How To Be A Good Parent To Young Adults

[@ATunson]

OMG I needed this parenting advice SO BAD!! My son is 26 returning back to college after so huge life events; one recently being the passing of his father. He is tough but human and has endured alot thus far in life. He is strong willed and stubborn; but has lots of potential...I just need to get out of his way no matter how anxious his choices make me. Thanks again !🙏🏽

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ashanti As Me, your son sounds wonderful. Glad you have each other during this time. He will do wonderful things.

[@ATunson]

Thanks so much for your kind words! 🙏🏽

[@SADKHAN95953]

Every time I watch dr Paul's videos, a smile comes on my face, thank you dr Paul. Love form Pakistan

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Mama Khan, Thank you so much. I love how we can connect through KZbin.

[@anonymousprimate]

As a young adult, the unsolicited advice from my mom really gets on my nerves. Especially since she always puts the blame on me when often it’s about things that are either out of my control, or situations that she hasn’t experienced before but thinks she knows everything about. If any parent out there wants a young adults perspective: we aren’t dumb, sometimes we’re going to make mistakes and sometimes life is just gonna keep throwing curveballs at us, but most of us really just want your support and understanding. If we mess up somewhere, we often already know and hearing it thrown at us again can be really frustrating. Parents act like they’re perfect all the time or something I swear. Sometimes advice is great, but when it comes in an accusatory way we’re probably just gonna dismiss it. Idk if anyone cares but there you go

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Girl Next Door, very well said, I hope everyone reads this.

[@virtuoussoulhealer3644]

I am guilty. My children doesn't even initiate contact with me..

[@mariemartinez5892]

Thank you for sharing and I will definitely try not to come across that way to my young adult children.

[@tiffanyfreeman6072]

Well received as a parent.

[@renee560]

Thank you for your honesty. I get it.

[@rosie01ism]

👋 I agree with your saying, love them no matter what, and even if. So true. I used to say, ok it’s time for a discussion . We’d sit down and discuss, what my problem, then they had their say. I found that worked, than yelling

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes, counsel together, both parties listening and life can be a lot quieter, rose fragale.

[@livmorganfan8528]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Im 25,am i still a young adult?

[@Jack-b5o6r]

I recently was able to reconnect with my son as an adult .... these are really good tips thx for the positive message

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Determined Veteran, I am happy for you. I hope your relationship continues and grows.

[@LisaMaryification]

Your son is very fortunate that you are seeking out ways to communicate with him more healthily. I wish my own parents had the self,-awareness to do that. I had to cut ties with them because when I grew through as a result of good therapy they stayed stagnant and didn't accept any responsibility for our toxic family dynamic. Instead, they blamed me and called me 'crazy' because the therapy with my psychiatrist was 'proof' to them of that. Frankly, I think they were afraid because I was spilling the beans on the abuse they exacted upon me in childhood.

[@Diane-c8k]

Just came across this. Fantastic advice. Not easy being a parent. We are all going through it. Train crash sometimes. All great advice. Many thanks. All so very true. X

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you. Honored to be on your team.

[@zulemaflores1234]

Thank you for reminding us the role of a parent.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for being here and watching.

[@andreacarlington7158]

So so good your videos ! Gives us hope and practical advice!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, Andrea Carlington.

[@abolanleodejinmi4826]

Thanks so much. This video is so educative and helpful to me as a mother. God bless you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are so welcome

[@LisaMaryification]

Wow, there really is a video on everything on youtube! I am trying to improve on communicating with my daughters who are both in their 20s and still live with me, mostly because of the pandemic and also to support me since I was diagnosed with late stage cancer. I love them both very much but have a tendency to compare my past troubles in my own 20s to their present ones. I see it as advice but thet both see it as me just complaining and belittling their feelings and problems. I need to learn to listen in order to validate their feelings better and, thus, guide them through difficult times. I suggested therapy because that's where they can truly share their feelings about everything, including me. And I respect that.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

That sounds like a great idea. Try not sharing unless they ask you, that could help.

[@LisaMaryification]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you! But I feel like they are looking for some sort of guidance. Perhaps just ask them what THEY think a good next step would be instead of me suggesting something. Or maybe sometimes they just want to vent. Which is perfectly fine.

[@richmzdbaang770]

I appreciate what you are saying but it's hard when you guide your young adult children to water and they gravitate to eating mud. At some point I had to step back and let them to figure it out on their own. I love my kids and I love me too. To work everyday, paying bills and day to day living; making sure I am always available to my adult kids was exhausting. Every family is different. I pray my children find their way and succeed in what ever it is that makes them happy.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

RuchMzD Baang, beautifully said. Many young adults do need to figure it out on their own.

[@no5470]

I totally hear you!!! God help us all. Thank goodness alcohol can be bought through drive thru’s now!!!! Lol

[@harambeespecialmathchannel8242]

Water is not the only option. There is ice tea, Vitamin water, lemonade and other drinks.... Many parents mean well, however they present choices as if there is only black and white. No one in their right mind wants to drink mud if they are thirsty. Present all of the choices and most importantly explain how you can empower them to the best choice if you see it and they will listen because of your experience and wisdom.

[@lea0laco762]

Thanks for enlightening myself as a mother of my only child who is 19 year old and live out to study in University in Mainland ..

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lea Olaco, honored to be on your team.

[@no5470]

I saw this and you made such a huge /life changing turn for me. Thank you a million times

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

N O, my pleasure.

[@gerrimiller3491]

I'm 44 yrs. old . We surprised our 22yr. old son with a car after college graduation, he moved into a condo and was doing well financially and had a great job for a few years. He moved back home and we sat down that our home is temporary for him and he pays his share because being responsible is top priority as far as managing money and using time wisely. He is basically starting over again as we say to new opportunities and better choices this time. We tell him that it's ok to step back sometimes to access where you need to improve for future endeavors. He says home feels like boot camp since he returned. We say it only makes you stronger mentally to grow and become better.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Gerri Miller, glad you set the rules before he moved back, makes it much easier. Sounds like he is learning some good lessons.

[@ambern.9887]

I had my son move back home. When I said he had to help and go to work . he went to eork. 3 days a week the taxes and his 2st stimukus and last paycheck came . He didn't get up for work .He seemed to be brooding and waited to be told to help only to negate everything .I finally had to make him move out. He was laying around wasn't planning on college ,was being rigid about helping out . woukdnt walk a block over to find work and wanted to run all night without a phone call..So it was hard but he had to go. Hes almost 21that was last summer.He now has a girlfriend and they have an appartment she works full time hes works 5 hours.. He doesn't call still and unless Im near death or its mothers day I dont hear much . He wants me whenn he wants something thats about it.If I invite him for dinner hell wait till the last minute to back out or offer empty gestures.I digress Its a good thing he feels like home isnt where he wants to dwell forever.

[@stephensomerville2212]

I'd be curious to know what your relationship is like with him now that it's been a few years. Providing a home environment that is comparable to boot camp seems a bit extreme.

[@ny_njtrailrunnert926]

@@ambern.9887 it sounds like he is very comfortable taking from you without giving you anything to fill your cup. Just like any relationship in your life, it can only thrive when there is mutual respect and effort.

[@clwxrf6007]

Thank you for sharing this content. I am a single mother of an 18 yo. She has moved out the house. I realize that I have been controlling and negative at times. I just want her to be safe and make wise decisions. Truth be told I may be co-dependent in our relationship. I text or call her once a day. I am going to try to let go. I tell her I am a phone call away.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

CLWXRF, You are welcome.

[@angelacooper538]

I feel you ! My daughter is 20 and is moving out. I’m so broken and feel depressed. It’s been me and her all her life. I feel like my left arm is gone. I’m so empty and broken ! I really need counseling. I’ve cried for three weeks. Am I going to be ok ?

[@lll3388]

From a young adult, I’m 21 and I’m treated like Im 15. Feels like my life has been passing me by just doing whatever my dad wants. It’s like I’m dead inside and I no longer know what to do with my life. I have to do Certain things and it feels as if I’m tied down. I’m not ever allowed to travel or do anything without them. I came home late for New Years and I was in deep trouble, should I have been home by 12 as usual on New Years ???? I’m instantly getting the talk. I can’t spend time with my bfs family bc it makes me look bad and I’m a whore for going to his house to have dinner ? Like seriously parents. Please understand your children. Especially if they’re like me, don’t go out, never been to a single party, don’t drink or do drugs. I don’t even have friends. Every time I make one, they always disappear, I can’t ever spent time with them, bc I’m so limited. Please just be careful.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Vivienne V, unfortunately some parents are over-protective, even to their adult children. I suggest making a plan to become independent and stay focused on that. Thank you for watching. We do have a Positive Personal Development playlist (kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV) and a Positive Relationship Resources playlist (kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX) to help you out in the mean time. Best wishes.

[@ambern.9887]

move out if

[@jennydeleon24]

I am Asian Mom and I think when you talk to my daughter - she will agree to what you said. I am an overprotective mother and I know I need to learn to let her go and trust that she will make good choices in life. I want her to enjoy her life and be a happy and responsible adult. Thanks for sharing your thoughts - very helpful

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

@@jennydeleon24 You are welcome. I am glad you realize that you need to let your daughter live her life. I don't want her resenting you for not allowing her freedom. Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV!

[@solanavtb955]

you are like a Pet to them😄🤣

[@msg7455]

I'm glad I raised my to be accountable from a young age. While communication and understanding were key to their upbringing, so were natural consequences. Today, they are the three H's: Healthy, Happy, Honest

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ms G, Congratulations. Thank you for sharing.

[@jennydeleon24]

Needed to hear this - THANK YOU

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Jenny De Leon! Thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.

[@VP-fr3cj]

Whew! This was hilarious 😂 and so needed by this helicopter single mom of now adult young men. Thank you . Lord help me!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

V P, just remember to love him, no matter what and even if... And, keep a sense of humor, you will need it.

[@VP-fr3cj]

Live On Purpose TV thank you!

[@livmorganfan8528]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Im 26 years old,but i act like a middle aged adult,is it ok?

[@onwardsandupwards7397]

@@livmorganfan8528 Yes. Sometimes that is appropriate!

[@t60334]

Oh, trust me. I thought I had it knocked out of the park. Looks like I am bunting or striking out!

[@lovelana3595]

This is helpful, thank you.👍

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Love, Lana, so glad.

[@mokgadi1845]

I love this idea and im voting for it.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for watching and commenting.

[@Tanya-eq3fy]

Always VALUABLE and AMAZING info. Thank you.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Tanya, you are welcome.

[@INFJ2]

My Son is 19. I raised him w respect and if I set a boundary w him, he just stops talking. Blows me off. He's been w a severely Narcissistic Father since he was 12. He has no communication skills w me when I set a boundary. He just ignores me forever and it hurts. I need advisement. I try to change the dynamic. But when he blows me off I keep trying to communicate. It's not working and I need a new strategy. When I give him space I May not hear from him for months. It hurts. I've been a great Mom for the most part. He doesn't treat his Father like this. I get a the anger, resentment, blow back etc. I do feel very codependent. He's my only Son. When he gets like this it feels a complete rejection of my love and care.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Unicorn Lover, it may be the way you are setting the boundary and he is hearing that you are judging him in some way. Hard to say, take a look at that and if you really need to "set a boundary" or just have a good talk with him.

[@LoVe1online]

He doesn’t respect you. Give him a time frame to leave and be on his own and you’ll see how quickly he will begin to listen.

[@zaleacampbell996]

Thanks for the advice

[@jenjim1999]

I am struggling so hard with letting go of our son (the last child of 6 to fly the nest). We used to be so close and I went from knowing so many details of his life to knowing barely anything. I am lucky if I get a text 2-3 times a month. This sure isn't easy but I know I have to let go and let him live his life.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jennifer R, give him time, they usually come back. Let him know you are there for him.

[@jenjim1999]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV , he knows. It's just hard to be included in his days for 25 years to not hearing much of anything.

[@angelacooper538]

Thank you !!!!! Mom under stress. And brokenness

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Angela Cooper, hang in there. We are here for you.

[@angelacooper538]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you !!!!!!!!

[@nabilakarameh2346]

I'm gonna try what you just advised although I have a feeling it won't work. my son 18 does not even give me a chance to chat with him, he starts shouting with a loud voice, and when I ask him to drop it down, he goes even louder

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I generally say when you can talk to me like I am talking to you then we can have a conversation. Doesn't sound like he is interested in the conversation.

[@NazriBuang-w9v]

Lies again? Spend time to know each other better no matter how old you get. It depends how close you want the relationship to be

[@jacquelinenewman1377]

Thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome.

[@summerhamilton7064]

Good video. Thank you for your advice.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad it was helpful! Thank you for watching, Summer Hamilton.

[@wonitahandrew5227]

Wow, very helpful 👏🏿

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you!

[@jeremydeane7057]

I liked your message

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, Jeremy Deane.

[@vbarberful]

My sons are 17 and 23. Is the parenting Power Up Course something I would benefit from? Or do you have one for when they turn into adults, but still live at home? Thank you. Love your channel!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

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[@helicastilho7069]

God bless you abundantly 🙏

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, same to you Heli Castilho. Honored to have you here.

[@gucci4871]

Thanks

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Welcome, Gucci.

[@MarsellaFyngold]

I enjoyed this, I find a lot of parent-child relationship videos low-key make the other party the bad guy depending which view its from.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Marsella D. Fryngold, honored to be on your team.

[@virginiazamora9058]

Thank you my child just plays games all day gonna graduate in a month and I pay for everything. Just trying to make him a prosperous adult and I guess I have to let go and let them make their choices

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Virginia Zamora, ask your child what their plans are to be self-sufficient. Let them know what will be required to stay at your home or they can begin looking for work and a place to stay.

[@GisellVe]

Is there's a video when they're young adult living with parents?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I'm not sure what you mean. We have done videos about failure to launch young adults, check out the playlist.

[@Yoursweetestlife]

This was super helpful

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I'm so glad!

[@EdgarJrUy]

Thank you for this sir ❤🙂

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

So nice of you, Edgar Jr. Uy, honored to be on your team.

[@gennylee6459]

I so needed this. My 19 yr old is always looking at me with an angry face right now.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Check out a few other videos we have about parenting young adults on the playlist.

[@TwinBros822]

Well then, maybe it’s time to go. Don’t mean mug your help .

[@sonyacoombes3114]

Thank you!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You're welcome!

[@angelaalbano1446]

My Husband used to tell me that when we first were going out, he told he said Angie anything u need to ask me you can ask me even if u think it may be stuip u can still ask me even if you need to just talk to me about something, even if u need to vent I about something I am here, so I did that over the year and I one thing I learned after 12 years of being with him is that u can't ask him a anything then same man that told me I can ask anything to i can't ask anything to. You can't ask anybody anything

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Angela Albano, our actions need to back up our words.

[@oneluv79]

What do I do as a parent when I see my 21 year old crashing ... he's taking pills, smoking and I think selling substance. Nobody in my family does that. My daughter is the complete opposite. Why would he take that route, he won't go to counseling or any program that can help him. I cry everyday out of anger, and sadness over his choices. My marriage is now suffering because my husband kicked him out the house, who knows where he is at or what he's doing. He was such a smart boy and all his teachers loved him so much, don't know where I lost my son.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I don't know why this is happening. It is his choice though and you need to recognize that.

[@andyjohnson7566]

I have two sons 26 and 22 but they have just become unmotivated. they need to take control of their live, but HOW,,,,,

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Andy Johnson, I don't know the specifics. If you want to work with me or one of our coaches, make an appointment at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.

[@Alphacentauri819]

It depends on if it’s in your house, or if they are dependent on you... if not, let them be! If they are dependent on you, you need to get very good at expressing your expectations, needs and boundaries. You have a right to your boundaries. Spoken in a respectful way to both parties and following through consistently. You don’t owe them anything, unless maybe they have disabilities.

[@TamMoo1977]

I left my three children dad nine years ago. Moved from Georgia to Texas. My oldest daughter now lives in Scotland. I missed her prom and graduation. I respect why she is upset at me. Any suggestions to get her back in my life? She was 18 at the time.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

TamMoo, accept responsibility for your behavior and what happened. Show her how you have changed and what you have learned in life. Ask for permission to be a part of her life and then follow through with whatever you say. Don't promise if you can't deliver. Good luck.

[@tguthrie1121]

How can I back off when they are making choices that are harming themselves!!!????

[@ilonamacdonaldsagittarius2173]

Hello 👋 can you please do the video how to control Stubborn little kids. I have a daughter and she is 6 years old but very stubborn child. I would really appreciate it thank you!😊

[@VarnasBaltas]

There's a lot of helpful videos on the positive parenting playlist, you can check that out! It has helped me a lot with my girls. (6 and 4)

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I will add this to the topic list, Ilona Macdonald Sagittarius. Glad to have you at the channel.

[@ilonamacdonaldsagittarius2173]

Live On Purpose TV thank you sir!😊

[@michaelmiller1561]

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[@iolet.9695]

Tyx

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for watching.

[@belindamaldonado7951]

I am struggling with my 21-year-old daughter:) I just looked up young adults and this shows up. It sounds easier than it is though.

[@tarajohnson5491]

I’m having issues with an adult daughter. She’s in a relationship with a man who is disrespectful to her. I didn’t raise a door mat, but I’m told to mind my business. She keeps moving back and forth between me and him. It’s driving me crazy!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Tara Johnson, set some boundaries. You have told her how you feel and now it is up to her to decide. When she is with you, he is not the topic, she can complain elsewhere

[@Alphacentauri819]

I have a 23 year old daughter who was making some really poor decisions... I was doing some deep self work and learned different approaches with her. It’s been a tough road, but we’ve both made incredibly changes. One thing that has helped enormously, is I approach from a place of deep curiosity , instead of judgment. I’ve also learned to be vulnerable & say the things behind what I used to say (the true meaning). For example, before, I would tell her what she should be doing, that she could be better and ask “why”, not in a curious way...but in a frustrated condemning way. All that does is fracture a bridge. Now, I try to ask, and deeply listen. I try to say how much I care, without any manipulation or attachment to outcomes. The Personal Development School (has a you tube channel too) has revolutionized my thinking. I learned I have fearful avoidant attachment style. It helped me make sense of my past relationships, choices I’ve made and more. It’s helped me see my daughters behaviors in a whole new light. I can question my narratives better and be more open and compassionate. That feels safer to her, therefore she tells me more. I’ve learned about why we are attracted to the people we are...it’s usually subconscious, based on many things. If we go to relationships that aren’t good for us, it means our relationship to ourselves is usually not healthy. When we repair that, through healing our core wounds, subconscious programs, we change how we see the world and ourselves, & in turn, who we are attracted to. My thinking has been transformed through doing work through Thais Gibson (The Personal Development School). Her KZbin channel is what started me on my current healing path. I wish you and your daughter well 💐

[@ge2168]

It's a tough time and my adult son has, like so many, found himself job less, his relationship ended and his house sold. He's back home with me. Not surprising he's unmotivated. I've given him comfort but at what point do I request he helps around the home. He's 30.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Gloria Malin, before he moved in. Honestly, there needs to be a discussion and he needs to know that he is responsible for himself, you are not the maid.

[@missmarinette4492]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I'm sorry but what you said is actually kind of ableist. Yes he's responsible for himself. but what you're saying is very rigid and he needs boundaries, NOT an aggressive sentence that says 'you're an adult, take responsibility for your own life' and that's also ageist too. Nobody is perfect and I think what you said is pretty judgemental and harsh.

[@gawmom14herzoo10]

Problem is my oldest going on 19 in August and still in my Home and has no motivation to grow up and be a productive member of this household. Or society for that I have backed off but I see him spinning out of control.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I hope the video is helpful to you. Hang in there.

[@davidregan9872]

My friend got a girl knocked up when he was only 16! My cousin when he was 17! She ended up a drug addict, but now at 30 plus she is doing good for now!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am glad she is doing well now.

[@danten7774]

what if they dont get any of the messaging

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

dan ten, you might be surprised with what sinks in.

[@masakichi26]

Hi, I'd really appreciate advice on how to interact and be a good parent to a very young adult who feels they have no purpose in life and they will always be sad. They help around the house, work part time but isolate in their free time, have no friends and don't make any plans for the future.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

ewa norman, sounds like they haven't found anything yet that they are passionate about. Find areas you can explore together that might be interesting to him. Just keep trying.

[@siddiqueafeera3685]

Thanks sir,a lot of thanks

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are very welcome, Siddique Afeera. It's an honor to be on your team.

[@music.translation]

Love it 😍

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you! 😊

[@stickyandsweetie]

The sweeter I am to him ..the more he takes the beep😢

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Have you tried consequences?

[@denissejuarez2974]

Could you advice? My daughter is almost 20 we pay for insurance, cell collage, room and food. She is out of a state. But one day a friend's mom call me and said that she was here for 2 weekends and I didn't know that. I feel that at least she can call me and tell me that she was here. I think that she wants all our support with out ask for anything. I try to give space for her. Advice me, please. Thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Denisse Juarez, let her know what is expected and how she has hurt you. You can decide not to pay for those things and she may appreciate you more.

[@denissejuarez2974]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you!

[@cherokeejames963]

Awesome snack as a Dad

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for watching.

[@RR-pn6kf]

Ok but what should I expect from my young adult son! He seems so bothered by presence, like he doesn’t love me at all!.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

J R, I would expect civility and respect. Beyond that, try to find or participate in something you both like so build some commonality. It might be more about him than you.

[@bridgetmenham6686]

I feel like that too My din is 21 and he s not a giver and he wants ti entertain someone timo night won't tell me who and wants me ti stay somewhere But I have no where to say I'm not in a relationship and civid rules etc and hes been texting me tonight from hes bedroom being cross

[@cherokeejames963]

Live on purpose. Ok we dads are to become a counsel for our children. God it

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Cherokee, best of luck to you.

[@cherokeejames963]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thanks it's along struggle but learning from you helps. The end of the story shall be awesome

[@asiatic_lily_kitty4819]

How to send this to my parents without sending it to them

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Art_ lover, maybe have it playing while they are nearby?

[@fitnessforhealthandhappine1746]

My homeless daughter returned home yesterday with her homeless boyfriend, they want "help", but will take no advice... I don't want my daughter to be homeless, but I can't support her bad decisions. I bought her a tent and let her live in the backyard, maybe that sounds cruel to some, but what am I doing as a parent if I let them live in a warm house and freeload off me? IF they come to me with a PLAN, and need help executing to get on their feet, that is different, but just existing... I don't know how to motivate someone who has been homeless for over 2 years, they call themselves without a roof, not homeless, because "anywhere is a home where you rest your head, even if it is under the stars". Good grief... I am so confused.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Fitness For Health And Happiness, see if there are any local programs that can help your daughter get the therapy she needs.

[@cherokeejames963]

Thanks aw a Dad I just support them right?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes you do, and love them no matter what and even if...

[@jaydog9508]

It just sucks watching, helpless, as they throw in your face that they are grown ups and they keep making such obvious mistakes and refuse to listen. So you stop offering advice and watch videos like this, give them space, make yourself available... After my daughter abandoned college to live a life of adventure on the road, she came back to us 2.5 years later, pregnant, abused and penniless.... I love her, but damnit she makes it hard.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jay Dog, sounds like you are frustrated. It is tough when the choices they make are not beneficial to them.

[@paulcordova1531]

My son is so smart but is also chronically lazy no motivation. Cries when he does job searches. I slave all day but have to come home to this. Being a good parent is a sucker's bet.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Paul Cordova, hang in there. Might need to do some work on himself before he gets there.

[@AmirBasri-y6j]

“My son is so smart but…” there is no “but” he is smart period.

[@mms8477]

I am a single parent. I am sure you do not grow up your child to end up in prison and you'll love them no matter what.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

M &Ms, love them no matter what and even if...

[@yan89]

my son, an A+ student left home and went to college three years ago and got interested in playing video games in the school's Esports club, so he decided to change his path to become a professional gamer without finishing his academic education. after several discussions with him, we decided to stop providing financial support to him, he has to find a full-time job first if he wants to pursue that path. he eventually found a full-time job but he decided to cut communication with us completely. NOW Dr. Paul. what can I do?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Molly, be patient and let him have some experiences in the world. You only control yourself. Hopefully he will figure some things out and you can build a relationship with him as an adult.

[@karinae.schofield5605]

Um..Yea, this video spared my son's very life..lol..cause I was like..well..you know 😊

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I get it. Thanks for watching.

[@chinhang8953]

Thank you Doctor

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Chinh Dang, you are welcome.

[@glynnispitcher9423]

( REHAB TIME! ) THE RELATIONSHIP WITH HOUR CHILDREN IS MEANT TO TIGGER UNSOLVED WOUNDS AND SUPPRESSED MEMORIES AND FEELINGS FROM HOUR OWN CHILDHOOD SO THA WEE MAY INTEGRATE THOSE FRACTURED ASPECTS OF HOUR BEING AND BECOMB MOOR WHOLE. FACTS OVA FEELINGS!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for watching and commenting.

[@robertbench5187]

I'm already in my 20s but my parents still treats me like a 10 yr old kid! I feel so embarrassed 😣

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Robert Bench, maybe your could watch the video with them and have a discussion???

[@onwardsandupwards7397]

Tell them how you want to be treated and stop them in their tracks when they treat you like a child. My daughter has done this successfully with me!

[@glenhampson1619]

That’s great advice, however…what if it’s your daughter, her boyfriend and your granddaughter living in your basement.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

They may need to find another place to live if things are not going smoothly.

[@lisagee3318]

A you buddy it's not going to be any switches respect for you that is not a switch nowhere it was yesterday time doesn't get lost with range and range doesn't get lost with time respect it is not an equation don't blame it on language now I have had the opportunity that wasn't a rock I do not want you to blame it on the word now I haven't built anything you forgot respected as not a builder don't tell nobody it was yesterday makeup whatever yeah that you like it is never time situation respect for others this is not even a language nobody is talkin do you know that parent no blame

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am not sure I understand your comment. Thank you for watching.

[@Nima-to3ls]

👍

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks, Nina. I gave you a thumb's up, too!

[@Nima-to3ls]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you!😊

[@swat4hire]

It looks to me like Vicky's done a great job as clean as that houses behind you! I'm handicapped and 53 my husband 62 and a lawn force man we have to adopt the kids and I have 11 dead natural born children never made it through the prenatal stage so we were happy when my sister-in-law's kids were given to us They both still live at home and they are lazy as a person seems to be able To be. It's like they're shakespearean characters it wake up saying to be or not to be every morning in the always choose to be the youngest especially without doing a dam thing for the family or the home which is a hovel I'm wondering what kind of then build he would recommend for someone like me that just wants to leave these people since look dad's an enabler and they're lazy? You can say it's me but I'm 53 half blind diabetic and have a broken back to generate disposees arthritis ... Thanks for your advice because I can't get these kids to do dishes hardly ever and can count on 2 hands how many times he had thought one did that but the youngest won't do a thing

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

swat4hire, just so you know, I do housework also. See some of the videos on the teen playlist and start controlling what the kids get and what they need to do to earn privileges. You will need to be on the same page with the dad for this to work, but you can change what is happening in the home.

[@harambeespecialmathchannel8242]

Parents mean well but their are often not growing with their kids.

[@natashalapin6423]

Yes, they want their freedom, but they think I'm the bank with endless funds :(

[@abutterfly7975]

What you’re not saying is we are their parents for life but we are to stop parenting once they become adults that’s the problem overbearing controlling parents instead of letting their adult children find their way they’re starting their growth and making them incapable of coping in the world by smothering them

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Well said, thank you.

[@bosiljkagajic1356]

Your way of parenting it may work for you and your children but it does not work for the rest of the world you have five fingers and then that same neither of the children I have two of them they’re not even similar to one another more or less the same I am sorry to say sorry but you’re wrong

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

None of my four children are the same. I identify principles and then how we apply them may change child to child.

[@ingenuity168]

Childless people are lucky.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I disagree, but that is o.k. Everyone's road is different.

[@markdavid9056]

Try open minded, and always stick your nose in to keep them on track and out of danger and trouble, you muppet. You forgot to mention they build through common sense. Not your online money making racket ffs.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

What? Did you comment on the right channel?

[@denadonahue7085]

Thanks

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Welcome, Dena.

[@victorkeller]

Thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Victor Keller, you are welcome.