How To Handle An Angry Parent With Class and Calm!

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If you are a teacher, administrator, therapist, or any other professional who works with children who have special needs, you have probably encountered an angry parent.
How have you handled that?
Did you keep your cool, but then go back to your room or office and seethe at how you were treated?
Setting limits with children is something I’ve been trained to do. I’m guessing that you have been taught to do the same. Setting limits with the bad behavior of an adult is a whole different story!!! This is a muscle that many people do not exercise. It makes us uncomfortable so we just avoid doing it.

[@missdarkness6643]

try live with angry asian parents... i can't give my own opinion. judgemntal, doesn't believe with their own child, keep yelling at us, no freedom.. sometimes i sleep alot just to live in my imagination that i created just to be free. my friends understand me better than my parents. i never laugh when i'm at home and only do when i 'm with my friends. ...

[@carlabutorac6240]

Miss Darkness, I am so sorry to hear this. If you are in school, can you talk to your school counselor or teacher? Another trusted adult? They may be able to help.

[@tysonpeltier2732]

Miss Darkness Damm angry Asian parents I feel for you

[@youraveragekid9337]

this is what happens to me and i am indian,I just want a fun life,

[@muhammadrashid3332]

It happens to me

[@charliehell924]

Try my iraqian parents 💔

[@diamondminecraftdantdm2148]

my parents are crazy

[@doxyshiva]

Same here ... I want a peaceful life ☹️☹️☹️ plz someone pray for me ... And am single too ... I dnt have anyone to share my feelings too ... ☹️

[@valladcodm1322]

But inside ...they love and care for you...if they r bad ...you should not ...be calm and love them

[@fouziashoaib8768]

Sammmeee

[@mitunand]

@@valladcodm1322 good point

[@graceesohetvshow2505]

@@valladcodm1322 ll

[@sjdesign33]

If I told my father about the 2+2 he would yell at me and say don’t talk back to like that that is very disrespectful

[@jzar4700]

Im asian and my parents is much worst i just wish that they're control their anger issues when theres a fcking small crumb on the fcking floor even smaller than a fcking ant they would swear at me and beat the shit out of me

[@ctrl-big-boi-joe2829]

It really makes me sad how I have to look up how to deal with my aggressive parents 😔 they called me lazy and took my Xbox because I didn’t get an ice cup from the freezer

[@carlabutorac6240]

i'm so sorry you are having such a hard time. The only person you can control is you. I hope you will not do the same kind of parenting if and when it is your turn. You can be kind and respectful and still guide children.

[@baraaljamal9828]

Keep a to do list on your phone using your notes app and keep it an open tab 24/7 if you’re willing to keep your Xbox with you, that should help. But if not, let me know. Set an alarm too so you don’t forget, even if there’s no approximate time, set an estimate time. Better than forgetting about it the whole time yk

[@BLAZINGSTR8DANK420]

Why does my mother always switch to hate and angry only when seeing and talk to her only son no matter how hard I work or good I do in college she acts all happy and loving with anyone else but her own only child

[@carlabutorac6240]

Sounds like it's time to set limits on how she treats you. Once she starts to get negative and disrespectful, you simply say" If you can speak to me in a kind a respectful way, I'll be happy to sit here and talk to you. If you continue to be hateful and disrespectful this conversation is over....then wait to see what she does. the ball is in her court. It's her choice. If she wants to talk with you from now on, it should be on your terms, not hers. If she starts to speak to you in a disrespectful way...simply say This conversation is over and get up and walk out or quietly hang up the phone. It may take a time or two before she gets the idea that she is no longer allowed to be rude and hateful to you...Simply don't allow it. We teach other people how to treat us...I am sorry that you get treated this way by your mother, but she needs to learn to treat you better and only you can do that. Just remember that setting limits with children is much easier than setting limits with an adult...It's a muscle we don't often exercise. Trust me, once you start exercising that muscle, it gets easier. Good Luck!

[@BLAZINGSTR8DANK420]

Carla Butorac thank you will do my best to remain clam and try to solve the problem

[@youraveragekid9337]

my mother is always angry at me, today she said im no longer her son.I do sometimes be rude to her but today I said nothing and she screamed and shouted at me because my piano book fell on my floor.I always get good grades on my test and I do what she wants why is she always like this,

[@cutefairy297]

My mum would hit me 😂😂 (I'm 18) She would tell me smth like "Oh am I your friend for you talk to me like that? ("Like that" meaning actually speaking up and not letting her have her way) or "I birthed you and I can talk however I want to you"

[@arrietty1619]

Just cause they birthed us doesn’t mean they own us. Respect is gained not owed

[@nishasingharoy287]

@Nina Golban so freakin right 🙂( I am 20)

[@displayaankendov3859]

I tried this and my dad just said "WHATTT???" and i ran away

[@nydiamorales9203]

The universe decided to give me two parents with anger issues. 😐

[@carlabutorac6240]

so sorry to hear that. Try to remember that it's not what happens to you, but how you handle it. Always do what is right, not what you feel and you'll never regret it.

[@dawarsiddiqua7759]

my parents also have asnger issues like if ONE single thing that is very small and they start yelling at me

[@strix501]

Can you just set a distance from them, it worked on me. They were hella drainful toward my mental energy

[@sugarskinned]

My mom keeps on bringing me down and I dont wanna cry anymore

[@carlabutorac6240]

I'm so sorry, I hope you have some adult in your life that is a positive support for you. My guess is that someone in your mom's life wasn't there for her either. I hope if you have children someday you will break the mold and do things differently.

[@zaga40td]

Jenny, I love how simple this is. When an unpleasant encounter has happened, I have felt helpless. No More!!

[@robertsimon2885]

My dad gets mad over the littlest things. A day doesn't go by without him exploding. Just last week, he got mad because the barbecue sauce bottle was open. Before I left to a motel, he screamed at me over a tiny crack on the tile. I'm sick of it all.

[@arrietty1619]

Same. My mom goes off every damn day. She’s a ticking time bomb. I get anxious when I’m with her because she gets mad over the smallest things. I could probably handle it if she reprimanded me calmly like an adult but her “default” mad is always to the extreme. She would scream over somebody leaving the soy sauce bottle on the table instead of the pantry. I cant wait till I’m out of here

[@jamien.5528]

Same 🙃

[@tbhsara1985]

my dad is so freaking rude -_-

[@carlabutorac6240]

Maybe you can use this to set some limits. If he wants to talk with you, he needs to do it in a respectful manner.

[@yourdestination6897]

Carla Butorac I wouldn't really do that when he's mad. I just let it slide and eventually, he'll calm down.

[@lovelyebonywhite4792]

Carla Butorac do a video when parents have negative emotions towards other things and turn it on their kids like its their fault

[@NandoTheDirector]

@@lovelyebonywhite4792 this one is the worst

[@DarleneDeCicco]

my mother is mainly in a bed elderly and extremely abusive. Yells all the time anyone tries to help her.

[@carlabutorac6240]

do the 2+ 2 with her and let her know you expect kindness and respect if she wants to talk with you, or get your help. If she treats you otherwise, calmly tell her the conversation is over like I demo in the video and walk out of the room. Go back in periodically to see if she decides to change her behavior.

[@zhscnth]

So I watched this earlier cuz I'm scared at the thought of telling my mom that I stained my bed sheets with period stains, she'll kill me. But then I told her and she said, "its ok. I mean- it happened so we can't do anything about it," And I was like-😃✋ but I guess she's right💃👯

[@Nina-vv3ev]

Boundaries... smile & walk away if you have to LOL... don’t engage

[@carlabutorac6240]

It works and you're right its a great way to walk away with class!

[@greyeyedsprite]

Just happened upon this video and it really helped me get a game plan when dealing with angry individuals.

[@carlabutorac6240]

Tamara and Richard, Happy to hear this is a tool you can use!! I know I use it with students and encourage teachers to use it every time I do a training! I've actually not had to use this with a parent, but I've used this on a staff person who needed to follow through on an assignment. Before the 2+2 I waited 3 weeks for a response. After 2+2 I got a response and action within 30 minutes!!!

[@lalgachagirl7360]

Carla Butorac I really like this and when I am type this I am crying !! My mum just hit my 16 year old sister. And it was when she just got blood tests!. On her arm and yes she hit her on her arm and she is very tired with the 11and a half month Baby I know it’s very hard work and she said that my sis is not gettin work experience but she went to 25 different places! .

[@zahidhussain4641]

And me want to know how to tell my parent that PLZ TALK TO ME RESPECTFULLY in Anger

[@Attenoj]

I think this video is more so for people with children not to try on your own parents. Very helpful!

[@carlabutorac6240]

I did this video for teachers who have to deal with difficult parents which unfortunately happens more than we'd like. You can use this strategy on children/students as well. I did a video on that particular use earlier. I think many young people who view this video mistakenly think that this was intended for their own parents. Thanks for watching!

[@ericatard]

anyone else shaking and crying rn, so they searched this up

[@carlabutorac6240]

Don't EVER allow a parent to be inappropriate with you again. You set the limits on how you will speak/interact with them and then see if they comply with your conditions. If they do not, the conversation is over and you can say we'll try again later. Good Luck. It's a muscle we do not exercise, but once you use it. you will feel empowered!!!! Remember all you are asking for is kindness and respect. IF they cannot give that, they do not get to speak to you. Period.

[@ericatard]

@@carlabutorac6240 thank you so much!!!

[@nepoznatiupitnik3735]

Wow I really didn't know that yelling at your kids is a bad behaviour, cause my mom talks normally like that, (that doesn't bother me she can scream if she wants i dont care) but what bothers me is when she hits me, not like hitting like normal hitting she slaps me and punches me in my face sometimes pushes me, for example today she took my chain and whipped me like 10 times, because I hit my sister with a ball, and like my sister wasn't even mad or crying she was fine, but my mom saw it and she took my chain and whipped me, I have scars on my legs and arms now, she has like some serious anger issues, like when my little 5 yr old sister triggers her easily like she spills some water accidentaly she slaps her across her face, yes she is 5 yr old but i dont know if thats illegal or not, cause in my country (Bosnia) people don't care about those problems, I really didn't know that yelling at your children is bad cause that's the system in my country, and if you want to know I'm twelwe, and I'm a boy

[@carlabutorac6240]

Nepoznati I am so sad to hear about the treatment you and your sister get. Yelling lowers a child's self esteem and makes that child feel like they deserve that kind of treatment. No One should have that kind of treatment! I am not familiar with the culture of Bosnia, but I am familiar with what is good for children. Yelling and hitting and hurting are not the ways to teach, to get compliance and to encourage children to be the best they can be. I hope that you will someday NOT to the same with your own children. Break the cycle and do something different! It sounds like your mother was possibly treated this way as a child and she's just doing the same. She may also have some anger inside of her that comes out when you kids do something wrong. Try to be loving toward her and maybe that will help. Thanks for reaching out!

[@nepoznatiupitnik3735]

Carla Butorac Yeah, I was thinking and talking to my friend about the same thing, I promised to him that I will never ever hit my son or daughter if I would ever have them, and yes she was treated even worse as a child, once she told me how her parwnts behaved to her, even the teachers in the schools used to hit kids when they were naughty, and in the past time she was in a bad situation, first like a few months ago her dad died (my grandfather) he was like really young to die, then my dad had to go to Iraq to work, that was also pretty hard for her, and especially staying with four children in the house, I really get her now because in that shape I think anybody would have anger issues, but anyways thanks for the advice I'll try to be as nice as I can to her :)

[@marinap7961]

Nepoznati I’m sorry about your abusive mother, I have a verbally abusive mother, but when I try to state a different opinion from hers...things get rough. One time she dragged me by my hair to the bathroom and hit me with a hair straightener and curling iron. You need someone to talk to?

[@lalgachagirl7360]

Nepoznati Upitnik I fell the same! And I am only 10!!

[@carlabutorac6240]

Thank you Paige!!! Great to know!!! Keep watching!

[@sonyaedwards3311]

Hello Carla, my dad is always angry with me.... he takes out all his rage on me but not on my sister and brother. what can i do. It never seems to end.

[@carlabutorac6240]

You can try to set limits on how he treats you. If you are still in school, perhaps you can also ask for help from your counselor or a trusted teacher. No one should have to endure another's rage. I'm wondering if your dad is just very unhappy about something within himself......I'm sorry this response took so long, I just now noticed that you left me this message!

[@carlabutorac6240]

Arrienne, That's awesome!!! Keep watching, I've got tons of things you'll want to know!!!

[@richardthorntonjr2855]

This was very informative! This can really be a useful tool to stop someone from disrepecting you; which keeps you cool and calm so you can do your job!!

[@Eric31477]

This video is G R E A T because we all know we can't change the angry parent...but we can change our reaction to the angry parent by setting boundaries and showing respect for OURSELVES.

[@carlabutorac6240]

Eric you are absolutely correct!

[@carlabutorac6240]

Richard, Absolutely! Thanks for watching!

[@nicnac9147]

thx for helping!

[@BoniBon2005]

Very helpfull, thank's a lot

[@rhondashaba7100]

My mom (aka person who likes yelling) got mad JUST BECAUSE THE CHARGER WAS STUCK AND I PULLED IT HARD then she started screaming at me for no damn reason, i kept telling her it was stuck and she NEVER LISTENS then she talked about the other times -_- she said YOU DONT EVEN SAY YES TO ONE THING, YOUR DAD PAYED FOR YOUR PHONE AND BLA BLA BLA and shes just throwing a tantrum, when my dad comes back, im gonna tell him EVERYTHING and she gonna be in big trouble :)

[@avidaux7347]

I FUCKING AGREE! BLAH BLAH BLAH GOT OUR PHONES, SO WHAT? GOT IT JUST TO USE IT AS AN ADVANTAGE OVER US? WE ARE SO FUCKING OBJECTS YOU CAN JUST USE! WE ARE HUMAN, GET THAT CLEAR! WE HAVE HEARTS, AND WE ARE WEAK! IN THE END, WE GET TRIED! WE ALL DO, WHAT IS THERE TO COMPLAIN ABOUT? EVERYONE IS GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING! BTW I THINK IVE SEEN U COMMENT IN ANOTHER VIDEO BEFORE.

[@valladcodm1322]

Just ignore and move on..soon when u grow up u will move out and live your life peacefully

[@nolsjawline]

Im trying to find ways to manage my parents anger, they'd get mad over such little things, and recently I find myself being like that too. I want them to change that

[@Jenavee26]

I never want to be this kind of parent.

[@lazycedi22]

Thanks

[@Anna.Mason151]

My Dad and my mum explode when i set boundaries. They take it as a personal insult.

[@carlabutorac6240]

I'm sorry that happens to you. Perhaps you can walk away or leave the house when things get crazy. I just hope you understand that there is another way for parents to respond to children so if you are ever a parent you will break the cycle and do things differently.

[@teacherkelly4165]

Brilliant

[@arrienne66]

Very helpfull, I am a starting teacher en I'm going to use this strategy!

[@raphaelferrari4715]

Nederlands

[@OfficialStreamSagaTv]

The more calm I am the more angry she gets 😭

[@carlabutorac6240]

Sugo, I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. Have you tried Dr. Ross Greene's approach called Plan B? That's where when the person is calm, you say something like ...." I've noticed that when ......happens you......., What's up"? Do lots of listening, summarize what she says and then ask, "what else?" then summarize what she says and then ask "what else"? until you get to the real reason/reasons why she does what she does. Tell her what you want as you move forward and then say, I wonder if there is a way that you can get what you need/want and I can too? Do you have someone you can reach out to for other advice/support? I wish you the best! You are meant to do great things in the world so hang in there. You will get through.

[@lornsithov]

my mom is a kinda person who I wouldn’t be a friend with.

[@neverchan4609]

my mom yelled and me for not knowing how to do one thing and she.didnt even teach me how to do it, she said somethings doesn't need teaching

[@carlabutorac6240]

I'm so sorry to hear that. Maybe you can ask if you could ask her in the future to teach you what she wants you to do if you don't know how. Let her know it's because you want to make her happy.

[@neverchan4609]

@@carlabutorac6240 and she just yell at me for having bad hand writing without giving me more chance

[@carlabutorac6240]

I'm so sorry you are going through a bad time with your mom. I'm guessing she just wants the best for your future. Perhaps you can tell her it helps you to try harder if she asks without yelling. @@neverchan4609

[@neverchan4609]

@@carlabutorac6240 she will just become angrier if I do that

[@carlabutorac6240]

i understand. Do you have another trusted adult in your life that you can talk to, even it it is just to find a way to make it through this challenge in your life? Please reach out to someone if only to have a sympathetic ear. When you are an adult, you will know what not to do to a child in your care. Hopefully there are some loving things with your mom...show her love and respect, maybe that will help@@neverchan4609

[@krisnesss]

I agree

[@usefultuber1608]

What if I do it in a respectful manner and my mom sent me to my room screaming.

[@mybad.7164]

My mother use to beat me and locked me in the basement for hours when I was around 3-5 years old Her brother killed my grandfather for his inheritence and she didn’t even care She forgets all the good I do for her, my entire family says she has a bad temper I need to get away from her she’s become the most cruel person in my life, I tried everything on this video but it made things worse She even said I wish I never had you, your a mistake, I never raised my voice I never used violence it’s driving me insane I just want to end it all

[@carlabutorac6240]

I am so very sad to hear how you were treated. I'm hoping you have positive people around you now. I hope you can get the healing you deserve and if you have children you will break the cycle and do things differently.

[@calista910]

AH SHIT APPLY FOR EMANCIPATION, TALK TO A COUNSELOR OR GO TO THE COPS GET YOUR ASS OUT O F THERE WITH FOSTER CARE, GET HER A COURT MANDATED ANGER MANAGEMENT1!!

[@valladcodm1322]

Dont be disrespectful to them ok ...its upon you if you want to be a good person...just ignore and dont talk...soon they will forget everything

[@mybad.7164]

Im fine thanks so much for trying to help, Im busy working, and just getting along with everyone i can, thanks alot though ^_^

[@valladcodm1322]

Itchybell games what happened to you and your parents ? Are you getting along now ?

[@KD-fv7rk]

My dad has very severe anger issues and I inherited it and it’s really hard to deal with and I don’t think this would work

[@baraaljamal9828]

I already do this with my mom, except I keep forgetting to give her a positive reward if she does comply and that’s why she gets more angry. So I basically played myself. Lesson learned👍

[@justsomeguywithoutabeard8306]

Well l don't really understand my parents.Sometimes they are too nice and sometimes they are too angry.My father is calm,only yells when someone is yelling at him.My mother can become from an angel to a devil in sometime.She is good most of the time but when she gets angry,it's really hard to calm her down

[@tt-xr1pk]

If I upset my mum she starts screaming and crying at me and then I hear her in the other room breaking things it's only happened 5 times but it scares me a lot and I'm worried it's going to happen again when she comes back

[@carlabutorac6240]

when she comes back from where?

[@FragenAnsLeben]

Guys, this is for parents of your students, if you are a teacher. It is not for your own parents. She said that even. Why? In fact as a teacher the parents want something from you, they depend on you and they know it. The case with your own parents is different.

[@cloudyvogue9207]

They will just automatically regard this as "talking back"

[@auni9757]

I can't belive I've searched something like this

[@tylergreen2902]

thank you so muchhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[@christinab.2864]

That sounds better idea than to turn a blind eye and deaf ear

[@alma8481]

my mother is the best person in the world,and my dad is sometimes but he can't control his anger and his tounge as he says the most hurtful stuff. my mom traveled because she had work,and now i have to stay with him and my sister for 4 years alone.its misery without my mom,i hate it so much i can't even describe how every word he says makes me fuckinh depressed. god help us all

[@carlabutorac6240]

hurt people hurt people. My guess is that he has been hurt by one or more people in his life. Maybe you can ask him what he needs and it will help to change how he interacts with you. I'm sorry you are going through this. Find a trusted adult that you can talk to. It will help you get through. Also remember that a kick is also a boost. Someday you will use this experience to your advantage.

[@299meena]

I have a question, I run a *free* kids program at my local community center. And we often see many parents disrespecting me and my other volunteers. Our biggest issue is people missing a sign up window and then swarming our email or in person last minute. Everyone wants an exception! What should we do?

[@carlabutorac6240]

Do you make that clear on your website? If so, let them know on our site that they will get priority on your next offering. When they swarm you, let them know you are full.

[@user-wp4zx9vi8m]

My father gets angry!?

[@QueenL]

Слава Мухорлян same 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@e.thereal]

So what to do if you're the one starting the conversation in a respectful manner but get yelled at?

[@carlabutorac6240]

then ask that the other person be respectful if they want the conversation to continue. If they can't then tell them you can try again later. You do not have to subject yourself to abuse. Put the ball back in their court and see what they decide. Do they really want to talk to you or not.

[@ichigokurosaki7505]

My mother is like Michael Bay and Stanley Kubrick combined she’s emotional, hot tempered, Dramatic has a strong dominant personality, and harsh also whatever mistake I make she would rub it in my face and scream like a banshee two days ago she yelled at me for having my phone on vibrate, not reading her text messages and accidentally missing nearly a whole social gathering then shes even said this once “How are going to hold down a job” I wish I could get someone to knock some sense into her and give her a taste of her own medicine

[@carlabutorac6240]

unfortunately she is continuing with similar treatment that she got. Just so sad for both of you. Her behavior says to me that she is very unhappy and has not had a positive role model in her life so that she can give you one. I wonder what she would say if you gave her some extra kindness and understanding, Please know that things can be different for your future. Stop the legacy of this behavior. Don't pass it on to any children you may have. This can stop with you, You are worth it and you deserve to be treated with respect and love. If she can't do it, perhaps keeping your distance or setting limits on what you will subject yourself to, may help. Good luck!

[@sophielovesJesusmore]

Both of my parents have anger issues, my dad gets upset very easy and is struggling I’m afraid he might take my devices and break them. My mom is always blaming me or everyone else she doesn’t apologize and makes me feel like I am the reason for all of her stress. I sometimes have a emotional breakdown and my mom tells me not to fake cry.My dad gets heated very easy he has a very loud and powerful voice. 😢

[@carlabutorac6240]

I'm so sorry you are going through this Sophia, It sounds like your parents are struggling too. Hopefully there is someone you can talk to because your parents are not using strategies that are available to help problem solve. There are many other ways to deal with feelings of anger and frustration. Their loud voices and aggressive behavior tells me that they don't have the tools they need to cope. You are just a child, trying to learn the ways of the world. You are not the reason for your mom's stress, my guess is that she has just never learned how to handle normal everyday situations that come up with life/ raising children/running a home. One thing that you can do besides talking to a responsible trusted adult is to make sure you learn ways to handle stress the correct way and don't repeat what your parents are doing if you have children someday. It doesn't have to be this hard and painful. I wish the best for you!

[@NandoTheDirector]

How can you help a parent get help to learn to communicate with more respect? I sometimes send my mom self improvement videos and she gets furious and tells me to stop sending her dumb videos. I know she desires to be better but when help comes from her son her pride kicks in and she flips. How can someone guide them in the right direction?

[@carlabutorac6240]

I think that she will have to make that decision. The only person any of us can control is ourselves. Try asking your mom how you can help her today. She might be shocked at your behavior and you may be shocked at how she may change toward you. I will let you in on a little secret. The bottom line for the female gender is respect. That's it, if a woman feels respected, she can completely change her attitude. It's when a woman feels disrespected, that she gets angry. I remember once when my children were younger and I was angry about something. I raised my voice, was slamming drawers shut, walking around my kitchen in a huff. My daughters scattered away quickly, but it was my son who stayed....he stayed away from the kitchen but was watching me. As I started to calm down, he moved a bit closer to me. As I calmed down further, he moved closer ( I could see him out of the corner of my eye) When I was pretty well over whatever had just happened, my son came closer and said. " Do you need a hug?" Well how could I be mad after that????!!! He showed me respect to lt me get calmer, then slowly came toward me to give my his love and support. Respect. I'll never forget his act of kindness and respect toward me on that day. Give it a try and see how showing the utmost respect for your mom works for you. You might see a different person.

[@narutoisstrongerthansasuke3326]

my dad has the worst anger issues

[@Seevo07]

My uncle and my grandmother literally yelling at each other and im like “CALM DOWN, GUYS BREAK IT UP!”

[@sargati_5022]

My parents are mean af

[@neverchan4609]

my mom keep telling me to speak english for no reason on the street in a country where not much people speak eng, I don want to because people will think I'm a show off and my mom wants me to show off I guess and it's weird to speak english when we clearly both know the language that most people in this country know, and when I finally do, my mom responde back with cringy chinglish

[@carlabutorac6240]

that sounds like you are in a touch position! My guess is that your mom just wants you to practice English so that it can help you in the future!

[@obertdzvimbo3295]

Its true It works.!!!

[@ior1379]

My mom is generally nice but she tends to get angry quick. She wakes me up every morning and since I was awake but looked like I was asleep, I jumped to sit up, after she said “wake up” while I was sitting up, I said I was up, very calmly. Then she yelled at me. Tired of this, tired of that, and then she slams the door while muttering to herself. I hate how fast she switches up and I sometimes feel like I’m stepping on needles just to keep her happy. I also accidentally sound a certain way when I say things and she takes it like I’m trying to be disrespectful. How do I deal with this when she switches up over the smallest things?

[@carlabutorac6240]

she's obviously dealing with more than she can handle so she's stressing about even small things. you might say I can see you are stressed, what can I do to help you out?

[@perme123]

Iam done with my father really he give me so much mental pressure he won't let me even sleep a little longer in this lockdown (not on even sunday) he keeps yelling me to study..i always study my best to make him satisfy but no he wants me to do study till i die in my room how am i going to study all day.. i need some rest too at least in this covid time let me rest iam a human too i also need rest i dont want to get scolded every morning it ruins my whole day iam pissed really really pissed even my mom told him that let him rest a bit its lockdown anyway and its sunday but no he scolded my mom too..iam always trying my best but he never acknowledge me his own thoughts are the reason i want to quit everything only if i wasn't born it would have been not like that.. there are thousands things abt my father that i didn't wrote only this is scolding every morning with no specific reason is really making me pissed..

[@salonijain5022]

Yato SaMA I'm telling you that if your father is like what I have heard than you need to teach him some common n sense. Tell your mum that you are sick of your dad's horrible behaviour and tell her about your mental pressures you get from him. Since your mother sides with you she will probably agree. Then when your father is calm you simply go up to him with your mother and tell him that you are done with his behaviour and you don't want anything to do with him. If he just gets angry then leave the situation and Don't speak to him. Just because he is a parent doesn't mean he can control and abuse you so go and fight back. Maybe ask your school fir help as this is not acceptable

[@1KKVV]

My father was good in the past, but after he hit 50s, he started acting nervous about everything. When I or my siblings forget something or make a mistake, he becomes like crazy. He wants us to become angels without any mistakes or defects. tho he himself sometimes makes mistakes, even when he makes mistakes, he often puts the blame on us somehow, Literally, he has become a negative energy in the family, I'm really tired of it, we're all tired of it, I'm so desperate that I'm looking for a solution on KZbin....

[@dunphy1238]

My mother’s family has a history of mental illness. Her brother was schizophrenic, and I only have a diagnosis for him because he was so bad they took him to a doctor. However, all of her biological siblings have some form of illness, but none of them are diagnosed. I believe my mother also has some form of mental illness ( bipolar ) but she has never been diagnosed. At face value she is normal, but since I live with her I know that she has random episodes of rage. I have tried to notice and see if there is a pattern to her behaviour. From what I can tell, whenever she feel a threat or sense of competition she looses all morality and lashes out. When she feel a lack of control over someone, forget her children but even her spouse, she again launches into a fit of rage. The aftermath of the rage is her knowing that her behaviour was unacceptable, but to apologise means to loose authority. So she pretends the person in front of her is in the wrong until she has convinced herself that is the case. She shuns, hits and spits at whoever she has had a confrontation with. Other than this she will cry, again to paint the person who she has has a confrontation with as a villain, again to convince even herself that she plays victim to her episodes. As a child this was very confusing to me. I was beaten, I am always falling under verbal abuse, I can’t remember any of my childhood other than the times I was physically or sexually abused. I just couldn’t justify her behaviour in my head. She was a loving mother one minute, the next I was being kicked around on the floor or being scream at for not knowing where her glasses where. But now at 19, I know that she is victim to her illness. And instead of trying to build relations with her out of love, which results in abuse, I should love her from a distance. That way the memories of her I have from here forward should be neutral, not painful. I used to try and sit with her talk with her, because the few moments of love I felt from her were worth the possibilities of her beating me or shouting at me. But one day after an episode she had with me, I saw her cry. I realised she is frustrated with her own behaviour. Her illness has taken the best of her. I vowed not to make her feel that way again. I will love her from a distance. She absolutely nothing triggers an episode. And so that she doesn’t notice her illness any further. At least not because of me.

[@danielrivera3603]

Thanks for the advice I will try this

[@paulwolfe325]

This advice is really going to work with an angry adult.

[@jjc6530]

I think the parent will come back and say by saying that you are being disrespectful to me.

[@carlabutorac6240]

It's a way to set limits to a parent who is out of control. If nothing else, the parent is being disrespectful to the teacher.

[@TessySega]

I can’t ever go to my dads house because he always ends up exploding, he has anger issues and doesn’t accept it, he manipulates and try’s to make you say sorry for him calling you bitch, idiot, retarded. If you point out his anger, he’ll let you know it’s not your place and that is disrespectful. He really tries to squash you like a bug. He keeps pushing the people in his life away and it’s everyone else’s fault.

[@ABUNIMR_]

I hope this video will help me because my father and me are about to fight the moment he comes home The problem with them my mother really like to make drama. Just because my brother was at his grandmother house and I was late by 2 hours to take him home I just hope it will end good or else things will not end up well because he said" either I kill him or he kill me " Thay are crazy good god.

[@julsatron111]

What if your parents had anger issues and is bipolar... do you think that situation will work because I'm haveing Some SERIOUS doubts

[@carlabutorac6240]

You are dealing with a difficult situation. This video was actually done for educators who deal with difficult parents. I did not intend this video for young people dealing with their own parents. Is there a counselor you could speak to?

[@seokchim6564]

Guys I’m so upset my mom is always abusing me mentally. She curses at me and makes me feel horrible and she doesn’t even apologize to me or look through my perspective. I’m so angry because “I have to love my parents” when I think that I’m starting not to... I want to have a relationship with my mom but it’s hard when she’s mean to me

[@carlabutorac6240]

We teach people how they can treat us. The next time your mom starts to be abusive, you leave the house, go to your room, call a friend to pick you up, call another family member etc. You must somehow let your mom know that is she wants to speak to you, it must be done in a kind way. You can also perhaps say that if she doesn't speak to you respectfully, you will speak to your school counselor about it. Most parents do NOT want to involve outsiders. Some parents need a bit of a wake up call that they do not have the right to be mentally abusive. You will be surprised at how quickly your mom will change her tune if she really wants to talk to you. Show her that if she wants the privilege of speaking to you, it must be with kindness. Also don't forget to treat your mom with kindness and respect as well. Best of luck!!!

[@seokchim6564]

Carla Butorac thank you so much!!

[@Igotajarofdirtguesswhat]

I’m in my taxi, I am getting a call home from school god help me

[@peace8263]

I can’t even speak to my mom when she is yelling I love her but I need to be able to give me opinion but I can’t it doesn’t matter If I do it respectfully she will still say don’t talk back to me

[@avidaux7347]

I just cried because my dad complained so much this past month that I just couldn’t handle it anymore! WHAT CAN U FUCKING DO?!? IM 12?! NOT YOU! STOP COMPLAINING! ALL YOU EVER SAY IS “ DO YOUR CHORES, DO THAT, CLEAN THAT, READ MORE BOOKS, BE SMARTER, STOP PLAYING SO MANY VIDEO GAMES, I BOUGHT YOU A NICE PHONE SO DON’T SLACK OFF” 1: I DO, DO CHORES, INFINITY TIMES MORE TIMES THAN YOU HAVE! 2: I CAN’T GET GOOD GRADES WHEN YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW ENGLISH AND YOU NEVER TAUGHT ME A THING ABOUT WHAT I AM LEARNING. 3: WERE YOU EVER SMART, IF NOT, WHERE DO I GET THE GENES TO BE SMART? 4: I HAVE TRIED MY BEST, WHAT ELSE CAN I FUCKING DO? I COME HOME WITH AN ~A~ ON MY TESTS, YET DO YOU LOOK HAPPY?!? NO! ALL YOU DO IS SAY “yeah yeah good job” AND THEN LOOK AWAY! 5: IM NOT SLACKING OFF MORE THAN I HAVE BEFORE. I DO HOMEWORK WHEN I NEED TO BUT I PROCRASTINATE SOMETIMES. I LIKE TO BE HAPPY AND FEEL LOVE. SOMETHING YOU NEVER REALLY GAVE ME! THANK YOU, VERY KIND. HAVE WE EVER DONE FUN FAMILY ACTIVATES TOGETHER?!? DID WE EVER REALLY HAVE A TIME TO BOND? NO, NOT WITH THAT ATTITUDE THAT COMPLAINS EVERY-TIME YOU SEE MY FACE! OH YEAH, WHENEVER YOU SEE MY FACE, YOU SAY” STOP REKTING YOUR FACE UP” HELLO, IM POPPING PIMPLES, AND I CAN DO WHAT I WANT WITH MY OWN FACE. OH WAIT, HAVE YOU FORGOTTEN, I CAN’T REALLY USE ANY PRODUCTS, I HAVE SENSITIVE SKIN AND THEY DON’T REALLY WORK! WHO DID I GET THAT FROM? YOU! MY MOM HAS FLAWLESS SMOOTH SKIN, AND SHE HAD NO PROBLEMS. WHILE MY FINGERS ARE BLEEDING RIGHT NOW BECAUSE THEY ARE DRY! 6: YOU BOUGHT ME A NICE PHONE EH? YEAH, YOU DID! BUT GUESS WHAT? YOU INLY DID IT TO SAVE MONEY! YOU’D RATHER PAY CHEAPER PHONE BILLS THAN HOME PHONE BILLS! YEAH, DID I EVER HAVE A CHOICE ON GETTING A PHONE? NO, NOT REALLY! EVEN IF I SAID NO, YOU WOULD HAVE STILL GOTTEN IT FOR YOUR OWN SAKE! WHY DO YOU COMPLAIN ABOUT YOUR OWN RESTAURANT SO MUCH?!? YOU BOUGHT AND YOU COMPLAIN! SO WHAT IF YOU DONT GET MANY CUSTOMERS TODAY?!? OTHERS EXPERIENCE THIS ONCE IN A WHILE TOO! AND IT IS TIRING?!? WHEN WAS WORKING NOT TIRING?!? ARE YOU AWAKE! WE ARE ON EARTH! NOT HEAVEN! PERIOD, THE END.

[@avidaux7347]

IM SMARTING TO LOSE IT! LAST MONTH, I WAS DOING FINE HAVING HIM COMPLAIN! THIS MONTH HIS COMPLAINING INCREASE BY 10 THOUSAND! IM GETTING ANXIETY, IM GOING TO NEED A THERAPIST SOON ENOUGH! NOW IM CRYING! I WAS NORMAL JUST A MONTH AGO! WHAT THE FUCK HAPPENED? WHAT WENT WRONG WITH MY LIFE? IM JUST 12 IM A FUCKING CHILD, ALL I EVER WANTED WAS A LOVING HAPPY FAMILY

[@jdmatthews7639]

My dad has bad back, bad knees, and really bad back, smokes inside the house, and also has asthma. It’s very very difficult to live with him. He’s always mad always negative about just everything. I live with him cause I’m his caregiver and my mom passed 6 years ago this November so I decided to take care of him. It’s bad, but I’m just trying to stay optimistic about stuff, but it’s always depresses me and gets me upset. I dunno what to do ?

[@carlabutorac6240]

Does your dad have any kind of benefits? vet? medicaid? medicare? Are you still in school? if you are in HS you can reach out to your counselor to get some idea of resources in your area. If your school has a social worker, they have all kinds of resources that you could tap into. Knowledge is Power and the more knowledge you can arm yourself with the better you can get the help your dad needs. Sometimes communities have social workers that work with non-profit organizations that can be a wealth of information for you in your community. You may surprised to see the help and relief you can get if you just ask. If you get to the right person, they can help you surround your dad with help and you can get some space to have a better quality of life. Remember the strongest sword goes through the hottest fire. Keep up your grit and start looking for what you need!

[@jdmatthews7639]

Carla Butorac hi Carla thank you for responding back to me as far as I know yes he does have Medicaid and I have a full time job supporting him as well so no I’m not in high school it’s just rough living with this man when he’s so stubborn and like that.

[@carlabutorac6240]

JD, I'm very sorry you have to go through this....being a caregiver is a tough job. Make sure you take some time for yourself. Your dad may not be able to express it, but I'm sure he is glad you are there.

[@imperfectflower7519]

i’m a 15 year old boy with a mom who yells only when she has bad days at me she yelled at me today because i ate 7 piece of roast and there is a whole pot of roast in the kitchen and i am trying not to break because i have been eating pizza rolls and fries for the last 3 days because when she gets home she is too lasy to cook” she says. And when the last time i got sick of it and started crying because she does these things everyday she took my phone and put my on punishment what should i do?

[@carlabutorac6240]

I know from experience that a 15 year old boy is ALWAYS hungry! My guess is that your mom is exhausted. I know mom's are supposed to cook, clean, pay bills, work ( sometimes two jobs) worry about their children, make sure their health, education and spiritual life is taken care of ......but mom's get overwhelmed too. My suggestion is that you ask her if you can get dinner started, help her when she's cooking or even learn to make dinner yourself. Learning to cook for yourself is an outstanding life long skill. All of our kids cook including our son and our son in laws. I always say if you can read, you can cook. Give that a try and see if that helps to change your mom's attitude. You are old enough to "partner" with her in household chores to help lighten her load. Your behavior is that you are hungry ( totally natural) her behavior is that she is overwhelmed ( it happens to all of us) Let me know what happens over time. Good Luck!

[@stankybee]

I’m 25, living at home because I can’t afford rent by myself. I work full time and attend college courses. I have to live with parents that have been violent to me my entire life. I can’t wait to move out. Hard to make friends when you have to spend all your time making ends meet.

[@carlabutorac6240]

nothing awful lasts forever...once you get out of school, you can be independent and have a more peaceful life. I am just sorry that you had to grow up in a violent atmosphere.

[@tikiismine7330]

my parents are so mean!

[@archierch0463]

I'm almost 17 and I'm not sure if this will work. My Dad swears and shouts at me multiple times a day. At least half the time I'm away as my parents are divorced but it's still a fucking nightmare.

[@carlabutorac6240]

This video was actually meant for teachers who have to deal with angry parents. I'm so sorry you have to endure your Dad's anger issues. I can only hope that you will be able to break the cycle if you ever have children. Yelling only lowers children's self esteem and does other damage as well. My guess is that some terrible things happened to your dad and he didn't get the help and support he needed and now he is taking that out on you. Is there someone you can talk to?

[@lailaur]

my parents got mad at me for not being able to fold plastic bags and threatened to take away my stuff and cancel my trip to hawaii.

[@carlabutorac6240]

so sorry to hear that!!! All you can do is the best you can. Hopefully you will not do the same someday if you have kids.

[@lailaur]

@@carlabutorac6240 i promised myself to never do that to my kids!

[@KT-sv6jx]

9 Years Later And THIS Advice Is STILL A Gem Thank You 🌟

[@donib6841]

Nah bruh my parents gotta be something else

[@Mariaaacost]

If i tell my Father to treat me in a respecfull way he would kill me, heh.

[@adityaandaleeb9978]

tried this with my parents..... lets just say it did NOT end well

[@carlabutorac6240]

this video was actually designed to be used by teachers who have to deal with difficult parents. I'm sorry you had a negative experience with this.

[@aroojmuzammil3615]

My parents(my mom especially) are strict and as a teenager I want to hang out with my friends but they don't let me and whenever I say I want to meet my friends and going out they give me an angry stare and say i dont know which I'm like tell me that should I go or not ....she doesn't like that I go to my friends house but say that I rather invite her over to mines but this always doesn't work if anyone can help and knows what to do like how keep my mom happy and spend time with my friends give a comment/reply would be really helpful :)(

[@dante-ds2vv]

My dads all mad at me it's been 2 weeks and it was because I made a mistake in baseball and I'm a all a student like come on

[@justsomeguywithabeard4388]

Carla butorac I don’t know how to break. grades to my mom. I love her so much. But when I get below 80’s she yells and I fully understand that she’s mad and she has the right to because usually I’m an A or A+ student. Teachers in my school really don’t care as if I tell them this they will detain me . How do I break the grade to her slowly.. I don’t lie I like to say the truth to my parents

[@carlabutorac6240]

Yazan, the next time you get a low grade write a note to your mom explaining what happened...you didn't understand the material, but you're getting help now or you didn't study hard enough and you have a new plan to do better...and attach the grade to the note. Maybe if your mom sees the information without you standing there, she will have some time to calm down before she talks to you. Good Luck!

[@gachagoals5121]

My mom sometimes goes crazy and starts cursing and hitting. It’s really had a bad affect on me and often leads me to crying at night and at one point suicidal thoughts and being sad at school. This also lead me to not liking having my mom around, when I talk to her it always fails and makes me feel worse than before. What do I do?

[@carlabutorac6240]

is there someone at school you can talk to? There is help, you need to reach out to a trusted adult. If you don't get help at first, don't give up. You don't have to go through this alone and it's not healthy to keep all of your sadness inside.

[@gachagoals5121]

Carla Butorac I don’t have anyone at school to reach out to. My dad notices but never is really around.

[@carlabutorac6240]

If you dad notices, then be honest with him and tell him how this affects you, Ask him to help you talk with you school counselor. You have the right to be treated with dignity and respect. There are protections out there for you.

[@marinap7961]

Gacha Goals I’m honestly going through the same thing as you, do you need someone to talk to?

[@shanecameron7869]

I reckon this is worth a shot with my angry wife.

[@carlabutorac6240]

we teach people how to treat us...

[@shanecameron7869]

@@carlabutorac6240 That’s only six words, but says so much more. 👍

[@carlabutorac6240]

@@shanecameron7869 good luck to you. You can probably expect some push back at first but if you hold your ground and only accept being treated with respect, eventually she'll get the message.

[@widowsmrblx8398]

I am watching this with Indian parents who aren’t usally this strict

[@kaz_araya7960]

My dad has really low patience, especially with me. He would always get mad at the smallest things. He always sees what i do wrong and never sees what i do right. There are just some times that i don't understand him. Sometimes he threatens me if i don't answer him when he's angry. But sometimes when i try to tell him the truth, he would say that I'm arguing with him thus i would get hit by a freaking steel pipe. I barely even remember how long it's been since i smiled at home. Staying with friends is nice because they understand you. I love my family, but it's my dad that makes me think twice before even going home. Everyday there would always be something that would make him moody the whole day. Trust me, avoiding him isn't an option. He would always tell me not to do anything that might affect his mood for the day. I've tried that but he is always on edge. Tried joking with him and he slapped me. Ireally don't know how to deal with him. Talked to a school councilor about this, then my dad was called to speak to the councilor. When he got back, he said that I'm an ungrateful bastard that doesn't know how to appreciate what people do to me. What has he done? He's only ever made me depressed.

[@carlabutorac6240]

Kaz, I can't tell you how sorry I am that you have to deal with this situation at home. My only guess is that your dad may have had some trauma somewhere in his life and has never learned to deal with it. My hope for you is that you break the cycle of mistreatment/childhood trauma when it's your turn. Please know that not every father acts like this. I also encourage you to continue to speak to someone you trust. If involving your dad only causes trouble, ask that trusted person to keep him out of it. You will need to learn to get through this until you can move on to a healthier place. Maybe when you leave for college or when you get a job and can have your own place. That day will come. Until then, I'm wondering what your dad would do if you said to him, what can I do for you today? Can I get you something? Can I do something to help you out right now? My guess is that he is angry about something and just has no idea how to deal with it. Stay safe, and I do hope only good things for you!

[@kaz_araya7960]

@@carlabutorac6240 I may not have said this online, but he did have a problem with his parents when he was a child. His father was a discipline teacher, I'm guessing back in the day discipline teachers were extremely strict. One day he visited his grandma. He went on a bike with his cousin near the mountains, it wasn't that high but it still was pretty dangerous. His cousin accidentally pushed him too much and he fell down the mountain(It may not be a mountain) Almost his whole body was covered with blood. He was crying with pain, then his dad came and "beat him up" while he was bleeding and in pain. My dad told me how much his dad controlled his life. How there were times for studying and learning. And if he or his brother weren't studying when it was time to study, his dad would throw anything he could reach at them. I can see why he keeps getting mad at me. His dad's way of teaching him is being used on me. And even worse now, sometimes he says "Don't try to make your little brother as worse as you are". What I'm afraid of is that his anger problems are starting to affect me. I get mad way too easily now. I now have developed the habit of talking back. I'm thinking of not having kids or even getting married. I'm afraid of how his anger will affect me.

[@carlabutorac6240]

@@kaz_araya7960 you can stop the cycle of abuse if that is your goal.. there is help to control anger that you may have because of your dad. I think it's a positive that you at least understand why your dad does and says what he does. I know that doesn't really help you in your day to day interactions with him, but at least I hope you can see that it's your dad's issues, not that you are unworthy or unloveable.

[@kaz_araya7960]

@@carlabutorac6240 I've seen this and realised, both my mom and my dad have put a time for me to be able to use my phone or any electronic. 1 hour 30 minutes. From 5 - 6:30 PM. Its at that time they become extremely aggressive and start looking for things to prevent me from even touching my phone. My mom, she'll look through my contacts and my class group chat. Then she'll ask me if I did it or not. I show her I've done it, then she asks why isn't it the same as the other students. Like, it's my answer, my way of answering it! My dad is no better, he'll ask me to help him to do some stuff. Then when it's 6:30 I can't even play games or do anything. I told them they took time from me because I helped them. But they don't care. After the time limit had passed, they become normal. The tone of their voices go back to normal too. Usually they'd shout at me when I'm playing video games. And most of the times when I'm playing, both of them will look at me and start shaking heads or make disappointed faces. I ask them what's wrong, then they say "When you're studying, you're not that focused as much as how focused you are playing games. You'd start itching, get some drinks". I am almost losing my mind with them. I AM FORCED TO LEARN ALMOST 8 HOURS A DAY AND SIT AT THE SAME SPOT. What do they expect. Even when playing games, I also move around a lot.

[@im_lucky3977]

i tried to microwave my phone today.. the whole screen is just green and nothing else and i cant do anything! my dad is coming home in like 20 minutes what am i supposed to do

[@carlabutorac6240]

I'm so sorry that I'm just seeing this now. Sometimes the truth is just what you need to do. I'm sure you'll be in trouble, but I'm hoping your dad will learn to trust that you are willing to tell the truth no matter what.

[@im_lucky3977]

@@carlabutorac6240 yeah i told the truth as it was, he was very upset at me but he says its okay because i told the truth and didnt lie about it

[@carlabutorac6240]

Good for you!

[@farahazizahariandi275]

My dad is like abby

[@pascal6121]

It's annoying because whenever I provide a reasonable reason for something or try to understand why they're so annoyed they just say "Shut up", "Stop talking back" or just tell me to go away aggressively. If I spoke to them they same way they do to me they'd have none of it and it annoys me that they seem to think they're superior to me just because they're my parents. I know people say respect your parents but I don't really agree with many of their views and they won't let me do what I enjoy and pressure me to do things that they think are best when I'm at an age where I can do that myself.

[@carlabutorac6240]

I'm sorry that you are having such a difficult time with your parents. You will eventually be an age that you can make decisions for yourself. I hope that you will make good decisions and that you learn how not to treat any child that you someday will have. Children should be treated with kindness, respect and guided gently to the right path. Use this experience to change they way you've been treated. Promise yourself that you will not do the same. You won't regret it! I treated my 4 children with love, kindness, respect and firm guidance. They all grew up to be kind, respectful, loving adults.... just the way they were treated. It works!

[@carlabutorac6240]

Pascal, I'm so sorry to hear how much you are struggling with this. My guess is that there is something in your parents' past that taught them this was the way to raise children. I hope that someday you will do things differently and break the pattern! You might try saying to your parents, "What can I do for you today?" It may shock them and shock you at how they will respond. If you think about it, the only person we can really control is ourselves. Perhaps if you change what you do, you will change what they do. Give it a try!

[@jacintamuganda992]

My mom shouts and blames me for staff I don't do I just feel so depressed and sometimes unwanted

[@carlabutorac6240]

jacinta, I'm so sorry to hear that. My guess is that your mom is struggling with something someone has done to her :-( that doesn't make it right, but hopefully you will break the cycle and learn from this mistake so you won't do the same someday if you have children. Is there someone you can talk to? You are wanted. You are beautiful and there is a plan for you to make a difference in this world. Remember that!

[@jacintamuganda992]

No I don't have a friend to talk to about it l normally spend most of my time at home with my mom because she says it's safe at because of Corona . I just wish she could learn how to cool her temper because sometimes her words are hurtful

[@jacintamuganda992]

Thanks for your reply I'm lesly that's what my friends call me

[@carlabutorac6240]

Lesly, I hope you are getting lots of love and support from your friends. I wish you the best!

[@carlabutorac6240]

Can you ask her how you can help her to feel better?

[@yeahrichey]

I have no freedom in my family. My dad called me to go to bed and he reminded me to turn off my computer, I did and yet he yells at me to hurry up. Then he rushes over and fucking hits me. Holy shit he has anger issues and no patience. He’s so fucking two faced. One morning he buys me 2 Big Macs and congrats me on my report card. 10 hours later he fucking slaps me to go to bed.

[@yeahrichey]

Whenever I try to reason with him he tells me to shut up and I’m scared to even try this since he’ll take it as attitude

[@carlabutorac6240]

Can you talk to your school counselor and ask for some guidance? It sounds like your dad has some unresolved anger issues and he's taking it out on you. My hope is that you can get to a better place of peace in our home and that someday when you have children, you won't follow the same path as your dad.

[@sigitato9525]

what if after i said that and then parent say "how dare you! respect you?! i feed you, i put you in school, bla bla bla" ??

[@carlabutorac6240]

then you say this conversation is over and walk away.

[@ravindrashinde5901]

But now my teacher is angry on me and calling my parents what should i do tell me im going to die😔😔😔😔