How to deal with difficult people - 4 Magic Phrases to respond to almost any insult

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Questions that will be answered within this video:
• How do we tend to respond when face a difficult person or bully?
• What are some reasons people say or do hurtful things?
• What are some easy and effective ways to respond to negative people in almost ANY situations?
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[@harshapincha7485]

when someone slips in a negative remark, I often pretend to not have heard them and ask them to repeat it. Either they shy away from the situation or attract judgement to their own negative remarks! Thank you for the impressive handling technique in this video!

[@josephhale9198]

I used to react. Now I ignore or tease them. 😂

[@blusquirrel]

🤔 What if they DO repeat it?

[@ranu6982]

Without being rude we can easily get rid of such people filled with so much negativity....

[@ranu6982]

Your directions will definitely work mam... Thanks

[@ranu6982]

@@fredschell8051 pls. Summarize it in just one or two sentences...

[@mirianalogara2909]

Not everyone has the privilege to let go of those people. Sometimes we are stuck with them and there's no other option than dealing with them.

[@taimurchoudhry.]

I can't stop smiling because you made a complex problem so simple. Reminds me of Peter Drucker.

[@dr.elmerhartman8390]

Me: So you are married. Her: That's interesting, what made you ask that?

[@nickj2554]

LOL.... nice catch... she's certainly off guard here

[@AzraelPercussionNEO]

😂

[@TheCicada007]

Ah!

[@mcethan]

So whats your answer gonna be? "Cuz im a weirdo"?

[@dinkuaiims]

I really love this idea. I have been struggling for all my life with passive aggressive people who say something short but stingy, in a subtle way, but I don’t know should I call them out or just ignore as a “no biggie”. But that thought stays with me… why did she say that?… Why was I not able to defend myself…It is always hurtful in retrospect. I now know how to acknowledge and respond with assertiveness.

[@riteshpuri5112]

I really loved it when you said that people generally expect us to give a negative response. I have noticed that a lot but instead we should smile or be calm and ask “oh really, that’s interesting tell me more”😀🙏🏻

[@jayani6584]

Exactly. Some people triger you purposely expecting negative response.

[@spiritualfairy999]

Correct

[@sashw87]

Thank you so much for this! I am dealing with an extremely negative boss, and as of late I have been retaliating to her bullying. I am afraid that my behaviour might be considered rude/insubordination. I will definitely be using your method.

[@ShadeZahrai]

I’m so sorry to hear that you have a challenging boss - it can be so difficult to navigate situations like this. Definitely try this approach - I hope it might help!

[@himashreehazarika5112]

I often face this issue,it triggers my emotions, while at that moment I get confused what to say them back. Thanks a lot to share this, I'll surely apply this next time.

[@rachriri]

Ive always resorted to youtubers to find answers for such situations but its the first time I actually feel you taught me something and not vaguely said “take a breath in and out and you should be good” without any explanation - looking forward to more videos - wish you can do one about putting boundaries with people close to you

[@ShadeZahrai]

Wow, this is such a beautiful comment! Thank you 🙏 I’m so happy you found value in this video - it’s a super simple hack I love to share. It’s served me very well, and I hope it does you too Rach!

[@gabbywinters708]

I never used to respond well to criticism, I moved on to just complete silence, and ignoring it. More recently, and, mostly, I clapped back with sarcasm, even with the statement *Mmm*... "Sounds very interesting..." I will most certainly use these statements moving forward - in a positive way of engagement. Thank you 🙏♥️

[@John-wd5bu]

Thank you, Shade Zahrai. This truly makes dealing with negative people and hard situations a breeze. Just having those questions in my mind is giving me peace. Asking is better than assuming or judging :)

[@mustgame2233]

You're a life saver

[@tejasgaikwad5253]

I agree

[@shikhakushwaha2807]

It's also another way to say "Thankyou"!

[@Chronade]

This is a big topic, you're changing lives! Thank you for these magic phrases, they'll come in handy! Your videos are so exciting. When dealing with difficult people, I exercise empathic listening, before my Mental Health was in check, I was quick to get angry, quick to get bitter, but now i fight fire with water, if it is possible on my part, I make and peace with everyone; I say things such as, "I see. I see." Thanks for making this video! Have a great weekend! :)

[@EzekJohnson]

Wow. Shade. You’re a great coach. I’ve heard the “that’s interesting...” communication technique taught a number of times but you added another level of genius and to it that has helped me understand it more. God bless you

[@PiyushPragyan]

Thanks Shade for making my day.💓 The level of positivity that I can gain from your videos is insane.Perfect way to start my day.

[@kavitakanwar2161]

These are most generous way to respond politely in a humble way to limit the negativity to spread and affect us and anyone.Really good. Thank u so much.

[@raghavendraprabhu8975]

The way you said it is absolutely blissfull. Just enough to Know in 1 video what kind of Aura you have. Will follow your steps to optimize myself towards the finest things in life.

[@vijayam1]

Let me be honest, the way you say it softly and a gleam your eye just calms me over and learn a new tip in a positive way! Thank you!

[@QAAAA1212]

Very well structured and informative. ”Always respond with a question” - ☺️

[@deraxsi]

Sometimes I’m staring at them, without saying anything, expect from them to thinking more. But today I learned another cool strategy. Many thanks Shade🙏

[@pratikchakraborty6354]

I swear this is one video I absolutely needed. Thank you so much Shade.

[@ShadeZahrai]

Glad it was helpful!

[@zubairso]

Will it work in a scenario where the manager goes, "You're fired!" Me: "That's interesting, what made you say that?" lol. Thanks for the amazing tips though.

[@Ap-zq7lb]

thats interesting, what made you say that?

[@MichaelrAngora]

The boss will then reassess his reasons for firing you and explain them in more detail (if he hasn't done it already). You now have an opportunity assess if you can make adjustments to yourself and possibly offer your boss to reconsider his decision. If you can't adjust, this is where you politely accept the decision and leave in a dignified way. If all that doesn't work, just say "I'll see you outside when your shift ends". That 2nd phrase is very effective.

[@abdelhakim8269]

@@MichaelrAngora i agree with you Mikey about second phrase 😀

[@karandonga9326]

@@MichaelrAngora what if the boss asks "that's interesting, what made you say that?" 🤔

[@IAMBlessed811]

@@MichaelrAngora wow 🤩

[@abdulhameedmjalil299]

Yes, it's an amazing way of responding to negative people or situations.

[@guylookingthesky7934]

Finally there is someone to help us dealing with toxic people in a practical way

[@shastrisingh]

Thank you Shadé Zahrai ! Awesome magic phrases, I will use them wisely.

[@parthahazarika4299]

That's interesting Shade.I'm grateful to you for this awareness video in terms of bringing a bold approach to face any challenging situations in day to day life.I definitely have a takeaway message which can be practiced daily

[@learnwithaamir1001]

I don't think it will work with my foster parents, who are extremely rude, make you work hard for house chores, and look down upon you for everything in life (as if you were mistakenly born), their ego is extremely high for them to be ever wrong on anything, and they are highly educated (Ph.D). I went through this pain for over 20 years and as a child, I don't know how I survived it. Only remembering and trusting in the creator helped me through this difficult time period in my life. These people can't go to jail in our society but the ONE who created all beings is ever watchful for our actions. May the creator of heaven and earth watch over all who are patient with difficult people around them. Amīn.

[@elton340]

Amazing as always! Thanks for sharing Shadé!

[@harnoorsingh1287]

Its a very unique analysis. This thing actually causes a lot of distress to the people.and they don't even realise it.. You have shown the animal instincts present within us..and it is a decent way to encounter it.. Very good.keep it up.. God bless you

[@ShadeZahrai]

Yes, not knowing how to deal with insults and negative communication really does cause a lot of suffering. And you're absolutely right we all have an animal and a spiritual nature. Such practical tips can really help us conquer our animal nature and to respond with wisdom and dignity. God bless too 🙏🏽😊

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[@ashokkonatham8857]

wow, so nice to address the bullying guys

[@S.F.G1]

I desperately needed someone to suggest me to handle this situation. Thank you so much

[@proactivevee]

Thank you very much for posting this video. You have no idea how helpful these phrases you just shared. Stay incredible in everything that you do! 😍

[@venkataramareddytadi6964]

thank you so much shade, you are my life saver. Keep up the good work.

[@ragazzosemplice67]

Thank you so much Shade. This is going to really help. Keep up the good work.

[@jayasjain6760]

Simply WOW...a beautiful addition to my newly found understanding of 'respond, not react'....thank you!

[@AbhishekKumar-vp7ey]

Thank You Shade. Needed this. I am a shy, introvert kind of person and used to either react aggressively or let the other person have the Win. This is very helpful.

[@abuturab6611]

Beautiful and highly useful video! Thank you, Shade!

[@km2897]

She is so well spoken jazakAllah

[@Travelogues_Arunava]

I take a deep breath, put my head down & smile. Believe me it helps in releasing the pent up emotions.

[@gagantechtechnical6737]

After the video I was like" that's interesting plz post more videos" 😂❤️

[@journeywithashley1800]

Next time when my sister behaves rudely , I will say "thats interesting"👍

[@diva8025]

😂😂😂

[@sourabhsuri8812]

Totally love this woman and how she is changing the lives for Many.. She is picking up the Best Practices from her experiences/ observations and whatever is being taught to us; by our elders too.. But we always need a kick-in-the-back.. to learn and implement the lessons. Thank you @Shade..

[@saketsaurabhjha]

Ya- TOTALLY LOVE THIS WOMAN 😍😍😍😍

[@priyaramdoo4762]

Amazingly precise in handling and solve most challenging situations or conversations that can cause lingering emotional issues

[@arghadeepsaha8598]

In the story 'The Adventure of Three Gables', Steve Dixie comes in the room like a mad bull and threatens Sherlock Holmes. Holmes simply says: "Keep on talking, it's fine". Isn't it amazing that these practices existed ages ago but no one cared to learn or use them. Shadé Zahrai you are the Wonder Woman mankind has been waiting for ❤️. By the way more on communication/ relationship please 🙏🏻

[@redlumf]

I can’t thank you enough for sharing this. Love this video! 😃

[@marygrace5054]

Fantastic shadé . This is truly helpful and brilliant tips . Thank you so much 🤗💖💖💖

[@tsehayemolla4890]

Happy You created KZbin & appreciate for your positive, beautiful Coaching 🙏🙏

[@DmitriyFrumkis]

Perfect. Right what i need and when I need. Thank you!

[@salehabudakka8495]

That’s interesting indeed, thanks a lot For all the golden tips and videos ❤️❤️

[@pwsmorrobay6753]

Thanks again for lightning me up ! ✨💖🙏🏻

[@triciajensen9679]

Love this! So easy, and will be very useful to me, thank you!!

[@orchestrain88keys]

Thanks Shadé.... Totally applicable for me.

[@victoriawheeler5445]

I really like your videos😊 . My family members are a bigger triggers than my co-workers. Regardless, dealing with their negativity causes me a lot of stress, aggravation and general unhappiness . Thank goodness there are people like you who share their skills with the world for free😊

[@ItissoIrene]

Love your radiant positivity🕊

[@CM-du5qh]

I like this...and my prefrontal cortex is advising me that this information is easily more digestible coming from such an attractive person!

[@AsafEiron]

That is a great advice, thank you!

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[@gauravsinghbedi6536]

THANK YOU SHADE ZAHRAI...YOU ARE WONDERFUL MOTIVATOR...WISH YOU LOTS OF SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS...THANK YOU...GOD BLESS YOU SHADE

[@joeyballer]

That is interesting. Why didn't I think about this? Thx you Shade for such a useful YET simple to do advice!

[@amishasamani6663]

Yes.. Will try

[@dipgupta3725]

So very useful....thank you shade ....you are a treasure....

[@keerthi794]

That's interesting, thank you for sharing it with us.

[@thivyavenugopal3307]

U r a goddess. U help me to ease with myself, when it's most uncomfortable and annoying.

[@sarahmurphy-nf4yl]

You're a gem. Super. Loved that video. Love all your videos. Thank you.

[@naturenurture84]

5:54 Thats interesting.. why would you do that? He must be luckiest guy in the world.

[@garygameon]

Love this! Meditation has helped me be centered for stressful situations and it's step one here with breathing but having phrases in my arsenal as a next step sure helps. Thank you.

[@profbfc]

Imo phrases and action points for various situations is more important that meditation. Meditation is either a long term solution to be resiliant to stress or a short term mechanism to reduce symptoms of stress . Addressing the issue head on is far more effective.

[@biancamagalhaes833]

At times when overcome tough situations we are not prepared emotionaly to respond in a dignified way, but definetely, I feel a lot gratitude for this tips :)

[@zingsokasomwoshi7920]

Thanks for sharing.....this sounds simply interesting, gonna try

[@hossamyasser8651]

Thanks Ms. Shadé.

[@abubakerkhalid8758]

What a marvelous tips to defuse antagonism, perfect and more practical approaches. I bubble at workplace quite often , now will apply these techniques to cope with my problem while responding to an antagonizer , thanks for sharing your thoughts and knowledge. I will take it as an “ Advice”

[@ap4554]

Great points.

[@ray_of_hope4219]

That's interesting, I would definitely use these 4 magic phrases in my life

[@hanikatlan7826]

That is interesting and helpful Shadè, amazing how the brain michanizm and the amygdala kicks in as part of the fight or flight warning system, I think those words need to be thoroughly practiced to be used in real scenario, Thanks fr sharing that ❤

[@genabrown8740]

Great tips!!!! Thank you :)

[@audreymeyer5616]

Thanks! I will try that

[@michaelangelo257]

Hello. I really like the simplicity of your style of communicating the information. It gives me confidence and makes me realize the power I have within to make necessary changes to improve my surroundings. Great job. And I just subscribed.

[@debbiemurray1496]

Thank you, I will clearly understand how and why I'm responding positively. I really appreciate you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@gabrielgkabelen4780]

Thanks so much dear.

[@besai2944]

Thank you for sharing this wonderful wisdom very helpful

[@krishnaprasadt8728]

Simply AWESOME!

[@motupatl]

ماشإاللہ i will apply that انشإاللہ

[@browseblockchain7076]

Interesting the way you explained, thank you.

[@kevinharris9371]

Amazing tips Shadé! You're great! ♥️😍👌👍👍

[@neerajshrivastava5867]

Amazing 🤩 Thanks again I appreciate your help. I used these magic phrases. It’s really works.

[@horse3357]

Thanks Incredible!!

[@josephhale9198]

Never been a fan of Rollercoasters period. This is some of the best advice i ever received

[@faisalhussain3860]

Thank you for this tip ..

[@firstlot4825]

It was a great video. Really much needed help. 👏🏼💯

[@thepoliticalgita6512]

Was very good. Thank you!

[@imranam1602]

Thank you Shade !

[@ShadeZahrai]

My pleasure!

[@vineetmankar]

Just.. THANK YOU SO MUCH

[@sachin_getsgoin]

That's interesting :) I usually use flattery and then try to extract details so that the confronting person feels valued and assesses himself/herself properly. Example : I love to hear when your ideas, can we listen to how you arrived at this? Thanks for sharing the video. It gives a plan to approach such situations!

[@Eibo63]

It's nice to have some tools when it comes to communicating with negative people but I really can't recall a single situation where asking any of those questions could've helped. I believe that such situations require a lot of social skills and experience. I think the real useful take away here is the concept or main objective, which is simply trying to "find a way to shift the spotlight on them". Thanks for the video.

[@balraambalraam905]

Thank you so much for this💗❤️

[@RichardGobel]

Thank you Shade

[@JuCarlos-ex8ip]

Thanks for sharing the video,, your videos helped me out so much

[@AjinkyaMahajan]

It Was the best reaction I have learned in the entire week

[@saiakshipandey9658]

Thank you so much. 🥰

[@JuCarlos-ex8ip]

Thank you great video