How To Build Your Self Confidence - Marcus Aurelius (Stoicism)

[@PhilosophiesforLife]

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[@marcspector9188]

Good video. Agree with most of what is said here. I feel like having a good self esteem is just what I need to propel my life to that extra level. I'm doing OK, succeeding in MOST areas of my life, but I DO tend to get down on myself for the "little things" that I seem to not do so well. ANd I do tend to focus on these. I especially like the last part, the GRATITUDE JOURNAL and DAILY SUCCESS JOURNAL. Will try to implement that ASAP. Any more tips on developing self effifacy to a greater level would be appreciated. AT the moment my biggest vice is my weight, a constant struggle to lose weight, but after watching some of these "tips", I feel just a bit more confident to do so. Great video, again, hope to watch more in the future. Cheers....

[@MsWarbucks]

This is so interesting. I just wish you had another title. I want to share this with folks who could do with the philosophy and attitude and habits and thoughts ... Oh the wisdom taught in this short powerful video. Only, they'll see the title and not even open it. Oh, woe! Will be following with action these pearls of wisdom. Thank you for posting!

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[@lylethsamson2825]

So helpful..

[@HumansOfVR]

“The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.” ― Marcus Aurelius

[@PhilosophiesforLife]

That's a nice quote

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"Make sure you're learning doesn't lead to knowledge----make sure it leads to--Action!"

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@@PhilosophiesforLife what is that nice quotes I want to know!because the life is so good

[@bondpaz]

Mine is black at the moment. 😞

[@HumansOfVR]

The way I built *_self-confidence_* was through exposing myself to the experience. What do you not feel confident about? Is it socializing? Then continually expose yourself in social situations and through the experience self-confidence will emerge

[@Thebaron666]

Yep, that's the only real way.

[@bulevarknjiga6691]

So should I date with a limp dick? To build my confidence with women?

Spoken like a true beta simp!

[@marcspector9188]

exposure and response, in a sense?

[@MrAnperm]

It's conditioning. Conditioning applies to all facets of life, mental and physical.

[@akshayaelango663]

1. Build your character. 2. Self love. 3. Focus on your quality of thoughts. 4. Make a plan and stop thinking. 5. Be true to your words. 6. Own your actions. 7. Don't talk too much about yourself. 8. Remind yourself of death. memento mori 9. Ignore the naysayers. 10. Have an evening confidence ritual.

[@pure-pisces9470]

Am so grateful for this, Thankyou 🙏

[@peepeepoopoo7675]

Thank you

[@lovealways2609]

A person could have a much less effective or productive list than this. This list is nice. Concise. Stay well. Shalom.

[@vetrimaaran7452]

Thank you Akshaya😊

[@westvirginiaboy4491]

Thanks boss

[@Penname25]

Marcus Aurelius is hands down one of the greatest men who ever lived. Emperor, philosopher, hero, and total badass. He’s a role model for all ages.

[@PhilosophiesforLife]

He indeed is

[@BadassBobY]

Badass it is 😎

[@brownpunk1794]

Better than all these worthless "influencers" on social media

[@hectorosbert]

@@brownpunk1794 Bit of a false equivalency there don't you think?

[@brownpunk1794]

@@hectorosbert how so?

[@jayclifford8284]

What I've been doing lately is to think about myself in a factual way, and to not consider anything that's not factual. My insecurities are not based on fact, rather my own negative self-image that comes as a result of self-loathing thoughts and feelings. Facts enables me to see myself with humility, not the embellished version that only I can see. As an example, I don't have a lot of confidence with women. When approaching someone, I would always defeat myself saying "Why would a girl like that want to go out with a two-time loser like me?" So instead, I focus on the facts. I tell myself that from her point of view, I'm somewhat good looking, smart enough to hold a conversation and funny. That's more than what most guys have, so that gives me the confidence to talk to attractive females. Even if the facts do point a negative conclusion, I will see that I'm not nearly as bad as I think, because I always tend to exaggerate thoughts about myself. The more scientific I am while decision making, usually the better off I am.

[@martinbradstreet5728]

With women, less is more. Never act like it's your job to entertain them when talking to them. You're worth it and you need not give off the heir that they are doing you à fàvor by allowing you to talk to them. A , healthy conversation is a "two-way street" with two active participants. Finàlly, it's easy to get intimidated by good looks yet keep in mind women are not nearly as self-assured as they let on. They face a lot of social pressures when it comes to appearance and it can cause even the beautiful ones a lot of grief. Some are quite sick of appearance always at such a forefront and would love for a man to dwell upon another good quality they possess. If you find it and remark about it she will see great depth in you and that will make you very original and interesting - that's a great start, don't you think?? All the best to you,; good times are ahead - you're going to do better and better with time and experience!! And speaking of experience, I have some. So please consider my counsel aforementioned above.

[@xFlared]

Life and people are gonna do their utmost to devalue you and see you at the bottom of the pit. People love watching others fail. If you don't love yourself and accept their perceptions you're letting others dictate your existence and reality. Ignore all, respect yourself, love yourself, and do your thing. The reason others attack you and devalue you is due to their own insecurities. The only reason others blatantly bring you down in various ways is because deep inside those same people are way below you and are trying to drag you down with them. Ignore them and don't say anything. This is the reason 99.9 fail in life. They let corpses around them drag them down. Key in life is to detach yourself from everyone. Even family. Because opinions of the family have the biggest weight on our existence, and one non supportive comment from them can annihilate your entire world.

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[@Future_looksbright]

“You have power over your mind, not outside events” -Marcus Aurelius

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[@cecilliorelucio6695]

“Planning is just planning, it’s your actions that increases your confidence.”

[@bayousbambino427]

Not necessarily.

[@johnnysalter7072]

Already know most of this. However, knowing about it and implementing are 2 distinct things. Feel more depressed now after listening to this.

[@marquishoward9504]

I'm implementing this already but I agree with you. That's probably why their wasnt much views on this

[@ENTRANCEOFTRUTH5]

Confronting oneself can and is often s painful process of varying degree. We have a great mind. So do not slow it down. Its telling you something is wrong. Exaample; my buddy has a parasitic narcissistic beyotch for a woman. She plays video games constantly to regulate her emotions. Shes horrible. Hes constantly fighting with her. She controls and isolates him. Its easy for me to say dump the loser but hes entranced for mulriple reasons. The root of pain is attatchment. Deal with it and heal or be destroyed, hurt etc. Leaky roof becomes leaky floor and collapsing wall n bad air. Its only going to get worse. Dont run. Cope. Good luck

[@Jamac007]

Don't think...DO!

[@alexpearson8481]

For me it’s recognizing that positive, disciplined action has a delayed reward. Whereas emotions seem to need instant gratification, so we end up making the wrong choice, simply because we look for the instant reward.

[@DojKim]

I'm getting pumped up just from listening to these words of wisdom, almost like that fire is coming back into my stale, monotonous life. Thank you so much for these videos, i hope you know how much help you are providing for people all around the world.

[@corytomlyano793]

I have been weight training most of my life. It helps me. It gives me discipline and I look better.

[@haks8639]

I'm in love with stoicism. Going to do more research, but I think it's something I can see myself committing to for a long time.

[@TheForeverScav]

Haks 86 stoicism isn’t a way of life, it is THE way of life. Nothing else stands up to it

[@XfraserOps]

How is it going for you right now? 😁

[@Jardinier2023]

I've discovered your videos last week and I think they are very inspirational. I am a Buddhist but find these as healing in my struggles for a better life as anything out there. I never knew Marcus was such a philosopher. Hope you will continue on, I recognize it much take alot of time and effort to produce these, thanks again

[@pillbilly8761]

I am so so envious of people that take what he says to heart

[@shaggybg]

I am so happy and grateful that I do a gratitude list every evening! I've developed this skill some years ago and I still do it. It's amazing! I also found myself years ago the fact about "stop thinking, start doing". :) Still, I seem not to apply it all the time. As a child I was good at ignoring the naysayers and people who insult/offend. But recently, I seem to be affected by such people. Something to work on. I also need to work on the quality of my thoughts... some improvement this year, but still a long way to go... I don't understand the first point about the character. I take it as having values and sticking to them, but for me "character" means something else. I believe I am true to my words, own my actions, practise self love, and don't talk too much about myself (although, in front of some people I do - it is just their energy that makes me feel I am safe to do it). I also remind myself about death occassionally, but in the bad way. I need to turn it into motivation and inspiration to live life at its fullest. :)

[@MKTElM]

I clicked on this video because I am lacking in self-confidence . And was looking for a way to help restore a belief in myself .

[@cheddarpuff]

Good video! The only thing that seemed a bit tacky was specifically recommending a Keto diet to lose weight. There are many ways people can lose weight, and also much easier than keto, for example plant-based.

[@matthieusaade3616]

In the age of social media and fake people , this resonate SO MUCH

[@TheWisdomLibraryOfficial]

The challenge of the unknown future is so much more exciting than the stories of the accomplished past.

[@Lighthouse_Wisdom]

Wow, this content on building self-confidence with insights from Marcus Aurelius is incredibly insightful and motivating! Thanks for sharing it. I found the emphasis on character development, self-acceptance, and taking ownership of our actions particularly impactful. It's a reminder to focus on what truly matters and take decisive action

[@Dempske]

The advice in this video is a lot easier said than done.

[@bayousbambino427]

Exactly.

[@KW-hk2jd]

I have been finding your videos so helpful lately. Thank you so much for your work.

[@darrellborland119]

Working on "self-acceptance"...easier said than done. And, I like the call to "lists" at the end. Thanks.

[@robertstraw9881]

Stoicism is the greatest philosophy ever written.

[@doreenlane2370]

Someone once said, " You plan to fail if you fail to plan."

[@Isha2714]

These lessons should be taught in school. How to manage your self esteem. 😊

[@Cyber_Kriss]

13:40 "You are the average of the *five* people you spend the most time with" What if we are living literally alone ?

[@marquishoward9504]

Then you create your own unique thoughts

[@Cyber_Kriss]

@@marquishoward9504 Guess I better see it like that ;)

[@edwardseverinsen5598]

Then you've hung around the wrong people in the past that made you afraid to create connections with others.

[@rubenpartono]

We can see a simple derivation from the 5 person average rule if you spend time only with yourself: You = ( You + 4*Nobody )/5 5*You = You + 4*Nobody 4*You = 4*Nobody You = Nobody When you spend time with no one, you become a nobody :( We should all band up and be a bunch of nobodies :)

[@jofa6897]

Late af but you can "surround yourself with influential people through books, autobiographies. Theres something to be said about like reading the thoughts of some of the most important people to live.

[@danielholman7225]

A great collection of Stoic philosophy by Marcus A. I really enjoyed it. Thank you.

[@princessrojas3252]

I am here because I’ve been cheated on by the same person for so many times before. Trying to build myself back again with philosophy. 🙂

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Believe in yourself

[@mandagrub1377]

I am no better than, I am no worse than anyone else. I improve how I am to improve who I am, from my experience of how I was. X

[@ArturoCabello]

It helps to portray your confidence with your body! Something that I've been practicing and it does work! :)

Yeah, right...

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It start in the mind. If your body is perfect but your have decaying thoughts nothing will improve. Many people work out for the wrong reasons, and end up even more depressed.

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It's doesn't matter where you come from,never let society hold you back.

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I realized that I was becoming depressed recently. Faith, Daoist, and Stoic philosophies have done wonders to help. Thank you for these videos!

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Simply put...thank you for your work. It is more helpful than you know.

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I love this video

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[@happysmurfette]

Thoroughly enjoyed the content, delivery and lovely accent...it was music to my ears💡✨ 👍 and will be sharing it w peeps- 1. Self Awareness 2. Self Examination 3. Self Determination = Progress towards Self Confidence 💚 the idea of daily: Gratitude + Success journal. I appreciate you PfL, You ROCK. Keep up the amazing work! P.s. glad you got rid of DS😉

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Me- Nervously Tells manager I want a Raise Also Me- " Memento Mori' ; Gets Raise and Gets all Confident

[@rickky451]

It's really profound. But very complex. A person must dedicate his/her entire life to realise these traits. One other simple way which is very prevalent in Eastern philosophy : Meditation. No mind as they call in Buddhism. The fruits of Meditation are the traits listed in this video. Less theory/more action. The Zen way. Which ultimately raises the question : are there numerous ways to attain the same goal? Different philosophies put forward the same traits/ characters which help in making a complete human being. It is very interesting.

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this is so stephen covey. i love the strength and simplicity of stoicism. it makes such sense that all their likenesses are carved out of marble

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I watch it daily. I believe the stoicism works. Moreover its hard to quench your appetite . I feel more focused

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His observation that; there is no person so important as oneself, yet, one's own opinion seems far less important than other's.

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"how can I not think that"... The answer is: just don't... this is easier said hard to do, but that's how it is (and for some reason generally women have harder time doing this). Detach yourself from what they say, if you must detach yourself from them. That's the only way. Don't believe what they say about you, make the decision to not believe. Then if and when you feel like losing weight (IF you actually need and want to), do so for yourself. If you do it because what others say or think about you, you may look better or be healthier, but you'll be as miserable as before, because people will say other shitty things about you. People like putting others down. So first change your attitude towards what others think about you. Don't base your self worth on it. Only you can make the decision not to. Decide so and stick to it. It may take some time to implement the decision, but be patient and stick to the decision.

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Great stuff. Many thanks for sharing

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6:40 Actions 8:30 keep promises

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One of the best videos I watched in my life.....great teaching and great wisdom. Thanks

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This is what I mean by me getting better advice on here then from actual people

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I mean he is a person telling Us by just someone telling Me things...this is far more clear then any of the advice I've gotten

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Sto provando a iniziare una condotta nuova nella mia vita, ogni giorno imparo un po' d'ebraico mentre cammino nella spiaggia. Lingue in realtà è la mia abilità! אני גם לומד איטלקית על-ידי אינטרנט עם חברים ישראלים שלי. יש לי קיבולת ללמוד ולהבין את שפות. אבל השפת אלהים בעצם השפה הכי יפה. אני טוב מאוד, תודה לאל!

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This brought me to tears 😭

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Super Video - thanks!!

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Philosophies for Life: stop procrastinating and just start doing! Me: must watch another Philosophies for Life video to learn how to be more productive.

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Who is the voice over to these videos - he sounds just fab and really a perfect fit!

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Thank you. Very succinct presentation!

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watched full video...never so such quality content, precise and to the point video .......every point is relatable to me...Great work....It helped me a lot.......God bless you.

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Thank you very much 😑🙏🏼

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Thanks so much

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Great video and content as always.

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Thank you for this, Great video :)

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Thank you for the awesome body of work. I feel fortunate to have stumbled on your channel.

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This video is a Gem!! Thank you!! So inspiring an a saviour!! Keep the good work!! Gotta share it!! Blessings and More Stoic building circumtances!!!:)

[@damyr]

"The life has no meaning and it's insignificant. Therefore, nothing matters." _Myself, AD 2020_

[@lupinthe4th400]

Change your mindset. Read Stoicism and Orthodox Christianity.

[@saingsodanin5891]

Ignore all how people value or say about you. They don’t have power over your life. Only you who nurture all about yourself

[@sollettico]

Thank you for the video. Excellent work!

[@robgrant1011]

Self love does not mean becoming Narcissistic

[@mosthated6120]

Be humble

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Thank You.

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Jesus, I think I need this

[@OmgAuntySuzanne16]

Don’t think DO

[@tj5308]

7. Talking much about oneself is a basis for PR.

[@franacha]

5:11 I don't have any, and even if I did, the first list is too long. 5:45 yes it would be nice, but they're based in reality, and since reality is negative I'm negative 6:16 I have spent the last years trying to figure out what goals to set, what objectives to pursue, only to find a lack in interest in all things, I can't even do the first step, I really can only watch as my life slips away from my fingers 6:52 on what, for the love of god ON WHAT?? God have I thought on what to do, but can't start if I can't figure out on what I should be starting? Man, life is really pure shit, I wish I could die already

[@rrk3003]

I hope things are better for you now, this is a very old comment but I would recommend trying the wheel of life exercise for anyone who is going through a similar situation. You can learn more about the wheel of life from KZbin or contact me.

[@stevemorano9317]

Thank you

[@thewellnesstheory]

Hi Steve, you may also want to check our video on How To Build More Confidence In Yourself at kzbin.info/www/bejne/bHfXXqapfsh3mpY In this episode we cover what confidence really is, two reasons that prevent us from accessing it, 3 ways how to build confidence within, and what to do in the interim whilst your cultivating confidence!

[@stevemorano9317]

@@thewellnesstheory thank you, I’m super confident. I just see threw everything & find being a singer songwriter extremely challenging in these times.

[@adevariubire9236]

Thank you. Lord Jesus Christ bless you.

[@ppss.6302]

All is nice and well but the main implication remains - the great outside is your judge and your master you try to please/contribute via stocism and all that good virtuous stuff. If you feel a loser who does not live up to the external expectations stoicism is here to help to numb yourself but keep trying.

[@vaimantobe3034]

The point of stoicism is that no matter what happens outside, only your own thoughts and judgements define your experience. You always have the choice of how to deal with something. If the 'great outside' judges you, that is still only something you yourself choose to appraise as something to take into account or not. Even if your entire environment says it's wrong, that doesn't necessarily make it so! And if you truly agree with it, then that is something you choose to work with.

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I really love your work and it would be wonderful if the voice in the video could speak not so fast😅!Thank you very much!

[@ust7243]

Great Video. Thank you

[@ryrilo5078]

Problem is ppl confuse "love" for "like or lust". Doing the best for self can be uncomfortable.

[@melkorka4455]

Made me cry.

[@SuccessMindset2180]

1. Stoicism of Marcus Aurelius is about journaling to yourself to become a better person everyday 2. Don’t speak about yourself too much when you can journal about yourself

[@andrewprovo4827]

Ups and downs during his reign. Plague, German revolt on the long border between the empire and the northern tribes, wrecked economy, etc. Wow, and then to write what has endured through the centuries. Given all the achievements, he chooses his son, Commodus, to succeed him---for some years prior to Marcus, the best man was chosen and not genetic succession. Hey, who gets it all right? To be fair, Commodus probably behaved himself being out on campaign as much as he was.

[@darrellborland119]

@Andrew Provo...thanks for the historical context. Fascinating ancient history, quite up to date lately.

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[@tj5308]

9. Being affirmative is an ability to say “No”.

[@OhioFootHills]

6:46 I need this on a 10 hour loop. lol

[@alwaysgreatusa223]

Kindness is not necessarily a virtue nor a sign of a strong character. Better to be temperate than kind, for the temperate are respected, whereas the kind are frequently seen as having a character that is nice, compromising and weak.

[@mrsir1914]

Surround yourself In positivity live in positive vibes concentrate on love, love the world and it will drip you love it will never be easy, but love compassion and empathy are the key to true happiness Its will not be easy but stand your ground you will find your people to build the life your happy to live