How to find lover in Japan?

[@danmiskelly4112]

There are exceptions to every rule, and my dating experience was slightly different. I was an English teacher in a language school and the lesson topic of that day was food, so I eventually asked my student to go to dinner with me and she said yes. We met at the appointed time on the appointed date and we went out to dinner, she I and her friend. We started dating regularly but she always brought a friend along (kind of a "chaperone"). We did eventually marry, and divorce. Dated several more students and women I met in bars and in these cases all dates were one-on-one experiences. Maybe the reason I was so successful was the fact that I spoke Japanese rather proficiently. Between 1982 and 2014 I had 1 Japanese wife and 7 Japanese lovers. Don't know when this video was made, but in my experience, these days, most Japanese women will jump at the chance to date any foreign man, and I'll tell you why. Most Japanese men still treat women like s**t!. Most foreign men treat women with respect (at first, at least) so the Japanese women love this "attention". This doesn't mean you have to spend lots of money on the woman, only that you be kind and considerate to them. Seriously, Japanese proficiency is definitely a plus. Most Japanese women you meet will not be very proficient in English, and you are in Japan, after all, so "when in Rome, ...". I am certain that if I couldn't speak Japanese I would not have had so many Japanese lovers. My ex-wife and one other lover were English students, but none of my other Japanese girlfriends spoke English at all, we spoke only Japanese together. My advice, I don't care if you only plan to spend one week in Japan, please spend at least one month studying basic Japanese via book and CD EVERY DAY. Believe me, even if you aren't interested in womanizing in Japan unless you spend your time in "gaijin only" (foreigner only) ghettos like the Foreign Correspondants Club, most of the common Japanese people you meet will not be able to carry on a conversation in English, French, German, etc. One more suggestion, don't compliment a Japanese woman on her looks until you start dating regularly. In the beginning compliment them on their clothes, their jewelry, their hairstyle, the work they do ("Oh, you're a @#$, that must be interesting work. Please tell me more about your job!"). Also, the Japanese usually don't show any kind of affection openly in public, so IN THE BEGINNING don't try to hold hands while walking down the street or give the lass a "goodnight kiss" . Good luck!!

[@samuraichuck87]

I am a Nichiren Buddhist and we just celebrated "Higan" which is the autumn equinox, we also honor ancestors at this time :) similar to Obon. Japanese culture is so beautiful.

[@komori841]

+chuck kaczmarsky We also celebrated Higan with my son. Thanks for sharing!

[@starglue]

She's super adorable all together - so bubbly, and her accent is the cutest thing I've ever heard! And her English, although a little broken, is very well-spoken.

[@shadynasty2837]

i've always loved conversing with people that aren't native english speakers, i feel like they're not as judgmental and fully grasp what i'm saying, anyway komori i imagine making these videos is a big help in learning the the language, good going

[@lowpricedpaint]

It's enjoyable to watch you speak, with your fingers, and hands moving around, your refreshing smile, you make me smile. I did enjoy today, Thank you so much.

[@aziz7683]

like it .it's close to Islamic way of dating..

[@dacelticcross]

How anybody could call this girl ugly is blind!!!She is truly beautiful and intelligent.

[@e.kadriev7907]

+marty J hey...if ur into flat chested ....its ok i gues

[@Tenchi10]

I think this makes it very easy for me to fit in with your culture. I have wanted to go to Japan for a while now. Being shy as I am, I would not mind the dating system. I do agree with you that it gets tougher to find a real relationship, but that is in most modern countries. Technology, laws, and traditions all change and most often than not seems to hinder the growth process of the country's population. For more traditional Japanese people, I see your point of view. For the post-modern Japanese, I can see others more engaged in the arcade, work, or school and they might try their luck with those places. If you are a foreigner like me, who would stick out from the rest of the crowd, it would probably be easier. I have learned of gaijin lovers, and that pretty much sums up that. I am not surprised by anything anymore, and what you are saying right now I completely believe.

[@vamtheanomaly]

Hmmm...I dont know how well Id do there then. Im not only older and experienced, Im very assertive when I want someone. Not pushy, or aggressive but Im not shy...like at ALL.

[@Mbase-apollo]

Iv'e always loved the Japanese culture , and your videos help me understand the reason why I do.. Thank you so much.

[@berryhomchas]

For this informative and charming video, arigatou gozaimasu. I learned the value of formality and tradition in a Japanese culture to overcome their natural shyness. Another reason to admire Japanese people! 👍

[@robviolin1]

That was a very good vid. You should talk more about this. Thanks for posting.

[@JoeyLevenson]

If you speak Japanese, just talk to people. If you dont, use meetup.com. Its not hard at all. (rules apply to every country)

[@komori841]

seifukusha Thanks for sharing!

[@charlesvanvessem]

I always enjoy watching your video. And often I rewatch after some time ☺️

[@Zac674]

Thanks for all your videos Komori-san, I've learnt a lot from your videos. Hope there are a lot more open and friendly people like you in Japan

[@IndieExplosion]

This video is very informative, and useful. You gave done a very good job. As an American, I have been fascinated with Japanese culture, but know little about private social things like this. In my Life my relationship with anyone from Japan has been friendly but formal and respectful, because I did not understand the Japanese way of communicating enough to become closer than that. This video makes me hopeful to understand enough to see past formality. Thank you!

[@martpast1]

and her talking is so light and nice. i like to listen to her. she is a talent. better than many actors.

[@LadyBlanchezSharpe]

How wonderful!! I think that the Dating History and methods of Japan through your explaination was not only interesting but something I find that I can admire. I look forward to learning more about the history and ways-of-living the Japanese People carry on. I just watched the Bowing lesson before watching this video... I enjoyed the both both greatly.. Thank you for teaching me about something very few people speak about.

[@aung0040]

the way you explain is so clear, charming and understood so easily. Subscribed you.

[@ScottishxFoldxKitten]

I absolutely love your channel, very informative and helpful! Thank you!! :D

[@SouthJerseyRaw]

Thank you for this video. It's very informative. I love that someone can give foreignors insight into your culture! We are all just people. Oneness is our commonality. We are all one. Your service to humanity is greatly appreciated!!!!!!!!!!!

[@kevinthomason7164]

Love it! Thank you for taking the time to further my knowledge of your wonderful culture! See you next year!! :)

[@SuitableACE]

I really enjoyed the way you explained Japanese dating. It was very informative. Thank you :)

[@00LaFer]

Thanks Komori for this beautiful channel. I love to lear Japanese customs and culture. You are trully amazing people. Love from Spain.

[@Drrck11]

I've dated a Japanese girl once. She was really liked me, but her parents weren't too happy about it. They probably never thought her would want an African-American man.

[@raixbox360]

+Drrck11 when they met ya, they saw your feet and thought your foot was too big for their daughter.

[@Drrck11]

rai x Plus 1ed LoL

[@hendrixphish420]

+rai x yeah, "foot" ;)

[@raixbox360]

hendrixphish420 thanks

[@SLOBeachboy]

I’m sorry to hear that you girlfriend’s parents did not seem to like you. Generally speaking Japanese people love Americans but I can’t say if they are generally biased against Blacks or not. I do know however that when I lived in Tokyo in the 90’s there were certain cliques of Japanese girls who would date Black guys exclusively. There was even a nightclub in Roppongi called Circus, which was well known as a place for Japanese girls to hook up with Black men. I cannot say how the parents may have felt about this though. Anyway, in the old days here in the States I had problems myself with Chinese, Vietnamese, and Korean parents not wanting me dating their daughters because I was not Asian. Of course, sometimes parents don’t like the guys their daughters date no matter what race they are and you can never really know why they don't like you unless they spell it out. By the way, don’t take this the wrong way but are you really an African American or are you someone of African decent who was raised in another country? I am only asking because the grammatical errors you made are typical of someone who is a not a native English speaker. They are not the types of mistakes that you would expect to see from an American, not even one who is from a lower socioeconomic background or who grew up in a subculture within the United States. I’m not trying to put you down or anything, I’m just curious where you are from originally.

[@SarahSingfussel]

I really like your video!! I'm so interested and excited about Japanese culture, traditions and people. :) btw - your English is great!

[@proconsulaugustus]

Best personality award 2013. She's completely adorable.

[@ks3291]

You are so adorable. Your English is very good. Thanks for sharing!

[@cooldesertknight]

I'm a fan of your videos from Saudi Arabia. Thank you for informative nice video. "Shokran" (i.e. Thank you in Arabic) Salaam (a greeting used as both hello and goodbye, and literally means "peace", and it's is shorter version of "Salaam Alaykom" which means "peace be upon you').

[@komori841]

cooldesertknight Thanks for introducing your country's greeting.

[@cooldesertknight]

komori841 You're welcome :) ( BTW you're welcom = Af'wan , in Arabic ).

[@WholeLottaLoveHandles]

Thank you for seeing again. Yes I'm so glad I can still see.

[@martpast1]

she is pretty pretty.

[@BritishRail60062]

***** Why so much hate? :/.

[@BritishRail60062]

***** Nope. I was just curious as to why you hate the Japanese? Surely there must be a valid reason for doing so right? :/.

[@KOTHFanRantsandVidsisawesome]

***** What does it matter?

[@BritishRail60062]

***** I like to hear both sides of the story. But it doesn't matter if you have no valid reason. But hate is just a negative emotion (well to me anyway) and I don't hate anyone without a good solid reason. Merry Christmas.

[@martpast1]

***** oh, shit---show me video where would be your pretty nation. i want to see this beauty.and to compare

[@andyikeda9420]

Very interesting video . She is very insightful about meeting a mate in Japan . I love the Japaneese people . I live in Honolulu and see Japanese tourists all the time . Very nice and polite people . Come to Hawaii and I'll show you a good time . Aloha

[@komori841]

1st: Insert the coin 2nd: Chose the size of the sheet, 3rd: Take photos, the machine automatically shoot you, 4th : Choose the best pictures,and background design. 5th : Decorate with pen or pencil 6th: Just wait while printing. While waiting sometime machine serve some game for waiting time, but this is not necessary to play.8th: During waiting time, machine sometimes give you a opportunity to send the pic to your cell phone, so it'll require your address. hope this will be useful info!

[@tacomadc]

Group dating makes a lot of sense - if it doesn't click with two you can still have a lot of fun and no huge pressure.

[@skyblueiiii]

This was a very nice video. I learned a lot and I enjoyed learning it!

[@laurencelance586]

There are some good things to be said about this. Japanese relationships tend to be centered upon long term goals of family and future. That's a good thing.

[@Mysth7]

I don't think japanese people are going to gokon because they are shy, but because this system became common/normal. Most japanese guys I met were going to gokon just because this is the best way to pick up girls without being considered as "charai" ("hunters"). The other reason is they don't have lot of free time, so it is easier for them to set a group date few weeks in advance, that hanging out casualy in a bar after work (and also because after work, they have to hang out with collegues)

[@DaimonAnimations]

I live in Canada and I have found too that a lot of people of my age (30) are also yet not married nor with children, I myself I'm still single and I just recently found a girlfriend from Japan, she is 29 and she told me the same, that is very difficult because Japanese are very shy and if someone like me comes and say "I love you, you're so beautiful" they wont get offended but they are not used to it so it kind scares them this, "head on" initiative.

[@srolesen]

I've had Japanese girls ask me to "go out for dinner together" but never for a date specifically, or invite me to a party so they are not so shy that they wont take the first step, or wont take any step at all, but it's always very very hard to really get to know who they are as a person, even if you tease and their supposed to get annoyed, or fake annoyance they respond with mostly generic good manners. I guess it's kinda charming for a little while, and it's certainly the kind of quality I would appreciate in a maid, but what guy's really want that in a girlfriend ? Anyone else have the same experience ?

[@ruthlessfurry1982]

obon is like the mixture of all-souls day and new years day. thats the best japanese holiday for me. i love hanabi!!!

[@AonGuardian]

Wow, that was very interesting and insightful! Thanks for the information!

[@Flastew]

Great video, I love your explanations they are helpful and interesting.

[@matasuki]

This doesnt sound too weird. Its a safe way to meet people especially from the woman's side of things. A little slow way to find people and takes out the spontanaeity but eh sounds pretty cool. Male from the US...informative and subscribed

[@Zaphod7835]

Did I hear that right? "find the right guy... you know, the age, the salary, the company"? If female financial ambition via relationship is THAT naked in Japan, I think I know why the birth rate is low...

[@WiggaMachiavelli]

+Zaphod7835 And here I was thinking that honesty and straightforwardness were valued in the West.

[@Zaphod7835]

WiggaMachiavelli What's an appreciation for honesty got to do with being disgusted by women who value their mate's paycheck and status more than his character? There are honest pedophiles out there too, who will openly tell you "hey, I like fucking kids"... if I don't like their behavior/values does that mean I don't like honesty too?

[@WiggaMachiavelli]

Zaphod7835 The thing is that many women are like that in every country. At least in Asia they don't try to pretend otherwise. And yet it's not uncommon to hear Western complaints about how the Japanese are indirect and ambiguous and not really earnest. So which is it? Do you want a Japanese woman who's honest about how finances will work in marriage, or do you want a Western woman to pretend that she doesn't want your money? For the record, it's obviously better to be able to identify the paedophiles than to have them disguised and difficult to catch.

[@matthewwhitwell9361]

+Zaphod7835 It's more practical than anything. If you're going to be a couple, you need to be able to support each other. Generally there's still quite a "traditional" family structure in Japan where men work and women stay home. It's not so much "you're not worth it unless you're making bank" but "if we got married, we might not be able to afford life together" so it's best to find a good financial match.

[@LiWaLystra]

For me as a swedish woman living in Japan I had my first real culture clash experience when we talked about exactly this subject during class in my Japanese language school. I was the only westerner in my class, and the other students were from Nepal, Vietnam, China, Thailand, Myanmar, Mongolia and Korea. A guy in class asked me what terms or conditions a man needed to fulfill for me to accept his marriage proposal; and I was almost offended that he would see me as "that" kind of woman and proudly declared that IF I would marry, it would ONLY be out of love, and nothing else. He answered me back by asking if I didn't think that was a bit selfish and immature of me; to only act on my own feelings and not think about my future kids, wether they'd be able to go to university (or even school over 6th grade for that matter), on how my parents were going to be cared and provided for when they retire from work, or just being able to go to the hospital when needed, etc; and I realized how completely different our lives, cultures and societies are. I no longer get upset when I (frequently) hear both women and men around me contemplating these kind of material things when choosing whom to date or marry, because I've got a better understanding of why those things are actually important for them.

[@halcondanan]

I'm really impressed with your videos, so many things I didn't know... Family and group dating huh? now that is so different from how things work here in Venezuela (make that western society in general) hahaha. Thanks a lot for these videos!! they're really interesting, can't stop watching them.

[@coserotaku94]

I know that in Denmark you find people at the internet. You start a dating profile. Find one you like and then ask him or her to a date.. Or you can be lucky and meet at parties (I think mostly the young/teenagers looking at parties and ask him/her to drink or dance and later get the number or facebook profile to meet again). But it really depends on the person you are. Most commen way is the dating profiles but some find at hobbies, work, schools and so on :)

[@DiogoVKersting]

I love the way you talk. Great video! Very intersting.

[@NarcoticRebel97]

*Their culture is so rich and their language is so different and so beautiful that i would love to learn it as a challenge and as a tool for the possibility for traveling there.

[@bricklaine4617]

Actually, it doesn't really cost a lot to live here in Japan. There's a lot of business competition which keeps things reasonably priced.

[@TheLucian28]

nice wideo,i liked the way you explain things about your culture and your compatriots :), and you are verry preety :)

[@mollymemer]

Your body motions are very great, because I'm guessing English isn't your first language and if you do make a mistake it really helps to make people understand you. Good job!

[@mushashi8]

This is very good information for Gaigin keep up the good work,Ms

[@SLOBeachboy]

So you are saying that Omiai is actually making somewhat of a comeback in Japan? That very interesting - and very surprising. When I lived in Tokyo in the 80’s and early 90’s I never met a single Japanese girl who would ever even consider Omiai. They all thought it was kind of a silly old custom. Also, I have to say that I found dating in Japan to be pretty much the same as here in the States, at least for me in Tokyo. Of course girls might act differently when dating a foreigner as when dating a Japanese person. And country girls might be different than big city girls. Also many of the women I dated tended to act more like westerners than stereotypical Japanese women. By the way, I should probably mention that some people might misunderstand the title of your video. If you look up the word “lover” in the dictionary it will say “a partner in a sexual OR romantic relationship”. In actual real world usage however - at least here in the USA - it tends to ALWAYS refer specifically to a sexual relationship. So for a video like yours we would usually say “how to find a boyfriend or girlfriend”.

[@Mysth7]

I'm french and I've attended few "gokon" (group dating system), so yes, it is totally ok. In fact, some japanese guys are happy that a foreigner join this kind of party, because most japanese girls are attracted by foreigners, so it is a good way to make the party looking better. So you are kind of "used", which is not really a pleasant experience. It is my personnal experience, so I don't know about other foreigners, but this is how I felt.

[@simonwatts2120]

I met a Japanese girl - I could not understand if boring, the culture thing or not interested. I decided to give it a miss. Was a bit disappointed because someone I know and things are not the same after.

[@mr.figurenerdvideogames630]

Loved ure videos, Im studying hard japanese, specialy Kanji =)

[@KEWLBONSTRANI]

Thanks for the upload, the video was awesome quite informative and insightful. However, what I wanted to ask you is what's your perspective on why shyness is embedded within the Japanese culture? Thank you

[@komori841]

@AutomHatter Yes, Group dating is very unique to Japan. Japanese are shy, so this way suit us. Yes I'm married, however I do not have child yet ^^

[@johanndelgado9619]

Juat now saw this video and it did answer a lot of my questions thank you

[@uyhgar369]

my 1 💓 was Japanese, but she had been in America since 9yrs old. I fought several men for her honor then she pretty much took me as her BF. She was very aggressive & had few native Japanese morals. as I have gotten older I have gotten wiser & now have a better idea of what will make a good wife. I have recently started courting a girl who has only been in America for 1 month. I REALLLLY like her. The problem is although I have a soft spot in my heart for Japanese girls. I do not know how to treat a traditional one. so I would like as much advice as I can get?

[@0835SEBO]

Having studied the language for 10 years, and am entering my 3rd year of living in Japan, and have done some dating here, I think "How to find a lover in Japan?" is the wrong question. "Why would you want to find a lover in Japan?" is more applicable.

[@komori841]

pedsay I am pleased to be subscribed ! Thank you ; )I also watched your video,was wonderful. Mixed couple ? You could find them, at Tokyo especially "Roppongi","Azabu", "Hiroo" area. It's not that rare. Furthermore I think we Japanese woman hanker after oversea's man. For example, within my friend there are several woman who have oversea's boyfrined ! So if you want, then it's not impossible. So its not kind of Taboo at all. However, its also true that we are poor at speaking english.

[@reytrevino8284]

Other countries do this also such as in the Middle East and Mexico use to do this as well .

[@lencla1526]

Very nice and interesting video... I guess it will be tough to date in Japan.

[@VeRTiG091m]

I guess O-Bon it's just like the "Dia de Muertos" here in México, nice video btw i found your channel today, really interesting content ^-^

[@aspektx]

i believe that we would find that most pre-industrial societies saw marriage as a family affair and not as the sole concern of the two individuals involved. the difference is that some societies have maintained this attitude and it appears that Japan is reverting to it in a time of uncertainty and need. fascinating.

[@ANICHRONIMEX]

Like the "Day of the Dead" here on mexico, we prepare the family altars for our family member that have died.

[@uttblackboard]

Romance can happen at any age regardless of how old you are or who you are!!! Also if you're looking for a Japanese pen-pal you should try "japan-guide"

[@NarcoticRebel97]

@Sandman 42 A "Gaijin" means Foreigner or better yet, Outsider. People use this term mostly for somebody who is not japanese and maybe even someone who is japanese but grew up somewhere else, It is like the term "Otaku" which is like a fanatic or addict, you can be an Otaku for Anime and Manga (very common) or for robots or for many other criteria, i'm american of hispanic descent and i know 3 languages all latin based, i would love to learn japanese and visit Japan frequently, their culture sk

[@BabySealCIubber]

Very cute and enthusiastic. Omiai is tough!

[@ballerOG]

Oh, thanks for that information! Really nice video, you're extremely charming. :D

[@vesper8]

Komori.. thank you so much for your videos! They give a very interesting perspective on japanese culture.. perhaps as much just by studying your own demeanor as it is from the things you say! I was wondering if you could talk about something in your next video. I would like to know how a girl would feel if a gaijin told her he wanted to be friends and hang out but not escalate to a "love" relationship. is that something that doesn't happen in japan? men and women as buddies or sidekicks?

[@theteamgroundworksoriginal2332]

Gokon sounds like a low pressure, low risk, lots of fun way to meet someone.

[@3_E_E_E]

kawaaaiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii! i like ur the way of explanation ! its sounds interesting ! yum yum! hehe

[@komori841]

yes, it very unique Japanese culture, but have long history! Thanks for watching!

[@SpaceCattttt]

I've nothing against the group and/or family dating system. In fact, it feels sort of comfortably old-fashioned and traditional. My question is though: How is it looked upon if westerners come to Japan and join a group date? For example, I'm Swedish. Would it be OK for me to try to find a Japanese girlfriend at all, or would I be seen as a gajin, trying to steal away a Japanese lady from a Japanese man? Also, if a foreigner asks a Japanese girl out directly, will she still be shy? Or offended?

[@denisdralec1993]

Interesting concept, I had no idea things work that way in Japan. Even though I'm from the West, I agree that marriage is a family thing and that parents should have some influence.

[@komori841]

@CognitiveNetwork It must be strange for non Japanese, several of my oversea's friend said same way. Of course some time you can't find right girl, but Just be a friend are also nice. 1th in 5 time, you may find girl who suite you. So don't be scare it's common, that sometime you could not get any fuit from group dating!

[@bligeed1973]

hi komori841 i am an indonesian man who loves japan so much. like seriously i think japan is really cool with it's unique culture and kindness of the local people there and the ladies are very very kawaii (like you for example) so yeah i really wish i could get along with a japanese woman someday somehow and i have been trying to learn about japanese girls tipically from youtube videos and also i'm learning other things about japan such as the language and other things as well. so keep making great, useful informative videos and ummm... i love you. aishiteru! ^^

[@e.kadriev7907]

and did u get laid?

[@rickster008]

i love this way of dating, I'm likng japan more and more even after i went the first time. oh yeah, i'm from Brooklyn, New York. i've visited japan once last year and LOVED saying there. my plan is to leave New York in the coming years to live in japan. I'm currently a beginner at learning the japanese language. I've learned watching some drama shows, listening to a podcast called japancast,net. the cuture and history i've studied independently from junior high in to college. I want to return to japan and meet my friends again, they were so nice and kind. it was something that i didn't ever experience here in New York. When i arrived there it was like i've finally reached a Home that i've only read about and seen pictures of. when leaving i became a bit down cause i didn't want to leave. My friends that i've met there wanted me to stay and i wanted to but couldn't. but what i'm saying is i fell in love with japan and i'm gonna come back someday

[@ImaRamblingman]

I should have been born in Japan. I can connect with so many of the traits/characteristics outlined in these videos.

[@super12343a]

plus tons of people are stuck in their ways and we cant change that fact even if he is wrong.

[@CrashKunio]

You have a verry pleasant personality.

[@katieembry4131]

Of course, she is Japanese.

[@JMRWIGGLES]

until she gets mad

[@katieembry4131]

They never get mad..

[@JMRWIGGLES]

try marrying one and living here in japan.

[@HerrRelke]

Japanese are very insincere and double- faces people. Don't be delude by their "politness", in many cases is just looking good on the surface.

[@akosha843]

i have japanese friend but he tells me families in japan are not very close..not as close as you say, more like some what distant to each other..maybe he's a different kind of japanese ? keep going i really like ur videos...plus u are so cuuute

[@komori841]

Sounds somewhat true ... It's very recent ( last 10 year!?) trend, I think. Some Woman get louder and louder...and they got new nick name "carnivore girls" Some man like it and some not. And man who are rather quiet and shy called "herbivore boys" It's very recent trend !

[@resumacast]

I am a brazilian with a japanese girlfriend I never met personally. She's coming to Brazil for NYersEve. Hotels by the beach are expensive ( about US300 per night). I thought of asking to share a room with her so it gets cheaper for her. I have a friends house to stay with 5 people more. So I let her decide if she wants to get a room just for her or stay with us.I was worried of being anti-romantic to offer this. Thanks to your advice I think I did the right thing. What do you think? Thanx!

[@wilsonong3562]

Hello komori841! I am glad you are multi-cultured so as to be able to articulatedly explain in detail the Japanese way of life. Traditionally, Asians such as Japanese, Chinese, korean...are'nt that good in explaining themselve clearly to an english-speaking crowd. Thank you very much for sharing things not found in textbooks!

[@tekyking7234]

I really do love your personality. An i can't see that your married I'm happy for you. Also I do love what the Japanese do when it comes to dating and getting to know about each other.

[@fuzzypaws17]

Nice video. Thanks for teaching the world about the Obon custom. I will be back in Hokkaido next month to spend the Obon with my wife's family there. I do this every August... Wow it sounds like you have much experience meeting men. ;) I don't think you are so shy are you? haha

[@yasashii89]

However, that doesnt mean you will find a girl who likes you for you, most of the time you're gonna find either someone whos using you to practice their english, someone who has this romantic unrealistic view of western men or its gonna be someone who just wants you for the novelty of having a foreign bf. usually its a combination of the three.

[@OSILVEROBULLETO]

Just so you know, the term "Lover" in English, is usually assumed as "Sex partner." (Not always though). A more casual term is "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" or "partner."

[@Nangel2]

I was just considering asking for an episode on that subject too!

[@phylad]

Could you please explain how to do Purikura - the fun photo booths? At 400 yen each, it is expensive to use when we don't know all the choices. I read kana, but very little kanji, and not fast enough to push the buttons! Any tips would be helpful, thanks.

[@juggerknot9]

I hate to admit it but it actually makes sense. If the families are more involved, then it will create less stress among what we Westerners complain about...the 'In-Laws'. It also might give more insight as to why Japan's divorce rate is considerably lower than the West. One of the main factors that causes stress on any marriage (besides money) is family.

[@TokyoGorilla]

Jotsan... Yes they are my friend. Im Hispanic and Ive been living here in Tokyo for 5 years. Japanese girls are very cool.

[@komori841]

Verdie09 I see !! Sorry I could not get it. In Japan recent days, the man called　”herbivore men” are getting status. CNN also comment about this words. These men are less proactive, but Japanese woman gradually start to understand these men are honesty and not pretended and make woman happier. So do not worry, its not necessary to worry anything！ Shyness means, you are not get used to, and its positive factor either .

[@AaronLacyJr]

That was nice to hear. All of the information about Japan sounded great. I want to see more posts. I am looking for a wife in Japan. I am sure you know Japanese women.

[@CharlesNowak01]

You've mentioned about group dating. How/ where could someone find a number to a companies that deals with this short information? In America we have like a dating websites that anyone around the world can access and look up any nationalities. Of course the second step is by going on the first dat and so an so fourth after the first date. Could you be a little clear on how to find a company that will help you forum a group dating scene in Japan.

[@johnbaptist7082]

In Greece we find love in our summer vacations mostly. Anyway it's sad to know that people now days can't find love.

[@komori841]

+John Baptist It's sounds more attractive!! I wanna know how it really like.

[@johnbaptist7082]

Well Greece has really beautiful sea and beaches and a very bright sun. So the environment helps the mood for love I guess hahaha.

[@tengumann]

+John Baptist ti malakies les sthn kopela re? xD

[@johnbaptist7082]

greek kamaki man mou

[@MremmanuelX]

+John Baptist Inta pelos pou ice re XD

[@joeduece1]

thanks for the info. I learning so much : )

[@influxiam]

i think it is interesting how we live on the same planet, yet we are worlds apart. Your culture is harmonious with nature, even human nature. My American culture is out of touch with nature (completely) even with human nature. It feels very refreshing to hear how Japanese culture views dating and marriage as things to treat as sacred. I get absolutely no sexual vibe from your speech or any innuendo apart from your complete natural sincerity to show us how things are viewed in Japan. Great video

[@Shenruss]

Question: How has current [2016+) improvement in social media impacted dating and interaction in Japan? And is there a difference in partners looking for casual "hook ups" or pure sexual liaisons, and for deeper romance?