How To Stop Being Jealous - Techniques To End Jealousy Forever

[@sz2996]

I hate how you feel jealousy in your whole body. How you get sick and your heart starts racing...

[@persephoneblue4276]

I’ve never felt this before ! And yes I actually feel sick ! It’s sooo yuck! But it’s come from my own insecurities 🙄

[@danielleduchess2509]

Same here

[@kritikasingh7992]

Same here

[@cgr88m]

It's something I've been slowly working on, and I'm getting better and better daily , I recommend the book The four agreements and the mastery of love. they helped me and saved me from destroying my relationship

[@rayahui3768]

I didn’t know others felt it the same way, that kinda is sobering in a way knowing that.

[@taebe4r427]

I hate that heavy feeling in your heart when your jealous :’)

[@nataku9539]

Ha ha funny

[@Z5Z5Z5]

🙏🏻

[@RorretheerroR]

Feeling in your heart?? the fucking FIRE and that fire flows out in the body and gosh its poison..;#Bpd

[@officalsimplysora6624]

Omg me too

[@pusscat1147]

I've never felt this. It would have saved me an awful lot of anguish if I could have seen the emotion behind the emotion as I now know that jealousy disguises itself as other feelings but I could never see it

[@ella-by2mb]

Being jealous of my owns friends makes me hate myself so much.

[@luisterrust]

❤Try to be more compasionate to yourself. Jealousy happens to us all, try to lift yourself up.

[@blessedbythebest1003]

That’s deep.

[@signsofaprincess]

Me too

[@tk_0613]

I can feel you

[@shivangi3030]

Hi fellow human

[@Dankdalorde]

“Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed, that is.” -Yoda

[@Amy623]

Many people still confuse 'attachment' with 'love'. Attachments are about fear and dependency, and have more to do with love of self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love because it isn't about what others can give you, because you're empty. It's about what you can give others--because you're already full. @yasminmogahed

[@sevenmajesticmcglotten-bon5132]

Amra Mulic Yea when you’re spouse flirts with random people don’t react, easier said than done

[@Amy623]

@@sevenmajesticmcglotten-bon5132 That is wrong. And shouldn't be tolerated. We shouldn't get attached to anything or anyone. When we are truly whole as a person we will attract the right people and things that will just add to our happiness.

[@Dankdalorde]

@@sevenmajesticmcglotten-bon5132 lol my ex did that and now I do it. I’m all types of fucked up.

[@zion367]

@@sevenmajesticmcglotten-bon5132 I ask myself if even when a person is not jealous, is it selfloving to stay in a monogamous relation when your partner behaves in such disrespectful way? Would it not be very logical to set up some boundaries in regards to this behaviour?

[@BrokenPanda93]

honestly im proud of my self catching the jealousy and looking for this video.

[@layla6536]

Me too and I’m proud of you too

[@Kimeikus]

Proud of both of y’all

[@zion367]

I wish i could feel the same. I cought it but the jealousy makes me disappointed in myself.

[@BrokenPanda93]

@@zion367 don't be disappointed, use it as an opportunity to grow

[@zion367]

@@BrokenPanda93 Yes, true. The disappointment comes from the standart i have set for myself to be, instead of accepting who i truely am. I took the embarrasing step to message my friend and confess my emotions and we actually had a great conversation about it. I think the awareness and not hiding them was already a great first step. Shining the light on them and accepting them. In my case it is about sexual pleasure... I came to the conclusion a while ago that if i love myself, i am not able to let others use my body to escape their unhappines anymore. Even tho these "others" are good friends. I realised that every time i engage in such acts, i sell myself short. But now i notice a jealousy whenever i hear one of my friends talk about their adventures. This is so silly because they do something that i grew out of (done it for so long so i know it is not in service of my highest self) and yet i experience jealousy. Like.... how can you even solve this? Thank you for your loving words. How are you doing now with your own jealousy?

[@StarAthena16]

I hate being jealous I hate when it hits me in my heart. Usually it only happens when I don't have the full story and just a bit of what is going on and then I take it out of proportion

[@hannahprince3512]

I know this comment is two years old, but it's so accurate. I have the same thing.

[@nasortrust8823]

great that you were able to take it out even though I'm the man I still have some of it I'm saying men should be strong and not have that kind of emotional things but anyway I got interested about how you did it it's a hardest things u could to just get ride of it completely

[@thekitagirl]

i have the exact same problem

[@isahappy2340]

Me too now :( after years of comments....

[@91jotta]

Stop hating, just accept it. When you accept it, you will be able to change it. Its a good way to start. :)

[@lauren-_-2510]

Whenever I get jealous, I can always feel a sort of pain in my stomach or chest, I'm not surprised, I get jealous of other relationships.

[@Darko_tacet]

SAME

[@listerinebottle63]

we all do dude

[@MrEOM41]

I’m jealous of outgoing extroverted people they seem to be more attractive to others 😞

[@CC-fq8bn]

you lose every single time with jealousy

[@ohsnap401]

Teaking Tiles 👍👍👍

[@samanthamccallum13]

Exactly. That is so true.

[@mikasaackerman8232]

💯%

[@HeavenOnEarthTv]

Every time

[@Adamkww]

I just imagined that being said with a Stan Smith voice lol

[@VIPUL46]

Very uncomfortable to watch.. Cause it shows you a mirror

[@katety9771]

i cried a little

[@ingridaccount]

Yes it was so personal and painful. Made me cry too. Dismantled my ego, self image, just an illusion.

[@janaopric4273]

@sukhoi but it's real and you should appreciate that

[@martinmutuna6641]

@@katety9771 a lot

[@shannonrusso3635]

Indeed

[@rolfangco4773]

i find it so hard to do that... i found myself in tears while watching this, so guilty of so much jealousy. i pray God help me.

[@Automated_Angel]

😣

[@Shri-b3v]

Dont overthink then u will be free from jealousy

[@elainesia4892]

same

[@VoidDweller86]

@@Shri-b3v The ability to think and to overthink is as humanly natural as having your own deck of cards.

[@niro710]

give this man a Ted talk

[@fairy__nova]

Or 50

[@beenilsson7076]

🙌🙌🙌

[@sonquatsch8585]

he's way too deep for Ted. . when he mentioned he was emotionally intelligent, i thought, pshh no one is more emotionally intelligent than i am...this guy is from another universe and he is puttin down 100% truth. love him.

[@nununu8937]

Ted talks are overrated, this guy is above ted talks

[@M-ljxx]

@@nununu8937 so true....he needs his own televised show

[@AngelGonzalez-ld8ff]

What I got in a nutshell from this Video is. 1.) Stop focusing on what you don't have. 2.) Don't let your ego over power you. 3.) Accept yourself and be happy. 4.) Also why be jealous when you don't know how people are the way they are. For example being jealous of people in relationships but! They can be miserable as hell together. So don't try to over analyze things.

[@ministerjojokennie8993]

Thank you for helping me leave from the act of jealousy

[@widadch3441]

Self love and confidence kill jealousy

[@odessawales]

No it doesn't.

[@nocturno5373]

@@odessawales lmao i luv the disagreement

[@nastynate434]

Getting rid of my jealousy is going to be the hardest thing I'll ever do in my life... and you are right, it's petty and it's toxic for all parties involved.

[@APRENDERCONMIGO]

Omg you look like such a young child. Good for you for starting this journey so young!

[@Ufbryehebduxirb]

I am jealous of every girl that comes near my boyfriend. Im nice but inside Im eating myself away. Im jealous of every woman my boyfriend calls beautiful. Every girl he follows on instagram. It eats at me and i start an argument out of something petty so he doesn’t know why Im angry because I don’t want him to know how jealous I am. Im pushing him away because my fear and I dont think Im good enough.

[@AnnMarie-wc7pw]

I am going through this very same thing. Sad reality.

[@danielnolan3858]

Just be honest with him. Much better then starting an argument over something not related to the matter. Communication is key.

[@AnnMarie-wc7pw]

@@danielnolan3858 thank you

[@HeartbreakEsh]

Same issue but it's my girlfriend

[@fimearscarba]

Why do guys in relationships follow other girls on IG. Social media damages so much.. people should spend more Time on KZbin and get rid of all the damaging extras. But of course that would make life much simpler. Why would people want that... I’m sorry for your pain....and I’m sorry your so called boyfriend doesn’t care enough to guard your feelings. Nor does he understand the yes and no’s in relationships.

[@carlangracie7374]

this is a very powerful statement: "A possessive man is actually a weak man. Emotionally strong men have no need to possess or control women." .. I agree 100%

[@nasortrust8823]

that's true

[@cynshim673]

My husband is one such person... So blessed to learn and grow with a company like him 🤩....

[@annakarina48]

I cried twice during this video, I'm trying so hard to not be jealous. Thank you for this amazing video, it helped me a lot.

[@malikmohsinreflections4478]

Anna Karina ufff

[@Shinchan-hr4wv]

Anna Karina same, I cried for the same reason. Trying so hard but it's so hard.

[@samanthamccallum13]

Girl, you are NOT alone. Just remember that.

[@faithtg4080]

Anna Karina its an issue i've being dealing with for years, i sometimes sense that my boyfriend is talking to other girls, my breathing becomes heavy and i start to become really anxious i fucking hate this feeling, i am such a jealous human being and i hate this about myself.

[@just.imagine.]

I’m with ya girl. That anxious feeling is the worst. We can all get through this together!!

[@Chiisaineful]

as one of the many people who searched for a how to on jealousy, i saw the 43 minutes and was skeptical. "can this guy really help me with my jealousy?" i thought. i've struggled with it for years, just coping. it has been a killer of many of my relationships. i've recently decided to settle down with "the one" and after a few twists and turns here i found myself once again insecure with myself. I believed I was some hot shot but my jealousy has been driving me crazy lately to think they would leave me for someone else they met. i ended up crying 4 minutes in to the video because you made me feel like i was human, that all the emotions jealousy was hitting me with were normal and that there was something i could do about it. and for once i didnt feel helpless. you truly changed my life sir. thank you so much

[@zion367]

Thanks for sharing. How are you doimg now with your jealousy?

[@jaa9203]

"If he's going to cheat on me then let him, I will take the higher ground. I'd rather take the higher ground than take the lower ground and win" - Leo -

[@KiraKuranook]

I'm an artist but I always feel like I'm jealous of other's art. It really ruins my motivation to keep going on...I know that they work hard too, but if jealousy was something that was easy for me to handle I wouldn't have to be commenting this right now. At first, I try to think of them in a positive light, like "wow, they have a nice personality!"...but I decided to stop because I don't truly feel it, deep down, I'm jealous of them so I feel bad that I'm jealous of them too. Nowadays, I just accept it, that it is impossible to stop being jealous of others. It's human nature. I just accept it, analyse why I'm jealous and move on. Also, I'm pretty introverted so I don't really have that much need for people to give their attention to me, I don't care what people think of my art...but something confusing in me happens. I get jealous of other's art because I don't like my own art enough. I just don't know how to nowadays.

[@Shri-b3v]

U must not overthink and dont compare yourself to others because jealousy comes from comparing

[@kat4070]

Me too I am also an artist, feels like you are telling my story I relate to everything you wrote.

[@rihlv1539]

this comes from an ex artist.. I was also very jealous of others art, and especially of their tools and stuff.. but now (it‘s been 4 years) i realize that every art ist beautiful and there is no ‚better artist‘ or something, because the most beautiful in it is, that literally EVERY ART is individual.. and comparison is just very wrong in this place. The only competition is yourself, what do you want to create next? what do you want to change? but there is no ‚better‘ art, there is only art you can be even more proud of. Because it is only yours

[@tara9533]

This feels so impossible though.. My jealousy towards other women in my boyfriends life is really an issue for me. My insecurities in not "knowing" is scaring me. Not knowing who he's talking to or why he's online till late at night, or why he doesnt reply immediately, or if his reasons to why he's working late is honest and real. I know it'll be detrimental to our relationship and I REALLY WANT THIS ONE! I guess my issues growing up is affecting me more than I'd like to admit. I want to be better for myself so that I can be a better person in general.

[@ActualizedOrg]

Do you see how you WANTING THIS ONE is killing this one? Stay conscious on the self-sabotage you're creating.

[@madisontrumley8447]

+Shannon Justice they will, but you have to stay with it. When ever you feel jealous ask yourself y am I feeling this way? What can I do to change how I am thinking...

[@dwweebovo4414]

I feel you girl, I feel you (´•̥̥̥ ·̭ •̥̥̥｀)

[@trinaakers2592]

I'm going through the same thing.

[@billythebass2007]

You have to carry on not saying anything to your man. If you lay down the law, you will put him in a box and he will want to run. If he's a good guy he won't cheat. If he does then he doesn't care for you as you think and you can make a choice based on your new knowledge. It's hard I know but keep your dignity at all times.

[@kingwoahsan]

My main jealousy is the ones towards my friends. Them having other friends and not focusing all their time on me. I know I'm a hypocrite in the situation. But I just can't help it.

[@petraravaille7804]

Same...

[@tomassakanis3093]

spot on.. and Im the guy..

[@candiberri772]

Ikr,

[@keilighthousediary]

shay ur not alone, I'm the most territorial person I know honestly

[@ryloreid]

THATS EXACTLY WHY I LOOKED UP THIS VIDEO!... I feel understood 🙂

[@shadimoosa7773]

leo i cured my jealousy problem with your videos and you're currently my hero😇 thank you so much

[@pank3245]

I grew up with a father who failed to show he was proud of my achievements and had a heavy verbal focus on my failures so I'm constantly at struggle with self doubt and my self-esteem. Jealousy is the worst for me because I feed into those negative thoughts way too easily without noticing the bright side in my situation. I can't afford for therapy so this video significantly helped me.

[@Candy-mz5wo]

“Jealousy is below my standards “

[@Superbrina12987]

I just lost the love of my life because of my jealousy... I am willing to work on myself

[@cabraljonathan21]

me too :( I let my own insecurities get the best of me. I just have to trust, and if things go wrong , at least I know i tried my best and it didn't end because of me

[@tylertrackwell9467]

SuperBrina 12987. I did as well i lost the love of my life

[@momof3869]

me too

[@paraschivadiana7150]

SuperBrina 12987 hey! Did u get over it and did u are back together?

[@jonmichael3820]

I don't know that's entirely accurate. Just because you do your best, doesn't mean that it's not ending because of you.

[@brendongilchuk9179]

Through the course of a relationship, you're bound to end up in situations where your spouse talks to people of the opposite sex. A great quality I've always carried is that, because I trust my significant other, I utilize pride in that situation. Sure, she'll talk to people on occasion that want to get in her pants, but I don't worry. I'm proud that she's mine in that moment. Because I carry myself strongly and confidently. My view has always been that, don't worry about your spouse and the opposite sex. Consider that if they were to cheat, your decision is simple... move on and move up. Sure, there's heart break, but you have to know that your self worth is so much more than that. This is a great video, and I enjoyed watching it because my GF is the very jealous type. I hope it'll help her understand herself better.

[@trevormann4208]

I’ve noticed you posted this 3 years ago. I hope that you know this is still helping people years later! I’m going to get over this jealousy!!

[@wordnerdink]

Dude where did you get this amazing insight and education from ? You're amazingly intelligent and grounded. I have a lot of respect for you and your wisdom. You are beyond wise for your years.

[@abaikor]

Totally agree. He is a genius

[@nicchy6851]

Jealousy make me so depressed. And I really want to get rid of it! Thank you for this video, it helps me to understand what jealousy is and give me an idea of how i can get rid of it. Hopefully I can live a more fruitful and content life in the future :)

[@hlonilesedi]

Me too

[@AlpacaHobo]

My jealousy just ended my 4 year relationship with my girlfriend, it's really important to work on this or else you'll end up like me

[@constantinecouponz3140]

Jealousy sucks.

[@joelprive3458]

Same happened to my 3 yrs relationship i tried to make her stay and she ended up cheating and is now with the other guy

[@Rawyalty220]

Joel Prive fuck dude I feel ur pain

[@bebikeyk3692]

My boyfriend gave up on me because of my jealousy :( Even on his friends guy Friends Im still jealous

[@anthonymorales9611]

It's a need of space. Thats all.

[@Murder_Of_Cr0ws]

Ok fine, Leo is right. I will let go of my jealousy. I don't need stuff to be happy, I have me.

[@nasortrust8823]

have you it's very good be who you but grauntteed other people are gonna feels jealously of you coz ur authenticity

[@doc2590]

Thanks for the videos mate, jealousy damn near killed me. I never want to feel that way again.

[@ctrldelete5448]

bruce feeney ll

[@hareeshvarun]

I owe you bro... You literally saved me from a 6 years of traumatic life in being different relationships and still suffered because of jealousy.Now I feel like a new person. I will keep practising what u said. And you... You Keep doing this and change people's heart for good. Thank you.

[@JoeGuapo]

Been jealous mixed with envy my entire life.. mainly cause no ones ever really showed interest in me or I’m not really the person people pick first. Hate when I want something someone else has and make myself feel as if I’ll never be that “good”

[@miku1829]

this is a way late comment but you might still see it it's crazy to me that no one showed interest in you bc just looking at your picture i can see you're extremely handsome

[@alvinalvarez5375]

@@miku1829 ooooolllllilllol

[@lovemecom3832]

He’s right, jealousy is a very tricky emotion. Being in a relationship, it’s natural that you are getting jealous, but its not already healthy when you are jealous without any acceptable reason, Before jealousy ends your relationship, i think people who couldn't control their jealousy need this video and need to learn some tips on how to control it.

[@bubbabubba6427]

Im way y To jealous

[@Kindaeira]

@@bubbabubba6427 same

[@UnseenWhispers420]

Yes! Indeed I learned some helpful tips

[@ForgottenKnight1]

My relationships with my friends would be exponentially better if I wouldn't be so jealous about them having other friends and not giving me attention when I want it. It's like I'm a pretentious bastard that is basically a control freak.

[@ForgottenKnight1]

Applying your advice, I managed the next day to fill in probably one of the biggest gaps with one of my best friends that existed there simply because of my jealousy. Thank you.

[@ForgottenKnight1]

Tinkerbell Look at your friend as to not being one of your possessions. He is your friend and will always be your friend even if he's not physically there 100% of the time. Also take responsibility for your feelings. You can turn your world upside down with just a thought and it's absolutely frightening at first the power you get from this. Instead of thinking "Why is my friend not with me always ?" think "What can I do good for my friend ?". Even if he's not there, even if he can't repay you the good deed. Friendship is all about connection and not possession. This took me years to understand and now I have finally come to this conclusion. This is because happiness comes from the inside. And doing good things creates happiness. Then turn to you and look inside. Why am I jealous ? Do I have something to lose if my friend has other friends as well ? What makes me happy when I'm with my friend ? Replace possession with appreciation of the things you do together, and do not focus on the things you might have done and thus create false expectations. I hope this can help you. I've repaired a friendship that was at the brink of ending after more then 20 years.

[@killerkyun]

Hey dude, I know that was like 1 year ago, but I have exactly the same problem and the same situation, How is things with u?

[@thevillain4767]

ForgottenKnight1 help me?

[@minaminaccia6356]

I feel so pathetic as lately i have been noticing that i feel jealous each time i see other people approaching my best friend. We work together and she is very loved by our colleagues and a lot of them are being very friendly to her. The logical part of my brain knows that she has the right to have other fiends, but at the same this makes me feel scared of loosing her. Off course she doesn't know what i am facing, I tried to tell her but i fel it would be so embarrassing. I dont like to be vulnerable. She is a loyal person and she deserves the best...i don't want to be a toxic friend and i don't want to keep experiencing negative emotions.

[@defminerva13]

A while ago I discovered on my own some of the techniques you mentioned here on how to end jealousy. My technique pretty much comes down to this: I notice a tinge of jealousy towards someone, and, before the jealousy gets any worse, I tell the person right away that I'm resentful of them for whatever it is I'm jealous of, and that I don't like them anymore. It usually gets a laugh from that someone and myself. After the laugh, i compliment them on what they have and cheer for their success or luck. I find that Jealousy and Admiration are two sides of the same coin, so why not turn that negative emotion into a positive one? Admiration is more "filling' as opposed to Jealousy's "emptiness," if that makes any sense. Wonderful Video Leo!

[@rachelavis2993]

I’m about to destroy my relationship cause I’m too jealous... I hve reasons to b from the past ... blah blah ... but I think you hve just saved my arse seriously... all the things I have watched this was by far the best

[@katty01]

And what happened ?

[@samanthamccallum13]

Leo, I am watching this video everyday and am applying these techniques to my life and my envy/jealousy. I am freeing myself of envy/jealousy now and I just wanted to tell you how thankful I am for this video. You and your knowledge are an enormous blessing. Thanks again for all you do here.

[@1305nickify]

Why am i tearing up during this video..?

[@p5rsona]

because you chopping onions at the same time?

[@ioulios11]

lol

[@CompostWatcher]

Maybe you are understanding your feelings? And understanding that jealously is a thing that can be defined, described, studied, and resolved.

[@alien_seit4882]

same here bro

[@lauraadomaa7515]

i'm tearing toooo😭

[@Gintaras64]

These videos of yours is like the holy grail of understanding yourself. Can't imagine nothing more powerful and genuinely new and totaly unheard, than that what you offer.

[@ActualizedOrg]

Actually, there's a lot of stuff out there that I haven't even touched on yet. So it's worth exploring the field of self-help beyond me. But thanks! :)

[@aurarivera6673]

I thought it was dumb to look for "how to deal with jealousy" videos, and now I'm just so grateful about this. Literally, being doing so much mess in my relationship because of my jealousy, extreme issues. Now I just really want to be better as a person and start developing all these things.

[@MichelleEstrada]

I’m back here rewatching because I literally have to do this like every other week. Lol to be fair, I used to have to do it every day.... tbh... that would probably still benefit me. 😂😭

[@Beamingsweets]

Does it help watching this daily? Im having trouble controlling my jealousy and it sucks and hurts physically as much as it does emotionally.

[@MichelleEstrada]

Honestly yes ofc it does help. That’s why I said I have to keep coming back.Another thing that helps me with jealousy is to just call myself out on it in my head in the moment and automatically I remind myself the world is abundant. There’s plenty of whatever emotion I feel I’m lacking in the moment to go around. And I remind myself this persons success or praise or whatever does not make me any less than them and that we get what we give... ya know... if I want people to be happy for me when I succeed I need to be happy for them too.

[@MrEdwinborja]

Im 44 years old and have been in lots of toxic relationships and one failed marriage. This is all due to my jealousy. Bless this guy for taking the time to create this video.

[@tntruther]

Why would you want to be with someone who wanted to be with someone else unless your sense of self worth was wrapped up in them?

[@isnrom]

Jealously is so fluid, it sneaks up on me even when I am at my most humble. Not an easy emotion to combat but staying aware of my emotions is key. Thanks Leo for another awesome video. Health, wealth, happiness 2015 and beyond!

[@beau7140]

i'm not doing that great at school and i am constantly jealous of the people around me. i was raised being told i was so intelligent and artistic and to suddenly be knocked down has really got to me.

[@just.imagine.]

lizzie I can totally relate girl!

[@Emine2727]

going through the exact (i mean it) thing rn

[@lupe0444]

redishblue girl i totally feel you ! it’s been so hard getting motivation back , honestly i still don’t even know why i lost it .

[@ProjectCreativityGuy96]

When we all get jealous about something, it hits you with a toxic awakening inside your mind, questioning yourself insecurely... Am i really as just what i think i am? And trust me, i know the effing feeling, man!

[@bryrayne9666]

It's simple. If your comfortable in your own skin and with your partner, You both work hard on keeping a great relationship then the jealously won't come into mind because your working together as a team to make each other happy and content.

[@Shoshii]

I hate jelousy, it makes me just want to,end my life? I don't know, I freaking hate it, when someone else hangs out with my "best friend" who makes me cry, cut, angry, confused, and worthless, but I still some how get jelous when she's with someone else???? I hate her, but the second she says "hi" to me, I completely forgive her and forget about everything around me. Like what the hell is going on with me?? I only have 3 friends, and I'm scared to stand up for myself because if I do, she'll talk to all of her friends and make them put me down and tell me why I was making her cry or some crap. But then when shes hanging with other people , I get jelous and start crying, like what's my problem??!!!

[@Mienarrr]

Vector there‘s no problem sweetheart i get you :( i was in a very similar situation for a while in my life. how old are you if i may ask?

[@CC-mq7iy]

Vector I was there, took me about a year to really get over her. I felt so needy and too annoying and not good enough; you need to hang out with more people & not only depend on her, your neediness May be pushing her away

[@CC-mq7iy]

Vector and now I have a new best friend that I absolutely love! We hang out with different people and both know that it won’t last forever, we’re enjoying each other while we have each other

[@Walkinjoy]

I know how you feel, jealousy makes me a miserable person too. It makes me depressed and want to die. Only difference is that it's with my boyfriend. I get super jealous of other females he talks to.

[@Sgtjohnson2009]

Sounds to me like you suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder. I'm not yet a doctor so don't take my diagnosis. Look into it and discuss it with your Primary Care Physician.

[@kgomotsomokome2928]

hey Leo, I was in my lowest lows when I was listening to your video.. it is so enlightening and it offers me hope. thank you very much for the work that you do.. from my heart to yours

[@ActualizedOrg]

Welcome :)

[@OFFICALMENOFCULTURE]

Actualized.org Okay but the problem i have with this is if everything external has no value then why would i bother perusing my dreams? They wouldn't matter because these are the things that are supposed to make you happy, right?

[@OFFICALMENOFCULTURE]

Actualized.org i must have misunderstood something somewhere....?!?!

[@ActualizedOrg]

Matthew Bolton Watch my video called The Secret Curse Of Being Human

[@oresmaa6656]

Actualized.org I always watch this video but I don't understand too much because I don't speak English anyway I want to stop being jalousie I always want to be the best and top I hate to see others. better than me I know that is bad but I can't control this I hate that a lot

[@millymoo5470]

What a fantastic, meaningful WEALTH of information you are sharing! Thank you for the clear programming, the gems you spread so generously. I love listening and thinking about all of the topics you speak about. Priceless!

[@ActualizedOrg]

My pleasure :)

[@bekhadrahamza882]

he is a great

[@danicahall4172]

I always get back to this video whenever I feel like jealousy is creeping in on me. And, it always pulls me out and gets me centered. Thanks, Leo. This really puts me into a mindset of having faith in myself. You're right, it needs to be embedded on a daily basis and not forgetting it after a few months ~

[@arielleolsen9974]

This really changed the way I think about jealousy and self esteem. I’ve watched a ton of videos and have read a lot of self help books but you made me think about it in a way I haven’t yet so thank you very much. Keep up the amazing work!

[@susielee8101]

I don't mind if your video is too long cause I'm hungry for all the knowledge you are so generous to share. Love you, Leo!

[@bernadettepergolese4607]

JEALOUSY is INSECURITY you need to trust ...

[@juansinaaaaaaaaaaa5402]

I am really jealous of my GF. When she doesn't reply my texts instantly, I would do the same PURPOSELY. It is extremely difficult to give up my ego and keep replying instantly when she doesn't do the same. My solution was to go find something to do while she's busy and talk when we are both available.

[@Mienarrr]

JUAN SINAAAAAAAAAAA from a outer perspective that seems like a very good solution i would say! hope you‘re well! :)

[@anthonymac916]

Flip it on her

[@anthonymac916]

You have transference

[@Lucian4ever]

Hello, Lee! I'm David and I'm 25 years old. This video helps me a lot! It made me realise I have an issue with jealousy. My goal is: in 6 months from now to let jealousy go for good and use past tense when I'm referring to my jealousy! I'm listening to this video and to other videos for ~40 days now. You are a great person, I love how you explain how jealousy is a disease, and I'm so happy and grateful I found this channel. I feel very good when I'm listening to you man! You're a great psychotherapist and all of your videos are great and are helping me a lot to grow and develop myself on a personal plan! Thank you!

[@chooby1499]

I've been battling jealous and insecure thoughts for a while now, but I finally recognized it's affecting my happiness and my relationship. Thank you so much for this video, I think it will help a lot.

[@BeGioBijoux]

Leo, never feel jealous about how many subcribers other channels have. Not everyone is ready to understand the value of what you put out there. Your videos are an inspitation, they took away my dark thoghts, giving me hope and showing there are solutions. Thank you

[@ActualizedOrg]

Thanks! :)

[@jonnypatton1866]

Wow. I have a masters degree in psychology and have been a mental health therapist for over ten years. We all have our internal crap that we need to work on. This video was awesome and you present yourself very clearly. So impressive that I cannot wait to check out your other videos. Great job...

[@gracebilliot5280]

I'm so jealous that I cannot go around with someone I love without feeling threaten by everyone. It's affecting my life horribly

[@constantinecouponz3140]

Hope things turned around!!

[@kalinsage1]

Same 😭

[@shaxixo._]

I always felt jealous of this girl and thought I was the only one.but watching this video and looking in the comments,I’m glad I’m not the only one.if you have jealousy hope you can overcome it!

[@bryrayne9666]

Jealousy comes from self insecurities. Love yourself and you will have no reason to be jealous.

[@thomasb8658]

Yeah as easy as that when your Life is shit xD

[@williamhand4349]

Right, because it's just that easy, right? Feeling sick? Just snap your fingers! ✨ Shut the hell up.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

@@thomasb8658 FR

[@Fulrix00]

@bryrayne if you love yourself but your partner is flirting or checking out another person in front of you loving yourself will be sufficient to not be jealous I’m asking a serious question not to offend I’d like to know your insight on this

[@VoidDweller86]

Me personally, I can never Just come to be a fan of myself regardless, I would much rather have had someone else, someone possibly better to have been born in my place, I am 35 years old by the way, American Aborigine male.

[@corbinnewman5926]

I can't stand it when another guy looks at my girlfriend or talks to her . She is friends with most of her exs and I can't stand it . I love her to death but I feel like she'll leave me for someone else . I don't like it when someone likes a picture of her on Instagram or when someone texts her . It just hurts thinking about someone else having feelings for her the way I do .

[@eviltree6779]

sometimes these feelings aren't false, you have every right to feel insecure about her hanging out with her exes. Thats pushing on your boundaries bruh. After 2 years of constant self-improvement my ex still left me for some greasy guy on the other side of the country, so it didn't end up that bad for me.

[@georgianamarin7362]

Sounds really sad..you should tell her how you feel, I wouldn't accept my bf to have friendships with his ex..

[@prv7966]

you shouldn't be possessive

[@kristi9417]

II Chaotic II exactly. I mean, why even have a friend thats an ex? What is the point? like, does she really need those exe's as friends? couldnt she at least find others friends that have no intimate relationship with her. That causes major issues I bet!

[@HUMC4L]

KRiSTi ! There's nothing wrong with being friends with an ex or even ALL of your ex's. I'm still friends with two of my ex's because they're cool dudes abd we get along, things just didn't work. Maybe instead of acting like they're the problem, talk to them about why they keep their ex(s) around.

[@gamewithcoco465]

i was jealous that someone was replacing me, spending all of their time with my best friend till the point my best friend put me second. Yes this makes me sad and in the moment I was going to act in jealousy but I took a step back and didn't react to my best friend ditching me to hang out with this other person. I wanted to remove myself from their life to prove how much they needed me but then I remembered that I still need them and second is better than last and people are allowed to move on.

[@flute9354]

GameWithCoco Same thing here it really sucks

[@drakeproductionsborra9074]

I feel you it's happen to me

[@TheMisterman1972]

I’m in a very very similar situation. But your words are very wise and very comforting. Like you , I wanted to cut my friend to let her see she needed me, but as I tried to do that it hurt so awfully that I finally realised I needed her as much or perhaps more than she needed me. So I guess we have to deal with our reality.. It’s just tough when your waking thoughts are preoccupied with someone you can’t have . But anyway. As you say, better to be second than last. And we all need special friends in our life ... in whatever order they may be in.

[@LawnBunny777]

This really helped me a lot. The first time I watched it I understood the logic, but then the next dayI had a reason to be jealous and it all flew out the window and I was in a rage and I forgot everything I learned from this. After watching this over and over for a week, I was in a situation, and this time kept a cool head and stayed calm. Thank you so much!

[@Astral.Miawss.]

Blessings for all of those that like me are trying to get rid of jealousy and find value within 🔥

[@blackqueen1829]

No relationship can make you happy...Word!

[@ariihuerta6687]

So me and my boyfriend have almost a year of dating. Everything was going well but out of nowhere I started getting band thoughts like he could be cheating on me or in not good enough for him. I get so jealous because girls look at him in a cute way and crush on him, and actually try to talk to him. I don't know maybe I've gone crazy but I really wanna stop feeling this way because I don't wanna ruin are relationship, and feeling this way really hurts me. everytime this happens my boyfriend and myself have a fight. I'm so tired of feeling this way it's draining me.

[@elliot7761]

I'm in the same spot right now

[@niaomishurtliff1602]

Arii Huerta I feel you on a emotional level

[@aynsleynewberry354]

Same 😰

[@Musabre]

I just wanted to say that this video was a great find. I have listened to it a few times through over the last couple days just to really absorb the ideas and take them on board. Going through a difficult time which has brought out many a now obvious flaw in myself as a person, most of all jealousy and, while not the only source of self-improvement, this video has been a great stepping stone for me to really start to get things on track again. And thanks for not hiding the actual value of the video behind a pay-wall 'buy my new e-book' advert. Those things are infuriating :)

[@ehsunmoutab9289]

I really respect what you do here, its like a free therapy, no ads no money traps, pure social support and helping. it was really helpful thanks !!!

[@michellearanda454]

This really helped me. I was able to start observing my jealousy right away. It makes me feel sick about myself. This is so true, jealously is hidden behind other feelings. I had another feeling towards my partner. I noticed while I was observing myself. My whole body gets warm and hard in my chest. I'm angry towards him. Need help.. what could this be? Jealous?

[@milliemccoy9722]

Jealousy has gotton the better of me. My best friend is beautiful! She has a boyfriend, she is gorgeous, she is pretty much PERFECT! It is so hard to be around her because I feel invisible. Each and every one of my friends are beautiful and I just feel like I don't fit in anywhere. My best friend (Ella) is amazing. She can, sing, dance, she's pretty, she's super skinny and I just feel like everyone would pick her over me. I am also a very emotional person and every night for mist nights I go up to my bedroom and have a meltdown. She also slips bits of nastiness at me making it seem like a joke but I can tell that it's not. I know that I am slightly overweight and I know that I am not gorgeous, I also know that other people know that too and I feel like everyone secretly doesn't like me :( I feel alone.

[@DZeynali]

Envy is wanting what another person has whilst hoping it is taken away from them. Jealousy is wanting what that person has. Jealousy does have many branches which are better defined in Arabic.

[@ElCangri137]

Envy and jealousy are two totally different things. Envy is wanting something someone has and wanting to take it away from them in order to make them unhappy. Jealousy is being protective of what you ALREADY HAVE. Jealousy has nothing to do with what someone ELSE has but all to do with what YOU have. Envy is wrong. Jealousy is not.

[@ElCangri137]

+ElCangri137 Envy is basically another word for covetousness and is usually accompanied by malice. Jealousy is territorial protectiveness and is usually accompanied by love for it. We aren't just jealous over our lovers, we can be likewise jealous over our children as well.

[@CreeperDuck]

This video came at a very appropriate time for me, when I was experiencing a particularly high amount of jealousy in life as two of my close friends have started dating (I am single). I grew intensely jealous of their relationship and it manifested into a form of self pity, anger, and most of all a desire for pity from other people. Luckily because I've been practicing consciousness for a while, I was able to pin down on these emotions and locate the root of them. The interesting thing about jealousy is that it actually does the opposite of what it seems it will do for you. When I was experiencing jealousy towards my friends and their relationship, I thought that feeling would somehow help me find a relationship or fuel me to get to work. But the funny thing is, it's secretly working against you. That jealously created neediness and attachment and scarcity, and I felt like I needed to find a relationship that instant. Once I noticed my jealousy, of course it was still there, but I was able to acknowledge that these emotions were actually working against me. I still have this jealousy but I'm more aware of it and how it's negatively affecting me, and once it subdues I'm certain it'll, on the contrary, make me more attractive and successful with women (among other things, hehe).

[@kellylujan4687]

Great video, right now I'm having slight jealousy issues about my BF. He barely turned 28 and I'm 33 so at first in the relationship I didn't care I was not jealous at all and didn't care if I lost him because I didn't know him much. Now I love him a lot and dislike some of his habits and stuff he watches. I don't to be this way and I feel like I've lost my confidence...I'm going to try your advice. Another thing I didn't want to be in a relationship when I met him and now I feel so close to him. We're thinking about liveing together and making plans. Thank you

[@RealllMarieee]

Hey , I am a small youtubers and its been quiet a while since I realised that I am easily jealous. I sit down and takes some notes and watch finished the whole video and I really feels so much better about what I am feelings. Definitely will think that I am a big person now and let go of the small person within me. Fortunately I did not lose anything as I hide it really well. But I know I wasnt happy about how I feel about this " ego " things that been bothering me before. Thank you for letting me know that its a bad thing that I hide it well. GREAT VIDEOS AND HOPE YOU HIT 1 MILLION SUBS! ESPECIALLY SOMEONE LIKE YOU WHO CAN HELP OTHERS. I am thankful for your videos.

[@T-Tone-Trilla]

Thank you Leo I've learned to recognize my jealous thoughts and behavior and understand that I won't win with those thoughts or actions.

[@mariasandberg1718]

Footnotes: Observe when you are jealous, label it, use mindfulness to observe it, keep jealousy log, fix your insecurities first, be happy on the inside first, look for the root/deeper of the jealous feeling, look at your self-image ideas, do self-esteem work, set ego aside, learn about ego and how its an illusion.

[@jasminegulliver3250]

You mis-defined jealousy. You described envy. Jealousy is when you're afraid that someone will take something away from you due to perceiving the other person as better than you. Envy is seeing someone who you perceive to be better than you, and wishing that you were better than them. It's an honest mistake since they are often intertwined. It's also not a great idea to use the word you are trying to define in the definition.

[@jasminegulliver3250]

Envy is like walking down the street and seeing someone more attractive than you and wishing that you were as attractive as them. Jealousy is seeing someone flirt with your SO and feeling worried that they will leave you for this person.

[@mostwatchnasavedeos]

Still u r thinking the person u will with your partner is bettr than u and he wil take her away frm you its fear and jealousy both

[@jh000-m]

Love those definitions 👍🏽

[@purpledreamcatcher64]

I love that: Your ego is a big ball of bullshit! That's gonna stick in my mind!! :-)

[@ActualizedOrg]

That's the problem! "My mind" = ego. Ego is YOU! Not a part of you, but YOU! The thing you hold most dear!

[@andreias5564]

Léo How can I Ignore my Ego self?

[@DevilRyu1337]

read the book called power of now

[@josevirgen9205]

purpledreamcatcher64 same here lmao

[@sophiacalon3463]

Thanks for this video I have severe anxiety and with jealousy it’s a disastrous mix when im in a relationship because I keep feeling like they are going to hurt me. I now know that I need to let my guard down because it’ll hurt me more by being jealous than by protecting myself. I wanna be a real selfless person who can love without being scared not to get loved back

[@AstrxPubg]

THIS IS ME RIGHT NOW.

[@brettkoch6618]

You are exactly what I have needed forever! Thank you! I lost the woman I loved the most because of my past fears of being cheated on. It’s ruined my self esteem and I live in fear every day.

[@jacquimullally3124]

Thank you Leo. Just explaining jealousy and where it comes from regarding identity being threatened and the threat of feeling something valuable may be taken away has enabled me to understand its origins; I understand why we get jealous now. The meditation and techniques are showing results already. I have just found you on youtube and found this video and the Mediation video really really helpful; you explain things very well. A big thank you.

[@izzyvivas5853]

All your videos have changed my life. Thank you so much, honestly, best advice i have ever gotten. If you ever feel jealous or whatever about your videos, just know, its quality over quantity, and you change lives and do so much! Thank you!!!!

[@ActualizedOrg]

Thanks! :)

[@hymnofashes]

I probably still have a scarcity mindset, but I realized even before watching this that jealousy was just suicidal. The turtle analogy is apt. Basically: I was worried that I wasn't dominant enough compared to one of my girlfriend's exes. And that hurt a lot because it was like pouring acid on my ball of bullshit that I was using to jack myself up and motivate myself to develop sexual skills whenever I compared us. But I realized that every time I got jealous, I just fell further and further behind, withdrawing and punishing my partner. I made myself even MORE of a joke, and compared even LESS favorably to him, and I just realized that unless I wanted more acid, the only way out was through. But I still have a scarcity mindset. I think there are things out there that are good, and they are limited, and while you can probably be happy at any level of having things after you adjust 3 months to the loss, I'd rather have the desirable things. Like... it is not good to have 50,000$ of debt versus, say, owning a house. It causes chaos, misery, lack of career flexibility, and forces you to stay stuck. Jealousy is the wrong response. But urgency is an appropriate response. I recommend to the people watching this, it's good advice, but if it seems too pie-in-the-sky, start by replacing jealousy with urgency. Think about how much more failure you're going to have to mentally shit-shovel away after the consequences of your tantrum. Ask yourself, how much future do you have? Do you really have the time and resources for your tantrum? Is sassing things or people that threaten your ball of bullshit really worth the time that you could be spending actually, incrementally, slowly, living up to your ball of bullshit?

[@chelseajordan917]

Your good!

[@shristisubba1693]

feel like i finally came across someone who could explain jealousy as a thing that we can realise when it is happening and how to deal with it.....even though it seems like you wanna run and hide from the situation. i will try to implement in my life and be hopeful for great life.

[@sabrina13]

Your face actually radiates light and peace. You have such calmness about you. I absolutely love listening to you.

[@lisahair2love]

This was very helpful ❤️ I recognized my jealousy when I actually contradicted myself! I was wanting a friend to start their own business. When they begin to draw up the business plan I started to criticize it. Later I was like wait, I thought that is what you wanted for them so what is your problem?! Jealousy! So then I started thinking of other reactions I had towards everything. Lord Have Mercy! I’ve got get a grip. So here I am 😃 Thank you so much so much! Now I’m excited about getting rid of this little person.

[@gridbaldr1798]

"Just like be cool with the situation" = Some solid advice, amazing guru shit 👏

[@louisaann6281]

I subscribed! I'm captivated

[@dawnraquel6929]

I have lived most of my life with jealousy..and yes it was out of fear that something was threatened of being taken from me. And I have come to learn my triggers and have tried to deal with them but I didn't quite understand it. I need to understand that external things have no value to me..that happiness, peace of mind and fulfillment is what I'm after.. thank you for another helpful video.

[@kevincounselling]

Excellent vid, my personal notes: Jealousy is low vibration energy. It is a barrier to inner peace. It is never ending fallacy as there is always someone to be jealous of. Feel and be aware the emotion of jealousy as it happens. This awareness will autocorrect it. Find the Truth behind the jealousy. Maybe it’s the fear of me being alone, rejected, losing someone, feeling like a failure, wasting life, etc. Deal with the core fear. Make the decision not to be jealous. It is not acceptable to a Highminded Man. -Kevin

[@markviles852]

I am a jealous man who has trust issues with all my relationships. What do I do. ?? Because I don't always want to be like that ever again.

[@yekailee08]

I hate myself feeling jealous all the time, The feeling is painful , my heart literally hurt, i want to stop

[@morphfitness3172]

I really appreciate this video. I have lost my way and found my self esteem declining and this was a great reminder to keep myself grounded! Thank you!

[@mansoormeghani5784]

Great video Leo, watched this video for 5 -6 times implemented it in my relationship and work and im happy then ever before. You doing a great job. Cheers !!

[@HispanicThundara]

He just talked me down from irrational jealousy that I was feeling intensely right before the video began, and I am beyond grateful to have this for future reference.

[@laager3223]

This dude is explaining EXACTLY how I feel like he is hitting it right on.