How to Break Through the ADHD Shame and Avoidance Cycle | Podcast with Boninie Mincu

his week's episode of ADHD Support Talk Radio, host Tara McGillicuddy is joined by adult ADHD expert Bonnie Mincu to delve into the topic of shame and the avoidance cycle in adults with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). This thought-provoking podcast episode explores the impact of shame and avoidance on individuals with ADHD and offers insights and strategies for breaking free from this cycle.
As a seasoned ADHD coach and advocate, Tara McGillicuddy brings her extensive knowledge and personal experience with ADHD to the conversation. Her empathetic and supportive approach creates a safe space for discussing the sensitive topic of shame and avoidance, fostering understanding and validation for listeners who may be grappling with these issues.
Bonnie Mincu, an expert in coaching adults with ADHD, joins the episode to provide her valuable insights and expertise. With her deep understanding of the emotional challenges faced by individuals with ADHD, Bonnie helps shed light on the shame and avoidance cycle that often plagues adults with ADHD. She explores the underlying factors that contribute to shame, such as societal expectations, self-judgment, and the frequent feelings of being overwhelmed by everyday tasks.
Throughout the episode, Tara and Bonnie delve into practical strategies and techniques for breaking free from the shame and avoidance cycle. They discuss the importance of self-compassion, acceptance, and reframing negative self-perceptions. Listeners gain valuable insights into identifying shame triggers and developing healthy coping mechanisms to overcome avoidance behaviors.
Moreover, the conversation addresses the impact of shame and avoidance on various aspects of life, including relationships, work, and self-esteem. Tara and Bonnie offer guidance on fostering resilience and developing strategies to overcome setbacks that are commonly associated with shame and avoidance.
By the end of the podcast episode, listeners can expect to gain a deeper understanding of the shame and avoidance cycle in adults with ADHD. They will be equipped with practical tools and strategies to break free from these patterns and foster a more positive and compassionate relationship with themselves. Tara and Bonnie provide a supportive and nonjudgmental space where listeners can find solace, validation, and inspiration.
In conclusion, the episode of ADHD Support Talk Radio featuring Bonnie Mincu and Tara McGillicuddy explores the crucial topic of shame and the avoidance cycle in adults with ADHD. By shedding light on this often-overlooked aspect of ADHD, the hosts offer invaluable insights, practical strategies, and emotional support for listeners seeking to break free from the cycle of shame and avoidance. Through their compassionate and informative conversation, Tara and Bonnie provide hope and encouragement for individuals with ADHD, helping them navigate their unique challenges and live more fulfilling lives.
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This ADHD Podcast Episode first aired on 4/21/16.
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[@timeittakestoletgo1687]

I literally live- I reside- in the shame/avoidance cycle. It isn’t something that comes up here and there. It’s the way I operate every single day. And I *know* these things. I’m already super aware of why I’m doing what I’m doing (or not doing). The fact that I’m conscious of it makes me feel even worse.

[@emon4866]

thank you so much for this video. I broke down into tears while listening because I identified with it so much. I recently was tested and given the diagnosis of having a executive function deficit. so many years of feeling shame and avoiding very important things in my life has a name. I am not alone, I am not messed up or incompetent. thank you so much for this video.

[@JesperHellvik]

I started crying too and I haven’t been given a diagnosis yet but I have done the asrs test and it went into the red!

[@brnne]

Omg this is so mind-blowing. The part about that women who avoid her friends because she didn't answered. I remember when I didn't message back the birthday congratulations and feel so bad, every year when is close to my birthday is the same feel. I've been more alert to that toxic shame and thoughts. It's reeealy heavy sometimes even for simple things. Some days when I wake up, I ask myself if I had talk or did something bad the past days and so on

[@headshot8888]

I avoid work now. For most of my life my sleep has been interruptedpted by nightmares of school or work.

[@catsandcavies1759]

Thank you

[@anjelash499]

Great points, tank you so much!

[@npoindexter2919]

The idea that logical thinking will free us w ADHD from avoidance missed that we've generally already tried that and it didn't work. It sounded a lot like, just think about things differently. "Just pull out of that" thinking - like, I would if I could. Not super helpful, sorry.

[@dcrbdh]

I've been able to mindfully take on tasks or broken a task down into small pieces. But I agree that logical thinking doesn't help me work through a task

[@ricoender8020]

You can only do it for so long actually before your brain says enough and takes a break. You suppress your sense of humor when you do it for so long and become dull and uninteresting. Uggh.

[@ricoender8020]

I did it for 4 1/2 yrs.

[@Heyu7her3]

Not that logic will help us from ADGD. It's the belief that rationality with help us escape the *shame spiraling* specifically since shame is an emotional response. The spiraling is irrational, and we typically get to that point because we've overexaggerated something and became fixated on it. I'm only seeing this video today. In thinking about all the recent shame spirals I've experienced, the rational response/ mapping things out has helped me escape the hurricane *every time.*