How Long Does It Take To Recover from an Affair?

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@ivywildwss Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Wayne. The betrayed did his betrayal when I was young, age 40 - 46, but I found it all out at age 59. To him it's all over and nothing's changed. To me, everything I thought was true is shaded despite great remorse and love of 33 yrs. So I appreciate your guidance, and reassurance, immensely. Can we repair what went wrong.

@kimrisnear3866 3 жыл бұрын

I will never get over what was done to me. I will certainly never be the same. But I will always have hope. Once you know better you do better.

@zhangyi9496 3 жыл бұрын

Same with me. I will never forget my spouses cheating on me with a co-worker.

@dan-Michigan 2 жыл бұрын

The relationship never reaches the level it once was. I loved my wife, was crazy about her. We had a lot of fun. Then it all changed. All these years with the continual reminders results in a relationship that is so much less.

@andynorton5830 Ай бұрын

The memory and effect of being g cheated on, lied to and gaslighted lasts forever

@jake8748 3 жыл бұрын

6 years and still not recovered. Tried to do it all ourselves and just 'get over it ', have travelled well most of the time but my suppressing triggers has turned into anxiety and panic attacks, depression and full ptsd symptoms. My last triggers finally mentally broke me again. I've realised the unresolved parts have been eating away inside me and changed who I was. Trying to push back up now. All I can do is hope my wife will help along the journey again.

@sherapontaoe3214 3 жыл бұрын

Please get help now. I feel for you.

@Jeradactile 3 жыл бұрын

This was me to a tee. I’m forever changed but no longer crippled by the ptsd. I hope you looking into EMDR with an Infidelity specialist. It made all the difference for me.

@dan-Michigan 2 жыл бұрын

@Dwayne Hayes the triggers still haunt me 34 years later. So sad but I never know when something will hit me hard.

@ivywildwss Жыл бұрын

@@dan-Michigan It's a huge disappointment. I found out after 32 years of marriage, that it had happened 2004-2010, twice.

@lovely3873 6 ай бұрын

Same here its been more than a year since we agreed to work for our marriage but still can feel the pain and the anger. Things like music, places, events trigger me. There were times i could almost surrender. Never thought this could be so difficult to manage.

@ggrace1133 6 ай бұрын

This is why I feel it’s best to go your separate ways. Just my observations over several decades. Forgive in time, yes, but go forward to someone worthy. Joy awaits. Who wants to suffer triggers, floods, spirals, and misery for years to come?? Life is too short. Go. Kids will adjust if you divorce amicably. It’s much healthier than living in a state of torment, anxiety, and trauma. I’ve known many, many couples in this boat. The ones who stay together never seem to be the ones they talk about here of “being better than ever, even before the betrayal.” There always seems to be wariness, suspicion, an elephant in the room, and resignation to this low-grade chronic misery. But the ones who divorce and find someone new who is trustworthy and devoted seem to be very happy, enthusiastic about life, and say they are happier than they ever were with their unfaithful spouse.

@BusygrowUk2012 3 жыл бұрын

It's been a year for me, I will never recover, she came back for 8 months then suddenly left again for her AP, causing even more damage than the 1st time she left :(

@g-level2589 3 жыл бұрын

50 months, she is not coming around, I feel more betrayed by that ,than her 7mon affair with my brother in law, my whole family has been affected and she still has an attitude 💔

@Detcaligirl 3 жыл бұрын

Been three + years and I wish him well.

@larrygragg8529 3 жыл бұрын

My wife has only gone to 2 therapy sessions and doesn’t want to go anymore. She keeps saying “I’ve cut all ties with him, blocked him on everything and it will never happen again”. She is trying to act as if it never happened and says I should “get over it”.

@everready2903 3 жыл бұрын

Unlikely she can go cold turkey like that. Possible but unlikely. Esp if it only ended because you found out.

@RacquelitaChaparrita 3 жыл бұрын

🥺😞☹️

@fortismulier6 2 жыл бұрын

Same with my partner. He says it's my fault he cheated haha

@zhangyi9496 3 жыл бұрын

It's harder to heal, when the MIL was a cheater down to the youngest daughter. And then the oldest daughter. They all walk the same path as their mother. I am now free from that trigger

@FloMorganBuffaloBills 3 жыл бұрын

My Husband goes to a csat, goes to meetings, but has a hard time putting what he is taught into practice, or he procrastinating on working his steps is killing our marriage. I watch and learn so much about this addiction, I share it all so he and others can learn. We are 12 months from d day. His csat does not want to do a disclosure. My husband is stuck on step 8.

@michellemattson5950 3 жыл бұрын

If they are asking how long then there is a back up and they are not all in. All in is, as long as it takes what ever it takes. Thats a big red flag if they already stepped out they were never minset all in and they are still not there. Also anniversaries, if you get excited about a good anniversary about something then why do negative anniversaries are not ok to trigger us.

@kerrymillar1267 Жыл бұрын

At the 1 year anniversary he started a new affair with someone else. That was 7 months ago.

@camilleandronache6516 3 жыл бұрын

Terible ! NO recovery after 4+ years . Very painful! It is worth to spend time of our life trying to fix cheaters ? Cheaters are silent or laud criminals !!! Really criminals!