How to Get Your Home in Order When You Have No Focus

[@amberturner5986]

Focus during menopause is a REAL struggle. I think part of my struggle with focus also has to do with my LACK of sleep. I am waking up multiple times during the night and it seems to take a while to get back to sleep.

[@patticoppla8440]

Oh boy, do I know what you're talking about!

[@LuanaOnMaui]

Yes, yes, yes!!

[@jkp62]

When I was going through menopause and the interrupted sleep, I did a few things: took 3mg slow release melatonin about an hour before bedtime, a cup of sleepy time or chamomile tea, a warm shower just before bed, a small table fan on my bedside table, no electronics an hour or two before bed and keeping the temp in our bedroom to 62F during the cold months but keep layers of blankets on the bed. Those little things really helped, especially when the night sweats were horrible! And I also exercised first thing in the morning before getting ready for work, it helped start my day and to focus.

[@InDes10]

Also, please look into vitamins to take for mental clarity/focus/brain fog. Of course consult your doctor but there are natural supplements out there to combat that.😊

[@nelp7935]

Amber I hear you! The exact same thing has been happening with my sleep since I hit a certain age, so this video + your comment brought comfort to me… I am NOT ALONE😂

[@irmajeannava]

Thank You Nikki...I cried because you have helped me so much to understand what i am going through ... Thank You Thank You

[@sharonceaser-wheeler3364]

Yes, I have to write it down to stay focus as well.

[@denisekirshenbaum7798]

Wow, I didn’t realize that’s what my problem is! The struggle is real!!

[@pspr1149]

Nikki, your transparency is appreciated. All the best to you.

[@k.anderson763]

I literally have been expressing this very topic for some time. I have even prayed about this…the need to keep things simplified. At almost 50, mindset and life has shifted…tremendously.

[@eyelashalot]

i typically to comment o someone comment lol,however your reading your comment is like it literally describe exactly what happening to me i live be 50 in July , my thoughts feelin about so many things is so different than even 3 or 2 years ago, i have not understood why i feel how i do by my thoughts have shifted and not because theres some tramatic experience i'm going through, because i know that can be a cause for people. Reading your comment confirms it for me and i am a believer and follower of God.

[@eyelashalot]

major typos happening talking and typing i def can not do anymore.

[@NavymomProud]

I’ll be 72 in a month so I’m way past menopause but focus is an issue I struggle with also. You’ve shared some great ideas, some of which I’m already doing-if I don’t write it down it’s probably not happening 😊. Prioritizing what’s important is one of the biggest blessings. Family first, chores later. Thanks for letting us into your life.

[@joancashio8288]

One of my doctors told me that menopause nnever ends. I'm 75 and I believe him. That was really food for thought.

[@denisekirshenbaum7798]

Yes, this video was very helpful, thank you!

[@michellejohnson865]

You are a woman after my own heart. Thanks for this video much needed. Had a situation that lead to a move and now no one has offered to assist even though I am also going through Chemo. This video was perfect for me today. I am learning to rest more. ❤

[@bridgettemichele2386]

Many prayers to you🙏🏿🧡

[@pooh19818119]

@Michelle Johnson, you are in my prayers. May God heal you and send a perfect physical helper

[@pancakequeen]

I hope you are able to rest and heal. ❤

[@pfcampos7041]

I feel you going through a very similar situation.

[@mrslavanderblu]

Awww, God bless you. May you regain the strength you need to live your life well. I’m suffering from anemia and fibroids, and am trying very hard to avoid a hysterectomy, but it’s tough managing the lack of focus and fatigue alone. This video was helpful to me, too.

[@sues4239]

OMGosh…I liked and I’m saving this video so I can refer back to it. This is some great info. I’m going to share it with my husband of 34 years so I can show…it’s NOT only me. 😜

[@peggythomason2100]

This a timely video for me. A diagnosis of a wonky parathyroid is offering challenges. Its symptoms are fatigue, muscle and joint pain, sleep problems, etc. Having already went through menopause its frustrating. Surgery will cure it but that is a process too. Thank you for the gentle reminders we needed.💯❤️

[@tynia305]

I need this video. I’m not motivated but I know I need to get my home in order.

[@kTorres007]

It's taking me sometime to get motivated. This was the cherry on top to get me there. Regain some focus Hun you will get there when the time is right. 🥹

[@vulpixelful]

I'm pre-menopause but have ADHD, so good to know there's more focus issues to look forward to 🙃 But on the plus side, these tips are helpful for ADHD as well.

[@melindagibson6358]

So lovely. Thank you for your compassionate care and practical tips.

[@vickiwest4149]

🥰 Clearly this spoke to many of us in similar situations. When I started that season 10-12 years ago (wow!!) I kept paper and pen nearby at all times. I could hardly make it to another room without forgetting something. And simplifying my times of rest, solitude, activities was critical over the next (past) 10 years. There are certain days/times that I guard from distractions. All great tips, and I love seeing the comments below from others who can empathize. Thanks for these mid-week boosts of encouragement and wisdom. Hugs!!

[@selenapinckney7074]

Hi from NJ! I’m 55 and I’m a nap girl too! Used to be ashamed to tell people but now I realize there’s no shame in it! Thanks for sharing!!!

[@wendybcardinale]

Such useful and constructive content, thank you. Between being post menopausal and living with ADHD, this video is giving me some roadmaps to follow, it's much appreciated!

[@ngonigriffith1491]

12:00 Ask for help. This is so true. I am a caregiver to both of my parents and I would run errands, do housework, take care of my parents, in addition to taking care of the yard. Well, we hired a gardener because I was running myself ragged. So glad we have a gardener. That relieves a lot of stress on me!

[@AquaFrost777]

Caregiving is so difficult. I hope you are able to take a little time off every week for yourself, get a massage or pedicure. People who have never been caregivers of patents have no clue how truly draining it can be. However, it is also so rewarding and a beautiful gift your parents.

[@wildcat0]

Nikki, this is one of your best videos, and I love them all! I'm guessing you and I must be very close in age. I think it boils down to this...give yourself grace! Embrace where you're at in life. Do the best you can, at your pace, and rest when you need to. I'm bad at pushing through a nap phase, when in reality, I would be refreshed and have a better attitude to do more if I just went with it. I'll have to refer back to this video from time to time. XO

[@sylviagray4206]

Girl, I struggle with organization. By the look of your home, doesn’t seem like your struggling with anything. It’s always so beautiful! I need to be your BFF so you can help me do this 😁. Thanks for sharing.

[@kTorres007]

As a long time subscriber, I whole heartily recommend watching some of her past content on organization. She's a rockstar 🙂

[@Hazeleyesinlove]

So pleased to see your channel growing. I remember finding you first almost 10 years ago! Wishing you much success! ❤

[@Jen39x]

Needed this! Getting up and getting going has been struggle since last winter when I had a minor back problem. I work from home so I wouldn’t dress until the pain killers were working. It’s been tough to get back to showering first thing. The crazy thing is that everything goes so much better when I do and the day is a mess if I don’t start it right you would think it would require a lot less to re-establish the habit

[@diannaprescott8257]

Thank you Nikki. A much needed topic for all women - not just for us in menopause. Thank you for reaffirming that we don't need to do and keep everything perfect! Just do what we can and take time out to "smell the roses" and enjoy life! Enjoying life is so important.

[@nicolegunn6887]

Thank you for your tips and making this video. This is exactly where I find myself.

[@latoylefaust]

Thank You Thank You Thank You for sharing. ❤ This is so needed and a subject that needs to be discussed more!

[@tequilatucker4991]

Thank you! Menopause + naturally emotional...no focus at all. I felt alone in this topic. I needed this.

[@charlenegoskowicz8220]

I refer to that situation, where I walk into a room and can't remember why, as "The Hereafter"--as in, " What did I come in here after?" Thank you for this video. Sometimes we need to be reassured that we aren't alone.

[@LindaM1976]

Great tips! Also I find that even a little exercise helps the mind and body. Even if it’s a walk around the block. This especially helps if you are going through menopause. Also decluttering has help me mentally.

[@kanthony9691]

This was a great video and perfect timing!

[@asianangel5400]

Your home truly reflects who you are. I love that you share these tips with us. I'm in my 40s and these tips help at any age. Perfection is not the goal, but the goal is personal and making progress is best.

[@maureenconley6006]

Thank You, thank you! You have hit the nail on the head for me. Knowing I am not alone with all the changes, mental, physical and on and on. Your tips for dealing with the day to day need to focus and feel accomplished and less stressed have opened my mind to making each day ahead happier.

[@UniqueDBySherita]

Perfect timing!

[@UniqueDBySherita]

I had to come back and say. I enjoyed this. Well needed. Thank you for sharing.

[@tjgraves6990]

Thank you, Nikki. This was so sweet. Simple, clear & encouraging.

[@123stephanieb]

The struggle is real sister! I appreciate this video and you being so transparent so we ladies of a certain age know we’re not alone. 😘

[@tinabennett8524]

Wow! I’m really impressed with how much helpful advice you were able to give in a short time! I was going through changes in recent years and had made many of these adjustments gradually and sometimes painfully. But having them listed one after another is helpful, because in the last year more changes are requiring more adaption. I have felt guilty at times for not being able to do what I did in the past. Our bodies and health change, makes sense that our habits and self expectations would need to adapt as well. I’m finding that taking a nap when needed, benefits not only my physical accomplishments, but my emotional well-being. It’s helped to remember how the children were cranky when they were tired, and make myself take a nap or a retreat so that I will be at my best and not cranky. Thanks it’s so helpful to have this, and I’m going to watch it again, probably take notes!

[@Ummto03]

Hey Nikki. This content was very helpful.😊

[@stephabunch]

Thank you nikki I need this kind of guidance!!

[@nelp7935]

Thank you SO much Nikki! I have been struggling to focus so much & feeling like I’ve accomplished nothing at the end of each day. My “brain fog” has been terrible, so this video brought me comfort. Thank you for sharing 😘☺️

[@Peacebunch]

This is so needed. Thank you! I am in menopause and did not read much about the process beforehand. So I am now playing catch-up and making life adjustments. I went through “cold” and did not seek out resources. I am now adjusting my diet and my habits to have a better now. Lol. This video is perfect timing! Also, welcome to North Carolina. I have been here all my life but it’s a beautiful state.

[@elizabethcastensen7092]

Thanks Nikki, love your videos. Love from Australia ❤️

[@rosieroberts6738]

I am 62 now also!!! I understand 100%!!! 😆🤣😂🤪😜 You gave some very good advice!!! Thank you for sharing!!! You’re the BEST!!!😊😃😄🥰

[@mlwashington4118]

You are so right. Trying to get back in the groove of painting. I turned on some old school R&B Christmas tunes and made it through before I knew it.

[@ariyaelle]

I agree on ‘to-do lists out of this world’. Thanks for your tips. Love the new look of your home!

[@sizzlinbacon9718]

Another one you’ve hit out of the park!! Thank you; and YES, music cures a multitude of sins.😸 Motown/60’s Baby!! 🎼🎷🎹🎤😄 Thank you, Miss Nikki.

[@nicolatill5499]

Love this! Thank you Nikki xx

[@UnruleeJulee]

Hi Nikki!! I enjoy your videos so much, keep them coming. God bless 🙏🏻

[@meeniegoonie5818]

Right there with you Nikki, the struggle is no joke. The multiple layers of stress at 54 - I think back at when I was 14 with no worries on every level. My God, no wonder I've been wondering, what's missing what's missing? Carefree youth. Sigh. It's ok. We're warriors ! We keep fighting for the good and right amid so many obstacles- and we'll get there. You better believe it ❤❤❤❤F.A.I.T H. LOVE YOU NIKKI! All others pale in comparison. You are STILL hands down the real deal, top shelf. You always will be.

[@paulainaustria9180]

Never before have I heard about the connection between focus and menopause. What an eye opener your channel is. Thank you Nikki, for bringing up this topic and - for being such a kind mentor. Greetings from Austria, Paula

[@teresaharris2279]

Thank you ! Focus is a huge issue for so many these days !!!

[@yaff1kimball584]

Again thank you for inspiring me 🥰

[@thehoylecakefiles8675]

Sis I am so glad I found your channel… I’m feeling all you’re saying. I have Hashimoto’s and Myasthenia Gravis…autoimmune diseases that can obliterate focus and motivation. I’m loving each video on your channel that I keep coming across. Thank you🌺

[@maryrabish00]

I love that you are a nap girl! I feel naps make me have that spark to get so much more done! Especially since my sleep is so bad during the nite because of menopause! I've tried going without naps too to see if I would sleep better at nite and nope doesn't work! Naps for life! 😅

[@missg8183]

Love this so much, thank you! So helpful

[@alip1862]

We Appreciate U" for your ability to let us know we are NOT alone out here with everyday things that overwhelm us daily🌿 your words and Insight are Tremendously Appreciated..Thanks Nikki ☺️ and we definitely appreciate your Continued CONTENT AS WELL, KEEP IT COMING!!!! WE LOVE YOU HERE IN NYC🙌

[@reneel2502]

Nikki this was really helpful!

[@user-on7zd8yi8g]

I have that book, I haven’t read it yet. What a great idea to read to each other while driving or otherwise!

[@Choclatcotton]

Thanks great advice!!! Love it 80’s girl here

[@JSR-MD]

Really lovely talk throughout ❤

[@Patricia-xs9xt]

Thank you for your voice of wisdom!

[@dm3988]

Finally! I am perimenopausal and I have noticed the same thing too.

[@rachaelnuchols764]

I'm going through menopause as well...can ssssoooo relate! Can't do hormones because of our hx of breast cancer so I just have to try other things, diet, vitamins, etc. So VERY HARD. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING ❤ Love and prayers for you

[@debbiemize2269]

Wow, Nikki! This was just what I needed to hear today! I have done fairly well with establishing routines, but when something or someone throws them off, it takes me a while to get back in the groove! I never associated menopause with the lack of focus. I had a hysterectomy at age 46, and was on hormone replacement therapy until I was 60. Now at 70, I still occasionally have the hot flashes and loss of focus. That’s where established routines really help. Love all your fabulous tips!

[@AgoristsRising]

Powerful! I just love every point you provided. This video is just what I needed to focus 🤗

[@saquoryasmith8712]

I'm approaching 40 this year and I have a 2 yr old AND a stationery business, marriage, and my husband also has a business and our spiritual life keeps us soooo busy and lately I have been struggling with focus. I appreciate your transparency on this topic. I'm trying to declutter but then I get unmotivated again and nothing gets done and I feel set back

[@sharonpragacz4768]

Thank you, I’ve been so encouraged by watching your videos and I watch them twice so I can make notes . What I’m trying to learn to get things done so I can like myself even maybe like myself as much as I like you !

[@carlapratt5198]

Yes, I'm at that age too. This helps a lot because I do struggle with focus. Thanks!

[@717gisele]

Hi! Your video just popped up in my feed and I have to tell you that it was a tremendous answer to some, I hate to say, desperate prayers. I see a comment from another 72 year old like myself, obviously menopause was awhile ago…. But in the last couple years have been suffering with changes, lack of focus and motivation, etc. Had become so self-critical to the point my mental health is not good! I felt the darkness just evaporate after hearing you explain changes a woman can go thru in this video. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. Now I look forward to watching all your videos…. You are such a lovely lady🤍🤍🤍🤍

[@dorothywoodard1969]

TRUE! TRUE! TRUE!

[@climenearruda843]

Yes, all of a sudden you LOSE focus ! Thank you for this GREAT video !

[@monicaphillips163]

Thank you for sharing

[@climenearruda843]

I am important and relaxing is important! I love that ! You are amazing, Nikki Can you pls do a video on block scheduling ?

[@irenebailey7670]

Thank you so much menopause have changed my life.

[@carolnewman8590]

Thank you Nikki!!!🌺🌸🌼

[@jukes243]

Thank you for this. I have trouble (with focus) due to stress and anxiety. Just this morning I asked God for help. And this evening I stumbled upon YOU. What you said makes perfect sense. Especially the part about turning off our computers. Well, I tried it. And wonder of wonders, I could actually hear myself think. I began to feel calmer and was able to get more accomplished because of it. WOW. Thanks! Nikki

[@user-on7zd8yi8g]

I love naps!

[@carrocena]

Thank you for this content, Nikki! I am the same age and this was great to hear!

[@kTorres007]

Nikki! Honey you are a God send. I have been a long time subscriber but have been away for a bit, your video popped right up and I clicked so fast. You have opened my eyes that this maybe something I'm facing. My lack of focus I had no idea where it was coming from. Thank you for your beautiful video well done my friend. Always a pleasure to experience your words tips and caring ways. Love from Tucson AZ

[@judithpresgrove739]

Dear Nikki, Oh,MY!! I am so glad I found you, again!! I was subscribed and didn't even know it!! We have recently moved back to Augusta, GA from Houston, TX, to retire, because our Son and his family live here. Well, we have downsized and it has been a nightmare. My brain just shut down and I cannot get it together. My husband, bless him, went back to work because, as he puts it "get out of the mess and the stress" ! We too have moved all over with my husband's career. In fact, we lived in Charleston, when Navel station was still there. My husband was on Nuclear subs. Anyway, I also am a designer (retired) if that is possible...but for the 1st time in all our moves it just is not happening. I have taken none of the advice I would give to a client and our home is just chaos! Your video was such a sweet spot in the road....thank you for your channel. ❤from GA

[@GeordieGrandma]

Just found your channel Nikki and this video was just what I needed right now! I loved the tip about not putting so much on your To Do list … I think we try to cram too many unnecessary things into our day. Thx for sharing xx

[@jeanwestackroyd2966]

Perfect Nikki. Thanks for sharing this.

[@lindag.9429]

This is a great video. I’m simplifying as we speak. I don’t want to manage a lot of things.

[@chunkychica1376]

Perfect topic at the perfect time. Thank you Nikki. 💐

[@z9designs]

Very helpful, thanks. You are so right about putting a task on paper.

[@horrisajones8933]

I so needed this video I am struggling everyday trying to stay focused and get things done thanks for sharing

[@happyfriday607]

I agree.. 😂 ive been addicted to tiktok the past weeks , coz its funny , makes me laugh and a lot of information there..however, i noticed that i becoming behind for what matter most.. so, I scheduled the digital time on my planner. i felt much better 😊

[@neldahughes9629]

Thank you Nikki you are talking to me.

[@FineNaturalHairandFaith]

omg Nikki. I have been struggling so much with focus. I start so many things and don't finish. My brain seems to be scattered all over the place. I had a car accident on Monday. I was not focused. This is really concerning me. What I do know is that when I was doing keto and ketosis, I was laser focused and that was only last year. So I think I'm going to go back to that

[@jodeemichell9415]

I’m so glad to see this

[@rikarowland143]

So admire you for your confidence and openness!

[@totallyaboutdiabetes1776]

That is a great book 📖

[@gypsybelle4757]

Nikki, I can always turn to you for honest and real insights for real life issues. Thank you for this gift to us all. It helps me feel supported and not so hopeless. God bless you!

[@lizzylou3142]

Nikki!!! Girl, you hit the nail today. Menopause thieving monster! I go to bed with rain sounds or classical music, read more to help focus, take breaks during work. Trying to do too many things at this juncture is a no-no. Can't tell you how much stuff I've lost or misplaced because I'm not focusing on what I'm doing right now. I wok say that stretching first thing in the morning had really helped a lot. I work to keep clutter to a minimum bc disorganization impacts focus or is cyclical rather. Great post, thank you.

[@teresamurray9225]

Yes all of your tips are great . 👍 welcome to menopuase . Lets embrace it. I love your videos. You are inspiring.

[@susanwalton1231]

I really appreciate your honesty. I have this issue and more. Thank you

[@hazelmeldrum5860]

At the moment in the UK there is a campaign on the menopause one of the go getter TV person published a book and the talk hostesses are all over it

[@EarthseedDetroit]

Really appreciate this video and the down to earth tips, your vulnerability is inspiring too! Thank you !

[@lyncrawford3349]

Nicki, you mentioned using eucalyptus in the shower could you tell me what they are called please? Fantastic tips by the way. Best wishes from Northern Ireland. xxx ❤️❤️❤️

[@klomax7089]

Excellent video and very timely for me. I hit the phenomenon of menopause 2 years ago and felt so crazy most days. I even tried to celebrate my hubby’s bday 2 days early cuz I simply lost focus and was in a Fog most days. It has smoothed out now thankfully, but I do have to be very intentional, very mindful of what I need to do and when, else I will be that one in the room saying “now what was I doing” all day long 😂. So thank you for your perspective and tips to help. I will be sending this video to my Friend-girls 😉🥰😉

[@a.g.662]

Appreciate you giving a voice to this very real yet elusive problem. Thanks for giving practical advice to deal with it too.

[@jennyanndunstan]

thanks Nikki for the tips