How to Hack your Brain & Level Up your Life

Do you want to improve your finances? Your relationships? The state of your home? In today's podcast, I'll share an easy way to "hack" your brain so you can drastically improve your life. Feel more motivated, learn new skills and become a better person with this one easy strategy.
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[@outofmyelement932]

OK...Confession time. You and Dawn and Dana have been methodically helping to change my brain for a long time now. And I've been listening to YOU for the longest. Like forever. And you have changed my brain to the point that I use phrases I NEVER used before and my adult daughters know EXACTLY where it came from: "Bedonkers" and "Amazeballs" come to mind. There are others that will come to mind if I think hard enough, but I just can't right now "' 'cause I'm LAZY!" 😁😘❤ Side note: I also revel in decluttering and keeping my home clean and pretty and organized "because I deserve it"!!! Thanks for being a brain changer for me!

[@andrearoose5919]

Grateful for your vulnerability ❤

[@trishahutchinson3485]

Me too! I’ve been listening to Cas, Dawn and Dana for around 2 years now! I’ve never had such wonderful advise about not just decluttering and cleaning but LIFE in general! THANK YOU so much Cas! Your transparency about everything in your life is helping others MORE than you will ever know!❤

[@kaylenelichius9961]

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[@JM-if1kv]

Ditto!! Well said!!❤🎉😊

[@theresabaures2955]

Thank you

[@mauras7579]

Wayne Dyer said it best: "when you change the way you look at things...the things you look at change"

[@k80rock]

❤❤❤Yes! WAYNE DYER! So much wisdom from his many books.

[@nath807]

Money is neither negative nor positive. It's a tool, it's basically neutral. Whether it's negative or positive for you depends on how you use it.

[@helenaquin1797]

That may well be true but humans' thinking patterns are not. Studies have even shown that once ppl have over a certain annual salary amount that covers their basic needs and a few extras comfortably, that anything more than that can have the affect of making people less empathetic to the suffering of others. So.. there's that. And as for Martha Stewart and others gathering around to talk about their wealth? Maybe it is not an "evil" thing but pret-ty crassl imo.

[@k80rock]

Great reminder- most things in life are neutral & its how we percieve them that determines "good" or "bad". If a person looks they can see both in everything. Just like the spouse/partner that "never helps" vs that was helpful.. That was helpful. If you look for the good you can find it. Being in a car accident; most people would see as bad. It can also be the springboard to change your life path & grow spiritually & learn self care. I used to think money was not spiritual. However the more you have the more you can help others & inspire others.

[@mbarnes1300]

Cass - please post a book list! I listen to everything you put out and always doing something while listening. You are a great speaker and have tons of great ideas and info. Thank you! ❤

[@madebylora]

I have always been rubbish at doing housework! My husband and I used to share the workload, but he probably did more than his fair share around the house. Since becoming a widow, I obviously have the full load to deal with so it’s become even more of a struggle for me. Plus, because I live alone, I’ve got into the bad habit of telling myself it doesn’t really matter if I let it slip because it’s only me who sees it anyway. I need to retrain my brain! I need to be kinder to myself about the fact that I’m trying to do alone what 2 people used to share, but also I need to start telling myself that it’s good for me to have a clean and tidy place that I’m not ashamed of!

[@emmamunday8563]

Sorry for your loss 😢 Grief is a really difficult thing that never ends, be kind to yourself ❤

[@Baileybooandecho]

I remember the Flylady always saying not to be a martyr. Be happy that you have a nice house to clean for your family. Same with cooking and doing laundry, etc. It is a mindset shift. That has stuck in my head since I first got interested in decluttering and keeping my home tidier and cleaner. Thanks for reminding me about that and showing me how it applies to other things.❤ ❤

[@brendahollandsworth7565]

You are amazing 👏 ❤️. I just love you and everything you bring to the table. ❤I listen to you all the time and this episode was phenomenal. Thank you for helping us.

[@trinidiana]

Cass, I am just so impressed with you how you have grown and developed over the years you are a great coach. I have learned so much from you and you just do a wonderful job and you’re caring and kind and I am so thankful this world has you in it.

[@braelynheltne6328]

You have such a sweet and genuine presence and a very pleasant voice to listen to. Thank you for doing something important and putting life changing content out there. You are a great example of how to portray humble confidence. It is so much easier to take advice from you because you seem so genuine and like you actually care

[@gailawilliams5854]

Cas,I LOVE YOU! You're 1 of my top 5 All- Time Favorite KZbinrs and you have helped me so much. I love your RAW & REAL content, humor and authenticity. GREAT VIDEO!! Had to donate to help keep you going girl!!

[@Pausereflectandbreathe]

I am in that phase where I only see the negatives of what my husband and kids do and I am resentful. I love reading books, but I stopped because my excuse is I am so busy following other people’s messes in the house. Sometimes I want to scream and cry because it felt too much to handle. I have a lot of stuff that I’ve been declutterring regularly and I am purging more to donate. I really dream of having a clean and easy to manage house but I think I have ADHD. I easily get distracted and I am a perfectionist bee with maybe an OCD. 😂 Man, your story resonates with me. Thank you for being so honest! Hearing you talk about your own experience of struggles really helped me understand that I am not the only one dealing with clutter and resentment. I now like listening to audiobooks so I have to use it to change my mindset while working in the house. Thank you again! I really appreciate you! ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏

[@sarah8336]

You sound exactly like me. I make my kids help with the after dinner clean up every night (list on fridge) and my husband has a honey do list on the fridge. If I pick up his clutter it goes in a box and I give it to him to deal with (pretty sure he also has adhd and my son is diagnosed). I used to hold a lot of resentment but I’ve learned it’s not all my job to keep the house clean it should be a group effort. Even little kids should be helping. I resisted the charts on the fridge because I hate visual clutter but it helps me remember to tell them to do it.

[@stephaniebarcikowski5171]

What hit me most about this was what you said about your marriage. I need to try this activity for the month of February. Thank you for sharing that.

[@Seidenpfote84]

I will start praising my husband right when he comes back from work today.

[@staycehale5903]

“Decluttering ~ Your stuff is not money. The money has already been spent. You are not richer holding on to it.” Needed to hear this, wow 🎉 Thank You!!! “Less Stuff equals a better life” Im going to start a list of what my fam does do, to notice the good!!! Needed that too!!! Thanks Cass!! “Spot light on the positive” yes please!! Happy life 🎉 Thanks for helping us all improve our lives! Learn learn learn ❤

[@cordeliaparham6800]

Cass, what are you talking about not growing?! If being one type of first responder wasn't enough, you are training to be a freakin' fire fighter! You run a business, host a podcast, raise a family and maintain a house . . . and I am sure I have only scratched the surface. You do a great job! If anything you might be over-commited.

[@randerson458]

Money allows us to help others & to make a difference 🥰

[@jandaermold3406]

Wow! That's an amazing video, Cas! I didn't know about this pruning and neuro pathways, but now that I do....look out, it's gonna be amazing!!!

[@serenitynow8021]

Yes! You ARE helping us create new neural pathways! Thank you for this!

[@PatriotGirl24]

This was such a great podcast. And so much needed. I have way too much negative talk in my head about myself. I’m changing that today!!!!❤

[@ashlovemore]

Money isn’t bad but “the love of money is the root of all evil.” 1 Timothy 6:10

[@AnteaterRae]

I can't tell you how many times you help me to lift the blinders off my own negative thoughts.... or, self built non-helpful neural pathways!! Thanks again Cass! I think I'm ready to start some changes!

[@RemoneCunningham]

That perspective shift with your husband was it for me ....... I needed this today thanks.

[@dptfo]

Oh, Cas. Struggling tonight. My car is full of 4 trashbags of donation stuff. I don’t get to go until Thursday, but I need some urgent help. I bagged up some toys and things, because when I’m honest with myself, I can’t manage this amount of inventory, but I am second-guessing this particular load of things so much. I’m getting rid of things we actually like and use now, but they’re duplicates or accessories or parts of toys that add to the mess without adding to the fun. And I’m crippled from moving forward by “what if we need this?” My husband is also on a “no more buying toys” kick right now, because a certain new toy got broken because it wasn’t properly taken care of. And I guess maybe it’s scarcity mindset? I know they’re not the toys my kids need, I know they can have just as much fun or more fun without them. I hope, I think. Maybe. I’m doubting. (I’m also trying KZbinr Grace Nevitt’s No buy 2024 challenge, adding to scarcity mindset maybe?) So I’m asking, requesting, begging you to talk about this particular topic: When it’s not just easy stuff anymore, when everything we don’t use is gone, but we are down to actual, usable, “I really might need this stuff” stuff, but its too much inventory, it’s not as valuable as the things I use and love every day, it’s not worth the space, but also, it’s still good stuff. It’s just too much to manage, and it’s still over my clutter threshold, and I feel like if I can just get past these things, then maybe things will finally operate smoothly. There will be room in my “container concept” spaces. But. Is the space worth it? Or will the doll house furniture suddenly gain value? My son loves matchbox planes, but I tossed the broken ones, and a couple that he didn’t love. I ordered replacements for his two broken favorites, but is he going to miss the others? Also, I tossed two coffee mugs (I love them, but I’m the only one who uses them, and they were a set of four, so I kept two for myself. My husband has his own favorites (his 2, and a set of 4 “guest mugs” in a little stand thing) so obviously I don’t need them, and I tossed them because I use all 4 of mine like every day and then I have to wash 3 extra mugs every time I do dishes and it’s just so unnecessary but what if I need them? I like them. I use them. There’s nothing wrong with them and I have the space to keep them, but it’s adding unnecessary work to my day every day. So I thought I was doing the right thing letting them go but I feel guilt? Grief? For these things leaving now, because it’s a different kind of decluttering than I’ve been doing up til now. I’d love your insight on this.

[@debbiedebbie9473]

Thank you so much for this. It actually made me cry. ❤

[@malinhirt3101]

Thank you so much, Cas ❤️ Oh wow. That last bit about how you used to think about your husband. I do this all the time. 🙈 I’m gonna do my best to change that! 💪

[@21donnas]

Great session, Cas!! You have been changing my brain and I’m so happy with the progress I am making. I used to watch Netflix on the phone when I’m cooking but now I look for you and I just keeping going with all the other jobs!!

[@heidilopez-felix8105]

I’m in tears right now! I’ve had all of these same feelings myself!😢

[@melaniehutchinson5306]

I told myself those same stories about my partner. Something shifted though I let that sh*t go and focused on my own stuff. I think it was the TYHB course as you all tell us we need to look at our own and neutral stuff first. It was simply not the whole story and I was being unfair. As time went on we began to appreciate each more and more. I just was not noticing the positives and had been focusing on the wrong things. Thank you for putting into words what I have been thinking of more and more about how getting our home back in order which also helps in relationship . ❤. It’s choosing about action instead of victim mode I think. It can be too easy to get stuck there with the things we tell ourselves.

[@bethcormier9459]

Excellent podcast, Cas. Thank you for reminding us that we can take control of our lives in positive ways by taking action and changing the way we look at things.

[@vickiuridge3375]

Cas, I love ❤️ everything about you. You are such an inspiration and help me in so many ways. I can relate to so much of what you say. I follow you, Dawn and Dana and love you all so thank you so much 💗

[@Brenda.Lynn.H]

Hi Cas! I love listening to you, you always get me up and working on my home, especially the tuff love!!! You mentioned that you didn't have any new achievements this year, well didn't you get your paramedic license this year? That is huge!!

[@Carol-wy4qy]

This is the year that take your house back changed my life and it’s funny, when you’re decluttered and the house is manageable, I felt a weird panic like what am I supposed to do now? I love that you focused on scarcity mindset and money isn’t bad because I’m on the new journey of saving and being less consumeristic. It’s true, the less you own, the less you want in terms of ‘things’. This came at a perfect time for me because I also need to change my thoughts and feelings towards money.

[@DKM905]

Good morning Cas 😊I am trying so hard to budget. Living on a fixed income. I am not sure about how I feel about bragging about money, but I certainly would not turn down being rich 🤣

[@bonnytiley3998]

I’ll have to try that with my hubby. He doesn’t do nearly as much as much as you mentioned Joe does but I’ll try the worksheet method and see if that helps. I’ve followed your tip of ‘I want and deserve a clean house for me’ and that’s helped bring down the resentfulness when my hubby doesn’t help

[@MyResurrectionStory]

This is why I have been listening to 2 of ur live streams on repeat, everyday, many many times a day so thank you! I need some other thing to keep the energy going such as positive music BUT every time I take a break bc of physical pain or whatever I make myself listen to these again over and over. So far, it's worked in some shocking ways. And yeah, some physical stuff has come in the way but my brain seems to want to fight for me & my home more - but not just that... like in many aspects of my life. It's truly badonkadonks 😂❤❤❤

[@cheapskatewithlupus]

I am very sick. I work until I can't anymore, and then I am down for days. The flares are so unpredictable. What would be a game plan for someone that is sick. But we want our life in order too. I found you at the end of my life journey, and the purging process.

[@BevMargaret]

When I was diagnosed w fibro the rheumatologist said to do a standard amount every day. Feeling good- don't OVER DO IT Feeling bad- move and do at least a little. ( this meant for me figuring out how to do maintenance half way methods......if you can only pull out half the clean dishes from the dishwasher and load up half a load of dirty....it's ok....better than nothing. )

[@BevMargaret]

Be kind to yourself.....I think that is number one......hating in your abilities will only make u physically worse...try to treat yourself w kindness and for me u was able to do more

[@cheapskatewithlupus]

@@BevMargaret I am very bad at over doing it when I feel good. Because I run 4 businesses and keep the house clean too. Sometimes too much is never enough. I am death cleaning because I have no kids to give to. So, I don't mind throwing all of it away.

[@donnadevries-hestand1659]

@@BevMargaret GETMO Good Enough To Move On

[@trishs.4326]

I am Loving your podcasts , well done 👍

[@VeganKatieFaye]

You had my crying at the end Cass ❤

[@robinartemis8695]

$$ is not wrong. It’s how some people treat others that can be wrong

[@mindyeckman810]

You have so helped me in my decluttering process. I still have such a long way to go. I haven’t touched my junk room yet but making small steps in other areas. I too don’t want to be like my mom BUT for different reasons. I grew up in a hoarder house. I so don’t want to be that way. I wasn’t taught how to clean. So I’m horrible at cleaning and decluttering. I so want a decluttered clean house. I’ve tried all my adult life but I always fail. Which has always made me feel like a failure.

[@braelynheltne6328]

Thank you, this is such an important episode ❤

[@AwesomeReversibleKnitting]

Awesome! I've been thinking about this a lot, and your explanation crystallized it in my brain. Now I will make new pathways consciously!

[@01baia]

I have heard this information presented by many many people and have only dimly grasped its significance. I cannot say "why" Cass's video spoke to me so deeply, but it did. My mindset about cluttering, tidying and cleaning is all pretty positive. And I like to think I have a positive mindset about my partner. But for me, this message turned on light bulbs about my physical self! I suffer from fibromyalgia and much of my day is spent thinking "my pain is awful; I can't do that because of my pain; I won't attempt that because it will increase my pain." Switching my mindset won't make my pain go away. But it WILL allow me to cope much better! Thank you so much Cass!

[@user-mw6qe9kc7i]

Thank you Cas!! Mindset is something I have heard a lot, but you are right it's the work you put into it that gives you the positive results. So hard to start a new habit for me, but I have been accomplishing some decluttering this year & been trying to keep up what I've finished , while adding to my end result. 🎉❤🎉❤🎉

[@brendaspencer6691]

Thank you for the positivity.

[@kimdavies9364]

Love this so much! Binge listening to your podcasts:)

[@Sarah-ht7cs]

This was soooo good. Thank you. ❤️ Oh, BTW, I was actually deep cleaning, organizing and decluttering my bedroom while I was listening! I feel so energized now!

[@rachael2323]

Thank Cas! I loved this message. I’ve been listening for about 6 months now and am already seeing the neural pathway changes about clutter and cleaning, and I’m now excited to expand this to my finances.

[@kaywilliams1065]

My husband and I have been married 40 years and we appreciate each other like we never did before. And now i take a benadryl at night and can sleep, I don't get angry he slept and I didn't! 😂

[@christinab9133]

So good thank you!

[@in_case_it_matters]

Just to clarify: our brains are designed to keep us *alive* not comfortable or happy. So it's even deeper that it avoids difficult things or things associated with a sense of unsafety, like reprimands for "not cleaning correctly" as an undiagnosed ADHD child and the rejection sensitivity to those failure-focused feedback loops. undertreated or undiagnosed children, before the age of 12 receive 20,000 more corrective feedback statements than our peers. Of COURSE we avoid the emotional neglect and abuse experiences that causes. LOVE, an (ADHD) trauma therapist.

[@lisaschall4104]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you.

[@lannyk7082]

Thanks a lot Cas ❤

[@kerrydeveaux4912]

Thank you Cass!!!

[@lorrainelangley5354]

Cas you are truly amazeballs!!!!!

[@kathysheeran6589]

Wow CAS. so great - the husband details. And such a great thing to notice the good. We do see more of it. ❤️❤️❤️

[@mrs.herselnewlifeathome7612]

Dang, SO great Cas. Exactly what I needed to hear today, thank you.

[@Bestamourof8]

Thank you.

[@jenallejohnson6991]

WOW Cass. Thank you. Needed to hear this today ❤❤❤❤ I've been seeing a therapist to see if I have adhd and im always so frustrated and down on myself because my house is always a disaster. I need to retrain my 🧠 for sure. Thank you. ❤

[@lindamcdermott9980]

Cas, this was such a good podcast, the content made me realize so many things about myself and my relationship with one of my daughters. First of all, I have grown so much in a positive way through your influence and that of Dawn and Dana. But on the contrary, I have tried to “change” my one daughter who does not embrace decluttering, housekeeping, etc. I have read so much on the subject, reflected on her early years, tried to figure where I went wrong, and tried to find some undiagnosed problem. I have recently realized that she is happy. She is independent. She is resentful of my trying to “fix” her to my standards. Your discussion about your husband told me to focus on the good things she does, the positive side of her. I am so grateful for your positive thoughts. Btw, I love the graphics about neuro plasticity and pathways. As a visual learner, it made sense.

[@karenpage9383]

Is it possible that you have waged war against stuff because its part of your mindset against wealth? Maybe subconsciously the stuff represents money and consumerism and excess, all the things that make you feel icky and gross. And that your dislike of cleaning benefits from the purging is your brains way of reinforcing that subconscious thought process? I am not suggesting this in a critical way, but your podcast got me thinking about my own views and thoughts, and the thought process worked its way back to your real life example. I think my thought process on money and possessions is pretty balanced, but this podcast made me realize that I need to change the thought process about my health. For years I've told people that I'm a hot mess medically, but that has not served me well. Last year I made a small shift in thought to say I've just gotta get better, and saw improvements. I realize I need to shift that thought further, and tell myself that I WILL get better. And I need to look for other ways my thoughts are sabotaging me, because I'm sure its there, just maybe not as obviously. I always get something from your podcasts, even when I don't expect to! Another thought... you frequently say you are lazy... maybe you ought to rethink that "novel" and give yourself more credit, and not sabotage yourself by putting limits on yourself. Why not try that "list 3 things" idea to show yourself that you are in fact, not lazy. Dare ya!

[@TLB.Beauty]

Wow. Thanks Cas, I needed this! 🙂

[@kraykray4118]

Thank you Cas. When you said about your husband breaks up the boxes and you just chuck them in the garage made me giggle only because not that long ago I done the same thing in our shed and my husband seen them he was like oh my goodness why have you done this 😂. Great podcast today thank you. I listen to different audiobooks and also bought a coffee cup of the periodic table so I will soon become a scientist or something 😂

[@donnadevries-hestand1659]

memorizing the table?

[@kraykray4118]

That's the idea 💡 😂

[@gailawilliams5854]

Thanks!

[@marys7744]

Cass, I went to a women's event last week and the speaker was Shaunti Feldhahn who wrote the book "Kindness Challenge" who talked just about this subject. She also is a researcher. It was amazing to hear.

[@donnadevries-hestand1659]

Money is not evil, it is what can be used for that has the potential for negative living.

[@juliemoore6957]

Such good stuff! ❤

[@erikahyman8611]

This was such a great sharing of knowledge & experience! I also thought money was boring & annoying topic..probably because I had none.🤣Now that I do, I invest & try to not buy something unless I really love. I get up early & I keep things tidy before it ever gets out of control. It’s all worth the effort!❤Don’t give up:)

[@daisygillespie2125]

Thank you for this podcast. Now I can start trying these hacks on different things

[@hollyt6848]

Wonderful video!!!

[@kaywilliams1065]

My stepmother always had my siblings and me clean the house and yard while she hid out in her bedroom. I never wanted to be like her so cleaning was a dirty thing to me. Yeah, I'm doing Much better now, thanks to you and Dana and Dawn!❤

[@ElenaKamesh76]

Ciao, right i always struggled about money, i want to sell my art&jewelry even before to sell it i start to think what i'm gonna buy thinking its gonna motivate me to sell. I'm so shy to market tell what i'm selling so shamed instead of being proud of my hard work& effort. I wanted always be wealthy because its freedom, we forget how people got rich, behind it a lot of work, tons of restless sleeples hard working hours. I understood that i didnt wanted to be wealthy because i must work a lot, harder, a lot of effort changing mindset etc. So agree i'm working on it. I'm the same as you wanted be different then my perfectionist mom. Creating chaos is beautiful only on the screen😂 It's real struggle to be organised clean. Listening this&cleaning so nice that not just me in this situation soon or late i will be there.

[@kakylong2]

Cas, You are so right on so many of these thoughts. I will have to admit that sometimes, when I see how much y'all charge for your all-day declutter, I think that's crazy. I know y'all put it on a huge discount from time to time, but it's the same mindset as your thinking about Martha Stewart. I truly like you & Dawn & know you both work so hard to help us out so I know you're worth every penny. I had the same mindset about my hubby, too, about not helping enough. When I stop & think about it, he helps way more than I could ever dream. He's awesome & loves me so much. I do the "cookie" method with him, too. 😅 Great podcast. Keep up the great work. 😊

[@sandyseibelhager7131]

Cas your husband is a gem

[@thebeachyfarmhouse6410]

Ive been reading Dana K Whites book decluttering at the speed of life, so thats helping me to change my brain around decluttering also watching u and dawn too.

[@Gaius_Sinstone]

Listen, we can acknowledge that it’s *glutinous AF* to not realize you “made it” until you can buy an entire street of businesses without thinking “money is evil.”

[@kathysheeran6589]

Talking abooot. Love how u say it ❤️❤️

[@lauratruxillo6264]

This was a rough listen. I think there’s a wiiiide middle ground between knowing it’s not selfish to want to feel safe and to have enough money to live comfortably and saying that the 1% who hoard wealth that they can’t possibly spend while harming others aren’t evil.

[@kaitlinobrien243]

Amazing magical Amen ❤ I love you ❤ 🍁

[@Emma_Beme]

your so right about that sometimes I can't talk to Pepple about my money wins because they have a scarcity mindset and it's an instant downer. I

[@larasparkles4680]

Binge watching your channel today and loving it. Do you have any recommendations for the women’s money empowerment books please xx

[@aliciabrudnicki6536]

Hi Cass! This is so interesting, Just wondering what book recommendations you have to dive into this topic more?? Thanks! PS your the best!!!!! :)

[@portiatipton1187]

Money is not bad. It is the love of money that is the root of all evil.

[@axthelmsr]

Cas and friends, do you have any suggestions on great financial podcasts? I’m ready to level up!

[@JustWatchMeDoThis]

7:00 it can literally shrink your brain though, not just dumber. Some of us have MRIs on the brain often due to things like MS and its visible. Mine has not shrunk because I keep it active.

[@emilysmith138]

Emptying the dishwasher literally right now.

[@vondagreen640]

Lol!!! I'm relating to this statement...."I'm sure she was selling something, so I clicked off". That's funny! I do the same thing!

[@Chaundradickinson]

You helped me find Malissa Maker -- Thank you, love her -- can you help me find an accidental exercise youtuber?

[@clara3322]

I think one good hack would be to stop saying that the husband is “helping”. Why don’t you just “share” the chores? You both have jobs. (I’m from a different culture and we tend to share, there is absolutely no helping.)

[@kennethbailey9853]

Well Cass Hack the Brain out of me !!!😂😅😢😊😁🤣

[@karatethechaoswithkiki5368]

I hear you on the snooze button!!

[@jillianparrish6557]

I feel differently about money, saving, and rich people... and I think it has more to do with shame... of spending all the money on all the things that now I am working to declutter... I have spent money on nothing worthwhile per se but have alot of stuff due to my uncontrolled impulsiveness and lack of discipline with saving... trying to change my mindset but it isn't easy... and takes intentionality and hard work (for me)

[@christinapennell5073]

I wish my hubby did half the things yours does. Sometimes I feel like the resident housekeeper. Esp in retirement. His mother did EVERYTHING so I think that's his mindset. And yes, I have tried positive reinforcement however it is shortlived. I don't want to feel and act like a martyr but it's easy to skip into when your partner doesn't pitch in and when asked to do something becomes like a petulant teenager. Yes, we've also discussed in a heartfelt way that I need him to be more mindful..ugh.

[@mauras7579]

ahhh Cass....you have helped me so much and now you are "playing in my sandbox"....please look up Dr. Tara Swart, you will love her.

[@4mandysake]

❤

[@tanjaaufdermaur9468]

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[@abrareads]

As Dave Ramsey says, having money only amplifying what you are already. If you are generous and grateful with 5 dollars you will be more generous and grateful with 5 million and the opposite is true. Self worth cannot come from physical items as it will always fall flat. What if Martha had said, I knew i made it when i drove by a school and realized i could pay fo4 every kid to eat for free for the year instead of saying look what more i could do for myself?

[@lauratruxillo6264]

He may say it, but it doesn’t bear out in reality. Your what-if is an interesting point. Because it seems that the people with wealth (not just money, but with the “I have more than I know what to do with or could ever spend for myself” *wealth*) COULD actually do that. And they don’t. They do a few charities here and there that get them tax write-offs and good press, but at the end of it, they still have more wealth than they know what to do with. And there are still children without food.

[@kaitlinobrien243]

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[@corneltessendorf8054]

I also often spent more money than what I have on others, because should we not help others? And then I am fearful of not managing to save for emergencies.

[@kristinaroberts7216]

I’m really have been thinking a lot about this, I always wondered what meds like antidepressants do long term , I’m great but I’d love to not be on anything amaze balls I so believe in new pathways, just wonder for those of us on meds are we or have we hurt our brains adhd meds as well

[@bumblebee_mrs]

Cass, I had the exact same mother as you, and I didn't want to be like her either.