How To Deal With PTSD, 3 Practical Tips

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[@RICHARDGRANNON]

0:00 Stating The Topic Of The Video 1:03 BPD and CPTSD Confused 3:38 Be Aware Of Your State And Try To Remain In A Good State As Long As Possible 8:03 The More You Do It, The Better You Get At Doing It 11:13 The Importance Of Internal Boundaries 15:07 How Do You Get Your Internal Boundaries Back? 20:52 Wrapping Up

[@Betriska]

Wow. An entire year of therapy did not help me as much as your one video here. Thank you!

[@jazzalterio692]

Right?

[@psychiatryandwellnesswitht8474]

Thanks for doing this. Your message is a good one.

[@steffnic13]

Yup. 10 years of spinning about with all sorts of therapy and same conclusion.

[@peggygenoway]

As a therapist, I can absolutely say there are bad therapists. However, if this joker is better than a year of therapy--that's a dismal therapist. Hope you reported it in your state. Or, you are setting someone else up to get poor counseling.

[@sll110]

@@jazzalterio692 10years, I with ASSHOLE therapists

[@icicleicicle]

I'd like to add to the self-care regimen of enough sleep, good food, exercise etc.--PROBIOTICS and possibly a digestive enzyme if you internalize stress in your gut....they helped me feel more in control of my environment and emotional regulation. Your gut flora is extremely important for mental health!

[@mimiboucher5096]

Yes yes I hear it has a connection to our brain and emotions or something like that the gut brain connection and depression

[@icicleicicle]

+Mimi Boucher if you're interested in gut/brain research, check out David Perlmutter's book Brain Maker :)

[@Xboomer1]

My whole disease most likely came from a SEVERE case of Candida Overgrowth.... it is hidden and insidious.... what it can put the body through is awful.... get your Probiotics... After a course of Anti-biotics, get your PROBIOTICS.... then you will not go through what I went through.

[@keithmelville7040]

Soffee Tee what are the best source of probiotics?

[@Xboomer1]

Go to a Natural Store, there should be some 400 BILLION colony forming unit stuff, or even 800 Billion... I use the 400 billion, felt better in TWO HOURS... has enzymes too.... many strains of bacteria, and different enzymes....

[@TracyAMalone]

Richard I love your channel and you have pretty much saved my life! Just saying...

[@SunlightParadiseGlassArt]

Love this. Perfect. A week and a half ago I set my alarm on my mobile "How do you feel" to go off 5 times a day. I think about it and give my feelings names and it's helped me. Its pulled me out of a PTSD relapse I wouldn't have thought just that woulddo it but so glad it did. Thanks Richard.

[@robh.3124]

Yona Curtis love it. Has it helped you recover?

[@MrGoldenV]

U give me free information in a pleasant way and I appreciate that very much. Thanks

[@Cosmogirl014]

You are a great life coach Richard.

[@willzer808]

This is advice that should be watched and re-watched, and followed thoroughly - I'm going to take this one as bible, and run with it. Thanks Richard, you do truly rock.

[@Roxsandee]

At 72 in Oct...I will begin my life because of the 3 months of listening to you...In other words...I am who I am...Damn it...Quit fucking with me. There...I just set a Boundary...

[@quitjoshinme]

Roxsan Ambrosini hang in there !

[@chooselove4all574]

OMG finally someone gets it- the therapeutic process itself sets PTSD triggers off!! Yes. It's because the therapists say stock things they learned in school that often come off as superficially polite but insensitive and impersonal. The way therapists are trained to be overly calm actually triggers me, because it reminds me of how narcissistic people minimized what was happening to me in the past with a bland anesthetic calm voice that seemed condescending. Today I dealt with a nurse on a physical health issue, and her demeanor was similar. Polite but totally uncaring underneath. She was trying to sound like she was helpful, but in reality she was actually quite lazy and didn't really want to be bothered to do anything to set up my treatment, nor did she even want to clarify with the doctors before she scared the crap out of me first needlessly on something I had already been through before that traumatized me for 3 years. Her superficial attitude reminded me of all the people who are going through the motions, not realizing they could be actually harming someone because they didn't take the time to get to know the person and what they have already been through.

[@fredworthmn]

I took that ink blot test and a written "test" (select the answer) at the USA VA mental health facility. At the review the tester was describing my problem exactly and I was getting happy someone finally got it! Then he said that no one feels that way and that I was making it all up! I was even scolded for my ink blot interpretations! I immediately went into a dissociation and could not even speak I was so astounded! That is the reason I no longer use the mental health services of the USA VA system. (Other than that the VA has been very good to me) I am not surprised that 20 USA service veterans commit suicide every day. Sadly, I have little respect for those with a doctor of psychology.

[@maplenook]

Chooselove 4all it’s a job. So it’s impersonal.

[@rosiegardener6781]

Just realised after reading another comment that although I do keep a journal, it is devoid of emotion because I am to afraid to acknowledge the truth of over 60 years of emotional abuse. I have always hidden my feelings under the mask that I'm fine everything is fine, this video has been a real eye opener for me so here goes.......

[@SunShine-dm8gy]

Rosie Gardener Go for Rosie!

[@alicejackson7676]

Hey Richard, Love your gestures, they are crazy, I was mesmerized. I hope folks with PTSD will give this a try, I've been watching your channel for a couple of years now and I know I am much better off for it. I think I'm a C-PTSD/and PTSD who joined the military, I was in for 9 years, many years ago now. You just explained a lot to me about myself (once again). Thank you. I was very separated from my feelings, (though I am female, a mom and grandma now) it's been hard work to allow myself to feel the feelings, without judgement, then let them go. They do go!! They do. It seems like they will take over and I will drown in it, no, the feelings dissipate and depart. My method: it is as though I am my own good parent, I sit with the me that has all these strong feelings, again without judgement, and allow it to process. I had no idea how hard I was being on myself about those feelings, which just made it worse of course. I think this is key, no judgement, sit with yourself as though you are sitting with a young niece or nephew who is experiencing these strong emotions, allow it to process and pass. It becomes less scary and very doable after a few tries. Thanks again, Richard. Love you.

[@justinevirtue1755]

mk Bravo!

[@christi2993]

My Cortisol is SO high AND wonky, that it shoots up if I don't take my remedies for the Cortisol, I vomit spontaneously. It's upside down day/night, and all over the map. I try to manage and have made changes to reduce stress but the sitch is such that there is MORE stress of a different kind now. Unavoidable. This and more cause me to reject food. The only control that I have. The changes that are needed to heal more are monetarily impossible because of EXTENSIVE trauma of all kinds since I was literally a baby. I spend my days trying not to feel ruined. Sometimes that is impossible with the negative damaging influence in the immediate vicinity. Sometimes you get me through, minute to minute Richard. Thank you very very much. I'm trying to apply what you say. Sometimes I can do it. Sometimes things hit me so hard and fast that it's hard to catch my breath. Both inside and outside.

[@Xboomer1]

I used PRO CORTISOL BALANCE supplement for 3-4 years. My tests were off the charts, and off at all times of the day. You might also check out my technique. It works on the Stress, and many other things... do a search for, Happiness Is No Charge... also, How to deal with Stress and Anxiety, a technique to stop them... You can also visit my website, and watch video on various things, and read my depression story... hnc-today.weebly.com Just hover on MORE for the menu. Read about Emotional Charge... the first item, and go to the Video page and watch the video on Emotional Charge, and PTSD... and Stress and Anxiety, etc.... What do doctors say about your condition?

[@thedaily.creative]

I was diagnosed with Borderline back in March but I've noticed that those tendencies only rear their ugly heads while in an intimate relationship... I relate more with all of the symptoms of C-PTSD. When you mentioned in this video that it's like an alarm bell going off on a reptilian level to seemingly normal things, it made a lot of sense for me. I'm just now beginning to realize how much I'm always triggered, it's like I'm in a constant emotional flashback due to childhood abuse/abusive relationships. What is the difference between BPD and C-PTSD? I haven't been able to find a straightforward answer on the internet (one that I fully understand anyway, lol). Love your videos! This was very helpful. 🙂

[@elizabethbrady2737]

Hi Chelsea, BPD is just another symptom of CPTSD. Read Pete Walker's articles on CPTSD and it will tell you that the DSM could be a small document since they could lump most of the diagnoses in the DSM under the effects of childhood abuse. Because CPTSD is not in the DSM, your counselor cannot diagnose you with it and get paid by insurance. On the other hand the person who diagnosed you may not understand CPTSD. In which case you may need to look elsewhere for a counselor. Keep working.

[@bonanonymouscrickett5231]

@@elizabethbrady2737 after 2 degrees in psych that is exactly what I have come to believe. Abuse is unnatural. War. Cruelty. Violence. The disordered personality is the soul's method of coping with it. It just manifests differently. CPTSD is complex PTSD. If a person is traumatized over and over CPTSD morphs from PTSD.

[@jjsiegal1]

Richard...Thank you for sharing your knowledge and giving us TOOLS to understand and deal with PTSD. ~Much Love Brother!

[@yeyaloba1]

"You ain't processing shit homie!!" Lol love it! Thanks for all you do btw you are a great help for those confused and in need. The best part is that you add light and humor to a sad situation. Laughter is good medicine :)

[@SunShine-dm8gy]

Yeya Loba I agree - laughter is good medicine! It’s the best!

[@bio3m]

Cool shirt

[@millerelex]

Eye pyramid

[@natalierullmanward9137]

No, not a fan of the shirt. TACKY

[@oksanaparr1396]

Nick versache shirt

[@Simple_Mind11369]

yes. you absolutely put out a useful video. I have been coping , alone, for so long. your truth hits like truth. i love it. please keep up the good work.

[@carpentryfirst3048]

For me it feels like it gets worse every year. I am fine during the days but I have wicked bad panic attacks while I'm sleeping. Sometimes as soon as I wake up I know what's happening and I can run to the bathroom but sometimes i wake up screaming or bawling my eyes out. And rarely i have a panic attack but don't wake up, or gain consciousness for anywhere from a few minutes to over 15 mins until I realize where I am and what's happening. I constantly gets wiffs of blood that overtake me and i can replay every detail in my head. It's horrible. Constantly It bombards my thoughts. I feel like this will never go away. It's so much easier to run away from it and numb the pain with drugs. I've let my life slip away. But I feel so alone. What a miserable way to live. I'm extremely angry and I want my life back. It's been so long now I can barely remember what it was like before this. Sometimes I wish... you know. I have a family to support and be here for. But what a fuckin weight to carry.

[@talacocheta9001]

I'm sorry that you're going through all of that. You might consider finding a competent hypnotist/hypnotherapist to help your brain immediately redirect your thoughts when it does that. It can get better. You're not alone, and your family would miss you if you were gone. You're in my prayers.

[@jakecolburn8946]

came here for the usual fun & hilarity but then thought omg what a cool t shirt I want one to.

[@lauralehtoart]

You are a fricken genius.

[@youaresoulessence]

You're doing a job worth doing Richie, it was a form of bullshit that creates this condition and the ongoing retention of what becomes ones own bullshit until the feelings win over. I liken it to looking through a very familiar fog that takes much focus and determination to not disassociate within but to wade toward some figure that is regulation. Your compilations are full frontal ,as this condition deserves as it serves as the "delivery jolt " that begins the threads of re-cognition.. I appreciate your journey and the style of delivery it has gifted you.. .but the brutal self appraisal is a must in purging the "hereditary" (haha) psychological inheritance.. Thanks for your humorous tenacity.

[@MeltedPearls]

Life-saving, practical, persuasive, and downright altruistic! I think of you as #EverymansEinstein. GREAT work!

[@tomasjancarik3665]

I had found quite a few emotion adjectives lists here: aliciateacher2.wordpress.com/grammar/adjectives/

[@ashantef.1570]

Thank you...you are a blessing to me. Hearing about dissociation, broken boundaries, diet changes to stabilize where energy is focused...and journaling to face feelings versus thoughts...you are a blessing...thank you.

[@lyricswords1]

I am learning so much!!! Richard makes understanding the deep parts so easy!!!

[@geyserink]

HOLY CRAP!! You've nailed everything I'm feeling right now. Thank you!!

[@Spirituallove2000AD]

Brilliant! Fight fight fight get out my way im going to do this and you aint stopping me! Love that bit.

[@minafanelli8931]

Yesss, meditation and a good breakfast.... first thing... I became b12 deficiency due to PTSD... This is great Richard, all 5 steps... thank you!

[@Parmesana]

excellent video. It 'hit the spot'. I agree that one must strive for homeostasis..and when one is so out of whack, it is more difficult to remove yourself from that forest to 'see the trees' Starting any good thing is always more difficult than doing what you always do. Good habits are hard to gain and easy to lose..and likewise the bad habits are easy to obtain and hard to lose. Thank you.

[@sandraleighmiller9038]

Thank you Richard - five years of family violence and childhood trauma has brought me to your healing pages. I must say this video I watched today has helped reinforce what I am doing is the only way forward. Thank you so much for sharing your raw open honest heart with the world !

[@maxwellbernstein9235]

Ditto!!!!, Richard my friend! You have been such an inspiration to me! You are helping me to heal, one day at a time. I hope someday to afford Skype therapy with you. Thank you SO much for you YT work! You are changing lives every single day! :) Thank you for following the calling on your life!!! :) You are like a loving big brother to me! :) Thank you SO much!

[@maxwellbernstein9235]

I love your shirt too, as has also been mentioned by others. :) It brings me back emotionally to my tiny amount of, but very strong and primal, indigo Cherokee heritage that touches values deep inside me, connected to the earth, animals, nature and all that is meant to be strong and beautiful in the world. Thank you!

[@evanorske6373]

Sleeping, getting up and moving, eating well & hydrating - SO TRUE how important these basics are!! I finally 'get it' that they're called 'basics' for good reason. ;-) Great talk!

[@MeganZopf]

Richard you are the best!! Thanks to you I am still here. You are about the honest person I have come across. Thank you so much for helping all of us that need it!

[@68goodguy]

Thank you for this video. very accurate and sound advice from my experience. I recently discovered LDN, low dose Naltrexone and my life has become very stable and positive as a result. I think this therapy is a strong weapon to achieve the focus, attitude and peace we need.

[@academicsurvival3603]

Very useful and encouraging. I have found you, Lisa A. Romano, and Eckhart Tolle to be life-changing voices of sanity, wisdom, and (no) self-recovery. Thank you.

[@janeadelaidelennox7193]

I was doing this. Not writing prose but listing feelings as i identified them. One floated on by that really shocked me “desperate to face this kind of thing differently” I like that. That’s not a shameful thing to admit to yourself. That’s the kind of statement that puts control in your hands and makes you imagine action items. That works nicely so far, ty

[@gymnast2890]

I love you and my goal in life is to one day help other people the way you do! RICHARD is a genius people! I've been dealing with these disorders myself AND studying psychology for longer than he has, he's not bound by any "traditional" therapy "rules, thinks outside the proverbial box, and is SUPER intelligent & so well educated in so many perspectives! He's come up with stuff that works if you commit to healing! My inspiration!!!!

[@ningenskiller]

I'm currently in the process of being diagnosed with PTSD and this video is incredibly empowering... it's been years and I'm finally taking the steps I need to get better. I spent years being inebriated day-in and day-out, it's time for change. Thank you for making this video. Just, thank you.

[@MW-wq1ex]

From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

[@c.hunter9069]

You have got this totally down, Richard. Thank you.

[@MHTutorials3D]

Watching this at 4 in the morning...... Was listening to a therapist talking for the first 6 minutes and 14 seconds and then suddenly I started hearing a a man who knows what CPTSD is from personal experience. I took away a lot from this video and thank you for willing to do this video to help others even though it will most likely make it a lot harder for you to keep the monster reptile off your back.

[@tyla8759]

I've had ptsd for 7 years. This year when im 12 i finally realized i had ptsd. I have it because i was tramatized when i was 5 years old.

[@appearce55]

The following items are very white: 1) the wall 2) your t shirt 3) your teeth 4) the white bits in your eyes. Nomsayn.

[@justinevirtue1755]

+Andrew. Please see my other (2 so far) comments. I'm a people pleaser, flight-freezer, fighter sometimes. I would enjoy some validation. Or endure for the sake of learning constructive disagreement. Is there a song here? "People pleaser, flight freezer, fighter sometimes." I'm a one armed, one horned fighting purple people beater...

[@christinan005]

Lol

[@muradtalukdar4401]

This is just what I needed to hear. Thanks Richard.

[@Callummullans]

You have made more sense and been more helpful than 7yrs of councillors

[@pinchofsalt1]

What would be great is some pointers on how to recognise feelings in the body and then how to interpret and name them. I'm rarely able to differentiate between feelings and thoughts. For example, right now I'm experiencing tightness in my upper back, but I wouldn't know how to translate that into what I'm feeling. I can read from a list of feeling words and still not know which one I'm feeling, nor where to look in my body for the evidence of the feelings in order to put a name to it. I'd be grateful for any insights.

[@mimiboucher5096]

I'm no expert but when I feel that and got a massage once I started crying I didn't know why but the upper make holds stress also a indescribable sadness at the time Richard named it for me it was from family of origin trauma but I a teen I'm 50 now it's Been tough I love Richard more than ice cram

[@christianone6611]

Yes!! Massages regularly help so much... Plus most good massage therapists are very aware of feelings and can maybe help you learn while you get a massage. Relaxing the body helps release stored memories and emotions.

[@michaeladrian8067]

I use cooking for therapy and stay away from two legged monsters.

[@sacredashtherapies]

'there is no external locus of control now, be the drill sergeant yourself and tell yourself to go do the drills'...love it !

[@karmadeliveryservice1505]

This is very helpful man I appreciate you taking the time to make these videos for us!

[@valarmorghulis4801]

"You ain't processing SHIT homie!!" lmao...been watching you for years and I love you Richie...keep it up!

[@icicleicicle]

Cool shirt. Very shamanistic

[@angelaspeer6386]

Brilliant. thank you

[@markvalens9636]

I was in the infantry in my country and I definitely corroborate your assessment about cptsd and recruits/officer candidates.

[@nevaehb.4371]

Hello Richard, thank you for this very helpful video! What can I probably do against my sleep-disturbances and my nightmares? I have nightmares almost every night (I've been NC with the Narc since July). I am exercising and trying to take good care of myself though I still have these sleeping issues. I guess I really need the therapy for PTSD (I have an appointment in 2017 but I am hoping I can resolve those problems sooner or at least alleviate them).

[@arthurcurry7688]

Now, in July 2023...I spend my middle aged days "being SINGLE" and WORKING 3 different job's! One of the job's that I have involves standing on a concrete floor all day, in the backroom of a store. Not very fun! I must say. But, I have been employed faithfully at the store for the past 6 years in order to repay all of the debt that the Narcissist incurred in my name. Since 2015, it has been an exhausting up hill struggle trying to financially make ends meet in my household. Now, that my 401k from my "other REAL professional job" has been completely depleted by (the Narcissist) for his "own personal gains", it has left me in a constant state of despair. (Hence, that is the reason why I work 3 different job's!) What I can't seem to wrap my head around is why would any human being in a relationship with another, do such an awful despicable thing to his partner/ wife? How is it possible for a human being to possess such a "Lack of Empathy" & "Compassion" for his own partner/wife? And, having (NO regard) for or just very little regard for his own partner's/ wife's feelings?

[@evesokolsky8281]

What an informative and inspirational video. Learning to be my own drill instructor is exactly what resonates with me. Thank you coach!

[@shannonesanderson]

Love this techique and ur personality thank u for your videos 👌

[@Xboomer1]

Tips and Suggestions are great and all.... but now there is a TECHNIQUE, that can take down the emotions and states causing the PTSD, and help process the Emotions, and take down what is termed.... the Emotional Charge... it works on STRESS..... It works on Shock, Trauma, Emotional Pain, Suffering, Tension, Pressure, all of which gives us Stress. It works on Anxiety, and Hysteria, and Panic, and Panic Attacks... No kidding, I went through ALL OF THIS.... Mine had a physical cause, but the Mental/Emotional component is undeniably real. And you can end up with Depression, which is another Symptom. Search for... A Technique to Deal With PTSD.... It is a STRESS ATTACK...A STRESS EPISODE.... It is a Symptom, and not a disease, sickness, illness, or Disorder.... it is a Syndrome of Declining conditions... there ARE many factors... you can do some physical things. Eat better, don't drink, etc.... all good advice... but in the END???? YOU NEED A TECHNIQUE THAT STOPS IT.... I offer you a technique.... I discovered it in 2009, I use it nearly everyday... because my Grave's Disease and No Thyroid keep me susceptible...but the technique can take down the stress when something starts to happen, and thus it does not last as long.... Check it out... well worth your time.... Bless you....

[@ginaheaton2203]

Lots of times journaling will cause emotional flashbacks for me. It has helped a lot at times but the fear of a flashback keeps from journaling on a regular basis so I comment here to help get my feelings out. Probably not the best practice but it has helped me.

[@LG-nh1of]

If a person has had narc parents that hunted out and went through diaries, it can cause a mistrust of writing down feelings etc. I can do it by burning it after.

[@halli7326]

I was utterly panicking alone and really alls I can pick up on is your cuss words and humor thank u

[@ricky1954elliott]

I am dealing with a older man who uses PTSD to blame all of his problems on including trying to get me to take him places, getting me to be his girlfriend, he blames his dead ex wife for her cheating, repeatedly telling everyone he knows what happened to cause it - military - ex wife, and probably now me ect... He is a nutcase who does not want help, who loves to blame others for his crap, and come into my job, and pander me, and my coworkers, the dude is a chronic liar, and a pervert, broken record -this is bullshit! Thank you for this terrific video.

[@venusianscorp]

Do we always have to describe the feeling with words, because sometimes when I'm sitting with my feelings, some of them feel very complex to put into definite words. Or the word descriptions of feelings don't fit into what I'm feeling that moment. Usually I just sit with it, force myself to sit with it. It feels extremely uncomfortable sometimes like physically uncomfortable. But I force myself. And I'll just be into it without trying to define it. Does that work or does it take away from the objective of validating your own feelings by putting them into words that you can then see in front of you.?

[@gabrielabarsan5168]

Richard, thank you for making me understand ... so many issues ... my CPTSD ... why I could not continue therapy ... Thank you!

[@initnotofit]

I also wanted to mention that you are even looking much better and seem to feel much better when compared to some of your earlier videos. Clearly you are taking your own medicine and I know you have mentioned some of your sources and they are powerful resources. You did get better! You are healing! High five!

[@BadEconomyOfficial]

When you’re the victim, I hate that people will tell you “Well you’re partially to blame for what happened.” When you NEVER did anything enough to harm that other person, you NEVER harmed that person physically, or mentally enough for them “to get back at you.” Then they’ll tell you “What’s the moral of the story? Don’t do that again!” Guys, PTSD is NOT a choice I have it and it’s NOT about morality, chances are it’s NOT your fault and the OTHER person was being immoral themselves.

[@tyrantwatchers6319]

Kosher og kush indica and Tahoe og Hybrid indica dominant strain make me not aware of having PTSD. A beginner with a low tolerance like myself take a half beans size and put in a glass cheap hand pipe and the benefit are a god send. Just work amazing 😭 thank you Jesus. It just keeps you presence and stress free and calm of anything or situations. Hope this help 25years PTSD AND HYPERVENTILATE SUFFERER. P.s. change bad eating habit and eat more greens fruits and vegetables. Spring water is a must.

[@latent1234]

If you do want to talk about your feelings to others in communicating I can recommend to learn the art of nonviolent communication. Personally, I have just started to apply the teachings of the book: - Nonviolent communication The Basics As I Know and Use them by Wayland Myers Ph.D. It was recommended on the blog of a therapist I highly respect. As your boundaries course to learn the skill of boundary setting (if that is even a word, I am sure you catch my drift though), I acknowledge that it will be a lot of hard work to learn the skill of nonviolent communication. However, I believe it will be a long-term investment well worth the effort. Short excerpt from the book: ''We can provide details for the ''How am I doing?'' question by furnishing each other with three simple pieces of information. 1. What event is triggering each peron's desire to talk: What is being seen, sensed, heard, thought, recalled,....? 2. What emotions are stirred within each person: fear, excitement, anger, hurt, curiosity, ....? 3. What personal needs are the source of those emotions: the need for safety, nourishment, information, companionship, understanding, choice,...? We can answer the ''What can be done now to improve my well-being?'' question by providng each other with a fourth piece of information: 4. What specific actions would anyone like to perform, or have another perform, right now: listen, explain, problem solve, agree to act, ....? (pg. 26 & 27 of the book) May be valuable or speak to some. Used versions on Amazon.co.uk go for 9 pounds if you live in the UK (taking shipping costs into account), so you don't have to break the bank either if you like the idea of the book and want to look into it. Thanks for the video Richard.

[@roberttoe4612]

What happens if your sleep is bad sleep like mainly horrific nightmares. Most nights and then it's hard to control emotions and anger or a fight or flight response is triggered by a thought 😯

[@kendrabennett2843]

Thank u, I'm terrified of sabotaging my new relationship. Boyfriend is nice, normal, and there for me. I don't want to snap or put my hands on him. My cptsd, anger, and codependency used to be horrible. I've come a long way. Quit using blow, quit being a stripper, and quit having extreme anger. I'm living with bpd mother again. We got a house to save money. And it's been a living hell. She triggers the shit outta me n my ptsd is horrible again!😛 I do the "my boyfriend's cheating on me" even though he invites me everywhere and seems to be super mr. Vanilla" I caught myself and was like this is NOT him, its the ptsd. I've been with cheaters and he does NONE of the traits. He even told me he leaves his phone open , as he knows I have trust issues!🙊😭 I'm really trying. I need to get friends and a good ass counselor.

[@IriaTHaze]

Dear Richard, everytime you mention giving up/reducing caffeine intake, please be kind enough to add a disclaimer: unless you're suffering from a primary ESD sleep disorder (i. e. Narcolepsy, idiopathic hypersomnia), then take as many drugs as you need. It's absolutely impossible to take control of your life and be in a good state when you're suffering from ESD, so FIRST thing to do is get that fixed, and that means prescription stimulants.

[@svenloach7323]

What do you think of taking herbal remedies for adrenal fatigue, etc. I'm taking something called Adreset, and now I'm no longer having those days where I would have 3-4 naps and be completely shattered. I've been getting exercise all along, and I've switched to decaf and hardly ever drink alcohol. St. John's Wort also works well for serotonin levels. Do you think these herbal remedies are cop outs? Also, could you address the porn epidemic upon us?. Pete Walker in the book you recommend so much, tells us it's an awful coping skill, but I'm afraid its ubiquity and instant access has had extremely dire personal and societal consequences.

[@brotherofthesnake8833]

THANK YOU RICHARD : as always you help give us a much better outlook on life and a knowing there is hope where once thing looked rather quite dismal : I have bought and read some of your books and as you advised am now reading Pete Walkers book on from surviving to thriving : I am now looking forward to a much better life . Thanks again : Mike

[@mikemiller7117]

I found that using psychedelics, LSD, Mushrooms and Mescaline are helping me greatly in overcoming my PTSD, but I am still taking Zoloft and Buspar. I still have bad days, and I still isolate, but my overall anxiety is down. I have had PTSD for some time now, and I do not think a person can ever eliminate it completely,but we can reduce it.

[@nadimares7153]

Where did you get all of this from, Richard? I had a panic attack couple of days ago, but generally I am progressing with your techniques and advices, which feels good and empowering (: Also grieving so many lost years of my life. Thanks. Be well. N

[@SJ-cz9wh]

Richard, what is depression? I've been the target of the dark triad zombie witch doctors since toddler-hood... I'm 52. The last disaster & subsequent narc wound to me has me mostly paralyzed the past 5 yrs. Prior I suffered gravely w depression but was really tough & a fighter

[@joytotheworld6804]

Thanks Richard,pointing out that PTSD happens to a high percentage of cancer survivors, of which I'm one...also have a narc sibling, so there's a double whammy...fitness training and journaling have helped me, also seeking support from those who have expertise in cancer related stress.So many think, once treatment is finished, then everything is back to normal, but no, we have flashbacks, sadness, exhaustion, from fighting to live too.Your videos are spot on, thanks

[@emmaclark1441]

Are you gay??? Shame it's always the gorgeous men

[@natalierullmanward9137]

He's not

[@sharileesprowls6215]

Normally, I like you and your advice a lot. (There's going to be some tongue in cheek humor here so please stay with me.) However, I don't like you at all after this video! How can you sit there and call me on my shit? How dare you tell me to get my ass out of bed, take a shower, go for a walk, and stop the caffeine and nicotine??? I mean, what are you trying to do? Help me? This is shit, Richard. Calling me on my shit is below the belt! I have to go now. I have to get my ass out of this bed and start taking care of myself. I don't like it, but after listening to you for god only knows how long now, I know you're right. Thank you...I think. I'll let you know how thankful I am once I'm feeling better. But right now, I have to tell you that I don't like this one bit! Good day, sir. I wish you well.

[@mariastone6191]

Thank you !! for this message !!! and few previous what listened to before ! Looking forward to buy your BOOK !!!!... I just need to figurate how to buy it !!still not good shopper through internet ... Thank you again for sharing your wisdom !! Still learning.. and it seems to me more I learn more I see how little I know ... but least the information gives me motivation not to stop for seeking for more information ..... even sometimes facing my truth facing my inventory ....what is impossible to do without it ..since I see how it is connected with those flush backs .... and change it the outlook to reprogram myself what I actually see what made me to attract narcissists ...is not always pleasant to go through that ....but without such inventory digging almost into my each cells...? about myselfI feel in my senses now would not work ....least that is as I see it now ..... maybe I will discover different way ..?after reading your book ...? but for now I am starting to be happy even to discover this strategy ...what feels just great .... . and will go from here step by step ... well enough talking about ... going to find how to get that book ... what I was waiting for ,since I saw you excited about it sometimes ago .... when you were finishing it to publish ?? I am very exciting !!! for me and also ,for all of us who needs it so much as I do .... , and because I like to see people happy ....I even you! After all it shows what good spirit and passion for something what you believe in can achieve even among evil minds ... wish you strength to continue !! Thank you for sharing ! To put such reality what you can not touch into real "STUFF" Start to believe that Higher positive Power can get stronger over evilness and bring that love to earth what we all look for ..in wrong places ....hope this make sense ... English is not my first language ... and my PTSD :-) what I actually diagnosed myself when I was listening to your Recover from CPTSD and break the zombie witch doctor's spell.. first time .....could not understand my burst of anxiety and fear anger .... could not even feel what it was ....only it came like uncontrollable reaction like allergic reaction .. for not even time to take epipen ... and after depressed what harm I did with it to people who most of the time did not deserved ... they were only there .... yes.... such moments now what I needs to be able to count least to time to have to take that epipen out ....yes all who are narc.. what they do ... what I feel when they do it will be there .. and it is ok if it will protect me ,, but I feel now I am my own enemy being sensitive to see it all .... and not having tool how to stop it in me that knowledge not to harm me .... yes..it still gets me even when I start to see light with the knowledge that it must be way to fight that allergy to narc different way ... than to know who they are and who they are capable to do tha it does not turn into such violent reaction because I know diagnosis but did not have medicine to take symptoms away ..and hopefully eventually disease away too ... I think I over stayed here with my sharing .... if you got so far to read all this I appreciate .... mainly what I wanted was to thank you for what I got from your information till today .... it is already more than I ever thought I will in those days when I felt so lost nd not belonging .... .still .lot of work to do on me but differently direction than to learn to please that empty well of narc.... what is like drying brook ...faster than I had time to gather strength to have drink from it ... ... ..listening to your information and see you same time growing learning even how to present Mr Vaknin positive way... very realistically .....the HOPE for better starts to sparkle in me again ...... It all make so much sense and difference to me now ... Thank you !Maria

[@kimberlyyoung9964]

It's never easy to tell friends, family or people you feel like you should be able to speak of things that the narc. does to you, because they don't understand......and they therefore make you feel ashamed for putting up with a narc......they will say things like, what to hell are you hanging with him or her for? They will be rate you, and make you feel worse.. Always seek a therapist that has dealt with the narc. Otherwise, healing on your own is very difficult. All these videos, from Richard and others, are very helpful and encouraging. Thanks Richard..... appreciate your help

[@cherchelafemme8814]

Do you have any more videos on this topic?

[@hbunnyo]

I have PTSD from being falsely imprisoned. For 39 days I was in fight mode and I constantly forget how it affects me till I start talking about it then I breakdown like right now. I really didn't expect it. I have psychology appointments in over a month but I need to speak about it. Either way I don't find much help for people in my situation but always have to try apply tips for veterans to myself. Which seems ridiculous to me cause I can't equate what happened to me to that. All I know is I felt threatened 24/7 for 39 days and in-between several moments where my life was put in danger. The worst was when I figured if I was attacked all I could do was take one down before they got me but luckily the guards separated everybody in time. Other times I was physically attacked and had to defend myself. I'm not someone who looks for trouble or gets in to fights but it's forced me to be something else. I want to change. It's been 4 years of smoking weed and trying to forget about it all. Money problems because of it everything when I was smoking about 6g a day and that was when I was taking it easy. I have always been very resilient which I am no longer. I always hated being told what to do but now it's magnified. I hate being accused of what I've not done even to the smallest level I will explode on top of all the prison related triggers. I can barely understand what triggers me sometimes it seems like nothing. Thank you for the video for helping me realise that it's not necessarily permanent. For a few coping techniques and good to know that the exercise I've taken up and the healthy diet should help towards managing my symptoms. But fuck do I ever need to talk about what happened to me. Cause I haven't.

[@starseedindigo2043]

You are an amazing human being I've seen some of your videos you say it as it is. I've seen your courses aswell but don't know where to start any advice would be great. I have major anxiety it effects my energy so much I barely go outside also have PTSD but it's definitely complex I would put myself at a 10 please if you have time to reply I would greatly appreciate it.

[@yankalu2000]

Thank you so much for the video and explaining what the boundaries mean. As everyone say, you need to keep your boundaries, you need to say no to people, however, no one really explains what, when exactly and how. I was not learn to recognize it. I am almost 40 and was freaking clueless about it. Will check out your course. Thank you.

[@jennas.9063]

This is extremely helpful and informative even for people that may not have PTSD or CPTSD but depression or anxiety and even people struggling with weight loss and trying to stop emotional eating. It explains what happens when you eat or drink bad things and how it affects your mood which was very good to know. But the best part is how Richard is very serious in describing how you have to fight with yourself to stay on track. Personally that's been the #1 problem for me is the fight with myself. I liked that he explained alcohol and bad foods sending you back into emotional flashbacks. I get that really bad with alcohol and I hate it. I like that he is trying to teach you how to stop punishing yourself and take care of yourself. This was awesome I hope to see more videos like this.

[@The-kw1wm]

Does this applity to Complex ptsd (Cptsd) as well? Because in pete Walkers book “cptsd - from surviving to thriving“ it is said that people with cptsd should first deal with the toxic inner critic, before addressing emotions, because it might spoil the attempts to compassipnately heal the emotional trauma. I am just now starting to address the critic, although i feel it got better already through getting in touch with the feelings. And I feel I am making some real progress with my Cptsd, there is definitely a release, although as said I habent really intentionally dealt with the critic for the most part of my journey. Thanks to anyone who has an intelligent reply for this.

[@Trobynski]

Question: what should I do, having gone no contact... Moved to another city... For 10 years healing and then BOOM they managed to find me and the abuse started again from my fathers will. How do I go no contact when they now know where I live 😟

[@charmainegmills342]

Great videos. What happens when these people are alcoholics. My x was a medical GP. I have just told him when he asked why I left him, he stayed away decided to answer the question himself telling me it was the people of the village. I rang him back and told him I left you because you are a nacrc/psychopath . He then hung up

[@dorfriedman9115]

Thank you so much. After spending a year and a half not working and giving it away to PTSD i came back to a high position in a workplace but boss raising voice on me on close door is taking out all the wind from my sails. even though I do great work and everyone is pleased i found myself in very hard nights after those yellings. I could not continue like this anymore and hat to complain to the general manager. He did not really helped but my boss found out and things become very hostile. I am 4 monthes there now but the days I found my self closed in the bathroom crying after a yell is not good. I had to gain some peace and I notified about my PTSD in hope this will have the boss start acting more gently and not raising the voice after all things else failed to work. I hope this will not take a negative turn on me. But hey I am already in very bad mental shape because of the current state so what can I lose The worse case I will change jobs but i like the people I hope things will be better from now on. Thanks for the support video It really helped after today. Love from Israel Dor

[@1laraevan]

Could it be by the practice of mindfulness you have become a little bit enlightened? And that it partly explains your recovery. You have "those eyes" especially in recent videos. It's the understanding that your sense of self comes and goes, and the knowledge it's a unique process of thought and feeling tangled up together, not a thing. Buddists think the process burns off demons. Sam V has the eyes too, but losing his developing sense of self so young and under such trauma may have lead to enlightenment's evil twin.

[@Simple_Mind11369]

No.You are spot on.i have suffered with Ptsd for 20yrs. it was not from combat but from a marriage /divorce/custody battle. The keys to coping are making sure you are rested and fed. thank you for your videos.

[@megannharris1032]

Excellent stuff. You have laid it out for us. No therapist or coach I have ever had so far was anywhere near as qualified as you. Thank you for all the clarity that is arising for me as a result of watching progressively more of your videos. Namaste I have traveled so far But I was living on fumes I see the destruction now Good Lord a life in ruins But no one can steal The experiences from me Who I am becoming And what I can see For those of us who are living to tell Could we be on our way out of hell? All the tears And the souvenirs of a lifetime of smoke and mirrors

[@valsptsd814]

Apparently, I watched this before,as I "liked" this before today's viewing. I still like it.

[@francescamiddleton5884]

The facts are that so many people watch this because they've been abused and lived through it. And it so shocking how many of us actually need to hear this basic-life-doing stuff, and how we have fought to get an everyday life. I congratulate every single one of us. It's incredible how other people have no idea.

[@Apkans]

Yeah, it's important to note that with ptsd, or cptsd, you're combatting stress hormones, not depressive thoughts or a cognitive ailment. Positive thoughts help, but they will lose against the stress hormones programming you to look out of for potential danger, logically seeking out the negative in everything. (you simply can't help them if you're in prolonged fight or flight) The only cure is getting your body out of the fight or flight. Breathing excersizes are a great first step, seeing hyperventilation is common when your body is in this mode.

[@breakfastclub75]

I know I’m late to this, but alcohol totally can leave awful long lasting effects. I don’t know the exact science but it messes up your receptors for a long time after you quit. You can get post acute withdrawals. It’s terrible for those of us with ptsd it c-ptsd.

[@joanbaczek2575]

i have to force myself to eat and drink, so crazy cuz im not anorexic, i don't want to be skinny, i have some how associated food with misery. so i have to treat myself like a kid challenging myself to eat atleast 1600 calories a day and keep score like im earning points. im 5ft a healthy minimum weight for me is 105, i went down to 94 my face is hideous scary at that wieght. the only time i could over come my hatred of food was when the narc approved of me--that pattern persisted through 2 separate narcissistic relationships.during verbal attacks and crazy accusations by the first narc, and during silent treatments and false accusations i couldn't eat. now after final discard from my most current narc -a forever silent treatment i had to turn my relationship with food into a game of points--hopefully over time i will have a better relationship with food. my narc also always accused me of affairs when none of my behavior or actions would warrant that. didn't matter what i said, or how loud i said no i was getting food for you, or at work. he always claimed ptsd. but how do i know if he had ptsd or if he was a lieing narc.

[@guywhomighthaveaspergersne5723]

Do you think that it is possible that someone can get out of the military, not have major PTSD but just a minor form of it, but he doesn't get help for it cause he was raised to not ask for help and solve all of his problems on his own, but after years of not getting treatment for it and possible having asperger's or OCD at the same time or before getting in the military but it went undiagnosed, that he can link his PTSD problems to his military experience but it will be hard to do because he didn't get it diagnosed right when he got out but just lived with it for years without getting help? Wow, that's quite a run-on sentence.

[@adelinas.7335]

Gawd. I woke up on the wrong side of the bed today. I decided to give this video a try. It hit me hard but in a good way. I often have to take in your videos in small doses, walk away then come back for more. However, I am absorbing all of it. Goodness knows nothing else I’ve tried has worked. And I’m tried of living in a dysfunctional way. I’m going to give it a try.