How to Have a Calm Morning (No Matter What)

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

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[@GrayPower60CraftyCreations]

I am laughing at Tip #7. I'm 73, and remember when I was a young single mother raising 2 children, around the ages of 8 to 14, I was tired of yelling in the mornings to get going for work and school. So one day, I decided to stand at the stairs and talk in my "normal" voice; let's go, the bus is almost here or something like that. They were shocked that I wasn't yelling, and at first, they screamed down, Mom, I can't hear you. I told them no more yelling, and they soon got used to Mom not yelling every morning. This continued for a very long time.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Normal voice is sometimes scarier! 😂

[@proverbs3150]

God love you! I hope your kids pamper you!

[@marionopisso212]

​@@TheDailyConnoisseur Yes, it evokes a seriousness that may have repercussions!

[@Amy-ms7ol]

“Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset. ” ― St. Francis de Sales

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Yes 🔥

[@sozod2000]

I was raised in a yelling household and I had to fight against that as I raised my 3. The youngest is now 17. I failed many times but I always apologized. We are works in progress and I am much better with age and perspective and growth. Thank God His strength is there to help 🙌🏼

[@georgepolen9123]

I was amused when you mentioned that in 50 years whatever you're stressing about wouldn't matter, I've said this for years except I've always said 100 years! Also my friend's father used to say athat when every thing in life was awful it was time to throw a party! I always enjoy your comments! -Mrs. G

[@21972012145525]

Throwing a party? The thought is stressing me 😅

[@katherinerichardson1767]

The best advice that you mentioned of which I have done for decades is preparing for the next day. Just knowing you have your clothing, lunches, projects & etc. as ready as you can for the next day, gives me a restful night.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Absolutely!

[@taradc6037]

Yup this is truly the only way I’m able to have calm mornings!

[@beckpender]

I've used a Bose radio for 15 to 18 years, it starts the music to wake me up very low, and gradually increases the volume.

[@camillehendrickx4174]

"Dawn" from the Pride and Prejudice movie soundtrack is the tune I swear by for waking up gently. Starts with a single piano note and builds up over 2mins time so you'll definitely wake up despite the soft beginning that starts drawing you out of your sleep state. It's delightful 🩷🎶

[@21972012145525]

The Keira knightly one?

[@camillehendrickx4174]

@@21972012145525 yes, that one! ☺️ (Soundtrack composed by Dario Marianelli and performed by Jean-Yves Thibaudet and the English Chamber Orchestra)

[@stilwellpianostudio7813]

Psalm 48 speaks of God's care for his people and sovereignty over the nations. Those who strive against him are told to "be still." They can do nothing against an all-powerful God. An excellent reminder when we are stressed!

[@mariahunter9882]

I was on an overseas tour trip one time and things were going a little bit crazy. One of the other women in the group had traveled a lot with her family and her dad had a saying "The crazier it is now, the harder you laugh later." I was reminded of that when you mentioned having a sense of humor when things go wrong and your own dad having a sense of humor.

[@joannafoster3423]

Getting up at least 30 minutes to an hour before the kids is so helpful. I can get some fresh air, coffee, and time with the Lord before they're up. Now I'm more awake and ready for what the day brings. That said, it also means going to bed at an appropriate time so you can get up earlier.

[@janessatravis9526]

Creepy doll voice 😂. Love it! A few years ago I started singing "go-to the car" or "put on your shoes" to the tune of Raffi's Down by the Bay. Just that one line (request) over and over. It's very effective (especially if I sing in a screechy voice 😂) and the kids think it's funny but also want it to stop (similar to your kids wanting the creepy voice to stop). It's way better than losing my cool. Works for high school and middle school too.😂

[@victoriaquezada]

My children would make their own lunches for school the night before. They also chose the clothes they would wear to school and had them ready the night before, this gives them a sense of accomplishment and individually. Their school books were stacked in their room on a nightstand, ready to go in the morning. If you have a foyer or mudroom, some people can set that up for jackets, backpacks etc... While in grade school, I also taught me daughter to fry eggs, or make pancakes, which she did most mornings for her and her younger sister. Their alarm was set for school mornings, or at times, it was me waking them, which I did not mind. Our mornings, for the most part, were smooth. Teaching your children to plan the night before is crucial for a successful, smooth morning. So it begins with mom. or dad.

[@HayleyatHome_]

Lao Tzu is featured in my Day Designer planner as today’s quote. “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” That’s a fun coincidence. Great video! 😊

[@kristihoefle8205]

thank you Jennifer , "be still and know that I am God" - its all we need 🙌

[@lafem2122]

I have an alarm clock that uses light to wake you, with sound options. I love it!!!!

[@yuliyavandenheuvel8196]

Creepy doll voice is just the best! Totally relatable!

[@brandistillart]

Oh! My children call it “the whisper yell.”😂 All of them are grown now, save one, and the three that are parents to my beautiful grands have all adopted the same “whisper yell” approach facing the apex of an explosive moment. We laugh, but TRULY, a good whisper yell in a creepy doll voice extinguishes an otherwise chaotic outburst of frustration from everyone involved. Being loud escalates a situation. Being quiet deflates the same and forces everyone to listen more attentively. Pro Mom move!💪🏼 Such great tips as always! I especially enjoy practicing the last. Having some life behind me, the simple act of being still has truly built much faith in me. If we’re still, we can watch and see what He’s doing in our situations on our behalf or for our loved ones. My name, B. Still, is a constant reminder to do just that.

[@deannapolaski9485]

I needed this today! My husband and I have spent the last few weeks really fine tuning our morning routine. Today, the kids all woke up super early and distributed our routines and it stressed me out a lot and I started snapping at everyone. I wish I had seen this video twelve hours ago. 🤣

[@deannapolaski9485]

*disrupted

[@billann9486]

Never too late to try again! “Hey last time this was really stressful, let’s change that up….”

[@jenniferwalker3778]

This video should’ve been titled with your tagline ‘How to Remain Classy’ 😂

[@martybontumasi5058]

Hi Jennifer! I love that quote. I'm a recently retired teacher and I 'm sorry to say we had a principal who micromanaged the teachers, along with having an authoritarian leadership style. Very Type A! We had quite an exodus at our school of wonderful veteran teachers after this principal had been there a while. :( I remember at all the faculty meetings, she would always tell us we needed to have a "sense of urgency" with teaching our students and bringing them up to standards/ testing. Every time she said that, I could see this lead to stress and burnout with outstanding teachers. So....when I hear this term, I understand how it is perceived as negative. Now, I'm retired and have no sense of urgency as I am enjoying life so much!

[@palomahealing5073]

I actually watched this video 3 times!😀 I loved that term you mentioned, "Character building". It simply shows that we have work on ourselves everyday. (Being mindful is a must) 🥰 And live the moment always..cause that's all we have, is the present!

[@ReneeMartin-p1z]

😂”if you look like a hot mess while getting angry, just makes it worse”! I literally laughed out loud!! So true

[@gemmasee1]

My husband recently bought a sunrise alarm clock that slowly increases a warm orangy red light over the course of five minutes or so before an alarm starts sounding. We have the alarm sound set to birds chirping but we often wake up just from the gentle increase of light. I highly recommend it!

[@mmaloney5333]

This brings to mind The Prayer of Quiet by St. Teresa of Avila ❤

[@lindapitchford4941]

We had 9 children. I'm in awe of that woman. That was so many years ago. This such great advice for families. I felt the pressure come off when you said 30% of mornings would not go as planned. That lets you be like water or laugh it off, or use your scary doll voice. LOL This reminded me of one of our ideas. When we went out for the evening... on our return, we didn't want to start yelling and noticing what wasn't right. Our plan was to blend. Whatever they were doing we joined in. It so worked. We were grateful the house was still there and everyone was in one piece.

[@LauraPelofske]

I love this! I'm naturally a very calm person. It started in more of a place of not wanting to assert myself, but being a parent it is very very important to assert myself. I totally relate to the creepy doll voice! Seeing others get loud and angry, I knew that just wasn't me. I've learned to be firm, to state boundaries clearly, but to remain my true dignified self. Sure, I've blown up a few times, but my kids know that if I'm actually displaying anger in that way, than they have seriously crossed a line! Honestly I can't even remember the last time that's happened, since I've learned to be assertive in my own way, and my kids are teenagers.

[@eva6750]

I love that these tips are equally helpful for those of us who aren’t mums. Thank you!

[@maureencaldwell2975]

My husband and I bought sunrise alarm clocks a couple of years ago, and they’re wonderful! I have mine set to the sound of chirping birds at the set time along with the sunrise, and it’s such a pleasant way to wake up! I highly recommend these types of alarms.

[@21972012145525]

I'm Budgeting for this item! Sounds too pleasant

[@midlifemom5829]

Where can I order same as yours with chirping birds?

[@maureencaldwell2975]

It’s the Philips SmartSleep Wake-up Light. We bought ours on Amazon. They’re a little pricey but worth it!

[@21972012145525]

@@midlifemom5829 your phone can also be used similarly regarding the but sounds. Not the sunlight though, obv.

[@sheilarachal886]

I loved the “Be Like Water” comment. That is all we can do. We never know what the day will bring so we can let it upset us or calm down and handle the crisis and move on. Great Topic as we all have mornings and hope ti create more peace in our lives!😊

[@EE-hi4re]

10:44 😂 creepy doll voice lol I just have to raise my eyebrows and widen my eyes. Praise The Lord. 😅

[@inatwho]

Thank you for this wonderful video! I think that preparation the night before is the key to a calm morning; I do this regularly, and I always keep in mind the scouts’ motto: “Be prepared!”😊

[@jocelynpinsler6310]

Thanks!

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you! ♥️

[@shereemoon]

Grateful for these tips and reminders, Jennifer! Reinforced this type of a routine as essential in my life for peace of mind. Love the reminder from Scripture to “be still and know He is God.” Helps me with hope and perspective. Blessings on your week! Thank you for speaking into our lives in such a lovely way!

[@rebeccaperry3446]

Love that you made this video. I decided a few years ago not to get rattled by things that can come up, and when I do, I immediately check myself. ❤

[@karolinaska6836]

3:50 you had me at LaoTsu ❤ ☯️

[@Jchandler821]

I homeschool my kindergarten son 5 days a week and work in the evenings at a boutique. I still can find the morning routine stressful even though I don't need to leave the house. Just this week I decided to start laying out our lessons before bed so all I need to do is dress and have breakfast ready and school can then immediately start. I thought of you while planning this!

[@trynpaxton4409]

Another wise video, Jennifer! I love when you talk about character development.

[@GanEdenHolisticHealth]

Great video, Jennifer! I needed this one.

[@ramonaritz7815]

When you speak the "creepy doll voice," then others have to stop yelling to hear what you're saying. It's a great trick to get others to stop yelling at you.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Exactly!

[@karenstrickland5056]

I really struggle with some of the things you mentioned. I get very irritable at everyone when we are running late. ‘Mad at the world’ type grumpiness. Hot mess too! lol. These are great tips to help!😁🥰

[@yolandasilverio1205]

Here is my calm morning: A cup of tea, and pray in the dark with just a candle burning.

[@sherrynewland1699]

One of my favorite videos ever! Not just the content, but, the very relaxed way you shared it💕💕

[@billann9486]

Yaaaaaaas! It’s a fine line between helpful advice and getting too preachy….creepy doll voice lady hahaha so funny and great

[@RececcaClaire]

Can I just say I love that your videos always matches what the title is.

[@evasochocki5209]

Excellent video! Thank you. You made me smile and laugh several times.

[@jessicapresley4794]

I’ve been wanting to purchase the sunrise alarm clock. No noise just a warm light that starts off with soft warm light and slowly increases its brightness until you wake up!

[@jackiedaugherty9097]

I love your channel. You're such an inspiration. I struggle every morning to wake up before my toddlers. I have a 2 and 1 year old. Im getting enough sleep bc my body wakes up without the alarm around 7am but i just go back to sleep or lay there until my oldest talks to me thru the monitor. I just dont have the discipline to get up. I feel frustrated and discouraged. Any tips are welcome.

[@Erin_29]

I feel ya. I have one child, she's almost 18 months old. She gets up between 530-6 every morning. I'm naturally not a morning person....so this has been a period of adjustment for me, it's seriously been showing me the icky parts of myself. Being a mama is selfless for sure!

[@akilav2981]

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Being a parent to toddlers is hard work and if you want to lay in bed longer, I think that is productive self care time. You’ll have plenty of time later on to wake up and do things. The only discipline needed is to enjoy your time in bed in a guilt-free manner. ❤

[@ashleyslack5960]

Don't be discouraged by this video mama. JLS is out of baby phase and people forget almost immediately that many people are not, and just how hard it is to have any peace when that is where you're at. Sleep is more precious in your phase of life than to get up early and do a stretch routine. I have a 1, 4, 5 and 8 year old. The 4 and 1 year olds are up between 5 and 6 every morning. I am Catholic and open to life, so I can't just "wait out the baby phase." If you drink coffee, set the pot the night before. If there is a morning chore that stinks to wake up to (for me it's the dishes) try to handle it the night before. We really try to "reset" the kitchen and living room the night before after kids go to bed, which is early, so that we have time to unwind at night too. My husband and I have staged sippy cups in the refrigerator and morning snacks/breakfast too. I make breakfast bars and homemade bread for the week so that there isn't breakfast cooking chaos every day. Sometimes my husband and I take turns for who gets up first to handle the kids' needs. We DO put the TV on for them for a little while, a very gentle show like the old Little Bear cartoon, so that WE the ADULTS have time to ease into the day more. Even stealing an extra half hour helps. We homeschool and I am a SAHM so there is no rush to get to school, which I highly recommend if a family can do it. Homeschooling makes life so much gentler, and natural, when your kids get older. I will say a prayer for you right after I click that "reply" button.

[@jackiedaugherty9097]

@ashleyslack5960 thank you so much for sharinf and praying for me! Your post is so encouraging. Two under two has been rough. Its gotten a TON better though. Im working to be less hard on myself while still aiming to improve myself. Love Jennifer. Shes such an inspiration. Thank you again! Bless you. :)

[@jackiedaugherty9097]

@@akilav2981 awe, thank you so much for sharing. I feel so encouraged and less guilty. Bless you!

[@ewamisko]

Much needed video in September ♥️🍂 Thank you ☀️

[@1bestfriend2u18]

Good morning 🌄

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Good morning!

[@drchloe_]

Love this video! Thank you for sharing about self-regulating... Your explanation of it was beautiful and on point:) I also loved your point about wearing pajamas or lounge wear that reflects poise. The way we groom ourselves can actually be a form of self-regulation, and an instructive form of social signaling to those around us:) Finally, thank you for sharing the Bible verse! Religiosity has actually been shown to have great mental health benefits as well. Wonderful video, and very inspiring as always 💕🥰👏🏼🥂

[@billann9486]

You are being taken care of…..love that. Part of the existential stress I think is the loneliness of worry. Invite your family and even yourself into being part of the solution instead of needlessly contributing to the problem(s) at hand….

[@terriyelnoc1209]

Thank you Jennifer, wonderful video. The alarm discussion reminded me of the book that you recommended a while back, which was one of my favorite. "The Jane Austen Diet Book by Bryan Kozlowski". I changed my alarm because of it. "In Austin world, Jane would have awoken to birdsong. The return of day and cheerfulness of morning. Waking up to bird sounds (either real or recorded) has been shown to boost mood and reduce fatigue. Alarm sound beeps jolt your system elevating blood pressure and stress levels before getting out of bed." (I downloaded a birdsong alarm for my phone. It is amazing and so gentle. I keep the phone far away from bed) Also, another tip In Austin world is they would open the shutters and get outside which tells our brain to stop producing melatonin. (I try to just look outside my window first until I can physically get outside)

[@21972012145525]

Yup! The sunlight thing--actually getting outside --is recommended by Dr Andrew huberman so much it's annoying at this point 😅

[@daisyrowaro44]

Absolutely beautiful video and so lovely to see your daughter waving at the end. God bless. Thank you for your lovely channel. Always so calming.

[@deannab9511]

Creepy doll voice, that's so funny! This was good Jennifer, doing things the night before and not having a sense of urgency really resonated with me. Having a laugh, I needed that one.

[@nadinedetain6765]

Hello, my 100 to 150 items wardrobe might be curated for sure but I prefer occupying my time with watching people who already did it and show what they kept !!! There are very lovely minimalist wardrobes on KZbin, thank you

[@smaira2759]

An absolutely fantastic video, so meaningful and helpful for me. Practical tips throughout, thank you!

[@reneepennell3372]

Thank you so much for this video, Jennifer ❤ My morning was anything but "calm" , but I've been working on responding better🙏 Thank you for all these wonderful tips! P.S. I have that exact scripture in a tiny tatoo on my inside wrist with a Cross ...Be Still~ God💝

[@DiannaSadler-bz7er]

Thank you for giving us a treat of getting a sneak peek of your two sons. They are absolutely adorable. They are so blessed to have you as their mom.

[@kellieliacopoulos8005]

Good Morning!! Oh, I loved this, Jennifer!! I actually took notes for our next CS meeting!! Also, I want you to know I have been holding you in my heart, knowing anniversaries can be a place of struggling. My heart is with you. PLUS...your HAIR!!! Absolutely beautiful!!! See you Thursday and have a wonderful and peace-filled week!! With (so much) love, Kellie

[@BlossomsBungalow]

A year or so ago, I started using the piece Reflections that you used to have as your outro for my alarm tone. It is such a sweet way to wake up.

[@DansonforJoy]

SO MANY valuable tips in this video! 🤗 And I love that Bible verse at the end - worthy of frequent meditation. 🤍

[@Lindie406]

The one I’ve been trying to work on for years now is laughing more at the things I can’t change. It’s still hard for me! But this was an encouraging reminder to keep reaching for that goal. 💜

[@Rositasparks]

Beautiful ( and hilarious) video! Thank you Jennifer ❤

[@crterwil]

Oh thank you for this wonderful and timely reminder. Your content always inspire and encourage me and I do find myself hearing your voice in my head ti remain calm and classy. And yes. I do a enjoy good laugh at myself event things don’t go the way I intended them to. 😊thank you so much!

[@christyclark876]

You would really love Nicholeen Peck’s parenting system and teaching on calmness.

[@HarpistJoanna]

So many great tips, thank you! I really want to implement a more structured, prepared morning routine. I purpose to work on that this week specifically. Also I LOVE that gorgeous fall bouquet beside you on the nightstand! So pretty, and looks so perfect with your dress!

[@heather1778]

I adore everything about this video, Jennifer. Thank you. ❤

[@saracarlson-kringle]

Pivot...gladly. [THIS!]

[@juliecarns]

Hello Jennifer, Your perspective of will this matter in 50 years is excellent! I love to see your joyful children; they are growing up in an emotionally healthy home indeed.

[@JeanieHislop]

Thank you for such grounding suggestions 🌸 from New Zealand

[@gabrielleyadav3661]

I love everything about this ❤☀️

[@ali18398]

Love you Jennifer! I've learned the low voice from you! And my children say the same😂 they respond to it quicker than yelling😂

[@allas9598]

This was perfect, I really needed this video :) Thank you!

[@tq325]

I absolutely love slow, calm mornings. Thankfully, I don't need the alarm clock to awaken anymore. I naturally wake up early without it.

[@angelagouirand9312]

Omg I also check out and completely separate

[@temmietaft2552]

I enjoyed this

[@annastone5624]

I love this channel..

[@katiestevenson8920]

I’m definitely going to try creepy doll voice! ❤😂

[@maruchan1085]

I would like to know the tittle of your books 🤓 in your tables. I am always looking for a book I haven’t read yet from those I consume content. Please share. Thank you.

[@NikkiH87]

This is one of my favorite videos you’ve posted to date, thanks for the awesome tips! 🫶🏻😇🙏🏻

[@juliabernuy9283]

Thank you so much for sharing this video. It really helped me to have the right mindset and encouragement. It inspired me to get ready and start my day better. Blessings 😊

[@Mytitus2journey]

Creepy doll voice cracked me up. My youngest is 28 and when my girls were younger (and to this day) they would tell me that I was much scarier when I would talk slowly and softly to them. They knew that meant I was trying very hard to curb my anger and that they had gotten on my last nerve. 😉 And it really helped me to learn to have more self control.

[@winnies2783]

Loved all tips...Jennifer...especially the yelling one😂...it was so relatable...very helpful video❤

[@marianalvarado4193]

This was so good! I loved seeing your little boys, and you having fun with them. The creepy doll voice made me laugh! I just ordered a rebounder; I can't wait to try it out! I had been thinking of getting one, and then my doctor recommended me using one because I have Osteopenia, (the precursor to Osteoporosis!) Weight bearing exercise is good to strengthen our bones. Thanks!

[@Natasha-wr2oq]

Thank you 😊

[@sunnygem21]

It's funny, this morning my husband went a bit later to work and it really threw me off. He was very sweet and helped get the children ready, but I didn't quite know what to do with myself. 😄

[@Dulce_Domum]

Jennifer, there were some real gems in here. Jennifer Gems. Jess. 🥰I will be re-watching this one for sure! A million thanks.

[@Dulce_Domum]

Auto-correct changed what I wrote- which was Jems. 😊

[@jessicabender1301]

This is what I needed today

[@nikkiwitt9475]

What about that gorgeous bouquet! I’m calmer already just looking at it💐

[@elizabethpace1591]

This is one of my favourite channels 🙂

[@judymagazine2965]

I totally get the sense of urgency and I can't stand it so thank you for the reminder NOT to do it. Also, can you do a video on rebounding - what is your routine and what benefits have you experienced b/c I hear so much about this and the NASA usage of rebounding for astronauts.

[@valeriedistefano295]

Great tips to use through out the day.

[@danielle8455]

This is a nice video...very calming. You make me laugh when you laugh.

[@lucindawilson5510]

thanks for sharing

[@olololo9224]

❤️the creepy voice tip!!! Will implement immediately.

[@Laura-rx9mp]

thank you

[@Thekatedelaney]

Great tips, thank you Jennifer 🩵

[@Undermarysmantleforever]

Wonderful …thank you

[@minicufer]

I didn’t do the “creepy doll voice,” but now that my children are older, I have been told I gave the “evil death stare” 💀 and that they would’ve rather gotten yelled/screamed at than given “the look!” Lol😂

[@elizabethtriplett6422]

Excellent advice!