How To Be A Man - Part 2 (Advanced Version)

[@sambhattarai6880]

If I had a dollar for every women that found me unattractive, they would eventually find me attractive

[@AndreMonz]

Why do you think you are unattractive? You told you that story that you are not attractive? What are you doing in order to feel more attractive?

[@ULTIMATE_FREEDOM_FIGHTER]

haha

[@ActualizedOrg]

Those kind of women would also eventually leave you lonely and poor. So save your dollars and instead work on your attitude.

[@sambhattarai6880]

+Actualized.org I appreciate the reply but I was literally just joking, I'd like to think I am very attractive even tho I have no monies :(

[@ToreGarberg]

Don't use this as an opener!

[@kalter000]

Some guys in he comment section didn't get Leo's message here, so let me share my perspective: Being emotional has nothing to do with being beta or feminine or weak, it's the single most important trait a psychologically healthy individual can have. Guys as emotional as girls, thinking overwise is very dangerous stereotype. If you're not in touch with your emotions, not aware of them, than you are a ticking bomb, unstable, ready to explode every second. Leo is basically saying, that in order to become more masculine, you have to get rid of your neurotic clinging to be masculine. Because that idea of masculinity is a set of simplistic artificial rules you are trying to live up to, ROBBING yourself from freedom of expression. Girls are not looking for *perfect* guy, they are looking for a guy who is *perfectly fine* with himself. So self-acceptance, including your feminine side, is mandatory. If you care about being "masculine", it's already a huge sign of your insecurity -ask yourself why aren't you enough already? Perhaps the reason for relationship fails is not your lack of masculinity, but your self-doubting insecure attitude?

[@atrainay]

Red pill/MGTOW says women will leave men if they show any signs of feelings/emotions. If the men are in touch with their feminine side.

[@EdDesan77]

kalter000 Dude! Look he is saying be authentic be yourself! Ok thats fine. BUT, now days women are attracted to the guys that are by nature rebels, bad boys, criminals, and the gangsters, people that are naturally like that! Like there is a lot of cases where women are super attracted to these guys naturally they are wired to seek these men! But after so much pain they learn that this type of guys only bring strong emotions but they lack what this guys is saying they don't have that soft side! They have gone through life under consistent pain and trial and error so they naturally believe that life is hard and you have to live it in the present moment and thats why they do things like... lets go to a bar, then lets go to my apartment, than lets have crazy sex, they try all kinds of fantasies and they send their girlfriends away and use drugs for the rest of the night and get lost for a week or two like they are put in jail or go hiding for a while so no one knows abiut them. So a woman thinks that this man she just had amazing sex with last night has a soft side like he will come the next day or the next weekend looking for her because he found her so attractive and because she is so gorgeous he tried every sexual position and gave her many orgasms (she thinks) but he does not do this he goes and hide so she is confused because like leo is saying here is that it makes sense to be like that but the bad boy does not do it and she does not know what to do so she goes to try to make this guy act the way it should be! And she entangles her self into this idea until she gets hurt because after so much pain she realizes that the guy never will change so she thinks well if l give him a son he will change for his family and there she goes again. Now on the other hand if a man does what leo is saying here she will like it genuinely but she will not find a challenge because this man is already a trophy in her wall so she gets bored with him she already knows what to expect from him tomorrow and the next week where on the other hand she is uncertain about whats going to happen with the thug! You see the estate of affairs now day specially with women being in social media where you have a lot of men giving them compliments and showing their emotions like leo says, this thing makes a woman feel super empowered and wanted so they think they have a lot of options to choose from! So if you want to be that guys then you will be screwed over because you see are the same as the hundreds chasing after them confessing their feelings for them and being themselves......... this make you a boring guy in their eyes! Get the point??????

[@yyxy.oncesaid]

Nothing wrong if you aren't the type to cry.

[@kirilspasov3304]

"A real man brings the man into whatever he's doing. The activity doesn't define the man, the man defines the activity" - truer words haven't been spoken. Also a summary for those tl;dr type of people lol. Great one Leo, as always.

[@Blackflame-jl7pf]

Waiting for How To Be a Man Part 3(God Mode)

[@mruniverse4235]

If you are in the God Mode, you transcended the man, woman paradigm

[@hahaha-pl7ev]

Step 1: Kill your father

[@franciscomngomezulu5595]

That's the how to get laid series🔥

[@TheDiamondNet]

Great perspective on this. Personally, as someone who's highly interested in Yin and Yang and the unique masculine/feminine signatures that ebb and flow within individuals, societies, and other living and non-living systems; I think this is great advice to release resistance to the contrapositive energy. You can't fake this masculine/feminine signature or change it, so it's imperative to embrace it. It's a bit harder for a man to do this because our culture doesn't really value the feminine beyond the appearances of feminine sexuality. A man risks being seen as lowering himself to be more like a woman. A man sees many boons to abandoning his feminine side and learns to do so as a child, most times. Many women (including myself at one point) also decide to repress their femininity as children, as everyone wants to be seen as valuable to society. To meet a man without this feminine resistance is rare and wonderful and when the chemistry is there it's amazingly appealing. The "alpha male" caricature has never done anything for me at all and the culture surrounding it is toxic and a bit sad to watch a man try to write over his personality with a hollow ideal. It's always the uniqueness of the man and the way that he makes me feel that wins me over. You can't make a real connection with a picture of G.I. Joe. XD I think this caricature only works for picking up women, in general, because society collectively buys into this false masculinity.

[@depthoffield4744]

Hi.

[@matthcw8745]

PARAGRAPHS

[@shitmandood]

I find it helpful to simply be aware of the traits when I'm out & about. Who is pretending to be what gender? Even women act more manly perhaps if they've been treated badly in prior relationships. Their guard goes up & they have belief system about men in bad relationships. They're aware of the alpha male traits & have rejected them for instance (been there & done that so to speak).

[@TheDiamondNet]

shitmandood This goes back much before this happens. I personally started to repress my feminine side when I was about 7 or 8, and it didn't have anything to do with relationships or sexuality or anything like that. I realized early on that the traits that came most naturally to me came with an association of weakness and triviality that I didn't want to carry around. People would always let me win at games and take it easy on me or censor things from me. Or I would just get left out from things that meant a lot to me. I really resented being patronized. So, in order to be seen as more credible, I began to learn to develop a more masculine persona via increasing my pain tolerance, developing physical strength, numbing out my emotions, indifference to the environment, etc. At summer camp, I used to have the girls scratch my arms until they bled to prove my indifference to pain to others. Now, I had a really extreme version of feminine repression that I attribute mostly to issues with my mother and an extreme identification with my father. But I believe that every child in our society learns early on that masculine=good and feminine=weak/lame. This causes so many issues on the individual level as well as the social level. There are many wounds that people don't even know that they have.

[@TheDiamondNet]

DepthOfField Hello! :) Nice to see you!

[@williamng6441]

I learnt more about being a real man and being more myself from watching this one video than watching 100 dating advice ones

[@elijahj-l825]

mercy. Most of the dating videos can be deceptive and cause you to be fake.

[@randomboy123ify]

Omg Leo this video came out the night before i start high school, thank you so much, i need all these man videos, keep up the awesome job.

[@arratiugonaipPR]

Damn, embracing and behaving in a feminine way honestly felt extremely liberating, and all I did was dance alone in private with some music. I can't believe all the suffering I created for myself from "trying" to be macho, fuckk.

[@ActualizedOrg]

Dancing's a great things for guys to do more of. You could even take some dance classes, like Salsa.

[@rasmus7400]

@@milespq5561 xD

[@christophercarmonachriz]

Bro, i was dancing alone today and it was awesome!!!!

[@KlausHendryck]

So many people will not get this...

[@MartinoDeanMusic]

I 100% agree!

[@atrainay]

Especially the guys on the red pill/MGTOW spaces on KZbin.

[@user-we7go7ed3l]

... i wanna eat broccoli

[@leon00778]

True for most important truths, sadly.

[@elijahj-l825]

Unfortunately yeah brother.

[@allanblack1239]

"Feminine energy is aware, all knowing, and confident. It is calm and is sure of what it wants. It’s honest, it seeks the truth and is okay with whatever answer because it’s secure. It is not dumb, weak, bitchy, or chaotic"

[@hossemadian7127]

Seeing some of your videos from 2014 then 2016 and now 2019 and beyond I can see you getting so much more confident. There's totally a character shift from your old videos to the newer ones. I am a huge fan of your videos Leo. I have purchased the life purpose course and your book list. I am so excited for my future self. Love you brother.

[@flyingguitarist7026]

How's your future & present ?

[@069220]

If you don't understand what Leo is saying here, then you probably never will, he is totally right!

[@lazygeniuzs634]

oh... my... god.... thats exactly what i needed , i cryed right after this video and im so thankful leo ! i was tired of trying to be that alpha male :( i was being direspectful to my parents and thinking 'im the shit' all the time and that wasnt making me happy , so i been aware of it and i thought that my problem is that i just feed my ego too much so i was trying to be a 'nobody'' these last 2 days and completely trying to kill me (my ego) but now everything is clear , thank you so much leo !

[@franklinelectro4935]

who else uses this guy's videos to fall asleep

[@Prknoo]

Me

[@PEFANIS1]

Turns out we have a real man in the house who needs lullabies to fall asleep.

[@fliu5282]

"When you are trying to do Alpha, it actually makes you Beta". Yes, it is so true. It is "inclusive" in a FULL spectrum of masculinity. "Your neediness comes from deep in-authenticity in you" - definition of nice guy. "If you are authentic, you would not be needy, the needy be fixed" - character of a good guy. Oh wow such a revelation "the activities does not defined the man, the man defines the activities".

[@MikeyHansen]

Always been the sensitive type and this is hands down one of the best tips you've ever given. Since not being afraid of saying what I feel and showing it as well, I've not only had success, but my self esteem has also improved a lot!

[@sebby101]

So awesome! I was watching the original part 1 and after it felt as though the content wasn't really wise and i could tell a sence of confusion in you, once I watched this version instantly you can feel the truth and certainty in it. Once again unconditional acceptance is the solution, the power and unflappable groundedness that arises from unconditional acceptance is far more "manly" that the Hollywood ideal of machismo. Love your vids keep em coming.

[@lilravergrl420]

Good job on this video! Men will feel more empowered by embracing their feminine side. Every single person holds both feminine & masculine energy. I think it's great you are encouraging men to drop labels & gender stereotypes to find fulfillment & happiness. Thank you for your service

[@haripatel2586]

Just got my nails done with my brother girlfriend - felt great haha

[@DubWheelerVideos]

lmaoooo

[@skoluh]

Thank you Voldemort. I'm a huge fan!

[@rasmus7400]

bully

[@GerardoHernandez-mg4ry]

So funny 🤣🤣

[@antonitescaro2728]

I realized after a few breakups that you can't make the woman your number 1 priority. If you say to her "My number 1 priority in life is to make you happy", your relationship will be over soon. Focus on your career and dreams first, thats what keeps her interested in you, thats how the female brain works

[@ActualizedOrg]

That applies to women too. Neediness never turns out well for anyone.

[@maxgorlov1243]

This is amazing content Leo, you felt as if you were acting very openly and authentically in this video, and its endearing. Keep up the good work, I learn so much from you!

[@secureconnection5245]

Likewise, for a woman to embrace her masculine qualities would get her closer to her wholesome authentic self. I've been doing it lately and noticed a lot more both guys and girls find me increasingly appealing as a person. Great video, Leo, thank you!

[@Lichfeldian--Suttonian]

Leo, this is soooo much better than Part 1, and this reflects the man that I feel, the man that Western culture tells me to get rid of, because it's too 'mousey'. My last 4 years has had me identify what my 'me' means to me.

[@sebastianmartinez5508]

I realized that yes, I do have a problem with my masculinity, but I was making it worse by not embracing my femininity. Honestly, most of my strengths are on my feminine side, and yes, that means I got work to do on my masculine side, the problem is that I was being very dismissive of my feminine strengths and there is no way of working on your weaknesses if you are disconnected and unappreciative of your strengths. That is why for my first magic mushroom trip I set the intention " to find and make contact with my inner masculine power and allow my feminine energy to flow".

[@mstadpole7726]

Emotional maturity, vulnerability and authenticity are vital to a successful relationship. It took me two failed marriages to figure that out, after more than two years on self development journey.

[@danyboy99]

Wow. This comment impressed me. How is your life going for you by now?

[@10menwhen]

Coming from my person experience, I agree such much with Leo. When I was with my ex girlfriend she loved me for “acting like a woman” ( being emotional at times, being goofy, romantic etc). When we took each other seriously I tried to act “like a man”. (Being macho, being an extrovert, doesn’t have any worries), and it wasn’t my true self. I wasn’t genuine with how I felt and it made me fake most of my emotions, and I ended up being emotionally abusive Bc I wasn’t myself. I fell to the whole macho stereotype, next time I’m simply going to be myself no matter what and let those ppl come to my life.

[@10menwhen]

*personal

[@rasmus7400]

:)

[@richiebrz1670]

Hey Leo!. I've seen a few of your videos now and I just wanted to say that I find them very inspiring and helpful. If only more people could take the time and address some of the issues you discuss in these videos with actualization, for sure the world be a better a place. Keep up the good work!

[@oraoraora729]

1:25: if you want to be more of a man, be more of a woman. 11:51: your goal is not to cling to one or to the other, but to embody both poles. 12:03: the technique is accentuate your feminine qualities 13:32: if you feel that crying or being romantic or being compassionate or being nice to someone that erodes your masculinity, notice that your masculinity is not very strong. 14:24: just see how that makes you feel, does that make you feel like a woman all of a sudden. It shows you that your masculinity is a facade and it's not really grounded in something deeper. 17:27: what girls are attracted to is they are attracted to authenticity, authentic expressions of self and emotion regardless of whether it is macho or not. 20:10: more or less universally, girls are repelled by neediness from guys. 20:39: understanding that your neediness actually comes from a deep inauthenticity in you

[@Gilbertify1]

Gonna have to go back in time and re-watch part 1. Some of your videos have helped me tremendously. I might need advice from these two videos especially to be honest. Thank you Leo!

[@ilmarivienamo2987]

The newer videos can have a way smarter perspective though, so keep that in mind.

[@previewauto7003]

This is one of the hardest things. MAsculinity is so much related to 'succes with women' almost inherent, that it seems so paradoxical being Oke with losing more goals for the sake of authenticity. I love your paradoxes Leo, it is very challenging for me. And it really takes time to sink in..

[@zeetheentertainer]

Thank you so much, Leo. I've been suspecting something similar to this for some time, but I thought I was wrong.

[@MrKedasas]

so resonating. I am machoish. but once i try to cling to it, it feels fake. and once I've let go, charisma manifested, "finally you're not faking" I had an insight a while ago, and felt intuitively it to be right, and many thanks Leo, I feel more confident in it. A real man, doesn't pretend to be one.

[@allanblack1239]

Masculinity/Feminine "For the balance to work, each must be opposites on the scale. If an energy is very masculine (10), then it’s matching energy will be very feminine (10)." 'Things naturally occur in balance." (Authenticity)

[@djj1916]

Great video Leo! I agree 100% Especially the part about owning and being needy to a great girl and then losing her because of it. I was that needy guy 2 years ago which caused me to introspect and question who I was and ultimately, led me to my current path of personal development. I'm no longer needy, I like to cook and go to yoga class because I want to and find that women absolutely love that! Man, life is one big paradox!

[@elijahj-l825]

When I first watched the beginning of this video, I was going to say, "Yea, I liked the first video better." But when you expanding on the subject, I actually started agreeing. I may not be the manly man that the world portrays, but I do know this...I am who I am. Meaning, I am myself. I am that expressive, friendly, emotional, caring, outgoing man and I do not regret it. In fact, these are the best parts of and in me. That is what makes me, me. That is just what makes me an honest human being. After watching your videos I can see how powerful and real I could be. I also love to draw some art and write some poetry. Now I can officially say, "I am me and that is the best person I could EVER be!"

[@davidcendana2302]

How to be an attack helicopter?

[@MrDick-kz8qc]

Be more like a civil aircraft

[@toasterrobot8566]

i identify as british attack helicopter and if you judge me then you are a hetrosexual gay lesbian

[@bluechucks8666]

L

[@fliu5282]

Not really. To me, to be a good guy is not to be an Apache (macho guy), it is to be a B2-Bomber. People be running scared.

[@Kenji1685]

Be a chinook

[@rafaelmendoza3824]

Im glad that youve realized this Leo. So much respect on this idea.

[@enlightenmentbarbie]

Whoa this is such a much better / more in-depth video than the last one! I'm a female... I happen to be very masculine in my mind / psychology however very feminine on the outside (physiology and how I dress /makeup/all that crap) . And, my husband, I would say is skewed slightly more towards the feminine side in his general persona and psychology. However I view him as WHOA one hell of a masculine man. Because not only in appearance (built tall, and carries himself with warm confidence) he's also comfortable in his own skin, nothing is beneath him, he allows himself to express ALL sides of himself, authentically and unabashedly, and it comes across to every single person who meets him. And he doesn't try to push anyone around. He asserts himself by presenting his systematic and thorough research, in the context of holistic understanding of the bigger picture. Truly: many of my girl friends tell me "your husband may be the last best man on earth." I laugh every time I hear this! Because he's got his bullshit like anyone - but generally, YEAH! He's just a well-balanced, well-crafted man. (Why I married the guy!) BUT he also happens to have had a few more years (17 more than me, to be exact) to craft his masculinity, and many of the girls I'm friends with continue to date men their age (and they happen to be several years younger than I am.) I tell them to go for the older man every time.... they seldom do! I wonder why that is?! I suppose I am a different case since I am a female who is and has always been supremely confident, highly competitive in my work, likes to "fuck the world" as was said in the previous video, AND play both sides of the spectrum - I actually DO tend towards arrogance and "macho" moves (weird to try and describe) yet also try to let my feminine energy kick in every once in a while and not give too much "tough love" / give people the softer side. But I can tell you that the most attractive men to me are the ones who gracefully walk the fence of their masculine and feminine in whatever way they find best for them, like this video talks about! That's how you can spot a really "real" person. Long comment. Thanks for the video!

[@filipringdal8831]

Yo, Leo! This is excactly what i've been thinking! And because i'm a man, i need confirmation, so that i don't feel wrong haha ;) Thank you for this, it summarized a process of learning to be authenticly vulnerable. I'm still in process ofc. but the pieces are tied together by you. Thank you my friend

[@thatsSWAGGERY]

You drop so many gems bro, appreciate you 💯

[@deepDudu]

Self expression is a hallmark of authenticity which is what most people really want. We are typically attracted to people who have the qualities that we subconsciously want. This is why women are attracted to guys who can be themselves, so to speak. There’s more to attraction than that, but it is often a key component. On another note, deep connections are formed through vulnerability. That is, expressing parts of ourselves that society tells us aren’t okay. Everyone feels subconscious on some level or another. So when we let our guards down we are connecting more deeply. A solid interaction with a women is going to have both components, attraction and connection.

[@Tullerman]

These "manly videos" are some of the lessons I struggle with the most in my life so I really like these ones, great shit (even if I already knew everything in this video but inspiration is needed to exercise it) :)

[@CometCowboy01]

another perspective of similar condition helps alot i find and leo provides that...

[@sonicboom2738]

so the saying just be yourself is wisdom. another great one Leo!

[@45nnd]

been waiting for this :D thank you so much leo

[@Darkzen24]

Step 1) Figure out who you are, underneath all the conditioning/acculturation/indoctrination Step 2) Be that person, regardless of the circumstances/situtation Step 3) Congratulations, you're now authentic and will weed out all the problem people from your life

[@betadryl]

This is how to be a man: "I reject your reality and substitute my own"

[@GerardoHernandez-mg4ry]

I like it

[@cleanhabitats]

Speaking of doing things girls do...... back in the day I shaved my legs for fast cycling (real fast). Girls seemed to find me.....irresistible. I like your version # 1 - I've always enjoyed going out and fucking with the world. I sell Kirby vacuums - we're courageous and haven't sold out. It's perfect for me - might be a woman's job but it's a man's machine.

[@MrAwsomeism]

This makes a lot of sense. Just look at women who take on "manly" endeavors like MMA fighting and weightlifting. They do what they're authentically drawn towards, and we applaud them for it! Why would it be any different with men? Thanks for the great advice, Leo!

[@DJOutdoors]

This is a very interesting concept Leo. Being authentic means embracing the femenine qualities non alpha males have. So many people including myself complain of not being alpha and think it's a bad thing, it's true it's effected me getting women not being an alpha male but what you say helps me to see that non alphas have traits women like.

[@lilravergrl420]

I would like to provide more insight. The energy that repels women most is the feeling of being unsafe. My twin flame is very clingy & I like it but I also really enjoy the closeness, cuddling, & affection. He respects my space when I need it & I'm really glad he was honest with me from the beginning. Let's face it, we all NEED each other. There is limited spiritual enlightenment in solitude.

[@yousfiabdelali]

Leo somehow manages to intellectualize bravery

[@yidakiman5545]

I used to be woman and now I learned to be a man . Thank you

[@devonsteinke]

This is my favorite topic you've touched on thus. Thank you.

[@elijahj-l825]

Right!!

[@rishi8840]

how to be a man? go your own way... simple

[@gfr381]

How do you know if its actually YOUR own way, or something you learned from culture... Not so simple my friend

[@goingsomewhere5498]

Gerardo R+ Maybe following your own desires. And not the desires from other people

[@andresuribe350]

+Gerardo R only intrsopection is needed

[@vladn6031]

I think, self honesty is needed to figure it out. Also, I think the desire to be someone, rather than to do something, generally comes from the outside. I doubt a desire such as to become a millionaire can be someone's true desire. Usually such a desire comes from outside and is accepted as one's own because of unhealed emotional wounds.

[@ajanaya8055]

MGTOW

[@nick55ification]

coincidentally I just watched the first video an hour before this one! both were very helpful and I am glad you followed up with this. thanks :)

[@djchonny]

Finally! Some common fucking sense! I see these video as a step foward, we need more autonomous women and emotionally literate men.

[@happythoughts7792]

Hey Leo! Just stopping by to thank you for your videos :) You were one of the big mentors for my self development!

[@nicsworld82]

im lost.... the first video he says dont act like a girl now he says act like a full women....wtf are we supposed to do?

[@icarusking4496]

Act like an attack helicopter

[@talkshh]

im usually attracted to men that have many feminine qualities, and repulsed by the ones that are all macho. idk what are people in the comments thinking

[@johny_doe]

I bet your man is crying when you have sex

[@dahakaguardianofthetimelin4780]

Better to cry having sex than crying without it, *NOW YOU MUST STILL SURVIVE EVVVIILLLAAAKKK!!!*

[@saarah3847]

Through tests and observing myself I've noticed I'm very half and half male and female brained, so I feel I'd be attracted to a man who was thereabouts on the scale too

[@karimnanji4163]

then you must lot's of masculine qualities, if both are feminine in a relationship then you will loose attraction...I suggest David Died's book...THE WAY OF A SUPERIOR MAN...Good luck Hun and all the success and happiness to you:-)

[@KlausHendryck]

Well im a guy, but i feel the same towards girls... i dont want to be with girl who is extremely feminie. I want to be with a girl who expresses herself fully and goes out into the world and does whatever the hell she wants without caring what others think or say. I think in general for a well balanced realtionship its necesarry that the man has some feminine qualities (while still being manly) and that the woman has some male qualities (while still being feminine)

[@panoskatsos5454]

Women dont like the perfect man ,they like the man who is perfectly fine with himself

[@markr9554]

I have listened to probably more than a dozen youtube videos on femininity vs masculinity and also read a few books on the subject. The approach outlined here is the only one that I have to date successfully implemented in my life that I believe has actually made me truly more masculine, attractive to women, and successful in life. The reality is that I am authentically a nice guy, who is slightly eccentric, has some nerdy interests and does not fit the profile of Arnold Schwarzenegger or Vin Diesel or the Rock. There are some traditional masculine attributes that I do have such as the fact that I am independent, persistent, hard working, and successful and passionate at my career, but trying to act like The Rock would be inauthentic and would be so unnatural for me that it would be like a right handed person trying to be left handed. So, I have found that being my authentic self, which has both masculine and yes, some feminine attributes, has been the only strategy I have ever successfully implemented with regards to being TRULY masculine. Great video.

[@strenghia]

Thank you for this video, Leo. Seriously it is a gift. So much knowledge that you have worked to get you now offer for free. I totally agree with you in any video. Some videos I don´t agree. I get inspired. I would be fun if you would interact with other people in the videos. For instance how to attract girls and see if the techniques work. I know it requires a bit more and to me in right moment when recording the video. That would be an evidence to me

[@MrVortexpro]

This video couldn't have come at a better time as I just went through my first breakup 😂 Thanks for looking out for me Leo.

[@absolute___zero]

This talk is not about "being a man", it is about "being happy". Simply because all that you said applies to women equally , as it is applied to man. A woman would also be an authentic woman if she does all the things she feels she should be doing. But "being a man" would be all those things that women should not do. That's why there is a difference between a man and a women. Men have different goals and role in the society than women.

[@jannisg5620]

since I was in high school I never understood the shallow macho mindset and appearence of these people. I‘m a teenager who often wears nail polish, walks talks and sometimes behaves feminine, wears a lot of colorful and eccentric clothes and sometimes even wears crop tops or „girly“ outfits. When I was in grammar school I loved it. A lot of people looked at me like I was a weirdo and some even insulted me in calling me gay, even though I‘m really attracted to girls. I never gave that much fucks,but it still was a bit of annoying to go through that every single day of school. Since August 2019 I‘m in art school, where a lot of people are just truely themselves or are trying to find themselves. I feel much more confident and even learned to love my feminine and authentic self even more to the point where I don‘t care if some machos or close minded people are insulting me or calling me gay. If that happens I just laugh at them, smile at them or behave even more feminine. Self Expression is just beautiful and truly authentic!

[@LowPlay5]

You are doing a very good job, Leo! Thank you.

[@retribution3180]

im really glad your doing all this, just so you know its not all in vain and your not alone these vids have helped guide me and iv descoverd my passion is helping people understand there brains and living a good life, your not alone bru good shit

[@hazelsnareskullbone]

Leo please make a video about femininity

[@elitose]

I knew a girl who said she would rather have a guy who beats her than a guy who cries.

[@YoungIssyCartel]

From what I gathered in your first video about being masculine and now. Is that I’m off and on about my masculinity. I was raised around woman all my life. I’m in touch with my emotions & I’m very expressive. Recently, speaking with my girlfriend I noticed I’ve been outspoken with my emotions and expressive about them meanwhile she isn’t as much. ( it seems like she’s taking a more masculine role ) but I think what I want to learn is, to be more emotionally mature & grounded. I feel like I’ve been being more expressive about my emotions and with her it’s like I have to pull it out. I’ve been a bit reactive and airy & I’m looking for ways to become less reactive. Not that I want to pull away from my emotions. I just want to be more mature about it and un moved by my feelings while knowing it’s there.

[@marcomeme4875]

Put together with the first video, there are crazy amounts of nuance to consider

[@RaveSceneTribute]

On the whole, Men like feminine women and women like Masculine men. You can be masculine and still be in touch with your feminine side without being Hyper macho.

[@TheFissionIsMailed]

God I loved this segment Leo, you resonated this so well. These always terraform my frame of mind in such an productive and articulate manner. :) Already seeing positive results from experimenting with this, it works well even with family members.

[@j.l9670]

Great video Leo!! One of your best insights......Thanks!! Only a real man is comfortable doing "girls" stuff!! Going to the manicure and doing pilates really boosted my confidence around women.

[@bigbirdtoo]

I wish I would have heard this when I was younger. Awesome video

[@riyaazbasha5863]

Damn.... Nice advice you give every time.

[@maxwillson]

It's a humble experience but don't rely too much on looks, eventually you'll injure yourself and you'll have to take a break from working out and you don't want to be in that situation it can be very depressing.

[@KirolSigma7777]

I am struggling hard to combine being "masculine" (getting girls, having a business, being assertive, having a strong frame, passing women's tests) with my "soft", spiritual side (doing yoga, meditation, being vegetarian), I sense the two things collide with each other in many aspects, but I feel that's the right way to go for me... I dislike the 100% "macho guy", but I also dislike the feminized Social Justice Warrior... Anybody else in this situation?

[@None_of_your_business666]

you can summarize this in "find a way to be more empathic"

[@davidpesek9004]

Hey Leo, I suggest adding an episode about the psychology behind the parental bond. Young man vs. his father and mother. Manlinesswise it could be extremely helpful for the "nice guys" and so. If U read "The Book of Manhood" (S. Biddulph) or "No More Mr Nice Guy" (R. Glover) U know where I'm going. Awesome episode btw love your work...

[@nathanmaki4508]

I started doing yoga, being more picky with foods, clothes, smells. I even watch the bachelor and enjoy it. And by doing these stereotypical feminine things I have slowly started to learn what the female enjoys and dislikes. It is weird at first but once you embody it you don't really think its weird but rather empowering.

[@vincentlanglo7367]

every word this man said sounded so perfect seriosly, thank you so much, everything makes sence now

[@valedro]

Thank you for this video! Interesting topic and great advice. :)

[@ThanosAnim]

Well I must admit, I did not expect it but you have very good content and advice in general. Only you have to consider about changing the aesthetics of your videos sometime, perhaps start with adding some color. Keep up the good work.

[@O-Artistry]

I like how leo says be more feminine but here is the thing. I am more the feminine type of guy, a genuine nice guy, heart on sleeve, honest ect. and I was left because of those reasons, she wanted the more masculine guy who was less emotional and had all the testosterone. I watched his first part and I think you do need to be the middle and have both qualities and not be one or the other. I learnt I need to be more confident because I get shy talking to women and to give to the world but not lose the qualities of who I am.

[@reza310]

this is the best channel that i have ever seen . perfect. thanks for these useful video 😊

[@riandoris]

Any books you recommend to dive deeper into this specific topic? Besides The Way of The Superior Man, have read that and loved it!

[@brothajack1993]

This is an excellent video Leo. A scene from a movie which demonstartes this is 5 Years in Tibet with Brad Pitt. There is a scene where Brad Pitt and another character are talking with a woman. The other character, the not so handsome and not super charismatic dude, has the woman into him in the end because of his "realness" and lack of insecurity of his emotions.

[@glennglenn9305]

your videos should be in high school, doctors clinics. Just watched the male authenticity. Life changing stuff.

[@pinsirharris9900]

Leo, I understand the message: don't lean too far to one side, if that's not the real you. And I agree! But you also make it seem like being unemotional and stoic is not desirable. I used to be real emotional and reactive, until I started following your work. Then I started meditating and learning about enlightenment. Now, I'm very unresponsive to my emotions, and stoic and non-reactive in virtually all situations.. Is that bad? I feel like it's my authentic self, to be cool and calm with whatever, but I don't want my girlfriend and family to think I'm cold or uncaring.

[@ActualizedOrg]

You should distinguish between being emotional in the sense of being triggered by emotions and being their slave, versus being emotional in the sense of fully owning, feeling, embodying, and expressing your emotions authentically. Enlightenment work ultimately makes you MUCH more responsive and feeling, but much less reactive. Sounds like you're repressing emotions and calling that enlightenment work, which is the exact opposite of enlightenment work. If you're not developing deep compassion, you're not doing enlightenment work properly. And deep compassion only comes from experiencing deep suffering. This deep suffering isn't some horrible traumatic event, it's your everyday experience. You just need to become aware of how much suffering you're creating for yourself.

[@pinsirharris9900]

No, I'm not repressing emotions. I feel them completely. I don't let them hijack me anymore- I let them pass. I used to suffer immensely for letting my emotions control me. I am gaining compassion for everyone, and catch myself every time I make a judgment. I just mean like, when I'm happy, I don't become elated like I used to. When I'm sad or angry, I just notice them and let them ride. So on and so forth. Doing so has brought me more peace of mind than ever before. The problem is that people like my family think I'm distant, cold, or even crazy, when all I'm doing is enjoying the present moment as a calm observer. They can't understand it, but it's my happiest state.

[@ActualizedOrg]

Of course family and friends will react egoically to your development. That's to be expected.

[@TheSloak]

Hey Leo - i have two questions on this topic that I'd love to hear your thoughts about: 1. If the true definition of a man is doing whatever the fuck you want - then what is a woman? What really distingushes a woman from a man? Shouldn't a woman also do whatever she wants? 2. What are your thoughts on the concept of gender and the gender studies?

[@Ficojepet]

gender studies are the reason college shouldn't be free in the USA

[@TheSloak]

Why that?

[@Ficojepet]

Geht Dichnixan because it's useless and made up degree and the only position where you can employ those people is professor of gender studies, either that or something that involves language policing and being a pain in the ass to the people around you

[@TheSloak]

Ficojepet Yeah - I don't like what comes out of it in the end too like their obsession over language. But is it really made up? Aren't there scientific studies that support it?

[@ActualizedOrg]

This was called an advanced video for a reason. As you grow into the highest stages of being a human, the distinction between male/female disappears. Gender identity becomes seen as a total illusion. I've started hinting at that here, but it really goes even further than what I said. Masculine/feminine are illusions, because all identity is illusion. I'll talk about that more in the future. Ultimately you want to get to the point where you completely transcend gender, and never worry about it ever again.

[@mindfulliberation7988]

Balancing out some feminine traits with your masculinity I think can be a pretty big blind spot for men these days. I feel like the problem with me is that I am too feminine than masculine, meaning I can be a pretty emotional guy. I didn't grow up with a proper father who instilled a lot of confidence in me so I feel like it has created a lot of confusion for me today. Ultimately, I respect those facts and so moving forward, I think that this was a great video in understanding feminine and masculine traits more clearly, thanks Leo! :)

[@ibrahimsafwat]

How to be a man. 1- have self respect. 2- Don't talk much and make every word count. 3- Be serious. 4- be confident. 5- Be gentle. 6- Be reasonable. 7- Respect others and treat them the way you want to be treated. 8- maintain a healthy muscular body as much as you can. 9- maintain your emotions inside of you and don't publicly expose it to anyone until its the right time. 10- Don't ask much for sex. 11- Don't give a flying fuck about what people think about you. 12- Don't chase women, be in control and know how to tease them and make them chase you.

[@mayankgupta6213]

Basically what he is saying is just be authentic with your feminine side ..which is basically RULE 1 of being masculine is just BE AUTHENTIC

[@nicosmat]

Thank you Leo, that was really relevant to me at the moment :)

[@mololuwow]

Leo, you ain’t never lie

[@sebbilah]

I am very very emotional and sensitive and the only thing it did was get very deep and emotional connections to the women I met. Offcourse, there were women who probably rejected me because of it, but that could also be a sign of their own uncomfort with their own emotions. Being emotional doesn't mean being weak and cowering in a corner. Fake alpha's hide their emotions, it is the simple and easy thing to do. Being emotional and showing it is one of the toughest challenges in life. I know, because I have been portraining myself as the typical macho man, only discovering it wasn't authentic and brought me zerooooo connection with myself and others. Now, I seem a white knight but it really feels like I have been evolved beyond both sides of the coin (black = hyper macho; white = Ultimate nice guy, feminine). I dare you to look within and pay the price for it..

[@elmajdouliabdelhakim6900]

Hello there Leo, yet again you managed to provide deep high quality content which I always find relief and a good vibe when I listen to it. I've been thinking recently about something, to me it appears to me that the problem is not about how to be a man and attract girls, it's about what sort of character traits and attributes one should have to attract his type of women ? at some point I've found myself "thankfully " above that stage if girls like me or not (because at the end of the day, I sit with myself and I say I'm perfect the way I am, I reject people too so it wouldn't hurt to be rejected...but again it feels like it's the reptilian mind that reacts when avoiding exposure because it would hurt to be rejected even if I wouldn't cry about it but that would suck ! ) I don't have any problem in showing my character traits, sometimes I get emotional, sometimes I cook for myself and do the house work and I'm ok with that .. but eventually we do what we do (be more or less groomed, watch the language, take care of the body) to attract the type of girls we deem worthy of that exclusive interaction and the time, the emotions and resources investment. I even feel indifferent in a way that as long as I'm not satisfied with what I do or generate, girls don't matter because deeply I do what I do for my own pride and enjoyment.

[@igorflato4037]

Amazing !!!. Leo, I'm curious what personality type are u, on Myers & Briggs scale?