How to do self care LIKE A THERAPIST

[@drali]

What’s your self-care routine and how do you deal with burnout?

[@pieceofschmidt4u]

GIVE ME THE HOPE PLAYLIST

[@SatoshiSky]

This sure is an old video, but I just found your channel a few days ago and I'm really enjoying it. I'm working on my undergrad right now and I want to be a clinical therapist and then get my PhD. Your channel really gives me hope for making it to the other side and also gives me more of a model for how to carry myself as a therapist. I really love learning all the interesting things you talk about concerning mental health, burnout, work, and the useful tips as well.

[@awesomelionDK]

This is amazing. I'll def come back to this video, when I'm feeling down. I've been down before, and it can be tough to get out of that pit of feeling down. You are appreciated :)

[@drali]

Glad to hear it was helpful! I have a lot more resources for each skill in the description for this video.

[@awesomelionDK]

Great, thanks again!

[@xiety1750]

i like this dude

[@sodium6841]

Oh yes I need this, my new cases are just overwhelming and they remind me of who I was just a few years ago when I was a teenager

[@zentouro]

aw your pup is adorable. for me getting a dog actually really helped me estabilish more of a routine - i'm forced to go outside and feed another creature which has the added benefit of reminding me to move and feed myself. plus snuggling with her is an excellent way to relax and step away from the stresses of work.

[@drali]

Aww thanks! Mwaji is the best :-) I totally understand what you mean about the regularity of schedule and the benefits of taking care of another life. There's a lot of good research on animal companionship and you can read about it here: www.apa.org/monitor/2017/06/animal-companionship.aspx. Thanks for watching!

[@EricJEarley]

There is a Buddhist temple in Chicago that I go to for Sunday morning meditation sessions whenever I'm feeling overwhelmed with work. Sitting and doing nothing is literally the hardest thing I've ever done, but after doing it for a while it's become easier for me to clear my mind and focus on what needs to get done.

[@drali]

Practicing meditation, being completely in the present moment, is difficult. As you mentioned though, it's a skill that we can build with practice. Thanks for watching and for your comment!

[@donaldswink6259]

Your dog is adorable. I love dogs.

[@jessiebullock]

I have my dream job but I just found that I hit burnout this week for the the first time in 4 years. I am sleep deprived. I haven't eaten well for breakfast for a long time. I don't get to walk much. You got me. Looks like it's time to make some changes. I love your post it exercise before going home.

[@drali]

Definitely check out the description of this video for more resources. Good news here is you're catching it now before it gets worse. It's never too late to start making changes that help you cope with your situation. I love psychology, love being a psychologist, AND at the same time I have a tendency to take on too much because of how much I love this stuff. Perhaps a similar thing happened to you?

[@jessiebullock]

The Psych Show Yes, exactly. I have a hard time saying no because of how much I love what I do.

[@12tone]

The whole "work at work, home at home" thing is tricky for me 'cause most of my work happens at home, but I've definitely adapted a strategy of only checking notifications as a conscious process, at least for work stuff. I don't do it at set times, but I close the windows and programs so that I have to actively choose to reopen them in order to see if I have any new notifications or messages. It's really helped lower my stress levels and I'm still checking often enough to catch anything important relatively quickly.

[@drali]

This is a big challenge for anyone who primarily works from home. I struggle with this myself when making videos or doing paperwork at home. I love what Stephen King says about this in his memoir "On Writing": “It starts with this: put your desk in the corner, and every time you sit down there to write, remind yourself why it isn't in the middle of the room. Life isn't a support system for art. It's the other way around.” The idea of creating a dedicated space that is primarily for work, and using your work rules (no distractions) has helped me when I work at home. I know a lot of people who work from home but find public spaces like coffee shops or shared workspaces (e.g. WeWork) to also help. Sounds like closing windows has been a successful strategy for you! When I really struggle with this, I use browser website blocker plugins for things like social media and the news. Thanks for watching and for commenting 12tone!!!

[@capsfox]

That assertiveness technique is a useful idea! I've always had a hard time saying no that way. And that post-it technique sounds really useful. I used it sort of when I was doing my thesis, but this is a variant that could be helpful! Burnout was a real issue for me both in academia and in doing personal projects. Mostly I just tried to hold off the things that were bothering me when I was there and focus on other things. But that's not always possible, and I really got ground down a few times.

[@drali]

So many of us go through burnout and it's rarely talked about at work or among colleagues. That's why it's great to see the dialogue unfolding here in the comments section. Glad to hear the video was helpful. Thanks for watching!

[@Clashinclasher]

Great channel and content. You teach me a lot and make me think more about certain subjects.

[@drali]

Thanks so much for watching! Your support means a lot to me!!

[@nicholasdemarco2990]

What's funny is I run a business selling retro video games (and handmade items related to it) and my mind is constantly going and I've been deprived of sleep the last few days because I'm always thinking of my business (this was a life goal). There are times when life becomes this overwhelming beast and I do deal with burnout. My problem and I guess what's funny is that I don't even allow myself to distress from games! They are one of my biggest passions in life, music as well, and I am trying to stop denying myself these things because I feel I have to be on point, focused, and be everything to everyone in my life. This was wonderful as all your videos have been.

[@drali]

Thank you so much for your comment! Your experience maps on to mine. I love helping other people use psychology to improve their lives yet sometimes I forget to apply what I'm teaching others to improve my own mental health! Wish I could visit your business - I'm a huge fan of 80s and 90s video games. Thanks for watching!

[@kanishk7267]

Love your channel. Great to see you democratizing mental healthcare and CBT.

[@drali]

Thank you! I'm trying to be of service to the public by making this information easy to understand. Wonderful to hear this video met those goals :-)

[@Inklesspage]

Great vid! Question : I see some board-games in your office. Do you use these during therapy with some clients? What might be the context/situation/presenting problem for using a game in your practice? Thanks!

[@steelsheen]

this video is a lifesaver omg! thank you!! i will bookmark this and save this and tweet this so that its available for me to save me from spiraling badly and making dumbass mistakes.

[@drali]

So happy to hear this video was helpful!

[@hebazakarnah4001]

I loved how you deal with things, how you accept that there will be no balance but to tolerate that. I am on my way to take my steps onto those psychological self care routines, wish me luck. btw just found out you channel and I am amazed by it, will check that out after finishing what I HAVE TO DO!!

[@wrestleARRIVAL]

Thank you

[@JulesA5266]

I definitely have to change up my life routine because I feel overwhelmed and burnt out sometimes! Thanks for these tips, Dr Mattu!

[@drali]

I developed this routine through a lot of trial and error over the course of many years, so don't be disheartened if it takes some time for you to do so as well :-) Thanks for watching!

[@JulesA5266]

Thanks for the advice! Keep them coming!

[@stephankeown5170]

I loved this video!

[@fatemehabdi9418]

Thank you for your helpful advices; I have a conflict that I would be so thankful if you help me for. What do you do, as a therapist, not to get impressed by your clients’ bad moods and feelings, and not thinking about them, e.g. anxiety, OCD and rumination, or depression

[@katherinegarcia2522]

How would you manage a work- life balance while working from home?

[@Itania333]

Could you share your playlist with us?

[@drali]

Heroes (1999 Remaster) David Bowie Good Times Sam Cooke Enterprising Young Men Michael Giacchino My Shot [Explicit] Original Broadway Cast of Hamilton I Am the Doctor (feat. The BBC National Orchestra of Wales) Murray Gold You Make My Dreams Hall & Oates I Won't Back Down Johnny Cash Confident Demi Lovato What Are You Going to Do When You Are Not Saving the World? Hans Zimmer Journey To The Island John Williams Hope (Xavier's Theme) John Ottman, Jeffrey Schindler, American Federation of Musicians & Jasper Randall Choir Gonna Fly Now (Theme from "Rocky") Bill Conti There Goes the Fear Doves One Day Like This Elbow We Are Young (feat. Janelle Monáe) fun. Why Do We Fall? Hans Zimmer The Shire Howard Shore First Contact Jerry Goldsmith Yoda's Theme John Williams Firework Katy Perry Born This Way Lady Gaga Arkham City Main Theme Nick Arundel Father Kolbe's Preaching Orchestre Philharmonique National de Pologne Go All the Way Raspberries Help Yourself Sad Brad Smith Titans Spirit (Score) Trevor Rabin At Least It Was Here ("Community" Main Title) [Full Length Version] The 88 Perfect Situation Weezer Wake Up Arcade Fire Fred Astaire Lucky Boys Confusion Lisztomania Phoenix Don't Stop Fleetwood Mac

[@Itania333]

Thank you so much!

[@drali]

You're welcome!

[@Ragnarockalypse]

Other than walks, do you have any exercise regimen you do to maintain your physical as well as mental health?

[@drali]

I LOVE to ride my bike. If I lived in a less crowded city, I'd bike to work. Biking makes me feel like a kid again. It's just a ton of fun for me. Other than that during the day at work, I do a lot of stretching and walking. Most of my job is spent sitting in a chair so my muscles need the movement.

[@GetPsyched]

Burnout is so over looked by psychologists (as in burnout of the psychologist). So vital to appreciate it more if better work and services are to be provided by psychologists.

[@drali]

Completely agree with you!

[@meghapai5427]

Thank you for the toilet-sleep analogy. I will make sure to use it in my future therapy sessions 😂

[@williambudihardjo3968]

Hello Dr. Ali Mattu , my name is William and i'm currently studying branding ( semester 4 ), i'm very interested in behavioral economics which is basically putting psychological insight to an economical perspective, i was hoping if you can do a video about it, about biases, judgment, and other consumer behavior. Thank you and have a good day

[@jackofspades3314]

William Budihardjo yess behavioral economics is very interesting subject, please make videos about it, and make one about the DSM - 5 new disorder about PMS and what do you think about it.

[@drali]

Are you referring to Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder?

[@drali]

Thanks for watching! Happy to do an episode on behavioral economics. I'll add it to my list of potential future topics.

[@williambudihardjo3968]

Ok, can't wait for that video !! Thanks

[@leslieparker4512]

Easier said then done but I will try some of these.

[@drali]

+Leslie Parker I developed this routine during one of the most challenging years of my professional life. It didn't eliminate my problems, but it did make them more tolerable. Good luck!

[@kurichanmichele584]

Can you share your music playlist with us? :D

[@truthheals4491]

New sub! Thanks for the content.

[@careditor]

I clicked for your cute doggy

[@Jakodrums]

I am a victim of a serious burnout... I delayed months to feel batter, I'm 9 months further and I still don't feel like I was. Could you please tell, the scientific difference between the common burnout (get some rest, tomorrow it's fine) compared to what I have.. (give me a year of complete peace, I won't be myself again)

[@drali]

I'm sorry to hear about your burnout. I recommend looking into some of the resources I link to in my description to this video for more on burnout. I would also look to see if you are only feeling this way in relation to work or if you also experience this outside of work and on your off days. If you do, you might want to complete a depression screening to see if your burnout has grown into depression: www.mentalhealthamerica.net/mental-health-screen/patient-health. If it has, professional help might be the next step. I hope this was helpful!

[@sandi6818]

I love the term Work-Life-Balance...going to school to be a therapist...maybe that will change when I work as a therapist. 😂

[@Amber-tk8hd]

Speaking of distractions as I watch videos on psychologists, therapists of all kinds and here I am lmao. I should be studying my ab psych class now whoops

[@chawlakaur8014]

👌👌🙏🙏

[@psychologymriu8850]

therapies

[@dontpanic1982]

i want your dog

[@NewCreationInChrist896]

Seek God daily.💝 Proverbs 8:17 Colossians 2:8

[@JeffWatchesYoutube]

I've been watching your videos and you give great information which is why I subscribed but there are WAY too many jump cuts in my opinion. It's very distracting. In the first minute of this video you jump cut 11 times, in the Learning from Failure video there was 13 jump cuts just in the first minute. Each video I have watched so far has been like this. You are a really smart guy and I'm sure you could deliver the same information without having to Frankenstein your sentences together with jump cuts to present your thoughts clearly.

[@drali]

Thanks for your feedback! When I launched the channel and was learning to edit, I modeling my style of editing on the Vlogbrothers. They aggressively edit out breaths and all breaks in their sentences. Now, having built up an audience and feeling more confident in the script writing and editing areas of production, I want to reduce jump edits and aim for something that has the flow of a Vox video. It's tough not having visuals to cut to, as that's how many channels hide their jump edits. But I'll work on it. Thanks again for taking the time to share your feedback.

[@JeffWatchesYoutube]

I appreciate you taking time to read and comment! Thank you for being receptive to feedback, I didn't want to come off as a troll or heckler because I really do enjoy your content and appreciate your videos. It was just something that stood out to me that I thought was worth a mention. In my opinion, the occasional pauses, uhs and ums are especially important from intellectual figures such as yourself. With jumpcuts it feels less like a conversation and more like an artificial production. There is a certain beauty in listening to an intelligent person explain something and then take a pause to gather their thought so they can articulate it exactly how they want to. Again, thank you for the response and the videos. I look forward to your future content and I am happy to have found your channel!

[@drali]

By no means was your comment anything close to being a troll or heckler! You were supportive and provided me with concrete feedback to help me improve. That is SUPER HELPFUL! I'm definitely going to reduce jump cuts for my next video. Let me know what you think after it is released! Thanks again for taking the time to comment and for watched my videos!

[@meerespflanzen]

#dbtskills anyone?

[@drali]

Exactly!