How To Improve Emotional Intimacy with Your Partner

[@chalenejohnson]

How To Improve Emotional Intimacy with Your Partner

[@patrickplummer1027]

Chalene is special and a gorgeous person inside and out

[@katherinesmith2365]

Geez, you and I have so much in common. We've been thru a lot of the same. I also have ADHD. My marriage has been difficult in the beginning but now is amazing. We've been married 23 years.

[@chalenejohnson]

I love that so much!!! 😍😍😍

[@alisegeorge1782]

Thank you for being vulnerable ❤ I love your relationship with Bret. God bless you and all listeners ❤❤

[@mamalovesthebeach437]

I like the phrase “in to me you see“ to describe intimacy.💜💜

[@StellaMcFly]

When you said that some of us never had emotional intimacy or empathy modeled for us in our families, about a thousand light bulbs lit up in my brain. You absolutely nailed it. My family of origin has so many silent elephants in the room that there isn't any room for our true selves. They resent me because I'm trying to resolve severe emotional and physical trauma from my childhood, and they have no idea how to react to speaking truth to power. So they gaslight me. I'm trying to salvage things with my parents and siblings. (I'm the oldest and bore 90% of my parents wrath, so my siblings don't believe me when I tell them about the physical and emotional abuse that happened to me.) It's really, really bad, because now it involves how they treat my three children, especially my oldest son who I adopted 14 years ago at age 6, in comparison to how they treat my nieces and nephews. It breaks my heart for my kids, because its very obvious and very egregious. But I digress. I have a great relationship with my kids, overall and in terms of emotional intimacy and the ability to be truthful and vulnerable with each other without fear of judgment. I wanted to raise them in a way where, no matter whay happens, they never, ever doubt that they are infinitely, unconditionally loved, accepted, seen, heard, worthwhile, and *wanted*. My life partner of 14 years feels the same, and was raised in a very similar emotional situation to mine. Our kids actually talk to us about the good and bad in their life, openly and beautifully. It makes me so incredibly happy. However, my husband and I have a lot of trouble doing the same with each other. We've been dealt a really, really rough hand in life in every way, and we are strong because we survived it together. We still are. But we are no longer close or intimate. We both desperately want to fix that, but there are so many hurdles, physical and emotional, to overcome, that we're struggling with knowing where and how to heal. And I just now realized we are both mimicking the models we grew up with in order to cope. We are sweeping elephants under the rug. And there's no more room for them. Thank you, truly, from the bottom of my heart clear up past the top, for this excellent guidance. You are awesome, and I deeply appreciate you. I finally feel like I have solid footing for a healthier start. I'm sharing this with my husband, too, because he's open to it. We both know we as people, and our relationship with each other, needs improvement and we can already talk about it, so it's a great start. Thank you, again. I have hope now, for the first time in a long time. P.S.- I did subscribe. I don't want to miss a bit of the kind and wise advice you're sharing. ❤

[@georgemoore-wg5jj]

Hi Stella 🌹🌹 How are you doing?

[@chalenejohnson]

Hey Marilyn! Thank you for sharing your struggles and your journey toward healing. It's inspiring to see your commitment to breaking the cycle of emotional trauma for your children. It's also amazing that you and your life partner are open to improving your relationship. I wish you all the best. I love you. I mean it!

[@GwenMotoGirl]

Congratulations on 200k! 🎉Here’s to the next 200k! ❤ This was a great discussion. I’ve done some good things in my life but those do not include marriage that made it. I listen to relationship podcasts because I want to be a better person. I’ve done a lot of personal work to be ready to show up for a good partner and vice versa. I’m in a new relationship and maybe this will go somewhere. At 63, I know it’s still possible, but I also love my solo time. I honestly don’t know. But I’m open. Dating and getting to know one another are hard things to navigate.

[@chalenejohnson]

Thank you so much Gwen! Yes! Enjoy your get to know stage and I do hope it will work out for the both of you!

[@sunnysunnydays]

Astrology natal charts is another valuable tool to start conversations about building intimacy through knowing ourselves & our beloveds. It’s 1000times faster than anything else because the 💫 s don’t lie or hide. 1996 together. 1999 married. We’ve made it through TOUGH times & near death experiences for both of us to tight, strong & 💯 committed & are almost like newlyweds again. Love this TY🌞

[@chalenejohnson]

Oh that's agood one! Thanks for sharing 😍😍😍

[@normabayness2555]

Wow you made me cry watching this I definitely will try your questions . You are so powerful thank you keep these good videos coming . Thank you Norma

[@juysdeano]

Chalene you just hit 200k!! Yay!! This channel deserves more followers to be honest! ❤️❤️❤️

[@chalenejohnson]

Omg it did!! 😍😍😍

[@Gingerinthesouth]

Woooo wheeee you went there and I so needed this I just thought my Gemini man was crazy lol I needed this❤

[@juliannetaylor9989]

I don't know how I've been a KZbin follower for over 10 years and only recently found you! And that you're just at 200k!!! You're so real! ❤ Glad your channel finally popped up in my feed.

[@chalenejohnson]

Aww. That is the sweetest! Thank you! 🥰🥰🥰

[@juliannetaylor9989]

​@@chalenejohnson❤

[@Roby_home_garden]

Love this video so much! ❤ and yes, I have just now subscribed to you finally after so many years since I first learned about you, but I had no idea you had a KZbin channel! Makes me so happy 🎉 can’t wait to watch all your videos! What a treat ❤🤩😃😘

[@andi.h.michelle]

Congrats on 200k!!! Love this episode ❤

[@chalenejohnson]

Thank you!!! 😍😍

[@yvettebennett6170]

This episode is so good! I am still in the thick of therapy. We started July 19th of this year. It has helped us immensely. I strongly recommend it. We have learned so much about one another and more importantly about ourself. We have been together since 1987. We are high school sweethearts. We have been through a lot and had marriage counseling earlier in our marriage. It is critical for emotional intimacy. One adult child left home in Feb. Out other adult child is getting married and leaving next year. I am still feeling lost and trying to figure out who I am and what I want to do with my life since I was a stay at home mom who gave up her career because I felt called to. Great episode Chalene! ❤❤❤❤

[@chalenejohnson]

Thank you Yvette! I'm just so happy that you both are working on yourselves and your emotional intimacy in this stage of your lives as a couple! I def recommend you to watch this episode 😘 kzbin.info/www/bejne/iGawcmiqjtpjlbcsi=-f1I6KvQ2PynpqhY

[@yvettebennett6170]

​@@chalenejohnsonThank you. I will definately check the episode out.

[@jeanettefujikawa]

Powerful episode. Really like the questions and great book selections! I have learned to “read the room” and not push. To be more patient as I’ve become older and not react right away. I am the more emotionally connected one, and the questions will help me draw more from my partner. Guilty of saying “how was your day”. Congratulations on reaching a goal!

[@georgemoore-wg5jj]

Hi Jeanette🌹🌹 How are you doing?

[@chalenejohnson]

Thank you Jeanette! So glad you find this episode helpful!

[@kerilawrence4786]

I’m so glad I discovered you! I have watched several of your KZbin’s now and I LOVE you! I’m telling my friends about you! This approach is so empowering! Thank you 🙏

[@chalenejohnson]

Aww! Thank you so much! I really appreciate that! ❤️

[@BevStumpf]

I love this! My sister told me about tapping this summer, I can't wait to dig deeper!

[@chalenejohnson]

You should! 😘

[@organicholistiview]

Charlene, I greatly appreciate this video. I think this is such an important topic at any time of your marriage, but especially critical while you are raising your kids. We stay so buy caring for them that we tend to move us to bottom of priority list. I have read several of the books you recommended and they were super helpful and easy to understand. I agree with you that usually one of the couple is the one trying to improve the relationship and bring the other along. But no matter who starts the process the end result is worth it. Thank you for being so honest and candid with us. I did subscribe today, I have now watched several of your KZbin videos and learned a lot. Good luck growing your subscriptions. Keep up the great work.

[@chalenejohnson]

I am so happy you appreciate this video. I couldn’t agree more! In order to better care for your kids and create a healthy environment for them - you both need to prioritize your relationship too. ❤️

[@organicholistiview]

Thank you for your kind and thoughtful response. Have a great day! @@chalenejohnson

[@Karen-br4sg]

Love the honesty ❤ thank you for this.

[@chalenejohnson]

You are so welcome!😘

[@MrsLexicography]

That was an emotional episode, Chalene! Thanks for the tips! ❤

[@chalenejohnson]

You are so welcome 🥰

[@brigiddevney-rye2399]

Wonderful episode! Are there show notes where you have the excellent questions to ask your partner. I'm having trouble finding a list of the questions and I need a guide! LOL

[@meganlagrossa5084]

I love this episode. I usually listen on Spotify, but the whole time I watched here, I kept searching for your other earring, LOL. Then I thought maybe you were rocking one earring on purpose. I've been following you a long time, and I love all the things you talk about. Thank you for speaking your truth with honesty, comedy, and integrity, and for doing it with such fashion sense 😍

[@georgemoore-wg5jj]

Hi Megan🌹🌹 How are you doing?

[@chalenejohnson]

Hahaha good eye!! I love it!!! I so appreciate your sweet words btw 😘😘😘

[@connien7690]

Good morning Chalene. This was a wonderful video. I have been married for 40 years and still I find the questions so helpful. You should be a marriage counselor. I love you! Have a great rest of the week. Hugs!

[@chalenejohnson]

Oh you are the sweetest Connie! Thank you!!! 😍😍

[@LisaB_at_Pine_Ridge]

Priceless!

[@chalenejohnson]

Thank you!!! 😍😍

[@kimdavis1091]

Your shows always hits the spots Chalene 👍👍👍

[@chalenejohnson]

So glad you like them 🥰

[@Karen-br4sg]

Congratulations on 200K ❤ well deserved xo

[@chalenejohnson]

Thank you so much!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@sherrellboonstra5066]

Amazing message. Thank you for sharing with us.

[@chalenejohnson]

You are so welcome 😘

[@MelissaAlfonso-w2t]

Best episode. Now my husband is asking me, your questions. ❤🙏

[@chalenejohnson]

oh I love this so much! You both got this! 😍

[@MelissaAlfonso-w2t]

@@chalenejohnson Ty. You made my day. ❤️😍

[@MelissaAlfonso-w2t]

@@chalenejohnson can you have a part 2 episode?

[@MelissaAlfonso-w2t]

@@chalenejohnson can you do a show on emotional cheating, or what patron group? 🙏❤️

[@deniseturner3754]

You are at 200k as I type this!! Woo hoo!!! Congratulations!!!🎉 I subscribed as soon as I found you a few months ago. 😉

[@chalenejohnson]

Yay!! Thank you Denise!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@danielastoyanov2998]

You hit it again Chalene!❤❤❤ right between the eyes😂😂I adore your personality and your style! I’m one of your biggest fans from Beachbody😉 Much love and congratulations on the 200k❤❤❤

[@chalenejohnson]

Thank you so much Daniela! 😍😍😍

[@mojomeme3116]

Hi I just subscribed to your channel Thank you. Great video

[@chalenejohnson]

yay! Thank you!!! 😍😍

[@katcaparula7898]

Your relationship is goals❤️

[@chalenejohnson]

Awww. Thank you!!! 😍😍

[@fynechyld]

1. Tell me the best/worst part of your day 2. What worries/concerns you right now 3. What is the best way I can support you right now 4. What have I done lately that made you appreciate my role in your life. 5. Tell me about a childhood experience that made you scared.

[@riefler0220]

I am in the process of major practice and competition, I will become a pro billiards player! That being said, i go from zero to furious in .3 seconds when a man treats me like im stupid or like my journey to greatness doesn't matter...and that rage takes me outta my game....there has to be a way that i can overcome these triggers to fury...probably has to do with im the youngest of 9, only girl...dealt with men telling me i cant my whole life...was an extreme athlete in high school, love competing, fast forward to now, whole lumbar fused, but i can still compete at pool,obsessed with the sport..any help appreciated!!!

[@chalenejohnson]

Thank you for sharing this! It's completely understandable that past experiences can trigger frustration. Overcoming them might involve acknowledging your achievements, focus on self-confidence, self-reflection, and a growth mindset. Remind yourself of your strengths, establish boundaries with these people, and embrace constructive feedback while ignoring unwarranted criticism. You got this! 💪🏼

[@littleitaly1925]

Yay 200k!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@chalenejohnson]

Woohoo!!!

[@toweringcone]

What help in the gambling addiction?

[@terriporter4137]

Just subscribed

[@chalenejohnson]

Thank you!!! 😍😍

[@AmyUgalde]

I just subscribed 🎉

[@chalenejohnson]

Yay! Thank you!!! 😍😍

[@HLTrds]

Omg this is me and my husband, I’m a research junkie, together for 30 years, our communication is terrible. I am a workaholic, he is a sitter and thinker. I suck at emotional intamacy!!

[@chalenejohnson]

practice makes it better - right?!? 😘

[@DivaDeb1234]

Trying to figure out what county I want to do you in!!!!

[@Samira-kj6et]

Wow 28 year marriage that's awesome I am in 34 years 3 year marriage . Wow u have some wisdom . I am amazed how beautiful you are

[@chalenejohnson]

So greatly appreciate this ❤️

[@MelissaAlfonso-w2t]

Ty so much. Your beautiful inside and out. I subscribed to patron and never got anything. 😂

[@chalenejohnson]

Oh no! Can you message me there?

[@MelissaAlfonso-w2t]

@@chalenejohnson I’m terrible at this🤣 Please post a link, for patron. I will message you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️energy.

[@MelissaAlfonso-w2t]

@@chalenejohnson Ty so much, I put my CC and never got it. Really enjoying your info.

[@MelissaAlfonso-w2t]

@@chalenejohnson hello, I would really love to do patron. Not sure why it didn’t work. Have a beautiful day 💖🧘

[@everhappy6312]

I just subscribed, finding you first time on ScrewTube 😊

[@chalenejohnson]

lol thanks for the support!

[@Gingerinthesouth]

Oh yeah I have already subscribed liked etc etc 😂

[@chalenejohnson]

Yay! Thank you!!! 😍😍

[@sarahhunley9751]

❤

[@Kristy_not_Kristine]

❤❤❤

[@deirdrawatson9400]

Chalene, you rock. Of late I have felt disconnected with my amazing husband. We have been together for six years and we do have our ups and downs. We are in our 60's and we are growing each and every day. Sometimes he is my best friend, and sometimes I do want to kill him. lol

[@chalenejohnson]

Well that must be true love!

[@krwhite68]

201k!!

[@georgemoore-wg5jj]

Hi Karen🌹🌹 How are you doing?

[@chalenejohnson]

😍😍😍

[@kc-il4sb]

How many of you initiate sex with your husband? I still find it difficult- but I think we expect men to initiate - but I think they need to know we appreciate them - guys need emotional connection too.

[@chalenejohnson]

I couldn’t agree more with you here!

[@laral108]

did you remove a video you had posted on intimacy with your partner and improving your sex life? i hadn't finished listening to it and now i don't see it...

[@chalenejohnson]

it's still up! Here's the link - kzbin.info/www/bejne/qKDPpp1tp91nodE

[@chalenejohnson]

oops! Here's the right link - kzbin.info/www/bejne/rH_PqXSKgp6Bl7s

[@cattgirlie]

Just a reminder @chalenejohnson, there’s another book you recommended year ago (like 10 years ago) that was very good, “The 7 levels of intimacy” by Matthew Kelly I learned a lot of this book!’ Thank you ❤

[@georgemoore-wg5jj]

Hi Catt🌹🌹 How are you doing?

[@chalenejohnson]

Omg yes!!! I love that book!