The Love Advice I hated…but actually worked! | Dating Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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[@RobertBrown-x8z]

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[@RobertBrown-x8z]

How are you doing

[@dianeatpeace337]

You can't really know someone in under a year. Remember: for 4-6 months at least, most people are only showing you their best side. Sharing time together and dealing with daily struggles eventually lead people to reveal themselves. It takes getting completely comfortable in a relationship for most to 'drop the mask' and truly show who they are as a person underneath the social mask.

[@footyfan101ful]

Yes!! I follow a group from Italy and one of the guys got married a few weeks ago. He proposed a month and a half after meeting her!! All the fans don't like her because there is something off with her. Three months after the engagement he mentions that she is very demanding and is extremely rude to people when she talks to them. You can tell in videos from the wedding (even before the event) that she is the centre of the universe and she is the centre of attention and everyone has to be focussed on her. This she shows her true colours. I hope he bloody runs out of this marriage before it's too late.

[@buda2049]

Incompatibility kills chemistry ⚛️ for sure

[@autumnakins7640]

It did for me and my fiancé (ex now)!

[@santokki.007]

Thank you so much, Matt : ) ❤ 1) Compatibility over Chemistry 2) Peace over Excitement 3) Growth over Happiness 4) Giving over Receiving

[@tiffanycrenshaw5421]

Peace over excitement for me has definitely kept me out of my feelings and which lead to understand that if we not growing to become a couple from a friendship then this dating has to come to a stop because that guy isnt my person

[@raeofsunshine144]

This is great advice, but I disagree with one thing. the law of giving doesn’t necessarily activate the law of receiving. Being used and in one sided relationships definitely teaches you to focus on what you receive because some people will try to reap the benefits you give.

[@lucinaburke1397]

I was the over giver in all my relationships expect the one I'm in now. Most of the men in my life were only takers. It took me many years to change my habit.

[@shans1986]

Women should never be givers to men. They'll always only take with this scenario. Men say they want thus but really they want to di and thereby give.

[@autumnakins7640]

​@@lucinaburke1397yes, me too! Just got out of one of those, and I'm surprised at myself! I thought I'd learned by now!😂

[@SuperDflower]

Been there too

[@linnie14]

Thought the same thing :)

[@carolinareaper8089]

You can fall in love in someone who is not attractive. I always follow learning about someone then assessing their looks. I was always like this… checmistry to me is when someone is good person, ambitious, relatable, have moral spine. Believe me this people are rare !!! Very very rare

[@sallyprestonloveanddreambu890]

This was outstanding. It was like a mini class and I actually heard so many new concepts when I’ve heard I thought everything!!’ Instead of enrolling in a weekend class to learn all this you pulled out most important things and actually can retain and take action immediately!!! LOVE THIS!!!

[@Gracialahaight]

Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.

[@powerinjoy9898]

I’ve experienced and seen in my dating coaching clients that extremely high chemistry isn’t a relationship maker especially if it outweighs the compatibility factor by quite a bit. I’ve also experienced and witnessed with clients that compatibility does increase chemistry. Absolutely loved the giving over receiving especially with the dating profile. Listing what they’ll receive in regards to experiences. Lot’s of laughter, connection in nature, quality time together…Great vid Mat. Thank you.

[@mirandasullivan-selfempower]

I just went through an experience where I attracted someone with the sparks and it was fun....but when I got to know him, it doesn't look like he's compatible with me, it was the first time that someone showed up and I chose me instead until the right one comes along. I used to give the spark ..way toooooo much priority.

[@oluwasubomiadewusi3946]

Thank You Matt Boggs for all of your videos. They're always filled with truthful & practical life principles. You're definitely my best relationship coach on this app. 😊❤

[@aanuyate1]

Peace over excitement. Phew! You have answered my question, which I've been searching for years. Thanks for sharing Matt.

[@owusuaboateng-ama6866]

Mine was to listen, and that hit me hard. That was because I used to think I was the best listener and so I was expecting to be listened to, which I was desperately seeking 😂. Now I have learned to listen and it feels so great to be heard as well 😊

[@katemiller5990]

So maybe another way to put it would be “happiness via growth”?

[@mhal2]

Love that you mentioned Alison Armstrong, Mat!

[@oluwasubomiadewusi3946]

I never regret watching your videos. Pure truth & exclusive learning

[@camilleroseministries]

I didn't feel that incredible chemistry towards my husband at first. Mainly bc we had been great friends for years. He asked me to give him a chance bc he would treat me really good. I said okay, then God worked. Now we have an incredible marriage with lots of passion and communicate better than i ever have with anyone. ❤❤❤

[@christyrohrmayer5330]

This is outstanding and completely on par with the relationship I’m in right now. Very encouraged; thank you!

[@rleahfisher]

Incredibly practical and helpful. Thank you!

[@profelis3312]

Happiness is a mode of travel, not a destination.

[@lynnettemarino6972]

Great video! Really liked the fireplace example for giving and receiving.

[@tavananda2058]

Thank you, Matt, for sharing great relationship knowledge! ❤

[@kimfrederick7710]

This is an awesome video filled with great advice

[@lucinaburke1397]

You are so spot on !!!!

[@marymutero7212]

Great advice, thank you

[@shellydavis7684]

Love your passion in what you do ❤❤❤❤❤

[@sabariahsamsudin6062]

There is jealousy unnecessarily that makes it a turn-off in the maturity personality or is it a sign of masculinity in either gender

[@celesserenity4423]

This is great Matt thank you!

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I love your background 😍

[@jkd9573]

I guess I’m right, that I’ll never have love.. cuz I’m totally done giving love trying to get love back. I’m done with pouring myself out to never get refilled. I need someone who is gonna pour into me first now, cuz I’m empty. 😢

[@rosevr_boy_life]

I understand you more than I wnt too but.... I still stand by my mantra since I was 16 and I'm 61 and single(widowed) again. My mantra... Tis far better to have loved and lost.. Than never to have loved at all. Hope this helps you.

[@bella3096]

Thanks Mat.

[@thewatcher6388]

Great video!!

[@rattansaini5423]

Beautiful!!

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[@nabilarahim5911]

I envy the people who are able to be in quiet relationships... I have this dopamin brain that loves excitement and growth, never wants things to stand still.

[@adedenathana9160]

I have been single for 14 years and now in three years relationships but he is not single what advice will give about this relationship situation?

[@snuggleb100]

I think I need coaching lol I’m on the dating sites. I’m getting a lot of hits. Lots of people having conversation with me but they eventually stop talking to me. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong my friend thinks I say too much too soon. I’m not really sure if that’s the case I don’t know Matt do you coach I think I could use some.

[@lovepeacejoyhappiness]

how is your self worth or opinion of yourself? are u trying to sell how amazing you are (paradoxically this comes from an insecure or low self worth place), or are you trying to gauge if they're the right fit for YOU? Do you have self defeating beliefs you repeat often (out loud or in thoughts) such as, "good men are hard to find", "this always happens to me", "i can never get a good man", etc etc. I'd start there.

[@EliteMediaCreatives]

Can we edit your videos ❤

[@TheJosiejumper]

❤

[@quixote1965]

I would wager your compatibility deepened because you became compliant to what she wanted you to be. You stopped making any independent decisions. You let her know where you were at all times. You no longer spent money without consulting her . Your choice of car had to meet her approval. Your choice of friends had to meet her approval

[@kathysoriano8107]

You would think the more you pour into someone they would want to back. But not my guy.

[@dale116dot7]

The best advice I heard was: DON’T. Just don’t. Loneliness is better than the hurt of love gone wrong. No to relationships, no to marriage, no to children, no to divorce.

[@adrianaa.deluca6559]

Great episode!!