Change your Life in 3 Steps | Re-Write your Story through Narrative Identity - Shadé Zahrai

What differentiates those who bounce back from hardship versus those who get stuck in a pit of despair? It often comes down to the story that they tell themselves about the situation.
We construct our reality based on the stories we tell ourselves and others about our lives - it’s called ‘Narrative Identity’ (McAdams, 2018).
People who believe their lives are meaningful tend to tell stories defined by growth, communion & hope - these are called ‘redemptive stories’. But those who aren’t able to move on and have ‘become’ their experiences tend to tell what’s called ‘contamination stories’, focussed on how difficult and tragic their lives are.
Even making small story edits to our personal narratives has been found to have a huge impact on our lives.
NOTE: This is not about trying to Ctrl + Z parts of your life. We’re not denying what’s happened to us, or trying to change the past - although sometimes that does seem far easier…
What we ARE doing is changing the meaning we apply to events to change the story we tell. We’re redefining challenges as growth opportunities and finding hope in the despair.
Because when you re-write your story, you upgrade your identity.
When you upgrade your identity, you change your future.
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My take: The story we tell/narrate about ourselves of the past define our perspective on life itself. Choose to remember and narrate positive incidents of yourself and others connected with you . Thank you lady

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I am happy 100% with my life, though I don't have enough success to tell about, still I feel I didn’t do anything wrong to anybody in this world and could love everybody and could stublish myself at the same time as a singer and a teacher thus a youtuber.

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I needed this today! Exactly what my husband and I were discussing. I complain, compare, negative, beat myself up, play victim, no purpose. I want to stop. I want to just be happy!

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Every person darkside ot trauma is the most strong n creative n untapped resource part of his emotions, if channeled in the right positive course...its very effective

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This is exactly what i was needed this time ... I was feeling so low .. thinking I'm the most toxic person and i hurt everyone and want to relive everything to make things right ... but that's not how things work ... i can't relive but surely can rewrite my story in my head.... and use that for my growth ... I've learned alot and should feel take that as a win ... can't relate more to this ... Thank you for making my mind simpler an thoughtful

[@ChallHatt]

This video is like a treasure for every person who is on the path of self improvement. Changing the narrative can really redefine our whole life and how we perceive it. Shadè you are amazing.

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Thank you Shade! Your assistance to the mental health of this world is truly the work of a light being!

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Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear. What was holding me back from believing I was worth more...everything. Re-write, re-frame and the future is renewed!

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Absolutely loved this ❤️

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I love and admire your thoughts, ma'am.

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A VERY well thought-out and structured episode on changing the stories we tell ourselves to change our lives. I deeply believe in this for quite some time. This is incredibly valuable for people. Thank you for sharing and helping people change their lives for the better, Shadé Zahrai!

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Wow so many new notions and technical words. I used to think I am a word warrior, but after listening to this, I have to start learning my vocabulary from scratch. I will take this lesson and spread it around me. Lady you are proving again that we never stop learning. Thank you.

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Yeah,I am the same way.I have a lot of pain in my left hip.

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thanks for sharing

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Thank you Shadé, a concept wonderfully delivered and broken down to it's core parts. 🙏

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Your videos are amazing.

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Thank you so much for this video. I feel like this is God’s touch for me to rewrite my story for the better. Thank you so much!!! ❤❤❤

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Inspiring video ❤

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This video was very Stoic. Loved it.

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It is works for me and you are amazing ❤

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Shade you are truly changing Lives,No Words... Thank you from the Core of My Heart Your All Videos are Commendable & Thoughtful! Lots of Love & Keep up the Good Work!!!

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Thank you from my deep heart , you enlighten the collective mind with great positivity ❤

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Whenever I feel like my life is punishing me, I just try to think of myself in comparison to other victims and I see how lucky I really am. I haven’t watched my children starve to death, I don’t have to walk a mile for clean water and I haven’t been forced into a refugee camp. Things could always be MUCH worse and somehow reminding myself that other people have much more challenging issues everyday helps me remain grateful.

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A potentially painful concept, beautifully and gently delivered. Thank you 🙏

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Most helpful and insightful content I came across

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Going through a transition right now. This comes at a right time…♥️❤️♥️

[@blueberrycake2027]

Shadé, what a great sharing you gave to us. Yes, it's right, what we narrate ourselves is important, it shapes our minds, being more positive, happy or depressed. Thanks for ur sharing.

[@sarahalishah5827]

Jazak Allah Shade’ for all kind words and precious advice to decontaminate one’s story ….every one will benefit from your knowledge ….stay blessed…❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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I coped with my severe trauma the same way as you explained. And it transformed my thinking.

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I was very toxic, till I began to listen to helpful individuals like you. It's funny, we like to place ourselves as a victim,some times we do it to self or led ourselves into that very predicament and begin the stories. We all have had, failure, trauma, set backs. Instead of stepping back look from another set of eyes and beautiful mind.

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Thank you, Shadé! Very, very helpful. May the light you share always bless you!

[@ShadeZahrai]

You are so welcome Ana! Thank you for the kind words. 🙏🏽

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Thank you dear Shade for this amazing session! Lots to learn from this short yet highly impactful session! Thanks again.

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Accept you and accept reality coz accepting yourself is being real! Thanks for such a great information. 🙏🏻

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This is exactly what I needed Thanks a lot to you and your team ♥️

[@ariefmperkasa6815]

spot on, and more importantly it's timely for me! this differs constructive thinking, that allows further growth, from positive thinking, that tends to ignore what happens. many thanks Shadé

[@popoduck8309]

I am grateful for these nine minutes that I spend on this video. Ty Shade

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I really appreciate your content Shade, you really did a great job by not only motivating people like me but, you also counsel and telling the meaning of live a happy life. Living Krishna you are❤️🙏

[@MindLifeFlow]

Narrative Identity is a powerful resource for making life changes. We can all reflect on our self-talk and make changes if needed. Negative self talk can become a habit and we firstly need awareness to change it...

[@ahmedjamalhumakani]

Thanks a lot Shadé! This really makes sense.

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Absolutely loved your theory and explanation

[@nikhilkumarsingh3637]

Thanks for the lovely advice! You explain like a life teacher. It's not how challenging our situations are, it's how we learn from it even if something one feels it's not upto the mark. I tend to perceive everything as negative because I try everything to do as perfect as possible, when that does not happen, I feel that others are better, I am not suitable for this. I should perceive it as a learning experience.

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I love your channel. Thank you 😊 The way you speak and put together videos is amazing ❤️

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Your videos really work as booster dose to recycle my negative vibes into positive ones. You are blessed with immense knowledge and you keep sharing your thoughts so beautifully with us that one just keep longing for more to come .

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Great insight, synthesized from multiple, authentic sources 👏🏽 . Grateful for the effort and the message, Shadè 🙏🏽. I am hopeful of following the steps and reaping the benefits 😃.

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Thank you for this video, so timely for me. More blessings!

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This video is exactly what I needed to see at this time. I was dwelling in a frustrated and contaminated mindset due to a challenge at work. While I have learned to pivot and see things differently, this really hit home and guided me to fully accept, rewrite and move forward. Thank you so much.

[@ShadeZahrai]

Glad it was helpful and timley!

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Truly amazing .thank you

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Concept is crafted in another level... It's opportunity to re write our story and to have spark to our perspective... Simply superb

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You nailed it. Thank you for sharing. Indebted to you for your clarity.

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It's been a pleasure listening to all that you have to teach us ... You make us learn from our own experience, a whole new perspective... Thanks a ton

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Thank you for this amazing experience you brought it and how any situation can bring about a positive life approach in dealing with bigger challenges and struggles

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I really needed to listen to this again and again to remember to be postive and attract positivity..thank you 🙏

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Beautifully conceptualized.... Ultimately it is "interpretation" That matters..... This video could be life changing for many... Big thanks to you for helping contaminated lives .... 👍

[@ahmedjamalhumakani]

Couldn't agree more!

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Your tone of narrating story is so powerful and so touching that anyone once watch your videos will for it. ..thank you for being so kind for making such a wonderful videos and helping people enriching the experience to live their life

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Brilliant Insight Shade Zahari...God Bles You... Thank You Shade...

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I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day the past is just a story we tell ourselves rarely do we think of the power we hold for ourselves as authors and narrator ❤

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Never thought a nine minute video can deliver that Enormous amount of value👏👏🙌🙌.. keep this spirit straight up to sky and thanks a lot🙏 namaste

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Thank You 💗Loved Your Very Informative Video.

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I'm so grateful that I found your channel Shade. What you shared is so helpful as I'm practicing in my life now whatever is useful to me when I need it the most. Thank You 🙇

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I was having trouble rewriting my story and your video helped me a lot. You helped to focus on how to do it correctly. Thank you❤

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This is beautifully crafted that you for these precious advices.

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Thank you Shade 🌹

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I must say that after watching much of your practical advice I just got some results. I am a retired Physics professor and always have too many ideas (scientific) to report to Journals and I feel that I have very little time left on this planet. I always used and still do multitask and write about 5 different papers at once. When I concentrate on one to complete sometimes something comes up in the journals that make my priorities change. But I get things done but when one paper is published I immediately start the next one. Sometimes I get 10 different articles in the press. I don't feel the joy of getting published. From now on I will reward myself and enjoy once a project is completed. Basically, I always felt that if I do not get the ideas before too long, nobody ever will. THANK YOU.

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Thankyou !! This video is a voice of hope.

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Perfect timeing of this video.... Thank you so many for such a nice learnings.

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Excellent addition of lots of great advices

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You are unbelievably superb pack of knowlegde. What you deliver is awesome. Trust me, I needed to hear this video today Shade. Keep up with the work and I promise that I will pass this knowledge to the next required person. Keep up with this work plz. The world needs more of this or at least people like me need such videos a lot. In a world where there are almost never ending content, it is really good to see people like you making a geniune effort for mankind. I am very emotional and falling short of words to describe the gratitude towards you. Thanks again Shade!!!!!!!

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Shade, your sayings are great and penetrate to the heart and mind. Really give lights

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Thank you for this important information. Taking lessons from past experiences and applying them in order to grow and develop and prosper .

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Thank you!❤

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I feel so previliged to find you. The precision in your presentation is awesome. Stay blessed for everything you do for unlifting us. Love you!❣️"The way we communicate with ourselves and others determine the quality of our life" Tony Robins, Unlimited Power

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It really is about looking outside yourself, seeing it from a different angle and learning from it. It really can be an awakening imho

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Very beautifully explained. I have heard this so many times from others. Haven't understood so deeply earlier. Grateful to you.

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Im working on it. Thank you for doing these Videos. You are god send

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Such a wonderful video. We need more people like you on this earth seriously. Please keep posting more. God bless.

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Thanks dear.....actually needed guidance on this topic...God bless you!!!!

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You are incredible! Thank you for your great videos and keep them coming.

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Fantastic perspective. Thanks

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Thanks Shade' - much appreciation from South Africa and Zimbabwe

[@ShadeZahrai]

You're welcome Jika. Beautiful part of the world!

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Thank you Shadé

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THANK YOU!!