how to DETACH and become truly unbothered

[@blackcatt10]

Detachment means realizing that any outcome is actually the best outcome… cause everything happens for our highest good

[@spidermuffin1596]

Sometimes you don’t even like the person, you just like that you see yourself within them. Sometimes I look back at my old relationships where I thought my exes were funny but I was the one making most of the jokes and so on. The point is that I didn’t see the value in myself so I presented it through other people through my beliefs. 95% of my relationships were bc I was lonely and looking for companionship in a man that wasn’t good for me.

[@leilaaslan7022]

omg this was so eye opening for me. thank u for sharing❤️

[@spidermuffin1596]

@@leilaaslan7022 I’m glad it helped hun. You’re worth more than you know. 🖤🖤

[@OffCremoso]

Wait this is actually true, thanks for sharing this, it's actually like a big revelation

[@zaido7725]

I saw too many red flags when I was dating her. Somehow I was emotionally attached to her, and when I found out she started seeing someone new. I felt betrayed. I don't know why I'm feeling like this

[@spidermuffin1596]

@@zaido7725 I apologize for the late reply but it’s good to bounce thoughts off of someone if you can’t understand them. Feel free to reach out to me if you’d like to talk or find a friend. sometimes just expression how you feel can bring relief and help you come to your own conclusions about how you feel. Stay safe.

[@incognito6751]

The "obsessing over people" part was so real. If only this video existed last year when I had a crush someone who was emotionally unavailable. You're such a diva.

[@Xelena_kuru]

2 days ago I asked the universe to make my life better and remove toxic people from my life… yesterday, I had a big fight with my friends and found out they never cared about me, and today I get found this! I’m glad I’m leaving my old life that made me sad :)

[@pihlanieminen2744]

How are you now

[@Xelena_kuru]

@@pihlanieminen2744 better lol

[@magatte6454]

Asked God the exact same thing exact same thing happened and today I still struggle with the grief but I’m better off without them

[@godstallchild7964]

@@magatte6454me too man. My own best friend ended up ghosting me but it’s for the best. I’m closer to coming back to myself and that’s all that matters

[@meow1397]

This is crazy but I asked the universe/God either today or yesterday(I have a bad memory)to take the people out of my life that are fake or toxic, and guess what, I found out today that a girl that I considered my best friend lied to me😭😭😭😭😭

[@ChildofGod98765]

Thank you. I need this today. My sisters look down on me for struggling as a single mom. It hurts my heart. Jesus hear my prayers. As a single mother. I’m still struggling financially trying to provide the basics for my two sons. Both are are special needs. Every month is a struggle not to end up on the streets. Father give me strength, because I’m so tired of struggling. I’m ready to give up but with your help Father God I can move mountains. Jesus guide me.💕

[@REINVENTION_7]

Sending you so much love and light. You are doing great. I know it. Single mother bashing is honestly one of the most shocking things I experienced when I left the father of my son. And my sister - childless - was one of the worst!!! F*ck them. Let them go if you need. I did and it was the best thing I ever did! Stay strong. God is with you ❤❤❤❤

[@annielai9343]

my mom is a single mom to a son with special needs as well (my younger brother). thank you so much for everything you do. it is one of the most thankless jobs and one of the hardest. sending you so much love from my corner of the internet 💜✨

[@lightzout7239]

I'm proud of you for being there for your sons, God won't give you a problem you can't handle, life is a test. God bless you little sister and keep your head up

[@godsway8501]

Keep going mama you are strong!!! I affirm you will be recieve a Financial breakthrough in a month from now. Love you and be Couragous for yourself and your little Ones. 🪬✨

[@Foodthoughtsandcrime]

Single mom here ✋🏻I did a video on this and some people were very kind and generous and others bashed me hard for it. I say, we can’t always navigate our future despite how hard we try. Life happens. So keep pushing forward. My BEST advice is to try and never let your children feel or see your stress no matter how hard. They will notice and it places a burden on them. I didn’t know this until my kids were grown and said they could see how hard I tried and how hard it was. Second, Know what you are doing is hard. It’s so hard. So give yourself all the credit. It’s ok to feel sad. It’s ok to feel mad. It’s ok to feel like this is so unfair, it is. But you keep going and give yourself credit because a lot of people couldn’t do it. You’re a rockstar Mama! 🌟

[@sashac9526]

Needed this. I'm in a healthy relationship but I need validation all the time and i realised i lost myself for a bit. I love my boyfriend so much but I didn't realize how attached I got to the point where he became more important than myself. The crazy part is he's exactly the mysterious private person, he has learnt to detach himself from things and he has constantly been trying to teach me that too and I think this is my wake up call

[@lauragg9121]

I understand you 100% i met a boy like him, love him to the bone❤ I would say that this behaviour comes from past insecurites, and i understand, but for clousre (and personal experience) i would say to go back to your roots, pursue your hobbies, try something new on your own, take yourself on a date, test if you still like the same movies, the same food, the same music... If it does, awesome, and if not then awesome too!!! But still try new things by yourself, if he really loves you and its mature, he'll understand and even cheer you up!!!!

[@sashac9526]

​@@lauragg9121thank you for replying to this! yes, I've been playing games, reading books again, watching my favourite crime documentaries and taking time out for myself and he's so so so supportive and so mature. he gives me all the space and encourages me to find myself more!

[@theluckylibrans6516]

That's so empowering, we should all surround ourselves with people who help you grow not drag you down. I am 100% sure he loves you and at the same time he knows his worth and he wants the same for you. As a teen, thiss is something I look up to when i grow up I wanna be around people who help me grow as well.

[@Mishapindisguise]

Girl just spitted some real bars. So much truth in one video

[@malik8918]

The flowers don’t worry about being perfect, they just turn to the light -Dawn Fm

[@natashanaples]

Girl u heard my cries

[@Fabizjjs]

“You don’t need to force what comes to you unnaturally” THIS!

[@MichyyL73]

okay now i need to rewatch this every morning

[@yandojo]

i just spent the last 5 hours crying over this, so to see this video released right when i found your channel and hoping you had a video like this?!? crazy. thank you so much.

[@wantenglish]

Omg last times ive been obsessed with my goals and feel upset bcs i havent got them yet,this video is a sign

[@sakik3661]

Mae, you are literally saving my life. Really. I've been binge watching your videos and learning from you. Thank you so much. Thank you. Much love. btw, "Suzuki" is a Japanese name😊(I'm from Japan)

[@lennardnicht1929]

going through a break up right now. coming back every week to let mae wash my brain :3 thank you for your content

[@REINVENTION_7]

Sometimes you're pushed so far....the f&cks you once gave just run out. I think that's what happening to me. Awakening is like heaven and hell at the same time. But I guess that's the responsibility of seeing the truth of ourselves and what we come from. Thanks Mae x ❤

[@xdlr22]

“No tears left to cry” type energy fr

[@REINVENTION_7]

@xdlr22 I'm there. If I cry - it's like a slightly leaky tap - there's nothing left ❤️ Need to watch The Notebook or something 🤭

[@cherkhawa]

I love you! Seriously! I am a house wife and full time mom. I have absolute admiration for a young lady like you who has such intelligence and insight of life❤. Thank you for enlightening me! I am so going to teaching my son all those values you teach in your video.

[@thaismendes9]

why your timing is so good 😭😭 you always post about something i've been struggling with

[@alwayslovin]

I was really stressing these last few days. I always remind myself to not stress over things I can't control but my best friend has created an obvious bridge between us and kept saying everything was fine. It was eating at me so much that it ruined my day completely. I feel so much better. Thank you

[@j4rph]

I listened to a lot of podcasts but I felt like the things you said touched me more than anyone else. Thank you!

[@mesmerizimery]

this appeared on my recommendations at the right moment after asking for help to the universe. I am truly grateful for the universe who always has my back.

[@KallMehRishu]

I kid you not I was js getting finished with a vid bout detachment and then I saw this notification, SIGNSSS 😌

[@fernandaoropeza4500]

I had to take a step back from my friend who is super avoidant and bitter and super depressed. There was only so much I could do for her and I felt bad for leaving her at a bad time but she’s been acting very weird and strange and it’s been an uncomfortable relationship so I had to let her go until she feels she’s ready to build a healthy connection again. Thank you for this video

[@fruitlover99xx]

good choice. it is not your responsibility to help friends like that. it’s your responsibility to show support but it is not your task to try and make them better. if they want to get better they would actually take your advice

[@user-jc8qv1dv7f]

Same

[@elly4914]

The way I literally needed to hear this today. The universe works in mysterious ways omg

[@GenesisNkechi]

i lost my aunt a week ago to cancer, i know i have NO control in bringing her back to life. I have to accept it that she is gone:(

[@maryum7839]

hope ure doing okay take ur time to grieve don’t bottle it up it’ll hurt less w time so take care

[@nadznadznado]

i love your channel, you’ve been helping me so much

[@syrenhaze4579]

i fell asleep thinking of you and woke up thinking of your advice. thank you for helping me, i am watching ur videos for guidance and you’re truly helping a lot

[@Aaishakapoor]

❤Detachment is not about becoming bitter or avoiding people or burning every single bridge. ❤True detachment is Focus on whats important for you and stop obsessive over things that donot care about you. ❤Remove expectations. Be outcome independent. ❤You are the only person who is not going to leave you one day ❤don't be too attached to something that your ego and self worth depends on it. ♥️Rejection is always redirection to something that's better for me. ❤Mistakes that other people make is not your fault. Not my money, not my circus. ❤Dont care what anyone thinks about you! Be responsive, not reactive. ❤A healthy level of emotional detachment is all about setting boundaries that respect yourself and your own needs. ❤Holding onto pain and choosing to stay angry and choosing attachment will only prolong your suffering. So LET GO & DETACH. Too much avoidance turns into self abandonment which leads to bitterness. No one wants to deal with that which leads to feeling broken, loney, angry, sad and abandoned

[@mailbox-k6y]

The lighting and backgroud of the video is really nice! Love it!

[@blueyheartz]

this video.. took me on a wave of emotions. at first I couldn’t help but to disagree with beginning points and feel off, even offended by some things until she further explained it. I realized, I have no idea how to be indifferent. I thought the point of what I was hearing was to not emotionally indulge with others and close yourself off.. but that wasn’t it at all. I have more to learn about this. Great video 😭

[@davidchau7399]

Hi Mae, you make the world a better place by sharing all your wisdom on love and self actualisation. I have been watching your videos everyday and your messages resonate with me. Peace ❤

[@linguti0288]

Love this! I have been wanting to start meditating but keep pushing it aside. Now I know I need to start. Thank you for the inspiration.

[@purplecactus4299]

Queen, you literally explained everything that’s been going on in my life in the past few months. I felt so called-out by this video and your advice makes me feel like there’s gonna be a way out of this mess. Thank you for posting this.

[@baddiesubs9]

I needed this so much mae you save my life 😭😭🙏

[@KdamSamout]

Thank you , i sincerely needed this . Thank you highly appreciated i have gone through this thing and it hurts me i have never felt like this . ❤❤

[@carolinebarbosa6312]

Thank you for the advice Alice, they taught me things I had never realized in relation to my emotional attachment to people.❤

[@annmarie6374]

This came at the perfect time thank you

[@theluckylibrans6516]

As a teen, I needed this alot. I cry alot and very easily and tbh I have been feeling left out since forever (I often feel "replaceable". Just today I was crying about this and my mother told me to accept the fact that i am being left out and let go of it. Stop chasing people to be my friends and when I stop chasing people who are not for my highest good I will find people who actually care about.Everyting happens for a reason. Annd i found this video today on my fyp, I think its a sign to not let people control me and my feeling and thoughts. What is for u will come naturally you won't have to chase it. Ty alot for this.

[@myholylf]

Real talk right here! Your channel is making this platform a lot better in many positive ways.

[@juliabble]

this is a wake up call that i never knew i needed

[@vslannapurna]

Well this is what I need right now

[@jacobponce25]

Damn….this video really helped me today. I’ve been learning more about myself and anxious attachment style. This really calmed me down and I’m working on myself. Someone recently walked out of my life and I’m doing what I can to keep looking forward and being okay solo. Thanks for this.

[@scifiwasabii]

13:42 omg me and always being interested romantically in men who are emotionally unavailable or unstable 😩

[@gh-sb1dy]

when mae said if you think your to fat or short then give that line another snort i was like , ma is keepin it reel and then some cheese on top. this was the most eye opening video ever . i told my sisyter my granma ma my baby daddy my baby daddys gf to all watch it

[@tammysueher7533]

Yes! The Universe will give you what you can handle-so as you say... Embrace it~

[@ghettogov6161]

You can really feel your confidence and motivation its very reassuring

[@Francisco-g3q2l]

I know this channel caters to woman. But there’s a lot of great gems that applys to everyone

[@EmpressCrow]

My interpretation would to be like water with everything in life. Water is naturally gonna go in the path of least resistance (let's consider this our true essence or heart). When a rock gets in the way even if it creates a splash the water keeps going. The water doesn't become this amplified personality that gets upset at the rock it just flows, it doesn't become preoccupied with the rock, but where it needs to go. Water can not be destroyed or penetrated but it is extremely flexible, gentle and serene, yet powerful. Be like water.

[@evai.3816]

Perfect timing

[@tetsurooykuroo]

i was at my first week at college as a freshman and a newly found friend group of mine is actually draining me even though they seem good people. they just have a different energy and i’m starting to hate college because of them. turns out i was just attached at the idea of me being scared of being alone but in reality, i can be alone and be peaceful. this video helped me just for a span of 22 minutes. you are insane! you literally changed me just after watching this video. i never felt this eased. i’ll come back here after i finished college because this video will be my core for surviving college

[@AngelinaCabral-hz5om]

I was so close of detachment, i was so close of ghosting him and closing all his access to me. I give all my time and cares for him yet he still choose to drown to his feelings and never thinking of me. Yet i feel back to zero because of my worries to his place right now. My town is currently suffering to a typhoon and that what makes me to open my doors for him as worries fills my heart. But after this, I'm going to detach and leave him again.

[@morheimtv5666]

Use the challenges of life, specially the pain other people put you through, to improve yourself. That is my motto. Your life is literally designed to show you exactly what your emotional pain is and that you need to heal it. Challenges and life circumstances are a blessing disguised as nightmares.

[@lifewithlialotus]

Who else felt like they needed to see this video, when they watched it? 🤍

[@AmandeepKaur-qv5xu]

You literally give baddie vibes😩✨

[@IsaiahGraham2007]

I don't want to be bitter my lovely Mae❤️🥰 i got to get better and I'm a senior and you know, high school is the chilling school you know what I'm saying, so i got to get it together like the young lady told me on the video i watch last night, i need to raise my hand and tell the teacher the i don't know the answer or can you read the question again because i forgot that i did last year, and i will do my best as i can🙏🏾❤️ and I'm a special person, it doesn't mean I'm special so yes, i need to learn to use the emotions like you said and i will stay positive and focus on positive thoughts, and i will stay happy, in 2022 at 10th grade i have bad days back then and 11th grade i have a little bit of bad days as a senior i will do my best🙏🏾❤️ so yes, have a bless day🤍

[@mysti_calmagicnyy29246]

im an oncoming senior tooo you got thiss

[@IsaiahGraham2007]

@mysti_calmagicnyy29246 yes ma'am🥰❤️

[@IsaiahGraham2007]

Yes

[@Love_Sash]

Omg I needed this

[@carolinlovelifecoach]

Starting is more powerful than stopping. Change into something else, and let that draw you torwards a lovely future.

[@zhuang308]

Thank you so much Mae, thank you for creating this beautiful community❤. (One small thing the speech speed is a bit quick) but the content is absolutely amazing ❤❤❤

[@filippocamilli8066]

Yesterday, I found out that the person that I considered one of my best friends, the person that I fell in love with but that unfortunately didn’t love me back, had been in a relationship for months, without telling me. She knew I was in love, we talked every single day from November to July, but then she disappeared. I’ve tried to get back to her a few times, without much result, other than a few convos. Turns out, she had been dating a guy for a few months and never told me. I feel devastated. I wasted almost 9 months behind a person that I felt I knew, but that actually just threw a lot of bullshit in my eyes and nothing more. I feel betrayed, I’ve never seen such selfishness in someone, knowing for sure that she’s never gonna confront me about it, she doesn’t know that I know and she probably couldn’t care less about, so essentially, I’m never gonna hear from her again. Sometimes I envy people with that level of selfishness, the ability to treat people like shit and not care. I wanna stop obsessing over things I can’t control, I wanna be better and just flip off whatever tries to hurt me. Fuck, I really needed to vent. 😂 Things will be better, I hope.

[@AstorJuno]

The subject of control really spoke to me because I struggle with finding my self worth through my partner. I also have a hard time with attachment and obsession, so this was really insightful and helpful thank you :)

[@Cocomii04]

gurlll i loved every second of it . thanks a bunchhhhhhh

[@sephnyssa90]

I love your videos! I watch them all the time; I would request you do a bullet list summary, I lose the plot when they're longer and the info doesn't absorb as well.

[@valerienova4087]

Who are you, woman!? Where did you come from!? You’re so articulate and so so helpful. A lot of us need to hear these exact words. Your delivery of these words is just top notch. Thank you thank you thank you!

[@ggfatale351]

Gurl. I Love You. Thank You for your videos. 🌈🌈🌈💜💜💜🌈🌈🌈

[@grownupgoth]

So Glad I found your channel! Saving this to refresh my mindset back to whats important. Thanks for taking the time to make the video.

[@Viktor-ej9ss]

This video came in perfect timing, I'm having my spiritual awakening ❤ fighting for my true destiny.

[@haleylippard2984]

Needed this thank u!!

[@edwingaray3960]

Thank you for the videos, it helped me with my English

[@_kikizaman_]

Could you do a longer and more in depth video on this topic? This video was so good, it’s the best video about detachment that I’ve found on KZbin yet. Your whole channel is a gem, but emotional detachment (specifically romantic emotional detachment) is something I’m really struggling with right now, it’s tearing me apart. If you have any more advice to give about the topic, I’d love to hear it🖤🎀

[@the.komoru]

You’re gorgeous, and I love your energy and mindset. 🤍🖤

[@charmedprince]

That pearl 🦪 analogy is so bomb 💣💥

[@XxcelestialgirlxX]

I think there's a good balance between expectations and detachment. You should have the mindset of: "It's normal for good experiences to happen to me so I expect it" But ALSO "If it doesn't work out with this thing, there is always another thing". Believing in both of those things at once allows for normalization of blessings but also not holding onto one outcome

[@480purgatory]

"Rejection is always redirection into something else." Oof, what a bar. I'm facing that, and I can quite honestly say I'm hurt rn, like a wounded puppy. But I understand why it hits so hard and why it lingers. Being rejected triggers an intense response in me because it affirms (AND perpetuates) a negative self-esteem belief: "MY EXISTENCE IS ERRONEOUS" & "I'M SO UNDESIRABLE". The idea was "given unto me" by my parent (and others). This trauma has manifested itself socially*, so now as an adult I have a full-blown complex about it (rejection = abandonment). In other words, I do not take it well. What lingers is the "pain" from the emotional damage of it all, that hurt clings to me. It comes in waves throughout the day and I begin to feel cornered by this frantic feeling of embarrassment and shame. Looking to fix myself to "make it better" to please who I displeased, as if that will change anything at all. I cannot handle how my reality has shifted, wondering "how?" & "why?". Replaying it all to find where I went wrong, punishing myself. I feel like a fucking a child... I then recede inward, only to discover my ego bruised and my sense of self mangled. It's a trauma response. Being rejected sucks and it's sad, but I didn't want it tainting my vibe anymore. That's why I looked for you. I want to let the feelings run its course, not ruminate, and move tf on. The pain is just so incessant and piercing, probably bc it's fresh and what I explained above. Anyway, I LOVE WHAT YOU SAID. THAT'S WHAT I WANT TO TAKE IN. THANK YOU!

[@sarahweichel546]

Exactly what I needed, wow❤ Thank you, Mae🎉

[@HangryPossums]

needed to hear this today, thank you!

[@jaysony8587]

Thanks for this, bestie. Much love.

[@erikamagallanes8181]

Thanks Mae, I appreciate this. 💚

[@katewickham9438]

This is such a wonderful video. Wow, thank you!!

[@juejuepaing6985]

Your talk is so powerful

[@angelscry_2886]

I like the pearl in hand metaphor Mae!

[@charmedprince]

i'll blame you when one of these days, am gonna become so super confident

[@isobelcorby2106]

i love this girl sm ❤

[@hajinot]

this healed me !

[@itzjuleeann]

Thank you! I needed to hear this ❤

[@pollymackay2023]

I needed this Thankyou 😊

[@jenniferpleitez461]

Thank you so much the jealousy in my new relationship has kicked my ass

[@Justonelife21]

Thanks! This helped me tons ❤

[@148shraddhagawai5]

Great video sister!! Thank you so much!! What lip gloss are you wearing??

[@myintmyateaindary9053]

Thank you so much! Thats what i need right now💗

[@manishachoudhuri]

I needed to hear that.❤

[@mizubiart6230]

I really needed this. Thank you :)

[@juejuepaing6985]

I have to subscribe you. This video is the best thing happened to me this week

[@AWEdio]

My current problem, Citalopram. It has created a ton of obesssions on top of my natural ability to obsess and detatchment is exceptionally difficult. I stopped taking it six months ago, but it is still echoing. It's also heightened the ADHD and depression. I should never have taken it. I hate SSRIs now.

[@darahm777]

I love you Mae!

[@MaiaMoussa]

Thanks this video came at the correct moment... A new subscriber...

[@Elvioso]

This was very informative and interesting. I enjoyed and appreciated the kind and encouraging words. I needed it

[@hmmemz1654]

Thank you for this video ❤️

[@deadpandabin88]

This is so powerful. Thank you ❤

[@Centimilli]

🥰 I looooove this girl.."woman"

[@iamachubbybunny]

Wow thank you so so much . Thank you ❤