How To Go From Small Talk To Deep Conversation

[@chad.littlefield]

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[@94VandalFavorites]

Chad this video is so helpful. I am facilitating a meeting with a group of people who have been displaced after an unexpected disaster uprooted them from their worplace. I want to help them have deeper conversations and build trust be vulnerable with each other. The general feeling is that everyone is isolated and alone. This is a fantastic springboard to facilitating my coaching session! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and joy with us!!

[@chad.littlefield]

Laura, this is SUCH important work that you are doing. It very literally could be life changing for the folks in the space. So glad this video could help along this journey!

[@SilipaVakaloloma-id6iu]

Thank you for your presentation this is eyes opening

[@TatianaTeachesOnline]

I couldn’t agree with you more, Chad. Genuine curiosity is at the heart of all real talks I’ve had. Btw, I teach public speaking at Rutgers. Heard you mention you did a workshop at RU. Awesome!

[@chad.littlefield]

Indeed, I actually have a call with Rutgers folks this afternoon. I led a kickoff keynote/workshop for the Rutgers Cooperative Extension annual (virtual) conference. Was a great group! There are a good crowd of folks using our cards/tools at Rutgers actually. Perhaps you'll see them in the wild.

[@TatianaTeachesOnline]

@@chad.littlefield Great analogy. The university is so big that chances are slim but you never know ;) Glad you had a good experience!

[@chad.littlefield]

@@TatianaTeachesOnline I've because quite accustomed to being surprised in this life, ha! A video that is going live next week features my mother-in-law who teaches public speaking at Penn State, btw. It features a cool idea on how to facilitate a debate in the classroom. Glad to be connected here. Cheers.

[@wape3300]

I needed this today! Loved the personal piece on your relationship with your wife and curiosity. Thank you!

[@chad.littlefield]

Glad this was the perfect thought at the perfect time, Pablo! Kate and I actually had a check-in today and I relearned this lesson (about 5x in 45 minutes, ha!)

[@robinsoncajamarca7241]

Another great video Chad! I really liked how you gave us sort of an "assignment" to be curious 3 times today. Really motivated me to try it out and learn from the experience! Greatly appreciate your insight. I've definitely been trying a lot of your tools from your videos. Specifically on starting more questions with what and how! Thanks a lot Chad! Looking forward to future videos! I've also looked into the book The Art of Gathering, you mentioned in one of your comments!

[@chad.littlefield]

It is a dynamite book for sure! You can search for some podcasts from the author, Priya Parker, as well. Great examples and anecdotes of really unconventional, yet effective ways to gather.

[@itsreallyrona]

wow this video is so helpful! Thank you!

[@chad.littlefield]

Rona, so glad to hear it! That is what every video on my channel is intended to do: be super helpful. There are a handful others on how to create conversations that matter as well. The videos are categorized on this page in case that is useful: kzbin.info

[@itsreallyrona]

@@chad.littlefield thank you for that! I’ll check it out soon!

[@DavidsDogma39]

A gem 💎

[@chad.littlefield]

Thanks a ton! Glad you landed on this in the right moment 👍👍

[@priyanshugautam4318]

My godd I thought you would've 1M subscribers...!! Top Notch content...!!

[@chad.littlefield]

Aww! Thank you...yeah, we've gotta get the KZbin algorithm onboard haha.

[@NEscobar66]

got to work that curiosity "muscle" daily! Love this Chad!

[@chad.littlefield]

Whenever I forgot to, it atrophies for sure!

[@christopherschneider193]

Love this. Will be putting this into action. I love the plants. Is that still your home? Also how do you navigate the tension between curiosity and tact? I could envision this kind of curiosity pushing people beyond what they are comfortable sharing.

[@chad.littlefield]

This is in a studio nearby my home. Indeed, curiosity can become nosiness WITHOUT empathy. The key is really empathetic curiosity. The vast majority of people appreciate when somebody cares enough to ask. Because...most people don't. Even if they care, they don't ask. Does that help?

[@winterbeast6326]

Maybe it's just me but I feel like I'm being boring when I do that. It's like you need to be in a special state of mind to actually be able to get to that point of interest.

[@chad.littlefield]

When you do what?

[@winterbeast6326]

@@chad.littlefield I guess when I try to ask more questions to get into deeper conversations?

[@chad.littlefield]

@@winterbeast6326 there is definitely a balance. A conversation without self disclosure is an interrogation. But generally, I do lean toward making an effort to be more interested and less caught up or worried about being interesting.

[@luizinhobolinha]

Idk, sometimes I feel some people just want to tell me their affairs and I don't get to tell them about mine

[@chad.littlefield]

Totally! This is a follow up video that addresses the dynamic you are mentioning here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sHTLm4OrncmaftU

[@MegaMissfitz]

Never mind the small talk! How are we in the physical? emotional? & mental dept? 👎😤👍

[@larrychase8305]

Where was your week long canoe trip?

[@chad.littlefield]

Maine. 70 miles of ZERO cell reception. It was wonderful.

[@jenderarevalo]

Didn't understand nothing from this guy just talking about others

[@chad.littlefield]

Oh the irony.