How to Drop the Masculine Shield & Be Magnetic Again | Dating Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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[@lwgg742]

This came in the right moment. I have been a single woman for 3 years and you need to be masculine in order to protect yourself as a single woman. But now I'm dating a man again - a masculine man hehe -, and I am trying to learn how to keep my assertiveness without seeming aggressive. I try to dress more feminine (more skirts for example) and somehow this helps me because I feel more empowered as a strong woman without feeling like I have that "manly" energy. It's still hard but I'm trying to state my directness with a hint of compassion etc. Work in progress and I love it. Tbh it's also nice to have that feeling of having your man there with his big strong arms making you feel safe. Once I allowed him to protect me from some external events, I felt like I needed to allow him more to step up for safety and he's totally doing it. Long explanation but I hope it helps somebody.

[@Devotionorange]

Great post babe 🧡

[@angelajaables5537]

Bam, you hit the nail on the head with this one. I always try to fix things too.

[@roslyncerro1263]

We are all worthy.❣️

[@mhal2]

@roslyncerro1263 But not ENTITLED 😮

[@dafnneperez9577]

Thank you for another amazing content! You have the gift to explain the most complex topics in a practical and easy way to understand. I will coming back to this video again because I need this to improve my romantic life. Thank you!

[@mattdayfield6633]

I just thank you for this easy to follow recipe of actions to take. I’ve been in my masculine energy since I started working at 12 years old. I could never understand my married and coupled girlfriends who just got what they wanted. Had husbands and partners that treasured them. And I never could. Not to that degree. Especially now being a single mom with no outside support, I’m frequently in the producer space. I can’t wait to just relax and receive.

[@Liz-in8lu]

Wow I have all of these feelings. I don’t always feel them with someone, I have confidence, but with this new guy… I’m off the charts with anxiety and doubt.

[@rebekahmichelle8185]

Love this content! Lots of insights 🎉 Be blessed ❤🙏🏾

[@happiness6488]

great video, thanks Matt!

[@roslyncerro1263]

Interesting how comments are interpreted.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

[@offairhead]

This is hard for me. At work, I supervise approximately 450 people, daily. At home I have to be the provider, the protector, the manager, the maintenance man, the errand boy, the yard guy.

[@Lovelylights]

I would dial up my happiness 😊

[@Devotionorange]

Totally. We then feel more relaxed and free. Men like happy women.

[@rezotydnic]

What woukd i dial down. My thoughts about being worthy enough of a relationship. Being alone soo much in previous relationship, and single before that, the masculine energy is strong. I tuned into more feminine when he was home. But he let me down so up cranked the masculine because it was needed to survive. Always a struggle for me, as I was a tomboy. But I love being in my feminine energy.

[@Risingmoonranch8]

I find if I don’t do it, it doesn’t get done. If I say, I would love it if ( something I would like him to take care of) it happens on a time schedule that doesn’t work for me or it doesn’t happen at all. So I’ve learned if I want it done I have to do it myself. (Like cutting tree branches, fixing something, “men's” type of work.) It feels fake trying to be the helpless female. I think having a lover and a work partner is the best idea. If I were rich I could hire the gardener, and handy man. But I find when you own a house together and the upkeep is done by you and your man, love and connection bleeds over from the day to day responsibilities.

[@mhal2]

@Risingmoonranch That sounds like classic masculine energy 😮. I have a friend who spoke those exact words (if SHE doesn't do it, it doesn't get done right ... and thus she 'has to' do everything 😮. Fortunately, she found Alison Armstrong (The Queen's Code) and she is learning to change her ways and stop emasculating her husband. 😊

[@patriciarose2342]

I'm trying to train myself to not attract people who are bad for me. Even when I loved myself the most, I attracted the lowest guy. And it was all covert.

[@arlenelovelace18]

I killed a potential relationship due to my self doubt. I gave him an easy out, and he took it. I will forever regret that mistake. 😞 But I learned a lesson from it.

[@TheElephantInTheRoom12]

I wouldn't feel bad about him leaving because if he really wanted to be with you and mature he would have not taken the easy way out and confronted your behavior or talked to you about what was bothering him and given you his requirements or expectations for change for him to stay in the relationship. Just saying...

[@S81132]

Wow. You just put your finger on everything that´s going on in my mind - I´m afraid to loose my freedom, I´m not really attracted to anyone, and if I am, he is already in a relationship. And who would want to really be in a relationship with me anyway? Wierd as I am.... And again, all the good men are already taken. Oh well....

[@Mar_La_Rey2020]

❤❤❤👏👏👏You Nail It, Thx 👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️

[@milicapetrovic8737]

Please Mat, could you make a video about what to do if you're serious and want family and stuff but they only want sex. Before anything happened, how to transform this situation..?

[@milicapetrovic8737]

To me, it happens oftenly and I loose chanses for years...

[@TheElephantInTheRoom12]

Not Matt here but you can't have a serious relationship with a man until he is ready. You're options are to wait "however" long that takes or find a man who is already at the same point in his life. Please dont ignore that red flag. Its red not pink. If you try to push him into it he will resent it and may cheat on you with another woman who isn't pressuring him. But if you let your desire go for the things you want just to be with him you will resent him. If you want to know what he really wants from you. End things now and move on even if that means being single for awhile. If he wants you and a family or serious relationship with you he will come to you. Or you could try communicating honestly your desire for a real relationship and not just sex and ask what he wants. But if I did that I would let him know that if he doesnt want a relationship that's fine but I've decided to end things immediately so that I'm available to be with someone who does. In that rubber meeting the road moment, you'll get an answer by his words or actions...

[@MonicaRicciCoach]

Sex does NOT make a man bond with you so when you give a man sex before he is emotionally bonded to you, he generally leaves because he' has already gotten what he wants. However when you hold your boundary on sex, you create the space for him to emotionally bond with you. When you do this, the men who just want sex will naturally fall away because you aren't giving it to him, so he moves on to someone else. The man who ISN'T just looking for sex WILL honor your sexual boundary. That's a huge win for you.

[@milicapetrovic8737]

@@MonicaRicciCoach I know, but everyone fall away.. ☹️

[@tahiyamarome]

Find someone who wants what you want. Date as an ugly version of yourself. Weeds out the beauty diggers

[@katherineh2633]

I dont know how to release energy , not helpful

[@ColleenGallagher-b2i]

Sorry but one of your most confusing videos. I understand feminine and masculine energy, but this sounds difficult and confusing to attain on a permanent basis.

[@TheElephantInTheRoom12]

I love his videos but for some reason this one was confusion. For me it wasn't that it's difficult to attain but this video felt kinda choppy and thrown together.