How to Increase Your Self-Worth! Time to Raise Your Standards | SL Coaching

[@yarazard]

Knowing that you’re worthy of being treated better is half the battle.

[@mallorymeyr2249]

Amen!

[@vixenvalenzuela]

🤍

[@ThatJew305]

No it ain’t

[@Caleb0180]

Truth

[@teresadenisiuk8200]

We should focus on more of what we want in life rather than what we don’t want. Instead of saying “I don’t want to be mistreated” opt for “ I want to be treated with respect” ❤️

[@LXSeaV]

A tip I got from a book on CPTSD by Pete Walker: To fight those negative voices, give yourself permission to internally be angry at them and cuss them out. A lot of these voices come from abusive people such as our parents pouring this stuff on us when we were small, vulnerable children with no one to stick up for us. As adults to turn this around in our own heads, cussing those voices off has two benefits: 1)It reminds you that those voices are not yours and they're not welcome in your head 2)A deep vulnerable part of you is finally feeling like someone is sticking up for you -- not staying silent, not being some passive, wimpy enabler. Someone is saying how dare you and fuck off. It was a huge relief for me to read that and it makes total sense to me.

[@Beautyforashes613_]

Definitely makes sense! Thank you for sharing

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Thanks for reminding me of Pete Walker’s book. I have it in a heap somewhere.

[@shanieceshelby]

Love this so much

[@terceehunnie8440]

Reading this im realizing i did this by instinct. I thought i had a weird coping mechanism but hey it does work!

[@sophiadavenport3959]

I'm recovering from being in a abusive relationship with my mother, God bless you for sharing this advice with us Stephanie God bless you.

[@svm13317]

Rachel the booke Same. Just wanted you to know you are not alone.

[@nicoleraheem1195]

Me too and I'm tired of being treated like I'm Worthless. I started internalizing it. I really feel lile shit and lost sight of my purpose

[@azadbhardwaj2250]

I too Wass treated the same way. I too internalised it. Now i want to get myself back. I want to improve my self worth.

[@javeriaharoon7957]

I just hit like button before i even hear you. You speak to my heart.

[@latrecelockett4930]

Me too she’s a blessing

[@ErikaK]

Your standards create your life ♡ everything in your life starts with you ♡ wonderful video

[@beam8250]

💓

[@snowjasmine9644]

I see your comment in literally most of the videos I watch lol

[@siphokazin.7552]

I don't believe that I'm worthy and I don't believe that I'm enough. But now I'm ready to let go of the fear and anxiety that says I'm not enough. God I really need to embed this in my mind and heart. Thank you💕

[@jroseinspires]

Thanks for the video! I broke the narcissist abuse pattern in my family, and I feel like I'm being called to help others with this cycle. I would love to speak with you!

[@kaheaisaac1]

That's awesome!!

[@madelinesosa1881]

❤ My aunt sent me to your channel. I was in a marriage for nine years with a malignant narcissist and I am codependent . I have been divorced for almost four years and after what your videos have taught me my perception and understanding of everything has changed. I did not know I was with a malignant narcissist or that I also was codependent I thought I was just married to a bipolar man. I wish I could get a free coaching session with you. Thank you for all of your hard work I think you are changing the world you are such an inspiration. ❤

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[@whathasitevermeant]

I need to listen to this every single day I lose the will to follow through.

[@jamesegan8184]

Stephanie Lyn, you always prepare your hair clothes impressions background flowers etc. in these discussions in expressing your uncommon wisdom about a breadth of emotional and life circumstances. You are just so good at improving people's lives, thank you for all the goodness you deliver to the world. You are just so easy to watch and listen to, towards personal growth. Thank you.

[@sweetangelbonnyta]

You are such a great coach, I relate with the Heartache part. I went thru the most excruciating painful heartbreak for me to raise my standards and it is working for me, even if I know I risk losing the person I create a bond with, I just know that I want to be loved in a way that is going to make me happy if not then that person is not for me. 😊

[@Steinerman333]

Handling low self esteem and low expectations from the people I deal with has really warped how I interact with my day to day. It’s an issue and I acknowledge it. Thanks for this. I want to be happy and confident and I will work on it.

[@jenniferpinto9343]

I am in a very toxic relationship. 17yrs, 2 children every day gets harder but yet i cant/won’t just go. I know it’s what i want and need for me and most importantly my children. I’m stuck...and it’s killing me. I’ve been watching your videos lately. Thx

[@jessiesing1034]

‘Standards become habits ‘Thanku Stephanie this is so applicable for me right nw bless u 😘

[@barrygoldman4022]

Thats gold, you have the power to change people’s life with your words, thank you so much for sharing this.

[@yashchhabria5259]

Stephanie, I went through abuse in 2020 and since then I have not felt like myself. That was until I found your channel last week. I wish I found you earlier, you are like an elder sister to me, a guide. You’ve single handedly helped me to come out of my misery. Loads of thanks and good wishes for you from my side. If you ever have issues with something in your life, feel free to seek out my help. :)

[@monaco8093]

Half of my chance I listened to Laura Eisenhower last night. She talked a lot of about this. Just how programmed we truly are. Thank you Stephanie,

[@zoeridabock9523]

I appreciate your work so much. Thank you for posting all your videos. They have helped me in numerous ways. I would LOVE a free session with you.

[@cherrywanderlust2417]

Thank you, Stephenie! I like your videos and it helped me through my darkest days. I am so grateful that I found you in KZbin. Yes, being aware of our own life and setting standards and boundaries are so important for mental wellness.

[@ashleighhindson4590]

Just got out of a 5 year relationship with an emotionally unavailable person, who didn’t want to move the relationship further and invest in us… I finally came to the realisation that I need to change aspects of myself which allowed the relationship to continue, regardless of the red flags.

[@selenatwine632]

Thank you! I was having a rough couple of days and I've haven't been too kind to myself. Your input is very helpful. This is something I struggle with consistently.

[@earthangel2987]

Really learning from your videos. I'm recovering from a narcissistic boss and lost my self esteem. I would love the hour of coaching. ❤

[@romineacosta2996]

DO NOT FEAR !!! BE STRONG !!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR VÍDEOS !!!

[@sharonlouallen3463]

hi Stephanie i would love a free session, I've been listening to you for 1 year now and i think you are very smart, educated and knowledgeable about relationships and so much more! thank for everything and mostly for helping others!

[@gjs212]

Stephanie, I've been watching your videos for over a year now and it's been nice to watch your channel grow. You have offered a lot of practical advice which I continue to put into practice. I like that you offer some of your personal story as perspective, it makes this even more relatable. Free life coach session or not I wanted to personally thank you and say how nice it is how much you have given already for free for so many to access.

[@barbarabeury1335]

I so appreciate your guildness. I would love to be concerned for your free session. You have a great way of communicating. Thank you

[@vanessabrandow7052]

Thankyou, u r so on point, i am in my life doing the things u spoke on, and it makes me feel great that i have crossed all these roads in a past bad relationship that woke me up along wth a mild health issue to take better care of my self. I am doing pretty dam good i must say myself. Listening to u just gave me more info to stay on track of how sometimes bad things wake a person up. Thku!!!!

[@hhosin]

This video probably would be more appropriately titled healthy expectations and self-worth. Wonderful truth thank you.

[@cookiecutter344]

The time you devote to making these videos to help people, is invaluable thank you. I would love a free session.

[@lornareinhart2706]

35 year relationship with a narcassis that broke me to my core I am seeking counciling with my local domestic outreach but really enjoy listening to you, when I find my thoughts going crazy I find you and listen to your videos thank you so much for being there it is hard when you are living alone now it brings me comfort

[@jeanned.1936]

It is nice to see a happy person. Being successful!)

[@sumari972]

I like so much that Stephanie speaks so perfectly clear, that the transcript notes are exactly what she says. Most of other speakers don't get their message so clear out of their mouth so then there is a really weird transcription of the words they say.

[@xbrokendolly]

I would absolutely love a free coaching session ❤I have learned so much from you in the past 6 months helped me finally get out of a 13 year toxic relationship but I still have to (try to) co-parent with him thank you for the opportunity

[@2126Eliza]

This is so helpful, especially for people with depression. Thank you!

[@color2066]

Stephanie, you're changing my life! I'm so happy I discovered your channel this week. What a blessing your guidance has been to me, as well as others whom I've shared your videos with. I feel your insight has come into my life at the perfect time. Just wanted to share my appreciation with you. Keep expressing yourself & sharing, you have a true gift!

[@KristiAuburn]

Hi Stephanie, I found your channel about a month ago and realize that I am continuing to think, behave, and make choices In the same unproductive ways that have plagued me my entire life. I have been in cognitive behavioral therapy and haven’t done much growing. I think life coaching is the way I need to go and I’d like to have a session with you to see if is a better way for me to change myself and my life. Thanks for everything that you do - I get hope and strength from your videos.

[@billy1673]

Thank you for all you do, Stephanie. You will never know how big a help you've been!

[@Kayse_Kay]

Damn, this is hard. Fighting your inner dialogue daily

[@elizabetdelatorre1454]

An hour with you would be amazing! ❤️

[@rekeeda4214]

You've helped me so much! I would love a free session :) Good luck to everyone else!

[@artgirl7480]

A session with you would be very inspiring. Thank you for your time & efforts to present these videos.

[@Princeunique4life]

Thank you for creating this video. You have honestly provided guidance. Im going to definitely apply for success.

[@jessicaelizabeth2677]

Your videos are so uplifting! I would love a session with you! I am going through a break up with a narcissist (4 years, was engaged to be married this August) and the topics you speak about are highly applicable to my situation. Thank you!

[@cindyhotel2089]

My daughter is in a verbally abusive relationship and would really benefit from your coaching..... I starting watching your channel, to try to give her some advice, but lately she’s at a crisis mode and we’re trying to get her help!

[@everyonesalama4447]

Your videos are really great, I want to say a massive thank you for sharing all of this valuable information with so many people. I wish you all the very best :) x

[@sarahs5160]

Thank you Stephanie for this video! I would love a free session to learn more about self worth and help me love myself again! :)

[@jennlloyd4738]

Hello Stephanie, Your video's have been my boost for mental clarity some days, & my sanity for other days. I was married to a narcissist for 20 years & have been divorced 3 years now... We have 4 kids together 3 living with me full time, my oldest left at 17 & went completely off the wall into trouble, she doesn't live here anymore, my second oldest is leaving this Sunday after graduating tomorrow, for her new start in life away from home. So, I have 2 young kids left son age 13.5 daughter age 11.5. I have since been on and off with my ex as I know it's normal to have that addiction mentality or whatever is keeping me from letting go of him but, the point is I am having the worst time letting go... I still live in our home legally I have it until my daughter turns 18 then I am supposed to sell it. But, after divorce I suffered so hard emotionally that I let my credit and finances go to crap (and, I had very good credit before) and my life financially turned upside down. And, currently still is.. I work as a appraisal reviewer from home.. but, the income is terrible and in winter there's hardly any hours... etc. etc. But, I am trying to build my online income again as I used to sell just on platforms clothing, jewelry, etc. And, I did well but, that is also the problem I haven't been able to just list my stuff as I have the very bad block from him always telling me, "all I care about is money".. Well, I'm a capricorn and no that's not all I care about or, I wouldn't have my kids he would.. I care about my kids and I'm a good mom I need to be a much better mom and live by example to my kids meaning that the way we are living now, is not the example at all that I want for my kids. And, I'm having the hardest time just going for it and listing and making the money I know I can make from it.. Instead, we are suffering financially worse than bad. Anyways, sorry for this long book I am posting.. But, you get the idea I'm not doing well mentally at all. And, I haven't been able to find the right formula to break free again? I've tried counseling, numerous counselors who don't get it to the degree I need them to understand. So, my life instead of progressing, & moving forward healthy is not progressing at all, & not moving forward in a healthy way... only time is moving forward & very fast. My kids are growing very fast, & I'm not mentally healthy enough to be what I need to be for them & myself!

[@swatikadam5294]

Hey Stephanie, I really would like to have personal session with you, I have read many books to understand narcissistic personality as I am living with my narcissistic husband, now I felt life is draining me from moving forward. I have also meet counselor's to get the situation better, but now I truly desire to increase my self worth to increase my standard. So I find you as a remarkable coach to learn from. Please let me know how we can have the session.

[@BiancaBronte]

Great delivery, great message!

[@dahlia5044]

Thank you so much for this! Omg this is exactly what I need. It's extremely insightful and helpful. I will definitely be listening to this again! I'd love a private session. ❤

[@bethn.628]

I would love a free session with you. I always find your insight helpful. I'm in the first few weeks of living alone after having an emotional abuser removed from my home via a PPO. 10 years it took me to realize things were not 'right'. I'm now on the road to recovery.

[@WyldsWoods]

Thank you Stephanie Lynn!! I accidentally came across your coaching and I have found your wisdom and insight into relationships to be superb! I would gladly pay for some one on one coaching!!! Thank you again for sharing your talent and skills! Roy

[@denniswestby9243]

Love this, i went through all this, but i am overcoming it, am finding myself , daily, a n am feeling good about myself too,

[@rosaliesullivan4367]

I have to clean out the martial home in order to be able to move out & on from 28+ years of being married to an abusive narcissist. I took a week off to clean. I'm constantly fighting my myself to be motivated to do it. I keep reminding myself that you have to do it so you can move forward to the best chapter of your life.

[@LaughingLead]

wow!. I NEEDED this advice, Thank You!

[@raiderlove5923]

I'm pretty new to your channel. You speak truth and I am finding a lot of it very helpful.

[@gwenoickle3584]

Wow, this is just everything!

[@rgroomable]

Thank you so much! I listen to your videos daily. I'm recently going through a breakup of a long term emotionally abusive relationship and you have truly helped me.

[@joecouch7574]

I heard this pastor say once,that God likes it when you're honest.

[@rosemaryt7286]

Hi Stephanie I thank God so much for you. I found your Chanel about a month ago and it has change my life. I have just released that I have been in an abusive relationship with a narcissistic person for 20 years. I always felt something was wrong but could not put my finger on it. Now everything make sense after watching you videos. I also realised that I am a codependent as a result of having mother who never made feel I was enough. I believe my mother is also a narcissistic because of how she how she has been all my life. I want to leave my husband but it’s not been easy. I would like to win a session with you pleeeease. God bless

[@bottomlessinkwell]

Oh my gawd are you kidding me of course I’m gonna comment. Well you’ve helped me so much already but a one hour live session would be pretty amazing I have to say. Regardless of whether I get picked, I appreciate your insight Stephanie and thanks for helping my family and I out. Peace! Ben Zoltak

[@christiannewski]

You’re amazing! I don’t know how I haven’t found you before. Love how you get to the point with great explanations and practical examples to overcome obstacles. I can also tell you overcame those yourself. I might see all your videos

[@savedbygrace6108]

I'd like a free session please😊 I keep self sabotaging myself and would truly appreciate help getting over that hump for Good!❤🙏🙌🏼 Thank you!😊

[@allwellandgood8547]

Hi Stephanie, I am truely grateful to have found you and your channel. Listening to your videos and advice is part of my daily routine and has been since I found you. You make so much sense and your advice has picked me up, enlightened me and is helping me grow. Thank you xx

[@dionneciaramitaro8954]

Thank you for this great video. Recovering from a manipulative relationship. Your videos help so much. Grateful for you! I'm interested in a coaching session.

[@yourstruly1018]

Thank you so much Stephanie Lynn

[@elizabethbass3826]

Hi Stephanie, I would love a free coaching session. I’m coming out of an abusive marriage, a single Mom now with 2 young kids. Your videos have helped me so much! Thank you for all your great work!

[@mariaisabelramos761]

Thank You Stephanie !

[@prettiesmile]

Stephanie you are such a delight to listen to. Thank you for sharing all of your knowledge. I wish I could get a free session with you.

[@Luvnlight-cw8rh]

Hi Stephanie! Thank you so much. I love your straightforward very wise approach. In a marriage still with 3 kids and have to struggle every day but I am working hard and beginning to know my value. He’s narcissistic and I WAS codependent. Still have my bad days. I appreciate you so much. 💕

[@TrishBlackwell]

*_Thanks, Stephanie._*

[@net7121]

I had always been at the most confident person and had great values until I married to a narcissist and it was like slow growing mold that tore my self-esteem down over 27 years.of marriage. I have been watching podcast after a podcast and I am slowly rebuilding myself after going through this divorce I need to get back to my values that he took away and That I allowed over time to keep my marriage and family. No more.. I valued myself enough to get out of that marriage is hard and it’s painful as it has been I know in my heart I made the right decision 🙏🏻. Heart over mind is brutal

[@naturewalk5470]

Response to: How to Raise Your Self Worth. Thankyou!! You are Helping!! I watched "3" of Your Video's today and I am going to send this to an " Intellegent" Ladie Friend! Thankyou!! I kind of Feel like My Mom is Coaching Me Again!! My Mom Died " Very" Recently and my Mother was " Always" My Rock. God is My Rock Always. But I am in a Very Difficult Transition now as a Grown Mature Women..You Still feel like an Orphan wheh a Mother Dies. Plus othet things are going on. So Thanks. I like how You say make that One SMALL Step at a Time and Eventually We Will Meet Our Goal or Goals. Thankyou!! I will Try that and see what happems! Thanks!!!

[@aimesdaddy]

Would love a free hour. Enjoy your videos. Thought provoking.

[@Linda-td5si]

I would love a free coaching session. I would love to increase my knowledge of goals and how to set them and pursue them and how to set strong boundaries and stick with them in relationships and in particular for me an abusive relationship with a coworker at my place of employment who is in a managerial position. I would appreciate the help and gained knowledge. Thank you, Linda😊💕

[@beverleybaldacchino9323]

I would be so grateful to get a free session as I'm always willing to learn about how to cope with life as an adult since I feel like I've lost so many lessons with this regard as a kid. Thanks a lot ♥️

[@pampemberton7450]

You are so sweet

[@lorineville]

I have never thought about hiring a life coach before. After watching this video I see that it might be beneficial. I am a year out of my husband leaving after he was caught cheating with prostitutes. I have been walking wounded for quite sometime, I seemed to have a pattern of finding myself in abusive and toxic relationships and I am SO ready to break this habit and heal from inner childhood wounds that I believe contribute to this issue.

[@rosalindalarkin5531]

Thank you for providing a free session. I really enjoyed listening to your video’s and gaining knowledge everyday on working Self. I hope to get the opportunity to talk with you. Namaste❤️

[@jessicafeldheim7542]

Hello I am so grateful for your talks. I would love a free coaching session, but I think I might be to late. Anyhow I am working on myself to grow and transform and think you speak the truth. Thanks so much. Best, Jessica.

[@ChristianaSenibo]

👏🏾👏🏾 well done

[@brandihumphries5725]

I appreciate all of the content that you put out! It’s helped me so much! And has caused my growth to sky rocket! I related so much when you mentioned that personal growth becomes an addiction. I would LOVE a free coaching session with you! 😊

[@Mmmmkaaay]

I'd love a free session! 👏👏 Great pep talk!❤

[@alexandraruiz6542]

You have helped me so much! Thank you for your amazing videos! I really appreciate the work you do.

[@aprildavis6663]

I would love a session with you. This was incredible. I took so many notes.

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you for great analysis on what to do. It really works. :-)

[@anyajohnson8664]

Wow! Soooooo helpful! Thank you!

[@heatherroller3148]

This video is very timely for me. Thank you for your generosity. I'd love a free session!

[@drivewithcliveIRL]

Would love a one hour free consultation........going through a tough time with someone(not sure if they are Borderline or Narcissistic) So Grateful for your videos, have helped alot, thanks Stephanie

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Thanks for posting, always helpful. Please listen to, think about, and like this upload.!

[@violetj09]

I would love a free session, thank you

[@julissarosa5849]

I am interested I listen to you everyday. Sometimes repeatedly to control my inner struggles. I appreciate your channel.

[@TheJustmine16]

Thank you so much I’ve been watching your videos for several months now and they’re so helpful, I’m incredibly grateful ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@jackymunoz7576]

Thank you for all your videos! I’d like a free session.

[@katherineknowles5037]

Great video. Thank you for all the advice. I would absolutely love a free coaching session 😍

[@kristatoy9374]

I love your direct approach to relationship advice! I am currently dealing with heartbreak from my boyfriend of 3 years leaving me for another woman. He left me with no real explanation and no actual breakup....I only just now (six months later) found about about the other woman now that they are going public with their hidden relationship. It’s been very embarrassing and very difficult for me to deal with on so many layers (no closure, betrayal, abandonment, lies, crushing my self esteem). I would love a free session with you to hopefully start a road to recovery.

[@sheilawaddy3184]

Thank you! Super great video

[@vfranco221]

Your videos come at the exact moment where I have these feelings of overwhelming doubt about decisions I've made. Thank you! I am interested in a private session.

[@AlJen517]

I would like a session with you, Stephanie! Your videos and FB posts inspire me daily. :) I am recovering from a marriage to an individual with NPD. I know the road is long and trying to co-parent is proving difficult, but I am fighting to keep that ego at bay and practice self-love. Thank you for all you do!

[@rebekahelizabeth9881]

❤️❤️❤️I would LOVE a a one hour session with you!!!! I feel like I dying inside because of my situation!!! I keep trying to ask friends for advise and I can’t get anyone to really understand me. So anyway!!! I hope I win!!! It would CHANGE MY LIFE!!! 🌸🌸🌸❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@joecouch7574]

Thank you for helping me.

[@Wearethechamps]

Brilliant 👏🏾⚘💚 Thanks hun