How the 16 Personalities Avoid Stress | Escaping the “Grip”

[@lovewho]

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[@kindauncool]

I bet you don't even use this.

[@Linawouldrathernot]

Hi, super thankful for this. I was wondering if there's something similar to this, but for the third function? Happy to research it, but as an INTJ it feels like the 'burnt out' feeling is coming from the 'F'- which similar to the intro, I've been trying to leverage more / upskill in. Do you know if there's a name / concept for something like that?

[@Antonio-wh8lh]

0:49 ENFJ ESFJ (Fe Dom Ti Inf) 2:05 ESTP ESFP (Se Dom Ni Inf) 3:16 ISTP INTP (Ti Dom Fe Inf) 5:48 INFJ INTJ (Ni Dom Se Inf) Edit: oops I accidentally posted Here’s the rest 7:09 ISFJ ISTJ (Si Dom Ne Inf) 8:10 ENTJ ESTJ (Te Dom Fi Inf) 9:20 ISFP INFP (Fi Dom Te Inf) 10:33 ENTP ENFP (Ne Dom Si Inf)

[@lancerag1437]

R u an intj type

[@lancerag1437]

Intp here

[@CuriousChar]

Thank you!

[@aayushkoirala8805]

❤

[@marshall3205]

INTJ here. My life didn't start functioning correctly until I became a man of action. Yours is excellent advice for my psychetype's growth. Cheers.

[@lovewho]

This is really awesome to hear. I'm an advocate of the sentiment that "action is the antidote to many things" ~ Nathan

[@Ngwaaaron]

Thank you for the video. As an INTJ, I struggled a lot, especially in social situation. Your videos have been helping myself to understand better! It has been two years already! Thanks, man.

[@lovewho]

That's awesome to hear. I love seeing any type working on the things that are usually weaknesses or struggles of theirs. Integrating those sides of ourselves makes a massive difference in life. The balance it affords means you'll get derailed far less! ~ Nathan

[@abubakr8824]

I'm an INFP,I learned that every single thing on the way doesn't have to be super deep mainly through games that require moderate grinding to enjoy the full process Deep connections start from small talk Even though I hate math I know it's needed to be done right now to pursue what I want in the my future career

[@lovewho]

Great mindset. Those in between moments make the meaningful ones more special too ~ Nathan

[@sebastianmartinez5508]

I have been learning that Ne can sometimes help using Te. Either by thinking "the money or structure I'm getting from this grind will allow me to play with Ne more" or " how can I do this in a funnier way, even if just slightly" or simply by using Ne on my work because at the end of the day, Ne is the easiest and most fulfilling way for an INFP to extrovert. It also helps to use Te when you know it's contributing to a Fi goal. Now if you are going through a Te grind that isn't contributing to an Fi goal, it might be best to get out of that ass soon as possible. That's the thing, not all Te activities are created equal.

[@lovewho]

@@sebastianmartinez5508 The "even just slightly" part is great. It only takes a small injection of your own individuality or creativity to make something feel like your own. That can be a lifesaver at times ~ Nathan

[@Sarah-with-an-H]

I’m a very sensitive INFP. I’m learning to be ok with that and to not assume the worst and to accept and be authentic is a key to feeling connected more. Being discounted is discouraging and makes me feel unloved and like I’m going to be abandoned even though that’s not really true.

[@yuschelsea4932]

as an ISTP i don't really explode , i just get away from people (more than i've already been) , calm down alone and overcome it. i'm not the type to let stress get the best of me too.

[@chandlerplays1685]

Same here but it does get to me sometimes.. people just won't notice it because I take time to myself to calm down

[@jimbeam4736]

As an INTP I completely loose it under stress and lash out as destructively as I can at my surroundings. It´s like I´m channeling my inner ENTJ in those moments. I like it a lot and feel that the world needs some nuking from time to time.

[@lovewho]

I've heard people say that under stress our shadow side comes out (the ENTJ is the shadow side of the INTP and vice versa). I've also seen this play out in practice too ~ Nathan

[@xiau]

@@lovewho I've noticed this phenomenon too, where the ENTJ characteristics emerge

[@lovewho]

@@xiau It does seem to be a consistent pattern with the types, which is pretty fascinating.

[@solarisan_]

My brother is INTP. And the last sentence you have written is something that he uses a lot. "We should nuke this.”, “That needs some nuking.” I showed this comment to him and he laughed because he saw his thinking and phrase reflected back at him.

[@jimbeam4736]

@@lovewho Hey Nathan, love your channel! This "ENTJ-mode" is my way of getting things done which is not normal for me. I procrastinate, accept flawed surroundings and put up with toxic people until my inner stress meter starts ringing, then I go into full berserk mode until everything is done. After that I start fantasizing about Quantum Gravity again and play video games...

[@THEoneWITHaFACE]

INTP male. Even when your inner world is collapsing in on itself, know that the only storm is within. Breathe and let the storm pass. Focus on the problem and the possible solutions. You can't fix what you can't control. It'll always be there, so learn to tune it out. Otherwise, you'll always be a slave to your own weaknesses.

[@DuelingPersonalities]

Infj here. You said "Action is the gateway to uncovering things you couldn't forsee." Love that! Thanks for creating awesome content!

[@claracatlady9844]

INTJ: I think there is motivating and debilitating stress. The first one is good to get shit done and the second is self destruction. Planning everything even if it’s a rough outline really helps with keeping stress at bay and 1. Knowing how much you have done 2. how much you still need to do

[@steveruqus2680]

That is such an INTJ thing to say 👏 I've taken it to the point of building a system of tools, tips and techniques to help me do just that (plan, track and report) so I can remain objective. It even includes a status type of Good Enough For Now (GE4N) to remind me to move on😁

[@kageyama-kun1744]

Acuurate.

[@DreamingCatStudio]

As an ENTJ I did have a high-pressured successful career which I did quit for my art practice. I eased out over several years so it wasn’t that stressful. Now I’m yearning to develop a lucrative business based on my creations, and I’m struggling to keep my environment organized and clean and my actions focused. I loved hearing ENTJs are competence machines… given how much time I spend lolling on the couch watching KZbin videos I’d say this machine needs a tune up. 😂

[@lovewho]

That's a fascinating trajectory. Hopefully rediscovering that part of yourself won't be too painful! ~ Nathan

[@Sharkuterie327]

I am INTJ but did the same thing!

[@summydots]

​@@Sharkuterie327trust me I'm an ENTJ and I relate with INTJs all the time

[@eml9147]

ENFJ: Don't be too focussed on the thoughts of those around you. Sometimes dispassionate decisions are needed. ENTJ: Don't get caught up with trying to be great at something that doesn't suit you. Where do your passions and faculties truly lie? ENTP: Optimism and big picture thinking has got you so far. But remember to segment your tasks and check in on your progress regularly to stay on track.

[@askarufus7939]

INFJ: When there's exam session and I study for a very long time something that I cant really understand but have to pass anyway I feel a sudden urge to grab a phone and call some friend and go get wasted (ENFJs you're the best partying guardians, thank you for bringing me together!❤). It seems like the only thing that can bring me out of the misery I feel stuck in. I feel like I'm gonna dance all night, meet new people etc. But unfortunately my "party" usually ends before midnight and I promise myself I wont ever touch alcohol and end up being regretful and thinking what in the earth was that idea. Or I suddenly decide Im going to start biking 15 km a day, being completely unprepared and then after a couple of days my legs hurt me for a week and I barely walk 😂

[@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver]

Oh my god. Yes. I feel this. I thought I was just insane for having quick phases like this. Infj.

[@susmateja]

same here. my spontaneous phases are rare but I always exaggerate them so much, ending up promising to myself to never do it again, but then never keeping that promise

[@phatcat3705]

My sister's an INFJ and this is exactly her. She usually has just one solid plan and sticks to it, which is very good, but then she suddenly does something completely spontaneous and unplanned and then hating herself for it later, only to do something like this again, anyway.

[@tori20128]

Me in a nutshell. Never have i realized this tendency before you putting it into words actually. My spontaneity happens as frequent as my stress, it can be actions which is generally considered great to relieve INFJ's stresses like doing chores i've put off for a while in the middle of the night or just random pointless acts like partying or impulsive buying. Must be parts of the reasons why i look extroverted at the very first glance

[@user-of4kk4in9f]

Funny how the so-called Inferior function is also the Hero function to which we often aspire. How many times as an INFP have I been so proud to organise something, thinking how practical am I !😂 Meanwhile ignoring my deep inner knowing and ability to process and devour a thousand ideas in half an hour as simple fluff. Oh how we neglect our true selves!!!😊😊😊😊

[@rach_bot]

Thankyou from this ISTP for the advice. That has never occurred to me to just state what I'm feeling 🤢 which in my case, under stress, I could use the words rage or irritated or both.

[@LornaLens]

Love this. Having done some parts work (teal swan video), I named one of my parts "the Romantic" She is totally my ENFJ FE part that could get taken for a ride if my other part called "no fucks given" doesn't balance it out because she is my TI. She is very neutral, and after hearing this, I realised that these parts I identified are very much little manifestations of this. I love it. The other three I have identified are good at keeping me safe at stressful times or getting things done and quality control. I love this idea of mixing up things I have learnt from one philosophy or psychology and finding giant links between them. The pattern forming is so fun for me. Diolch, gwerthfawrogi'n fawr.

[@lovewho]

Ending with some Welsh... I'm impressed. Someone showed me a Teal Swan video recently actually. I was wondering what type she was! ~ Nathan

[@LornaLens]

I am intrigued by her. She is very good. First video I saw of hers about 4 years ago was her defending herself. She was amazing. I adore the way she chuckles to herself after stating something either ironic or obvious! 😂 I am live near Llantrisant at the bottom edge RCT Nathan. 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

[@johnny_roots]

Thank you so much for this advice. As an ESFJ, I find it hard to make decisions that will upset people important to me. However, now in my 40s and also going through a few health issues, I've been learning to accept what is best for me no matrer what. It can be challenging to go against your dominant function, but it's certainly rewarding, and sometimes, the best thing we can do to move forward in life 🙌🏽✨❤️

[@SecondFloor2311]

Beautiful! And I love how you explained how INxJs can balance out these functions, tho I might be crazy but I don’t think you specifically mentioned for these two what they do in stress, what that Se ‘grip’ is for them. I’m curious how you see that

[@lovewho]

The Se grip tends to show up as sensory indulgence: overeating, drinking, various other physical pleasures. It can even be them going way too hard on pushing themselves physically. I've known INxJs when under stress to get obsessive about fitness and working out but to a very extreme degree. They might also try to force themselves to be more spontaneous and risk taking, feeling like they've been burned by their usual planful ways. The easiest way to think of the types experiencing grip stress is to see them as unhealthy versions of their opposite type ~ Nathan

[@solarisan_]

From personal experience (my type is INFJ) and observation of my uncle and my friend’s sister (both INTJs), we actually get into a fight mode while stressed. Not sure if this is the case for all. It is kinda of a combative attitude that has escalated from forcefulness in thinking to forcefulness in being. Some might engage into the indulgence part mentioned by the content creator, but it is not necessarily the case. Since it is used to erase or implement the mental concepts created on the inside by engaging in external sensory activity, it may look like wanting to take control over Se. In a “normal state”, Ni understands that the best way to do things in life is not through external control but internal one while maintaining external freedom. In a grip, it seems to be the opposite - the freedom needed is gained through control over external variables. I am not sure I have explained this properly. I hope you will get what I mean.

[@steveruqus2680]

@@solarisan_ INTJ: Yep. I feel sorry for the kids in my neighborhood growing up. I would get so frustrated when a plan didn't come together that I would get physical. It's been many years since, but I still resist the urge daily and I've found healthy outlets for my aggression. You did a great job explaining my desired state. I call the philosophy of managing it Freedom in a Frame. Thanks for putting yourself out there. 👏

[@steveruqus2680]

@@lovewho "The easiest way to think of the types experiencing grip stress is to see them as unhealthy versions of their opposite type" ~Brilliant.

[@sw33t3t3nity]

ENTJ: I started my path as PreMed got accepted while working in a lab.. quit & now I’m a PMO who does bee husbandry… such is life

[@Hannahhh922]

This video helped me so much. Recently I’ve been stressing about my school life and when I tried to figure what I m feeling right now, it helped me to relieve my stress and knowing more about myself. Thank you!

[@sagemaster1357]

As an INFJ, daily meditation really helps me mentally and spiritually by being in the moment. I also work as a glass collector at this night club were I have to be on the move all time.

[@bodine219]

Ohhh I actually needed that INFP advice right now. I am in the stressful phase of big life changes that I *do* want

[@lovewho]

Hopefully this video helped a little bit! ~ Nathan

[@bobbyeger5207]

Thanks Aura!

[@arlettasloan6453]

Hmm.. that advice for ES (F/T)P is spot on for me. What do I like? Reading, books, weird paintings, typing at people. What am I good at? Writing, making weird paintings. Oh, and I like to cook and I am good at cooking, but I don't like to eat near as much as I enjoy cooking, so I would ideally like to have a small "Here is what we are serving today" restaurant where we also serve drinks and offer up books to read while sipping, which would only be open a few busy hours each day, which I would work at 3-4 days a week and let someone else do the other days, so that I could have plenty of time for writing and painting. Hard goal to reach, but, my would it be lovely!

[@Linawouldrathernot]

This has been super helpful. Even the advice for other types. I've been feeling intermittently burnt out for ages and some of the things for other I's really clicked. Using your inferior other functions definitely resonated. Because I've been feeling as if I were mentally and emotionally deadlifting off of my pinkies

[@lesomelo7605]

As an Intp, I'm a very anxious person, and the second I'm even a little stressed, I get very emotional over dumb things. When I'm not stressed, I often don't feel anything. But because I'm always stressed, (I'm not super busy, I just stress over everything) I always felt like an emotional person and mistyped myself as an Infp. I've also mistyped myself as an Intj, because I often want everything to be planned because I'm scared that something will go wrong. I've also mistyped myself as an Infj, because I really do care about what other people feel and want to help people. I'm also very scared of getting myself into awkward situations and am horrible at navigating social situations, so I thought that it would be hard for my Fe to be inferior.

[@chandlerplays1685]

Close to my experience too, I do stress because of busy-ness though.. having no time to myself, having to Fe a loooot more than I should, and it really gets to me, where I start validation seeking and thinking people don't like me, not liking myself, telling people about my insecurities and stuff, and then logically telling them that I'm just going through Fe grip and I'm trying to work it out.. but I also mistyped myself as INFP.. but for me my values always have to be logically consistent and everything has to follow the same logic or alarms go off in my head

[@allmight1359]

I love to watch this and help my wife & I understand each other. I am ENFJ and she is INFP.

[@bradleyj7801]

us INTJs know there are shortcuts everywhere, but there is a real fear, that if we don't figure out the absolute best way to get to our destination and be able to demonstrate that to the world, we will not get the intellectual admiration we know that we deserve and despite the incredible calculation applied, somebody would call us "lucky" for finding a shortcut, I'm not sure if we can live in a world like that

[@kruggmichaels8958]

When people are astonished at my 'luck', I just tell them that I live a charmed life

[@steveruqus2680]

@@kruggmichaels8958 Luck is when preparation meets opportunity.

[@havefun3470]

It's interesting how you as an INTJ crave intellectual admiration while we INFJs crave moral admiration. We love to be altruistic and philanthropic because we really care about people but there's also that factor to be perceived as good hearted great person. That validation helps with giving our life purpose and also shutting down Fi critic. Also i want to mention I'm saying all this using "we" word but i don't want to speak for all INFJs because I'm not sure if that's how it is for them as well but i do notice it in them. I wonder why do you care about getting intellectual admiration from others? I didn't know about this need of INTJs. I thought INTJs are ambitious to be greatly successful and competent for the sake of it, to feel good to themselves. I'd like to understand it better why is that important to you to be very successful and competent and how important getting the intellectual admiration you deserve from other people is

[@steveruqus2680]

@havefun3470 for the sake of it yes, but we hate being misunderstood. We like to feel accepted too, just not as much as most.

[@steveruqus2680]

Does that help?

[@raph009]

ENTP: my therapist made me start breaking down tasks (cause ADHD) and it's been helping a ton with feeling overwhelmed with big projects. Not fool-proof, but it helps a lot lol I found body check-ins can also be useful when you're about to blow up for no apparent reasons.

[@omeirai124]

I spend so much time in Se grip out of perfectionism and trying to numb out how much I care about my more important pursuits and them being perfect to my eyes... And then the fear of putting them out there and being possibly belittled, called naive and underesearched and not enough. It's really maddening and hard to balance cycles of overpreparing and overindulging in distractions from all the built up expectations o(-(

[@shachinartlab]

Infj and intjs it's good to plan but balance it out with gradual action towards completeing the plan .Planning and tracking the action management after direction of our plan we need to check the plan trough controlling function test check to improvise when mistake is there we need to accept our perfectionist tendencies

[@sagemaster1357]

yeah. Perfectionism sometimes gets in the way of things, even in my drawing or planning something.

[@omeirai124]

ENFP artist friend: I just decide the composition of the drawing as I go, it's no fun if I know what I'm going to draw! INFP writer friend: I hate getting stuck writing a plot if I already know how it will unfold! My INTJ artist ass: Spends days mapping my vision, sketching up possible compositions, color scheme, bits of symbolism, character expressions, and is now too stressed out to get started on the actual piece from fear that it won't live up to my "perfect" idea

[@steveruqus2680]

Thanks Aura You picked a great channel to sponsor. As an INTJ I have less trouble using Se than I do keeping it in check. It's so impatient it convinces Te to push Ni before it's ready. I'm working on being more aware of when it does so I can take a break and give Ni time. Thoughts? Do any other INTJs struggle with Se dominating Ni\ganging up with Te? Note: I do provide Se many outlets like weight training, running and biking.

[@argentaegis]

INTJ and I have to guard against the "slit throats and burn bridges" impulse, but while I can see how that's a case of rogue Se, I think it's just letting the intrusive voices win. Usually I can avoid following that path by taking a moment to draw back and inspect the consequences and how they relate to what I /really/ want. That said, I find Se most useful in doing experiments, particularly when expanding systems or testing bounds. The Plan can be "lets do an experiment", and it usually yields better information at a much faster rate than simple research or plotting. I don't do "action for the sake of action", and tend to be suspicious of such, but I do like my experiments.

[@caramelunicorn8023]

wow I definitely relate to both inferior Te and inferior Si and especially the whole thing of segmenting and having a checklist and the grind.

[@sagemaster1357]

10:14 This is basically having responsibility like paying bills, going into work/uni/college on time and also doing your school work. We all hate it but it needs to be done. ~ INFJ.

[@crono420]

I disagree. I interpret it as "just doing it" rather than being pragmatic for a reason that serves. Whilst I do agree that certain things need to be done in order to stop your life from falling apart, it depends on the individual and circumstances. Maybe I am saying this because of my own bias of being an INFP but the thought of doing something or being pragmatic for the sake of it makes me cringe in disgust

[@0rinoa0]

Good advice, thank you.

[@idk-dd1sy]

As an intp with severe anxiety disorder don't even get me started........

[@lookiams]

i think i am either INFP or ISFP, but i 10000000% agree with you. I hate doing a lot of things (like physics, math, going to places -yes i know that sounds lazy, working and things like that) but its important to know not everything is going to be perfect

[@estephanelia]

God I love these

[@ganndalf202]

Lmao, how is this so accurate for me ENFP and my INTP boyfriend. This pretty much why we often struggle and argue.

[@nazzzemi1401]

someone that im in a situationship is an enfp while im an intp. Do you think we might work it out and get to a more stable status like you guys? Or are we going to be stuck in this situationship

[@ganndalf202]

@@nazzzemi1401 Wish I knew. We are just exclusive right now but we don't label what we have. We are also long distance so that's that. It's why I'm watching these videos so I can understand how to better things beween us too. I don't know about your ENFP but as an ENFP myself I struggle to understand my INTP person often so he often has to articulate what he needs and his feelings to me. Since I'm very emotinal person and he is not. But to me it helps, maybe try to express what you want and need from your person. I think you do need to realize what you want tho. If you want that person or if you want a relationship. maybe your person might never be able to give you that and you need to realize if you are ok with it or not. My INTP is putting a lot of distance between us but at the same time he is always by my side. Its why Im watching videos like this to understand INTPs and to understand myself. From what people told me, INTP and ENFP relationship is difficult but in my opinion it's very rewarding, but it is surely difficult. Try to communicate with your ENFP about your needs but know that they might be too emotional or will need more explanations, its how its with me and why my INTP gets frustrated with me. Sorry I couldnt help

[@johnknight9150]

(INTJ) Yes! I was already doing the thing Nathan said out of principle. Brilliant. Is there a smug emoji? (I don't use emojis very much.)

[@animadas2306]

😏

[@NisseOhlsen]

Saved the ENTP's for last since we never get stressed out.

[@EresirThe1st]

Se grip truly is hell on earth but you do a great job with your advice. Unfortunately you can’t plan for the unplanned very well.

[@animadas2306]

Yeah😢 Se grip feels very bad. It does more bad than doing good

[@havefun3470]

@@animadas2306 yeah. Infj here. I'm currently in one. Just dissociating from reality daydreaming and using phone, overeating etc. It makes us feel mentally sick, right? The body feels exhausted, mind feels blurry and heavy

[@havefun3470]

"hell on earth" This isn't even like exaggeration. Se grip is literally that bad. Would you like to share some of your experiences? How do you feel in Se grip? How do you struggle?

[@NiTeLightYears]

​@havefun3470 Se grip made me keep interacting and socializing with toxic and poisonous people basically wasting my time and torturing my own mental and spiritual health. On one side, I'm so afraid of meeting them and disgusted with the person I'm becoming when I'm in that place and blending with them. On the other side, when I'm actually in the place with all of them, my brain can't help but see them as drugs and cigarettes and force my entire body to always approach them and hang out with them even though we're like oil and water. (I change constantly between unhealthy ESFP&ENTP when I'm in the environment) All of this results in my grades went downhill so as my behavior, mindset, spiritual&mental health, day-to-day life, etc. And I suffer from the feeling of loneliness when someone I want to befriend (I admire them, they're the reason I still have faith in the society or environment I exist) is already friends with someone else that actually affects them negatively. I realized that I couldn't save everyone. People change. And I realize that I was never meant to be connected with any of them. The place is just a stepping stone where I'm supposed to look at further places and focus on higher purposes while having my body temporarily there to work on it. Nothing is a coincidence and I'm grateful for everything that has happened. Everything has been a great thing to experience, a place for growth, and there are many meanings-insights I've obtained. I actually already know all of these kinds of problems and how to face them etc., but it's just a whole different thing when you experience it in the real world. I mean, I've been isolating myself from people that I feel like it's something new when I meet them *literally all the toxic discord, Twitter, TikTok users spawned in real life Sorry for my English, it's my 3rd here

[@EresirThe1st]

@@havefun3470 Se grip is a mindless binge, lashing out to do every extreme thing as soon as stress kicks in. My mind has to watch in horror as my body harms itself with food and sex.

[@arlettasloan6453]

Okay. But, what I feel the most during stressful situations is "Let's just get things done." or "Kill." My fight or flight leans heavily toward fight and people are usually in my way, trying to prevent me from flight. Getting things done is "flight", too, and they usually literally don't want me to leave OR get things done but to just stand there while they heap stupidity and abuse on me and then freak out when, after months of that behavior, I wig out at them and yell at them as to what I think they are as human beings. Or, even just quietly tell them so and push past them, walk out of their life, and never look back. It's very hard not to be repressing your feelings when the world is full of people who want to push you to kill them or yourself.

[@steveruqus2680]

INFJ?

[@havefun3470]

I relate to this on a spiritual level. Especially the kill part lol. It's hard dealing with people for us because most of them aren't as kind and emotionally intelligent in treating people while we give them almost morally perfect treatment. I think we are same personality type and we know it but i guess it's better not to mention lol

[@christineherrmann205]

OMFG, this is the first time I've heard someone talk about the judgemental voice in my head that predicts how everyone will react to my actions. GET OUT OF MY HEAD! 😂

[@Aprillfools]

[@hotdogeater8647]

idk if im an entp or entj but i refuse to lose. the term losing here is used in a manner where i choose my own challanges like getting full marks in a quiz or some stuff like that. now thats the kicker u see? when i DO lose, i look back and overanalyze it. thats hella weird

[@outoforbit-]

Yes ENFP can be very sentimental.

[@havefun3470]

I'm an INFJ and I'm currently in Se grip. I couldn't even understand the suggestion you gave in the video lol but I'll come back to it again. My brain feels foggy atm

[@lovewho]

The ideal for an INFJ is to mainly be using their Ni as a default as you'd expect, but then dip into their Se in a controlled way. Getting out of the grip of these things is definitely very hard and takes time. Slowly you can integrate your Se after you're through this phase of being in the grip of it ~ Nathan

[@havefun3470]

@@lovewho this is helpful. Thank you ❤️

[@marcusnz232]

What is a restless night? I get into to bed and within 20 minutes I am asleep and between 7.5 and 8 hours later I wake up. Nothing else would be a logical use of the darkness.

[@JRay.R]

Your audio is: 👏🏆🧑‍🍳💋🤌

[@CuddleClaw.]

Thank you

[@lovewho]

Hope you enjoyed the video! ~ Nathan

[@kenthartig7065]

Bro dropped the line "state how you feel" and I actually started squirming in my seat 😅😰. That's probably worth unpacking at some point

[@lovewho]

I like the meta nature of this. You stated how you felt! Well played ~ Nathan

[@BrunoGonzalez05]

I'm an INFP-I think-and although I was never truly in touch with my Te, with time it became one of my most used functions, along with Fi. It makes me truly doubt my MBTI type as I'm not that good at using my Fe, at all, and I usually find descriptions that define INFP's as relatively/very empathetic, that is apparently due to their dominant Fi. I would like to think that this is all simply because I'm an (hypothetical) extrovert, and I'm actually ENFP, but dominant Ne and grip Si does not really fit me, either. I've taken tests that emphasize primarily on our use of functions, and even though I use Fi pretty often, I also scored high on Ti, and it said I was most likely an INTP (followed by ESTJ, ISTP, and 6 other types, with INFP being 8th most likely). It's a whole mess, but I hope one of you has an answer to it. Great video, by the way.

[@BrunoGonzalez05]

Ok, after 4 years of reading and learning about MBTI, I'm an ISTJ, the only type I never looked into

[@shadowboxing7029]

Cheers for the tips and app suggestion. Good stuff as always.

[@lovewho]

Hope you enjoyed the video! ~ Nathan

[@carolmartha8449]

Ahh much awaited video

[@Sharkuterie327]

INTJ: action without intention? Do you mean to ruin me?

[@augustsinferno3185]

I’d love to hear you talk more on enneagram!

[@lovewho]

I am intending to eventually get around to doing a video talking about the most common enneagram types for each MBTI type. It's probably going to be very long one but one day it will happen ~ Nathan

[@planetoii]

INFP -- how can "the grind" be a good thing?

[@keliallx]

FINALLY

[@lovewho]

Hope you enjoyed it! ~ Nathan

[@DarkFoxV]

Get fresh milk and a hot bath! Milk onsen (definitely wasn't started by an ENTP...)

[@mentatmentatia9212]

Pls do video how to find out are you ENFP or ENTP.

[@Apeiron242]

All planning is done pre-. You can't post plan.

[@lovewho]

I'm sure there's a time travelling Ni dom out there who disagrees ~ Nathan

[@Dionyzos]

I've kinda given up on the idea that everyone fits into one type after watching and reading a ton of stuff about mbti. I see people and myself act and think like different types depending on the situation and especially the phase they're going through in life. It looks like we can only be one type in the moment but different ones over time or 16 types are just not enough. Plasticity of the brain and stuff like that. Many INTPs would say I'm an INFP but INFPs would tell me otherwise. It's like migrating to another country, you loose your old national identity but never quite fit in where you're living now.

[@lovewho]

I mentioned something along these lines in a recent video (I think it was about figuring out your type): if you're struggling to figure out your type then typology might not be that useful for you. I would agree that not everyone is going to fit neatly enough into these categories to justify using them ~ Nathan

[@Dionyzos]

@@lovewho Breaking down every trait into 4 other than 2 would be significantly more accurate. Introducing new letters would result in 256 types making it unusable but making the letters case sensitive could solve that issue. An INTP with a stronger F like me could become INtP for example. It's not a perfect solution of course but it's something.

[@lovewho]

@@Dionyzos You might find the "Objective Personality" typing system interesting. They've leaned into that level of subtlety and detail! ~ Nathan

[@RaidenShogun..]

I like your Ne

[@NathanaelNaused]

I'd argue this is a case of missing the forest for the trees. Alternatively maybe your research hasn't led you to the more useful deeper aspects of understanding what typology is and isn't.

[@-JA-]

🙂👍

[@getreadywithmemamma]

Or just wait until an ExFP comes along to shake you out of it :).

[@n.kirkevans6256]

I am a HS English teacher INTP. Sometimes students get to me. When I accurately identify the emotion and then discuss what happened with the student(s) based upon my emotional experience, those tend to be healthier responses. When I ENTJ it by telegraphing negativity and judgment, those are bad. The former tend to come about more often during chiller lower-stake conflicts. OTOH, I sometimes do need to channel my ENTJ in moments of crisis. Ideally, I would express a healthy version of my own self in every encounter. But that it not always possible. Every classroom needs a ENTJ Darth Vader every now and then.

[@ottitudes]

accurate :)))

[@Subtlepicklee]

MORE INFP VIDEOS

[@YouilAushana]

As an INFJ I take a second in Fe to feel for the birds rather than jumping straight to taking the flock with that pebble.

[@SVTX.AP0L0_]

I was paying close attention to the video, until that irritating unexpected add came out, (if it lasted 10 seconds at most it would have been tolerable). I felt obligated to give to this video a biiig thumb down in response, so I did. 👎🏾

[@qri3522]

I don't like the ESTJ mug. New design please Nathan! I suspect it's your worst seller! - an ESTJ

[@slittingsoviets33]

Why does bro talk so fruity