How to Handle Toddler Tantrums! (convo with an Early Childhood Educator Pro about Terrible Two's)

[@konankohari1087]

Really appreciative of this. My almost 3 toddler has been going through something the last 3 to 4 days. He is usually quite articulate but he has been having tantrums where he just screams and moans. No observable reason. Its been happening through the night too. I have reacted badly a few times as it has been 4 to 5 hrs screaming moaning every day. And I have a baby that needs care too. "You can't de escalate a toddler if your escalated" "its important to be a cliff they can crash against" I needed those insights. Thankyou.

[@privatechannel434]

16:16 I am like crying throughout this whole thing thank you so much I feel so alone.

[@KDSima]

My youngest daughter shared your video with me. It’s great! I am the oldest sister of two younger sisters, the mother of three, and grandmother of four. I am fortunate enough to be able to babysit my newest grandson, S.E., two days a week. S.E. turned one at the end of May. Through the years the one most thing I learned about toddlerhood is “Once u say no, u stay no”. When u tell a child no, and they respond by crying and throwing things and having “big feelings” u need to stay firm. If u don’t, their lesson learned is that by crying, and being difficult they will ultimately get what they want. So, even if you realize u should not have said no, it is best to not change your mind. Thus, self discipline is important. They need to know what to expect and that displaying their “big feelings” will not change your mind. As they get older you can discuss the issues with them, and if appropriate you can change your mind. By doing that can help them learn to present their opinions and perspective calmly, and rationally. There is a focus these days on not shaming a child. I don’t have to tell anyone how different that is from the way it use to be. Growing up w/shame is damaging. In 1969, when I was eleven, there were public school teachers who would “paddle” students in the front of the classroom🤷‍♀️. So much different than it is today. I actually felt awkward bc I never was🤦‍♀️. That is what I have learned about toddlers in my 50 years of caregiving. I really do love kids, they r the best.

[@jess_hover]

Thank you so much for taking the time to watch this video and share your wisdom and experience!! I love what you said and can definitely see that playing out in my own life. If i let the “big feelings” change my mind then i invite a lot more of those feelings haha and my “no” becomes an opportunity for a big emotional negotiation. Thank you again! ❤️❤️ your insights are welcome here anytime! And Im thankful we aren’t in the time of the paddles in the classroom!! 💛

[@privatechannel434]

Thank you for saying the truth

[@privatechannel434]

Miss you!!!!!! Your content, I don’t actually know you but we are both believers so yay!

[@laryssathompson3268]

Really love this!! So incredibly helpful and relevant!! Thankbyou so much! Please keep videos coming on this topic too! Very grateful!

[@SamD-hg5mr]

Such good advice! Also her voice is so so calm and nurturing. Would seriously listen to a mama meditation / calm podcast from her.

[@tmoney399]

Jess i love your videos! i'm not a mom yet but i am pursuing children's education and this was so inspiring

[@alyssaroberts4445]

I love all your content. It’s getting me trough the early days of 2 under 2 right now!

[@madeliefvandalen519]

So thankfull for your content. My oldest is 2,5 so this is very helpfull!

[@gabbywarwick6635]

Wooow, did I need this or what!! My son is 2, and he is very hot headed, very vocal(whether it’s actual words or just screaming) on what he wants. But he really does have sweet moments. And I need to embrace that more. But anyway, I just really needed to hear this and know that I’m not alone, is just… refreshing. Because I used to love this stage when I wasn’t a mom, and now that I am and currently dealing with this, it SUCKS. Lol but I’m so glad to have seen this video

[@Enquiry_co]

You are SO not alone! This age group has a reputation for a reason. BUT if you can get inside his little mind and participate in his process you can guide his wild + free energy. I believe in you ❤

[@gabbywarwick6635]

@@Enquiry_co thank you so much! I really needed to hear this ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@clairemerryfull941]

so encouraging and helpful, thank you ladies. tomorrow I will return to the practice 🙏

[@tashawoody4013]

YOU GUYS! THANK YOU! my son is 13 mons old, and i’m so happy to have this info NOW so i can get excited (instead of nervous) about what’s to come. you BOTH gave such valuable input… love you two together. i’m obviously soooo here for this series! ❤️❤️❤️

[@Enquiry_co]

Yay! I really believe that the most enlightening insight into the "now" is to know where they just came from and where they are heading (developmentally). You have powerful times ahead of you and nothing to be afraid of!

[@The2010Butters]

I loved this video. I am really looking forward to the Zoom call next week!!

[@darciann]

This was incredible information to have

[@natalieeubank4533]

Thank you!! So much of this makes sense and rings true for my 2.5 yr old I've been staying in her Sunday school room with her for months now and she is finally getting comfortable and straying away, I'm struggling with what to do next...I've noticed as well that her emotions reach and new high when mine does as well

[@capslovesit]

Great video Jess, this is so helpful for my months to come. Also Layne's voice is so soothing 😂

[@Enquiry_co]

That's toddler teacher voice 😉 Pro tip: NOTHING gets a two-year-old's attention like whispering.

[@theingridaria]

So helpful thank you💌

[@monicahuerta6206]

Great information! Loved the video!!

[@Chicken33359]

Wow powerful content. Loved it

[@alyssaavila6914]

Love this type of content!!!

[@xoxok8]

Thank you so much!

[@OrganizingChaosYoga]

She’s talking about the “4th Trimester” 💆🏼‍♀️

[@TheLenka2485]

Great content. Thanks for sharing this with us . I will try to be more understanding when my little man throws his lego all over the floor next time 😉

[@jess_hover]

Thank you for watching!! 💛💛

[@ryanpegoraro2697]

Hi Jessica i just so absolutely love all of your beautiful videos so very very much you are such the greatest most sweet beautiful gorgeous woman ever in the whole wide world i love you Jessica xoxo.

[@OrganizingChaosYoga]

What is her MBTI type? ENFJ?

[@elainasimpson3010]

Layne looks just like Mandy Moore. I bet she hears that all the time...