How to Avoid Kids Fighting Over Toys

This video is about "How to Avoid Kids Fighting Over Toys."
It is going to happen! It is ag- appropriate and completely normal for a child to be possessive over toys. Don’t worry, it is our job as adults to gently guide the child
1. Be proactive: Hide toys
When children are younger 3 and under the most effective thing to do is to be proactive. If you know a certain toy is going to be a problem. Hide it. Put it away until the cousins go home.
2. Distract
Distraction is huge. If two kids are fighting over a toy find a different one that is even more fun and entice them away. Better yet find two of them, one for each.
3. Night-Night Bin
If fighting is becoming a regular thing, it's best to nip that in the bud. If children are fighting over toys, the toys go “night night” in a bin up high on a shelf. “Your child will tantrum. Ignore it. Try to find something to distract your child with.
3. Use a Countdown
The adult can try to mediate, whoever had it first... gets it first. But a timer or countdown can work wonders here. I did this often at the preschool I worked. The child that had it first got it first for 20 seconds only and then it was the other child’s turn for 20 seconds. Reward the giving over of the toy by “good taking turns” and with a smile. More often than not, the children will got bored before counting down the 20 seconds and were on to a new toy. Some kids actually get really into the counting and enjoy the routine. Reward the positive behavior.
5.USE a TIMER
Start with a short amount of time and then lengthen it.
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[@lunaticatiga]

No because thats not fair on the child who was playing with it and suddenly other comes and wants and pulls it and the fight starts. Taking away the toy is not fair on the child who has it first.

[@olgayakovleva9476]

Wow that’s actually something that I already do. But I just say, boys (twins 15 months) you are fighting over this toy and can’t share. It has to go to time out. And I put it into one of their cribs. We have two cribs. They usually stop crying for it on 5 seconds. Now I can say “that’s it this toy is going night night “ and I was already putting it into their crib so they should get it and understand. Any moms out there please tell me what you think?!! Any criticism WELCOME!!!

[@itzkiaz3604]

Wait so if your twins are fighting over a toy you say the toy is going on time out, and if they continue crying over it you say the toy is going to bed ( meaning no one gets to play with it? )

[@lunaticatiga]

I also have twins and I think that taking away the toy is not fair on the child who had it first. And then the others comes and tries to pull it away and the fight starts. I have no solution tho because I don't know if I should encourage the one that has the toy to share it ( but why exactly why the other twin comes and tried to get it, not fair) Or distract the child who wants it and offer something else and explain meantime that he can have it when the other one is done playing. I kind of think the second option is more accurate but not 100% sure lol. That's why searching some ideas on YT.