How to Grieve a Great Loss: Tim Challies Interview - The Becket Cook Show Ep. 114

[@BecketCook]

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[@celiafish]

My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was 15 years old, she passed 3 years later. The process of grieving was very hard, people in church will tell them to look to the future and be happy because she was in Heaven… I couldn’t find anyone that will sit with me and just let me cry for my loss… I walked away from the church… for a whole year. Some believers will also said very hurtful things like my mom might had hidden sin and that was the main reason she didn’t receive Gods healing. I felt that God s favor left us… and my grief got worse . One day after work a friend invited me to a home group and I during worship the leader just put his hand on my shoulder and said “ It s Ok… God wants your pain and disappointment… let God the Father comfort you” I cried like a baby and felt God s loving embraced taking away my sorrow” and then the process of healing started for me .As a believer I learn that I also was called to cry with those who cry” I saw many healings in my church… I do believe in physical healing. We “ need eternal perspective” as the author of the book said. At the same time we need to believed in God s power to heal now on earth.

[@Kredwhiner]

My sister lost her 22 year old son. She had 2 sons and we had 3 sons. They were all close in age. Our hearts were all broken but I couldn’t truly know her grief. One day she told me that the night before she stood outside in the freezing cold with no coat, for so long that she was shaking and her teeth were chattering. I asked her why she did that and she said she wanted to feel something besides her grief. Then I had a small picture of what she was going through.

[@judymartuscello114]

Wow!!! That is pain! Praying for her!

[@theeggtimertictic1136]

She instinctively knew what to do. Cold water swimming is good for depression for that very reason ... it acts as a sort of shock treatment. It's a terrible loss to lose a child.

[@evalehde3869]

I get that. I used to not understand people who self harm. But in the past year there have been times times the emotional pain has been so great, I considered physically hurting myself, hoping it would overwhelm the emotional.

[@JFH-te4lu]

Thank you for sharing you sister's story. I was prepared for my husband's death after 4+ years of marriage from ALS. He was very healthy and was a runner. He passed after only a few months. I still grieve, sometimes out of the blue. I know God is my strength. Some days it feels so far away, though.

[@mieradesigns1015]

When I lost my husband suddenly and unexpectedly to a heart condition, all I could say is God is sovereign, God is sovereign, God is sovereign! I actually had never said that before and I have been a Christian for over 40 years and that is what the Holy Spirit put in my heart. Praise the Lord! It was the hardest time of my life, and yet it is true, God is sovereign!

[@linak7155]

The Father came by your side at that moment n gave you the strength to pronounce that praise during your time of need. Praised be YeHoVaH! One day we will be reunited with those who have trusted in Him to their last breath. Oh What a Day that will Be!! 🙏🤗

[@cegoble1]

So true! It’s been a year since I lost my husband and I continually tell myself that! And remind myself of the joy that I will spend eternity with him walking the streets of heaven.

[@linak7155]

Hang on Connie! One day at a time! Just this morning, I was reading an article about the different types of loss we suffer in this life. We are born to die. It is a journey with a destination: the resurrection of the dead n eternity What a joyous day that will be! 💐 🫂

[@pamelaabettis7225]

My youngest son passed away at 22 & I agree that it became the worst time but the best time in my life because I came to know my God more intimately than I could have not known any other way. I still agree that head knowledge of Him became heart knowledge.

[@gowanderlustwithme]

Lost my mother to suicide. Grief is tough. Gratefully, Christ is the great healer.

[@kimalonzo3363]

So sorry. My mom has attempted suicide 4 times that I know of. She is diagnosed bipolar and psychotic.

[@judymartuscello114]

Praying for you ❤

[@roxidavis3580]

Lost a brother in Christ due to suicide recently, our whole town is grieving… Hugs and prayers in the midst of your loss!!!

[@ragamuffin2829]

Suicides hit different. My Dad took his life recently. Know there are others who truly understand the chasm of grief it brings. God knows it even better than us and He is with us always 🙏

[@tinekedijk7385]

I too lost a beautiful son . The knowledge he is with Jesus has been a constant comfort!

[@smiller6925]

Last May my daughter was murdered. Without Jesus, I would be dead. He gives me the strength to go on.

[@carynmason3421]

I love these two godly, God-fearing, Christ exalting brothers! What a gift to the Body of Christ. This was an important conversation. Thank you.

[@jeng8000]

Amen!

[@nataliecd8966]

Thank you for doing this. Tim Challies was my pastor, and his son was a delightful and friendly young man. He was witty and had a great sense of humour.

[@ProdSangreNueva]

My heart is kind of broke and joyful at the same time because of the hope we all have. God bless you all!

[@maryowen1722]

Such a Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful Saint!! What an honor to call him Brother!!✝️💟

[@sheilacollins7238]

My son passed away at 14 in 1999 from bone cancer. For 2 1/2 years he went threw treatment. I don't have an answer as to why he was taken so young, but my hope Is in the Lord. I know I will be reunited with my son when I leave this world. God has his reasons. I don't know what I would do without the Lord. He gives me strength. Thank you for this podcast I will have to read the book.

[@kimalonzo3363]

❤

[@karenfisher4170]

[@teresahotta]

So very very sorry for your loss.

[@PyrPupMom]

I lost my 7 year old son in 1999 from a brain tumor😢

[@kimalonzo3363]

@@PyrPupMom I am so sorry to hear that. Love to you.

[@Sandra-cm1du]

Becket I love your show. You are such a good man. You always inspire me in my walk with the Lord. :)

[@thecrew777]

Tim Challies and his family are true lights for a Christian culture who has lost Biblical hope. I'm so grateful for his willingness to share with the rest of us. Thank you for having him on, Becket!

[@jclilstar1973]

Thank you Becket for this inter. My son Jesse committed suicide in November 2022. He walked away from God when he was young. I have so many questions about if hes in heaven or hell. I got this book from a my counselor, so i know its best I read it snd see from another parents Christian perspective on me keeping my eyes on the Lord. If it wasn't for the Lord, I would not know where i would be

[@PyrPupMom]

❤

[@Hi-fe2rg]

Thank you. My son passed away in October. 13 days before his 37th birthday. We were so blessed that the Heavenly Father chose to heal him this way. We miss him, but he's in the Father's loving arms now. Thanks for this video gentlemen. I truly appreciate it.

[@andreaharris7397]

This reminds me of the young boy who had to put down his favorite calf: as he did so he was asking God why because the calf was special to him. He said that God answered, " My son was special too, and I lost Him." So God understands our grief.

[@linak7155]

We have some brothers in the faith who are grieving over their teen son's unexpected suicide. Their sorrow is deep. Last week the Dad had to throw dirt over his son's coffin. In spite of their grief the family is grounded in a living hope and have expressed thankfulness to our heavenly Father for the 15 years they had with him.

[@lynnparent5565]

Wow that's tough...Only God can carry hearts thru that

[@judymartuscello114]

Praying for you ❤❤❤

[@melodysledgister2468]

I’m glad your friends are beginning this journey with the Lord. It’s the best place to begin. But please don’t abandon them along the way, thinking they are healed. It can take a long time, longer than is comfortable for the grieving and those who walk with them. Don’t try to rush them through the process. Even if you experience a great loss yourself, remember each grief is unique. You can never totally understand another’s. But it really helps if they are not abandoned. Listening is good. You don’t always have to say anything, or try to force them to talk. You can’t fix this, but you can love you friends and pray for them.

[@melodysledgister2468]

Bless all of you for listening to this podcast! Bless you, Beckett, for interviewing Tim. From my own experience, I appreciate and affirm everything Tim is saying. He has a much needed message, especially for believers experiencing deep grief.

[@zin153]

Wow! Imagine having a dad like Tim. How fortunate are his kids. Wonderfully encouraging interview.

[@joshjohnson8066]

Sweet and tender conversation. I remember hearing about Tim's loss a while back. Sad stuff. I grew up with no dad, basically, and no positive male influences. I've never been married or have had children. I'm 46 now. Can't imagine losing a child.

[@bettycarmella1127]

This was really sobering. Hearing his story and how strong his faith is inspires me so much! Thank you both brothers❤️🙏🏽

[@SoundsofGladness]

Another great show Becket. I pray for strength for Tim and his family. A great testimony to God faithfulness to be with us till the end. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@patsmuland463]

Thank you so much Becket. What wonderful exhortation to trust a loving, Sovereign God at all times.

[@wbl5649]

Thans for this, I needed it today. At 64 I have lost all my family and husband, and many friends. I have no children. It's hard and I'm trying to make a new life for myself, but still the loneliness and longing for those who have left ahead of me is so hard. Truly it's only the Lord who has really held me up and I praise Him. Today I was feeling extra sorrowful for some reason, then came across this post. I'll be sure to get Tim's book. XO

[@marcusvaughn7019]

A very heartfelt and honest interview. To me, and this is my personal opinion, we actually mourn for ourselves when we lose a loved one, especially if they were a Christian. God's ways are not our ways, and everything in our lives was known to our Father since before the creation of the world. “For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain,” I try to live with this knowledge each day. Good interview, God bless

[@itsbaxter2]

Thank you for this interview--a year ago today was my dad's last day on earth. God bless.

[@kimalonzo3363]

❤

[@etoiledemer7472]

reminds me of the story of Horatio Spafford, author of hymn "It Is Well With My Soul", also Brian Doerksen, his story about his children, once again, thank you Becket for this ministry 🙏🙏

[@judymartuscello114]

Steward your great losses! I have suffered many great personal losses during my life, much I can't even talk about. The idea that we can steward these is very profound. Sorrow gives us depth and compassion that we would not have otherwise! Most of my suffering has been the direct result of my past sins. This makes me appreciate God's forgiveness - since "he who is forgiven much loves much".

[@sharpsbattle]

It feels like most of my suffering is self inflicted. Not trying of course. It’s hard to understand Gods sovereignty in our mistakes. But He is.

[@louisebraiden5842]

I could see the pain in Tim’s eyes, but also his steadfast joy and hope that holds him up. May God continue to heal Tim and his family, and to use this experience for good and for His glory 🙏💜

[@BobbyDeneke]

The interview with Tim Challies was hard to watch. My heart both breaks and fears the deep pain people have endured from so unimaginable loss. When TC poised the question whether he had idolized his son, it convicted me. God bless Tim and his family throughout this huge loss.

[@jam1369]

Amen. YOU are NEVER alone, especially in Christ. How beautiful.

[@anjieobasa1871]

What is if your are in Christ but still are feeling lonely?

[@jam1369]

@@anjieobasa1871 Great question. Submit your feelings as well as your heart to the Lord. Ask him for what you need and speak his Word by faith. Ask Him to reveal himself. Worship through song is a great way to invite more of his presence in. He will answer. Feeling lonely is temporary and doesn't equate to being alone. God promises to never leave us. 💯

[@anjieobasa1871]

@@jam1369 What if I've done that already? What next? It's so hard to find true Christian friends too.

[@jam1369]

@@anjieobasa1871 Continue to do it. Stand fast. Be persistent in prayer and your faith. Sometimes the answer doesn't come right away, but it does come.

[@GraceOnly3]

When adding the restrictions & forced isolation of travel during covid as what Tim’s family also dealt with during their grief, this book is even more touching.

[@mandyh8771]

Goodness, this was emotional and so encouraging. Thank you to both of you. God bless you. ❤️

[@ybh8ful]

awesome guest! I've followed his blog somewhat, before & after the loss of Nick in this life. I remember the shock of finding out & then seeing Tim write and speak on it very faithfully. I've prayed for you & family, Tim! 💗🙏

[@elmaakeh5646]

Just beginning of the story my heart felt the pain.thank you Lord that you are still there to keep us stand in your grace.

[@sandjm4598]

I can’t tell you how grateful I am for this interview. I work at a Christian bookstore and saw this book on the shelf. I just lost my mom a couple months ago. I am finding grief to be a strange thing. Feeling both faith in my Creator and deep pain at the same time. I am learning for the first time in my life about lament. I ran across another book, called Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy that speaks of lament as well

[@byzyt6931]

I'm sorry for your loss. If you haven't read C.S. Lewis's "A Grief Observed," I would recommend that as well. God bless.

[@linak7155]

I am sorry about your grief right in the loss of your Dear Mom🌹Have you yet come across a book titled, Hope When Your Heart Is Breaking? It is authored by Ron Hutchcraft. I just read. It is an honest look at how our greatest loss can lead to our greatest gain. He wrote from the deep well of his own loss and grief, and points to practical steps that lead to peace n wholeness🕊️

[@Baezee2]

Becket, so happy to see you interviewing Tim. Also, I'm so grateful to have had the pleasure of hearing your testimony on KZbin. All the praise be to God!!! He does what is impossible in human terms, but what is only possible through Him. Keep pressing on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus!

[@roxidavis3580]

Thank you Bro Becket for bringing this interview forth! Right on point for me this week! Sharing! God bless you greatly!

[@deaniedodge7858]

Becket, Thank you for this interview with Pastor Tim… I’m still grappling with the loss of my young niece to brain cancer- the suffering of grief, watching my sister, (her mother) walk through it. I’m going to get this book for her- What Tim said about fear of God- fearing God- resonated with my soul. I’m so grateful my sister didn’t run away from God!

[@elizabethhonaker4855]

Over two years ago, my husband died suddenly in his sleep. I know something of the shock and horror Tim has gone through. However, I know nothing of familial support -- both of my children have shown animosity towards me, even though my husband and I were married for almost 50 years and were a Christian couple and family from the beginning. I often meditate on Job. This is so brave and encouraging to me.

[@dorothyhughes1061]

May the Lord comfort you in both of these great grief's.

[@recalltolife3478]

"He asked life of thee and thou gavest him long life -- even forever". On the head stone of a man who died young, two hundred years ago in Yorktown, Virginia. Psalm 21:4

[@Cristosaveskids]

I love your show Becket! Glory to Jesus for your life and your ministry. Thank you for this uplifting story! Aleluya!🌺🙏🌺🙏🌺🙏🌺🙏🌺🙏🌺🙏🌺🙏 Blessings from South Dakota ☺️

[@ab.5650]

My mom in love got this book and said it was wonderful. She recently lost her husband. 💜

[@Sunshine-lt6rp]

Excellent testimony and story, especially in these times of much death and murder. God bless You both!

[@cathywible8769]

This is so awesome! You guys are two of my favorite people to follow for biblical wisdom and information. I just gave Seasons of Sorrow today to a family I work for who lost their son. Praying it helps them as much as it did for me when I very tragically lost a close friend. After that I took a walk with my niece who said she listened to some Beckett guy and I said, Beckett Cook and she was like YES! Happened with many of my friends before too. We all think you're both great! Thought it was funny to see you pop up on my feed together when I just talked about both of you with 2 different people today 😊👍❤️ Thanking God for you both 👐

[@cynthiafisher9907]

Not funny, your phone heard you.

[@ruthieinion5613]

Thank you for this Becket! Tim is one of my favourite author and a blogger, I mourned with them like I belong to his family when his son died, but more than that, his strong faith with God is so edifying! I pray that there will be more Tim Challies and Becket Cook in this world!

[@Calling_All_Prodigals]

Becket, you are a blessing! Thank you for sharing this important work! I've shared this interview with relatives on my mother's side of the family: we lost all three siblings--my Mom & her two older brothers--all in their 80s--in 18 months recently. In a flash, her entire generation was gone. Then on my Dad's side, my oldest cousin lost his oldest granddaughter to a raging 8-week glioblastoma. She was only 9 years old.Thank God He is Sovereign. Without Him we have no hope. Many blessings.

[@BecketCook]

Thank you! God Bless

[@mytreasuredcreations]

Challie family! thank you for sharing your faithful testimony of Christ. This is so important in this faithless culture. Praise the Lord.

[@denisebeverage4814]

Tim Challies spoke with such grace and honesty in this interview. The book sounds like a wonderful help for those grieving. Thank you for having this guest, Becket. He is an inspiration and encouragement to everyone desiring to honor God even in great loss. May God bless Tim and his family.🙏🏼💕🕊️

[@Ledetms]

Thank you for this Beckett! My best friend just list her 18 year old granddaughter to a car crash. I will send this to her!

[@MiKa-jb7nq]

Having lost a son as well, I am so blessed to hear Tim's story of how he and his family are surviving and thriving, with God's help, the grief they are enduring. God is faithful, even when we experience the physical loss of a loved one, or a divorce, or debilitating illness... Especially in these days in which we live, we need to turn to His Word, prayer and knowledge that He is coming back for us very soon! Thank you Becket for having such hope-filled guests on your show.

[@jerryloufretz1797]

Christ, our hope! Thank you for highlighting this book. I will be gifting people with this book.

[@carolinelvsewe]

This is crazy, I was just trying to find Mr Challie’s book “Devoted” for mom’s praying for the salvation of their grown children. (The book was mentioned in an IG post”) I found it after being recommended every book by a similar name, but his book. Then I find it and come to your channel and the author is your guest. Divine appointment?

[@hephep7426]

Providence for sure!❤ or the YT algorythm😂

[@normalutz1618]

Yes, when we are weak and humbled He is there.

[@Hopeandgrace2]

How touching! How profound!

[@ragamuffin2829]

Feeling justified hearing a lot of the language I've been using as I go through a season of sorrow. I've frequently chalked things up to "grief brain" because I can see certain behaviours and words are different to what I would have done before. Loved hearing being put into words certain ideas I've had but not been able to express in words. This video was so well timed and so valuable. I look forward to being further down the grief road in time and maybe being in a place to share as Tim has.

[@jam1369]

I so appreciate this beautiful community. 💯😊

[@SusansRoadLessTraveled]

#GriefShare is a Christian based support program in the US. As a facilitator for two cycles so far I highly recommend it. I lost my husband four years ago to Stage IV metastatic Melanoma and brain cancer; and I’ve lost eight family and friends since 2018. God orders our steps, our days are numbered and as believers we live our lives from death to Eternal Life. Prayers for all who are grieving. 🙏

[@truthwatch2858]

Oh so sorry for Tim’s loss 😢

[@kathyarmstrong8644]

The last few days I unexpectedly had to revisit the past 26 years of traumatic loss & betrayal . Thank u for this post

[@snowviolet508]

I am very sorry for this man’s loss. I would imagine losing a child, especially suddenly, is one of the worst pains and trauma a human being can experience. My condolences to him and his entire family.

[@maxwellman8233]

Love you so much Beckett, thank you❤

[@samanthakwait8782]

My greatest sorrow has been the loss of my third baby at 12 weeks. God is who has seen me through, giving me so much comfort and love. It has been 4 months and is still painful but I always lean on Him and thank Him.

[@Sandra-cm1du]

Tim, I am so sorry for your loss.

[@kevweegbegbedia2056]

The devil is the one who steals , kills and destroys. May the HOLY SPIRIT continue to comfort us in times of grieve

[@texaslyoness8537]

Such and important topic to cover. I witnessed my mother grieve my older sister when I was 14. There is no grief like it. If one lives long enough there will be losses and it’s important to know how to navigate through them. ✝️ I still grieve the loss of my mother. Her birthday would’ve been tomorrow. Shamrock ‘n Roll ☘️

[@bethanystidham14]

Lost My sweet nephew 20 years ago he was 19 then 6 years ago we lost my wonderful Nephew to murder by his girlfriend he was just 33. I have now just lost my Dear friend to ALS ,she was only 53. she was my sister in Christ. We were so very close. I can tell you I am so Glad I will see them once again. But I miss them so still and now. I don't talk about it because it is such a heavy burden to put on others. I am so glad to have a father in heaven I can talk to. Thank you for sharing.

[@Indorm]

I always ask God if my son could please be the one who meets me when I arrive in the afterlife. Thank you, this was so positive.

[@TheNinjaInConverse]

Brutal interview, brutal topic.

[@Ledetms]

Thank you Becket! Our young pastor went home to be with Jesus and I’m grieving!

[@dellaB22]

Greg Laurie was interviewing Chuck Smith and both had suffered deep grief situations and Chuck told Greg not to let the unknown overshadow what he does know about God. Thanks for sharing this story, I've lost 3 children, theres nothing worse in life and all who share their hope is so helpful.

[@anncarr4599]

Love the thoughts about the dash of life. I’ve lost children and my husband. Our dash as believers goes on into the future in glory! A new extension of my dash our dashes. May it be forever for Gods glory.

[@ClauGutierrezY]

I'm glad Tim is better. I felt his pain when this happened to him. God bless you Tim, and may keep on strengthening you and your family

[@judymartuscello114]

What a Godly man!

[@calluna7065]

I’ve been helped a lot by attending grief share meetings. If you are struggling, just know that finding some kind of group of others that have also faced loss, can be the boost you need to keep going.

[@seanswart8102]

Tim Challies - have been following him for a while, what a pleasant guy, a bitter sweet interview. Your faith is a deep encouragement. Tim - thanks for having him on, Beck C!

[@Lisboooa]

Young catholic here. Dealing with a loss. I’m not at that place of comfort yet. What I can say/feel is that this moment in life is a test to my young faith. Thank you for the video

[@johnalexander1213]

Becket, thank you for this interview. I am grateful for this as I listened to it this morning on a Sunday. My Mother passed on to be with the Lord in October of 2021. She was my best friend. My brother and I took care of her at home for 7 years. Going to Mass weekly, praying often, and staying busy has helped me. Thank you.

[@Q1369]

How does one mourn for someone who wasn't a believer? Now that's painful!!!

[@violetmtali4269]

My brother in ❤ and his father died in a tragic car accident on 4th November, last year. I have never been through something so painful, but I take comfort in GOD's promises in the bible. My brother in ❤ left behind a wife and four kids, his mom, sister and so many other relatives and friends. We miss him daily, but we await Revelation 21:4. GOD is with us in our pain. An outlet is critical though, otherwise you can go mad. Accepting the situation is critical. Working through the grief is necessary. I have cried a LOT, but i'm a musician and that helps me. I'm grateful for my grief, because it has made me more compassionate and empathetic.

[@janiedunn637]

Having faith in God throughout all the hardships I’ve endured has kept me going. I know that I’ll see my parents in heaven. I’m the same age as my late mum was when she died 32yrs ago on the 29th of January, 53. It was unexpected & it was a massive heart attack right in front of me so I was the last to speak to her. The doctor had been out & she was 🛌. My dad collected me at a church house group. It was awful especially with my late disabled eldest brother in the next bedroom. I was truly blessed with my parents.

[@kimalonzo3363]

❤

[@KariE-by7gx]

Thank you for giving me a name to the "grief brain" I had for months after my husband unexpectedly left me 4 years ago after 21 years of marriage. I have journals of my time and how God helped me survive unbelievable pain. Thank you for bringing wonderful topics to your show. I am blessed!

[@linak7155]

This is a very important topic. In this life we will all suffer loss. I want to remain faithful in the deepest of darkness. The man speaks from a place of deep grief. I noticed he uses words such as God's divinity, and bigger n smaller catechism... Is his religious persuasion E Orthodox?

[@kellywright9791]

His words are miraculous and can only come from the wisdom of God.

[@dawnb7457]

So true! Such a blessing ❤️✝️🙂!

[@idahojoe8232]

Tim is a solid bro.

[@fullofgrace91]

Thank you, Becket and Tim, God is always sovereign. Wow, I never heard someone who was actually affected by loss/sorrow as Tim has, speak so passionately about the ministry; or the stewardship of the gift of sorrow. come to think about it. Elisabeth Elliot did speak about it a bit. But wow, I really was blessed and inspired by this chat. Thank God for you both!

[@thecrypt5823]

You are a very good interviewer, Beckett. Well done.

[@lynnparent5565]

I Definitely need THE BOOK! I'm so sorry you had to walk this road, do know your leading us thru our sorrows to the truth of God.

[@helendeacon7637]

A really important conversation. Thank you Becket.

[@extraaccount5830]

Wow. So sorry for this guy. Very insightful. I hope God really meets him where he's at.

[@lynnparent5565]

So needed

[@judymartuscello114]

Love you and your show.❤

[@debrasusan73]

What a great video. I sent this to my dear brother- and sister-in-law who lost their daughter at 34 in 2021. I pray it will touch their hearts. Thank you!

[@yvonnekneeshaw2784]

THIS WAS SOME AWESOME ENCOURAGEMENT❤✝️🇨🇦

[@baker_canner]

Thank you for interviewing Pastor Challies. He is correct that you never go back to the person you were after you lose a child. It is difficult for parents who have all of their children to understand this grief. You don't "get over it", you don't "get through it". Your grief never ends, but you learn to walk alongside of it. For anyone who has a friend or family member who has lost a child, here is my suggestion for what might help you: please do not relate to the parent your story of grief unless you have lost a child. The best thing to tell them is "I have no idea how you feel. But I am here." and leave it at that. I have talked to many bereaved mothers -- some lost their faith as a result of losing their child. I did not want to lose my faith in addition to losing my son, so I worked hard on my faith, and I started a small fb group of Moms in my situation. We lean on each other in addition to giving our pain over to Christ, every day. To bereaved parents I can only suggest that you surround yourselves with other Christians and stay in The Word.

[@mottgirl13]

Chad Bird too lost his son, in a tragic accident last year. He has a remarkable beautiful testimony based on his past experiences as a failure. It’ll be great to hear from him.. perhaps in another time…

[@pennylynch913]

Its happy friday bc its Becket time 😃💕 hi Tim. So sorry Tim. Its not fair! Just when i think lifes hard i come across people worse off like you. But it helps me to keep going to see you here. So maybe Gods using your suffering to help others. Sending love xo

[@judymartuscello114]

I call it "Becket Cook day!"

[@lisag9442]

Thank you for sharing Tim

[@cheryldian]

Love you Becket❤

[@allypatterson2625]

Really need this after losing my baby Asa in November 💗