How to Diffuse a Difficult Situation - in Just Five Words

[@jacquief6049]

I like this. Its short and Chris gives an example which instantly makes you realise the point straight away. What else could it mean? is a way of stopping yourself from imagining why something is happening and fastening onto just one explanation. It gives you a pause to let other possibilities in, which would mean that you wouldn't get so wound up when faced with an annoying situation. Helpful I thought!

[@strawberryme08]

“What else could this mean” is a tool of empathy. I like it

[@barrybjerke9353]

..it's not very empathetic when me and my frustrated big Norwegian mouth says it, adding an impromptu word...or seven, example :" just what in the hell else could this possibly mean" ..and alot of these, '!!?!!??!!!!!'

[@pyrofful]

"You have a cavity and need to lay off the candy and soda" " what else could this mean?" lol. Good point though really

[@starryskiesstarrynights4515]

I have a friend who's an alcoholic. No judgement,I was one too. But when he's argumentative and difficult,I need to remember that it's really difficult to be in withdrawal, and I need to have empathy.This was a great reminder that we need to have empathy for others

[@dougfredricks2017]

😂 My Uncle would say... "A drunk man's words are a Sober person's thoughts."

[@barrybjerke9353]

..you were one huh...good work and keep it up 👍 but asking you to think on that little bit.. you got this👍

[@remyd8767]

I apply this all the time when I'm driving behind a very slow car.

[@miller5170]

😂

[@markrene6108]

I'm the person driving slowly & l also think 'What else does this mean? Then someone behind me and you drives past & tells me exactly what he means 🖕🤨

[@barrybjerke9353]

.. I'm in the car in front of you, whom your tailgating, now we're both thinking "what else could this mean"

[@barrybjerke9353]

​@@markrene6108exactly 👍

[@leoaxitorishan7685]

7yrs in, and my account is gone but still I am watching this video to remind myself.

[@markrene6108]

Saying 'What does this mean' gives you a moment to catch yourself & to breath before anger or another emotion takes over. The emotion will dissipate if you look inside yourself for the answer to that question. Everything in reality arises from the self, awareness. Be a Seer 👀 of truth & knowledge. We take the external as truth from a ego view that is an illusion. If we want to be in the presence of Divinity open the gift, the Present & live mainly there. If we live in the Present the illusion will fall away & you will be in the presence of God.

[@SeasonalParadise]

What Else Coudl This Mean? Sounds simple but this is an amazing debiasing tool. Thanks so much.

[@algobo]

Simple and true!

[@JenniferDigiovanni-i8m]

This video helped me understand a difficult topic!

[@KelliLane-m2x]

You make even the toughest topics feel easy.

[@westfallonline]

TYVM

[@terrencemilton5088]

Good book. I have it

[@amberc8368]

This is great!

[@ThomasSmith-d2y]

You always make complicated topics feel simple!

[@westfallonline]

Thanks for your comment - much appreciated

[@DarthTwilight]

of course this doesn't work with people who have no ability for empathy. my landlord is threatening to drive up my rent because my girlfriend took a shower at my place. he said he was tired of her coming over, and he was just going to raise my rent in anticipation of higher utilities that are supposedly included. I tried to explain the situation, and he flat out told me he doesn't care nor does he have time to care about anybody but himself. he excused himself about 20 times over for being an asshole, and I had to close the door on him to keep from bashing his face in with a baseball bat.

[@westfallonline]

That’s a rough situation, for sure

[@Jkidd752]

What state do you live in that he has a say over how you conduct yourself or who you have over at a place that you pay for? If it’s not damaging property, what’s the problem with taking one extra shower whether that be you or someone else it’s not like she lives there

[@thefin4lb0ss]

Great advice. I'll keep it in mind you never know

[@jongouchenouer2163]

Wonder if this could help me being a CO

[@westfallonline]

These five words can help you in a lot of situations. Because the five words point towards curiosity, and looking for possibility Curiosity, not confrontation - it's a solid approach for anyone in any career.

[@TroyChristensen-o5y]

This video helped me understand a difficult topic better!

[@brandie_patreece]

Thanks.

[@MrSuperbluesky]

Thank you

[@lashima8593]

Good advice

[@tinxe6821]

I can imagine accidentally rear ending someone and they coming out screaming at me and me just being like sh sh sh.... what else could this mean?...

[@westfallonline]

TheTinXe 😳😊

[@remyd8767]

Let your imagination run wild.

[@carryjgful]

Sounds great but is he saying more to use as a thought process for ourselves dealing with difficult, emotionally charged or irrational pple OR to say it to them? Because ive recently been dealing with an illogical communuicator who also dsnt like my more educated way of speaking (yeh forgive me for liking words & knowing the meanings-🙃) AND this person lashes out when a qurstion is asked for topic clarification & accuses me of assuming something else or that im doubting them. I speak this way with everyone even strangers so i dont get what the issue is. Its family & i love this person & its disheartening and defeating when simple talks go south so fast & then trying to straighten it out I get accused of "arguing" or wanting to escalate it. Help!!

[@westfallonline]

The question is something for you to consider. If you share it with someone else, you've got to consider the timing. If they are lashing out at you, or accusing you of something, they won't be able to hear the question or really see new possibilities. Best to wait out the storm and see if you can approach the situation at another time. LMK if you want to talk this through in a coaching conversation (if that is an investment that would be of service to you). My calendar is on my website, westfallonline.com

[@AliAbdullah-oi3wc]

I'm going to try this

[@markrene6108]

Me to most likely repeatedly, alcoholic drug addicts in units around the estate forget after 3 seconds what anything means including #:@$?!# which they say to me. But I'll keep asking 'What does this mean', ld like a answer, but not from the neighbours again please 🙏

[@RiqiHarawira]

I like that. I will give that a try

[@ancyber6876]

Where is he watching

[@westfallonline]

Walexe 87 hey - it’s an interview! 🤪

[@ancyber6876]

Chris Westfall It’s I thought he was talking directly to the audience.

[@arnabgoswami522]

"How can you help the situation?"

[@freedombirth5255]

I worry this leads to over analyzing, overthinking. Excess cortisol..

[@westfallonline]

@@freedombirth5255 it’s actually designed to help reduce stress and cortisol. But you are on to something: more thinking, more stress…The video points at new possibility (hopefully not more stress)

[@menaamor]

good point

[@FrankSchnetzerLLC]

These highly charged situations usually result in false views of you if you diffuse this. You may feel like you did the right thing, but be warned. People want to feel good about themselves afterwards.

[@westfallonline]

How do you know? When you are honest and authentic, how can highly charged situations result in "false views of you"? Your message implies a warning - what is the danger or the risk that you see here? Curious to learn more.

[@TimothyLekan]

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@pilarq7886]

What else could this mean

[@chipsotool]

well that told me jack shit

[@ura9390]

yep total waste of time, sounds like something a 16 year old girl would say when trying to sound profound

[@55millionmonkeys20]

You kinda look similar to the staute of liberty. Your bone structure is simliar

[@westfallonline]

Swanzi Forbidden Lady Liberty? The statue? Ok, if you say so 🤣

[@55millionmonkeys20]

@@westfallonline it was just a observation bro. Dont take it wrong. Think of it as a blessing

[@dammitdan1662]

Here I was thinking the statute of liberty was called the Constitution

[@divisionunion1658]

Plus 1 charisma

[@huemann3416]

That’s foolish

[@imho2278]

Start by spelling 'defuse' correctly in your title. 'Diffuse' means to spread out, or soak into something.

[@westfallonline]

Useful guidance! TYVM

[@sandyredden9968]

defuse

[@markrene6108]

Defuss. 😜

[@kurtolson1303]

Nice looking professional that gives Lame advice.

[@levimungai1846]

have you ever taken an IQ test?

[@OGmediahub]

I didnt get it …

[@westfallonline]

What was it that you missed?

[@OGmediahub]

@@westfallonline if i am having an argument or a fight at work, how can these words: what else could this means … If the boss tells me - go f… yourself or this or you that; how the words : what else could this mean be interpreted and used in such a situation ??

[@LeaRahaelGirma]

Thank you.