there, find joy where you can, give what you can, but don’t be afraid to ‘ take’ when you need to. God gave you all you need to be what He created you to be and to do what He acted you to do. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
@pilgrim.on.a.narrow.road.
@pilgrim.on.a.narrow.road. 2 жыл бұрын
What a lovely video, as always! I’m actually doing some reflecting and decluttering right now. Have a lovely week as well!
@Existentialnausea
@Existentialnausea 2 жыл бұрын
I love watching you cook. I hope you'll do more of it in your videos. I can just imagine how heavenly your home smelled, with that cinnamon. Cinnamon evokes so many pure memories for me. I was strolling through Target yesterday & wandered over to the book aisle. I looked over to the cookbooks & lifestyle books & for a moment, I was looking for your book.... your book that isn't out yet. I hope one day, you'll do a lifestyle book with various crafts that you do. You are so splendid to watch. ~ Heather
@annanorris1646
@annanorris1646 Жыл бұрын
I appreciate your gentle words..you feel like a wise young friend in a world so full of superficiality . Thank you.
@giselet158
@giselet158 2 жыл бұрын
I laughed when I saw the bunny hair because I absolutely can relate to that. My dogs hair always makes it onto my plate. 🤣
@cherylgoff8955
@cherylgoff8955 2 жыл бұрын
Contentment is the magic ingredient ❣️ thank you for sharing your thoughts and peaceful activities 🙏
@shenequadupree6539
@shenequadupree6539 2 жыл бұрын
AWWWW, SIMPLICITY AT IT'S BEST, LOVE YOUR CONTENT, YOUR LIVING WAYS AND JUST THE NORMAL AND SUBSTAINELY WAY OF LIFE, I LOVE IT!!! THIS IS EXACTLY WHY I MOVED AS WELL, I ENJOY PEACE, AND LOVING MYSELF.
@shannonchristie-wickham8453
@shannonchristie-wickham8453 2 жыл бұрын
You put this beautifully and with just caring and kindness. It is hard to be kind to oneself . Thank you for inspiration. I am 54 and just figuring out how to love myself and know it is OK to be content where I am. To resist the pressure to achieve more and more. I received my lovely order from your shop last week and am so excited to have one of your creations!
@1888starz
@1888starz 2 жыл бұрын
Being a woman one always feels a little unsure as we live in a world that says we must be perfect. But the older I get I realize life is more about accepting your individual uniqueness and just being who you are without any pretences. I am grateful every day to see the sun shine, the birds go about their days flitting & chirping their happiness, life is beautiful if we give thanks. The world is a beautiful place to be in. Hugs
@msdee2905
@msdee2905 2 жыл бұрын
I have had to learn to stop comparing myself to others. Just accept who I am and what I have. I went back to school to get my Masters Degree in Health Administration hoping it would advance my career in the $100,000 and then the pandemic came and changed everything. I just want to live life and be happy with Gods blessings big and small. I started gardening in pandemic when grocery stores ran out of food. Your videos are so calming during this turmoil times we live in.
@shannonchristine1426
@shannonchristine1426 2 жыл бұрын
After being paralyzed in a car accident, I always compared myself to other people and their lives. Thank you for talking about meaningful topics! Also, if you like, “How To Be a Wildflower”, maybe you should check out, “How To Be a Moonflower”, by the same author. After just discovering you in the past month and binge watching all of your videos, it’s safe to say that I’m a good person to recommend you books seeing how we have nearly the exact same taste in literature lol.
@barbarafalke9507
@barbarafalke9507 2 жыл бұрын
It is almost a meditation to listen to you and your thoughts about life! Thank you so much for the time you dedicate to your videos and the moments you share!😘
@uschis.4045
@uschis.4045 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Paola for your constant inspiration. Before I came online today I made my own candles and I also made some natural whipped body butter from organic butters and oils. After cleaning the kitchen I made myself comfortable on the couch to watch your weekly video. And this is when I realized how much I already got inspired by you! I love how you do your tasks totally focused. You not only mix some dough together ... you prepare a nice cup of tea first and light some candles. You make your space of work cozy and enjoyable. This is the most relaxing time of the day when I just start with one thing and find myself occupied for hours with creative ongoing, forgetting daily life for a bit. Sending you love and hugs from Malta, the tiny island in the midst of the Mediterranean Sea in the South of Europe.
@sliverofamoment
@sliverofamoment 2 жыл бұрын
This video feels so real. I made a video about transforming comparison back in December and I was so in it that month. The anxiety around comparison is a bit weaker right now but I feel like comparison is THE lesson in my life. I’m really trying to imagine a world where instead of trying to set myself apart with comparison, comparison actually offers an opportunity to build connections and spawn creativity. It’s vulnerable to admire others openly. I’ve definitely not figured it all out and our world is often organized in a way where people profit from comparison, but at least awareness bring choice and choice brings freedom.
@feylights166
@feylights166 2 жыл бұрын
When I was in college, I thought when I graduated, everything would kind of...fall into place, and I would be happy in my career. That...hasn't happened. Instead, I find myself in jobs I hate, and I have been feeling like life is passing me by, but I am trying to focus on what matters to me.
@nihar4713
@nihar4713 Жыл бұрын
Wow this hit home, I didn’t want their life , i wanted the happiness i believe they possessed, i have been so hard and cruel to myself
@jeremyryan656
@jeremyryan656 2 жыл бұрын
"Be Yourself, everyone else is already taken" Oscar Wilde
@plumsparkles945
@plumsparkles945 2 жыл бұрын
Your videos always calm me down and put me in a good mood. Thank you for that.
@persephonel2117
@persephonel2117 2 жыл бұрын
Your life is really everything I dreamed of as a little girl and beyond. I was an artist too and wanted nothing more than to settle down in a cottage surrounded by green things and animals one day. I was obsessed with fairy tales and daydreams. In high school I succumbed to drug addiction though, and it led me down a ten year long destructive path that I deeply regret ever going down. Living in a big city, slowly forgetting who I was, and I lost my creativity too. All for some small fleeting escape. I am doing good now. Been clean for several years and have two amazing children. But it’s hard not to compare all the time. Constantly thinking about how my life would be different or better if I hadn’t taken the path I did. How much more I would have to offer my kids. All the things I could have been. I’m now approaching my mid-30’s and I struggle with this everyday. Constantly feeling like can’t appreciate what I have because I’m constantly aware that I could and should have achieved so much more. I hope it’s not too late for me to find my peace. Your videos really inspire me to connect with that inner child, that dreamer. I want to make her proud and create a life for myself that she would love.
@azzeyamaepadua1053
@azzeyamaepadua1053 2 жыл бұрын
"This is enough. I am content with the way things are." ❤️❤️
@nobody-hp6ik
@nobody-hp6ik 2 жыл бұрын
This video came up right as I was comparing myself to my sister. I felt like I needed to watch it. Thank you.
@peggyfreeman8873
@peggyfreeman8873 2 жыл бұрын
Oh Paola, you are so blessed. You’ve been and are such a blessing to others. It takes many of us that are older to realize how blessed we were when things we simpler and without oodles of things. When we enjoy the beauty around us that God created we are rich beyond measure. 💕🇺🇸
@nadiakutaieva3627
@nadiakutaieva3627 Жыл бұрын
Your video is like an art house movie❤
@user-mz8ge7dx4o
@user-mz8ge7dx4o Жыл бұрын
It is somewhere in aging process, learning who you are and not like others. It is so much struggles in the youth but learn to cope with yourself and accepting.
@feronipanjaitan9044
@feronipanjaitan9044 Жыл бұрын
I have wasted my time comparing myself to other people. Living my life to fit with the community I live in. Thank you for the reminders.
@ysabnatividad1862
@ysabnatividad1862 2 жыл бұрын
Oh mu gosh thank you so much for making this video😭❤️ this is exactly the kind of content i need especially since lately I've been feeling very insecure with my looks, my progress in life and i found myself envying other people around me. Thank you so much!
@fprleite
@fprleite 2 жыл бұрын
It’s always so nice to see you and hear your voice… I’ve been battling a deep depression for nearly 15 years now and I changed a lot since the beginning of this silent disease that apparently came out of nowhere. I had to change my life entirely despite my efforts to try to cope with it. For me, the hardest part is the comparison between who I am now to whom I used to be. I can’t commit to much as I can’t predict how I’ll be in a near future, or can’t cope with the anxiety of the pressure of completing a task. I am working on accepting my new reality and putting all the means in place to overcome it, however it’s not been easy… Like you I came to my family to regain my strength. Anyway, I don’t know why I wrote all that in such a public space, but there you go… Love, F.
@alysiam3559
@alysiam3559 2 жыл бұрын
Im sorry your battling this.. praying for you and hoping you come out of this stronger💗
@fprleite
@fprleite 2 жыл бұрын
@@alysiam3559 ❤️ Thank you, Alysia! I really appreciate your prayers ❤️
@fprleite
@fprleite 2 жыл бұрын
@SARAH SHULKIN ❤️ What I can say, Sarah, is that it does get better little by little. I know it takes patience, but I have hope (now, at least).❤️
@a.katherinesuetterlin3028
@a.katherinesuetterlin3028 2 жыл бұрын
You wrote what you did in this public space because you were guided to. Your soul, deep down, knows what was needed. Not just for your healing, but to let others in a similar boat know that they are not alone. I have dealt with depression and anxiety myself. Perhaps not to the extent that you have, but I do understand that the journey forward isn't always linear. I am sending my biggest prayers, angel hugs, etc. 🤗🤗😇😇🙏🙏
@fprleite
@fprleite 2 жыл бұрын
@@a.katherinesuetterlin3028 Thank you , Katherine! I am really grateful for your words and prayers ❤️
@andrewschaves6016
@andrewschaves6016 Жыл бұрын
Hello! I discovered your channel not too long ago. Your videos are beautiful and very well produced. I'm from Brazil and I've been watching your videos on studying English. His slow and paused speech helps me a lot to practice "listening". I wish you and your channel much success. A big hug! See you! 🇧🇷 😊🥰
@choudharysahabmusic3513
@choudharysahabmusic3513 Жыл бұрын
Only those who don't compare their life with others are the ones truly free. Otherwise we are not living our life, cause we compare and try to be like others
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